WHAT WOMAN WANT IN A HUSBAND? - EP 19 || BITTER TRUTH SHOW

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[@AliDawah]

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[@thetruthwithproof8802]

Whoever believes a SOOTHSAYER knows about the future has made partners with one of Allah's attributes and this is SHIRK, because Allah says ➜ None in the heavens and the earth knows the Ghaib ( Unseen ) except Allah ( Quran 27 : 65 ) The following hadith proves believing in Allah is NOT enough ➜ Whoever goes to a SOOTHSAYER and believes in what he says has disbelieved in that which was revealed to Muhammad P.B.U.H ( Abu Dawood )

[@thetruthwithproof8802]

Jazak Allah brother

[@opinionatedteen9839]

2:32 3:31 4:42 bro was the rymth intentional ?

[@aosmilegame6467]

Ali please change the thumbnail of the video

[@taasmr4203]

*Sara from Syria commits Zinah with a non-Muslim White guy who has tattoos on his body, so the question is that is Sara, her parents, her siblings, and her brother ready to burn in Jahannum in Qayamat? Why doesn't Sara have a Muslim fiancé? Why do all liberal Arab and non-Arab Muslim girls keep non-Muslim White and non-Muslim or Muslim Black boyfriends and husbands instead of having Muslim fiancé from Arab, Persian, Turkish, Balkan, Russian Federation, Central Asian, Pakistani, Afghan, Indian, Bangladeshi, and the Far East Asian cultures? The West along with India, South Korea, Philippines, Japan, and Israel destroyed many Muslim countries, they killed millions of Muslims, they invaded and colonized many Muslim countries, they stole natural resources of many Muslim countries, they assassinated many Muslim leaders, and they placed economic, financial, and pharmaceutical sanctions on Muslim countries, but still shameless Muslims move to those non-Muslim countries where they work on low wages, face racism and brutality, and where Muslim girls and Arab Christian girls provide sexual pleasures to non-Muslim men by becoming their girlfriends and wives. So, why I, as a neglected Muslim guy, should support Muslim World for free?* instagram.com/sarahesri?igshid=YTQwZjQ0NmI0OA== kzbin.infoYu_WsYDeLA8?si=DcRPYWPazje3A96X

[@zeidhashim8216]

You need to have a group of couples who are aged 40+ with 10 years minimum marriage experience each, then you might learn something about what it takes to be married

[@fatimahabdul4329]

so true, this are kids who dont know much about marriage, even if they are married, would be nice to invite a different generation all together

[@asyadelmont]

100% agree. We can talk about ideals all day long but staying married long term takes a Completely different set of skills.

[@BigFadZ]

I agree. A seasoned married couple could answer this question alot better than someone speaking from feelings of what marriage should be. @Ali Dawah we part 2 with seasoned couple. Just to compare expectations vs reality. While keeping the core of islam in both. 😁💕

[@dawulqamar7846]

The debate is what women want in a man. This doesn't need experienced people. You just need to know what you desired in a man? And as Muslims deen, khuluq, and kindness are the top 3. Then I believe as a couple 4th will be love(romance), and deeper care then just giving money or being a provider and protector. And they did an amazing job in delivering that points, may allah bless them And Allah knows what's best.

[@zeidhashim8216]

@dawulqamar7846 you need experienced people to give you the reality of marriage, it's all well and good saying want this and that but what is the reality.

[@jayr3938]

For a conversation such as this, you need brothers and sisters who have been married 10 year plus and mature.

[@0artan0]

Very true, that will benefit more

[@kimkoya3882]

yes. But I believe that 10 years is excessive. If they had women that were married for 3 years, even thats enough

[@al-aminhussain8052]

I agree however it is nice to have people on who understand the younger generation and have witnessed their needs wants etc 💯💯💯

[@MaskedFighter]

"Keep expectations low make Dua for the best." I think that's a great theme for this video it hits home.

[@zai5562]

That is a very silly thing to say. Expectations are subjective (what’s considered high/low is dependent on the parties). Having expectations is essential in every single relationship! How do you just blindly go into a marriage with no expectations? That’s such a dangerous mindset.

[@MaskedFighter]

@@zai5562 When you keep expectations high there are going to be more dissapointments in your life because you're expecting something to happen and your expectations become excessive you're more likely to push away your partner because you expect soo much from them, you'll never be patient or content with what your partner does they will feel unappreciated and eventually give up trying.. High expectations are only going to bring more misery..Atleast with Dua it means you're putting your faith in Allah swt and you're putting your trust in Allah swt's plan..Dua is more useful than silly expectations. Instead of expecting something..Why not communicate..? Be supportive..? Try and get to underated your partner a little better..? a little communication works wonders in a relationship. What's the point of expectations if you haven't even bothered to get to know and understand what your partner wants.

[@zai5562]

@@MaskedFighter I didn’t say to keep them high, I said to HAVE them. Having expectations is why Allah imposed duties and responsibilities. If I’m looking at a prospect for marriage, I’d expect him to have the standard characteristics and responsibilities before I marry him. And if he fell short of that, I’d be disappointed. This is just common sense.

[@hiraaftab337]

​@MaskedFighter If you keep your expectations low or lower then for someone you are far more likely to be disappointed.

[@MaskedFighter]

@@hiraaftab337 Strongly disagree but entilted to your opinion. When you're expecting too much there's going to be much more disapointments on the way..Trust me. When you put your trust in Allah and make Dua you wouldn't be anxious and expecting things to happen, you have sabr and trust in your heart. Don't choose expectations over Duas, Dua is powerful, people underestimate the power of Dua, they overlook it then expect things to happen..

[@asyadelmont]

I think seeing your Husband praying Salah, reading Quran and making Dua makes a woman feel so safe and secure knowing that their man is answerable to his Creator ❤

[@evierich3085]

This is bare minimum required by a muslim anyway. This shouldn't have to be a specific requirement made this is to be expected, in my opinion. Don't settle less than the requirements.

[@McCarthy880]

@@evierich3085 a "bare minimum" that only a small percentage of muslim men achieve in nowadays. Brother, how many young muslim men pray Fajr? sorry but I don't agree with your settling for less statement, only Allah knows what an individual deserve and I believe such beliefs would only make us arrogant

[@evierich3085]

@@McCarthy880 Firstly I am a sister, I am saying that the bare minimum required as a muslim is to make salat. Are you not agreeing that one of your duties to Allah is Salat? No one is saying you must complete all 5 or you're not marriage material although some people might even make it a requirement for marriage that you do pray all 5. I'm guessing you are getting defensive because you personally don't do all 5 well? Neither do I. This goes for everyone I feel like wanting your partner to do salat shouldn't even be a requirement, it's expected

[@alphauno6614]

@@evierich3085 Woah you personally went after the guy. Sis calm down and learn to discuss on the merits of the conversation. A greater portion of people want to get married than those who pray 5x a day. What should you do?

[@valhalla1792]

​@@evierich3085I personally would marry a woman who is completely religious and pray 5 times a day ............. May Allah help you pray all compulsory prayers

[@user-ih1nf9wq8x]

Men lowering their gaze is just beautiful❤

[@binoy-br5yk]

And Vice versa

[@al-aminhussain8052]

That ruling is soo beautiful but esp as a man it's easier said than done 💯💯💯

[@dirilisert8223]

May Allah guide the sister in the middle. It's always more refreshing when Quran is brought into discussions. Sometimes the talks drag on with peoples feelings and whims (which do have their place too), but the Quran is the criterion and should be regularly sought after. I hope the sister comes again and more like her and from brothers side.

[@insyirahandhy4977]

I think the better question to ask is what women SHOULD want in a husband? Because it really is that simple: good manners/akhlaq and deen (ofcourse you also have to be attracted to the guy lol). What you want for others is what you should want for yourself so make it your mission to work on yourself and your relationship with Allah, and He will take care of your relationships

[@soubermed2175]

The only thing that would give them some semblance of happiness is marrying them with an Arab prince on his with camel

[@evierich3085]

The bare minimum is stated what a man and woman should do in a marriage anyway. The extras are something to be discussed before you should marry someone to be realistic if you can offer it to each other or something you could work on. Both sides should be able to discuss what you both want. :)

[@hhyling8483]

women converted, but..... kzbin.info/www/bejne/nIupZKttjMmBnaM

[@mohaimen5964]

​@@fff-oe2jsyou forgot 6 figures income and 6 six packs.

[@talimanwiz]

Really it comes down to, imaan. Nowadays people forgot what compromise is and where to look for reward. Your aim is to please Allah. So what if my wife cant cook lasagna or my husband cant buy me ear rings? U make big fuss about dunya. not every man is romantic nor is every woman Gordon Ramsay. Expectations these days boils down to for men : beautiful wife who i can flex, for woman: 6 foot tall man who can give me a ride in a yatch and I can flex to my friends. If both parties were looking for religiosity over these, they would be on the right track In Sha Allah.

[@Sam.760]

Mashallah brother Anas hit the nail on the head. The "core issue" to lack of communication & just abt everything else is lack of "emotional intelligence". Work on your "tazkiyat al nafs" daily, eg-past/present traumas, when you feel you have reached a good place only then you are ready to settle down and commit to a relationship. To anyone reading this it's all about the "nafs". Jzk.

[@Moonlight-777]

"No high expactations, no dissappointments"

[@ismailahmed2501]

Appreciate Ali for representing issues accurately without shying away and to the point,and appreciate sister Amirahs honesty.

[@sareedoahmed1751]

Hollywood and social media is setting up for unrealistic expectations. Perfect husband or wife doesn't exist. You trust ones foundations and core. The rest of the things you can communicate about or actually let go. Best advice I've ever got when I was dating my husband. One of my friends said to me who was older and not married. That arguing or putting your foot down on every subject isn't gonna work. Choosing your main points that matter to you.

[@sp-leaks7935]

Immature, incompetent people who have absolutely no blueprint for marriage at all, but think they should be listened to about anything to do with marriage or anything else, multi generational failed parenting for all of them & it's getting worse every year. Nobody AT ALL has wife, husband, father or mother skills whatsoever because their parents utterly failed them and could not teach them anything to pass on to anyone as they were also failed from the start. Islam is not the culture of anyone here, their minds are completely westernised, sold out to western ideology & they just regurgitate feminist tropes & false expectations of marriage that have nothing to do with islam whatsoever, they have been completely nurtured by western ideology but somehow think their clothing, islamic phrasing terminologies somehow makes them islamic in anyway shape or form. The arrogance masculine, passive aggressive attitudes of certain sisters, who's egos are through the roof is proof enough how utterly incompetent Muslims are for marriage, they have absolutely no clue, the assumption that they represent islam is a joke, they are internally westernised but think a few phrases & clothing now makes them holistic islamic when they are not. Sisters have been raised on delusional western ideology & kufr ideology, Netflix, ungodly immorality sex in the city, desperate housewives & completely unislamic upbringing but now want to falsely portray they now represent islam, when their whole upbringing is completely secularised, westernised & they are walking contradictions, false expectations, princess programming and have no clue what Islam is at all. Trying to sell western ideology as islamic is a sickening joke, this show will not help anyone as to what marriage is really about due to how far the guests are from really understanding islam. This is a complete embarrassment, mature, well raised & nurtured Muslim men & women who have been raised in an islamic culture, society, have been fully raised & nurtured on a successful passing on of key blueprints should be on the show, no these people. We should not be listening to a bunch of westernised, immature children who speak as if they know what the hell they are talking about in the first place, this is a travesty & how utterly deranged Muslims are...💯

[@noreenbi9079]

Ur 4 getting about the parents who are not raising there children properly

[@roosworld4910]

You can have a check list of things you want in a partner, but sometimes you just meet someone who ticks a whole other list that you never made. You discover the qualities you appreciate with your interaction with them.

[@aldisasinanovic5908]

I love this topic. Thank you brothers and sisters!😊

[@Moonlight-777]

Conclusion: imho: "There is no perfect wife and perfect husband. Mutual respect and understanding" 🤔

[@dee_1989]

I don't actually like spontaneity, I need to know plans ahead of time so I can mentally prepare myself for it.

[@hero4963]

Sister Amirah is really a great person mashallah I am learning so much from her I feel like she understands both men and women as a young Muslim boy living in the west may Allah bless her and all of you

[@darc6278]

As a muslima, who now sees the effects of mass consumerism subhanAllah (companies that fund the zionist state, BlackRock usury to many giant companies, etc) I am compelled to say that we as muslimas shouldn't feel oppressed or disrespected if our man is not able to buy all the shiny duniya stuff, we should instead feel proud of him for working, providing and choosing us to be with him, for choosing us to stand by him for the rest of our lives inshallah. SubhanAllah, the situation in Gaza couldn't be a better example, no man can afford a gucci this mercedes that over there, and yet we respect and admire the EFFORTS that the journalists make for justice. It is the EFFORT that we as muslimas admire, and masculin effort is taking care of the feminity of their wives, preserving their softness and love. That can be helping if you see she gets too tired, it can be a forehead kiss, it can be buying take out, it can be giving a massage, it can be words of appreciation, and most importantly to support her in her deen. A muslimas feminin state is when she is able to comfortably listen to her husband's commands and rules knowing that it is for her own good and not just for his CONVENIENCE. And as muslimas, we need to hype our husband up in all that her does, and give words of appreciation, which shows respect. May Allah guide us all to the straight path ameen.

[@kkahin3557]

Beautiful said♥️ may Allah reward you sis, ameen💗

[@noreenbi9079]

Yes ur right but these girls have been corrupted and it's the fault of the parents 2 not make them humble they are not going 2 change there ways. Also they should look at how rich the father is.

[@purplelove3666]

If you see yourself as an object then you can have that mentality of being chosen,that's how( pick me's )think,so I suggest you divorce that from your mentality ,

[@darc6278]

There's nothing wrong with being chosen by somebody you respect and admire for the right reasons. Everybody has choices to make in life, not just to pick objects. We chose how we react, how we use our words, our demeanour, and we also chose our life partners. Freedom of choice. Just because someone chooses to spend the rest of their life with you doesn't make you an object, because that takes commitment, unlike just using your body in a one-night-stand and leaving the next day. @@purplelove3666

[@thetruthwithproof8802]

A group of 10 people came to the Prophet P.B.U.H to accept ISLAM.He accepted the bay’ah of nine of them but not of one of them. They said, “O Messenger of Allah, you accepted the bay’ah of nine but not of this one.” He said, “He is wearing an amulet.” The man put his hand (in his shirt) and took it off, then the Prophet PBUH accepted his bay’ah. The Prophet P.B.U.H said, "Whoever wears an amulet has committed shirk.” ( Masnud Ahmed 16969 )

[@realtalk675]

What amulet ?

[@artifaxx9986]

@@realtalk675 I think it was one of those amulets that people in Arabia wore back then beleiving it would protect them from black magic

[@hisham6663]

Is there a specific reason why you're telling this hadith in particular?

[@theabfamily6756]

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[@sammi2918]

Who was wearing an amulet??

[@josephn7967]

Important podcast. Good work

[@millennialmotherof5]

I'm interested in participating in this show (with my husband). If you ever make an episode about choosing reconciliation after getting to the breaking point/divorce. We live in Clearwater, FL.

[@swerremdjee2769]

Great stream👍 The middle Muslima was great, im hoping to find a woman with her personality. I agree with the second Muslima from the left, if its her dream to have a boat and to sail, try and find someone who also likes to sail but be realistic and priorities whats more important. There were lots of great things said, great stream👍

[@GokuBlack-sn5dr]

you can want you want, but buy what you can afford - Kevin Samuels

[@jayr3938]

Keep up the good work Brother Ali.

[@03_Ayesha]

These conversations are so important, keep them coming! Where are the sisters jilbabs from? They look stunning mashallah

[@almedina6013]

To add to my comment, while I was searching for a husband, I was picky to the dot when it came to the deen. Ex. If I have to wait a year, there’s no way we will be communicating for a year as it’s not okay. When I got married, every question I didn’t ask (but was important like finances, living space etc) because I thought it was not important, “I don’t want dunya” etc I’ve had to bear the consequences but they were bearable because he has amazing ahlak elhamdulillah. I’ve read the other day even on a video of a brother joking that his wife doesn’t have to ask to go out because she knows she can’t, a sister commented I need this.. this is very troublesome. Look for deen, and AHLAK! Everything else is a bonus.

[@almedina6013]

Ali’s arguments are very valid, because for the most part every marriage that has fallen that I know of around me, has been because their expectations before marriage were not the right ones, and usually believe they can change the other person but instead have to deal with the consequences. Even the abusive marriages. Also, whenever someone is promising too much, believe it is too good to be true, tread wisely.

[@user-fg6uu2fu9x]

Hold on. So divorcing a woman when she's ungrateful is encouraged but when a woman is being financially abused she shouldn't divorce???

[@bz.t2742]

For real

[@jawadnoor2298]

That still depends on the situation.

[@naimam8212]

I caught that too smh

[@purplelove3666]

​@@jawadnoor2298that IS the situation,

[@rrSBS2017]

53:10 This typically won’t happen if the wife shows gratitude and thankfulness to her husband for what she has been given and the lifestyle she is able to enjoy as a result of his efforts. Unfortunately many Muslim women have a very strong sense of entitlement with the mentality that “my husband’s money is my money”, constantly wanting more gifts and expensive things, and comparing their husband to their friends. This type of behavior will of course breed resentment and the type of reaction the sister is talking about.

[@lightkira4119]

You just hit the tip of the iceberg. A man i know of has a wife that he does everything for; pays the house rent, bills, pay her around $2000 a month in cash. He works very hard and makes a lot of money but he is not home a lot. She decided not to have kids with him and wants to work. She makes close to $4000 a month plus the $2000 he gives her. When ever he is home for a short period, she isn't around a lot so he complains that she isn't upholding her rights as a wife. She keeps telling him that it is his right to pay for everything and she doesn't have to do anything. His rights as a husband are being violated yet he cannot do anything about it. She doesn't listen to him, she isn't around the house on the days he is back, she wants him to do 100% while she does less than 50% of her obligations. Another brother married a sister who had 2 kids with him and she took the kids from him to America and won't sponsor him for a green card for working and staying in the US. He is in Canada and cannot see his 2 daughters because she won't come live with him in Canada because she doesn't like living in Canada. At this point women are just abusing their privileges and using western laws to protect them from their actions. Women talk about fantasy ideals and are engaging in horrible behavior. They want Islamic men who follow the deen but they will follow western laws and feminism. What a joke.

[@rrSBS2017]

Basically, they want all their Islamic rights with none of the responsibilities to their husband

[@jurateb.9794]

I think any person a man or a woman may want a nice car, a big nice house etc. A woman can get it either by marrying a rich guy or working full-time and being a career woman. If you look down on career women and discourage them from climbing the career ladder then marrying a rich man is her only option to get what she wants. Then don't be surprised that she expects a man to buy all those things if you told her to be a housewife.

[@lightkira4119]

@@jurateb.9794 lol you have got some jokes. A woman who wants a nice big house, car, and material possessions? A career to buy things that she cannot take to the grave with her? Any woman or man who is obsessed with living some good life and doesn't even consider the afterlife isn't worth pursuing.

[@deesknees7009]

You are 100% correct. Absolutely no husband would out-of-the-blue say that unless to remind her to be grateful with what she has been given, when she complains of what she doesn't get. There is no smoke without fire.

[@workoffice5703]

JazakAllah for bringing a sister who is educated in Quran and deen. Sister Hafsa thank you for being grounded and using Allahs words in this topic. Please have such sisters in future episodes as it gives balance in the discussions between the sisters and brothers.

[@amatul7ayy]

I was most disappointed in this sister! Quoting Quran with a seethrough scarf on her head an make up on? Honestly, what a disgrace.

[@soulz4793]

"i wear hijab but isn’t it a bit self righteous to suggest a Muslim cannot quote the Quran or advise others because she is not the “perfect” Muslim or as perfect as we deem they should be ??" the modern "muslim" female is far astray that you consider wearing proper hijab to be "perfect"..... hijab is the bare minimum. Its pathetic you didnt know that. @@luluah1198

[@The-Powertree-Alchemist]

@@amatul7ayyI don’t wear a veil in general; I put it on as part of the rules and guidelines to be on the show. I feel sorry for people who can’t see the real hijab. Hijab is a language, it’s a foundation of being. People are so immersed in the dunya 3d world they can only see the material side of it :)

[@GreenLikeKashmir]

SOMEONE BUY THIS GIRL A BOAT!!!!! 😂💕

[@ayyylmao101]

LOLLL LET'S GET THAT GOFUNDME GOING

[@user-wm7ny1qb2i]

She said women are not materialistic, so she might be happy with a paper boat.

[@faiselabdulahi5642]

⁠🤣🤣🤣😂😅

[@ahmadalbaiti4611]

the dude said being humble is a good criteria to look for a woman. meaning dont have that much high expectation from men for MONEY because biggest issue is MONEY with this high inflation and people dont realize that poor people and low income earners is growing and on the extreme high and the pool of rich and wealthy is getting smaller and smaller so majority of men when they here shes humble it really means they understand this economic crisis and money is tight but will do the best they can to provide to make her happy even with little of what they have...... and then this girl comes and wants a boat and a man in her level with a mustang parked outside cause shes healed im sorry but thats kind of still wanting materialistic things cause thats your dream man has to have cause that will make you happy. its nit bad to want it but also be realistic majority of men dont have this or cant afford it. and she wants it parked outside not even rented do you know how expensive a boat coast and i know she dont want no canoue or no sailor fishing work boat. but inshaAllah kheir for her. disclaimer Im not hating on her and inshaAllah she gets what she wants but understand the context a guy literally said humbleness is key and people are joking aroung about a boat wich is bloody expensive its like it went above her head unconsiously obviously with no ill intentions but still its like sad.

[@r.b7979]

​@@user-wm7ny1qb2ii dont think any of them have said that?

[@mohamedlakrib185]

Sister, It was with Ismail. Jazak Allah Khayr. I love all what you doing.

[@keke3897]

The sister in the middle.. Mashallah, i'd be interested to hear more about her experiences. I think as a young Muslimah in the UK now thinking about marriage, it'd be more beneficial if there were older and married/ex-married speakers who speak more from experience (I haven't watched other episodes so maybe i'm wrong)

[@Moonlight-777]

Silence is gold💙

[@fatmaabdimohamed303]

I enjoyed watching this episode

[@ZamzamHappi]

Mashallah am enjoying the podcast may Allah bless you all

[@nmrat54]

Brother ali This episode and the previous one have a very bad audio 😅. Please try to solve it.

[@123f89]

Man when I hear their beautiful accent it brings me regret from moving away from London to Canada at a young age😢

[@xaruntacuntadacafimatka]

I learned alot From this show know your self alot and stay humble

[@noreenbi9079]

That's the thing no humbleness

[@xaruntacuntadacafimatka]

@@noreenbi9079 may Allah make it easy for everyone

[@noreenbi9079]

@@xaruntacuntadacafimatka Ameen

[@bikeboi821]

She's right to say divorce. If a man is abusing you. Get out!!!

[@hassanharaka941]

Brother Ali , all brothers and sisters in shalla Allah bless you all

[@yahya-fahd]

اللهم نصرك المبين لعبيدك ومجاهديك في غـــــــــــــــزة العزة، اللهم انــزل عليهم الرحمــات و البركــات، انت نعم المولـى ونعم النصــير.

[@Anne-wo1jl]

This whole situation doesn't look halaal at all to me.

[@kikikoko607]

A good faith and character is the 🗝️ girls. Trust me. Everything else is secondary!❤

[@Top_o_da_foodDChain]

They’re too naive to understand that. IG and TikTok keeps diverting their attention away from truth.

[@kimkoya3882]

Good faith and character is important, but it doesn’t necessarily mean he knows how to treat and love his wife. Its a different ball game all together, being affectionate. All women want is time and affection.

[@hopeali]

every time i watch 1 of these bitter truth videos about husband and wife, the problem always seems to be because the husband/wife is immature😭😭 If they were mature and thoughtful persons, they would not have problems like these..

[@ZM-et7zt]

Yeah I agree, which is why I think older people should be leading these conversations

[@Erec07]

True, but to be frank most problems come from women.

[@talimanwiz]

People dont want to accept or are scared to say this. In this generation, woman are an issue. I am sorry if it offends u but this is true. Think about it for a second, men wants to make their wife happy bcoz they genuinely are infatuated by her, not by her wealth but her as a person. A woman these days are infatuated mainly by money . U cant deny this.

[@raghad123456]

Bro you have not been in 200 m radius of a woman other than your mom before @@Erec07

[@hopeali]

@@Erec07from what i see it's mostly the men but I'm just speaking what i see around me so naturally u might have a different view

[@CR7Update]

*BUZZER BUTTON*: Responding to what sister ameera said about the spontaneous things not having to cost anything, that's all fine and dandy until one or more sisters in a friend group starts yapping about how their husbands took them on lavish trips or got them expensive gifts, and then sudenely the humble spontaneity goes out the window and internal grievances start forming to why you can't have what your friends are having etc etc. Prime example of women saying one thing but wanting/doing another

[@jurateb.9794]

Is it wrong for a woman or a man to want lavish things? If a woman is expected to stay at home and she is discouraged from being a career woman i.e. if she can't earn money herself, then it's natural that she will expect a husband to provide what she wants.

[@Perfecttopway]

Five dominant gangster women aggressively confront three passive, submissive men. The host attempts to intervene on behalf of the men, but they remain largely inactive and ineffective in response.

[@aliali-li8ms]

🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@soulz4793]

the females on the panel only displayed weak and mostly feminists tendencies.

[@j86485]

Nice plot description. Now we just need the title of the movie, let's call it 'Whipped'

[@airkatmama4]

I’ve been married multiple times and I’m now at an age where I have much experience , I will say if a woman is feeling neglected and verbalises this to her husband multiple times and when no change is made she will eventually just give up trying or worse caring about your attention . If a woman is made to support herself when she knows her rights she will harbour resentment knowing she is supposed to be supported and cared for she will become independent of you . When a woman feels independent of her husband because he neglects her emotionally and financially independent because her husband does not provide for her she will see herself without the need for a husband . I agree that all most men want is respect and to be made to feel like they are the head of the house this is easy to do if the woman is getting what she needs but not so much if she is not being kept in the position Allah swt has given her

[@bellerose5397]

I only watched the first half hour of the video, but it is an interesting topic. BarakAllahu feekum brother Ali and team for bringing up this topic and for your efforts. I do have some insights to add: 1. First off, in terms of spontaneity. It's not that men are used to a mundane life but women are not. It's more like men go out into the outside world, they see experience things, have stories to tell. For women our job is confined to the four corners of our home. Staying home the whole day does get boring, in fact men get bored of it wayyy faster than women do. So that's why women love these surprise outings. 2. Women care about income. This is because the woman will be living according to the guys standard of living, not the other way around. Imagine moving from a first world home to a third world home, where you have to go outside to use the bathroom, there's no hot water and the home is filled with cockroaches and lizards. Running that home 24/7 will be challenging, and especially caring for small children will be even more challenging. That is because it is hard to go from a high standard of living to a lower standard of living, doing this to a woman will make the womans job extremely burdensome. 3. The point about the womans expectations being too high of her man, and women being materialistic. The expectation of woman is not that high, she wants you to be on your Deen, giving her her rights and treat her well. The truth is most brothers complaining about this being too much are the ones who are not on their Deen very well. Because once in a person's heart comes the love and sincere determination to become the best Muslim they can be, Allah makes the other challenges easier for them. They will notice their character improves, they can control their anger, have sabr, become selfless. So they will not say to a womans expectation to be treated kindly, as expecting too much. They will be by the help of Allah, able to meet her rights. But there are very few men like that today, that's why so many complain. And for women being materialistic, some are materialistic and expect materialistic things. Others are not materialistic, they want Allah's happiness with them first and foremost. However in this day and age these women are few. In short both good men and good women are few today, and the lesser men deserve the lesser women, the few God-fearing men deserve the few God-fearing women. So if you see a problem with the women you are interacting with check yourself first, what kind of women am I surrounding myself with? And how close is my relationship to Allah SWT? 4. This is just a bonus tip: people are much better at listening to you and saying yes to you when they are in a good mood. So a good time to express a concern, or talk about something important to you is after having physical intimacy with your spouse. Usually at this time both husband and wife are content and feel closer to eachother. 5. Oh and last point, in the intro one of the brothers was saying a man's bare minimum responsibility is just finanicial support and protection from harm. This is NOT TRUE, Allah SWT commands men to treat wives well, to live with them in kindness and mercy: "...and live with them in a kind manner..." Quran (4:19). Satisfying her sexual desires is also his duty. Hope this helps some of you brothers out there! WAllahu alam

[@user-wm7ny1qb2i]

Dear sister, some corrections regarding your points: 1. Not all wives are confined all day to their house. They are free to enjoy activities with their friends. "For women our job is confined to the four corners of our home." If you know of the stories of Aicha and Khadija you would not say that. They both had jobs that are not confined too the four corners of home, and they were very successful at those jobs. And even if a woman chooses to be a stay at home mom, nothing forbids her from having friends and enjoying doing activities with them. 2. If a man's house has cockroaches and lizards, he is not fit for marriage yet. Khadija, the prophet's wife, married someone with lower economic status, it was not a burden for her because the prophet provided the household necessities. Also, She had a high income but she is not financially responsible for her family , therefore her standard of living were not only not reduced, but increased since she doesn't have to pay for necessities anymore. ( She didn't have to pay for them in the first place since that is her father's responsibility before marriage). 3. Telling your wife that her expectations are high is not disrespectful to her and is not a sign that the man has is not on his Deen, unless he is not saying the truth and wants to avoid his responsibilities toward his wife. The complain about high expectations comes from men who are fulfilling their basic responsibilities in their household but are presented with other responsibilities that are not necessary for the health of their family and are, most of the times , just materialistic indulgence ( going to movies, buying gifts, going on vacations etc...). Some men fit into the description you gave, but I don't believe that most Muslim men are. Most Muslim men are not whining irresponsible boys. I hope you don't believe that. (Beware of feminist propagnda) 4. After intimacy "might" be a good time to discuss an important subject with your wife. Unless you are extremely tired after fulfilling your duty properly. But learning to be able to control your emotions and present yourself properly for a discussion with your wife (with humbleness and positivity) is an important skill to develop. 5. Maybe he reduced the responsibilities to the two most important ones. I don't think they believe they are the only responsibilities men have over their wives.

[@yusufyahya8048]

I know one of these women in person and I must say she’s not very modest off the show. In fact she wears crop tops and skin showing clothes at the gym and during school days she would be very exposing.

[@amparo1298]

Why expose her sins that not ok and you wouldn’t want someone to expose you either

[@sp-leaks7935]

Immature, incompetent people who have absolutely no blueprint for marriage at all, but think they should be listened to about anything to do with marriage or anything else, multi generational failed parenting for all of them & it's getting worse every year. Nobody AT ALL has wife, husband, father or mother skills whatsoever because their parents utterly failed them and could not teach them anything to pass on to anyone as they were also failed from the start. Islam is not the culture of anyone here, their minds are completely westernised, sold out to western ideology & they just regurgitate feminist tropes & false expectations of marriage that have nothing to do with islam whatsoever, they have been completely nurtured by western ideology but somehow think their clothing, islamic phrasing terminologies somehow makes them islamic in anyway shape or form. The arrogance masculine, passive aggressive attitudes of certain sisters, who's egos are through the roof is proof enough how utterly incompetent Muslims are for marriage, they have absolutely no clue, the assumption that they represent islam is a joke, they are internally westernised but think a few phrases & clothing now makes them holistic islamic when they are not. Sisters have been raised on delusional western ideology & kufr ideology, Netflix, ungodly immorality sex in the city, desperate housewives & completely unislamic upbringing but now want to falsely portray they now represent islam, when their whole upbringing is completely secularised, westernised & they are walking contradictions, false expectations, princess programming and have no clue what Islam is at all. Trying to sell western ideology as islamic is a sickening joke, this show will not help anyone as to what marriage is really about due to how far the guests are from really understanding islam. This is a complete embarrassment, mature, well raised & nurtured Muslim men & women who have been raised in an islamic culture, society, have been fully raised & nurtured on a successful passing on of key blueprints should be on the show, no these people. We should not be listening to a bunch of westernised, immature children who speak as if they know what the hell they are talking about in the first place, this is a travesty & how utterly deranged Muslims are...💯

[@fflarexx9061]

As a muslim you should also know that spreadung peoples mistakes and sins is not good. Before spreading personal information about her in public you should work on yourself first and learn your religion. ​@@yusufyahya8048

[@Moonlight-777]

Dear ahi, please next time we need couples who were married 5+ or 10+ years. I'm also single, i realise that i cannot learn from them anything, sorry🤷🏻‍♀️

[@Bettereveryday003]

Ali Dawah has become the new Oprah Winfrey show it seems.

[@aa-fw2pw]

To all married couples: watch "A tale of two brains" by Mark Gungor. He's a Christian pastor and I obviously dismissed the Biblical part of his speech, but his explanation of how different men and women are was so helpful for me in understanding my husband and his needs.

[@azizrampage]

Compatibility and chemistry is needed otherwise its a loveless marriage, its what makes you care about the person in the first place

[@thetruthwithproof8802]

A QATTAT will NOT enter paradise, A qattat is a person who conveys FALSE INFORMATION from one person to another with the intention of causing harm & enmity ( Bukhari 6056 )

[@mustafaaidid6919]

Forget a man telling his wife I clothed you and I fed you which is his duty, it’s against basic human decency to even say it to a person that got charity from you which is optional 🤦🏾‍♂️

[@user-ve4zw6jp9i]

Mad respect

[@ImranAhmed-oi5mf]

Men remind what they did for their wife is because their wives are ungrateful and do not appreicate their favours. are with do not have any appreciation for them irrespective of wha tthey say. A woman who does appreciate what her husband does for her will not have a husband that reminds her of what he did for her.

[@user-ve4zw6jp9i]

@@ImranAhmed-oi5mf not true . Men raised by single mothers unfortunately want their wife to accept bare minimum too

[@mustafaaidid6919]

@@ImranAhmed-oi5mf if the wife is being ungrateful there is way to deal with it. If the wife is being ungrateful then it doesn’t mean the man who is a leader needs to follow her lead and go down to her level and argue oh I did this and I did that. A grown man knows how to deal with it. Of course women will complain, the best of women complained about the best man pbuh. But doesn’t mean a man also should start complaining like the wife. Who made these men be women nowadays.

[@user-ve4zw6jp9i]

@@mustafaaidid6919 ❤️

[@alifbaa1682]

Ma sha Allah Allah Akbar Allahumma baarik Hafsas opening may Allah be pleased articulated a healthy relationship and it resonates with my soul. May Allah bless you all.

[@rkhan9506]

I really liked the pragmatic and cautious approach of brother Ali, who reminded all of the sisters and brothers in attendance, that they need to be careful with their words of advice to sisters and brothers who are out there, watching and listening to them, because their words could have dire consequences …

[@mikaaa8854]

Women don’t always ask or is straight forward rather they patronise or compare themselves to others in order to get something. This sets the men off and I don’t blame them

[@nanabai329]

I’ve hardly ever compared myself to others to get something from my husband. Not everyone is attached to material things and this notion has been repeated in the video and ur reappearing and beating a dead horse. Many good women out there who don’t do this comparison or harassment of their husband.

[@sp-leaks7935]

Immature, incompetent people who have absolutely no blueprint for marriage at all, but think they should be listened to about anything to do with marriage or anything else, multi generational failed parenting for all of them & it's getting worse every year. Nobody AT ALL has wife, husband, father or mother skills whatsoever because their parents utterly failed them and could not teach them anything to pass on to anyone as they were also failed from the start. Islam is not the culture of anyone here, their minds are completely westernised, sold out to western ideology & they just regurgitate feminist tropes & false expectations of marriage that have nothing to do with islam whatsoever, they have been completely nurtured by western ideology but somehow think their clothing, islamic phrasing terminologies somehow makes them islamic in anyway shape or form. The arrogance masculine, passive aggressive attitudes of certain sisters, who's egos are through the roof is proof enough how utterly incompetent Muslims are for marriage, they have absolutely no clue, the assumption that they represent islam is a joke, they are internally westernised but think a few phrases & clothing now makes them holistic islamic when they are not. Sisters have been raised on delusional western ideology & kufr ideology, Netflix, ungodly immorality sex in the city, desperate housewives & completely unislamic upbringing but now want to falsely portray they now represent islam, when their whole upbringing is completely secularised, westernised & they are walking contradictions, false expectations, princess programming and have no clue what Islam is at all. Trying to sell western ideology as islamic is a sickening joke, this show will not help anyone as to what marriage is really about due to how far the guests are from really understanding islam. This is a complete embarrassment, mature, well raised & nurtured Muslim men & women who have been raised in an islamic culture, society, have been fully raised & nurtured on a successful passing on of key blueprints should be on the show, no these people. We should not be listening to a bunch of westernised, immature children who speak as if they know what the hell they are talking about in the first place, this is a travesty & how utterly deranged Muslims are...💯

[@lightkira4119]

​@@nanabai329this is the problem with this show, inexperienced people making up arguments based on scenarios. Hood men don't know love languages? How many hood men has she married or dated? Did she hear this from second hand or third hand sources? Gossiping and backbiting is not allowed as evidence. A bitter divorced women may lie about a man, women who dated around will lie and make up stories about their ex. There is so much flaws, even at the end when asked for advice for the opposite gender, they gave some vague advice. I want a boat? The brother in the middle made no sense to me. The sisters gave very little. This show is just a bunch of people speaking about things they have very little knowledge of.

[@abdouldieng3317]

Every parent out there should try the best to keep their kids away from the dating scene. We have lost hayaa ( modesty) through intermingling

[@taurusbme4860]

I see the sister's point of view clearly but let me tell you I agree with with the brothers 💯 per cent. The brothers were asked to bring it and they brought it. What a blessing to see honest men open up. Brother Ali you always bring topics that bless me personally. I believe we need to treat men with love honesty and respect. I have always seen things this way both have to be honest and appreciative like you said. Allah knows best when he put men to lead us, guides us and protect us. I Learned from previous marriages before Islam that there needs to be common ground and understanding my husband's just never saw it this way and to listen to men say the things that I believed in my heart it is a true revelation and blessing that Allah keeps showing me Islam is the place for me.

[@capforlife1]

Broo pls fix ur audio theres always scuffles and background noises every episode and sometimes mic cuts out😂😂

[@Perfecttopway]

Panel appears utterly dominant, almost as if it's showcasing strong, assertive women guiding compliant, yielding men in this episode.

[@lightkira4119]

The women are perfect and make no mistakes. Men are the ones who don't know love languages and won't give $20 for clothes and take women out once a month. The men rudely remind women of their rights and hold it over them for financial abuse. Women always follow their rights towards their husband's 100% This was such a train wreck to watch and listen to. Made up scenarios of hood men who don't know proper love? I want a boat? Half the show, the 2nd part was a comedy. These people have no knowledge or experience to talk about anything in particular yet just make up scenarios. I know a guy who runs up waterfalls but won't give his wife water.....insane arguments. The ending summed up the entire thing. Give advice for men and women looking to get married. Only the sister in the middle in black said anything of value. The guy in the middle said words but none of the words made sense to me.

[@aliali-li8ms]

🤣

[@shakur8918]

The white brother is solid but the Bengali brothers look like 2 kids sitting in front of their aunties

[@j86485]

@@shakur8918 No they don't, all the brothers said their arguments

[@alicevenderman]

wait dominant how sorry?

[@kaix6023]

This whole episode just made me cringe so bad. Especially the boat girl, everything that came out of her mouth after the boat thing. 😭

[@NoHaraminIslam]

Glad someone else noticed it.

[@user-bc8up6yb5g]

What minute

[@ahmadalbaiti4611]

​@@NoHaraminIslam like her wanting a boat (which can be three times the cost of a car and bloody expensive) and a mustang parked "someone on my level cause ive already healed" like man she sounds humble but is wanting materialistic things cause she said and i know a boat and the ocean will make happy.

[@aliali-li8ms]

Shes also probably from birmingham🤣🤣🤣

[@chinaman190]

Don't forget to smile and her and tell her she looks beautiful 😂😂😂😂😂

[@johntravis7304]

Subhanallah gonna watch the whole thing but From the first 25 min I can already see people need to learn to communicate first. Not assume, not be defensive, aim higher, even when your partner is aiming lower. I genuinely think people need to be painfully transparent with themselves and their partners/family.

[@VeX00786]

May Allah bless our sister Amirah for mentioning about ibrahim as and Ishaq as story. May Allah put loads of barakah in your marriage and children ameen

[@Nooraey]

I understand all the concerns expressed here… but I want to make a point. As a muslim girl/woman idk I think its really offensive both how the women are (they say they’re not but its clear they are) generalizing the wants of all women, and how the men are generalizing how all women are. 💔 Personally, I want a husband who can take care of me, provide for me, respect my efforts and be loving/kind. Thats it. I do not need alot of money, things, as long as I have ENOUGH for myself and my children, and then above that a husband who is willing to show affection and softness and clearly show his wife he cares about her. I will be willing to cook, clean etc. given that my husband respects my efforts. I wouldn’t mind cooking every day and keeping order in the house as long as I don’t have a husband that complain’s about everything and says im not doing good enough when Allah knows I’m trying. I don’t know who and why these people were invited. There are women who have haya, sabr and are Allah-fearing. It hurts me every time they say ‘women these days’, because I know for myself that I will try in every way to be obedient to my husband and Allah, but for me to think that my husband thinks of women in the say way as the men in this video speak, I would be extremely offended. Stop generalizing all people based off of the Western world. If anyone is reading this which I doubt, pls tell me if there is anything wrong with what I said.

[@mouadyoubiidrissi7493]

i ve seen handreads of videos and posdcasts on this topic , and what i can say after 3 4 years of this process is that our generation make the mistake of giving the mic on a topic like marriage to mostly non-married ppl. i ve realised that that is mostly what is leadding to wrong answers and over hiped expectetionq.

[@The-Powertree-Alchemist]

Me (sister in the middle) and sister amira are both married women. I can say I have succeeded in choosing the man with the qualities I’ve stated so I’m not just hallucinating. That type of man does exist out there we just have to do the work. We’ve been spoon fed lies about what we can and cannot achieve. The fact that you are here existing is the greatest achievement.

[@shahee6579]

​@The-Powertree-Alchemist ermmm sis... what's up with the DP. I Get many sisters struggle with hijab, but to openly show yourself uncovered online isn't ideal. You were great on the show though Allahumma Barik

[@AM-bm9rs]

@@The-Powertree-Alchemist You have made videos on polgyny, are you in a polygynous marriage?

[@talimanwiz]

The boat woman sounded genuine. I felt her sincerity even tho i dont agree with everything she said.

[@mustyshorts9880]

I love ali dawah he's speaking facts always ❤

[@Midgethunter07]

Ali, the ''Coming up Next'' is way to long brother. KISS, keep it short and simple

[@AxellAlfaro]

Quesiton @AliDawah , im a revert I like your channel but I thought free mixing like this was not allowed / haram. Is there evidence that shows something like this is allowed?

[@thetruthwithproof8802]

DO YOU HAVE A FAVOURITE CHILD ❓ Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) said, 'Be afraid of Allah, and be just to your children.' ( Bukhari 2587 ) The Prophet P.B.U.H said 'Treat your children fairly, treat your children fairly.'"( Sunan an-nasa'i 3687 ) O you who believe! STAND OUT FIRMLY FOR JUSTICE even if it be against yourselves, your parents, & your relatives, or whether it is against the rich or the poor ( Quran 4:135 ) Do not let your HATRED of PEOPLE prevent you from being just ( Quran 5 : 8 Allah does NOT guide the wrong-doers ( Quran 5 : 51) ( If you want Allah's help, then you MUST do JUSTICE )

[@namsu2403]

Convo was all over the place after 20 minutes

[@Deep_thinking_dia]

Good job ✊

[@snowwhite4h]

loool wasn’t that hafsa girl arguing with uncle omar about how the prophet muhammed ﷺ wasn’t the last prophet and claiming some mad stuff

[@The-Powertree-Alchemist]

Yes that’s me. I didn’t say he wasn’t the seal of the prophets. I said he wasn’t the last messenger.

[@MOTHUG786]

​​@@The-Powertree-Alchemistso who is the last and final messenger of Allah?

[@lightkira4119]

​@@The-Powertree-Alchemistexplain?

[@zai5562]

@@lightkira4119don’t hold your breath

[@j86485]

@@The-Powertree-Alchemist Astagfirullah, does Ali know this? If so then I really lost respect for him inviting you to the show. Even though you have good knowledge of the Quran, that is all irrelevant if you think the Prophet pbuh isn't the last messenger. If he isn't then who is?

[@AB-xi9im]

Salam Ali my brother. Why are you enabling this free mixing? If someone can prove to me this is not haram please go ahead. Wallahu a3lam

[@simonesimone1101]

Ali is so right!!!! Us women our emotions are all over the place and we say things we don’t mean, but it is obvious what women wants in a man.

[@jurateb.9794]

In these videos, it's the men who seem can't control their emotions if somebody disagrees with them

[@purplelove3666]

Maybe you say things you don't mean, please speak for yourself ,women are not airheads

[@user-fk7sk9ut1t]

What do women want? Everything. What do men want? Peace.

[@afroabe7584]

😂😂😂

[@Babycake.]

Your idea of peace is dominating every single conceivably shaytanic crime stat. Siddown, wallet.

[@amparo1298]

Lies they want another mom

[@Babycake.]

@@amparo1298 A husband is a womans first child

[@mikaaa8854]

These women are selling themselves with all these demands no wonder they divorced. This is why women initiate divorce because they are never satisfied. Greed is evil

[@hopeali]

I don't understand why understanding the women's views is so difficult. All they want is a good husband who also shows that he loves them. What is the problem?

[@Here_Today_]

The man wants what he wants, the woman wants what she wants; the problem exists when neither thinks about what the either wants.

[@Top_o_da_foodDChain]

That’s not all they want! Their list of wants is 1,000 pages long and even then they’re unsure.

[@user-wm7ny1qb2i]

Judging by your comment, I doubt that you watched more than half of this video. ( Or listened to a man's pov on this topic before)

[@FreeToThink0]

​@@Top_o_da_foodDChain Men generally want these things but don't like to speak on it: Deen, Akhlaq, beauty, good Akhlaq, feminine, be in good shape, cook well, clean well, have many children, stay in shape, not go out without his permission, cover fully outside, respects his parents, dresses up for him when he returns, be available intimately anytime he needs, teaches his children deen, don't nag/complain, don't be demanding, don't waste his money/protect his wealth. On top of that: obey him in everything he demands in halal. What you'll realize is men don't actually break things down, they'll just say deen, beauty and obedience for fear of scaring potentials away. They just ask for these things after the marriage when he's secured her. Women are the opposite: they are the talkers, they will list every single thing (to the intricacies of his beard length)and in reality all he needs to do is provide very well, as long as she can buy what she needs and wants and there's no cap on her spending- all other requirements go out the window. Men/women marriage 101.

[@hopeali]

@@Stand4Righteousness that's not what they said. Most women don't even leave their husbands when they're unhappy with them either. They just ask for respect and love and if you can't do that then you shouldn't marry

[@user-mo8dq6fe2f]

if you want to learn how to fish you don't ask the fish you ask the fisherman Do not take romantic or love advice from women

[@hopeali]

Don't do what women want you to do, do what men tell you☠ there's a word for that but I'm not going to say it💅

[@Seheryeli96]

Ali I also hold the opinion that the show should host guests that are age 35+. Tecrübe ve bilgin insanları görmek isteriz, çoluk çocuk deyil. Insan sıkıntıya düşünce büyüklerine danışmak ister çünkü onlar görmüş, geçirmiş ve bir çok tecrübeye sahiptirler. Gençlere ve bu nesle hitaben konular işlemen güzel ama çıkan konuklar bence tecrübesiz. Başarılar

[@Moonlight-777]

"You should realise, what you can handle, and what not" brilliant

[@jahangirmalik3243]

Generation of me, me, me, me and never we, we, we, we

[@purplelove3666]

Hasn't it always been that way, what the heck are you talking about ?.

[@jahangirmalik3243]

@@purplelove3666 no it hasn't been always that way.....don't know how old you are but am guessing your old enough to be my kid and believe me in our days most of the time we put our families first before ourselves which is why the older generation does not have the silly problems the current generation has

[@iNikkah]

Spontaneity is nice but it comes amongst the monotonous life you live as husband and wife, can you handle that monotony? Keep each other as team mates, keep a clear objective in life put your families need before your own- you get to an age where happiness comes in pockets but contentment is more realistic

[@asyadelmont]

Facts

[@Abbyman]

May Allah give us whats best for us. this means not the "best looking" not "the smartest" not "richest" but that which is perfect for you. Allah knows. Ameen

[@keepitreelcatfishing5883]

“The wife’s money is her money and the husband’s money is both their money” is a lie spread by Nouman Ali Khan. As long as the husband is providing for her rights, she cannot take a single penny without his permission. She can only take it if he’s not providing for her and she must only take what is sufficient for her needs to be met. The ruling is taken from this Hadith: Hind bint ‘Utba said, Oh Messenger of Allah (ﷺ)! Abu Sufyan is a miser and he does not give me what is sufficient for me and my children. Can I take of his property without his knowledge?” The prophet (ﷺ) said, “Take what is sufficient for you and your children, and the amount should be just and reasonable. And if he’s not providing for her, there’s even a difference of opinion amongst scholars about whether she needs to go to a qadhi first or she can just take the money.

[@bz.t2742]

Then he should let her work.

[@purplelove3666]

It's still both of their money, because she is not borrowing money from him ,is she?

[@wackypeace1135]

You should have a learnered scholar on the show, otherwise it's just emotional subjective babble.

[@MOTHUG786]

Yes

[@TheThompson425]

I like your videos because it gives us brothers the chance to get to know different muslim woman and personalities before we marry.

[@whydidyoudothat]

In Malaysia every muslim needs to attend a government (Islamic dept) marriage course (1-2 days) prior to getting married, and several other requirements (qadi signature, etc). I believe now Muslim NGOs are doing this in the UK. It teaches responsibilities, sunnah, etc in marriage

[@Altair-El-Haddad]

They don't know what they want in a husband themselves 😂😂

[@Babycake.]

we want a well behaved and competent coin purse. its simple. why are you trying to complicate things

[@72-bit]

​@@Babycake. you clearly think all men are evil

[@Altair-El-Haddad]

​@@Babycake.Is that what your father is to your mother? Damn, miskeen fr.

[@Babycake.]

​@@Altair-El-Haddad guess your mother didn't "know what" she "wanted" in a husband.

[@Altair-El-Haddad]

@@Babycake. And that's why she's been happily married for over 30+ years with 7 kids, most probably unlike urs, as I refuse to believe a person would turn out this way with a man in the household.

[@freedomPalestine23]

Compatibility is number 1. You can have all this piety and quality but you may actually not be compatible or guided by Allah to be together. Someone who puts Allah 1st and wants to go to Jannah firdos and take as many with him as possible. Someone who lives for Allah and doing a noble cause for the sake of Allah. Someone who's currency is hasanat not dollars and cents. Someone who has my back, as I have his.

[@insyirahandhy4977]

"...who's currency is hasanat not dollars and cents". This is gold sis, you're right on the money ;P Allahumma baarik

[@sp-leaks7935]

Immature, incompetent people who have absolutely no blueprint for marriage at all, but think they should be listened to about anything to do with marriage or anything else, multi generational failed parenting for all of them & it's getting worse every year. Nobody AT ALL has wife, husband, father or mother skills whatsoever because their parents utterly failed them and could not teach them anything to pass on to anyone as they were also failed from the start. Islam is not the culture of anyone here, their minds are completely westernised, sold out to western ideology & they just regurgitate feminist tropes & false expectations of marriage that have nothing to do with islam whatsoever, they have been completely nurtured by western ideology but somehow think their clothing, islamic phrasing terminologies somehow makes them islamic in anyway shape or form. The arrogance masculine, passive aggressive attitudes of certain sisters, who's egos are through the roof is proof enough how utterly incompetent Muslims are for marriage, they have absolutely no clue, the assumption that they represent islam is a joke, they are internally westernised but think a few phrases & clothing now makes them holistic islamic when they are not. Sisters have been raised on delusional western ideology & kufr ideology, Netflix, ungodly immorality sex in the city, desperate housewives & completely unislamic upbringing but now want to falsely portray they now represent islam, when their whole upbringing is completely secularised, westernised & they are walking contradictions, false expectations, princess programming and have no clue what Islam is at all. Trying to sell western ideology as islamic is a sickening joke, this show will not help anyone as to what marriage is really about due to how far the guests are from really understanding islam. This is a complete embarrassment, mature, well raised & nurtured Muslim men & women who have been raised in an islamic culture, society, have been fully raised & nurtured on a successful passing on of key blueprints should be on the show, no these people. We should not be listening to a bunch of westernised, immature children who speak as if they know what the hell they are talking about in the first place, this is a travesty & how utterly deranged Muslims are...💯

[@SA-ur7jt]

Asalamu alaykum, just to clarify, the ayah the sister quoted on around 1 hour, referring to the fasiq, does not apply to zawaj and marriage. You gotta be careful when you quote ayat that are not specific in topic, this is why lay people should only use ayat that have direct specific content cause this is how the wrong interpretation can be applied. Baarakallahu feekum

[@thedyslexictortoise5956]

The one in the middle has one religion, and it’s feminism…

[@samrasamoura2821]

May allah grant me a righteous husband with akhlaq ya rab .

[@hayataitlhaj2937]

اللهم امين يارب العالمين ❤🤲🤲

[@elenanovak6332]

Yeah this is more like a conversation about their dreams and expectations, most of them will not be realistic and without married couples there with them I doubt they can learn something and be on common ground

[@ashthanvi4137]

This is so wrong. May Allah guide you all and brother Ali too, he is such a good individual. 😊

[@321igk]

It kept bugging me that they pronounced "spontaneity" wrong so many times. 😂

[@shahee6579]

Spontanewuty

[@wasimmomin1128]

Petition to select sister Amira to be the permanent member of this show.... 👍👍👍

[@r.b7979]

Love her

[@alberxenos]

Assalamu’alaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh السَّلاَمُ عَلَيْكُمْ وَرَحْمَةُ اللهِ وَبَرَكَاتُهُ

[@hodanabdulkadir9019]

The girl who loves the boat cracks me up she’s funny she sounds like she wants to live in lalaland

[@j86485]

Ngl she sounds high all the time but bless her though 😂

[@moldomosbah7081]

This is the worse group of women since the beginning of the show , they seem to have unrealistic expectations from men, which could make life more challenging. In my observation, many of them appear to be immature and to carry emotional baggage, potentially from trauma, and are heavily influenced by social media and romances like those shown by Disneyland. As I continued watching the episodes, it became apparent to me that having constructive debates with them is challenging and it felt that we were in a ladies brunch. The reason is simple : men tend to approach situations rationally, while these women often express themselves with a strong feelings. Their focus on details were men tend to adopt a more general perspective. Throughout the show, these women frequently speak about 'finding yourself,' which, in my opinion, indicate a tendency towards selfishness. I firmly believe that men and women have different preferences and hobbies, and spending excessive time together would lead to complications. Therefore, it might be beneficial to reconsiders some expectations and understand that not everything revolves around emotions. It's essential to maintain a balance and appreciate the differences between men and women in order to maintain a relationships. Also brother Ali we all notice that towards the end of the show, you realized that some participants weren't suitable for this debate, That's why it's crucial that you should select participants wisely-to ensure a productive debate and maintain a clear purpose for this show. Barrakallahufik

[@aliredz1545]

Agree

[@xylope3384]

I mean is normal ,women tend to be more emotional about their speech

[@abdulbutt2850]

@@xylope3384as always

[@realtalk675]

Ehm you lackin bro work on yourself

[@bellerose5397]

I only watched the first half hour of the video, but it is an interesting topic. BarakAllahu feekum brother Ali and team for bringing up this topic and for your efforts. I do have some insights to add: 1. First off, in terms of spontaneity. It's not that men are used to a mundane life but women are not. It's more like men go out into the outside world, they see experience things, have stories to tell. For women our job is confined to the four corners of our home. Staying home the whole day does get boring, in fact men get bored of it wayyy faster than women do. So that's why women love these surprise outings. 2. Women care about income. This is because the woman will be living according to the guys standard of living, not the other way around. Imagine moving from a first world home to a third world home, where you have to go outside to use the bathroom, there's no hot water and the home is filled with cockroaches and lizards. Running that home 24/7 will be challenging, and especially caring for small children will be even more challenging. That is because it is hard to go from a high standard of living to a lower standard of living, doing this to a woman will make the womans job extremely burdensome. 3. The point about the womans expectations being too high of her man, and women being materialistic. The expectation of woman is not that high, she wants you to be on your Deen, giving her her rights and treat her well. The truth is most brothers complaining about this being too much are the ones who are not on their Deen very well. Because once in a person's heart comes the love and sincere determination to become the best Muslim they can be, Allah makes the other challenges easier for them. They will notice their character improves, they can control their anger, have sabr, become selfless. So they will not say to a womans expectation to be treated kindly, as expecting too much. They will be by the help of Allah, able to meet her rights. But there are very few men like that today, that's why so many complain. And for women being materialistic, some are materialistic and expect materialistic things. Others are not materialistic, they want Allah's happiness with them first and foremost. However in this day and age these women are few. In short both good men and good women are few today, and the lesser men deserve the lesser women, the few God-fearing men deserve the few God-fearing women. So if you see a problem with the women you are interacting with check yourself first, what kind of women am I surrounding myself with? And how close is my relationship to Allah SWT? 4. This is just a bonus tip: people are much better at listening to you and saying yes to you when they are in a good mood. So a good time to express a concern, or talk about something important to you is after having physical intimacy with your spouse. Usually at this time both husband and wife are content and feel closer to eachother. 5. Oh and last point, in the intro one of the brothers was saying a man's bare minimum responsibility is just finanicial support and protection from harm. This is NOT TRUE, Allah SWT commands men to treat wives well, to live with them in kindness and mercy: "...and live with them in a kind manner..." Quran (4:19). Satisfying her sexual desires is also his duty. Hope this helps some of you brothers out there! WAllahu alam