GOOD, BAD & UGLY OF MUSLIM DATING APPS - EP 20 || BITTER TRUTH SHOW

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00:00 Coming up next!!!
02:09 Intro
03:07 Muslim Dating Apps
13:45 Dangers of Dating Apps
16:22 Ali's experience with dating apps as a non-muslim
18:16 Accountability while using dating apps
19:27 How Dating apps exploit innocence even after being cautious.
19:52 Personal experience with dating apps.
23:31 Importance of faith while pursuing a marraige
25:02 Committing haram to get married quickly
28:42 Women are forgetting their worth
29:46 Involving a third person while dating
31:23 More Accountability
32:40 Qur'an [ Chapter 24 Verse 26 ] ( Repent )
33:11 Solution?
33:39 Fix your relationship with Allah.
35:42 How to approach a sister?
37:20 Pick your Hardships
39:14 There's more to life than marraige
39:48 Story of Sarah
40:51 Attract not chase
41:48 Should Muslims get married early?
42:33 Reliance on Allah alone
45:06 Blessings in delayed marriage
51:34 MAD stuff
52:15 This is what attracts a pious women
55:51 Jealousy and Insecurities
50:03 Another crazy story
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[@AliDawah]

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[@thebesttruth4659]

May Allah protect innocent Balochistan Muslim Brothers Sisters😔 Pakistan stop kidnapped and killed innocent Balochistan family😔

[@thetruthwithproof8802]

IF JESUS IS GOD, WE ARE GOD ( 1 John 3:2 ) Dear friends, now we are children of God ( John 1 : 12 ) But as many as received Him, to them He gave the right to become children of God, to those who believe in His name ( Galatians 3 : 26 ) For you are all sons of God through faith in Christ Jesus ( Isaiah 43: 6-7 ) bring my sons from far, and my daughters from the ends of the earth; even every one that is called by my name: for I have created him for my glory, I have formed him; yea, I have made him.

[@thetruthwithproof8802]

WHY DO PEOPLE BELIEVE JESUS IS GOD ❓ 🤦‍♂ Jesus himself made It crystal clear he is NOT God ➜ Jesus said, ``Why do you call me good?” “0NLY G0D IS G00D ( L u k e 1 8 : 1 9 )

[@thetruthwithproof8802]

The bible says ➜ NO ONE CAN SEE GOD ➜ this proves Jesus can't be God, because the people have seen Jesus ( John 5:37 )

[@user-zu4th8nz3d]

I think it’s also down to the failure and disconnect by racist traditional families that do not cater for new generational attitudes. We need to build communities at the mosques and ditch racism. Young people are confused in a diverse world and they are trying to break away from this

[@elhoucineaghouache8427]

I don’t know what the white guys name is, but he was on point in what he said throughout the whole episode. He also kept his eyes on the floor the whole time. May Allah preserve him.

[@nyc_nurse]

The apps are trash. Absolute trash, full of people wanting nothing but haraam. I found my husband through mutuals who introduced us, married right away, happily married now with a new baby alhamdulillāh. Wasted too much time on apps Astaghfirullah

[@oussama40612]

May Allah protect you

[@TheFatMan]

How does it become obvious they want haram?

[@NM-ru2qj]

There are some good and decent people on those apps, you just need to weed through some bad ones to get to them.

[@jewelweed6880]

I met my husband through one of the apps. You have to weed out loads of poor matches, people with wrong intentions, people who are lookin for physical, ones who don't understand themselves or aren't actually ready for marriage.

[@thefishychannel1420]

I see you're a revert. Are you white? There is a lot of demand for white girls. They are more beautiful than other races. If you married right away, did he put the effort? What about all the others who want you?

[@pakistani8907]

The sisters you match with leave you hanging and then get back to you a month later with the lie that they haven’t been on the app in ages….when in fact their top choices really didn’t work out so now they are just using you for attn/validation. 2 months on it and I left. Never looked back.

[@jamal22958]

Had the same experience. Ive given up now though.

[@azmolhossain9244]

Ask your parents match you .

[@Animal-Reaction-Clips]

Why are you lot even going on these apps. What happened to all the women on road

[@SupermanOG]

Happens all the time you get ghosted. Just move on though if someone is unresponsive - simple

[@itsahmed450]

Being the rebound sucks, it's like okay I can't get with this guy but you'll do 😅

[@weirdstrafer9263]

being on a dating app is just like collecting pokemon cards. I believe that the courage to actually approach and propose to a woman filters a lot of men with ill intentions.

[@oussama40612]

I hold this opinion as well. Approaching and asking for the walee's number.

[@weirdstrafer9263]

@@oussama40612 ye i thats what i meant with approaching indeed. Knowing her a bit because of social circles so she doesn't feel in danger, telling your intentions and asking for contacts of wali.

[@parkservice6293]

STAY SINGLE FOREVER

[@NaeemAli-bb1qn]

@@oussama40612so isn’t that like purely looks based tho??

[@MuhammadAli-ip1wt]

i disagree cuz i used to approanch many women and it gets tiring and mentally exhausting and its cuz i don't like the chasing game. it mentally drains me. so i then tried these apps, i had better success but they too went nowhere cuz the ppl on there got so many options and are easily persuaded by someone slightly better. Dating apps sucks for like 90% of men. Women have other problems on that app like finding someone serious and not focusing so much on superficial things. so idek anymore. Ima just wing it and hit the gym in the meantime lol

[@AchievewithA]

As a revert in a western county and in an area with few muslims, it feels like there are not many options outside of these horrible apps. But Allah swt is the best of Planners.

[@sinnari-7329]

May Allah gift you a lovely spouse

[@jaywiggle1106]

If you are woman, enter the app with a wali. If you are a man, request a wali after the first conversation. If you would like to speak to her again, that means you subconsciously are considering her as a wife. Please request a wali. You won’t regret it. Allah WILL NOT punish you as you have the right intentions toward courting. Regardless of muzmatch or not

[@rafsanachoudhury3423]

It's difficult to find honest people of integrity. It takes a lot of du'a and patience sometimes.

[@AbdoulrahmanDjibril]

You deserve the best. May Allah protect you

[@purplelove3666]

​@@jaywiggle1106is a wali always going to be there?I think I feel more comfortable meeting someone in person

[@melanieowens356]

The men on these apps can be so rude and disrespectful. Before I found the right man I married, I have had some tell me that they refuse to marry outside their race, someone who is divorced, or who doesn’t have a college degree or that they are only looking for premarital sex. How appalling and disgusting! May Allah protect our single Muslim brothers and sisters from these shayateens 🤲🏽.

[@ruqiyab2784]

The biggest problem these days is that daughters are distancing from their mothers, that’s why they’re all lost in their lives because they don’t learn anything good from others. Our mothers are our madrasas. I know she might sound aggressive but she is protecting you. Please Ali, talk about this relationship. Mother and daughter. It’s so sad how daughters are not connected to with their mothers anymore. 😢🤲 They’re following the kufar culture. May Allah guide our youth. Ameen!

[@Alonzo-Harris]

ali dawah wants to marry his 9 year old daughter to a 40 yr old 😷

[@yasminothman5385]

Ameen Ya Rabb, mothers advice, always the BEST!

[@saliasuale3523]

Why is it always "women, women, women"? Brothers are out here dealing drugs and sleeping with random women

[@hafsaahmed849]

I agree..please brother Ali this topic is very important..Mothers and Daughters.

[@noreenbi9079]

Most mothers are the 1 in the wrong. They encourage the daughter 2 do wrong

[@khalidibnulwalid8841]

May God reward you, brother Ali, for what you are doing.

[@tana36x]

Thank you! Sensible conversations and very interesting angles!!

[@engineered.mechanized]

At 38:40 time mark. I will attest to this from personal experience. I have had severe hardship in life many times in the past and present. And when there is no way out, Allah has given me unprecedented success. I keep working hard and honest, and put my utmost faith and reliance in Allah.

[@usman5140]

I was on multiple apps for 5 years, finally got engaged this year. I agree that choice makes it difficult. I've talked to women and everything seems like its going well, then they just disappear. As a man, you are expected to pursue. I found myself having times where I would contact 10 women and getting no replies. Then others where I'd contact 10 women and get 5 replies.I've had my time wasted and admittedly have wasted others time as well. I am so glad to be off of them.

[@NM-ru2qj]

Did you meet your fiancé off the app?

[@usman5140]

@@NM-ru2qj We met on an app. I flew to her country (Morocco) and met her family. Engaged with their permission.

[@usman5140]

@@NM-ru2qj I can’t see my first reply for some reason. I met her online, then I flew to Morocco and got engaged with the permission of her family.

[@Animal-Reaction-Clips]

. I stayed clean and got married to muslim girl. Her parents were strict hindus and practised Hinduism daily until one day the girls mother had a dream and it would reoccur all the time and with each dream it would get slightly clearer. One day she told her husband and he was absolutely shocked becssue he was also having the same dream. They discussed and the dream was that they would find themselves watching something that had a shape and something was wiggling and as the dreams got clearer they would notice that it was a black colour and something was moving around it. As time passed the dream got clearer and it was a lot of something going around a black square until they realised it looked like humans . One day they made friends with a old Muslim man and he would come to their home and sit and talk. He would change the channel and one day he changed the channel an the lady was so shocked she ran to her husband and told him to come and see so they both looked at the TV channel and asked the old muslim man what is this and he explains that its a mulsim place that we go to for pilgrimage and the couple were both so shocked and told thr old man that they have been having reoccurring dream about this exact place for around 10 years or more . They both reverted to islam there and then. Basically they were having dreams of the kaba with people going around it so that is what was moving around the black thing. They had never ever seen that place before or the pilgrimage or anything to do with islam. This was a sign for them and then their daughter reverted too and I married her

[@amparo1298]

Allhamdulliah what a touching story

[@Animal-Reaction-Clips]

@@amparo1298 thanks 😊 🙏

[@robleluuqlev7203]

Amazing knows what is deep in our hearts and guides those Allah allowed to be guided to the right path

[@Animal-Reaction-Clips]

@@robleluuqlev7203 Allhamdollilah Allah guide who he wills.

[@user-ip1vd6mk5h]

Love this podcast 🙏

[@irtyfanfatakiya7968]

Jazakallah khair for covering this topic

[@ProjectXH]

Brother Ali, the story you mentioned at the end about the guy covering his body with excrement to avoid Zinna happened in Damascus. I'm from Syria and this man's offsprings today in Damascus are known as Al-Misky family, المسكي the adjective of Musk in Arabic.

[@nesrinech3967]

Soubhannallah

[@mchowdhury3184]

Thank you for this podcast

[@FA9082]

Brother Ali spitting🔥🔥🔥 from 42:30 - 44:45 , allahmmua barik!

[@sadyadey782]

As someone who didn’t marry at early age like 16 or 17 and who suffered in a arranged marriage for years and single parent for almost 7 years I never tried any apps to look for a man even before my first marriage I never dated anyone and I always look to remarry but going to apps to look men is just distrust in Allah because Allah knows what is best for us and sometimes being single or alone may be right for us and that we increasingly have patience and educate ourselves more about what we are praying for is important and leave it to Allah for the decision if it’s written for us we will get what we are asking for by his will🤲🏾

[@shamailaahmed7442]

Very interesting conversation. Thankyou for bringing it to attention. I agree very difficult times finding a spouse. Few things to say: There's a great amount of negativity in this discussion. Please do not let your experiences with the opposite gender dishearten you, because this will ruin your future. There are good men, women out there. Please do not compare any situation. Every one will teach you a lesson. Always work on bettering yourself personally, remain humble and realistic, keep your imaan in check at all times. Understand people come from vast amount of life experiences and family units. We don't all have excellent walis or excellent family. We come with expectations, responsibilities, connections etc. When searching learn about the person's life and not what they present to you. Ask deeper questions and you will discover depth. If someone is going to ghost you notice the signs from the beginning--the psychology says its likely to be those who present themselves as the perfect catch and ones who aren't even sure about themselves so why would they be sure of you. As for the wali thing, its not about women not bringing someone to monitor, sometimes its a family matter issue ie. Parents and the child haven't really spoken about how to go about finding a spouse and have their involvement. Some parents don't want to be involved because they don't want to be held responsible for it going wrong. It's more of a culture thing than religious when looking at it practically. However the point about having someone to monitor conversations it's brilliant it will make the sifting quicker and safer. Also do remember to do istikhara sooner rather than later. May Allah help all trying to find a spouse and allow them to be the coolness of our eyes ameen

[@ocerco93]

thank you.. a lot of negativity.. also, they totally neglect the REAL good app out there, they not a lot, but it exist, they kept talking about the fact that u can swipe swipe swipe, theres app, u choice one girl/guy and u NOT allowed to talk to others until, between you and the other person its ''over''

[@shamailaahmed7442]

@@ocerco93 I guess it depends on the stats and popularity of the app or dating site..and maybe of the age ranges of people using them? I'm not sure. I also think there's many cultural barriers and personality barriers that haven't been discussed either. It's important to understand the way people think to help you understand how to overcome challenges together as a couple and understand the 5 love languages eg acts of service, words, gifts. So that you know each other's attributes and strengths. I think you're right, certain Muslim services, sites do pick up on these things too I think. Don't know why it's not mentioned

[@DrMo-89]

Allahoma barrik … jazzaki allaho khaira, the depth in ur comment is ever so full of wisdom.

[@shamailaahmed7442]

@@DrMo-89 wa iyyak. May Allah make it easy for all. Ameen. Because it's very easy to become hopeless and which exactly what shytan is wanting- to tear down a believers iman and in the bid that they chase dunya unhealthly especially when people wrongly prioritise things such as desire, status quo and fulfilling own ego. The halal approach is hard work but ever so beautiful and takes a lot of inner strength/ work and time to achieve.

[@missmong12]

I like your comment and I'm frustrated. The dawah scene should bring light to the people who come from broken family, non practicing family, non Muslim family. The stress on talking to wali is good but they should also stress out the part about women not having wali or a good wali. It makes me really sad

[@MenofDeen]

Asalamuwaleikum. The major problem with Apps is that NO SISTER SHOULD BE ON AN APP WITHOUT HER WALI (this includes a photo with her father/wali and a clear statement that he is on the account) The account should be co-managed/viewed by the father/wali. And there should be no online or "offline" chatting/messaging WITHOUT the wali/father having access. This alone will eliminate most of the fitna (along with the "romance" in the process....)that have nothing to do with this Deen. InshahAllah.

[@NM-ru2qj]

True. Most don’t have wali on the profiles. Unfortunately

[@zamzamp2757]

Definitely agree about the wali being involved. My father-in-law is the one searching on the app for all of his kids (sons and daughters) and he shows profiles to my mother-in-law regularly. Lol. Alhumdulillah for the actively involved parents. However, sadly not all parents or mahrams are actively involved or even interested in helping a woman find her spouse which is why sometimes Muslim women go on these apps in the first place.

[@j86485]

Most of what you said is correct but the wali is not Islamically allowed to see or hear the conversation between the male and female, he can only be in the room to make sure nothing happens sexually. So in a messaging/dating app, the wali cannot go on it to see the messages

[@MenofDeen]

@@zamzamp2757 "sadly not all parents or mahrams are actively involved or even interested in helping a woman find her spouse" ....is 100% correct, but that does not mean that we just put the dean aside and do whatever. Sisters, then need to go and speak to their fathers and ask for their help/support, reminding them of their fathers of their responsibility in this area: Allah’s Messenger said: “When someone with whose religion and character you are satisfied asks your daughter in marriage, accede to his request. If you do not do so there will be temptation in the earth and extensive corruption.” (Mishkat al-Masabih 3090) - If speaking directly does not work. talk with mom. If talking with mom does not work, talk to an uncle. If that does not work talk to an imam. Whatever the method it must be halal....not running to the interent inviting fitna into your life.

[@MenofDeen]

@@j86485 Yes the Wali can and should. He cannot go and look without his daughters permission (this would be considered spying), so the daughter will need to give her father permission to monitor the conversation. And, as he is her protector and the one who must approve of her husband, why would she not want him to know what this random/non-marham man is saying to his daughter. The father can see things that she cannot see. If the sister is wise, she will invite her father to support her in this manner, inshaAllah.

[@neawarunnessa6844]

The lipstick comment : i hope the men who ask their wives to take off their lipstick, then dont gonand stare at other women who wear it.

[@NaeemAli-bb1qn]

Agreed ofc but a woman wirh taqwa wouldn’t want to wear it in public in first place .

[@m.hassan3236]

Great and informative video👍🏼👍🏼

[@cryptomania9263]

The apps are worthless, useless

[@SupermanOG]

I wouldn’t say they’re useless. They can be a useful means of networking and finding potentially very good matches for you who you would otherwise never encounter. Places like social media platforms are generally eschewed for the purpose of “dm-ing” someone. It all depends about intentions, boundaries and following proper Islamic methods of engagement. Anyone with ill intentions can get upto no good even outside of the apps (and in fact many do).

[@Budz11]

I tried those apps and you do meet a lot of women. As soon as i realized that almost every girl on there is chatting up multiple different men, the same way they chat to you, it became an instant turn off. I realized that any women that use such apps are the last kind you'd actually want to wife up. Ironically though, the first girl i matched with, was probably the best all round. Everything clicked, but the abundance meant that i overlooked her, thought i could do better and took her for granted. Definitely felt like a lesson from the Almighty

[@EmilyJones-im6iq]

But you were also chatitng to multiple women so why is it a turn off when the women do it but OK for you>?

[@geraldseydoux3496]

@@EmilyJones-im6iq men and women are not the same

[@NaeemAli-bb1qn]

@@EmilyJones-im6iqbcos men are polygamous by nature and we aren’t the same biologically so it’s different but I agree that it’s not right

[@EmilyJones-im6iq]

@@geraldseydoux3496 so men can get away with it but women cant? great excuse.

[@NM-ru2qj]

What abundance? Majority of men on those apps get way less matches than women do. I guess you’re a top 10% guy

[@ayoubkabir3199]

Salam, can you do an episode where u share tawakkul stories that happened to you or heard around you. it helps to boost my trust in Allah. thank you.

[@SignsBehindScience]

Wa-‘alaykum us-Salām wa-Raḥmatullāhi wa-Barakātuh

[@jonathanfrancois4015]

Good video Jazakallah khair

[@W78294]

Be present In Sha Allah

[@tinaali3686]

The thing is sometimes, in some cultures you can’t tell your wali , like that you are talking to someone because you want to get married.. The father or brother is against it and finds it shameful etc… That is why you don’t mention your wali etc, until you get to know the guy for a week at least.. Especially hard for single mothers…

[@digitalarslan1778]

As a man I can confirm that it's so so much easy to get a sister to be tempted for you. So my sisters please please don't make decisions only be your heart think logically think about when you get older etc

[@teed1]

They only make decision about the level of ur bank account

[@purplelove3666]

​​@@teed1and men look at their beauty to qualify them as wife,GET OVER IT

[@roosworld4910]

These Apps are depressing. I've known 1 person who got married from one of these Apps. For the majourity though it's a terrible place, full of disapointnent and wrong'ns. Men from respectable professions end up being flirty and dirty. If you don't respond to it, they call you frigid haha So glad I don't need to go through that, as I'm married now Alhamdulillah.

[@rayhanmahmood1827]

Subhanallah ❤

[@bdulrahim.]

However, there are also Afro-descendant communities in #Gaza and the #West_Bank town of #Jericho. The #Afro_Palestinian community mainly resides in two neighborhoods, Ribat al Mansuriand and Ribat al-Busari. These #neighborhoods are situated between two #Israeli #checkpoints, through which only residents may pass. 🇵🇸

[@HQ93]

I’ve had issues where I’ve spoken to men who have pretended to be Muslim on these apps! They have some sort of fetish and strange assumptions about Muslim women. Some of the people on these apps are openly non-muslim and like the idea of a submissive woman and seek out Muslim women. I have even come across an Isr@eli profile. Quite dangerous and really sickening that these profiles are not deleted and these platforms are not monitored. As young people looking to get married we need to really come up with healthier/halal solutions. May Allah swt bless us with righteous spouses and make us righteous.

[@QuranAlight_20]

If the Qur'an has been recited with translation and subtitles in different voices, then come

[@user-kf4lr5qn1j]

The brothers are hungry and the women are deceitful on these apps. You have good and bad, we all know how to excuse ourselves, great show anyways guys

[@BlueBlue23]

What the sister said about the age and motherhood is soooo true!!! These days especially...women in ther late 20s even having menopause...older ones being more fertile due to different life style...so many stories i personally know...really, fertility is in Allah's hands

[@shanaz3]

Every home has a knife but not everyone murders. Don’t paint every man or woman with the same brush. The well intentioned person will use the app correctly, with the fear of Allah in their heart

[@LoveLove-ev1cm]

To find your righteous spouse, the key action is to truly accept Allaah’s Qadr for you. To trust that He knows you and whatever happens is by His Will and command and understand and accept this within yourself that , that is better for you! Keep asking in your salaah and duaa to get to this point and beyond in your journey. Accept that all in good time, do the necessary growth, learning and development, be grateful for what you have and never give up hope to find your righteous spouse in the world or the akhira , you’ll be fine 🙏🏾

[@saarah4282]

exactly

[@alrok111]

It’s the ones that are completely free of charge are really dangerous so always be careful and make sure to get a Wali involved at all times

[@oscarromeo812]

Just as a reminder to some sisters out there that there are some good genuine men still on these apps looking for good genuine wives!

[@amparo1298]

Yes but majority is trash

[@NM-ru2qj]

@@amparo1298a lot of girls on those apps too who are just looking to waste time

[@VIOLETheavenBeenMyHandle]

I joined one Muslim friend finder and matrimony app and every other profile had fade haircuts, tattoos, music, smoking or drinking, looking for hookup, or other haram thing. Sisters were hijabless and such and such. I had to delete my profile after getting so many messages asking if I could show my hair, or go on dates without mahram.

[@salahz1800]

I have been on the muslim dating apps for couple of years and being a man I always had intention of only marriage (not zina) and saw that on the women aswell. Only issue after talking with all these women was there wr things missing what I was looking for in my future wife. Simple. Then I had to quit the app for atleast a year. Wonder who is destined to be with me. 😊

[@amparo1298]

You never know maybe meet anywhere

[@salahz1800]

@@amparo1298 yeah inshallah.

[@azharismail9411]

💀 Subhanalla every time i open an dating app i end up closing it and deleting it due to price options

[@yemgo3133]

Keep doing like this videos

[@RAWSND]

Yeah no different from other apps yes we as Muslims may come in with the right intentions but dynamics of these apps force the worst out of us. All I got was depression and huge waste of time. Inshallah only good to come out of this is that it force me to look the traditional route and I am now married to a faithful wife 🤲

[@HaseebKhan-on5zk]

Bro Ali I cant lie I dont know what to do. Family are not helping, the apps are full of catfish and sisters who just dont respond. The sister most of the time are not practicing and on top of that arent even that great looking. The gates of haram are looking awfully wide right about now and the oppertunity for halal seems extremely difficult.

[@imranniazi3983]

If you live in US, then Texas has huge Muslim communities and lots of singles events.

[@NM-ru2qj]

Marry from back home

[@jewelweed6880]

Turn to Allah. Keep working on yourself, be the kind of man the kind of woman you want is praying to find. Maybe your aren't ready and your wait is a mercy and you don't know it. Could be you are kept from a disastrous choice.

[@jewelweed6880]

When I didn't respond, there was something about the profile that didn't match what I was looking for. As for looks, they only mean so much. A pretty face can hide a monster. I can't get the video out of my mind. That poor kitten. The high heels. The little cries. Her smile. The poor kitten. So yeah, maybe reconsider the importance of appearance.

[@Belal-bh4tf]

May Allah make it easy for my siblings inshaAllah

[@oumryeternity7871]

Maybe the families should be on the dating apps and do the meeting like back in the old times. It's probably much better than letting the girls date on their own and get scammed by ill intended men.

[@NaeemAli-bb1qn]

Isn’t this haram to speak to girl without permission of wali anyways !?

[@alberxenos]

Assalamu’alaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh السَّلاَمُ عَلَيْكُمْ وَرَحْمَةُ اللهِ وَبَرَكَاتُهُ

[@yahya-fahd]

طوفان الاقصى 92: اللهم انت مولى اهل غزة ومجاهديها، وانت اعلم بحالهم، نسالك باسمك الاعظم نصرا عزيزا كريما مؤزرا، انك انت الله الحكيم الخبير.

[@MrRK0121]

Why dont you put up a barrier between the men and women or make the women sit behind the men. Just can't imagine the sahaba and sahabiyat sit and discuss like this. Allahu Alam.

[@NaeemAli-bb1qn]

Yes exactly !!

[@noreenbi9079]

Well this guy likes 2 act cool. 2 much free mixing. That's why people are so lost

[@noreenbi9079]

@@petestreet7535 Oh ur so funny. Clearly ur not Muslim

[@mujahidhasan118]

Assalamualaikum ❤ Brothers And Sisters.❤

[@W78294]

I’m coming to the park this Sunday

[@eeeea3080]

42:13 the hadith that brother was looking for is يا معشر الشباب: من استطاع منكم الباءة فليتزوج، فإنه أغض للبصر، وأحصن للفرج، ومن لم يستطع فعليه بالصوم، فإنه له وجاء" "O young people: whoever of you is able to do so, let him get married, for it will lower one’s gaze and protect one’s chastity, and whoever is not able to do so should fast, for it is for him.”

[@user-wm7ny1qb2i]

If I follow this hadeeth to the T I'll die from malnutrition.

[@_ph4nt0mzz_47]

​@@user-wm7ny1qb2i😂😂, just do the Sunnah fasting that the Prophet S.A.W did, on Mondays and Thursdays. No need to fast 24/7 lmao

[@SupermanOG]

Depends how the apps are used and whether with a dating mindset or simply a means of finding a potential match and then getting parents involved immediately from the onset. I imagine the majority using them however are so with nefarious and frivolous intentions.

[@oumryeternity7871]

The other way round, the parents should be the one using the app and when they think they found the good person they present them to there daughters or sons.

[@NaeemAli-bb1qn]

@@oumryeternity7871depends tho if the parents in question follow the proper Quran and Sunna or their own cultural preferences

[@Superzesh101]

May Allah SWT guide all the people who are seeking a partner for all the right reasons! Do your due diligence when seeking a partner.

[@user-zu4th8nz3d]

Young people Dawah alhamdulilah, it’s good for you guys to be independent and have your own space/ platforms based on your perspectives

[@sallystar3688]

A dissapointing thing i saw on this app is that majority or most men don't even pray 5 times a day. And some aren't even practicing. Surely that should be the basic and main thing about being a muslim.So not surprised if people are looking to commit zinah on there. Unfortunatly alot of the men through my experience aren't willing to do things the right way on there. They wanna meet you before marrying you even though they talk to you over text and have seen ur pictures and adit that ur mindset is perfect and they are attracted to you but still wanna see you once in person before sending a rishta. Which isn't something i can accomodate. Just annoying.

[@siddiqah89]

A friend found a guy on there who basically realised she was vulnerable. Married her, moved her miles away, isolated her and abused her. He had 2 children that he hadnt told her about either....

[@kebbahamilton5895]

Allahuma barik an educational and interesting video but how are we gonna lower our gaze watching this?

[@thefishychannel1420]

I like these discussions a lot as i learn a lot but i noticed one thing in common. The points are very theoretical. You have to account the reality on the ground as well. Saying don't go searching is cheapshot. Then I hear Imam saying to be successful, you need to have a plan. I feel there is so much discrepancy and not much progress is being seen. You need to focus on finding a faithful spouse but if you focus too long and still unmarried at 45 saying its destiny, then people will say you didn't have result because you don't have faith in Allah. Results matter. Results are application of theory.

[@fatimaa3632]

Like anything it’s a tool, depends how it’s used. You have to use discernment and common sense. I would not recommend this for young people who are influenced easily, at least involve a parent or elder sibling. A lot of people are using these apps without intention to marry and that will be clear if you’re not being naive.

[@ajc1233]

When i went on the dating apps. I got closer to Allah(swt). The reason is because i take the words i say and my actions seriously. So this process, is the first time i put myself out there, so that made me have to ask myself the type of person i want to be. It made me question a lot about myself. And that brought me closer to Allah(swt).

[@yazzbazzs3602]

I'm 36 a divorced sister and I won't give my father's number to a man before getting to know him😂😆

[@MrBurgaBoii]

Fear Allah in everything you do and you will have your answer in if these ‘apps’ are valid or not

[@W78294]

And you are promoting this to my daughters

[@shakerachowdhury1875]

41:28 powerful words

[@nadzirahfarhah3423]

Competition is competition. Doesnt matter. You have to play

[@sk8nishard8299]

I think like personally if a respectful and believing man came up to me and said “hi sister I’m quite interested in u could I speak ur father if u are also interested?” It would be like such a huge complement like I would be blushing yk so in the western world there’s this tinder and whatnot that is now the way to get married but like so many haram things happen so honestly I’m super happy that we Muslims can get married in the halal way and protect ourselves from zina so alhamdu lilah for Islam.

[@dzhizwlm4955]

I swear at first I thought this guy in the middle was the KZbinr Sonny Faz finally reverted to Islam

[@DrMo-89]

I would love to suggest to have an in house person with good Islamic knowledge and awareness of common relationship/ marriage fatwa and daleel to make these sessions Islamically enriching and proofread !! It’s not that hard at all … otherwise there can be harm of misinformation here

[@amparo1298]

Yes this is all just in my opinion and most people dont agree with them rather hear from islamic sources

[@Litterworld247]

@@amparo1298 Hi I need some advice but I also do want to say that I am grateful that I have a roof over my head and food.... But life has not beeb so great for me it has never been since I was young and im 17 know but I know that Ali in his podcast always say that we muslim have to be nice to our parents but its soo hard for me because sometime I get mad at myself because I feel like Im a bad person but the things is my parents are not great themself my mom is not as bad as my dad because my dad is just beyond not ok but I just dont talk to him and just ignor him but my mom she gets me so mad sometime because she makes me feel like Im nothing she always says like look at othed girls and this and that and it gets me so mad she also always talk bad things about my grandma and her daughters and say things to other people about them which gets me bad because I hate when people back bite since it haram she also repeats things because she has a stoke and has never been the same in my eyes because my family say that she didn't change and I feel bad for her but she really know how to get on someone nerves so I wanted to know if I could just ignor her but also still do things for her will that be haram.

[@MoeedKhan1979]

Salam from Pakistan. In my view dating apps promoting bad things instead of good things. The right way is to find good muslim spouse in your area

[@Mujahid2885]

This is so inappropriate. Girls with make up, no lowering gaze, joking etc. 😢

[@megumienthusiast]

why are you only mad at the women? they dont seem to have any makeup on, and the men aren't lowering their gaze either.

[@Mujahid2885]

@@megumienthusiast I did say lowering the gaze. That was for the men....

[@j86485]

3:30 Looks like the editor didn't bleep this out lol

[@mohammedbashir2555]

One of the worst things that’s happened to Uk Muslims .. it is literally a tinder Muslims , I know one guy that only goes on there to pick up different girls everyday

[@bintsiyad8831]

Who else is rooting for the banagli guy and the banagli girl in pink hijab in sha Allah they have very similar ideologies 😊❤

[@Nikko649]

Inn sha Allah, for whatever Allah wills that is written for them both. If they are meant to be, then it will be

[@j86485]

The Bengali guy is too handsome for that girl lol

[@jewelweed6880]

​@@j86485they look evenly matched in appearance. Doesn't matter what either of us think about their appearance, the equation for a good match is not that simple.

[@purplelove3666]

​@@j86485please delete your comment

[@hanifjones274]

The fact that many are single doesn’t JUSTIFY THE HARAM GOING ON WITH THESE APPS

[@neawarunnessa6844]

57:24 Yes the brother is right , its called having a trophe wife. They feel pride when their wife stands out in the whole room.

[@ghettofight]

You should say your risq this is a blessing from Allah

[@noreenbi9079]

True

[@user-sv9hx1dc1q]

I've been now single for many years i will never use dating app

[@azizrampage]

I'm guessing this was recorded before the other episodes as these aren't new sisters ..well only the middle one is

[@djambidextre]

That's not true, I totally disagree. Many Muslim brothers like myself are on this app to look for true marriage.

[@kyliekia8917]

You don’t gonna find that on a app all your gonna find is the naughty one looking for fun

[@djambidextre]

@@kyliekia8917 I totally disagree. I can block or ignore any profile not looking for halal relationship.

[@JDNR30k]

Not always. There’s lots of catfish

[@NM-ru2qj]

⁠@@djambidextreyeah but how would you know tho? You don’t know peoples true intentions on those apps. I know so many ppl who got ghosted after meeting in person. I know one brother who was set to marry the girl with a wedding date planned. He got ghosted, she found someone else and married the other bro instead. I know another brother who got ghosted after he proposed. Sure the same thing happens to the girls too. But generally speaking those apps are a nightmare for the average man. You either have to be lucky or amazing to get married nowadays. Majority of my peers ranging from 27-40 are all looking, but are struggling. Some even make more than six figures. Majority gave up n went back home to get married. Even the non Muslim men are having issues and they seem to have more options than we do when it comes to finding someone in the west. Dating apps suck for men, u barely get a match and when you do it’s a small chance of it even going anywhere

[@djambidextre]

@@NM-ru2qjbrother, you can get ghosted with or without the app, your argument doesn't make any sense. Also I want to add if you get ghosted then good for you, Allah prevented you to be with the wrong person.

[@W78294]

So first Asalaam Alaykum akhi where are the mehram?

[@hanifjones274]

These apps are haram and fitnah so many important aspects of the deen are being ignored , what would happen if all these people on the app going to the nearest masjid and enquire about marriage

[@MuhammadAli-ip1wt]

my best friend found his fiance on the app. she was like amazing as a person, like no red flags from what he told me. and btw this dude is like a model looking guy and had huge commitment issues. and to have this Muslim girl woo him like crazy blown me away ex: she makes like 6 figs, he makes half that and she don't care, she wants to lie with in-laws, she getting close to deen, and never been in a relationship... Like this is further proof that kismaat is real af.

[@radwaibrahim9276]

♂️"Show me your face without make-up: ♀️ "show me your savings account statement" ♂️ "Do you cook?" ♀️"Do you have a credit score? " Ladies, these are very reasonable questions to be asked and these are equally reasonable questions to ask back.

[@sarahkareem1251]

With all due respect my sister, one shouldn't be in such apps in the first place. He or she should try to find their spouse through the help of parents, guardians, relatives etc. Pictures or online chat, even without makeup can be misleading. Because some people have better camera-face while some appear less pleasant looking than they actually are. So the correct way is for them to meet face-to-face and of course without any makeup. It isn't necessary for a woman to know about her suitor's savings or credit score. What her father should inquire about is his job position and monthly earnings. If it is well enough to pay for the necessities according to the social standard of the girl, that's enough. It's better for a man instead of directly asking, "do you cook", to ask "are you capable of managing the kitchen and the house". It sounds more beautiful and covers all the basic responsibilities of a wife.

[@radwaibrahim9276]

@sarahkareem1251 thanks Sarah. My comment is irrespective of the medium. Apparently, that's a question frequently guys ask when they meet a girl irrespective of how he met her. Of course, you are entitled to your opinion. I, too, believed so, but not anymore. Neither you and I have the complete perspective, wisdom and definitly the authority to say what should ir shouldn't do, especially if they are doing it in the halal respectable way which only God is witnessing of. I stopped believing that sue to real life experiences of myself and many men from my country who immigrate for a better life and education only.to be faced with the sad reality of not being able to meet a suitable match. He, for example, might have outgrown a suggested match by his parents or local community due to his acquired degree/elevated financial status and wants a girl compatible with that. When it comes to worldly criteria such as beauty, wealth...etc, there should be no shame in desiring them in a realistic way as long as it is desired and pursued in a halal way. 😀 as per my comment on questions of cooking and money... that was an example of such wordly desired qualities that I wanted yo highlight. Desires in a potential partner are not similar between genders but equal.

[@aliendemiks]

Savings account statement, credit score 😭

[@musaab0161]

no muslim man will care for a savings account or credit score as they both link to haram

[@EyeFrine]

😂😂😂😂😂😂 good idea

[@Jemma29]

Real life is better than online. It should be organic and natural.

[@shakerachowdhury1875]

Salaam brother, I’m not sure if there was supposed to be some words beeped? It was mentioned a few times but there wasn’t anything beeped. Just commenting in case you didn’t realise otherwise never mind!

[@BlueBlue23]

Which words?

[@mooktakim]

You can't say "exception don't make the rule" and then talk about "personal experience" lol

[@sanamo86]

I know first hand a sister that avoided Zinna by finding her husband on a muslim dating app

[@Starzig123]

Salam, in your previous video why didn't you mention that that modest street's daughter is living with her biological father

[@HarunalRashide123]

They all say the same shit "I just want a nice guy, I'm not after wealth and status. I just want a good practising brother who will treat me like a queen." The usual wishy washy virtue signalling lines. But as soon as a 6ft guy, with a Range Rover and house comes, who doesn't even pray. They will choose him and make excuses "Oh he will change, he makes me feel special." 😂😂

[@noreenbi9079]

Well said they want a rich man Look how rich u are u self .

[@purplelove3666]

But men want a beautiful woman who is also righteous, no one is talking down on you regarding that, why don't you not look for a beautiful woman but just a righteous one?.

[@GreenLikeKashmir]

I’m obsessed with boat girl, can she please get her own podcast/show 😭😂

[@Unknown-ok6tm]

Which one

[@j86485]

Fam she always sounds high lol

[@MaymoonahM]

you never beeped out "muzzmatch" lol

[@saharsakri578]

I tried the apps thinking men will be honest and looking for marriage. Nobody gets to the point. Its small talk. I ve experienced the guy showing interst and then disappearing. Alot of silly games from grown men. Some men have asked me the most vile things. Anyways i though as i ve heard many success stories that maybe it could work for me. Back in the day was easier and people would approach u f2f. Easier. Now these apps have stopped people approaching in real life. Nobody dares to approach anyone as long its online

[@wadudkarjon5102]

52:00 Mashaallah sister.. This is very rare nowadays..

[@GreenCrackerDK]

Regarding the part woth seeing the hair... a3udu billah. It is not allowed at all! You dont Merry because of the looks first of all.

[@GreenCrackerDK]

It is said, that you can send your Mother or sister, to look at her and then they can describe it for you, nothing else.

[@tomlopez599]

It would be nice if you had a scholar or someone with more knowledge on the mens side too, so they can give ideas or approaches that the others may not have covered or thought of

[@Eziopct]

23:16 this wasn’t bleeped out Ali

[@user-do9nd1ez6z]

When I was looking @ age 51 reverted @ 48 fully submitted that Allah swt would bring me someone . My dua I asked Allah swt not to waste my time and let that person say or do something wrong so I knew they were not the one.. the next day I went to the Imam to make an announcement @ Jummah that I was looking for a husband . The people had to talk to the Imam fist then I met this person @ the coffee shop. One time meeting I knew right away the man that is my husband now.. always remember that marriage is half of the religion that was part of my intention