You Won't Believe What This Woman Admits!

[@alexandergrace5350]

For anyone who wants to know what she says without watching a 30 minute video: Most women don’t feel safe with men anymore. We lie to ourselves and pretend we don’t want a dominant guy, because that makes us weak as women. The truth is- women deep down do want to surrender. There’s nothing more liberating than to experience a healthy man who you can trust enough, to completely let go with. So why does it seldom happen? Because men like this don’t exist anymore. We’ve been brainwashed to believe “traditional” gender roles are somehow wrong. There’s truth in that, yes, women haven’t always had it easy. There’s truth in that, women haven’t always been respected. Or equal. Or taken seriously. Or given the same opportunities as men. But, there’s also truth in that… we never needed to do everything that men can do in order to be happy, whole, and fulfilled. We just needed their support. Today’s age of men think that “support” is being passive, agreeable, and feminine, so women can instead take charge. A lot of men simply standby and don’t speak their truth, get assertive, or step into their power because they don’t want to be seen as “that guy” with toxic masculinity who doesn’t respect women. They’re wounded, and therefor can’t handle rejection. They desperately want to fit in. So much so, they’ll sacrifice their own sacred masculine energy, a gift from God, to fit in with the PC climate. Most men, today… are beta. & most women, today… have been conditioned to think that that’s safer. Oh, but how we have been fooled. “Why do so many women date a**holes?” Because at least narcissistic men are assertive. Controlling? Manipulative? Soul shattering? Also yes. But just a taste of that dominating force from a man is something women crave so much today, they’ll find themselves in toxic trauma bonds w/ guys who don’t actually love them. So, you tell me… why do you think women don’t feel safe? Because they’re either with beta dudes, who can’t protect them and they know it. Or narcissists, who feed off their feminine energy for their own selfish gain. Relationship after relationship, disappointment after disappointment, heartbreak after heartbreak… why should we trust men? In today’s age, it’s safer to simply become men ourselves. But then again, that’s why so many women aren’t happy. We’re constantly trying to be masculine, because there’s so few men left to allow us the safety to surrender and be who we really are inside: Feminine. A healthy man will use his assertion for good, not evil. A healthy man will know when it’s time to take charge, and know when it’s time to sit back. A healthy man will be present, protective, and listen to his woman. A healthy man won’t use his power to manipulate you. He’ll use it to empower you. Unthreatened by your strength, unwavered by your divine, radiant, and powerful feminine energy. Masculine energy isn’t about manipulating women, it’s about providing them with a safe container to be feminine again. Know the difference.

[@kylefer]

I watched about five minutes of ads on mute while I read this comment, enjoy the extra revenue for being upfront :)

[@williamcook3663]

WOW!!!! Nice video....

[@BorderGuards]

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[@StoutProper]

Yeah so just perfection then that’s easy

[@philipbenhardb.velasco369]

They lied to them. And it’s so sad. I’ve never seen a pro feminist movement get a man that she adores

[@Neeeg]

I was with a girl who completely manipulated me into believing all my masculine qualities were toxic, and that messed me up for years. Men are coming back to life in 2022.

[@blue5659]

She no like masculine? Why you no tell her she gay?

[@legessi]

​@@blue5659those women think that less masculine men are safer and easier to control. The fact is that less masculine men aren't safer and are more likely to sexually assault women.

[@blue5659]

@@legessi yeah , so let such people date and marry each other. I am straight, can't change my preference, but the root cause of gender friction is heterosexuality. We could have a utopia with heterosexuality, but, we don't. Maybe there are good wemen out there. But outspoken ones, men or women, are usually bad.

[@patricksullivan1827]

Same here! By a whole friend group! I'm still working on it. It's tough but at least i know now that I require quality and I will not tolerate victim mentality abuse especially not from "friends" ... Hero's journey! :)

[@danr2390]

Those types of women destroy your masculinity for amusement, like black widows. Then once they succeed, they look for the next attractive bad boy they can subdue. It's a high they get, but those are not the types of women that will submit. It's a red flag from the start, and the man made a wrong choice on purpose.

[@lukewood2662]

I was one of those "sensitive" men. Present mom, absent dad(he was here. Just didn't care to teach me). As I spent 80% of the time with mother, she taught me by example to be selfless and always think about others first, but she didn't teach me that women don't really stay with men like that(they become combative and challenging, and ultimately they may nag you until you cut her off your life, happened more than once with me years ago). When I started caring about myself first(not only me, but me first), things got SO much better.

[@vcvitiko]

I can't wait to leave my home. My mom have almost destroyed me

[@TheInsomniaddict]

@@vcvitiko Good luck. If it helps any you're not the only one going through it, you're probably the new average. Try to change that, starting with you.

[@ShayPatrickCormacTHEHUNTER]

Well, I think most people mistake boundaries for selfishness. Having boundaries is normal and healthy. Even if you have to frame it as "me first" in your mind to execute them properly. Indeed, those who create their own values are free. For this is the price of playing by someone else's values, we loose touch with reality and mislabel many things.

[@yourlandladysson6395]

Exactly, they'd raise you like a woman they are. A father's presence is very very very important in a child's life. Male or female

[@mpdebate6239]

Your mom taught you the correct way to be morally. Self sacrifice and servitude is the highest good and form of love. But of course no low quality woman knows that and won't appreciate that The majority are low quality and have been brainwashed by worldly depictions and frames of thinking so that they now only admire and desire selfish men who take what they want and thats hot to them because if that guy who always gets what he wants, happens to want them, then its the most rewarding validation possible to a woman like that. Your mom did you well, she just didn't stress how important it is to find a good woman like her... You've been trying to get with trash my friend.

[@rajakghosh6602]

Women's empowerment and liberation came at a cost. It made women mostly with. non marriageable traits and habits while it liberated men from marriages.

[@paulcolin9071]

🤣

[@theelectricprince8231]

If you are introverted but if you need companionship it is a loss.

[@ENIGMAXII2112]

Raja K Ghosh Your words that you have written, is the good truth. I was married once, and can say it IS in the long run legal slavery for Men. For once in the worlds history, marriage is exposed for the sham that it really is. That is a good thing for Men. I would say yes, we are much more liberated now. This certainly HAS blown right up in women's faces no doubt.....

[@hugostiglitz2388]

Dump then before the year is up so they can't sue you for support.

[@Jaapst]

A good wife men like that. But they are not there

[@customsongmaker]

"A healthy man will know when it's time to take charge, and when it's time to sit back." Thank you, female, for expecting me to read your mind, tell you who you are, and giving me all the responsibility while still expecting me to let you run the show whenever you want.

[@skinnyguy7773]

I feel sorry for any man who ends up with this delusional chick.

[@matthewcoombs3282]

Basically Feminism fails because it ignores the other side of the yin/yang. They want to be liberated from traditional female roles but deny the same to men based on their own convenience.

[@stupidanon5941]

Her final paragraph where she talks about the difference between assertiveness and manipulation, is literally just womanese for 'Chad ghosted me.'

[@TheInsomniaddict]

Yeah, it still reads as "this is what men should provide, and you're worth it" kind of attitude. That she "gets it" is likely more a long con than anything.

[@sticks5614]

There's an answer to this but to date there isn't a man on this planet that can read a woman's mind so you'll actually have to tell us if you want us to do something about it.

[@rajakghosh6602]

When women have dating standards its lauded as "Preferences" but if Men have dating standards its looked down upon as "Discrimination".

[@xentiment6581]

wait till they realize dating is discrimination by definition

[@lookupthereupinthetrees9860]

You nailed it. 👍

[@bengsynthmusic]

Since women desire assertiveness, the respose to "that's discrimination" is "get fooked, reject."

[@mikelisteral7863]

modern women have chosen to act like men so they can go into capitalism and get more materialism and narcissism

[@gwho]

r/mgtow is banned but r/femaledatingstrategy is not you can see toxic double standards and male hating on there though. social media is also peripherally succumbed to SJW dogmatism

[@charlestruppi7793]

Your point about women playing a “man’s game” is so true. As a business dev director selling very expensive and technical services, i met with clients all the time (pre-Covid of course). When i walked into a conference room and there was only one or 2 women there representing the client, my heart sank. I kept eyes front. Hands on the table. Made sure not to make any jokes of any kind that could be taken the wrong way. No compliments whatsoever. Basically, feminism created an environment where I was scared for my job and future. But I felt really bad for these women as well. Imagine being them and every time you’re in a meeting, it’s sterile and 100% business. But then you walk past that same conference room when there’s a couple of men in there and you hear laughing and real binding going on. If I’m in a meeting with just guys, I can tell them that I like their tie. I can joke about whatever (obviously keeping it professional even with them). It’s not my fault that I have to act completely different when I’m alone with a female colleague or client.

[@jugulator0]

I call bullshit...Women broke the contract..Men on the whole decided it was safer not to play....You just dont hear from the women who know they have a good man and submitted.

[@vklnew9824]

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[@loadedpipe1311]

🤣🤣🤣

[@CaptainCook83]

Its not BS I.M.O. woman wanted to climb into the ring and fight for them selfs. So men said ok… you want to fight in a mans world… go for it I’ll stand on side lines go, lets see how that works out for you.

[@sneezyfido]

@Gleb Mikhalev yet academia tipped after the radical feminists forced their way in and right now it's overwhelmingly feminine. It's too easy to just state "women not at fault"

[@sigmatomcat5389]

@Gleb Mikhalev And that was a direct result of Soviet doctrine in the 1950s. They infiltrated our educational system in order to destroy the American dream from within our own country. That isn't the only method they used but is by far the most destructive to the American family structure. They convinced academia to educate our youth to the effect that they would eventually work to destroy American culture based upon Judeo-Christian religious mores and honest liberalism (in the basic sense of the word, not what we think of as liberals today) from within and erode our culture to the point of its own demise.

[@thehierophant1314]

I remember reading her quote, and I can tell you, being that “guy” will cost you almost everything. I think pretty much where I work, a lot of women treat me like I’m toxic. If you put your foot down, speak the truth, not support their conniving and manipulating ways, you are now toxic. I have seen a woman fight within herself. Part of her despised me, another part of her wants to surrender and let me be. I could tell out of all the strong feelings I gave her, I really gave her a cup load of confusions. She took the road of least resistance. The trick is simple, but hard to master. Just be true to the bone as possible. Be a man. Stand your ground, have principles, discern what is good snd right, stand up for yourself, be authentic, have integrity, be a man of your word. Go and conquer the world. That moves women. Especially good feminine women. Whatever Ayn Rand is talking about, the women who are feminine, they know it. The same way I can feel the energy of a feminine woman. It’s distinct, pure, graceful, there is just something about it you can’t put words into it. The same is with us. A woman who is not feminine will be repulsed with you. But a woman who is feminine, man, the interaction is smooth as butter.

[@zuhairreza]

My friend, I agree with everything you said! My experience is the same, with feminine versus non-feminine women, and I agree 100%. Feminine women, you treat them right and “normally”, they recognize it, recognize your worth and value, they appreciate and love you, and you treat them right more, it’s a circle, and the love just grows between you two. Non-feminine women? Oh boy - they are ready to fight you and tackle you and try to change you, even before knowing you properly sometimes! Anyway, thanks for the amazing comment. ❤

[@GunshinV2Gaming]

I would rather be a "Toxic Male" than a feminist Kitty. I am man not a boy. I provide. I fix. I defend. I do what needs to be done regardless of how uncomfortable it makes me or how scared I am. If that makes me "Toxic" than I am fooking Chernobyl.

[@ShayPatrickCormacTHEHUNTER]

Sadly, courage is a rarity these days.

[@xenxander]

'He's a man, not a god! Common' comrades!" xD

[@herekitty791]

You sound like the perfect betabux provider cvck

[@GunshinV2Gaming]

@@herekitty791 Lol kk. What ever you say femikitty

[@clickmcclick2675]

when i speak with the wisdom of strong patriarchy and logic women who were trying to sleep with me, run from me...

[@jackwalker1822]

I have wasted many decades of my life trying to give women what they say they want. Now that I am getting old and wearing down some, I finally realize that I should have paid better attention. Yes as in actions speak louder than words. I am even convinced that this can work both ways, that men may also not say what they really want either, although as a trend men are better at saying what they really want. One of the main frames of mind I take now is, I am a man and I don't have to explain or justify what I do or say to anyone. Face it, building confidence is a lot of work. But the payoff is immense.

[@donvee2000]

Thanks..as a guy in his 50s that hit home.

[@christopherbrubaker2070]

Yes it hit home for me as well. I’m sure you guys did stand up for yourself too. I am seeing this. I told her to pound sand before, and doing it again now. I know my strengths!

[@leonpb1409]

My mother divorced my father because she meant that he didn't do enough with their children. She's a feminist, we had a really heated discussion about that once.

[@TRUTHandLIGHT4809]

Life is so easy ( shelter and food) that woman abandon good men for foolish ideas .

[@r0e404]

@@TRUTHandLIGHT4809 Probably didn't mean it but met another man or who was convinced by her eminist friends

[@bbqnpcs5514]

That's her official explanation. The unofficial is - the other dude had a bigger ***k

[@Lusitania1408]

Only once? Your mother couldn't care less about you or what you wanted. All children want the mother and father together. She didn't care about what you wanted.

[@sir.bendover3299]

What a shame, you might've missed out on great experiences because your mom wanted to prove a point.

[@anmolsingh009]

A woman in India slapped a cab driver about 15 times on the road, and the video footage proves the entire fault to be of the woman, who tried to cross the road on oncoming traffic. Toxic feminism at its peak.

[@anthonypiccirillo161]

You are the most balanced understanding man who cares about people living in their roles that will benefit them. You are not producing players or encouraging women to sleep around. You speak the truth based on science and I appreciate you. I learn form you. I recently was eating alone at an outdoor pizza shop. A woman sitting with a man was checking me out. I think it was her boyfriend. 6 footer but he looked soft to me. Our eyes met and we smiled at each other, but I left her alone. If she does that to him, she is constantly looking for the next best option. LOL Failed the quality test.

[@sahilchitkara2376]

I totally agree.. Fabulous content

[@ferdtheterd3897]

I constantly have taken girls checking me out when I'm walking around town. And I'm 5'6, I just dress with style and stay fit

[@tomorrow6]

Her Brother was probably a little intimidating.

[@whitewolf6730]

Yes indeed. You will not believe this, but at 66 years old, going to gym a lot though, I get second looks, and jaw drops. Not kidding. I am handsome. But I DO have darn near whitish gray hair. So if I was younger and not married???

[@paryanindoeur]

was a child in the 1970s... the WWII generation was mostly in their 50s when I was a kid, so I remember them well. A lot has changed for the better for boys -- back then it was socially acceptable for older people to yell at, and sometimes 'become physical' or aggressive toward boys. Meanwhile, everyone was syrupy sweet to little girls -- they could do no wrong, and boys could do nothing right. Also, bullying of boys by older boys was the standard for behavior. We've definitely overcorrected, but the dehumanizing treatment of young boys by older boys & men had to stop.

[@davidbolha]

Also countless wars greatly diluted that manliness/masulinity in men. Hence the birth of the 9ussified generation. 🤔

[@Magusgulf]

That's a good point, thanks for making it

[@CJFCarlsson]

So nothing has changed.

[@michaeltaylors2456]

Agree ! No one really believes me but it was common in the 70s to have physically intimidating, physically threatening if not literally violent acting bosses or coworkers who thought it acceptable if not their god given right to shove or strike you if they wanted to.

[@patienceobongo]

Australian 'mothers' discriminate severely against their male children

[@M0ebius]

To be worshipped as a hero though requires one to first be heroic. And that is a quality that most Western men have little opportunity to exercise. And also why professions like soldiery, police work, firefighing, medicine etc adds a certain sex appeal for women.

[@kostam.1113]

Sadly those professions don't have nearly the level of respect they used to have

[@bannedmann4469]

@@kostam.1113 Some for good reason.

[@kostam.1113]

@@bannedmann4469 True Especially when it comes to military and police It's disgraceful serving the corrupt military or police in majority of countries

[@lofttm969]

So glad I found your channel. I was a wallflower beta in high school, and then changed schools when I was 17. Totally reinvented myself and then took that new “toxic bad boy” personality with me to college. Early on I knew it was an act that I was employing to get female attention…but after a few years it had become who I actually was. I noticed it when friends and girls in my group of friends always made off the cuff comments about me being able to get any girl I wanted etc and I had this realization that who I was to other people had changed so drastically that the sweet dorky redhead kid that just wanted to feel wanted was long gone. Took a LOT more time to get to a place of nuanced understanding coming back from that hellscape, so I commend you for trying to give young men the tools to achieve this without becoming the monster that scares them back into a middle ground.

[@dorn885]

You can be badboy all you want if your appearance doesnt light up her eyes, you are a creep.

[@DL-fl5ul]

You don't want to be a bad boy in sense of that could lead to jail, subpar grades meaning less paying job, etc... You want to do the right thing as that is what will make your life the best, but BE ASSERTIVE. You want to be an assertive good guy. That's where you win everything.

[@e.l.2734]

"Men like these don't exist anymore" + "to look up does not mean dependence, obedience..." coming from a high earning woman = just another woman who can't find a traditional man who earns more than her and will put up with her not being traditional. [Edit: typo]

[@breakingthemasks]

This

[@trevorking2820]

Yup. They have such a way with words

[@jonvicmamon2529]

nope its easy. be emotionally matured at a young age. and stop hypocrasy of being woman or men. if your want real men or women. find someone with morals. and be real open. love for real cry for real and stand up over and over again. real men and women are not about whose on top. but being open and real genuine to each other. and maybe the way you love for real but being true to yourself. will change and impact someone life for the better.

[@techienate]

"Just?" At least she's honest. What's the problem with any of that? Also, it seems in my experience that not all women care about money. Some girls that grew up with money realize being rich isn't necessary for their happiness. Thing is, as Ayn Rand is saying, the general standards for men today are actually super low. If you actually embody the masculinity this guy is describing, your girl will worship you.

[@johnvandeven2188]

My relationship with my wife is a traditional role where I am being myself and so is she, no pretending. I am an extremely dominant man and my wife is extremely passive. I am an extrovert, my wife is an introvert. I am independent, she is dependent on me. I have always made big income, she became a stay at home mum but now works part-time. We are polar opposites of each other. I am absolutely masculine and she is absolutely feminine. She is not my doormat and I am not her slave. Traditional roles are truly what both males and females so desperately seek in a relationship. So why is there so much pretending going on. She has never been with another man, I am her first. I have had only one other before her. We have also been married for 38 years. Thank you feminism for confusing most women and some men.

[@xenxander]

The woman you have doesn't exist any longer, because feminism has bred a generation of women who absolutely hate men.

[@carlgonzalez3337]

i wouldn't be so sure about the part when you said your wife hasn't been with any other man hehehe just saying.. even back in the 40s when roles were totaly traditional, women would cheat on their husbands while him was out at work and she was alone in the house. Not saying your wife did this precisely, but you can never be too sure

[@jimlyon7276]

​@@xenxander I agree a minority of feminists are angry, BUT feel the original source of their anger was their toxic child hood ( 90% of our species [ BOTH genders ! ] are dysfunctional because of abusive parenting - [ Go read THE child psychologist ALICE MILLER or watch Gabor Mate videos on You Tube ] ), but rather than take that up with their parent(s) they take the easy way out & use men as convenient "emotional dustbins", & screech their repressed anger @ us over social media, where it's nice & safe - AND easy ! Whilst dumping displaced anger on innocent others causes LOTS of "collateral damage" it does NOT solve the ORIGINAL problem !

[@rogerlemans636]

Modern women will date a beta male for the money he provides but only if he is okay with her swinging with multiple other men.

[@erkidenknight]

@@carlgonzalez3337 unnecessary to say something like that. Don't be feminine. Congratulate him on his success, not jealous

[@liuton2005]

Women wanted to become strong and independent. Now that they have succeeded and are alone they complain. Best thing is to simply ignore them.

[@mrpeabodythethird]

You're absolutely right. They want to be equal, given to be in charge, treated like another man, but then treated like a woman when she thinks it suits her best. Women like that are unbearable.

[@Aelrandir]

The perfect example of a truly masculine man is Aragorn. Watch how he handles himself. He’s a leader, always encourages others and brings them up, he’s strong, protecting, can be relied on. He’s merciful yet firm and not pushed around and manipulated. He rises to the occasion that’s called on him and knows the meaning of sacrifice.

[@yedoru4448]

Stop no your adding morality into masculinity that is not neccesary. Stop glorifying masculinity just give the bare definition.

[@desmonides]

@John Grigg Mormonism is heresy and it’s teachings are in no way based on sound Scripture

[@wh3elson]

@@desmonides it’s about as real as any other scripture tbh

[@octavianr526]

Fictional characters are, obviously, not real. Teens are copying film characters because of their identity crisis - which may last a lifetime. Remember a movie has tenths of people pushing actors to behave and play something. Then they cut and put together the best scenes from tenths of identical scenes they filmed. The poor, bad and goofy ones are cut out. Screenplayers are sometimes very good, music too, add sepia/punk/vintage post-colorization and you have an artificial universe. It is childish to define true masculinity with an artificially made character. It is wishful thinking and delusional.

[@Engel8332]

​@@octavianr526an ad hominen to a fictional character? That is new, pal

[@appeljuicesurf]

The things that really annoys me is that its always a man has to do that or be like that... What about them?

[@Thleta]

FOR REAL

[@benrex7775]

A traditional wife does quite a lot. Keeping the house in order, raising good kids and managing social connections is not to be looked down upon. It's just a different kind of work. But if a women doesn't want that part of traditional marriage but the ghy should do everything like in the past then it is certainly unbalanced.

[@user-dg2pg5vh6e]

Thank you.

[@RicktheRecorder]

The difficulty is that this gross imbalance is now buttressed by the law, so it is not just a question of men manning up. They risk losing their jobs or being arrested, even if they are not violent.

[@wallyreyes9493]

In the west it was atheist Marxist democratic socialist men and women who gave us this laws too give all the benefits at the expense of worker 🐜 The men. Look at the last 100 years in America, the laws were changed by atheist Marxist democratic socialist men and women/feminist. Christian America didn't push back hard enough, they just went along to get along,bad mistake. I say we let Rome burn down. Not all ideas are equal, not all ideas are good. Atheism and feminism are just pure trash,the bottom of the barrel. Look at what atheist Marxist democratic socialist did in the old USSR, gulag archipelago is a good study on this. Russia made it a requirement for all their high school graduates. Look at Chinese history, the great revolution under r chairman Mao. Atheist Marxist democratic socialist gave China a hellish nightmare, over 100 million people murdered in their atheist Marxist democratic socialist revolution. Cambodia had their atheist Marxist democratic socialist revolution under Pol Pot. A third of their people murdered in the Cambodian killing fields. Check out the movie, it's history (1975 through 1979). Just those three nations should be enough too give people enough information too avoid going into this atheist Marxist democratic socialist and feminist ideas. But no we just refuse too learn from others mistakes. So we must go through the gutter, we must go through the hellish nightmare too see the light. Those who don't know history are cursed/condemned too make the same mistakes. But this all happened in the last hundred years. About half of us were alive when this happened.

[@jasonthebirdcary9698]

That’s exactly right whoever this is your nailing the hammer on the nail due to the combination of a good percentage of BS society telling women that they were Sugar and Spice and everything nice and could and never can do no wrong and saying that men were and in its eyes still are snakes and snails and PuPPy dogs tails and we’re and are still trash and no good and perverts and everything else and no one ever stopping and thinking for themselves saying gee I don’t know if that’s right I think I might look into that due to this Women and Men were fed a huge lie and brain washed blind and delusional by society and so luckily some people are starting to see it but it’s only the people that want to see it so it’s going to unfornately take alot more people then there have been so far. And to close this I’m going to lay it all on the line okay women are not better than men and Men are not better than women but we are not the same there are some things that women can do that men can’t and there are some things that men can do that women can’t and beat her sex should shame shun or tear the other one down because we’re different, and that’s the truth.

[@MarkMcCann-k3e]

This is the best video that I've seen that explains the male and female roles in a relationship. It's opened my eyes so much. It removes a lot of confusion!

[@THX5000]

Promiscuity has ruined them. Very few are wife material today.

[@lookupthereupinthetrees9860]

@@Red-zh7vq I think a backlash is on the way if my daughters are anything to judge by. They see their 'Karen' mothers and go 'nope' and they see the older girls and go 'nope'. So I'm just a little bit hopeful. The younger kids seem to look at everybody else like they're crazy and they might be right. We need to be patient.

[@gumdeo]

@@lookupthereupinthetrees9860 Interesting. In more traditional times, the advice would be "don't be an old maid", now it's "don't be a Karen".

[@najibzaoui4073]

yup, once the cherry is popped, her fate is sealed.. Better chase that bag cause' no self respecting man is going to wife up community property.

[@najibzaoui4073]

@John Grigg the problem is not that promiscuous women cheat in a marriage. the problem is that men marry promiscuous women.

[@compresswealthdivideeconom3757]

@@lookupthereupinthetrees9860 Disgusts me. I have contempt of the usual female use of body for monetary gains.

[@mattrennie6876]

I would say as a late 30's who grew up in Australia that both my mother and my education did everything they could to suppress my natural instincts. It was shamed out of me and I acted in a way that was not true to myself. it wasn't until my mid 30's where I embraced my true nature that things drastically changed for me in a positive way. That included workplace relationships, friend relationships etc and I have gained respect from other men and women. Also, my wife gave up her overly masculine energy (not all as some is essential) and we have since had a better relationship.

[@bbqnpcs5514]

Today's mother's, and today's education, will be even worse.

[@patienceobongo]

Aussie mothers are the worst

[@Raez_XL]

When my gf comes under my protection it doesnt mean i control her every move. No. She runs her own business, she makes her own decisions and takes my counsel on decisions affecting us both. She respects me as a man and i respect her as a woman. She takes care of the cooking and indoor cleaning, while i do all outdoor chores. We work as a team. She doesn't need to be liberated because she is already liberated under my protection and care.

[@yedoru4448]

Whats the point of this. In the end men are above women categorically there is no room for this wishy washy playing of definitions. Now sure just because men are above women doesn't mean women are not sovereign and capable but that doesn't get rid of the fact men are above women and that must be reflected in a healthy relationship dynamic.

[@forgottenfuryan]

"My girlfriend may benefit from feminist laws and not lobby for change, but she'd never change her mind.! -- a mark

[@MrArgurios]

That's a great synergy you have built

[@Decanewolf]

There is ten times more indoor chores then outdoors, that's a horrible arrangement, poor woman :o

[@Raez_XL]

@@Decanewolf We have a maid. We're both super busy and cannot manage a house alone.

[@lauramuldoon4074]

As a woman, I thoroughly enjoyed and resonated with this video! I think all of your points are absolutely spot on! Thank you ☺️

[@shakirghazali2890]

You wont said that words if this kind of video coming from 1980 or 1995

[@jibberism9910]

@@shakirghazali2890 aint no UTube in 1980 bruh

[@philliplockhart5853]

She’s making excuses rather than taking personal responsibility. The notion that a woman can only be feminine with a certain kind of guy is stupid. That’s like a guy saying that he can only be masculine with a certain kind of girl. Notice how there aren’t a lot of channels about women talking about how to be better quality women and more feminine? Whereas there are tons of channels dedicated to men, helping them become better men. Jesus Christ was the PERFECT example of masculinity. I guarantee you that most women today would not view him as desirable. Needing a certain type of guy in order to be feminine is way too dependent and unhealthy. Women need to take accountability for their own attitudes and actions. Women should be focused on how to be better women.

[@anthonym840]

It seems like u might be misunderstanding something. I believe the talking point here is. Both the feminine and the masculine should be that for the right type of person. Aka a person willing facilitate a positive connection with. Why do u think most women are angry nowadays? Because they do this for the wrong type of person. A person with negative energy. And then complain that the positive dosen't exist. How about this, I'll flip it around. Would u want to give to someone who is completely ungrateful, or expects u to do for them? And if u don't then u are less then a man to said woman? Does that sound like someone u should be positively masculine for?

[@tair0ne]

Preach it, brother! Preach!

[@rymreaper]

Alexander Grace himself said once in a video that Jesus Christ was masculine.

[@NorseGraphic]

Really.... Asking women to women up... *_Accountability_*_ is Kryptonite to women!!_

[@philliplockhart5853]

@@anthonym840 If ur a dude u should be masculine. If ur a girl u should be feminine. Jesus is the perfect example of masculinity but because he was known for being mild-tempered and always in control, most women today would not view that as desirable or even masculine. I don’t think women nowadays are feminine enough to know what true masculinity really means. In this video that Alex made, he perfectly illustrates the point: kzbin.info/www/bejne/iaTWi6acgp10bck

[@stultuses]

She has said some great things BUT she refuses the following 1. To take responsibility for endorsing femanism (Femanism didn't get established because women said no to it) 2. She places all action to change on men (effectively keeping what they have and demanding others change) 3. Does not tell women to walk back anything nor demand they actively do anything other than wait for men to change She effectively preachers a one way function, the old, "You change first then I'll change (or maybe won't!) attitude I realize you are interested in her positive truth statements but why remain silent on where women need to step up and denounce having been used as femanist mules and how the so called sisterhood need to walk back many of the toxic misdirections of womenhood they have allowed? It takes two to tango. Men have already embarked on the least violent act possible in a last ditch effort to correct society, that being, walking away after trying everything else. I've said this before, the ball is now in the women's court to show good faith and to demand the religuishing of special privileges they have afforded themselves in society as a power grab (I don't buy her excuse it's just because men have lost masculinity, it's all about power) It's all very easy to get excited when the opposite sex says something encouraging and points towards truth but how much are they walking that truth and how much responsibility for change are they actually doing themselves. Being an actual agent for change is more than just saying what's wrong and calling out men to change, where is she demanding the sisterhood change?

[@Alnivol666]

That does not look like it will happen any time soon. The system is built today in such a way that it takes all chances that a woman will be held accountable for her actions. Women have been taught that any choice they make is the correct one because the choice is made by a woman. There are no wrong choices. Anything can be rationalized. I have tried to have these discussions with women and they simply cannot understand the train of logic. I live in the Netherlands. Here, the court system in family law is probably around 90% women, when it comes to lawyers and judges. The law is profoundly against the father. If you are not married and have a child with a woman, even though you live in the same house and pay for everything, unless a woman gives you the rights ( a procedure which takes like 5 minutes online), you have absolutely no rights to your child. She can leave with the child any time she pleases and if you call the police they will tell you that there is nothing they can do. You have to sue her to get your rights which takes around 4 months to be done with if you are lucky. You will normally win, but just think about the inhibitor that is the whole process here. Suing means losing so much time away from your child and so much money. Lawyers are like 200-250 euros an hour. And all because she just does not want to play nice. And the system rewards this sort of stuff. And the people who could change that in a heart beat are the women who are running the system. And yet they don't do that. They know the system is rigged and unfair and they are not taking any steps to change anything about it. Why? Equality is the word of the last decades and yet it fails to penetrate the places where the balance is so over-stacked on one side. It rewards toxic people at the expense of children who need both parents in their lives. Toxic femininity is severely overlooked.

[@lesp315]

@@Alnivol666 It looks like Netherlands is exact opposite to Muslim countries. Very interesting.

[@KrazzahU]

chameleon bible drivel

[@peh7832]

I total agree with you said - its just the easy way out again. She shows no accountability, no concern about men, has no suggestions - what women should/ will do to support men fighting toxic men-hating feminism. To me, it looks like another example of female hypo-agency making women feel good about themselves again - by telling men what they need to do for women.

[@dukewilliam3660]

I agree. She could also be just virtue signalling for male attention. It's common nowadays

[@Daniel-bs8wv]

Thank you Alex for your balanced approach to male-female dynamics. These days, it seems more in fashion to demonize one sex or the other, and admittedly, I've slipped into that temptation numerous times (especially when you're dealing with past grievances). Thanks for being a voice that brings things back into harmony when people are bombarded with reasons to hate each other. I greatly appreciate it, and keep up the great work 👍

[@carlostheboss7425]

Good comment

[@anthonym840]

Truly right this one is.

[@nikeslim749]

Great comment well said

[@AcmeRacing]

8:16 is one of my pet peeves. Countless times I've had women tell me it's "not fair" to treat her just like everybody else. She then rationalizes why she thinks she deserves an exception, which often involves "I'm a single mother." Seriously, I've gotten that speech from women trying to use promotional coupons that expired _years ago_ on a current purchase. It's become an all-purpose excuse to act entitled.

[@saurabhvaishnav2038]

Becoming a hero is far away, allow a man to become man, not a gentleman, not a real man, not a healthy man, not an alpha, just a man ! ... Do we allow them to be a man as a society? Every masculine trait comes with a cost and consequence that society (together with laws) can punish. No guidance and just expecting man to do his part while you demonize the whole masculinity, calling them toxic is such a shameful act of society but no one wants to takes the blame. Of course why take the blame when blame comes with a punishment. One important thing every article like this ignores is "what's in the best interest of men?" or "what men want/need?" They all preach men about what men are missing but no one tells soceity to take a step back and give men some space. They will continue to ruin every man's platform where men can teach men about masculinity but simultaneously preaching men on what society (women) wants from them. Good luck my brothers.

[@lookupthereupinthetrees9860]

So I assume/ take it that you never enjoyed the 'be nice to the other children' mantra that came from the divorced middle-aged mother hen looking school teacher that told you off for merely defending yourself against the other fifth graders with sociopathic tendencies from taking your lunch money, either?

[@anthonym840]

She spoke about what women needed to do. It was the entire point of the speech. She told them to be feminine.

[@ethosterros9430]

@@lookupthereupinthetrees9860 imagine being punished for defending yourself. I lived it.

[@lookupthereupinthetrees9860]

@@ethosterros9430 it is something so profoundly wrong, and it only makes complete sense to complete cowards. Its like there are people who get second hand anxiety from watching other people fight and their own pathetic inability to handle conflict is manifest when they hand out punishments to people defending themselves. I always say that: the right to self defence is the most inalienable right because without the right of self defence all your other rights are forfeit. But we're surrounded by people who are too stupid to work that out.

[@Ronin_72]

@@anthonym840 That's how I saw it. I keep seeing people talk about how she telling men what to do. This isn't the case, women need to adjust their standards and she is pointing that out. But also men need to learn to be men, otherwise this cycle continues because women aren't attracted to most men that exist today.

[@micatlan]

we are starting to receive increasingly valuable insights from you, alexander. thank you for having the courage to explain the truth.

[@ChaosSolak]

I'm all for men to recover their masculinity... but there are 2 sides to that story. Women ALSO need to recover their femininity. It's easy to point fingers at men for their mistakes, their loss, but from the perspective of men, why would they even want to attract women who bring so little to the table? Both work, both have to then share the housework, there's little time to spend together or indulge in hobbies. Meanwhile, the house isn't as clean as it should be, the meals are just feeding you instead of being a joy to partake in as a daily bonding event with the whole family, etc etc... Both genders need to get their act together, not just men. If women don't enable men (which is their crucial role), masculine men will shun marriage.

[@contributor2024]

Agree. Take a look at 100 women tomorrow. what percent are feminine? walk with grace, smile to spread joy?

[@VladimirSutinovski]

Thank you Alexander for being here for us. I am so glad I found your channel and soon thereafter few more channels such as yours and I kid you not, my internal believe changes within the course of one weekend! For two decades I was taught to believe from society and all the girlfriends I had that masculinity is toxic and that we as men should be more in touch with our inner feminine. I swallowed that like a hungry gator for sooo long. No wonder none of my relationships worked out. I brought too much femininity into my relationships as I was told but it turned out none of the women wanted that at the end. I have been single for nearly 5 years now and believed that my situations will not change much this lifetime, until, I accidentally landed on your channel. For two straight days about 12+ hours per day I watched and listened you on your channel and few others like it and on Monday morning when I woke up I felt so different, as if I have been in a coma, a vegetative state for two whole decades and suddenly woke up with permissions to be. This is now 7 days since i have received this new information which is not new but it was to me and I am a totally different person the way I interacted this whole week with people outside, on the bus, in the supermarket, at work and etc. I let myself go into my inner masculine and I even noticed my voice became deeper and more assertive, IN ONE WEEK! Thank you to heavens and back for sharing all this on your channel Alexander the Great, you have given me hope and a new reason to live!

[@Bolpat]

A man who always does as he's told is a tool. Just that, a soulless, lifeless tool. No one wants that, except exploitative people.

[@elliottpaine9259]

Alexander, your right. It is STRENGTH to admit whats going on inside. It is humility and you have to surrender pride to get there.

[@rusubogdan7030]

That part where you explained the feeling of what I'm becoming what I hate really hit me up! Thank you man, you have my respect for that!

[@chrismalaney6620]

I've watched dozens of your videos, mostly non-sequentially. This is one of your best. Thank you.

[@spellweavergeneziso]

The whole male female dynamics is pretty much summed up In relatively short amount of time in this single video. Great content. Every man and woman should watch this.

[@TheQuantumTraveller]

Best message, EVER! Practical, nuanced, raw and real. Thank you.

[@egoten5578]

The people who get upset about things you say aren't actually mad at you, and the labels they try to put on you are actually meant for someone else. The reason some people have such reactions to your content is because they're struggling with the realization that you're right about all of it, and almost everything they've been led to believe about women, relationships, and how to navigate through life to find their "soulmate", wife, or girlfriend has been a bold face lie! The emotions going haywire deep inside them cause them to lash out because they know it's true and their brains are fighting their emotions to hold onto their original beliefs. It's a form of cognitive dissonance really.

[@infinitydesu]

To be fair, I praise Alexander a lot, I think he's doing a great job at telling us the truth about women and dating. But now what? I've always been the type of man you mentioned: Trying to find my "soulmate", thinking that having a girlfriend would be amazing and everything, but it's really far from that. I didn't try to date before, why would I try now? If I'm not having any luck, the feeling of it can suck, and if I do get lucky, I have the thought at the back of my head that I'm wanted solely for personal interest and that everything is a lie. Sometimes I wish all this stuff wasn't hardwired into our brains, it's the biggest time and energy waster I know.

[@chadcadsonvii5258]

@@infinitydesu well, what can you do? You are on this planet for a good 70-90yrs. Do you want to make a difference? If so, what are your interests? If not, what are your pleasures and how can you create a journey that affords you more time and access to these pleasures/interests. Historically the human species lived in a dangerous and deadly world. And we are adapted and programmed to survive and procreate within this maelstrom. Our libido is geared towards it, we've tried to temper it, with threats of damnation from a thousand sky god's. We've tried logic and science, all was received with blind contempt, until we who foresaw were pushed to the dark recesses of society. But now you are free, you have seen the folly of chasing the fairer sex. Now, you are left with just your dreams to chase. Will you chase them? Or cast around for further distractions?

[@yoyman8023]

@@infinitydesu When human biology is the “problem” what solutions are available? Can a person “un-hardwire” their brain?

[@egoten5578]

@@infinitydesu you're not alone! The reason why I'm able to speak about the inner turmoil of realizing the things Alex says are absolutely true, is because I too was sold the Disney fairytale and believed it for most of my life. Over time it's been eroded and chipped away. I've had long term relationships, shorter relationships, one night stands and everything between. I've dumped girls, been dumped, been cheated on and all that too. All through those years when I heard people make derogatory comments about women and "the way they are" and how they are driven by x,y,z...ect. I would be saying in my head, "not all women are like that" and usually just go on pretending the fairytale will still happen. And Slowly but surely through the years time and time again I experienced or witnessed all the things I've heard but didn't want to believe. Being the "nice guy" and everything that goes with it will only serve to get you exactly where the old saying says you'll finish... in last place. I could go on and on about all this stuff, but I'll spare you the long detailed journey. I like the content Alex makes the most because he bases everything in science and biology. And when you start looking scientifically at dating situations passed and present, first person, or third person, and society as a whole from an evolutionary prospective, you can really see the overall picture of what's going on with dating and why alot of things are messed up the way they are. I'm probably not making sense (it's early and I'm half asleep) but I'll say this, you asked "but now what?" In regards to dating and everything. I can not answer that question for anyone else, but I personally have opted out of women and dating and all the bullshit that comes along with it about 2 yrs ago at 33 yrs old. I can also say that it's been absolutely freeing to consciously stop pursuing dating and just worry about doing things I want to do, and not having to answer to anyone ever. I'm 35yrs old without kids and never been married. Alot of people would like to believe that it's not by choice and I'm lonely or missing something in my life. I can assure that I'm happier than I've ever been. I place credit on coming to the realization of the nature of females and understanding that my mind is wired in a certain way to believe x,y,z, about the whole Disney fairytale and it's just not true. And I don't care to play mental gymnastics trying to navigate a relationship with a woman for the foreseeable future. Honestly, sex workers are becoming destigmatized and there's a variety of them all over the world if you really want to get laid without having to do the dating song and dance.. the best part is that once the post nut clarity hits, you can leave! Or make them! That's where I've landed after all this time and realizing the hard truth. I don't want to play the game because I was taught the wrong game rules. They're playing chess and I only know how to play scrabble...

[@egoten5578]

@@chadcadsonvii5258 perfectly said! It's completely freeing to no longer chase

[@acustrikegolf9611]

May you have 30 million subscribers in the next 3 months. The world needs your heart your knowledge and your perspective that you bring. A great teacher and a great reminder to humanity about the most basic and truthful facts of the necessity of man and woman.

[@Kv-pk2st]

Thank you for all your work. You have helped me keep my sanity and to realize areas where I can improve myself.

[@Philippoable]

She's looking at a tiny sliver of the problem. The incentives of society are just not there to produce what she wants. Economically, culturally, politically, and tbh with women as they are now. So it's all well and good to kvetch about men, and frankly - who would even argue the point? But what's the idea? That guys just 'man up' and everything else stays the same? Because to that the answer's gonna be a crisp 'nay'.

[@user-nq5hy7vn9k]

I doubt this will come handy to me, but still watching this video

[@karmad.twelve6613]

Your comment reminds me of Eeyore, just living life even though it sucks and you hate it, but might as well continue? LUL

[@robertwilson2205]

Yes, my friend, you let us know we aRe on the right track. Much appreciated

[@ChristieNel]

The broken way men and women interact today is most likely a feedback response in a genetically encoded control loop to deal with the current situation. We just don't know what the loop is trying to achieve and it's most likely not the first time we've gone through this.

[@mosespray4510]

Interesting idea. It's like the movie "Moon" where the guy discovers that he's just one in a long line of clones who live out the same experience endlessly.

[@ChristieNel]

@@mosespray4510 Thanks for the movie suggestion. I'll go look it up.

[@ChristieNel]

Oh yeah, I've seen this. I remember the smiley robot.

[@mosespray4510]

@@ChristieNel Exactly. I sort of spoiled it. Sorry.

[@Alnivol666]

I think it is the first time this happens. And it has a lot to do with technology as well. I mean, I think the technological developments of the last decades are a catalyst. I do not think man kind were ever at this stage and that we are seeing why the human biological response was not ready for this kind of technology.

[@poochplace9511]

Thanks for doing what you do. I am a woman, but I do appreciate your content so much. It is really refreshing to actually hear from a male/masculine perspective! Thank you!

[@Moesie]

What alexander said is kinda true tho, many women say 1 thing but want another. I've even heard women on media say 'men should listen to women because we're women and we know better about women' meanwhile they say be femeni nice guy, we only care about personallity not looks or money. actions speak louder than words , but they dont want to admit this

[@DennisYamaha1985]

Alexander - I’m a new subscriber, but I’ve learned more in this one video than a host of others! You have a permanent fan here, and I thank you. Hats off my friend.

[@Xasew]

The text-to-speech voice is horrible. Just read it yourself.

[@stevec3526]

Yes, a very low quality voice, almost worthless.

[@bbqnpcs5514]

Dunno why he would do it, he was plenty able to read it out himself

[@ericwilson8848]

Yes I go off in lla LA land listening to that stupid voice

[@chickenstripsss6883]

Thank you for doing what you do Alexander Grace.

[@07wrxtr1]

Alex - the sales numbers from "50 shades of grey" say everything

[@justanotherfellaliving5171]

Thank you so much Alexander 🤝

[@tombstonevulturecommand]

Conversation is vital. While being given the room to make mistakes while trying to express our feelings and thoughts with the correct words. We can only put our feelings/thoughts across with 100% clarity after getting it wrong a thousand times. Great video and a great day to us all.

[@fenyxvalerii2826]

Everything you say here, demonstrates that your a genuine high value man - you demonstrate a balanced insight and genuine compassion for the viewers ❤

[@MoonshineBeforeSunshine]

I don't think that this somewhat common saying works: "why should one of us be in power in our relationship. We are a team." There is no such a thing as "we are a team, & we are equal." Because teams have captains which are figureheads. But, more importantly, teams have coaches. & most imporatantly, teams have owners. Coaches define the way a team plays. & owners define the existence of a team financially. & both are not equal to anybody else in the team. In relationships, most men think they are the captain whereas, in reality, their women, wives are the coaches who define how their relationships play out. In plays, trainings, if any of the team's players, or even the team's captain, act or behave out of line, defined by the coach, they'd face repercussion, e.g. booted and have to sit on the chair. & that's like when, as a punishment, a wife doesn't sleep with her husband & makes him go sleep on the couch. In most cases, It doesn't matter how much the team has paid for the problematic player either. If the player in question is defying the authority of the coach, he's going to face repercussions for it in one way or another. So, the point is that in every establishment & institution, there's a power structure with someone sitting at the top of it. & power means control. By saying, "we are a team," or, "we have to be a team," you're not saying that there is no power structure, you're just using euphemism to hide the power structure of your relationship because you don't want to be honest about it. In any system there's an owner, a boss, a chief, a chieftain, a lord, a king, a queen, a prince, a princess, a leader, a supreme leader, a chairman, a chairwoman, a ceo, an executive, a khan, a caliph, a captain, a coach, etc. You see, there's no sugarcoating it. In any system, any decision made is approved by someone of higher position of power within that system. By saying, "we are a team," you're only hiding who the coach of that relationship is. That's all. I'm not much fan of euphemism. My life is my last line of defence in keeping & exercising my power & control over my life. I'm not going to concede that power to anyone or anything else. It is not in my nature to do so. Depending on the cultural & political values of one's era & society, one would have to pay for the defiance of one's nature. Surrendering my power - thus, my control - over my life is especifically not a part of my individulastic nature. No amount of "love" or societal or ideological power is going to change that. The most common repercussion of my nature is my dying alone. But, what's the difference really? I've always been alone. I don't see why, at the later stages of one's life, one will need or have to implement a change that's contrary to what one has always been. You see, even the threat of my going out alone is not going to coerce me into changing ways. Because my ways are my natural ways. One's nature overrides & supersedes everything else. I am controlling over my own life. & that, as explained, is by nature. If another person happens to have any desire to be part of my life, they'll have to acknowledge & accept my controlling nature & its authoritative role in our would-be relationship. If they don't, they can't be part of my life. You see, it's really as simple as that. I'm not going to hide the reality of my nature by sugarcoating who I am. There's no point in euphemism. But, I'm not counting on anybody's acceptance of my nature either. In fact, I'm counting on my going out alone. It's more realistic given the common state of the collective female nature which I've observed in my lifetime. I've noticed my nature & their collective nature often collides. & clashes of natures do not produce peace. A state of peacefulness in my life is what my controlling nature desires the most. Hence, my going out alone is, at least, peaceful.

[@NorseGraphic]

^This.

[@najibzaoui4073]

yup. some souls are not made to bend

[@blackups__6554]

Straight up master Piece Alex. I grow up with my father being the authority figure, disciplinarian, protector, and provider in our home and I saw how feminine my mom was, because she trusted submitted to my father’s ability to protect and provide all she needs to nurture the kids and care for home which by the way and a difficult job and they balanced each other out. My mothers was the assistant CEO and she presented her ideas and concerns with my dad and they will both discuss it, but my dad make the final decision that he thinks is best for the family. The problem with modern women is that they was the authority to make big decisions in a family, but at the same time, they want less responsibilities. Modern want men that are superior to them in height, age, income, strength, and masculinity, because they desire a masculine man who can protect and provide financially security while the nurture the kids. These male attributes that modern want show that men and women are unequal because we have different strengths and weaknesses, but feminist want modern women to believe that they are equally to men in all aspects. If modern truly believe that they are equally to men in all aspects which is not true, why don’t the feminist talk about fewer women in physically demanding jobs, but complain about few female CEOs or government officials. Feminist seek power, not equality of outcome and even worst they was equality of outcome.

[@nmestre2]

I'm the captain that docked his ship in a island and dedicated the rest of his life to the contemplation of nature, instead of giving free rides to women while they party with the crew.

[@alligatorsam5357]

I am kindred spirit to you good sir.

[@MisterDaryn]

Alex, I like the way you articulate each topic, easy to follow and apply to real world situations. Respect the passion, keep it up!

[@georgemilliner3812]

I'm glad Alexander attempted to set expectations of being able to achieve this level of romantic accomplishment so low because it really will be one in a thousand people who get to experience what he has in his imagination. Not impossible, just so highly improbable that you honestly will have to count yourself blessed if it happens to you. As for the content, do you not see how you have to be perfect, and a mind reader, and straight up guided by the Spirit, in order to navigate this woman's list of demands? And that's not even considering that she only wants this particular expression of masculinity PART OF THE TIME. Tomorrow there will be a completely different list of what you must do - and be - in order to make her feel "safe" and "empowered" and (although it never does seem to come up in these videos) validated. In my life, I need to be involved in pursuing things that are possible, not spinning my wheels chasing things that only last a few moments, if they materialize at all. I know Alexander meant this video to be hopeful, but all it does is reinforce the inevitability of failure. Women do not "bond". Whatever you "build" with them today will erode tomorrow and be gone by next week. Never think she's yours because she never will be. It may be your turn right now, but your turn will end. Those are the hard realities of romantic relationships. Plan accordingly.

[@bigscarysteve]

I appreciate Alexander's content, but I think he inadvertently admitted in this video that you're better off listening to Joker on the Better Bachelor channel than listening to him.

[@luciemunson]

ABSOLUTELY. Nothing feels better as a feminine woman than to relax when your man (that you trust) takes charge. It's such an incredibly hard experience to get these days though, with all the masculinity (and femininity too tbh) shaming out there. But damn we need it. About the masculinity worship part, I went "exactly!" out loud several times, cause it's exactly how it feels: I admire masculinity a lot, and it's all about that really when I feel attracted. That's why as a straight woman I'm not attracted to beautiful traits in women, and not to men who aren't masculine, it's the masculinity that is attractive.

[@shakirghazali2890]

Whats the point if your men tooks charge and women dint obey ? Sounds stupid real men need real women not half breed women lol

[@patienceobongo]

Men can't be bothered. I can't be bothered 'taking charge' of a woman. I do enough 'taking charge' at work.

[@luciemunson]

@@patienceobongo fair enough

[@jkinney0420]

While I agree with almost everything said here, and I truly appreciate what you are doing. I still think, regardless of how masculine a man is or isn't, it's a huge risk for men to marry these days. Because all it takes is for a woman to have a bad day and/or her feelings change and she can literally ruin his life. Take kids from them, take half of everything they worked their whole lives for, and then most times it's all blamed on the man. Also most of the women these days have a body count higher than any many could dream of, and no man wants to marry that, nor raise another mans kids. I am by no means blaming women for this culture, because it's what has been pushed on all of us for decades. I have been married twice and now I realize that I wanted a family so badly both times I was willing to do ANYTHING to have that, which was my mistake, again though it was something that had been ingrained in me my whole life, I was by no means "beta" but I sure was not masculine enough either, and the more I tried to make them happy the further it pushed us apart. So I guess my point being, is that on order for men and women to feel safe a lot of things need to change and its gonna take decades to get there, because it took decades to arrive where we are now. Again I truly appreciate that you are actually trying to help and not just push an agenda of all women are wrong, or all men are wrong, but that both sides are wrong. God Bless all.

[@franemilicevic5245]

This video is masterpiece on the subject . Gratitude warms my heart now. Thank you!

[@josefranciscoramirez4438]

Great video Alex, on the other hand, i don't remember being this early before.

[@knightlight2627]

This is solid gold. Thank you, Alexander!

[@OriginalKKB]

In the end she is part of the problem. One more woman who sets some standard what a real man is supposed to be like to fit her need.

[@blackrose2647]

Honestly I just took it as her wanting men to be competent and dependable again. She wants to feel safe when she's in the presence of a man she has an intimate relationship with. Which is understandable imo. I think these are qualities all guys should have under their belt in order to have a successful relationship. I think most guys can agree with what she's saying. Maybe we dont agree with ALL her points but most of them make a lot of sense and resonates with us.

[@shen5533]

Thats all just another case of a woman explaining men on how to be a real man...

[@ConqueringCaffeine]

G'day Alexander, I love this channel mate. I'm 45 and have been together with my wife for 22 years - and I can still learn stuff. Have to stay on the edge.

[@bigmacgd]

It's not worth being together with a woman. You can't share your emotions, you have to put yourself in the best light, because you have to be admiring for her. There are no benefits of being together with one except body contact... Men have to be perfect...😐

[@bigscarysteve]

Yes. Once I realized that, I started asking how marriage is at all different than prostitution. Well...it's a lot more expensive--but other than that?

[@ShayPatrickCormacTHEHUNTER]

@@bigscarysteve IT used to be different due to exclusicity. Now that that is gone, its essentially the same thing.

[@mehrangerami187]

Thank you for those kind words Alexaner. Thanks for introducing Shay and her content. its nice to see things like this once in a while. Be safe. Mehran from San Diego

[@tbys1416]

Already one dislike? Get outta here. One like from me

[@vorostabletta5345]

Yupp, a dislike in the first minute of the upload. I guess Alexander is on the hatelist of some haters... Doesn't even take the time to see what the video is about

[@tbys1416]

@@vorostabletta5345 exactly

[@papperme]

Wow Alexander you are awesome. Thanks for you being you and you sharing this complex expectations between gender.

[@codypage2659]

We need a set standard of this classification of masculinity. As is everything. Their is a fine line between good & bad. Like the women says. A masculine man will know when it’s time to take charge, and know when to set back…. WTF does that even mean? Hello Mcfly. You cannot have a broad definition for something that is so easily fluid or moldable. Especially when that energy is tied to the energy of another living being that is well known for rationalizing opinions & manipulating definitions to constantly validate its own personal emotions. This is we’re men fail. We cannot fell confident in our masculinity if the standards are constantly shifting without pushback. Example: marriage. A man cannot be assertive in a marriage today. He can be. But his assertiveness will only anger his wife. Who knows she has all the legal power. She’ll just take everything including the children. All because you asserted your authority. Either people get it together and define the what is & what isn’t. It will only become worse. How are you supposed to beat the other team if they control the field of play & the rules. You don’t. You just get beat. My 2 cents. Love the channel Alexander. Good work. Edit: Also. No it’s not just high quality individuals that are able to discern between when & how. That’s a cop-out. The truth really is, except it. All of known western society is now structured for women. Period When we say high quality, what we’re really saying is Men with FU money that live outside the system. Guess. That time is at an end as well. Look at Bezos, Bill Gates, Angelia Jolie, same in less known such as Surgeons & high value lawyers. Their wives are also filing for divorce at alarming rates as well. It is not that men are more feminine. We can see that but how they still live with their natural role & continue protecting & providing. Men are still traditional, women. Not so much. So who you think is the issues that needs the addressing. They have created a very strong and reflecting argument that always lands back at the man feet not the women’s. My masculinity will automatically reset a woman’s femininity cause I’m assertive. No. Yes. Good luck with. That. Keep pushing this argument & it’ll never get better. Not until women relinquish the power we have them & accept accountability then become feminine again. I don’t see this occurring. Good day.

[@rogerlemans636]

If you are reasonably intelligent and you look at the world around you consistently and objectively you will have to admit things will only get way worse. I'm not a pessimist but looking at the media, the narrative, things happening, nothing will change for the better. Hope is delayed disappointment.

[@ethiopiazoldyk4667]

@@rogerlemans636 yep. And Hollywood keeps pushing the agenda too😔

[@squaresquack4767]

I know you aren't Christian but this video made me think about the teachings in the bible (this particular one from Paul): "Wives, submit to your husbands and God. As the church submits to Christ, so also wives are to submit to their husbands in everything. Husbands, love your wife.... To sum up, each one of you is to love his wife as himself, and the wife is to respect her husband." -- Ephesians 5 Great video as usual, I really do think the world needs more voices of positive masculinity

[@NorseGraphic]

Notice they didn't say women should love men, but to _respect_ them... They _knew_ how women back then were like, incapable of the same type of love men have for their wife.

[@squaresquack4767]

@@NorseGraphic Good point. In Greek there's different kinds of loves. The love here is a fatherly type of love (agape love), ie, more strict, disciplining. Elsewhere in the bible the wives are commanded to phileo love their husbands, that is more of a friendship type of love. Honestly, I need to study Greek to really understand these passages. English needs more words for love.

[@rubentrujillo2013]

@@NorseGraphicnot so. Woman naturally are more capable of loving a man than he is of loving her as himself. Women want to be loved and men will naturally receive love but more importantly need to feel respected. They both need to earn it and give it in return. That’s why they’re admonished to do that.

[@AbuMaxime]

It is extremely rare to see a woman admitting all this without any filter. And by the way hats off, Alexander, you really know your stuff!

[@jamesegsmith]

Dude you are doing the Lord's work..... I was in a shitty place a few years ago and your videos really helped me see things differently. I cant thank you enough.

[@Andrea-uj9eu]

Thank you sir for being the first to talk about issues on both sides and not downplay the other side. And for teaching dudes that they don’t have to be the asshole they think they need to be to get the girl. But also not a pushover that can be taken advantage of. Have respect, set boundaries, don’t be toxic. Don’t be needy.

[@treesurgeon2441]

While I appreciate her honesty and her attempt to diagnose the issue I can't help but notice the blaming language. ,"How dare you not notice that we operate in an incredibly counter intuitive manner and that you didn't notice" you selected for this. You selected for a society where the best you can hope for is a soul destroying narcissist. You can blame betas and abusers all you want. Either return to tradition or make your demands clear and reciprocal.

[@Tormalima]

That woman's comments are directed at her female followers, so it makes sense she would think and phrase it in a way to serve women's self interest. The relationship dynamic between men and women is absolutely one of men providing to their women, from a woman's point of view.

[@Victory4thePpl]

Make no mistake Alex you work here is saving lives and relationships and even creating new ones.

[@pbies]

Where are these real men, which are they: not beta, not narcissist?

[@vklnew9824]

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[@MrBobDobolina]

What's messed up is, we used to know this. People, men and women used to not understand this. And it wasn't that long ago.

[@christophervanheerden6499]

Shes hit the wall, hasn't she?.....

[@mindfulmomentswithColm]

I really appreciate your videos because its helping me see the dynamics of male and female personality and relationships, understanding the differences of background and purpose makes it easier to embrace the positive and negative. simply not smiling as much and making fun of women makes sense from the perspective of appearing high value. I didn't really have a clue what I was missing from my dating life until I watched these videos.

[@quietisonline]

damn, that section about “today’s age of men” really hit home

[@grahammcbean6362]

This is fantastic, Alexander. And bravo to that brave woman.

[@nikolavanzettiteslasacco4991]

Alexander grace, NEEDS!!! to be interviewed on the podcast "fresh& fit" I hope he welcome challenges.

[@bbqnpcs5514]

They need to invite him over. You can't make that challenge.

[@dplant8961]

Hi, Folks. HATZOFF to this woman for her honesty and her courage. Just my 0.02. You all have a wonderful day. Best wishes. Deas Plant.

[@coper3883]

By 'Men' she means 'Chad' of course

[@arcanetrueblood9790]

I'm glad I found your videos this is exactly what's wrong with me my mother taught me to be self-loathing men are evil and now I'm too scared to even talk to potential partners in fear that I'm toxic for just being physically attracted

[@Batou123]

Hey Alexander, I thank you so much for all this great content you make. I think you can immagine how helpful it is, but still I want to let you know. Yours are life changing words, full of sense and logic, and beauty. Please keep doing this content because the world needs it. It has been two years I follow your channel and I can see imorovements in my life and my relationships. I will keep working on myself, under your indirect guidance, like a father I never had. I wish you a lot of happiness and success. Regards from Spain.

[@BWater-yq3jx]

Rights without responsibilities, & 'My rights at the expense of others' An across-the-board problem in modern society.

[@vtc8570]

After 22 years of marriage,, no truer words were ever spoken.

[@listentomeincelcommunity2744]

i was seeing a girl and i had many red flags soon on, such as her wanting to try and play fight me all the time, of course i saw it as a form of flirting at first, but when i tell her ive had enough and dont want her to do it anymore she keeps on and on and on even though she could tell it was frustrating me to the max.she was always trying to dominate me and try to compete with me on my masculine traits. she clearly didnt respect me or my boundaries . i was going to break it off but the next week she was pregnant . the rest is history.

[@rogerlemans636]

Lol that username tho.

[@oscaraurelio8869]

The story does not tell from whom she was pregnant.

[@starkops]

Ohdamnnnnn

[@atmosrepair]

Ya freedom! It also means free to make decisions that others would deem as "poor choices."

[@whenpigsfly8178]

Well, I disagree with the word worship. I can see that it's used because it implies total surrender. But it probably is too encouraging of putting someone up on a pedestal while sacrificing yourself, i.e. s*mpery and can quite easily repel the other. Worship of another is usually pretty dangerous and eventually turns into hatred after your prayers aren't answered. I guess I'd prefer the term respect.

[@shugyosha7924]

Even if men were to become more masculine, the competition would simply become even more fierce. Women don't want most guys, they want the top men, irrespective of the quality of men overall. That being said, even if the competition is tough, I'm a man and I compete.

[@johnbergamini3567]

Being "sexist" means discriminating wrt gender. Why is this feature of ALL humans loved and reviled?