The Rising Divorce Rates: Tips for a Successful Marriage | EPIC Masjid | Na'ima B. Robert

[@SAK1912]

Jazakallah Khairan Sister Naima. My BIL, who was in a coma for 27 years, just passed away. My sister had 7 beautiful years with him, and they had 2 children. They were only 3 and 5 yrs old when he fell into a coma. Bec he was such a wonderful husband and father that my sister stayed faithful to him. She nursed him meticulously at home. She never felt like leaving him. The children grow up to witness the care of their mother for their father. She's never tired to look for cure for him. I honestly. We always support her. We bring her away for holidays so she will not get burned out. She also went to work. She had a domestic helper to help her. But every time she went away for a short time, she would get a nurse to take care of him with the helper. Even though she knows that he will leave her as they get older, it still comes as a shock when he stopped breathing one day. She excepts it. Alhamdulillah. May Allah give my sister jannatul firdaus. Amin

[@maryamlawal3423]

SubhanaLlah! Amin and us too🤲

[@Salman786yes]

May Allah make her the highest Jannah. Ameen

[@farzananisar8626]

Asalamualeikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh Jazakallah khairan sister, Thank you very much for sharing.

[@MaryamAkinbola-x1c]

Amin

[@asmaakhamis265]

Aamin

[@aliyahdrissim]

The first 10 min brought tears to my eyes. Na’ima has incredible story telling ability. One of the best lectures on the topic I've ever listened to.

[@fh7133]

A tough no-nonsense talk which is very much needed. May Allah swt reward Sr Na’ima abundantly

[@marytouafek6]

Great lecture, agreed that no one is perfect but no one should be staying in a marriage where lies, abuse and deceits are a daily occurrence. God Knows best.

[@OnePathNet]

May Allah protect this Ummah and guide us all to the right path. AllahuAkbar, Subhan'Allah

[@SAWDAJEAN]

Ameen 🤲🏾

[@rrSBS2017]

Great to see Sr. Naima touring the US. She has a lot of positive and humbling thoughts to share.

[@khalid0748]

A good advice. Almost made me cry.

[@maimounadiew3976]

What a powerful reminder! ALLAHOU AKBAR! ALHAMDOULILLAH

[@NasreenKhan-pi4fm]

Alhumdulillah. Very good reminder. Allah bless our sister and her family. Love you for the sake of Allah. Jazakallah u khaira. Umme nabeel. Mumbai India.

[@fatimamohammed9295]

Hugs n more hugs, sister! May this msg reach every young family, inspire all who listen, and protect us from social media aameen.

[@uroojbaig5598]

Ma sha Allah! Very beautiful and inspiring Bayaan, sister. One feedback I have is it would be really helpful if we have these kind of beautiful and awakening bayaans in Urdu as well as majority of our respected elders especially from India/Pakistan won’t speak or understand English and would really love this and this will help such messages to spread out to wider audience. Jazak Allahu Khairan!

[@haven_from_me]

Allah has given her a talent of storytelling and teaching. MashaAllah TabarakaAllah. Thank you sister for using your gifts to remind us of our deen.

[@Sarapontmercy]

I’m only half way through but I already saved this video so I can keep coming back to it and share it with all my sisters. Wonderful talk, Great advice and delivery. Jzaki Allah khair.

[@cephoraigacha4584]

Sub Han Allah I cried through out. May Allah make us from those that listen and apply Ameen

[@zoyasehar]

Sister naima... I havent heard anyone as eloquent as you . May Allah bless you.. Thankyou for ghis beautiful nasihah.. Truly it wasn't just a speech.. you were being heard.

[@artisthusnatalal3099]

Listen to Doctor Haifa Younes too😊

[@osmancis1]

Inna Lillahi Wa inna ilahi rajioon! May allah bless your entire family and give you all sabr. Give your husband Jannah Al Firdouse ! Ameen!

[@MaryamAkinbola-x1c]

Amin

[@hajaturay6261]

Ameen 🤲

[@ellee9604]

Alhamdulillah. May Allah SWT Continue to Bless the Ummah Aameen Aameen Aaaaaammmmiyn. Young and Old Can Benefit from this Lecture

[@Zenigma217]

Beautiful reminders. Death is like a divorce, and vice versa, a painful and sudden separation none the less.

[@agnieszkakaterji-pu5ph]

Jazak Allah Sister! The best reminder I heard in a long long time! Alhamdulliah everyday!!

[@Truthseeker-o9d]

Mashallah sister may Allah reward you for wearing the niqab

[@saihoujatta4779]

Marsa ALLAH..May ALLAH bless u sister n protect u n your family.

[@omisore-bakaremaryam1540]

Wow... Allahuma Baarik @sis. Naima Robert ..very exhaustive treat on marital reality . Jazakillah khayran katheeran

[@iNikkah]

I wish more people would take pre marital coaching- understanding what you are going into with an outsider who has been married more than 20 years will give perspective

[@chadizdroid]

الحمد لله رب العالمين

[@arshiabasheer75]

Jazakallah hu khairan katheera sister that's a beautiful lecture. I have a request to make to u please make another request to the mothers with daughters, that they should be careful when they get their vengeance out, for their husband's, in front of their daughter's. A lot of mothers teach their daughter's this, "what I had to go through in life u shouldn't, u need to fight", they unfortunately don't realize they are ruining the lifes of their children. Same with mother's with son's, son's are told to keep her in control, starting from the wedding night, which is pathetic. May Allah bless u my sister u've spoken the whole truth. Alhamdulilah

[@misturaadebayo5908]

I give you your flowers, Naima Robert, you deserve them, Walahi. Jazak Allahu Khairan sis ❤❤

[@AfricaTake2]

Amazing and powerful. GRATITUDE

[@DreamEd_Institute]

MashaAllah. May Allah make it easy for us to see that life is just life, there's a better (Jannah) and make us work towards getting there

[@sheenamuhammad2621]

Alhumdullilah May Allah bless you and your children. May Allah help us follow the guidance of our seera and beautiful reminders from you.

[@blackbeautifulandsmart2849]

Unfortunately as a ummah we have adopted western values and ways of life. Our point of reference in way of our marriages is often no longer the example of our prophet salalaahu alayhi wa Salam instead it’s what we see in social media. We live in a throw away society where we have no patience to work on anything but throw it away at the first sign of difficulty. Allahu musta’aan. We also have to know what is the Islamic rights of men and women in way of marriage as often many marriages fall into difficulty when the rights of either party are oppressed. We have lost our way. Marriage is half of our deen yet we do not behave as though it is. We do not want to invest in the very thing that can take us to Jannah yet spend more time investing in things that have far less value. Yes marriage is not easy but imho anything worth having is not necessarily easy but worth the investment. May Allah azza wa jal guide us all. Ameen.

[@LoveAndLoyalty9884]

Its a mega beautiful and beneficial lecture Ma sha Allah..

[@Critic-v8t]

The lack of gratitude hits you when expectations are not met. It's hard but the sister is right you should say alhamdulillah, but like I said it's hard.

[@القرآندستورنا-ك9ض]

My husband of 15 years bought a car for his second wife, same as mine. I was upset why didn’t he inform me before hand, so I told my neighbour what to do, so she said to him I must be like a bug that crawls on the wall so I should not talk to him and just blank him, I listened to her and didn’t talk to him. Two months later he said I am divorced. Two days after the divorce my neighbour flew to her country to her husband. If you asked me I will give a hand and a leg just not to see my kids tears and sadness. Sisters have patience don’t discuss your affair except with a reliable Alim or an Alima. Allah knows best.

[@artisthusnatalal3099]

The neighbour was bad🤨 Sorry

[@nakengebinti2849]

Assalaamu alaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu, masha Allah, Jazak Allah Khair this was an immense blessing to hear these reminders. masha Allah, everything that was said was so true and understandable. I could truly hear what you were saying and Listen. Al hamdulillah, I said "awe man it's a 50 minute video". Al hamdulillah, those 50 minutes were very well spent.

[@farzananisar8626]

Asalamualeikum, Thank you sister for sharing.Alhumdulillah.

[@farzananisar8626]

Do not compare yourself to others.Make dua to Allah SWT.

[@farzananisar8626]

Allah SWT be our guide, sahara, support.Allahumma Ameen

[@shereenkader1781]

I make shukar Alhumdullillah everyday for my wonderful Husband and kids Subhanallah 💕 So many of my friends dnt have this barakah in thr marriages sad 😔 but true And many have lost a spouse Trust me it happens so fast I believe a couple that pray together stay together Alhumdullillah ❤️ And overlook the faults of eachother Stress together and build ❤️ Struggle together and always remember thrs others out thr having a tough time Shukar is ur answer And if Allah aza wajal has given u an ammanaa love them and make shukar salaah for them I make dua u sister stay happy and always do wht u doing U r surely hitting home for many people May Allah aza wajal grant us all AAFIYA THUMA AMEEN💕🤲🏻💯

[@fouzialahri9236]

Jazakallah khayr for sharing much appreciated sister may Allah SWT bless you in abundance for your beautiful advice given

[@vukasnerma4126]

Great to see Sr. Naima nice speaker olso

[@nadiahalid2258]

Wonderful ❤

[@Ummmuhammad765]

Listened twiice and taking notes

[@samrasamra4700]

Subha Allah

[@lbcck2527]

Thank you - I just realized and woken up I need to build into my grown up children wife & husband materials. To make up for lost time/opportunities, I need to be put utmost urgency into this effort for the sake of Allah s.w.t.

[@ab00abdullah]

* The first ten minutes of this lecture deals with a detailed story of the death of a loved one. It was unexpected from reading the lecture title. Her point there is to cherish those that are with you. MashaAllah making my way through the lecture.

[@Sofyh-l4u]

JzkAllahu khayran

[@BizuHalima]

Ameen yee rabbi🤲🤲🤲

[@zarinasayed9043]

جزاک الله💐

[@abdulhameedinamdar5973]

Masha'allah tabarak'allah

[@anoshaynoor7088]

jazakAllah sister

[@moniquemburu]

Ameen

[@omersenayt905]

Jezakeallah heite

[@aaminahdiallo229]

Around 5 minutes I was saying to myself please don’t tell me he passed

[@AllahsServant12]

Subhanallah. Same 😢❤

[@iammeh1211]

Brilliant

[@M.Manique]

8:07 I don’t understand why he would say not now that’s like killing his own daughter!

[@Fatoom65849]

Mashallah

[@BoredKidsTiredMom]

Second day and still cannot complete the video. Need to pause.. think... reflect and soak myself into every word.

[@altamashsameer9418]

Summarise the video in the comments when you complete the video

[@TheOrganics01]

Divorces are more common now because women want them. They don't put up with nonsense anymore and they're financially independent, alhamdulillah

[@abyissahaliba5027]

Lucky that I have Allah to help me careying on

[@artisthusnatalal3099]

*Carrying

[@abyissahaliba5027]

Am one of them, I have everything matériels thank god but I have lonly life 😢

[@abuzak8668]

Make a duaa and ask allah to fill your gap and inshaalah allah will give you

[@omowhanre]

Go into the community and be of SERVICE. Your good health and wisdom are needed.

[@umayoub5]

The grass is always greener on the other side BECAUSE there's plenty of thunderstorms!

[@alvirarahman2690]

Sobbing like a baby for the first 15min

[@ab00abdullah]

* The first ten minutes of this lecture deals with a detailed story of the death of a loved one. It was unexpected from reading the lecture title. And yep, everyday medical emergencies happen when we least expect it. Her point there is to cherish those that are with you. MashaAllah making my way through the lecture.

[@adama.3178]

What were the tips? Be grateful for your spouse is what I got

[@JannatHerzallah]

Many people are abusive or the in laws are abusive (no fear of god) this is why many people divorce. Beautiful story nonetheless

[@jeniferjohnson374]

So a little girl is dying and the parents refused treatment? Please help me understand❤

[@fh1951]

Sorry, where was this mentioned in this video? Please let me know the time stamp for this. Thanks.

[@fauziakhan887]

No they didn't refuse treatment. The Doctors said her time was up.

[@jeniferjohnson374]

@@fauziakhan887 before that she said the doctors said they want to do some things, and the dad told his wife to wait..etc. that is what I heard. Then the next report was "your daughter has passed".

[@tweety25m]

@@jeniferjohnson374waiting was to make sujood of shukr. I hope that makes sense?

[@mosh78]

correct thats wat i heard too, so her story didnt quite add up​@@jeniferjohnson374

[@ChapRSPS]

So according to your talk their should never be a divorce

[@abdiabdi4900]

Poor.mind

[@zabirhussain]

No she doesn't believe there should never be divorce

[@nishatchowdhury7204]

She is talking about both men and wife. If both person support and complete eachother, there is no need of divorce.

[@Tim_mi26]

Assalamualaikum, I am a female college student who has fallen in love with a man and has shared this with my family, hoping to get married soon. Unfortunately, his parents are opposed to our union, citing concerns that it will harm his career and academic future. Please advise us on how to proceed.

[@wallendegen1]

Pray isthikhare and have tawwakul only Allah knows what will benefit you

[@Zazezoo]

Get advice from your local imam or contact a Muslim counsellor. This is just a comments section.

[@Tim_mi26]

@@Zazezoo I have consulted a few people and they said it is his parents fault for not accepting and now I only have one option that is waiting for him till he gets a job and can take my responsibility. His parents will approve it if he gets a job ,and even if still they don't we will get married as Islam allows it.Please make dua that his parents accept me and we marry soon.

[@Tim_mi26]

@@wallendegen1 Jazak Allah.Please make dua that I get married to him.

[@UnicornAsh]

Do istekhara and alot of Istagfar

[@Laviza..x]

There’s no tips to a successful marriage, the only marriage lasts is the one when the man himself wants to be kept by her if not he will either cheat or abuse you.!

[@artisthusnatalal3099]

Not all men really

[@zubyrable]

But what if your spouse cheats on you? multiple times? you didn't talk about that

[@S-fl8sz]

This! May Allah grant you ease my dear

[@Zazezoo]

With regards to that, up-to you what you wish to do! She wasn’t talking about cheats but normal couples who respect each other.

[@UnicornAsh]

You don’t need to be in an environment which is detrimental to your life. Divorce is not a sin, it is disliked by Allah, true.. but Allah also tells us to focus on our good and protect ourselves. You should see what’s good for u. She did speak about abusive or destroying relationship. It comes in that. If u feel giving another try and praying to Allah for things to be good, if you can’t go ahead w it. It’s okay to leave. Do istekhara and alot of istagfar

[@centeredmuslim3436]

The simple answer to that is that your spouse has attacked the very foundation of your marriage multiple times and for whatever reason you have tolerated that. Marriage is built on foundation of trust. We are not christians. Divorce is allowed.

[@mohamudhashim9851]

Don't ever deny me the fact, that my greatest enemy has got cold feet, then and only then, can you be as racist as you like, file for as many divorces as you like. 😁

[@allykhan8594]

Too many following kufr life style, you're not here for the American dream and face book life.

[@R.Ramadan-b4f]

I find it bizarre she's preaching reading the seerah and following the sunnah while giving an islamic lecture to a mixed congregation

[@mosh78]

'preaching' so naive. also its not a mixed congregation, men will be one side and women on other. also she is wearing nikab, wat more do u want (so shes not allowed to talk now lol) is she allowed to go the shops cos there's men n women there😂 dnt make our beautiful religion difficult, esp wen u have some 'extreme' misinterpretation of the religion

[@R.Ramadan-b4f]

@mosh78 where else in the world can you walk into a mosque and see a woman preaching in front of men and women? Only in America (mostly Texas).

[@Zazezoo]

@@mosh78A woman’s voice is also her awrah. No ahlul Sunnah / salafi masjid would permit this 🥴

[@Kzam19-ux8wg]

@@R.Ramadan-b4fwhich islamic countries prevented women speaking to a mix audience?

[@2145thStreetFairview]

​@Kzam19-ux8wg no muslim country allows a woman in a mosque fove a talk among a mixed congregation. Per the sunnah.

[@ohahmad8443]

😡

[@James-yg5lm]

Inspiring talk!!

[@naimahbarnez3385]

MashaALLAH sister we have the same name just I have a h at the end (Na’imah) 🥹🥰🥰 Allhumdulilah