DIVORCE PANDEMIC!! WHAT'S THE CAUSE? - EP 17 || BITTER TRUTH SHOW

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@AliDawah 5 ай бұрын

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@asevis1425 5 ай бұрын

BROTHER YOU HAVE TO LET THE SISTERS SPEAK! Sorry. Through-out the video the men kept talking with almost a 5 minute monologue and when the women spoke they couldn't do so for more than a minute or two! I'm surprised the brothers, or crew didn't try to correct this. PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE give everyone to speak and be open with their thoughts. Thank you brother

@oayysz8909 5 ай бұрын

Hijab indirectly promoting divorce by downplaying the issue. What he says is true but the way he delivered without mentioning the other side and consequences with many hadiths for e.g the Hadith about iblees on throne etc. Also when kids are involved in the west many scholars advice to be more patient than usual due to consequences and not divorce unless absolutely necessary as many kids are at risk of being corrupt especially in the west. The example of the sahaba and asma ra is a false equivocation and cannot be applied to our times as many married many times again due to being widows. When it comes to social norms and consequences depending on where you live this advice of downplaying divorce by giving one side by hijab will only increase divorce due to petty reasons. It sounded like hijab was catering his comments to the 2 divorced sisters which is understandable but forgot the audience online will definitely misconstrue his advice imo.

@Sossouindez 5 ай бұрын

Is this free mixing?

@thetruthwithproof8802 5 ай бұрын

how are you brother Why has Zeeshan used a 11 year old clip for his latest video l would of asked him, but he has had me blocked for years now

@user-dl2zv6bt3r 5 ай бұрын

@@jytvreal stop being negative about your talking nonsense

@Sunsun12279 5 ай бұрын

I got married young. The brother was supposedly practicing. Prayed all his prayers. Turns out he’s a serial cheater and narcissist. I caught him cheating and left. He still can’t own up for his mistakes. Alhamdulilah no kids. I plan of remarrying when Allah wills for me

@abdullahiabdi1332 5 ай бұрын

Cafwan sister in shaaAllah wish you good a good husband that have the responsibility of a muslim man

@TheOrthodontist26 5 ай бұрын

Also still won’t admit his mistakes, only thing is it took me 9 years to finally take the step to leave

@user-lh1jl1bq7p 5 ай бұрын

Me left after 6 yrs marriage with mashallah four kids 😮 i didn't know he double life drug deal but pray n got job 😂 mashallah true always come to light 🚨🕯️ now my kids don't know him but they young adults in college mashallah live move on but together we was strong but be part we face struggle in life 🙏 for me not easy to be single mother 💔😭 but it happens

@numidianking9759 5 ай бұрын

if you were not okay with him having more than 1 wife then he is sin free and all tge mistake and sin goes on your accoubt for being against Gods natural law. he is clean then and you are at loss and wrath until you repent and never forbid what God made permissible ever again.

@numidianking9759 5 ай бұрын

@@TheOrthodontist26women cant leave in Islam youre wrong and the wrath of God is on you

@saadiqa100 5 ай бұрын

Alhamdulilah we never met or saw each other until after Nikah..was 19 he 21 Married for 50 beautiful magnificent years.. Our arguments must have been only as much as could be counted by fingers Went thru many trials tribulations but the axis was always jocular😅 Sadly Almighty Allaah called him 18 months ago and the pain of separation wrenches like a knife within Alhamdulillah Almighty Allaah was so Merciful❤

@a4482921 5 ай бұрын

May Allah reunite the two of you in Jannah, inshaAllah

@Tressa-Rei-Tressa 5 ай бұрын

Wish they would bring success stories like yourself on the show to share your tips and wisdom.

@artsybluecat 4 ай бұрын

You should definitely go on the show and share your golden nuggets of advice. So sorry for your loss. May Allah swt grant you ease with your loss and replace it with another avenue of happiness. Live love and laugh through his memories. Allah bless you my sister with more goodness ❤

@leviticusemmanuel4421 4 ай бұрын

Am happy for you that you were able to hold on till death occurred. Be strong and am wishing good health and all the best in life.

@OpaLockaOutlaw305 4 ай бұрын

Alhamdulillah

@ameenaola8872 5 ай бұрын

What this episode was missing was the perspective amd wisdom of a man and a woman who have been married for a long time (over 20 years) and have made it work and are still making it work. We can learn from such people.

@OPEN_ROAD1800. 5 ай бұрын

🎯🎯🎯🎯🎯

@RyoRapture 5 ай бұрын

Very true I agree.😊

@lazaou1699 5 ай бұрын

Agreed!

@iNikkah 5 ай бұрын

Alhmd this is exactly why I have set up my coaching service for pre marital coaching all our coaches have been married more than 20 years

@KIMONOJUDO 4 ай бұрын

100% agree

@0M4CrYsTaL0 5 ай бұрын

Zeeshan is on 🔥🔥🔥 He needs to be on the show more. Wonderful input from him. May Allah bless our marriages.

@93boxing81 5 ай бұрын

I agree with brother zeeshan to an extend. But hijabs mentallity is needed to prevent divorce. But brothers can get divorced regardless zeeshans advice. To reduce divorce is for a man to put boundaries from day 1 and have the guts to walk away. This way she will respect more and ve willing to keep him happier + she will appreciate him more when he is in. This way he will appreciate her and then he will do more. Best way to prevent divorce is for the man to be wiling to walk away.

@sobyali 5 ай бұрын

Omg lol seriously ?! When will people learn fear is NOT respect. Trust me if she stays it’s for other reasons not because she respects you.

@93boxing81 5 ай бұрын

@@sobyali respect has an element of fear.

@93boxing81 5 ай бұрын

@@sobyali Women need to respect the man to stay and want to stay. Love itself from the woman isn't enough.

@natasjanaimah3801 5 ай бұрын

Ameen

@zappernarven5784 5 ай бұрын

I'm a new Muslim. Alhamdulilah i reverted 2 years ago. I really love how our brothers and sisters on this podcast are lowering their gaze while listening to each other. MasyaAllah. Alhamdulillah for Islam.

@zappernarven5784 5 ай бұрын

@@kalamuddin4253 sure brother. Thank you

@amjadsulieman1148 5 ай бұрын

They should at least cover their hair

@salmahussain113 5 ай бұрын

@@amjadsulieman1148🤫

@motelamolefe8656 5 ай бұрын

The question is that are you lowering your gaze while watching or can you be able to watch without seeing evil? 🤔

@dusscode 5 ай бұрын

@@Aboo_Khaalid this is a necessary discourse between men and women. They are properly segregated, covered up, and their gazes are lowered.

@Nazia.S 5 ай бұрын

Brother Zeeshan spoke with a lot of wisdom and made the most sense MashaAllah. His realistic and emotionally mature approach to this topic is setting clear levels. If only more people had this level of understanding. JazakAllah khair

@Jahannam...Hellfire. 5 ай бұрын

Hadith on Satan: Devil runs through people like blood Anas ibn Malik reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said, “Verily, Satan flows through the human being like the flowing of blood.” Source: Ṣaḥīḥ Muslim 2174 Grade: Sahih (authentic) according to Muslim Shaytaan lives inside humans! All humans have shaytaan living inside their bodies! May Allah protect us from the accursed shaytaan and guide us to the right path ameen (WE MUST SAY! please say this because the shaytaan cant harm us).... Satan Said, "I will Surely Mislead them All," and so God Said, "I will Surely Fill Hell with you, O Iblees, and those of them that Follow you All Together"So Indeed Satan is an Enemy to you, so Take him as an Enemy, he Only Invites you to be with him in the Blaze of Hellfire 43:62, Qur'an [So] never let Satan avert you. Indeed, he is a clear enemy to you - 36:62, Qur'an [For] he had already led astray much of creation from among you, so did you not use reason? 15:39 - 40, Qur'an [For Iblees] said, "My Lord, because You have made me err, I will surely make [disobedience] attractive to them on earth, and I will mislead them all, except Your chosen servants among them." 38:84 - 85, Qur'an [So God] said, "The truth [is My oath], and the truth I say - [that] I will surely fill Hell with you and those of them that follow you all together.".... Hadith on Satan: Devil runs through people like blood Anas ibn Malik reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said, “Verily, Satan flows through the human being like the flowing of blood.” Source: Ṣaḥīḥ Muslim 2174 Grade: Sahih (authentic) according to Muslim Shaytaan lives inside humans! All humans have shaytaan living inside their bodies! May Allah protect us from the accursed shaytaan and guide us to the right path ameen (WE MUST SAY! please say this because the shaytaan cant harm us)

@muslimmenarecovertnarcissi346 5 ай бұрын

Shayteen live in the human body!!! All humans have shaytaan Jinns living in our bodies!. Warning Hadith on Satan: Devil runs through people like blood Anas ibn Malik reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said, “Verily, Satan flows through the human being like the flowing of blood.” Source: Ṣaḥīḥ Muslim 2174 Grade: Sahih (authentic) according to Muslim Shaytaan lives inside humans! All humans have shaytaan living inside their bodies! May Allah protect us from the accursed shaytaan and guide us to the right path ameen (WE MUST SAY! please say this because the shaytaan cant harm us).... Satan Said, "I will Surely Mislead them All," and so God Said, "I will Surely Fill Hell with you, O Iblees, and those of them that Follow you All Together"So Indeed Satan is an Enemy to you, so Take him as an Enemy, he Only Invites you to be with him in the Blaze of Hellfire 43:62, Qur'an [So] never let Satan avert you. Indeed, he is a clear enemy to you - 36:62, Qur'an [For] he had already led astray much of creation from among you, so did you not use reason? 15:39 - 40, Qur'an [For Iblees] said, "My Lord, because You have made me err, I will surely make [disobedience] attractive to them on earth, and I will mislead them all, except Your chosen servants among them." 38:84 - 85, Qur'an [So God] said, "The truth [is My oath], and the truth I say - [that] I will surely fill Hell with you and those of them that follow you all together.".... Hadith on Satan: Devil runs through people like blood Anas ibn Malik reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said, “Verily, Satan flows through the human being like the flowing of blood.” Source: Ṣaḥīḥ Muslim 2174 Grade: Sahih (authentic) according to Muslim Shaytaan lives inside humans! All humans have shaytaan living inside their bodies! May Allah protect us from the accursed shaytaan and guide us to the right path ameen (WE MUST SAY! please say this because the shaytaan cant harm us)....

@yourfamilydoctor172 4 ай бұрын

And his not even a relationship coach!

@Mohameda2002_ 5 ай бұрын

Insha Allah Palestine will be free one day 🤲🏾🇵🇸

@umasam6820 5 ай бұрын

InshAllah 🇵🇸☝️

@user-xl9qh8kw4c 5 ай бұрын

In'shāʾAllāh Falastin 🇵🇸 will be free ❤

@zeeshawn15 5 ай бұрын

Lost cause bro, lost cause. Last 80 years have made it worse

@TheMuslimahMisha 5 ай бұрын

In Shaa Allah from the river to the sea 🇵🇸🇵🇸🇵🇸🇵🇸🇵🇸

@leeyo5494 5 ай бұрын

Palestine will be free of hamas lol

@sobyali 5 ай бұрын

Absolutely ridiculous. To be so casual about divorce. No it’s not ‘just’ pain. When you lose your parents is it “just” pain?! What Hijab said is actually the reason why divorce has become so prevalent , to belittle it and water down its traumatic and negative impact on society. Thank you brother Zeeshan for your more respectable advice to men and woman regarding commitment and the integrity in taking this commitment seriously.

@beachbumb71688 5 ай бұрын

Context zina vs marrying to fulfill desires. I’m sure there’s more context that could have been mentioned, but definitely not comparable to losing your parents.

@hasanshafi9169 5 ай бұрын

You misunderstood his point about having standards for yourself

@Halfin330 5 ай бұрын

Wow no one is meant to be the soul mate is the person you decide to make it work with - this is the single most best and hopeful quote I have ever heard and needed to hear. Thank you brother.

@babyline595 3 ай бұрын

Especially from a moslem man

@fuchsiarose3913 5 ай бұрын

Part 2 to this conversation please! Many important points raised.

@Dianeek9 5 ай бұрын

I was reverted to Islam since 5 years and 25 years old when I got married to my husband. He was 14 years older than me, married and with 4 kids. We met only twice in public spaces, before getting married. Now Alhamdulillah everything is good. But what I want to say with this comment is that, in the 5 years in which I were Muslim, but before knowing my husband, I did dress modestly but without hijab. After getting married, I listened to my husband when he told me that niqab is the best kind of hijab, and went from nothing to being a niqabi. I also became more consistent with prayers! This is to say, that the right marriage can make a person better. And now as I said everything is good. InshaAllah I'm having my first child, and his 6th.

@mulkiali7548 5 ай бұрын

Mashaa Allah

@TWO_SPIRITPENGUIN. 5 ай бұрын

Where is the 5th child ?

@Dianeek9 5 ай бұрын

@PENGUIN..... when we got married he had 4 with his first wife and now he has 5 with her. Understood 😊

@TWO_SPIRITPENGUIN. 5 ай бұрын

@Dianeek9 it doesn't Make sense is he still married to her aswell?

@Dianeek9 5 ай бұрын

@PENGUIN..... yes why doesn't make sense??

@rifakhan7222 5 ай бұрын

100℅ agree with Zeeshan sir over Mohammad hijab Glorifying divorce is so wrong, mature people should only seek their partners people shouldn't intend to go for the trial and error method in the the case of marriage at all. But if it doesn't work after giving 100% then that is a different thing. Marriage should be taken seriously and the spouse should compromise with love and respect

@rifakhan7222 5 ай бұрын

Moreover, it's not about 1400 years ago or now it's about abuse of marriage concept which is an Islamic concept, I am not saying divorce is a very negative concept generally but it's just that marriage should be considered very seriously

@rifakhan7222 5 ай бұрын

@@zh5993 ya ya ofcourse with certain exceptions like Zeeshan sir in the video, that's what I meant by being mature the person must analyze and mustn't ignore these type of red flags before marriage but after marriage one has to try his/her 100% to change his/her spouse for the sake of ALLAH. After trying 100% divorce is the only solution, if one take that in at all

@numidianking9759 5 ай бұрын

@@zh59932. wife

@ImenBen12 5 ай бұрын

Completely agree with you I was disappointed with what Hijab said, he made it out as tho divorce is something you can easily do and "be with someone for 2 weeks and see you're not compatible and leave ". Are you serious? Where is the khushu3? You can't do something like that. How on earth do you even know someone after 2 weeks. Marriage is a HUGE deal and as a couple we both have responsibilities!

@Altair-El-Haddad 5 ай бұрын

No wonder why where's so many cases of divorces in the somali community, it's glorified to the point where they do it as if it's like changing clothes. One of my best mates aunt is on her 5th marriage and she has never been widowed.

@MuhammadArif-by3rv 5 ай бұрын

Yes Mashallah brother Zeeshan spoke very well. Love his way of explaination. May Allah preserve him and may Allah bless all the brothers and sisters who came on this poadcast Ameen.

@sanamo86 5 ай бұрын

@35:00 MARRIAGE & RELATIONSHIP GEMS dropped. every person planning to be married needs to listen to this. Absolute gold advice

@lanatx7012 3 ай бұрын

Brother zeeshan was the one here! Alhamdulilah, man broke it down and built it back up. Sensible man 👍🏿 respect ✊🏿

@TheMuslimahMisha 5 ай бұрын

Thank you for bringing my girl back! Love Dr. Dopamine she really knows her stuff!

@jouharfarah2353 5 ай бұрын

That is completely true. Qur’an, it's a set of instructions that must be followed to succeed Either in Life or hereafter. And I'll never stop saying that we are blessed with the Quran.الحمد لله ✨️🕊

@instruogroup 5 ай бұрын

May Allah protect our families, the sense of patience and sacrifice has changed over time to be frank. Yes the responsibilities are on both men and women but sacrifice, patience and consistent understanding through life is definitely a requirement and what brings goodness too. May Allah bring ease to the people of Palestine, bring our families, communities and the ummah together as an ummah. Ameen

@Hell...FireIsReal 3 ай бұрын

@Seanus32 5 ай бұрын

1) Criticism 2) Defensiveness 3) Contempt/resentment 4) Stonewalling - Well said by Hijab. It is horrible to be on the receiving end of these. Crushing! It takes away your character, even. The sister is right to mention compatibility. We try the test but if a toxic relationship takes us away from our best behaviour and drains us, we cannot give that.

@artsybluecat 4 ай бұрын

Brother from the Jannah channel was throwing gold nuggets at us…loved it!!

@rubyred1072 5 ай бұрын

❤Who here supports Palestine ❤ 🇵🇸👇🏼🇵🇸

@basitshameem75 5 ай бұрын

Well needed episode. Masha Allah keep this good work up my dear brothers.

@AskAllahFirst 5 ай бұрын

Salaamu alaykum, these are very insightful conversations. I believe one tweak can be add a curtain in between the brothers and sisters to reduce fitnah and please Allah inshaAllah. May Allah accept us all. Ameen.

@shanahdil7981 5 ай бұрын

I got married early came to England.. My husband and i were practicing on and off.. I try not to back bite him.. But he has an addiction.. I thought thing will get better but never did.. After 18 years of marriage and one child.. We are divorced but alhamdullilah I'm closer to Allah swt and understand why Allah swt planned this.

@starr4781 5 ай бұрын

I once engaged with a man who prayed yet harbored malicious intentions, lied, cheated, and had narcissistic behavior, causing mental anguish. Nevertheless, Allah will be the ultimate judge of his actions. Mere prayers are not enough; one must strive to be a virtuous, compassionate, loyal, faithful, and charitable individual. I encourage everyone in this video to enhance self-awareness, engage in self-development, and contribute to making humanity more conscious and better. By doing so, you will bring joy to God and foster a positive impact on the world.

@gamingworld8680 5 ай бұрын

JazakhaAllahu khayran, really enjoyed this one.❤❤

@HassanBadru-re6fw 5 ай бұрын

Yeah good show kudos to everyone especially the man by the last angle , really benefiting talk from him, i mean just his talk only, made my day JAZAAKUMULLAHU KHAIRAN 😊😊

@tariqaslam1853 5 ай бұрын

TOTALLY AGREE, THE EXPECTATIONS PEOPLE HAVE ARE INSANE. THIS LEADS TO ALLOTHER PROBLEMS.

@heba9687 4 ай бұрын

May Allah bless you brother Zeeshan. You're a highly intellectual and knowledgeable person.

@beachbumb71688 5 ай бұрын

The brother with no marriage experience has more wisdom than anyone else on the panel. MashaAllah Allahumma barik

@boxingmmafan9985 5 ай бұрын

What did he say?

@ASABAHH 5 ай бұрын

Wen u ar nt yet married ur talks is dferent....!

@beachbumb71688 5 ай бұрын

@@boxingmmafan9985 goto 56:35

@beachbumb71688 5 ай бұрын

@@ASABAHH did you even listen to the entire podcast ?

@beachbumb71688 5 ай бұрын

@@ASABAHH what was talked about the whole podcast was infuriating-they all just said surface level stuff. No one addressed the obvious issues affecting marriages.

@shifayanasrine3809 4 ай бұрын

Brother Zeeshan and the sisters made strong points. Br. Hijab's perspective on divorce could potentially harm our Muslim community's approach to handling such matters. I advocate that only mature adults should enter marriage. As Muslims, it's our duty to ensure the well-being of our children resulting from these unions. With the increasing prevalence of divorces, it becomes challenging. Additionally, it's important to give space for the sisters to express themselves. I found Br. Hijab's constant interruptions and laughter towards a counselor sister's points condescending. While I typically respect Br. Hijab's opinions, this time, I find myself disagreeing with his views

@Helloimthisguy0 5 ай бұрын

“Whoever draws close to Me by the length of a hand, I will draw close to him by the length of an arm. Whoever draws close to Me the by length of an arm, I will draw close to him by the length of a fathom. Whoever comes to Me walking, I will come to him running” Sahih Muslim 2687

@PunishmentInGrave 3 ай бұрын

@SHK_T 5 ай бұрын

Brother Zeeshan, May Allah bless you and keep continue blessing you always with peace and happiness and all the success in your life of this dunya and hereafter. Beautiful statement.

@joesmith1036 4 ай бұрын

Alhamdulillah it’s key that from the get go you are honest and ask Allah to find you a pious spouse! And when you see them it brings joy to your life and when you have any disagreement you make up and try not to repeat. May Allah make it easy for all of us Ameen ❤

@Seanus32 5 ай бұрын

Wonderfully put by Zeeshan around the 37-min mark. I highly regrettably got a divorce earlier this year due to excessive toxicity in the relationship and it does break one's heart as I believe in the institution of marriage as Love should be at the core of humanity. As Firas Zahabi said to Subboor Ahmad, suicide is not an option but one does get very low and falls into states like avolition. Rebuilding is a Herculean effort. Loving vibes go out to those who are currently suffering through this. Allah (swt) doesn't allow you to face a burden more than you can bear. You might need painkillers but there is support out there for you.

@noormuzamil9850 4 ай бұрын

Are you women

@lancastervania 5 ай бұрын

This is a great and diverse panel. Mashallah glad to see the brothers and sisters be civil. I've been thinking a lot about marriage, the breaking of the family unit, and how it affects muslims and particularly the somali community in the west. Allah has been reading my mind lol

@alphauno6614 5 ай бұрын

Alhumdulilaah

@samia6888 5 ай бұрын

He gave you those thoughts what you mean lol He is in control of everything ❤

@spencermarkham1 5 ай бұрын

Narcissism and the unwillingness to sacrifice and tolerate imperfections!

@jasminasinanbegovic6225 4 ай бұрын

Imperfections should be polished, outgrowing them with time and patience and not tolerated for a lifetime. People suppose to grow within the marriage

@norrie007 5 ай бұрын

Subhanallah I noticed Zeeshan had his head down the whole time when he spoke. May Allah reward him. Btw, Oh Allah bring victory to this ummah.

@meelash1 5 ай бұрын

Why was he there in the first place?

@f2fscientist 5 ай бұрын

@@meelash1why shouldn't he be there leave him alone I like his content and he's funny

@saleem1 5 ай бұрын

@@f2fscientist There's no planet in which it's permissible for a Muslim man to be in a room with ghayr mahram females like this.

@mk-19memelauncher65 5 ай бұрын

He's a feminist simp

@mikefrisinger5866 5 ай бұрын

Hope I can have a conversation with you and hijab one day. I'm not a Muslim but I enjoy listening to you guys. Talk about the topic. Very interesting. Thanks for all the great content

@Tasshhhaa 5 ай бұрын

Mashallah brother

@alphauno6614 5 ай бұрын

Why aren’t you Muslim? Is it because you don’t know if God is real or you don’t know if Islam is the true religion of God? Or is it that you belong to another faith?

@iNikkah 5 ай бұрын

Why don’t you go to Speakers Corner I’m sure they’ll be there one day

@alphauno6614 5 ай бұрын

@@cati6706 Christian prince is so brave he doesn’t even show his face and never had a moderated debate with anyone ever. Great teacher indeed 😂

@scientia.ex.deus. 5 ай бұрын

@@alphauno6614I came into this reply thread because what @mikefrisinger5866 said resonated with me, I too for the most part enjoy and take interest in these topics, this one is a little too close to the bone for me, I have been touched by the darker, oppressive and violent facet of it's reality. And it left wounds that have yet to heal and will leave scars for the rest of my days. I listen to every side and do occasionally find comfort and light in the darkness. Every lesson learned lightens the load. Be kind to each other and my best wishes for you all ❤

@lightinlux 5 ай бұрын

Zeeshan said it all, good job!

@HaroonandAminavlogs 5 ай бұрын

Alhamdullilah I can’t agree more about sins having a consequence. May Allah SWT guide and protect us all. I’d also add the importance of prayer on your home and your belongings, having Quran play in the background whatever you’re doing, maintaining cleanliness and hygiene in your home and for yourselves too so that your home is blessed inshallah. ❤

@HaroonandAminavlogs 5 ай бұрын

The other thing I’d say is alhamdullilah I’ve been married for 9 years. First 3 years we were against each other and marriage was so hard. The last 6 years we are a united team, even when we have our disagreements, it’s always so clear that we genuinely want what’s best for each other. Alhamdullilah getting closer to Allah SWT has definitely helped also. I’d also add NEVER tell your marital problems to other people, Shaitaan gets in the way and it becomes very difficult. Keep it between yourselves and protect each other from the harm of others.

@AHMEDKONE20 4 ай бұрын

Mash'Allah, please whenever you come to Makkah-City let your husband communicate with me I shall help you in sake of ALLAH.. Be safe...

@sultanahamed2484 4 ай бұрын

Sins have consequences simply example of Hitler Saddam to mention a few adultery intoxication bring somuch sufferings and divine punishment when sins have no punishment than why doctors medicine police jail

@hodanahmed5332 5 ай бұрын

Patience commitment understanding that it is till the end without giving up; unless significant life threatening problems( for this world or hereafter) do you separate. Remember to show each other mercy as you’d like your creator to.

@personanongrata7976 2 ай бұрын

what a great name for a podcast: The Bitter Truth Show!

@mohammedmujammilshaikh4546 5 ай бұрын

No, Ali, all problems in life are not necessarily a result of karma or consciousness of sin. Some of them may be but it can also be tests from Allah Subhan Watala. Remember, if you are indeed facing a trial from Allah, it means you are still close to Him, as He is clearing your sins in this world instead of the Hereafter, where not a single soul wants to go.

@zainarif1654 4 ай бұрын

He literally explained this idk why ppl just don’t listen before they try be smart in comments with their rebuttles

@hanzelah 5 ай бұрын

1. Moderator should not participate in discussion. He should be unbiased and should promote communication rather than stating his opinion 2. The males and females should get an equal time to talk 3. Bring better guests and not those who have been unsuccessful in their own marriages 4. It's very inexpensive to get a stand and have a curtain between the men and the women. There is always a sense of discomfort from both males and females in the current setup.

@Ar9Sin4San 5 ай бұрын

There’s nothing wrong with the current setup . For people who are contemplating suicide or in extreme depression , this bitter truth show is amazing to show there’s still life left in the dunya. Stop hating on a successful show.

@ocerco93 Ай бұрын

He is not a moderator tho. It's his show.

@thegreatfut7364 5 ай бұрын

Maasha allah good topic brother's and sisters ❤❤❤

@abzal-falaz6813 3 ай бұрын

Ali was so spot on in his intro, if you’re Deen is not in tact, you will struggle in every other phase of life. I’ve made the conscious effort to fix my relationship with Allah and things have been much better and on the incline. May Allah bless my wife and my union.

@somao3813 5 ай бұрын

You cannot get married just to save yourself from eg zina when you are not ready for marriage.. you need to think about the other person! You can’t use another person & then when it doesn’t work out you just leave them & say it was just to ‘test the waters’…

@BruvahSulaiman 5 ай бұрын

A major issue today is that ppl are obsessed with what they have the right to do more than they care to think about what is best for them to do.

@piqueny8872 5 ай бұрын

Yep so many brothers were dragged to there home land by the parents believing that marrying a childbride will fix there sex addiction yet abuse p0rn and cheating still happened Marriage doesn’t save you from your own personal demons or addiction

@user-ji3qm5gf7j 5 ай бұрын

What if you have strong sexual desire

@somao3813 5 ай бұрын

@@user-ji3qm5gf7j Lower your gaze, surround yourself with good people, don’t stay alone, fast, pray more…… if you can actually look after a family & are ready to share your life with someone then get married. You not being able to control your sexual desires doesn’t mean you should drag someone else into your problem!

@dame6584 5 ай бұрын

@@user-ji3qm5gf7jkeep it in your pants

@FatimaBarkatulla 5 ай бұрын

Asma’ bint Umais (RA) was not divorced multiple times. She was twice widowed. Widow of Ja’far bin Abi Talib who was Shaheed and then widow of Abu Bakr. Then married ‘Ali bin Abi Talib.

@shabzdotahmed-gi9pl 4 ай бұрын

Zaynab RA was divorced and then married the prophet saw.

@shabzdotahmed-gi9pl 4 ай бұрын

Khadija Ra was divorced and married the prophet saw.

@hussenabubeker1500 5 ай бұрын

May Allah bless you all and shower you with His endless mercy ❤

@MrNebiel1 3 ай бұрын

First of all I have the highest respect for all the sisters and brothers in this conversation. May God bless you and keep you from harms way. But I could not bare watching this. Not because of the content but because of the view point. I do not know how to explain it. But maybe the following will make sense. When you have a beautiful valuable gold nugget in your possession. And your mature enough to realise the blessing. You can not relate with people ( the men in this case ) that are under the impression they have gold bars in there possession. But actually are nothing more then gold-diggers that did not strike gold yet. Apart from our deen. Love is the next most important thing in a marriage. Next to the faith love will soften your heart and make it huge. So big you will have patience, respect, support, understanding and more.

@user-kh7kf4ev4x 5 ай бұрын

Muhammad Hijab is so toxic. Perfect depiction of toxic masculinity. Don’t marry a woman who’s not wearing a hijab and then force her to wear one. Find a woman who wears a hijab if that’s your make it or break it requirement. I’m in shock at how he spoke and how he kept cutting off the women & the main narrator when they were speaking.

@rd_views2438 5 ай бұрын

Zeeshan really made points sincerely with full respect...no unneccessary laughs

@wasimmomin1128 5 ай бұрын

Masha Allah sister dopamine brought such a good topic of Counseling as a remedy but it seemed none of them paid serious attention to that topic.

@Iamamuslim3590 5 ай бұрын

Main problem is the lack of patience and trust 👈

@brummiali1998 5 ай бұрын

I have left a comment As much as it hurts some sisters for me 2 say it yes I Am sister But you gotta give home truths

@Moonlight-777 5 ай бұрын

I wish happpines in both lives to this single mom sister in studio. May Allah SWT give you righteous, practising husband and make your child an amazing mumin muslim, Ameen🤲🏻🤲🏻🤲🏻

@Tressa-Rei-Tressa 5 ай бұрын

There are compromises and then there are non-negotiables. Compromise is essential in any adult relationship especially when you share a living space, be it between siblings, house mates or spouses. There will be times when one needs to pull more weight, let things slide, understand the external factors that are putting strain on a person's time and moor. We have to recognise if one lacks in one area, they most likely will make up for it in another. That is a healthy compromise. Non-negotiable are habits or traits you see within another that you cannot tolerate or compromise on. It breeds resentment and embitterment. If you marry seeing the red flags (non-negotiables) . These traits/unwillingness to change will ultimately destroy a marriage.

@abdurrahmanishaq6676 2 ай бұрын

This is a wonderful segment which is much much needed in the volatile times we are leaving in ,however one polite suggestion that I hope Ali Dawah takes to consideration. Kindly involve Imams or an Imam in these sessions who deal with these cases on a daily basis and have the experience to navigate through these challenges just as we included a Sister who is a therapist and counsellor.

@aminaj8213 5 ай бұрын

Allahuma bariik brothers & sister jazakaAllah 💯

@UmmahisPeace 5 ай бұрын

Speaking of marriage, brother Ali, when is episode 2 of the marriage documentary coming out?😁May Allah bless all your efforts.

@priusa8113 5 ай бұрын

Can u link the episode one? Or how to find it please

@UmmahisPeace 5 ай бұрын

@@priusa8113 kzbin.info/www/bejne/kJLEmK2qZpWBhLcsi=XEm7lNUUF4UTk7Ra

@iNikkah 5 ай бұрын

Brother Zeeshan said everything I would say, the onslaught against family is toxic to our Muslim families so we can’t be lax with marriage, whilst I agree with Mohammed about making Nikkah easy, we can’t take that onto our marriages especially where children are involved- people chasing happiness when at this point you need to put it aside and think of the bigger picture

@akazicool87 5 ай бұрын

Well said brother zeeshan

@sidramir3211 5 ай бұрын

this was a good discussion but maybe get a third party moderator because it seemed like brother Ali was giving the men (especially brother Hijab) way more time than the sisters & it woudl've been nice to hear more from the sisters, especially since they aren't regulars on the channel. Thank you for this content though & keep up the good work

@BruvahSulaiman 5 ай бұрын

Zeeshan saved the episode after a horrible start.

@Moonlight-777 5 ай бұрын

"You cannot change person" brilliant💙

@briannawilliams4138 3 ай бұрын

Im not Muslim myself but really enjoy these discussions and learning more about the interpersonal relationship dynamics between Muslim men and women. It’s way more tolerable then red pill panels.

@-glitch-8195 5 ай бұрын

Ali made a very good point about outsiders giving inapplicable advice. However, he tried to push the “only women try to change men” narrative and disproved his own claim afterwards. So the sister should take it, but the brother has a “right” to demand change? So the sister picked him, but he didn’t pick her? I also didn't understand his point about second marriages being more successful when they divorce rate is actually higher for it. If he’s speaking about learning from mistakes, I can understand that. But marriage wise, that’s untrue. People repeat certain behaviors if anything. They completely missed the mark when it comes to change. Marriage is personal development. I don’t know why in one way the argument for being "realistic" is pushed, mainly from brothers. But afterwards, it’s the person who is trying to make it works fault, the sister, if the other person is taking advantage of it. There’s 0 shame on the person who chooses to remain idle. No wonder divorce rates are high. People take compromise as enabling when you're merely showing patience. Which is what they asked for. PICK A SIDE. Respectfully. I always tell sisters to pay attention to the consistency of a brother's logic. Otherwise, you'll be gaslight to the end of the earth. Which is why sisters have stopped listening.

@SoldierofGod121 5 ай бұрын

Why do you speak about marriage when you desire girls?

@Fortifier1021 Ай бұрын

But you're a le'sbi'a'n. Why do you worry about guys?

@spes1488 5 ай бұрын

Please somebody make dua for me my wife and I have just split up and will have to start the divorce process but it deeply bothers me - I can’t see my daughter and I will never have the blessing of raising her but Alhamdullilah I still have Allah and my deen, I’m just upset bcos it’s been 2 weeks I haven’t seen or touched my daughters face and I miss her so deeply I will never have the pleasure of raising her may Allah make it easier for me please someone make dua I find a righteous pious spouse and become able to start a new family and be able to somehow maintain contact with my daughter jzk

@Hannah-go3xo 5 ай бұрын

Never stop fighting to see her. Keep a diary oof your thoughts so one day you can share it with her. Unfortunately there is a possibility your wife may onlu speak negatibe about you to your daughter but that evidence of your thoughts collected would show your daughter how much you care..keep asking Allah. Ask at tahajjud especially. I.dont know your situation regarding your marriage but i feel you as a parent and cant imagine the heartbreak for your baby

@numidianking9759 5 ай бұрын

your wife is a demon doomed to hell God has seperated you from this evil soul

@iNikkah 5 ай бұрын

Please don’t start divorce proceedings until you have sought help from a professional, your child missing out on a solid family structure is worth every once of effort you and your wife can give

@spes1488 5 ай бұрын

@@Hannah-go3xojzk thank you so much it helps a lot to hear this wallahi adheem may Allah reward you immensely

@spes1488 5 ай бұрын

@@iNikkahunfortunately she’s cut off contact from me completely I’m not even able to divorce her as I can’t get a hold of her at all

@hinagulkhan2023Hina-zn9yq 4 ай бұрын

Assalam o alaikum wr wb! AliDawah bro I'm watching your video 1st time is time too very toxic painfully every person servicing this situation relationship i pray for every person brother n sister stay blessed him ameen Boht dukh takleef pain hai subki life me Allah Kareem hamein afiyat sukoon atta farmae ameen

@yemgo3133 5 ай бұрын

Good episode, keep going on

@Meemo44 3 ай бұрын

Disrespectful behaviour is definitely a point of no return. My ex husband’s emotional affair was absolutely disgusting. The other woman was on her 4th husband and helped mine destroy our family…Subhan’Allah I also spent over 20 years being put down about my appearance too.

@Hell...FireIsReal 3 ай бұрын

@AllUKLuv 2 ай бұрын

Blackpill for women also thats why

@amatul7ayy 5 ай бұрын

I dont understand Hijabs approach, doesn't he know the hadith of the shaytan getting crowned for breaking up a marriage! Also divorce is not just something you're "allowed to do", it is the most hated thing to Allah and it can take different ahkam depending on the situation. And the hadith he mentioned about Asma bint Umais that had been married to several sahaba: is it really the case that she got divorced and remarried just like that?? In fact she wasnt constantly getting divorced, rather her husbands died, so she remarried Subhanallah. Also she probably wasnt the only wife of these sahaba, so they might took her as a second or third. Thats really disappointing how he just tailored these points to fit his view. Disturbing.

@purplelove3666 4 ай бұрын

So are you allowed or not allowed to divorce?

@MH-bf4uu 26 күн бұрын

It's disliked , so you need to be careful and not treat it so carelessly like mohammad hijab did@@purplelove3666

@deeppeacenature265 5 ай бұрын

This is definitely appropriate and islamic. No free mixing and communicating between sexes whatsoever. Keep it up!

@mattmasody2385 3 ай бұрын

great program !

@Mahad921 5 ай бұрын

Zeeshaan is the only married man that doesn't sound childish

@mk-19memelauncher65 5 ай бұрын

Stop worshipping women

@fungshui4850 4 ай бұрын

Watching these men, apart from the unmarried kid, I fear so desperately for the ummah 😭 Belittling, interrupting, arrogance smh

@Oooooooo797 2 ай бұрын

The men are all following Islam the women are wearing makeup and not following Islam because they are knowledgeable men women are not hence why u are easily influenced and focus on kaafir marriages and want it like them if u are not pious Muslim women that’s the only reason u fear marriage

@c.w6593 Ай бұрын

Seriously.

@Oooooooo797 Ай бұрын

Speaking from Islam women speak from emotions and don’t cover haya less women

@fungshui4850 Ай бұрын

@@Oooooooo797Speaking for grammar that was a crime against linguistics

@zahraabdullahi1601 3 ай бұрын

I am a Relationship Coach, and I cosign 100% of what Brother Zeeshan has said. He is literally describing what I teach in my programs with surprising accuracy, Tabarakallah.

@KAMALDEENAUSMAN 2 ай бұрын

Mashallah learning never ends. Akhi and ukhti please work on yourselves so we make walking easier for us(marriage). ASalamu alaykum! ❤

@dreamwarden1000 5 ай бұрын

I got married to a narcissist who while she was pregnant said that she knows family members and friends (her sister divorced twice with two small kids from two different fathers) who got divorced and got apartment from social service. I’m from Sweden and she went to England to give birth without me allowing it and then came back to Sweden,trashed my apartment and took the baby to London and blocked me. She was married before me to a guy in London(they were married for a couple months) and said that he was abusive,same thing she says about me now. I haven’t seen my daughter for over a year but Swedish police and English police has been notified so inshallah it will settle soon. Some money actually plan to get married just to get a kid and they would wish the kid never sees the father again.

@lightkira4119 5 ай бұрын

Same story here in Canada, man married a woman from the United States that was nice and sweet. They had 2 daughters and everything was going well. He asked her to move in with him in Canada and she eventually came over and stayed for several months. She said she didn't like Canada and wanted to go back home. He asked her if she could sponsor a green card for him to come work and stay in the United States but she declined. He hasn't seen his daughters for several years and she cut all contact with him. She got her section 8 housing and government benefits. What a world we live in.

@emma647 5 ай бұрын

You dont get apartments from social services though ....

@lightkira4119 5 ай бұрын

@@emma647 lol what are you even saying? Are you planning something for yourself? Women with children get money for apartments and money for food, clothing, and school supplies. Do you want someone to explain you how welfare works? They get a set amount of money for living expenses and each kid gets some living allowance. The more kids you have the better, this is for single mothers who don't even bother to mention the kids father's name. No child support or alimony. If you are planning this make sure to have as many kids as possible. This is for Canada, I don't know how the American welfare system works. Canada is awesome to be a single mother.

@dreamwarden1000 5 ай бұрын

@@emma647 your definatly a red flag lol

@hudakristall3139 4 ай бұрын

That is so sad,i heared a lot of storys like that,especially from the countrys sweden/norway/denmark etc....that is a bad thing from those womans,what a suffer for the kids,of course for the farther too.may Allah swt protect our ummah from unloyal and betraying persons.

@beachbumb71688 5 ай бұрын

Im 25 minutes in and still haven’t heard anything explaining why marriages aren’t working.

@khaderlander2429 5 ай бұрын

People are mostly not patient with each other. Out the door when it gets tough because they thought it was going to be utopia, which doesn't exist. Utopia means no place. Life is a business that doesn't cover the costs.

@beachbumb71688 5 ай бұрын

@@khaderlander2429 i simplified it to 3 issues: 1) how much do they prioritize their faith? 2) values/expectations (which are generally affected by how they were raised)? 3) how well have they preserved their hearts for marriage (most people are involved in several zina relationships before marriage)?

@sp-leaks7935 5 ай бұрын

Main cause of divorce is so called 'sisters' who are social media fully indoctrinated to feminism to follow the disbelievers who are in reality ideological feminists which is disbelief, completely opposes islam & they are from a homes of utterly failed parenting where there is no real respected masculine authority. & these 'sisters' come to marriage meetings being fully indoctrinated to feminism in school, college & university pretending to be religious, feminine, submissive, traditional, obedient & act as of they have been raised and nurtured in a truly islamic upbringing when they really haven't & Brothers get deceived by ideological feminists hiding behind hijaab feigning that they're truly about following islam, don't be fooled. ' So many sisters' do not put Islam first & were utterly failed by incompetent parents who married for the wrong reasons in the first place, they are quick to betray Allaah & His Messenger to imitate the disbelievers, let's not be fooled by these 'sisters' anymore. If there's no masculine father who has raised all his family to put Allaah first & he has full charge over his family, not the disbelievers is the only option for Brothers, if that key standard isn't there, DO NOT MARRY THEM EVER...💯

@ajalloh20 5 ай бұрын

Ali dawah has already forgotten about Palestine??

@AJ-aabbcc 5 ай бұрын

@@ajalloh20Top left hand corner has a free palestine flag. You blind?

@sajid279 5 ай бұрын

Salah is a fardh/responsibility so its a training to do important things irrespective of mood etc... Obeying god is a training to reduce the sense of self-vanity and care about the order over happiness by any method .

@user-mx4ui5wd7s 5 ай бұрын

U are 100% correct my brother, and yes Iam white with blue eyes…. I stand 100% with the Palistine people

@ummawlaad 5 ай бұрын

The Pakistani brother has spoken! Seems like the only wise person there on this subject. Every sister needs to marry a man with the same views as his.

@imrazaaa 5 ай бұрын

Whatever is being disscueed here is about symptoms which we are seeing of neglected childhood and inability of parents to raise childern. You can have as many disscussions and podcasts but it won't help unless we solve the root cause which is the issue of not being able to do proper parenting.

@gracevie6343 5 ай бұрын

Best answer

@opinionnotfactok 5 ай бұрын

Smile said it all . Listen to that dude

@neo_artropolis7176 5 ай бұрын

zeeshan is the best to listen to. He truly gave the best of the advices

@africanqueenami4568 5 ай бұрын

This why you figure out your values and goals before marriage

@aaaalbatat7312 5 ай бұрын

Interference from outsiders. BOTH woman and man should place boundaries with their families. My sister faced this and it makes you wonder why people are so hateful and eager to break down a marriage. Allah is great and inshallah she’ll have another chance with a family who fear god 🤲🏼

@Mina-mj8xn 3 ай бұрын

Zeeshan. Perfectly put!

@trignal 5 ай бұрын

Bro Zeeshan had the best take on this. The younger generation has forgotten the commitment side of marriage esp. in the west.

@beachbumb71688 5 ай бұрын

Not really, the whole podcast was a shame to the topic. They all offered surface leveled observations-no one really touched over why marriages tend to go towards divorce.

@beachbumb71688 5 ай бұрын

Majority of the Muslim community in the West doesn’t want their kids getting married until they finished college/med school/graduate school/etc . Majority of the parents of the sisters want their daughters marrying within their race and want only doctors or engineers for their daughters. So by the time the topic of marriage is even being taken seriously its moreso in the mid to late 20s. By then the youth have already corrupted their hearts with the love of the dunya, zina relationship and having had mommy and daddies money to help them finish their higher educations they start to feel entitled that I’m so great because I’m a doctor that they then mistreat their spouses (vs people who had to work 3 jobs to pay for their med school end up becoming humbled by the hard work it took to get to that position). When i was single i would laugh every time i heard a sister complain she couldn’t find anyone good-because 95% of them are looking for body building hafiz/alim doctors all in one that are willing to give them a million dollar life style. Whereas i too struggled to find a wife, but i was only looking for someone who was sincere. So the bigger issue is our community doesn’t value their faith and really as a community we are spiritually broken. I made up a quote that the sign of a broken person is that they prioritize materialism (now when you look at our community with that litmus test you’ll see InshaAllah the bigger issues). Another quote i made up is capitalism is a beautiful system for broken people. And that really is our problem as a community we’ve allowed our insecurities within society dictate our morality/priority. So if we really wanted to have a genuine conversation on marriage-they should tell their audience to stop the haram relationships before marriage and to really follow Islam.

@mk-19memelauncher65 5 ай бұрын

No, he was just saying to follow the modern feminist model

@noreenbi9079 5 ай бұрын

@@beachbumb71688 U are so right. Girls have high expectations. Girls need 2 look is there dad a successful person.

@amnamuqudas1980 5 ай бұрын

The women made really good points especially the marriage counsellor in the peach hijab. I wish she was given the time to finish her thoughts and not be constantly interrupted by hijab, zeeshan, and Ali. The men were given full time to finish their thoughts but the women weren’t. I hope this constructive criticism can be applied to future discussions.

@mosheriff 5 ай бұрын

Hello ALI, I'm sorry i can't donate through your org., cause we recently started a volunteer program here in egypt, so we can help people here. all for the cause of allah, but inshallah, i will try to donate through you one day. god bless.

@maxamedabdi890 4 ай бұрын

Assalaamu alaikum these are very insightful conversation

@xima7140 5 ай бұрын

Ma shaaAllah Hijab and Zeeshaan are so open minded and rational. May Allah protect them

@zarasophia3714 5 ай бұрын

Hijab is open minded? I hope he doesn’t get married and make a woman’s life miserable.

@huzaifa01 5 ай бұрын

@@zarasophia3714hes already married, why do you think he’ll make someones life miserable

@muhammadislam4640 5 ай бұрын

@@zarasophia3714 he's been married for over 10 years. Clearly he knows what he's talking about

@xima7140 4 ай бұрын

@@zarasophia3714 is this shmolies daughter talking from her s** shop🤔

@salmahussain113 5 ай бұрын

People don’t know what responsibility is anymore

@Moonlight-777 5 ай бұрын

May Allah SWT save all marriages, Ameen🤲🏻

@IHateDevilfollowers 5 ай бұрын

Brother Zeshan said it very well

@Ndotzx 5 ай бұрын

I know certain brothers and sisters may be weak but as ali said in the beginning, straight ask them if they’re following Quran and sunnah, conversation over. You cannot skip step 1 to 10 and expect to do well in step 11. Get an understanding of the meaning of life in Islam and how to live it before you decide you’re ready to bring someone in it. I mean some of these examples are embarrassing, Bollywood? Socials? Like it’s actually pathetic to be frank. People need to become more serious. To the men- become more serious straighten up get your priorities in check and remember Allah is watching. Women- same as above!

@BruvahSulaiman 5 ай бұрын

In my opinion, the number 1 issue above all else is the intention or failure to make any conscious intention before getting married. Ppl get married without knowing what they want from their spouse and without letting their spouse know what they want. They get married in pursuit of things their spouse fails to deliver and they find themselves unable to be content with the situation.