DIVORCE PANDEMIC!! WHAT'S THE CAUSE? - EP 17 || BITTER TRUTH SHOW

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@AliDawah Жыл бұрын

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@asevis1425 Жыл бұрын

BROTHER YOU HAVE TO LET THE SISTERS SPEAK! Sorry. Through-out the video the men kept talking with almost a 5 minute monologue and when the women spoke they couldn't do so for more than a minute or two! I'm surprised the brothers, or crew didn't try to correct this. PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE give everyone to speak and be open with their thoughts. Thank you brother

@oayysz8909 Жыл бұрын

Hijab indirectly promoting divorce by downplaying the issue. What he says is true but the way he delivered without mentioning the other side and consequences with many hadiths for e.g the Hadith about iblees on throne etc. Also when kids are involved in the west many scholars advice to be more patient than usual due to consequences and not divorce unless absolutely necessary as many kids are at risk of being corrupt especially in the west. The example of the sahaba and asma ra is a false equivocation and cannot be applied to our times as many married many times again due to being widows. When it comes to social norms and consequences depending on where you live this advice of downplaying divorce by giving one side by hijab will only increase divorce due to petty reasons. It sounded like hijab was catering his comments to the 2 divorced sisters which is understandable but forgot the audience online will definitely misconstrue his advice imo.

@Sossouindez Жыл бұрын

Is this free mixing?

@CanI-x6h Жыл бұрын

@@jytvreal stop being negative about your talking nonsense

@alphauno6614 Жыл бұрын

I like M.Hijab’s lion attitude trying to put men on top. In society today it feels like women have the social superiority where if the woman cries foul against a man we all believe her immediately but when men do it we hesitate and (rightly) ask to hear the other side. I believe the greatest example of this manifestation was the “Believe all women” mantra that took hold a few years ago. However I do have an objection against M.Hijab. Divorce is going up. Telling men (and women) that if they don’t feel compatible with their partner after 2 weeks so you can divorce them, I question if this is the wisest time to mention this. I agree we should make nikah more accessible to the younger people but to facilitate this, I heard of no discussion around marrying where the woman relinquishes her maintenance. Would love to hear about this. Jazakallah. Salam

@Sunsun12279 Жыл бұрын

I got married young. The brother was supposedly practicing. Prayed all his prayers. Turns out he’s a serial cheater and narcissist. I caught him cheating and left. He still can’t own up for his mistakes. Alhamdulilah no kids. I plan of remarrying when Allah wills for me

@abdullahiabdi1332 Жыл бұрын

Cafwan sister in shaaAllah wish you good a good husband that have the responsibility of a muslim man

@TheOrthodontist26 Жыл бұрын

Also still won’t admit his mistakes, only thing is it took me 9 years to finally take the step to leave

@FaisaDhahir Жыл бұрын

Me left after 6 yrs marriage with mashallah four kids 😮 i didn't know he double life drug deal but pray n got job 😂 mashallah true always come to light 🚨🕯️ now my kids don't know him but they young adults in college mashallah live move on but together we was strong but be part we face struggle in life 🙏 for me not easy to be single mother 💔😭 but it happens

@numidianking9759 Жыл бұрын

if you were not okay with him having more than 1 wife then he is sin free and all tge mistake and sin goes on your accoubt for being against Gods natural law. he is clean then and you are at loss and wrath until you repent and never forbid what God made permissible ever again.

@numidianking9759 Жыл бұрын

@@TheOrthodontist26women cant leave in Islam youre wrong and the wrath of God is on you

@saadiqa100 Жыл бұрын

Alhamdulilah we never met or saw each other until after Nikah..was 19 he 21 Married for 50 beautiful magnificent years.. Our arguments must have been only as much as could be counted by fingers Went thru many trials tribulations but the axis was always jocular😅 Sadly Almighty Allaah called him 18 months ago and the pain of separation wrenches like a knife within Alhamdulillah Almighty Allaah was so Merciful❤

@a4482921 11 ай бұрын

May Allah reunite the two of you in Jannah, inshaAllah

@Tressa-Rei-Tressa 11 ай бұрын

Wish they would bring success stories like yourself on the show to share your tips and wisdom.

@artsybluecat 11 ай бұрын

You should definitely go on the show and share your golden nuggets of advice. So sorry for your loss. May Allah swt grant you ease with your loss and replace it with another avenue of happiness. Live love and laugh through his memories. Allah bless you my sister with more goodness ❤

@leviticusemmanuel4421 11 ай бұрын

Am happy for you that you were able to hold on till death occurred. Be strong and am wishing good health and all the best in life.

@OpaLockaOutlaw305 11 ай бұрын

Alhamdulillah

@ameenaola8872 Жыл бұрын

What this episode was missing was the perspective amd wisdom of a man and a woman who have been married for a long time (over 20 years) and have made it work and are still making it work. We can learn from such people.

@Soloman_1800 Жыл бұрын

🎯🎯🎯🎯🎯

@RyoRapture Жыл бұрын

Very true I agree.😊

@lazaou1699 Жыл бұрын

Agreed!

@iNikkah Жыл бұрын

Alhmd this is exactly why I have set up my coaching service for pre marital coaching all our coaches have been married more than 20 years

@KIMONOJUDO 11 ай бұрын

100% agree

@0M4CrYsTaL0 Жыл бұрын

Zeeshan is on 🔥🔥🔥 He needs to be on the show more. Wonderful input from him. May Allah bless our marriages.

@93boxing81 Жыл бұрын

I agree with brother zeeshan to an extend. But hijabs mentallity is needed to prevent divorce. But brothers can get divorced regardless zeeshans advice. To reduce divorce is for a man to put boundaries from day 1 and have the guts to walk away. This way she will respect more and ve willing to keep him happier + she will appreciate him more when he is in. This way he will appreciate her and then he will do more. Best way to prevent divorce is for the man to be wiling to walk away.

@sobyali Жыл бұрын

Omg lol seriously ?! When will people learn fear is NOT respect. Trust me if she stays it’s for other reasons not because she respects you.

@93boxing81 Жыл бұрын

@@sobyali respect has an element of fear.

@93boxing81 Жыл бұрын

@@sobyali Women need to respect the man to stay and want to stay. Love itself from the woman isn't enough.

@natasjanaimah3801 Жыл бұрын

Ameen

@zappernarven5784 Жыл бұрын

I'm a new Muslim. Alhamdulilah i reverted 2 years ago. I really love how our brothers and sisters on this podcast are lowering their gaze while listening to each other. MasyaAllah. Alhamdulillah for Islam.

@zappernarven5784 Жыл бұрын

@@kalamuddin4253 sure brother. Thank you

@amjadsulieman1148 Жыл бұрын

They should at least cover their hair

@salmahussain113 Жыл бұрын

@@amjadsulieman1148🤫

@motelamolefe8656 Жыл бұрын

The question is that are you lowering your gaze while watching or can you be able to watch without seeing evil? 🤔

@dusscode Жыл бұрын

@@Aboo_Khaalid this is a necessary discourse between men and women. They are properly segregated, covered up, and their gazes are lowered.

@Nazia.S Жыл бұрын

Brother Zeeshan spoke with a lot of wisdom and made the most sense MashaAllah. His realistic and emotionally mature approach to this topic is setting clear levels. If only more people had this level of understanding. JazakAllah khair

@Jahannam...Hellfire. Жыл бұрын

Hadith on Satan: Devil runs through people like blood Anas ibn Malik reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said, “Verily, Satan flows through the human being like the flowing of blood.” Source: Ṣaḥīḥ Muslim 2174 Grade: Sahih (authentic) according to Muslim Shaytaan lives inside humans! All humans have shaytaan living inside their bodies! May Allah protect us from the accursed shaytaan and guide us to the right path ameen (WE MUST SAY! please say this because the shaytaan cant harm us).... Satan Said, "I will Surely Mislead them All," and so God Said, "I will Surely Fill Hell with you, O Iblees, and those of them that Follow you All Together"So Indeed Satan is an Enemy to you, so Take him as an Enemy, he Only Invites you to be with him in the Blaze of Hellfire 43:62, Qur'an [So] never let Satan avert you. Indeed, he is a clear enemy to you - 36:62, Qur'an [For] he had already led astray much of creation from among you, so did you not use reason? 15:39 - 40, Qur'an [For Iblees] said, "My Lord, because You have made me err, I will surely make [disobedience] attractive to them on earth, and I will mislead them all, except Your chosen servants among them." 38:84 - 85, Qur'an [So God] said, "The truth [is My oath], and the truth I say - [that] I will surely fill Hell with you and those of them that follow you all together.".... Hadith on Satan: Devil runs through people like blood Anas ibn Malik reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said, “Verily, Satan flows through the human being like the flowing of blood.” Source: Ṣaḥīḥ Muslim 2174 Grade: Sahih (authentic) according to Muslim Shaytaan lives inside humans! All humans have shaytaan living inside their bodies! May Allah protect us from the accursed shaytaan and guide us to the right path ameen (WE MUST SAY! please say this because the shaytaan cant harm us)

@muslimmenarecovertnarcissi346 Жыл бұрын

Shayteen live in the human body!!! All humans have shaytaan Jinns living in our bodies!. Warning Hadith on Satan: Devil runs through people like blood Anas ibn Malik reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said, “Verily, Satan flows through the human being like the flowing of blood.” Source: Ṣaḥīḥ Muslim 2174 Grade: Sahih (authentic) according to Muslim Shaytaan lives inside humans! All humans have shaytaan living inside their bodies! May Allah protect us from the accursed shaytaan and guide us to the right path ameen (WE MUST SAY! please say this because the shaytaan cant harm us).... Satan Said, "I will Surely Mislead them All," and so God Said, "I will Surely Fill Hell with you, O Iblees, and those of them that Follow you All Together"So Indeed Satan is an Enemy to you, so Take him as an Enemy, he Only Invites you to be with him in the Blaze of Hellfire 43:62, Qur'an [So] never let Satan avert you. Indeed, he is a clear enemy to you - 36:62, Qur'an [For] he had already led astray much of creation from among you, so did you not use reason? 15:39 - 40, Qur'an [For Iblees] said, "My Lord, because You have made me err, I will surely make [disobedience] attractive to them on earth, and I will mislead them all, except Your chosen servants among them." 38:84 - 85, Qur'an [So God] said, "The truth [is My oath], and the truth I say - [that] I will surely fill Hell with you and those of them that follow you all together.".... Hadith on Satan: Devil runs through people like blood Anas ibn Malik reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said, “Verily, Satan flows through the human being like the flowing of blood.” Source: Ṣaḥīḥ Muslim 2174 Grade: Sahih (authentic) according to Muslim Shaytaan lives inside humans! All humans have shaytaan living inside their bodies! May Allah protect us from the accursed shaytaan and guide us to the right path ameen (WE MUST SAY! please say this because the shaytaan cant harm us)....

@yourfamilydoctor172 11 ай бұрын

And his not even a relationship coach!

@Freetheworld58 Жыл бұрын

Wow no one is meant to be the soul mate is the person you decide to make it work with - this is the single most best and hopeful quote I have ever heard and needed to hear. Thank you brother.

@babyline595 9 ай бұрын

Especially from a moslem man

@shifayanasrine3809 11 ай бұрын

Brother Zeeshan and the sisters made strong points. Br. Hijab's perspective on divorce could potentially harm our Muslim community's approach to handling such matters. I advocate that only mature adults should enter marriage. As Muslims, it's our duty to ensure the well-being of our children resulting from these unions. With the increasing prevalence of divorces, it becomes challenging. Additionally, it's important to give space for the sisters to express themselves. I found Br. Hijab's constant interruptions and laughter towards a counselor sister's points condescending. While I typically respect Br. Hijab's opinions, this time, I find myself disagreeing with his views

@Seanus32 11 ай бұрын

1) Criticism 2) Defensiveness 3) Contempt/resentment 4) Stonewalling - Well said by Hijab. It is horrible to be on the receiving end of these. Crushing! It takes away your character, even. The sister is right to mention compatibility. We try the test but if a toxic relationship takes us away from our best behaviour and drains us, we cannot give that.

@lanatx7012 10 ай бұрын

Brother zeeshan was the one here! Alhamdulilah, man broke it down and built it back up. Sensible man 👍🏿 respect ✊🏿

@Dianeek9 Жыл бұрын

I was reverted to Islam since 5 years and 25 years old when I got married to my husband. He was 14 years older than me, married and with 4 kids. We met only twice in public spaces, before getting married. Now Alhamdulillah everything is good. But what I want to say with this comment is that, in the 5 years in which I were Muslim, but before knowing my husband, I did dress modestly but without hijab. After getting married, I listened to my husband when he told me that niqab is the best kind of hijab, and went from nothing to being a niqabi. I also became more consistent with prayers! This is to say, that the right marriage can make a person better. And now as I said everything is good. InshaAllah I'm having my first child, and his 6th.

@mulkiali7548 Жыл бұрын

Mashaa Allah

@TWO_SPIRITPENGUIN. Жыл бұрын

Where is the 5th child ?

@Dianeek9 Жыл бұрын

@PENGUIN..... when we got married he had 4 with his first wife and now he has 5 with her. Understood 😊

@TWO_SPIRITPENGUIN. Жыл бұрын

@Dianeek9 it doesn't Make sense is he still married to her aswell?

@Dianeek9 Жыл бұрын

@PENGUIN..... yes why doesn't make sense??

@jouharfarah2353 Жыл бұрын

That is completely true. Qur’an, it's a set of instructions that must be followed to succeed Either in Life or hereafter. And I'll never stop saying that we are blessed with the Quran.الحمد لله ✨️🕊

@sobyali Жыл бұрын

Absolutely ridiculous. To be so casual about divorce. No it’s not ‘just’ pain. When you lose your parents is it “just” pain?! What Hijab said is actually the reason why divorce has become so prevalent , to belittle it and water down its traumatic and negative impact on society. Thank you brother Zeeshan for your more respectable advice to men and woman regarding commitment and the integrity in taking this commitment seriously.

@beachbumb71688 Жыл бұрын

Context zina vs marrying to fulfill desires. I’m sure there’s more context that could have been mentioned, but definitely not comparable to losing your parents.

@HHasan77 Жыл бұрын

You misunderstood his point about having standards for yourself

@HelloimthisguyYT Жыл бұрын

“Whoever draws close to Me by the length of a hand, I will draw close to him by the length of an arm. Whoever draws close to Me the by length of an arm, I will draw close to him by the length of a fathom. Whoever comes to Me walking, I will come to him running” Sahih Muslim 2687

@PunishmentInGrave 10 ай бұрын

@rifakhan7222 Жыл бұрын

100℅ agree with Zeeshan sir over Mohammad hijab Glorifying divorce is so wrong, mature people should only seek their partners people shouldn't intend to go for the trial and error method in the the case of marriage at all. But if it doesn't work after giving 100% then that is a different thing. Marriage should be taken seriously and the spouse should compromise with love and respect

@rifakhan7222 Жыл бұрын

Moreover, it's not about 1400 years ago or now it's about abuse of marriage concept which is an Islamic concept, I am not saying divorce is a very negative concept generally but it's just that marriage should be considered very seriously

@rifakhan7222 Жыл бұрын

@@zh5993 ya ya ofcourse with certain exceptions like Zeeshan sir in the video, that's what I meant by being mature the person must analyze and mustn't ignore these type of red flags before marriage but after marriage one has to try his/her 100% to change his/her spouse for the sake of ALLAH. After trying 100% divorce is the only solution, if one take that in at all

@numidianking9759 Жыл бұрын

@@zh59932. wife

@ImenBen12 Жыл бұрын

Completely agree with you I was disappointed with what Hijab said, he made it out as tho divorce is something you can easily do and "be with someone for 2 weeks and see you're not compatible and leave ". Are you serious? Where is the khushu3? You can't do something like that. How on earth do you even know someone after 2 weeks. Marriage is a HUGE deal and as a couple we both have responsibilities!

@Altair-El-Haddad Жыл бұрын

No wonder why where's so many cases of divorces in the somali community, it's glorified to the point where they do it as if it's like changing clothes. One of my best mates aunt is on her 5th marriage and she has never been widowed.

@arfamustasam Жыл бұрын

Muhammad Hijab is so toxic. Perfect depiction of toxic masculinity. Don’t marry a woman who’s not wearing a hijab and then force her to wear one. Find a woman who wears a hijab if that’s your make it or break it requirement. I’m in shock at how he spoke and how he kept cutting off the women & the main narrator when they were speaking.

@DC-wp6oj 4 ай бұрын

Hijab and Dawah always talking tough. No one should ever take marriage advice off either of them. They are clowns.

@MuhammadArif-by3rv Жыл бұрын

Yes Mashallah brother Zeeshan spoke very well. Love his way of explaination. May Allah preserve him and may Allah bless all the brothers and sisters who came on this poadcast Ameen.

@somao3813 Жыл бұрын

You cannot get married just to save yourself from eg zina when you are not ready for marriage.. you need to think about the other person! You can’t use another person & then when it doesn’t work out you just leave them & say it was just to ‘test the waters’…

@BruvahSulaiman Жыл бұрын

A major issue today is that ppl are obsessed with what they have the right to do more than they care to think about what is best for them to do.

@piqueny8872 Жыл бұрын

Yep so many brothers were dragged to there home land by the parents believing that marrying a childbride will fix there sex addiction yet abuse p0rn and cheating still happened Marriage doesn’t save you from your own personal demons or addiction

@somao3813 11 ай бұрын

@user-ji3qm5gf7j Lower your gaze, surround yourself with good people, don’t stay alone, fast, pray more…… if you can actually look after a family & are ready to share your life with someone then get married. You not being able to control your sexual desires doesn’t mean you should drag someone else into your problem!

@dailydeen114 11 ай бұрын

@user-ji3qm5gf7j Learn to control it, it's certainly hard, but if you can control your urges, then consider yourself to be emotionally superior than many other people out there.

@usamazulqarnain8420 11 ай бұрын

@user-ji3qm5gf7j Then you should fast it breaks you’re sexual desires.

@spencermarkham1 Жыл бұрын

Narcissism and the unwillingness to sacrifice and tolerate imperfections!

@jasminasinanbegovic6225 11 ай бұрын

Imperfections should be polished, outgrowing them with time and patience and not tolerated for a lifetime. People suppose to grow within the marriage

@mohammedmujammilshaikh4546 Жыл бұрын

No, Ali, all problems in life are not necessarily a result of karma or consciousness of sin. Some of them may be but it can also be tests from Allah Subhan Watala. Remember, if you are indeed facing a trial from Allah, it means you are still close to Him, as He is clearing your sins in this world instead of the Hereafter, where not a single soul wants to go.

@zainarif1654 11 ай бұрын

He literally explained this idk why ppl just don’t listen before they try be smart in comments with their rebuttles

@instruogroup Жыл бұрын

May Allah protect our families, the sense of patience and sacrifice has changed over time to be frank. Yes the responsibilities are on both men and women but sacrifice, patience and consistent understanding through life is definitely a requirement and what brings goodness too. May Allah bring ease to the people of Palestine, bring our families, communities and the ummah together as an ummah. Ameen

@Hell...FireIsReal 10 ай бұрын

@beachbumb71688 Жыл бұрын

The brother with no marriage experience has more wisdom than anyone else on the panel. MashaAllah Allahumma barik

@boxingmmafan9985 Жыл бұрын

What did he say?

@IRABAH Жыл бұрын

Wen u ar nt yet married ur talks is dferent....!

@beachbumb71688 Жыл бұрын

@@boxingmmafan9985 goto 56:35

@beachbumb71688 Жыл бұрын

@@IRABAH did you even listen to the entire podcast ?

@beachbumb71688 Жыл бұрын

@@IRABAH what was talked about the whole podcast was infuriating-they all just said surface level stuff. No one addressed the obvious issues affecting marriages.

@sanamo86 Жыл бұрын

@35:00 MARRIAGE & RELATIONSHIP GEMS dropped. every person planning to be married needs to listen to this. Absolute gold advice

@-glitch-8195 Жыл бұрын

Ali made a very good point about outsiders giving inapplicable advice. However, he tried to push the “only women try to change men” narrative and disproved his own claim afterwards. So the sister should take it, but the brother has a “right” to demand change? So the sister picked him, but he didn’t pick her? I also didn't understand his point about second marriages being more successful when they divorce rate is actually higher for it. If he’s speaking about learning from mistakes, I can understand that. But marriage wise, that’s untrue. People repeat certain behaviors if anything. They completely missed the mark when it comes to change. Marriage is personal development. I don’t know why in one way the argument for being "realistic" is pushed, mainly from brothers. But afterwards, it’s the person who is trying to make it works fault, the sister, if the other person is taking advantage of it. There’s 0 shame on the person who chooses to remain idle. No wonder divorce rates are high. People take compromise as enabling when you're merely showing patience. Which is what they asked for. PICK A SIDE. Respectfully. I always tell sisters to pay attention to the consistency of a brother's logic. Otherwise, you'll be gaslight to the end of the earth. Which is why sisters have stopped listening.

@Italiangentleman2394 Жыл бұрын

Hope I can have a conversation with you and hijab one day. I'm not a Muslim but I enjoy listening to you guys. Talk about the topic. Very interesting. Thanks for all the great content

@Yataaaaashhh Жыл бұрын

Mashallah brother

@alphauno6614 Жыл бұрын

Why aren’t you Muslim? Is it because you don’t know if God is real or you don’t know if Islam is the true religion of God? Or is it that you belong to another faith?

@iNikkah Жыл бұрын

Why don’t you go to Speakers Corner I’m sure they’ll be there one day

@alphauno6614 Жыл бұрын

@@cati6706 Christian prince is so brave he doesn’t even show his face and never had a moderated debate with anyone ever. Great teacher indeed 😂

@scientia.ex.deus. Жыл бұрын

@@alphauno6614I came into this reply thread because what @mikefrisinger5866 said resonated with me, I too for the most part enjoy and take interest in these topics, this one is a little too close to the bone for me, I have been touched by the darker, oppressive and violent facet of it's reality. And it left wounds that have yet to heal and will leave scars for the rest of my days. I listen to every side and do occasionally find comfort and light in the darkness. Every lesson learned lightens the load. Be kind to each other and my best wishes for you all ❤

@norrie007 Жыл бұрын

Subhanallah I noticed Zeeshan had his head down the whole time when he spoke. May Allah reward him. Btw, Oh Allah bring victory to this ummah.

@meelash1 Жыл бұрын

Why was he there in the first place?

@f2fscientist Жыл бұрын

@@meelash1why shouldn't he be there leave him alone I like his content and he's funny

@saleem1 Жыл бұрын

@@f2fscientist There's no planet in which it's permissible for a Muslim man to be in a room with ghayr mahram females like this.

@mk-19memelauncher65 Жыл бұрын

He's a feminist simp

@Seanus32 11 ай бұрын

Wonderfully put by Zeeshan around the 37-min mark. I highly regrettably got a divorce earlier this year due to excessive toxicity in the relationship and it does break one's heart as I believe in the institution of marriage as Love should be at the core of humanity. As Firas Zahabi said to Subboor Ahmad, suicide is not an option but one does get very low and falls into states like avolition. Rebuilding is a Herculean effort. Loving vibes go out to those who are currently suffering through this. Allah (swt) doesn't allow you to face a burden more than you can bear. You might need painkillers but there is support out there for you.

@noormuzamil9850 11 ай бұрын

Are you women

@shanahdil7981 Жыл бұрын

I got married early came to England.. My husband and i were practicing on and off.. I try not to back bite him.. But he has an addiction.. I thought thing will get better but never did.. After 18 years of marriage and one child.. We are divorced but alhamdullilah I'm closer to Allah swt and understand why Allah swt planned this.

@MuhammadFaisal-np7tc 5 ай бұрын

I think you are the problem

@nye563 5 ай бұрын

@@MuhammadFaisal-np7tcwhy you so triggered? I’ve seen you always attack women on comments get a life

@Tadao-Lao-q6t 2 ай бұрын

@@nye563plot twist he is the brother.

@Maheebah Жыл бұрын

The argument that Brother Mohammad is making is actually a common one especially among feminist leaning Muslim sisters. “Oh but divorce is not that big of a deal, just look how common it was in the time of the Prophet ﷺ.” What needs to be recognized as Brother Zeeshan was also pointing towards is that at the time of the Prophet ﷺ the Arabs were living in a highly polygamous society. There was no stigma in marrying multiple women and also being a second, third or fourth wife of someone. So this casual attitude about divorce whether with children or without wouldn’t stand today as the circumstances are completely different. Women would especially suffer if men started adopting this casual attitude because we don’t have men marrying multiple women who would marry these divorced women and we also wouldn’t have women willing to be in a polygamous marriage. Which is exactly why the state of marriage is what it is today. The entire shariah is based upon laws which maximize the success rate of marriage so society can function ideally. Until the sunnah of polygamy isn’t revived let’s not be quick to act like divorce is not more consequential than it was in the Prophets ﷺ time.

@DARTH-R3VAN Жыл бұрын

@@emma647they divorce themselves

@AskAllahFirst Жыл бұрын

Salaamu alaykum, these are very insightful conversations. I believe one tweak can be add a curtain in between the brothers and sisters to reduce fitnah and please Allah inshaAllah. May Allah accept us all. Ameen.

@hanzelah Жыл бұрын

1. Moderator should not participate in discussion. He should be unbiased and should promote communication rather than stating his opinion 2. The males and females should get an equal time to talk 3. Bring better guests and not those who have been unsuccessful in their own marriages 4. It's very inexpensive to get a stand and have a curtain between the men and the women. There is always a sense of discomfort from both males and females in the current setup.

@Ar9Sin4San Жыл бұрын

There’s nothing wrong with the current setup . For people who are contemplating suicide or in extreme depression , this bitter truth show is amazing to show there’s still life left in the dunya. Stop hating on a successful show.

@ocerco93 8 ай бұрын

He is not a moderator tho. It's his show.

@artsybluecat 11 ай бұрын

Brother from the Jannah channel was throwing gold nuggets at us…loved it!!

@Mahad921 Жыл бұрын

Zeeshaan is the only married man that doesn't sound childish

@mk-19memelauncher65 Жыл бұрын

Stop worshipping women

@abzal-falaz6813 10 ай бұрын

Ali was so spot on in his intro, if you’re Deen is not in tact, you will struggle in every other phase of life. I’ve made the conscious effort to fix my relationship with Allah and things have been much better and on the incline. May Allah bless my wife and my union.

@ummawlaad Жыл бұрын

The Pakistani brother has spoken! Seems like the only wise person there on this subject. Every sister needs to marry a man with the same views as his.

@rubyred1072 Жыл бұрын

❤Who here supports Palestine ❤ 🇵🇸👇🏼🇵🇸

@heba9687 11 ай бұрын

May Allah bless you brother Zeeshan. You're a highly intellectual and knowledgeable person.

@Meemo44 10 ай бұрын

Disrespectful behaviour is definitely a point of no return. My ex husband’s emotional affair was absolutely disgusting. The other woman was on her 4th husband and helped mine destroy our family…Subhan’Allah I also spent over 20 years being put down about my appearance too.

@Hell...FireIsReal 10 ай бұрын

@WhoWellOk 8 ай бұрын

Blackpill for women also thats why

@SHK_T Жыл бұрын

Brother Zeeshan, May Allah bless you and keep continue blessing you always with peace and happiness and all the success in your life of this dunya and hereafter. Beautiful statement.

@Iamamuslim3590 Жыл бұрын

Main problem is the lack of patience and trust 👈

@brummiali1998 Жыл бұрын

I have left a comment As much as it hurts some sisters for me 2 say it yes I Am sister But you gotta give home truths

@ayanabdi77 3 ай бұрын

Unfortunately some people don't change special drugs and porn addition I waited n forgive now am the bad guy

@fuchsiarose3913 Жыл бұрын

Part 2 to this conversation please! Many important points raised.

@hashimtillawi4533 7 ай бұрын

As a Muslim, This is the problem... All I keep hearing is the concept of "Rights" & "Conditions" "like a business contract" Compromise is essential and un-avoidable. There needs to be accounatabiility, putting pride/ego aside. Two adults shouldn't have to be putting rules and conditions on each-other. There should just be RESPECT. I see a lot of couples/spouses using religion and culture as a weapon towards each-other. Using the concept of "Rights" will only lead to a lifetime full of misery... Picking and choosing what to take take from Islam for self convienience will only result to a doomed marriage. Marry a good person, so that you can learn to grow together.

@dreamwarden1000 Жыл бұрын

I got married to a narcissist who while she was pregnant said that she knows family members and friends (her sister divorced twice with two small kids from two different fathers) who got divorced and got apartment from social service. I’m from Sweden and she went to England to give birth without me allowing it and then came back to Sweden,trashed my apartment and took the baby to London and blocked me. She was married before me to a guy in London(they were married for a couple months) and said that he was abusive,same thing she says about me now. I haven’t seen my daughter for over a year but Swedish police and English police has been notified so inshallah it will settle soon. Some money actually plan to get married just to get a kid and they would wish the kid never sees the father again.

@lightkira4119 Жыл бұрын

Same story here in Canada, man married a woman from the United States that was nice and sweet. They had 2 daughters and everything was going well. He asked her to move in with him in Canada and she eventually came over and stayed for several months. She said she didn't like Canada and wanted to go back home. He asked her if she could sponsor a green card for him to come work and stay in the United States but she declined. He hasn't seen his daughters for several years and she cut all contact with him. She got her section 8 housing and government benefits. What a world we live in.

@lightkira4119 Жыл бұрын

@@emma647 lol what are you even saying? Are you planning something for yourself? Women with children get money for apartments and money for food, clothing, and school supplies. Do you want someone to explain you how welfare works? They get a set amount of money for living expenses and each kid gets some living allowance. The more kids you have the better, this is for single mothers who don't even bother to mention the kids father's name. No child support or alimony. If you are planning this make sure to have as many kids as possible. This is for Canada, I don't know how the American welfare system works. Canada is awesome to be a single mother.

@dreamwarden1000 11 ай бұрын

@@emma647 your definatly a red flag lol

@hudakristall3139 11 ай бұрын

That is so sad,i heared a lot of storys like that,especially from the countrys sweden/norway/denmark etc....that is a bad thing from those womans,what a suffer for the kids,of course for the farther too.may Allah swt protect our ummah from unloyal and betraying persons.

@ffswhydoicare 11 ай бұрын

Boo hoo you walked into that problem, move on and have new kids🤦‍♂️

@spes1488 Жыл бұрын

Please somebody make dua for me my wife and I have just split up and will have to start the divorce process but it deeply bothers me - I can’t see my daughter and I will never have the blessing of raising her but Alhamdullilah I still have Allah and my deen, I’m just upset bcos it’s been 2 weeks I haven’t seen or touched my daughters face and I miss her so deeply I will never have the pleasure of raising her may Allah make it easier for me please someone make dua I find a righteous pious spouse and become able to start a new family and be able to somehow maintain contact with my daughter jzk

@Hannah-go3xo Жыл бұрын

Never stop fighting to see her. Keep a diary oof your thoughts so one day you can share it with her. Unfortunately there is a possibility your wife may onlu speak negatibe about you to your daughter but that evidence of your thoughts collected would show your daughter how much you care..keep asking Allah. Ask at tahajjud especially. I.dont know your situation regarding your marriage but i feel you as a parent and cant imagine the heartbreak for your baby

@numidianking9759 Жыл бұрын

your wife is a demon doomed to hell God has seperated you from this evil soul

@iNikkah Жыл бұрын

Please don’t start divorce proceedings until you have sought help from a professional, your child missing out on a solid family structure is worth every once of effort you and your wife can give

@spes1488 Жыл бұрын

@@Hannah-go3xojzk thank you so much it helps a lot to hear this wallahi adheem may Allah reward you immensely

@spes1488 Жыл бұрын

@@iNikkahunfortunately she’s cut off contact from me completely I’m not even able to divorce her as I can’t get a hold of her at all

@BruvahSulaiman Жыл бұрын

Zeeshan saved the episode after a horrible start.

@AhmedKMoustafa2 2 ай бұрын

very true

@neo_artropolis7176 Жыл бұрын

zeeshan is the best to listen to. He truly gave the best of the advices

@rd_views2438 11 ай бұрын

Zeeshan really made points sincerely with full respect...no unneccessary laughs

@briannawilliams4138 10 ай бұрын

Im not Muslim myself but really enjoy these discussions and learning more about the interpersonal relationship dynamics between Muslim men and women. It’s way more tolerable then red pill panels.

@fungshui4850 10 ай бұрын

Watching these men, apart from the unmarried kid, I fear so desperately for the ummah 😭 Belittling, interrupting, arrogance smh

@Oooooooo797 8 ай бұрын

The men are all following Islam the women are wearing makeup and not following Islam because they are knowledgeable men women are not hence why u are easily influenced and focus on kaafir marriages and want it like them if u are not pious Muslim women that’s the only reason u fear marriage

@c.w6593 8 ай бұрын

Seriously.

@Oooooooo797 8 ай бұрын

Speaking from Islam women speak from emotions and don’t cover haya less women

@fungshui4850 8 ай бұрын

@@Oooooooo797Speaking for grammar that was a crime against linguistics

@HaroonandAminavlogs 11 ай бұрын

Alhamdullilah I can’t agree more about sins having a consequence. May Allah SWT guide and protect us all. I’d also add the importance of prayer on your home and your belongings, having Quran play in the background whatever you’re doing, maintaining cleanliness and hygiene in your home and for yourselves too so that your home is blessed inshallah. ❤

@HaroonandAminavlogs 11 ай бұрын

The other thing I’d say is alhamdullilah I’ve been married for 9 years. First 3 years we were against each other and marriage was so hard. The last 6 years we are a united team, even when we have our disagreements, it’s always so clear that we genuinely want what’s best for each other. Alhamdullilah getting closer to Allah SWT has definitely helped also. I’d also add NEVER tell your marital problems to other people, Shaitaan gets in the way and it becomes very difficult. Keep it between yourselves and protect each other from the harm of others.

@AHMEDKONEMALI 11 ай бұрын

Mash'Allah, please whenever you come to Makkah-City let your husband communicate with me I shall help you in sake of ALLAH.. Be safe...

@sultanahamed2484 11 ай бұрын

Sins have consequences simply example of Hitler Saddam to mention a few adultery intoxication bring somuch sufferings and divine punishment when sins have no punishment than why doctors medicine police jail

@ChimmyQ Жыл бұрын

Hmm, it sounds to me that MH perspective on marriage and divorce is overly casual. Although I agree that Islam does not advocate for people to stay in a marriage that they are unhappy in, at the same time people should still try their utmost best to retain the relationship for many reasons before throwing the towel. It’s also very easy for a man to approach it this way, as it still is easier for him to get remarried with kids or not, however this is definitely not the case with sisters.

@fatimah.ummkhalid Жыл бұрын

He's so focused on the technical fiqh aspect instead of the spirit of the deen.

@iNikkah Жыл бұрын

I agree, he did a talk recently where he was passionate about our Muslim communities making families work due to the deteriorating situation we find ourselves, how can we fix global issues when we can’t solve disagreements within families, I’m surprised by his take on this session

@ImenBen12 Жыл бұрын

Completely agree with you sister. I was genuinely shoecked at how he is casually saying after 2 weeks he'd divorce his wife if he's not feeling it. This is not legitimate reason and seriously, after weeks? Marriage is the biggest commitment and you work through it!!

@mk-19memelauncher65 Жыл бұрын

It is the right of the man to divorce if the wife is not obedient for justifiable issues, don't cuck to zeeshans subversive feminism

@aishabashir5400 Жыл бұрын

Exactly. Easy for a man to be playing around with marriage but every woman he divorces will struggle with either remarrying or being a single mum. So narcissistic and irresponsible.

@abdurrahmanishaq6676 9 ай бұрын

This is a wonderful segment which is much much needed in the volatile times we are leaving in ,however one polite suggestion that I hope Ali Dawah takes to consideration. Kindly involve Imams or an Imam in these sessions who deal with these cases on a daily basis and have the experience to navigate through these challenges just as we included a Sister who is a therapist and counsellor.

@MrNebiel1 10 ай бұрын

First of all I have the highest respect for all the sisters and brothers in this conversation. May God bless you and keep you from harms way. But I could not bare watching this. Not because of the content but because of the view point. I do not know how to explain it. But maybe the following will make sense. When you have a beautiful valuable gold nugget in your possession. And your mature enough to realise the blessing. You can not relate with people ( the men in this case ) that are under the impression they have gold bars in there possession. But actually are nothing more then gold-diggers that did not strike gold yet. Apart from our deen. Love is the next most important thing in a marriage. Next to the faith love will soften your heart and make it huge. So big you will have patience, respect, support, understanding and more.

@trignal Жыл бұрын

Bro Zeeshan had the best take on this. The younger generation has forgotten the commitment side of marriage esp. in the west.

@beachbumb71688 Жыл бұрын

Not really, the whole podcast was a shame to the topic. They all offered surface leveled observations-no one really touched over why marriages tend to go towards divorce.

@beachbumb71688 Жыл бұрын

Majority of the Muslim community in the West doesn’t want their kids getting married until they finished college/med school/graduate school/etc . Majority of the parents of the sisters want their daughters marrying within their race and want only doctors or engineers for their daughters. So by the time the topic of marriage is even being taken seriously its moreso in the mid to late 20s. By then the youth have already corrupted their hearts with the love of the dunya, zina relationship and having had mommy and daddies money to help them finish their higher educations they start to feel entitled that I’m so great because I’m a doctor that they then mistreat their spouses (vs people who had to work 3 jobs to pay for their med school end up becoming humbled by the hard work it took to get to that position). When i was single i would laugh every time i heard a sister complain she couldn’t find anyone good-because 95% of them are looking for body building hafiz/alim doctors all in one that are willing to give them a million dollar life style. Whereas i too struggled to find a wife, but i was only looking for someone who was sincere. So the bigger issue is our community doesn’t value their faith and really as a community we are spiritually broken. I made up a quote that the sign of a broken person is that they prioritize materialism (now when you look at our community with that litmus test you’ll see InshaAllah the bigger issues). Another quote i made up is capitalism is a beautiful system for broken people. And that really is our problem as a community we’ve allowed our insecurities within society dictate our morality/priority. So if we really wanted to have a genuine conversation on marriage-they should tell their audience to stop the haram relationships before marriage and to really follow Islam.

@mk-19memelauncher65 Жыл бұрын

No, he was just saying to follow the modern feminist model

@noreenbi9079 Жыл бұрын

@@beachbumb71688 U are so right. Girls have high expectations. Girls need 2 look is there dad a successful person.

@beachbumb71688 Жыл бұрын

Im 25 minutes in and still haven’t heard anything explaining why marriages aren’t working.

@khaderlander2429 Жыл бұрын

People are mostly not patient with each other. Out the door when it gets tough because they thought it was going to be utopia, which doesn't exist. Utopia means no place. Life is a business that doesn't cover the costs.

@beachbumb71688 Жыл бұрын

@@khaderlander2429 i simplified it to 3 issues: 1) how much do they prioritize their faith? 2) values/expectations (which are generally affected by how they were raised)? 3) how well have they preserved their hearts for marriage (most people are involved in several zina relationships before marriage)?

@sp-leaks7935 Жыл бұрын

Main cause of divorce is so called 'sisters' who are social media fully indoctrinated to feminism to follow the disbelievers who are in reality ideological feminists which is disbelief, completely opposes islam & they are from a homes of utterly failed parenting where there is no real respected masculine authority. & these 'sisters' come to marriage meetings being fully indoctrinated to feminism in school, college & university pretending to be religious, feminine, submissive, traditional, obedient & act as of they have been raised and nurtured in a truly islamic upbringing when they really haven't & Brothers get deceived by ideological feminists hiding behind hijaab feigning that they're truly about following islam, don't be fooled. ' So many sisters' do not put Islam first & were utterly failed by incompetent parents who married for the wrong reasons in the first place, they are quick to betray Allaah & His Messenger to imitate the disbelievers, let's not be fooled by these 'sisters' anymore. If there's no masculine father who has raised all his family to put Allaah first & he has full charge over his family, not the disbelievers is the only option for Brothers, if that key standard isn't there, DO NOT MARRY THEM EVER...💯

@ajalloh20 Жыл бұрын

Ali dawah has already forgotten about Palestine??

@AJ-aabbcc Жыл бұрын

@@ajalloh20Top left hand corner has a free palestine flag. You blind?

@iNikkah Жыл бұрын

Brother Zeeshan said everything I would say, the onslaught against family is toxic to our Muslim families so we can’t be lax with marriage, whilst I agree with Mohammed about making Nikkah easy, we can’t take that onto our marriages especially where children are involved- people chasing happiness when at this point you need to put it aside and think of the bigger picture

@Lila19972 Жыл бұрын

I feel bad for the sister in peach abaaya, she was going to speak but kept getting interrupted by Hijab. Ali needs to be a better moderator and let the Women speak!! for God's sake, it is very telling that Hijab likes to be the center of attention, why aren't you calling him out?

@sidramir3211 Жыл бұрын

this was a good discussion but maybe get a third party moderator because it seemed like brother Ali was giving the men (especially brother Hijab) way more time than the sisters & it woudl've been nice to hear more from the sisters, especially since they aren't regulars on the channel. Thank you for this content though & keep up the good work

@incognito6317 Жыл бұрын

38.58...can i just ask why is brother hijab stroking my mans shoulder like that 🤣🤣🤣

@incognito6317 Жыл бұрын

@@dom3073 looool comedy genius 🤣🤣🤣

@amatul7ayy Жыл бұрын

I dont understand Hijabs approach, doesn't he know the hadith of the shaytan getting crowned for breaking up a marriage! Also divorce is not just something you're "allowed to do", it is the most hated thing to Allah and it can take different ahkam depending on the situation. And the hadith he mentioned about Asma bint Umais that had been married to several sahaba: is it really the case that she got divorced and remarried just like that?? In fact she wasnt constantly getting divorced, rather her husbands died, so she remarried Subhanallah. Also she probably wasnt the only wife of these sahaba, so they might took her as a second or third. Thats really disappointing how he just tailored these points to fit his view. Disturbing.

@purplelove3666 11 ай бұрын

So are you allowed or not allowed to divorce?

@MH-bf4uu 7 ай бұрын

It's disliked , so you need to be careful and not treat it so carelessly like mohammad hijab did@@purplelove3666

@FatimaBarkatulla Жыл бұрын

Asma’ bint Umais (RA) was not divorced multiple times. She was twice widowed. Widow of Ja’far bin Abi Talib who was Shaheed and then widow of Abu Bakr. Then married ‘Ali bin Abi Talib.

@shabzdotahmed-gi9pl 11 ай бұрын

Zaynab RA was divorced and then married the prophet saw.

@shabzdotahmed-gi9pl 11 ай бұрын

Khadija Ra was divorced and married the prophet saw.

@Tressa-Rei-Tressa 11 ай бұрын

There are compromises and then there are non-negotiables. Compromise is essential in any adult relationship especially when you share a living space, be it between siblings, house mates or spouses. There will be times when one needs to pull more weight, let things slide, understand the external factors that are putting strain on a person's time and moor. We have to recognise if one lacks in one area, they most likely will make up for it in another. That is a healthy compromise. Non-negotiable are habits or traits you see within another that you cannot tolerate or compromise on. It breeds resentment and embitterment. If you marry seeing the red flags (non-negotiables) . These traits/unwillingness to change will ultimately destroy a marriage.

@personanongrata7976 9 ай бұрын

what a great name for a podcast: The Bitter Truth Show!

@wasimmomin1128 Жыл бұрын

Masha Allah sister dopamine brought such a good topic of Counseling as a remedy but it seemed none of them paid serious attention to that topic.

@tariqaslam1853 Жыл бұрын

TOTALLY AGREE, THE EXPECTATIONS PEOPLE HAVE ARE INSANE. THIS LEADS TO ALLOTHER PROBLEMS.

@HeartMindSoul4321 Жыл бұрын

From the River to the Sea PALESTINE will be Free🇵🇸

@joesmith1036 11 ай бұрын

Alhamdulillah it’s key that from the get go you are honest and ask Allah to find you a pious spouse! And when you see them it brings joy to your life and when you have any disagreement you make up and try not to repeat. May Allah make it easy for all of us Ameen ❤

@cocorene8705 Жыл бұрын

A woman can love her husband more than herself, but once he deeply hurts her,.... she never wants to see him again. ....it's simple ... look at y. woman as she looks at you.

@purplelove3666 11 ай бұрын

A woman like that,has to be very stupid,to love her husband more than herself

@lightinlux Жыл бұрын

Zeeshan said it all, good job!

@waqasamin7029 11 ай бұрын

Zeeshan has the maturity in this discussion. Kudos to him.

@zahraabdullahi1601 10 ай бұрын

I am a Relationship Coach, and I cosign 100% of what Brother Zeeshan has said. He is literally describing what I teach in my programs with surprising accuracy, Tabarakallah.

@imrazaaa Жыл бұрын

Whatever is being disscueed here is about symptoms which we are seeing of neglected childhood and inability of parents to raise childern. You can have as many disscussions and podcasts but it won't help unless we solve the root cause which is the issue of not being able to do proper parenting.

@gracevie6343 Жыл бұрын

Best answer

@Mina-mj8xn 10 ай бұрын

Zeeshan. Perfectly put!

@amnamuqudas1980 Жыл бұрын

The women made really good points especially the marriage counsellor in the peach hijab. I wish she was given the time to finish her thoughts and not be constantly interrupted by hijab, zeeshan, and Ali. The men were given full time to finish their thoughts but the women weren’t. I hope this constructive criticism can be applied to future discussions.

@loworochi Жыл бұрын

This is a great and diverse panel. Mashallah glad to see the brothers and sisters be civil. I've been thinking a lot about marriage, the breaking of the family unit, and how it affects muslims and particularly the somali community in the west. Allah has been reading my mind lol

@alphauno6614 Жыл бұрын

Alhumdulilaah

@samia6888 Жыл бұрын

He gave you those thoughts what you mean lol He is in control of everything ❤

@jawadnoor2298 Жыл бұрын

Plz do a podcast with GenZ vs Millenials Muslims and thier perception in marriage.

@Nameless-i8v Ай бұрын

Ali, may Allah bless you akhi 🤲🏾❤️. Sincerity to Allah alone is the key, to the master. And you get it 🫡

@africanqueenami4568 Жыл бұрын

This why you figure out your values and goals before marriage

@basitshameem75 Жыл бұрын

Well needed episode. Masha Allah keep this good work up my dear brothers.

@Ndotzx Жыл бұрын

I know certain brothers and sisters may be weak but as ali said in the beginning, straight ask them if they’re following Quran and sunnah, conversation over. You cannot skip step 1 to 10 and expect to do well in step 11. Get an understanding of the meaning of life in Islam and how to live it before you decide you’re ready to bring someone in it. I mean some of these examples are embarrassing, Bollywood? Socials? Like it’s actually pathetic to be frank. People need to become more serious. To the men- become more serious straighten up get your priorities in check and remember Allah is watching. Women- same as above!

@danieln.6097 Жыл бұрын

Observing this discussion the low value placed on marriage is apparent. Marriage isn't based on feelings or "happiness". Those are fleeting. Emotions change regularly & so are not the basis of a lifelong covenant such as marriage. False notions like these create unrealistic expectations & a weak foundation which almost guarantees divorce. Marriage is the foundational basis of strong families, communities & societies. Divorce has a destructive ripple effect which creates broken children, families, communities & societies. Marriage should never be viewed from an individualistic, self centered perspective. Marriage is greater than you!

@BruvahSulaiman Жыл бұрын

In my opinion, the number 1 issue above all else is the intention or failure to make any conscious intention before getting married. Ppl get married without knowing what they want from their spouse and without letting their spouse know what they want. They get married in pursuit of things their spouse fails to deliver and they find themselves unable to be content with the situation.

@UmmahisPeace Жыл бұрын

Speaking of marriage, brother Ali, when is episode 2 of the marriage documentary coming out?😁May Allah bless all your efforts.

@priusa8113 Жыл бұрын

Can u link the episode one? Or how to find it please

@UmmahisPeace Жыл бұрын

@@priusa8113 kzbin.info/www/bejne/kJLEmK2qZpWBhLcsi=XEm7lNUUF4UTk7Ra

@Cloud-fy3np Жыл бұрын

The more i watch these, the more I realize im not ready for marriage. You got to be close to levels of perfection as a man to pull it off

@dwoolwichpoly9086 Жыл бұрын

Nah man that ain’t it. Do your 5 daily prayers, read your Quran for 20 minutes a day, have clear intentions and always give your full efforts and Allah will bless you in ways you never thought possible and bring you a woman worthy of you. That ain’t perfection by the way, thats like giving 50%

@Izzy-hr8oz 11 ай бұрын

I’m a woman and feel the same way, i don’t think i’ll ever be ready for it

@ZuluZoro Жыл бұрын

I like Mohammed Hijab but in this discussion he was extremely unwise, immature and unrealistic. The sister furthest on the right made some excellent points. Divorce is a huge problem because people aren’t committed to marriage

@MariamZawjatNomayri 3 ай бұрын

Not wanting to divorce doesn't imply tolerating your hubby's "toxicity" but your loving him for Allah outweighs ego & negativity.

@akazicool87 Жыл бұрын

Well said brother zeeshan

@malikag6332 10 ай бұрын

Brother Zeeshan , MashaAllah great output

@PunishmentInGrave 10 ай бұрын

@Muslim_Student Жыл бұрын

Divorce because people are dramatic and the public praises divorce. I support divorce it's a human right. But spamming divorce is a crime against humanity as it tears the family and hurts children. Divorce if it is serious.

@Darren-h5s Жыл бұрын

U are 100% correct my brother, and yes Iam white with blue eyes…. I stand 100% with the Palistine people

@Ghedi1965 Жыл бұрын

"O people, it is true that you have certain rights with regard to your women, but they also have rights over you. Remember that you have taken them as your wives only under Allah’s trust and with His permission. If they abide by your right then to them belongs the right to be fed and clothed in kindness. Do treat your women well and be kind to them for they are your partners and committed helpers. And it is your right that they do not make friends with any one of whom you do not approve, as well as never to be unchaste." By our prophet peace be upon him

@izajahmed8863 Жыл бұрын

This is very hard to follow for today's women

@hodanahmed5332 Жыл бұрын

Patience commitment understanding that it is till the end without giving up; unless significant life threatening problems( for this world or hereafter) do you separate. Remember to show each other mercy as you’d like your creator to.

@ameenSW Жыл бұрын

This discussion was skewed with some people getting WAY TOO MUCH time while others just really being shushed. I felt very uneasy seeing that brazen attitude of silencing some while giving others way too much time. This was also ostensibly very gendered in context. A lot of assumptions about the male Participants perceptions about therapy, about what the host thinks about what’s “in their(women’s) nature” were made. Also, those women who had a lot of professional experience of dealing with relationship conflicts were not really heard in detail. All of this don’t seem to suggest that it was a genuine dialogue and exploration with half an ounce of intent to fix the problems. This moderator guy is terrible. It’s as if he’s getting a haircut with his pal Mohammed Hijab in a barber’s shop with a dense smog of validation without really seeing that there are others in the room with experience and stories to tell and reflect on. Since when is arrogance (which is quite telling in the host’s confidence in biologically deterministic and socially stereotyped presumptions if gendered behaviour) an Islamic trait? Last checked, Allah hates arrogance so much that it’s an oft repeated theme in the Quran. Sure you can’t compromise on the fundamentals of faith but this discussion ought to have worked from a premise where despite faith if there are issues confronted with, then what’s the best foot forward. Guys get your act together please.

@ThomasMorrison141 Жыл бұрын

He gave everyone a chance to speak, some spoke more than others. Almost nothing you said was true.

@sabrinamystified 11 ай бұрын

I agree with you and I've noticed that non Muslims always criticize the fact that Islam is misogynistic - Islam doesn't teach that, I know that as a Muslim. We need to conduct ourselves in that way, according to the teachings, but we aren't really doing that. We're mixing up culture and religion.

@SalehMaruf 7 ай бұрын

Well done Zeeshan. If I may practice my tribalism here a bit, that's subcontinent insight and wisdom right there.

@salmahussain113 Жыл бұрын

People don’t know what responsibility is anymore

@deeppeacenature265 Жыл бұрын

This is definitely appropriate and islamic. No free mixing and communicating between sexes whatsoever. Keep it up!

@saimabachani6209 Жыл бұрын

It’s porn. Including porn-afied culture and society, wasn’t so accessible and graphic in the past. Porn has ruined this entire generation of men.

@fouwad123 Жыл бұрын

stop spending 50 60 k on stupid weddings that ain't going to last that long. and make affordable for the poor in the west that's what u need to say to women and parents. regarding porn ring the Internet provider they will put a stop to it.

@j86485 Жыл бұрын

Porn is not the ultimate reason for divorce lmaooo