Healing Inner Child: Transformative CBT Methods to Address Abandonment

[@DocSnipes]

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[@WarBringerRedBeard]

For all those people in the comments section with traumatic childhood experiences, you are not alone. Just look how many of us there are. I'm incredibly proud of you all for attempting to work on yourselves. You took the biggest step already, you identified the problem. Now all that remains is to fix it. We're already halfway there. Keep up the hard work!

[@DocSnipes]

I appreciate you watching

[@beachbunny7256]

Thank you! I just want to comment that there is no "fix". You learn coping skills and strategies that can lead to acceptance. After decades of therapy, reading, self work, it's important to know there is no 'fix". But rather many ways to heal.

[@loveleelibra5599]

🕉🙌🙌🙌

[@johnmacleod4481]

My inner child was cruelly damaged in my mind and body when younger

[@iloveFreedom.]

@@johnmacleod4481 I'm trusting that our challenges help make us great listeners for others in the future, it's a skill not many have, I bet you have great sensitivity. My counsellor just mentioned inner child stuff and I found this I think it's fab to acknowledge, to even notice what it is feels freeing for me I guess. And I feel raw, but strong, too inside 🦁Well, take care of yaself be gentle n have fun 😁 sending groovy vibes

[@haddadiwanassa]

Reading the comments gives such power that we are not alone sending love healing and recovery to all those reading

[@julietakhughes4442]

It's tragic to realize you spent your entire life,built every relationship, handled eveey interaction conditioned by an inner child that never felt worthy, or "enough". It all feels like a lie. But opening our eyes means we can heal that child. Hugs to each and all of you.

[@DocSnipes]

Thank you so much for watching. What would you say is your favorite tip from the video on healing the inner child?

[@julietakhughes4442]

Definitely having a conversation with her, and telling her that I love her unconditionally and she no longer has to try so hard to earn love and respect. That she's lovable for who she is🥺❤

[@kr4922]

Oh my !!! Never could put "who I have always been" into words. Why I am, or who I am. The harder I try to prove "worthy", the results eventually are always painful. I never realized that there were so many others like me. I am so exhausted, sad and lonely. I am considered a senior now. Still sad, still lonely and unworthy. When I ask myself why, the answer comes instantaneously to mind, "my childhood".

[@RxLifestyleVitalism]

@@DocSnipes 💯 the rehearsal is my favorite tip! Exactly the next stepping stone I didn’t realize I was ready for. Thank you! I’m so grateful to have found your channel! 💗

[@summerrhone2284]

Realizing that I literally wrote in my personal journals in a voice that wasn’t authentic to myself because of this. I’m sure it didn’t help that my mom would read my journals, so I couldn’t even feel safe sharing my inner thoughts with myself lest she read it, find out I have a crush on my friend’s brother, and tell me I can’t be friends with her anymore because of that. (I was in middle school FFS.) She often cut off friendships all the way back to elementary school and always had a reason I couldn’t be friends with whoever I had grown close with.

[@philu4621]

Im a 31 year old male crying like a baby on this right now...my God the things I've bottled all these years...thank you for this

[@DocSnipes]

Thanks for watching. Wishing you peace, health, and happiness.

[@traceylennon1204]

I'm truly sorry young man..😔💔

[@kevin-stacycorley962]

Realizing u are worthy of unconditional love ❤️ prayer’s that each day u can move forward to healthy life

[@cm9317]

Let it out. No shame in tears ❤️

[@IntraAwareness]

Blessings to you

[@pleasesayhi4009]

You just talk to your inner child and be the adult they needed. It's hard sometimes, to be both the broken one and the healer.

[@christya.9329]

Dear Lord, I hold up in prayer myself and all the other people listening to this video with wounds searching for healing. You know the depths of our pain. We stand together, united, and are asking for a miracle. Also, please restore the years that were lost. Please hear our prayers. Amen

[@leenaopoku-agyemang2106]

Amen

[@stender6111]

Yeah I say "Same here !" but without the lord, prayer, miracle and amen. And said with the greatest respect for all religions and hoping that others will respect my lack of it 😉

[@tangleduniverse5042]

@RIVERENDS7 and you wonder why you're here...hmm

[@heaven7on7earth7]

Psalms 14:1 Only fools say in their hearts, “There is no God.” They are corrupt, and their actions are evil; not one of them does good!

[@Parker2024-e2f]

Amém 🙏

[@Beautyforashes613_]

I entered into a relationship and all of my childhood traumas started emerging. I started to be depressed bc of the inner battle. This video was recommended to me at the perfect time. Thank you I just have to remember that these thoughts are not true. I am good enough, I am lovable and I am worthy of being my best self.

[@alexandranunez7542]

Same here your not alone 🌻

[@mikkelsmikkel8070]

12 years to late for me 🥲

[@tayphiri519]

You are not alone. That inner battle is incomparable to anything else but it’s healing. You’re taking a step in the right direction! Good luck and Godspeed in healing.

[@jwf2125]

@@mikkelsmikkel8070 never too late o like to think.

[@nokwandajobe1021]

2019 was the year for me when i met my twin flame nd im glad it happened

[@mikewilkins2030]

My whole life I’ve known something was wrong. The loneliness, no confidence and parents and family who never talk about feeling or never say sorry I was wrong. Ive tried to share with ppl my life isn’t all that it looks. Many ppl denied me because they say both your parents are there and it looks like love! Man, how everything that glitters isn’t gold!

[@DocSnipes]

Thanks for watching. Wishing you peace, health, and happiness.

[@mercedezbens9322]

“Man, how everything that glitters isn’t gold”! Perfectly describes my life 😢 wishing you much healing❤️‍🩹 !!

[@mikewilkins2030]

@@mercedezbens9322 same to you!

[@brittanyspears3174]

Yes you are not alone my friend. There needs to be more information out there about this....like way MORE! I'm here and I see you...I recognize your struggle. Huge anxiety struggles perfection issues isolated serious of adult abusive relationships. Made me feel so crazy because my reality felt denied.

[@AllIAm1]

Same; no one believes us

[@adftmh19]

I'm imagining myself hugging my inner child, and telling her how strong and brave she is to pass all these wounds. We will work together, and we will always be safe ❤

[@DocSnipes]

That’s an awesome way to start and I love it. I appreciate you watching the video. Other videos you might be interested in can be found at kzbin.infosearch?query=innerchild

[@thaile6149]

Yes you deserve all the love! You can give it to yourself

[@AC86-f2x]

That is exactly how I feel. I’m so proud of my inner child for being so strong in dealing with all of the hurt and wounds. I’m here now to protect the inner child and help her heal from the trauma.

[@torreygreen6794]

This woman just described my entire childhood! I cried like a baby listening to this.

[@DocSnipes]

Thanks for watching. Wishing you peace, health, and happiness.

[@torreygreen6794]

@@DocSnipes Thank you! Thank you for your contributions to mental health! Your videos have helped me more than fifteen years of therapy!

[@loryno1961]

Me too

[@adad707]

Me too I feel the same thing!! She is amazing!!

[@allimac5977]

Totally having the same reaction now myself Torrey. Crying a lifetime of withheld inner child emotion i haven't known what to do with. They say the teacher shows up when the student is ready. I was so ready for this podcast. Thank you God for leading me to this profoundly revelationary and so simply explained video. Thanks so much @Dr Snipes. My journey to healing my inner child to find my authentic self has just begun for the 1st time after years of therapy....never such a big moment as right now. Much love God Bless us all searching for our true identity thats been suppressed for too long. Lord help me now....to go beyond and start the scary but necessary work from cocoon to becoming the beautiful butterfly with wings to fly. 😘

[@MelussinasSong]

My inner child is in crying mode because of a very difficult life. I wish I could go back in time and be a child again. I was such a good child.

[@MelussinasSong]

Thank you for this very helpful video.

[@DocSnipes]

Thanks for watching

[@rinaward3195]

I am now learning to sit still with my 'crying" inner child and actually listen to her. I can give her what she needs, just as I can with a newborn baby. I do know how.

[@florencia2771]

Think about other children that didn’t have a childhood and had to survive. You’re not alone, we’re dispersed all over planet earth.

[@ohthelovelypoems]

@Karaoke Konnection 🙏💜🙏

[@jillian9706]

It's taken so long to recognize how much my parents' actions have affected me in my adult life and caused so many issues for me. Even down to denying that my problems are valid and that I'm ungrateful for feeling this way, as I'm trying to learn to fix these problems. It really is insane how much a parent can manipulate your entire thought process and self-worth.

[@DocSnipes]

I appreciate you watching the video. What did you find most useful from it? Other videos you might be interested in can be found at kzbin.infosearch?query=inner

[@willintelli]

Me too... It was this past November when Facebook advertised a post about abandonment trauma. Here I've been everyday between including today digging deep into it looking for healing.

[@oflavia2910]

So true. It's also good to see how we are leading our current lives that look glamorous fun and interesting and yet carrying this huge past of childhood wounding

[@oflavia2910]

​@@DocSnipesI found most useful the ways in which we can work through reparenting the inner child wounded, giving specific working examples. If you can look at the comments and make more videos on inner child relation building trust safety and inner child wounded pattern repair reparenting. There's sooooo much to this. And so many hurting souls

[@evolonten]

anytime i bring up my childhood with my family it’s always “ you were spoiled, your mom did everything for you “ , what they don’t know is the betrayal , embarrassment , shame, invalidation, etc etc she gave me too. In turn , not being able to understand or accept what i went through i became angry and honestly , as im typing this resentful, i fought back anyway i could.. after the fighting and trying to fix our relationship while she put it all on me, im finally just giving up. I’ve rejected myself relationships, friends, fun times etc etc because i’ve felt guilty for being “ such a bad child “ and wishing i was “ like my other friends “… im 22 now, and im going to start actually loving myself and the child in me. God is the only parent i need , and we’re on this journey together 🤞🏾❤️

[@DocSnipes]

Thanks for watching.

[@warrior514]

You have a whole life ahead of you. I'm glad you are in the process of healing now and not 10, 20, 30 yrs from now. Sending all sorts of good vibes your way.

[@evolonten]

@@warrior514 thank you for those kind words

[@alexandra2536]

@@evolonten You are on the rightest path with God ! Never give up on Him, He is the only one who will truly love you on this Earth and fill you with the most precious gift that we cannot find outside ourselves, that is the Holy Spirit.🕊💖

[@Webbgurl2000]

Find safe people to share with who won’t shame you. Family isn’t always safe.

[@misskim237]

Trying to be the best parent I can be, trying to deal with my wounded child and not wanting to transfer trauma is so hard 😭

[@DocSnipes]

Thanks for watching. Wishing you peace, health, and happiness.

[@D.j.2580]

tu es camer?

[@haleywarren3802]

I totally agree, I'm parenting my boys and trying to parent myself at the same time. It's a bit scary but I'm trying not to put too much pressure on myself

[@somenelsons]

It is the absolute hardest thing I have ever done. ❤️

[@alyqat4]

So hard. Always feel like I’m failing.

[@helenacummings2745]

I was verbally sexually physically and emotionally abused. I had a very hard time controlling my emotions. My inner child was very traumatized. I have come a very long way. This video explains so much to really help you heal, thank you.

[@DocSnipes]

Thanks for watching. Wishing you peace, health, and happiness.

[@ceecee1163]

I kno how ur feeling. Sending ALL us healing energy ✨️

[@laurafradkoff660]

Helena be well 💕

[@Ordinationcalls]

I am practically crying my eyes out. I feel my life being explained in this video. Understanding why I went from one failed relationship to the other and how I react to life’s situations. Thank you for this video

[@gabrielamartiniuc6322]

Shamed, blamed , humiliated, insulted, ignored , attacked verbally, bullied . My childhood in a nutshell.

[@DocSnipes]

:( Wishing you peace, health, and happiness.

[@dvez7542]

Same hear. Afyer many years I managed how to forgive but the sadness doesn't leave me.The beatings, screaming and all of that caused me to have a lifetime of tears. I'm finally emerging from that but the sadness remains, and I was a good kid, not mean/evil punk like some bullies I knew. My father was the biggest bully of them all.

[@SMC1986]

Same ❤️ sending love

[@darlal2698]

@@dvez7542 mine was also.

[@sanamichael8563]

Same with me, struggling to live normal life. I try to avoid people.

[@Mezzie1957]

Most of us know what the problem is or how we’ve been specifically traumatized what we don’t hear enough is empowering ourselves and healing ourselves

[@DocSnipes]

Thanks for watching. Wishing you peace, health, and happiness.

[@arisebellefire16]

@Enjoy in Joy 🥰

[@urbansetter1]

Exactly. All this awareness with no solution is really worthless.

[@renea1056]

5566

[@LoveBug7828]

@@urbansetter1 That’s honestly how I feel every day.

[@savedbygrace5416]

I went through a traumatic childhood and became extremely quiet and started experiencing lots of anxiety in social situations along with a lack of self esteem. I don’t know why my mother decided to have a child that she was never willing to love. Thank you for this video.

[@DocSnipes]

Thanks for watching! Wishing you peace, health, and, happiness.

[@ascajeruto]

You are not alone

[@thaile6149]

You are very strong. You deserve love and belonging!

[@suryabhan7848]

You are a pure soul,believe me you are not alone,I'm an emergency doctor, I left my kids with my father, when I came back to hospital my kids told me,that grandpa used to tease them while having lunch..for table manners,sometimes even beat them... Throw the food even.😢 Now I'm with my kids,...my kids are everything to me...

[@musicanovas6]

"Right now, there are people all over the world who are just like you. They're either lonely, they're missing somebody, they're depressed, they're hurt, they're scarred from the past, they're having personal issues no one knows about, they have secrets you wouldn't believe. They wish, they dream and they hope. And right now, they are sitting here reading these words, and I'm writing this for you so you don't feel alone anymore. Always remember, don't be depressed about the past, don't worry about the future, and just focus on today. If today's not so great don't worry! Tomorrow's a new chance. If you are reading this, be sure to share this around to make others feel better. Have a nice day!"Amen ❤ God bless you 🙏😇 Wish you always success, good health, love life and happiness ❤

[@DocSnipes]

Thanks for watching and commenting.

[@mikewilkins2030]

Thank you for your words!

[@musicanovas6]

@@DocSnipes I am happy to hear this from you. I hope you have a good day, God bless abundantly! 😊

[@musicanovas6]

@@mikewilkins2030 I am happy to hear this from you. I hope you have a good day, God bless abundantly! 😊

[@jonnydoswell7142]

reading this has helped my situation, thankyou

[@charityhope9546]

Through therapy I have built a relationship with my inner child. I nurture love and protect her. I tell her she is safe and she deserved better. This relationship helps my adult mind and body appear more in my current relationships instead of my past traumas emerging, creating imbalance. It’s always a work in progress but it can be done. I did intensive therapy and recommend the same if that’s an option. God bless!

[@DocSnipes]

Thanks for watching and commenting.

[@seansmith5547]

How would I initiate that dialogue? What does it look like, feel like?

[@TRNSL8]

Thanks for sharing you experience! I was on the fence and felt I didn't need therapy, I've gotten really far through reading a lot of therapy/psychology books but this may be a great add on for me to heal my inner child. As advice for people in relationships, long term/marriage, if the inner child wasn't developed in the best environments a lot of explosive or toxic behaviors may be exposed. I'm grateful for the amount of resources that are available to help everyone and highly encourage you to add on healing the inner child as self work or self knowledge/development.

[@doloreslujansalvador2644]

What kind of therapy did you did pls Could tell us ?thank you.

[@TRNSL8]

@@doloreslujansalvador2644 Don't know if you were asking me but try to contact your local psychotherapist.

[@irong105]

Listening to this after just losing my job after 13 years. Crying and journaling. Trying to figure out what unhealed trauma is preventing me from living the life I want to live. It's tough, but I believe healing the inner child is the key to mental health and inner peace.

[@ShalemAhava]

I’m proud of you 🫶🏾

[@sonyxperia7881]

Same here. Proud of you. Stay strong.

[@happylindsay4475]

It has rocked me to my core first having to come to terms that I am living/relating in a style that I have learned- and where it is most pronounced is in my intimate partner relationships. Which speaks to where my wounds are deepest. Withdrawing, criticizing, being ( unknowingly most times) manipulative which for me is in the form of procrastination, being nice, aloof/“mysterious”- sometimes patronizing which is a form of shaming right? and needing to be in the “superior” position ( to deflect from shame/ insecurity/ lack of connection) The hard part is realizing I have taken in the worst aspects of my parents and see how I love in the way I was loved. Trying to fix this opens me up to a lot of strong, powerful feelings of grief-it means acknowledging the unmet needs of the little girl inside. I have trouble getting her trust- so profound are my feelings of shame, fear and estrangement. I. can’t face her yet- and writing this I realize this is how I continue to abandon myself. I do not have children of my own- I knew the idea of being a parent was confusing, scary and not a clear direction as to what that truly meant or how to accomplish it. I didn’t know it consciously, but somewhere knew I didn’t want to repeat a cycle that started long before me. I don’t blame my parents - I can see that it’s almost impossible to give what you didn’t receive- and how quickly and insidiously that becomes your/our/their normal. I am thankful for these videos, and the access to healing they provide. Sorry for the long response. Wishing all who read this- healing and a deep sense of knowing that you are enough.

[@katiewoenker2633]

I can totally relate to how you are feeling and how you relate to others. I have experienced what you are describing. From starting to meditate more and engaging more gentleness with myself helps with hearing my inner child more clearly. From watching this, a question came to mind, how do we discern whether uncomfortable feelings/anxiousness/fight or flight are arising from the inner child versus the adult? I notice how reactive my adult self is and how automatic it is to demean or shame. I feel like the inner child is the light and true part, and learning to validate those feelings for whatever they are can really help.

[@dawnemile4974]

Your sharing was much appreciated.

[@mariesook9141]

I understand and felt so much of what you shared. Thank you for being so open and willing. It greatly helped me.

[@toni-leighlouw507]

Needed this video & this honest post...thank you...

[@yvonne3903]

Never thought of procrastination as a form of control/manipulation, but your right it is and I do it all the time. It is also a way to protect yourself, that is the root of our bad behaviours ( protection ) and I never thought about it like that, I was always just running late because ?? whatever. Thanks Happy Lindsay

[@richiesaul9073]

This is awesome , thank you. I hit bottom a couple years ago and reached out to a therapist for help due to the inner pain that was killing me, literally. She suggested getting a pet to distract me from the heart ache or spend more time with my friends.. etc I made the conscious decision to make my inner child my best friend. I started talking to him. I started spending time with him and reminding us both he had never been safer ! Ever in our lives! Since people are seen talking to “themselves” when on the phone , no one really paid attention to me as I vocalized to my inner child anything at all. Lol My life changed. My love life changed! My confidence continues to grow and grow. Best decision I ever made was to make my inner child my best friend. Try it before criticizing…. Help yourself- help yourself !

[@DocSnipes]

You’re so welcome, Richie. Thank you for watching the video and for sharing what helped you.

[@ucheodedo8963]

Thank you. I will try this.

[@marcibaker8352]

At one point a wise person told me to have a funeral for the parents I expected to have to help me embrace the parents I have. Each parent got their own funeral , and their own obituary. It helped a lot. Also I have a doll that looks like I did as a child. I call her by my childhood nickname. I helps me to parent my inner child.

[@DocSnipes]

Thanks for sharing.

[@futurefieldsforever4411]

What a great idea. I’m gonna try it

[@dvez7542]

My entire life in this video. Somehow, I've managed to forgive but the sadness remains even though I finally have some peace. There was no one to turn to, ever. Just me in my loneliness, unaware of how the abuse would impact me. Numbness as a child that would turn into a lifetime challenge of procrastination, fear, numbness.

[@kimglass7492]

Please just call out to Jesus, you will begin to feel peace and love.

[@flowergirl6035]

May I recommend a relationship with God your father in heaven. Blue Letter Bible website has many tools for you to explore free. I have found great sense of well-being from learning from others who were hurting and misunderstood too. Hugs 🤗 to you sweet man

[@jlwestbrook325]

Yep, they would take out their anger on me because I was the quiet one....didn't give them trouble or talk back.

[@FreedomForever116]

@@jlwestbrook325 my mother has told me "I would go for days & never speak to anyone else in our home" as a child. I wasn't allowed to speak, speaking, expressing certain emotions was dangerous. We had the constant threat of getting "a beating", usually insulted & mocked before the beating, "this is going to hurt you more than it's going to hurt me!" So I tried to stay as low under the radar as possible to protect.

[@michaelschenk1953]

IT IS SIMPLE TO GET TO HEAVEN! CHILD LIKE SIMPLE!!! 1) Believe Jesus Christ shed his precious blood to pay your sin debt in full, past, present and future. 2) Believe he died on the cross and was buried. 3) Believe God raised him from the dead on the 3rd day. If you believe that. You are saved. How can this be? Read on please. John 3:3 Jesus answered and said unto him, Verily, verily, I say unto thee, Except a man be (born again), he cannot see the kingdom of God.” Well how do I become born again? You should understand who Jesus is, the Son of God, God the son, that you are a sinner in need of a saviour, and believe (what Jesus did). (The Gospel) 1 Corinthians 15:1 Moreover, brethren, I declare unto you the (GOSPEL) which I preached unto you, which also ye have received, and wherein ye stand; 2 By which also ye are ((SAVED)), if ye keep in memory what I preached unto you, unless ye have believed in vain. ** 3 For I delivered unto you first of all that which I also received, how that Christ died for our sins according to the scriptures; ** 4 And that he was buried, and that he rose again the third day according to the scriptures:” ** Believe the Gospel and you will recieve the Holy Spirit, God's mark on your soul, and be saved.. You can not lose it. Call out to Jesus, thank him for his life saving sacrifice, shedding his blood for all your sins! That is the narrow road. Its so simple nobody believes it. People think (They) have to do something. All you need to do is BELIEVE this Gospel, 1 Corinthians 15:1-4 KJV to be saved Ephesians 2:8 “For by (grace are ye saved through faith); and that not of yourselves: it is the gift of God:” 9 “Not of works, lest any man should boast.

[@tiktokshortlane5478]

Wow crying my eyes out!! I found out my whole family are narcissistic. So now I have to reparent my self! My inner child is so wounded didn’t even realize until I start loving myself more

[@DocSnipes]

Thanks for watching. Wishing you peace, health, and happiness.

[@SA-px3ln]

How did you heal from narcissist family ?

[@susanasante9006]

@@SA-px3ln just marry a person from a non narcissistic family and make his/hers life hell , then you feel better,that’s what happened to me husband narcissist verbally abuse he felt so good seeing me crying,I have cried during my marriage to him than when I was a kid, he had a miserable childhood and was jealous of me when he seen me care free he will find something to start problem to make me angry and start verbally abuse me, at least he never hit me , I stayed with him because the kids and I felt sorry for him that when’s for 40 years till he died three years ago. I certainly don’t miss him , and never I am looking for another, I am happy with my self .

[@user-fm8mw8by4o]

@@susanasante9006 omg same I had never cried in my life as much as I cried with my narc Ex. It’s miserable

[@emansiam7861]

Thank you so much for this video. I am a mom who caused (without intending or noticing) a trauma to my daughter by neglecting and not understanding her feelings. She is now 28 and all her negative feelings emerged 2 years ago. Feeling guilty and not knowing how to rectify the situation, I came accross by mere chance to this video which made me aware of the core problem... Wow as if I found a treasure and a response to my questions. I told my daughter about this video and we are going to watch it together tonight so we can set a plan how to move forward. Million thanks.

[@kirstinstrand6292]

You and your daughter are fortunate to have this time together to do a "Do Over!" Just this morning I wished that my Parents were still alive, so that we could show the love that none of us could, way back then.

[@terrikennedy3088]

How beautiful mom! I hope your relationship with your daughter thrives as it continues to grow. I am a daughter who's broken relationship with my mom contributed to many more than 28 years of deep hurt and self blame. Your post made me smile.

[@DocSnipes]

Thanks for watching. Wishing you peace, health, and happiness.

[@marihi8621]

I started crying when I read your post. It is so beautiful.

[@SusanaXpeace2u]

If I thought my mum understood and cared that she'd hurt me, that would really soften my heart but she has put all of her energy in to discrediting me and shaming me and smearing me.

[@tarayasminmel]

You have a real talent for explaining psychology in a way that is crystal clear and precise. Thank you ever so much for sharing!

[@DocSnipes]

Wow, Thanks so much!

[@sunshineysideoflife]

I agree

[@fw7809]

I agree totally. It was so concise and easy to digest. Thank you for taking the time to explicitly communicate this information.

[@d821010]

I agree. Thank you for this very insightful presentation, it helped a lot to understand this subject clearly.

[@fredricksigei6366]

Most illuminating 🙏🏽👌🏾

[@Paulathompson1712]

You have helped me more in just 40 minutes than from decades of wasteful "therapy" - you seem to go right to the issues that need resolving, thank you

[@DocSnipes]

Too kind. Thanks so much for watching!

[@batraworldwide720]

High compliment! I saved the video and intend to rewatch over and over so I can learn how to explain it to others too. Rad that you gained so much from it

[@2nicBarry]

@@DocSnipesThanks

[@lomett1]

I lived with unpredicted behavioral father, he can beat the sh*t out of me one day and spoil me the other day. The pain and trauma that those behaviors left is making my life a mess as an adult. Thank you for this.

[@DocSnipes]

So welcome. I appreciate you watching. Other videos that might help can be found at: kzbin.infosearch?query=trauma

[@willcosta5815]

I had a father like this too. He would either idealize me or devalue (abuse) me.

[@justsayin6767]

Do you still talk to him?

[@FaithFashionFinances]

My mother used to blab my private concerns to everyone, it was one reason I never trusted her at all.

[@caseteamcouture8633]

I realize I did this to my now 19 year old. I’m not sure how to fix the disconnect with her.

[@earthpearl3790]

@@caseteamcouture8633 You could begin by giving yourself some understanding for surely you were doing the best you could at the time. You might have just needed support, for people to know what you going through with your daughter.

[@coachingsuccessfulhealing2111]

I can relate Meghan. My mom called everyone who would listen to tell them started my cycle.

[@Hollablackgirl93]

Yes, my mom would call her friends and tell all of my business but would tell me, "what goes on in this house stays in this house".

[@lorilee7213]

@@coachingsuccessfulhealing2111 OMG .....So did my mom. She owned a beauty salon at the time. I went there to see her and she grabbed me took me to the middle of the salon and said ...Everyone Lori started her period today. It wasn't real busy but all the hairdressers were there a few of them gay men and i dont know if she thought that was ok ,i almost died.

[@334gamestop]

This video made me cry because of the acknowledgement of problems with my inner child and with my childhood education

[@happylindsay4475]

I feel you so much. Hope you find some comfort from this and peace.

[@DocSnipes]

Wishing you peace, health, and happiness.

[@SinfulScents]

When I saw nearly 2 million people viewed this it made me wish kids only experienced GOOD! We all deserve safety and happiness especially as a child ❤wish we all could have had a safe upbringing

[@sanamichael8563]

No wonder why I let people to step on my boundaries, I am scared to say ‘no’ , I can’t express my anger verbally to those who hurt me. When someone annoys me, I cry in my dreams and my husband has to wake me up to get out of my dream. I am living that child who was abandoned emotionally and was living in fear all the time. Dr. You are really talking about me. Help me to set free from worries and fears and misery.

[@TrulyUnbothered]

Practice standings up for your self in a small way. As soon as you notice the feeling of guilt for saying no remind yourself that this feeling is not bad but new. (Also i loveeee watching my favorite child hood cartoons. I watched tom and jerry today lol) 💙🌷 you got this boo

[@glendagregory2508]

me too

[@donnaarney543]

Me too. Me too, please help me.

[@dianetincher5596]

I love this video. I needed this validation so badly. There is a valid reason for why I have been feeling and behaving this way for so many years. I am not inherently broken. I am not unfixable. I am not a defective person uncapable of doing anything useful with my life. When she said the words: "you need to develop a secure attachment with yourself," she just gave me hope for the possibility of not having to live the rest of my life trapped in a prison of terrifying fear of ever getting hurt again. I am so isolated right now because I can't handle shame, rejection, criticism, failure.

[@DocSnipes]

Thanks for sharing. Wishing you peace, health, and happiness.

[@billstock3663]

It's ironic isn't that it's usually the people who had a stable, loving and happy childhood are the ones offering all the unlucky ones who didn't have an ideal childhood advice and therapy. The irony is that the people who come from troubled childhoods are in actuality the experts on the subject as opposed to the textbook "experts" offering their services.

[@pauladuncanadams1750]

@@billstock3663 People go into healing careers BECAUSE they came from dysfunctional families and needed healing, not the otherway around. Yes, some are narcissistic but many codependent. And almost all were damaged. When looking for a therapist, you have the right to ask if they ever had and do they currently have their own therapist. Ideally, you want a therapist who has done the work on their own issues and continues to maintain their own mental health. Best of luck.

[@billstock3663]

@@pauladuncanadams1750 thanks for your input. I previously made a comment to someone about how they would be able to overcome their past trauma and neglect and the issues that come with it, but I wish I wouldn't have because I have not been able to take my own advice and that makes me dishonest. For people who have come from bad childhoods or even less than ideal ones, I think statistics show that they go on to lead less than happy or productive lives. I'm one of them and at 52 I still can't get to a place where I could feel truly happy and worthy of it. This whole psychology industry is actually a cruel one because it does nothing more than offer false hope fpr sp may with the exception of a small few for a better tomorrow,again statistics could support this claim as well as the fact that I personally know a few individuals who have not benefited from so called "therapy" and the worst part is that they paid good money for that false hope. Going to for therapy sessions once per week is like eating a crumb when you're hungry, it isn't enough to overcome your everyday life and all the hours after that you spend with yourself. Pysychological couseling looks good on paper but not really practical in everyday life settings. I'm not a proponent for government imposing their views on how the public should live their lives but the one huge exception that I would support is that would require people to meet four criteria if they want to have children. 1)at minimum a high school diploma 2) an I.Q. of 100 or greater 3)prove that you are financially capable of providing for your children 4)be pychologically vetted to ensure that you are not prone to abusing your children in any way shape or form. Can you imagine if these four criteria were applied to anyone before starting a family were enforced than we would be living in a world where every child had a chance to be happy and succeed in life and would become happy and productive adults. it would be a win win for our world.

[@pauladuncanadams1750]

@@billstock3663 I also agree that life skills should be taught in school, including home economics, basic finance, basic psychology plus inner child work, like learning to self soothing and various other mental health techniques. And I also feel that you should be certified before you are allowed to have children, but that's not gonna go over well with others. This would include learning childcare skills, learning about child development, and finally some time working in a childcare setting.

[@leephang15]

I believe most of the people here are quite ready and primed to take on their situations because we all have come to terms to look into ourselves to repair what others can't. The struggle in itself to recognise that alone is actually difficult because many people who are in this situation usually blame their caregivers and other people in theirs lives whilst the influence have happened because of them but it is really up to ourselves to seek better. The thing is everyone recognizes it but not everyone realizes it. I wish everyone can realize it. Great thanks and love goes out to people who spread ways in which how to find yourself when you are lost 💝

[@DocSnipes]

Thanks for watching. Wishing you peace, health, and happiness.

[@teamorn7539]

I can relate so much hearing this … I am a traumatized child … am now 50years old and still haunted from my childhood memories

[@DocSnipes]

Thanks for watching. Wishing you peace, health, and happiness.

[@angelinapearson5560]

I personally very much appreciate your huge courage to share… (I too have undergone deep trauma and am addressing my own -and I am 56 years old woman). I am sending you prayers so that you may heal and find -connect with- wonderful people along the way… You deserve them. Truly. I believe that there is a God that is Inlove with us but in order to experience God’s Unconditional Love we must learn to Love ourselves with gentle tenderness and kind wisdom. We are traumatized because we were not cherished… Now God is leading me to personally love, cherish myself… It’s an unnatural instinct when one was been loved conditionally but it IS possible to achieve (and I’m getting better at it). I am sending you Grace and Love 💕🙏🏼. Namaste (my soul sees and honors yours)

[@lorinourse927]

Omg she’s describing me more accurately than anyone ever has… 😢

[@DocSnipes]

Thanks for commenting and watching. Wishing you peace, health, and happiness.

[@kimpartee2327]

Spot on and I didn’t know it all until I was in my 40s . That’s when all hell broke down and I started understanding myself for the very first time .

[@juliea.244]

I feel that. I knew my mom was toxic, my brother was left much worse off, he has absolutely no self-esteem, (I'm 55) I JUST discovered the term "narcissistic personality disorder", mom the worst kind..funny, got to that just a few days ago. My aunt (mom's sister & her daughter) are playing psychological games with me they are more covert NARCs, & I was totally baffled by their behavior, so I started researching, that's when I found Narcissist Personality Disorder online & have been blown away this past week. Run's in their family & it is crystal clear. All hell is breaking loose for me already, but I WOULD HAVE NEVER UNDERSTOOD IT ACTUALLY HAS A NAME, IS THE REASON WHY THE FAMILY IS THE WAY IT IS, AND WHAT ME & MY BROTHER WERE REALLY SUBJECTED TO unless I was in my situation. I guess I was destined to get to the nasty truth, I am the only one in the whole family that now understands why everyone in that family is damaged.

[@realitywinner7582]

@@juliea.244 one is always picked to heal 'it' and break the chain. well done !

[@chai_academia]

My parents were never purposefully neglectful or emotionally abusive, but I have rather recently realized the emotional trauma I've gone through. I definitely resonated with a lot of this.

[@DocSnipes]

Thanks for watching.

[@jenjen3131387]

I paid for 3 very expensive years of therapy that never even touched on this. The last entire year of therapy was over zoom and the therapist did the session from their vacation home in the boondooks, so needless to say we cancelled often and I would still be charged for a partial visit. I wish I had seen this three years ago as I would have roughly $4k more in my HSA and saved a ton of frustration.

[@DocSnipes]

Thanks for watching. Glad you found the video helpful.

[@paulbaker3144]

I was ripped off by a phony healer. And then didn’t have money to food or gas. People who prey on the ill are lowest scum!!

[@nichole5886]

I don't know your background. But thought about going for treatment and am weary. Plus so much money

[@07wrxtr1]

Bingo: the majority of these "new age" "therapists" are just in it for the copays/insurance money; They nolonger challenge their clients... it's almost criminal.

[@loveandlight692]

I know this was posted 8 months ago but, if anyone happens to stumble across this and have the same experience, I'd recommend looking into a life coach. Therapist's are a great first step to identify what your traumas are, how, and why you are who you are. Some Therapist's are better than others, and you are the one in charge of that relationship. You have every right, and you absolutely take control on deciding to proceed with a Therapist based on how they are or are not helping you. If they are not helping you, you HAVE to "fire" them, and check out other options. My daughter had an interaction with a therapist whom would've made her worse by the way she was judgemental in her tone, and didn't respect her needs or answer her questions. I thank God that we were put on the path with a different therapist. He has been absolutely amazing for her, and she has done extremely well. With that being said, therapy only works if you work with it, and allow it to work. Idc who you are or how much therapy you receive, if you aren't willing to receive and work with that knowledge, therapy will not help you. Like when someone tells you to leave your partner because they see the red flags and don't know your vision on the inside based off of your view with the rose tinted glasses. You will not leave that relationship until you are ready, and you see and feel those toxic events and recognize your worth. You get to have the control over this one aspect though, and that is a great thing to acknowledge. We all know that there were so many things that we didn't have control over, which is probably a big reason we seek a therapist help in the first place. It is just comforting when you take that first step of seeking a therapist, and it is the one thing that you can solidly say that you have control over. You control who you will choose by trial and error, to help you understand yourself. It is imperative that if they are not helping you, that you find the one who will, who matches your personality, and speaks to you in words that you can understand. Remember, you have control here. That brings me to the next step that I firmly believe is of absolute importance, is finding a life coach or program that helps you identify ways to move forward. Once you've worked with a therapist and get to know who you are, as well as the why and how you operate you have to develop a plan to find the true happiness and wholeness that you deserve. Implementing a plan with the knowledge of what has shaped you is what will lead to success. You do have to believe in yourself. Because you deserve the life that you want. You deserve peace, happiness, and security. A coach or program can help you get a plan put together, and if you choose can help be your support and encouragement as you continue to work out the kinks and help close the door to the past hurts and traumas. They can help guide and support you to a better future. That is why I believe both are important. You get to have control here too. If the coach or program doesn't sync with your needs, there are so many more out there. The best part about the whole journey is that you finally get to have control over your life from the moment you take control of your healing. Things out of your control will happen, unfortunately that is life. But you get to choose how you respond and what you allow to come across your boundaries once you've identified them. It all intertwines with each other, and can all be a helpful route on your big map of your life. I guess what my main point is, a therapist is good at the past. But what good does that do, if you have no idea how to move forward with the knowledge of the past? This is just my opinion, and what I am navigating myself. It may not be what you need for your next steps. But if it is, I hope it truly helps you. There are many KZbin videos that can help, for free in this area as well. Remember, you have the control now. It was not your fault that others inflicted the traumas you face. You are not responsible for their actions. You are only responsible for your own happiness, and the steps you will take to find it. You will succeed! I wish you so much healing, peace, love, acceptance, prosperity and abundance on your journey. You deserve every bit of it. 🤍

[@haddadiwanassa]

Mom is something of a mixture of schizophrenic and narcissism and I still remember her constant criticism, walking away when I cried, shaming, blaming , ignoring, absence of feelings , I don't ever remember she ever held or kissed me as a child ... Only now at 33 that I face this after a life of a mess , low self esteem, confidence, always feelings that something huge inside is missing . Dad was great that's the good bit may he rest in peace. I hope you heal, and live better whoever reading ...

[@DocSnipes]

I am sorry your mother treated you like that and I appreciate you watching the video. What tips will you use first to start healing the inner child?

[@haddadiwanassa]

@@DocSnipes well now that I am conscious of it I am starting to recognise it be present with it through meditation and affirm that I am now safe that I am loved reparenting my inner child consciously. I plan to integrate yoga as I learned it helps releasing negative emotions stuck in our bodies ♥️ my goals are to learn to be confident in myself enough, to sometimes play and have fun which is what the inner child seeks: safety love and fun.. I don't have any close relationships whatsoever my relationships failed and mostly bcz of my inability to trust ... wishing peace, health, and prosperity to you 💓

[@shamariheals]

this came at just the right time, i just got out of yet another toxic situation that has been happening time after time in my life and while in that relationship so many inner child wounds started coming up its like my inner child was begging me to leave shes tired of being in toxic relationships

[@DocSnipes]

Thanks for watching.

[@thaile6149]

You go girl!

[@sumukhathrey4262]

This video seems to be worth a fortune and thanks for making it available for everyone! I now understand why I am the way I am and hope to improve myself with what I learnt here.

[@DocSnipes]

Thanks for watching. Wishing you peace, health, and happiness.

[@bellbranda]

When the Student is ready the Teacher will appear! You just validated everything in 45 minutes and it changed my life. Thank you for your work! God Bless

[@DocSnipes]

You are Welcome. Thanks for being part of the channel.

[@shrutibhoir5831]

This video really validated what I've felt all along in 22 years of my life. I feel that I can finally change my behavior and understand my thinking patterns. Thank you so much from the bottom of my heart! ❤️

[@DocSnipes]

You're so welcome! Thanks for watching.

[@zinathetravellingstorytell6882]

If you find your inner child also comes out at work, don't feel ashamed, it happened to me too. School life in childhood is like work life in adulthood and similar traumas, stresses can be activated there.

[@DocSnipes]

Thanks for watching. Wishing you peace, health, and happiness.

[@FreedomForever116]

Me also, talk about triggered...

[@dontcry667]

As someone who as an adult still lives in the fear of parents and have curated my entire self for my parents. It feels like i have abandoned myself but the perfectionist with a superiority complex is the version i am most proud of.

[@DocSnipes]

Thank you for watching the video. What did you find most helpful from it?

[@grassroot011]

God offers healing above and beyond anything that humans can conjure up. " If a mother rejects her child,, abandons care and love, the Lord will take him up." I've experienced this and witnessed it myself. The,, Great physician heals the best and more completely.

[@DocSnipes]

Thanks for watching. Wishing you peace, health, and happiness.

[@davidsisson2026]

I experienced most of these things as a child. I didn't know of course at the time. Lots of issues with relationships as an adult. Have been parenting myself and searching for answers for many years. Seems to me there is so much of this in our country. Can't imagine what our future generations are going through.

[@DocSnipes]

I am sorry about that and I appreciate you watching the video. Other videos you might be interested in can be found at kzbin.infosearch?query=innerchild

[@biancamasci8995]

Came into my recommendation at just the right time. I've always been a caregiver when I just wanted someone to give me the care that I was robbed as a child. I've never felt safe but that's what I strive to give everyone. I honestly needed to hear this! Gonna repeat this video until I can finally accept the fact that I can give myself everything I've ever wanted as a child

[@DocSnipes]

Thanks for watching. Wishing you peace, health, and happiness.

[@juliea.244]

what you said is important, sometimes (in my case narcissist parent) turn out an opposite behavior child, an empath. This is me also. You somehow as a child understood what was going on & it was very wrong, painful, but didn't let it crush you like it does most kids, and then they go on to repeat the ingrained behavior (how it perpetuates, it is sub-conscious programming). Instead, understanding that you chose to go the opposite way. I have always had a heart filled with compassion.

[@jessicacruz2012]

This video made me aware of all the trauma I’ve buried for so many years. Thank you so much!!

[@DocSnipes]

Thanks for watching. Wishing you peace, health, and happiness.

[@marliesyanke4580]

That was my marriage to a unresponsive man.

[@dycinnagy]

I have been working on my inner child/shadow work and this has been very helpful. Im definitely coming back to re-watch this video until I comprehend and understand myself, my inner child, and how to work through my feelings/emotions, and will also be coming back for more videos. Ill also be referring others to your channel. Very much appreciated and thank you very much.

[@DocSnipes]

Thanks so much for sharing! It helps the channel grow.

[@apologeticministry]

Shadow work and inner child aren't the same thing . One can literally kill you family and friends and the other inner child is a hurt child

[@actwell14]

I am just sitting with my inner child listening him, feeling him, validating him, empathizing with him so he vents it all out. I appreciate the fact that he had been brave all through and achieved so much for this adult. But why the child is crying now? Fir a few huge financial mistakes...remorse ...But the remorse will leave once the child is listened to. Fully, non-judgmentally!

[@DocSnipes]

Thank you for watching the video and for sharing.

[@bostonsupermom8214]

Watching this video to learn about myself and acknowledge my parenting and try to prevent repeating the cycle. Thank you so much. This video Popped up at the perfect timing.

[@DocSnipes]

Thanks for watching. Wishing you peace, health, and happiness.

[@anjalijha6913]

It's really difficult from being a parentified child to now re parent the inner child

[@Jacques._charlot]

@@dia.6213 m no eco

[@Jacques._charlot]

@@dia.6213 did

[@Megan6772]

Right!!! No matter which phase of life, we lost out 😔♥️

[@Peanuts76]

one thing to notice is acceptance that life is not perfect, we have flaws and if there's any, wounds and trauma in our childhood that we bring into adulthood..... or if you are like me, accept that our caregiver, which is in my case are Narcissist, are never change, grieving over this, and forgive your lost childhood, is part of the process....

[@elizabethmoore25]

We can only be heroes when we do the difficult. Find a lyric of a song and let it resonate like a battle cry just for today.

[@inspired9239]

I framed my kindergarten picture and keep it out to look at when I can talk to it as an adult as I should have been talked to when I was a child. I learned that's one method to help heal from my past. Our psyche is so complex, I think it takes several methods, repetition, and time to rewire our bad conditioning not only brought about by parents, but from all influencers growing up. I'm still finding ways to help in that healing process. Dr. Joe Dispenza, Dr. Bruce Lipton, Gregg Braden, and Jesus Christ have been excellent, positive teachers to name a few.

[@DocSnipes]

I appreciate you watching

[@amberdawnhills90]

I went through all of the examples of traumatizing behavior as a kid. It’s damaged me in so many ways. Finally on the road to healing.

[@DocSnipes]

Sorry to hear. Thanks for watching. Wishing you peace, health, and happiness.

[@jessicalinneaa]

This video is one of the most helpful (and hardest) things I’ve watched in my soon 29 year old life. A few days ago everything fell in to place for me as I realized I suffer from childhood trauma in a much bigger way than I ever thought. I have an very anxious attachment style in relationship, I fear abandonment so much it’s almost unbearable for me and by doing a lot of research on this topic I have slowly made my way to this video. I cried like a baby for most of it since I recognized basically all of it in myself and my inner child. But then when I came to the chapter of what to do about it, what steps you can take to heal your inner child I felt a bit of hope, that finally I could be free of the pain and struggle I have felt all these years. I’m beyond grateful to you for making this video. Thank you! ❤️

[@kaylahpark9390]

“We learn what we live” I really needed to hear this. Just finished my 5th ketamine treatment & am in CBT now. Learning how to regulate emotions I had to hide to protect myself from retaliation with two unstable caregivers. Thank you for the effort you put into this video, this was very insightful 🖤

[@jewelieknight210]

Ooohhh my goodness! Thank you thank you... I'm in tears and so feeling the understanding of my inner child and the lost of my childhood💔 and innocent. With all this I will recover one day. Thankful for now and forever💞

[@DocSnipes]

Thanks for commenting and watching. Wishing you peace, health, and happiness.

[@LawNerdAmber]

Dr Snipes, I know you're not releasing these as a way to treat or diagnose anything but your videos are so much more effective than my therapist. Just wanted to let you know. There are times I want to ask if she's heard of your channel, but that might be rude.

[@earthpearl3790]

I think you should be more direct and give her some feedback. It could help you get more in touch with your needs from the therapy and also let her know ways she might improve as a therapist.

[@maggiewise7551]

As someone who is just starting a masters program in clinical mental health counseling, if I was your therapist I would definitely want to hear what is helpful for you! There are so many resources out there and so finding the right ones for each client can sometimes be a puzzle to solve. To me, the purpose of therapy is to realign, reignite, and empower people to connect with their most wholehearted and authentic selves, so they can walk their path feeling willing and capable to cope and persist with whatever arises. It sounds like this channel is giving you tools and space to do that. If you mention this to your therapist, you can create the space for the two of you to follow up on various activities, reflections, and processing that you find helpful here!

[@DocSnipes]

lol. :) Thank you so much. Maybe ask your therapist to help you expand on something you learned in my video.... She would then want to watch it to help you process it probably. Just an idea.

[@pauladuncanadams1750]

Just as a suggestion, you could pick out a couple of points made in these videos and make a list to bring with you to your session. Tell your therapist you were listening to Dr Snipes and explain that these points she made really struck a chord with you. Tell her about the videos and why you like them/Dr Snipes. I think that's a great way to direct the therapy discussion to explore issues and target personal growth while also expanding your therapist's repertoire. Best of luck.

[@Liz-um7wu]

It's okay if you ask. Then you can talk about it together.

[@lisabrummett6075]

My entire life feels like a lie. Scapegoat child and only found this out last year. It's heartbreaking 💔 now I'm understanding why I attract narcissist men. I definitely have abandonment issues. Also when I'm in a relationship I become what the partner wants forgetting myself completely because I wanted to be loved and perfect so much. I'm on a healing journey now. Learning to love myself and heal my wounded inner child. 💔 Thank you 🙏✨

[@DocSnipes]

I am sorry about this and I appreciate you watching the video. Here are more videos on the inner child: kzbin.infosearch?query=innerchild

[@michaelfoster3043]

The way I had a breakdown through each section because I felt my childhood being exposed and wounds revealing themselves, was nuts

[@DocSnipes]

I appreciate you watching. Other videos you might be interested in can be found at: kzbin.infosearch?query=Releasing%20trauma

[@leanne8493]

I’ve grown up with family and people in my community that have treated their kids like this. It is so sad. Still happening in homes, schools and communities to this day.

[@DocSnipes]

Thanks for watching

[@hawkes555maine]

I’m going to have to listen to this over and over for a while!

[@DocSnipes]

Thank you for watching and for sharing. Please feel free to use my AI to learn more about cPTSD and to search for videos in the video library: allceus.com/AskDocSnipes Also, I am holding a live webinar on healing the wounded inner child on Wednesday. Please feel free to join me

[@lorahaynes3131]

I have learned so much about myself, as an adult, as a parent and as a woman who was so wounded as a child. Thank you. ❤️

[@DocSnipes]

Thanks for watching. Wishing you peace, health, and happiness.

[@adimeter]

I was alone in the house with my loving parents. They were never 'knowingly cruel. But they just didn't have the tools to be the people I ever felt confident to tell my innermost fears to. I was also programmed to NEVER need anything. When I was 14 I can remember listening to my mother's footsteps on the pavement, as she walked to the bus stop to go to work. I was so over whelmed with sympathy and grief for her having to go to work to take care of me. My poor mom was brought up in an orphanage in the early 1900's. But both her parents were alive. The 1st story I was told was that my grandfather beat my grandmother, so she left him with my mother and her 2 siblings. Later the neighbors saw them eating out of the trash can and my mom and her sibblings were removed. Many years later my aunt told me she was sexually abused by my grandfather. At any rate I don't know which story believe, or if they were both correct. But it was clear to me that my mother and my aunt were psychologically damaged. I wasn't around my uncle enough to even minimally evaluate him. But the couple of times I did see him, he seemed very kind. My aunt was not kind. She was very scornful of my mom. My aunt was outgoing, extremely witty. She was highly educated with 2 BA degrees and 1 masters degree. My mom had a BA degree only. Those were great feats for 2 black women brought up in the 1920's. I was always very proud of both of them. I wanted my aunt to like me, but I was out of luck there. My poor dad had only a 9th grade education despite being very intelligent. He displayed a lot of love for me, but he was liking in the knowledge of what a child might need from him. He was no refuge for me to discuss my sad feelings with. In my teens I felt so alone, even suicidal. I see I need a lot of healing.

[@Walklikeaduck111]

Also intergenerational trauma is possible

[@ericarobinson4849]

My mouth is literally hanging open after watching this. Thank you so much!!! Very helpful

[@DocSnipes]

You’re so welcome! I am so very grateful to be of help and I am grateful for you, for watching the video. I have more videos on the inner child on the channel. Here they are: kzbin.infosearch?query=innerchild

[@ericarobinson4849]

@@DocSnipes Thank you! I will be purchasing your books as well 😊

[@eiphelwong]

this is too precious to be a free information. thank you so much for making this, you're helping a lot of lives!

[@DocSnipes]

You’re so welcome. What would you say is your favorite strategy from the video?

[@jazilynnbaldwin4933]

I am sixteen years old and I went through a lot of trauma throughout my childhood. My mother never hit me, but she was neglectful, verbally abusive, and emotionally distant. Not only that, but it she kept my dad away from me for all of these years. Finally I’ve met him, but I’m realizing my trauma from my past is affecting our relationship today. I feel like I can’t trust him, I’m always waiting for the moment when he will leave. All he’s shown me is love, but there’s been tension in our relationship lately because I struggle to trust him. I’m really hoping to work on myself so my past doesn’t keep affecting the present.

[@DocSnipes]

I am sorry about that and I appreciate you watching. What tips from the video will you use to heal your wounded inner child?

[@nadulamb4141]

Pray❤

[@asjeble]

Spent my whole life ''trying'' and thought it was my faulth. I am 55 years old now and finally ready for healing because i could not do it sooner out of fear.

[@DocSnipes]

It's incredibly brave of you to acknowledge your past struggles and take steps towards healing. It's never too late to begin this journey, and your courage is truly inspiring. What tips from the video will you use first on your healing journey? Please use my AI for more tips and tools on healing the inner child: AllCEUs.com/DocSnipes-AI

[@asjeble]

@@DocSnipes I am at the beginning. First ik was scrolling to the comment to see if this was good for me to hear. Thank you.

[@melissamagnuson3268]

it is very hard to reparent yourself when in your brain and heart you still feel like a child from how damaging the emotional neglect and abuse was.

[@DocSnipes]

Thanks for watching. Wishing you peace, health, and happiness.

[@grneyefin]

I agree. The ACOA 12 step program helped me. They have a great reparenting workbook that has helped me. Good luck on your journey.

[@bellofigoitaliano5038]

Very interesting point at the 2 minute and 50 mark. “When the caregiver would withdraw the child feels anxious” when my BPD ex would blocked me for days at a time I had a flashback from childhood when my mom would Ignore me , and it reminded me of that anxious feeling of waiting for them To come back.

[@DocSnipes]

Thanks for watching.

[@joannd4009]

When you were giving an example of parents blaming the child and said “ it’s your fault we couldn’t pay the rent because we have to buy you shoes every 3 weeks “, I had an Ah-Ha moment. I became aware of a certain pattern I have surrounding rent/ bills/ safe environment. It shed a light of clarity on what I picked up sub-consciously.. and still was feeling like it was my fault !! All these years I thought this pattern was just mine. I always wondered why I worked so hard and still had problems paying the rent. I’m aware they tried to blame me for everything.. This has been a block to my success .. I feel a shift from this !! Wow thank you .. I can now reprogram my self .. oh my gosh that hit home ❤

[@DocSnipes]

You are most welcome. I am sorry that happened to you and I appreciate you watching

[@tatianahindjou1339]

I always overgive , over care , mostly i give more than i get in most of my friendships and relationships . I am starting to realize that it stems from my childhood but I dont know what type of treatment causes that. I remember i had to surpress my feelings and opinions as a child because she would say, why should you feel like this , you are just a child etc . I always let things go, i let people get away with doing alot because myfeelings were invalidated as a child.

[@DocSnipes]

Thanks for watching. Wishing you peace, health, and happiness.

[@rosaclick1995]

I used to over give too, I used to not know how to say NO but I realised not saying no when I should made me anxious or overwhelmed. I learnt people would want to take advantage of that…I started saying No when I had to, if I don’t feel at peace with something I don’t do it. I am still healing but I am very much distant from where I used to be, I am more confident than I used to be. You’d get there too, just learn to prioritise your feelings.

[@hhhoneycomb]

bingo the invalidation of feelings was heavy and it can be triggering in relationships.

[@ChuckBassHere]

This video really changed my mental paradigm in 40 min. God bless you for making this video. Thank you Dr snipes

[@DocSnipes]

Thanks for watching.

[@speakingmypassion9722]

what i found to be so interesting , is everything you talked about, reflected my life and how ive gone through life feeling, you were speaking to directly to me. So thats why i am so passionate about serving children and women born into CULTS. The damage done to the children born into these kinds of communities must heal because the trauma from the lifestyle will keep you from experiencing greater posibilities So i am eternally Grateful for this information.

[@esthermoriarty1378]

I was one of those kids born into a sick religious cult

[@JJ_5289]

This is a great lecture and very helpful. Thank you. I was never able to make any progress in my adult life until I finally accepted and analyzed my childhood/upbringing

[@DocSnipes]

Thanks for watching. Wishing you peace, health, and happiness.

[@mutedearthvirgo]

Im a therapist and this topic is right on time! thanks!

[@DocSnipes]

Ty!

[@squirrel90]

All this information is so amazing. I cannot believe how crucial childhood and our inner-child is to us now as adults. I understand more about myself thanks to this video. Thanks Doc Snipes!

[@JustJen1386]

I just appreciate how open and honest this presenter is that she was unable to do “passive aggressive” - at least in the south, it’s never sarcasm, it’s sugary sweet poison. But even so, her “sarcasm” made me lol ❤️

[@DocSnipes]

:) Thanks for watching.

[@DartmoorPaul]

Thank you for sharing this. I’ve just started last year getting therapy & my narcissistic mum came up & now I’m working on the inner child, but I’m 54 and my mum is 84 & at Christmas she finally destroyed me & I broke down. I’ve been no contact since but the road to healing & acceptance seems overwhelming at the moment. Your videos are a source of comfort and understanding that it’s not just me and the comments from others are also therapeutic. 🙏❤️

[@DocSnipes]

Sorry to hear, but glad my video is helping. Wishing you peace, health, and happiness.

[@thaile6149]

You are very strong!

[@chasityj.4130]

This is one of the best talks about reparenting/inner child issues and healings.

[@DocSnipes]

Too kind. Thanks for watching. Wishing you peace, health, and happiness.

[@jamestracey5958]

I had to leave my marriage and family home to survive, divorce was the hardest thing I ever went through I moved 2 minutes around the corner and maintained a consistent relationship with all my three kids our relationships are precious to me thank God for recovery I sent this video to my oldest daughter this morning. Please know that to the extent of our suffering through recovery we find as much joy. You are worth it today but we have to do the work.

[@DocSnipes]

I appreciate you watching

[@Backup23x]

It’s crazy because I’m a mom to a 2 year old and I calm him down on a daily basis but never thought to give that same love and patient to myself or my inner child. I have the tools to now reparent and build a new (healed) me. Thank you so much for this video! Very informative! 🙏🏽💙

[@DocSnipes]

You’re so welcome. I appreciate you watching

[@The_Apollo_Show]

Same ❤️❤️

[@soub711]

I faced all of these .. now I am effed up in my 20s😊

[@DocSnipes]

I am sorry about that and I appreciate you watching the video. What tips will you use first to help the inner child heal? Here are some videos to help with that: kzbin.infosearch?query=ptsd

Just to be clear, I believe premature forgiveness is toxic. Acceptance and forgiveness mean 2 very different things to me. I believe we can accept, but mabe the toxic behavior from a caregiver is still present. In that case forgiveness would not be honoring the inner child. This is the dynamic between me and my mother. I found that the best way to honor my inner child was to terminate my relationship with her.

[@DocSnipes]

Thanks for watching

@@user-es4hy7tr7u Gets a little tricky around the holidays but all in all, it's been great. I've been focused on healing. It's really eye opening once you're not in the middle of such toxic behavior and getting triggered. Has really opened up space for some real healing.

[@FreedomForever116]

@@Denisse2867 Lainey, I wish I had your wisdom at 16 & information like this was available. Your smart to get some therapy. Your're not a shitty person, it's easier for shitty parents to blame their children than take any responsibility. I'm 63, my mother is in her 80's. Her behavior has torn our family apart, it has gone on for decades, I wish I would have walked away years ago. Hold on...

[@mandy7684]

@@Denisse2867 I understand where you're at in this experience. It is not your fault how the parents talk to you or treat you. They are adults living what they learned from their parents, generational things. You are a beautiful spirit worthy of love and protection. Unfortunately it may be yourself that gives you the love, protection and support you need and are not receiving. I'm at the stage of healing myself and not passing the generational traumas to my 13 yo son. I'm sending you love and healing thoughts.

[@shilahkoech4641]

@@mandy7684 hey Mandy, thanks for your comment. I'm inspired as I'm on the journey of self discovery as well and honestly it's been over 2yrs now trying to figure things out, the whole process is scary and brings alot of discomfort and mind you I have a 13yr old son as well which makes it even more scariest coz I don't want my son turn out to be like me.

[@ceecee1163]

Thank you for this. My 1st hurt I remember is getting woken up to get a beating at 11pm around 4-5 (when my mother got off work). There were no hugs&kisses or words of encouragement. Just do as she said I had 7 siblings I'm number 6. I've been screaming it's not safe that's it seems since I was born. I have one daughter she's 31 and I smothered her with so much affection that it backfired on me. I never had therapy for ALL the trauma that has occurred. But somehow I muddled through. Now I know why. Thank you for this.

[@DocSnipes]

Thanks for watching. Wishing you peace, health, and happiness.

[@nadulamb4141]

Hella sorry to hear that No little girl needs to be woken up to that pain So glad you can be your safe place now God heal your soul ❤

[@TenTenJ]

This was brilliant, thank you. For me, the #1 problem is/was “I’m not supposed to feel this way, I should be feeling this other way,” a constant invalidation and disallowance of my authentic feelings. I do this as an adult to myself. But I find that when I’m aware, and if I stop the self judgement enough to allow myself to feel however I do or want about a matter, a and if I add I’m self compassion, I have a shift from within, and I do calm down. I relax and then my inner adult can work with my inner child for a helpful, healthy outcome to what’s worrying my inner adult or scaring my inner child.

[@DocSnipes]

Thanks for watching the video and for sharing! Other videos you might be interested in can be found at kzbin.infosearch?query=innerchild

[@wendylock5507]

This sums up my life exactly from about the age of 3yrs old plus abandonment and separation issues, I had a narcissistic mother so I virtually learned I was only acknowledged if I was pleasing mum, plus the responsibility of running after dad to beg him to come home after they had an argument, so I never felt safe and I certainly wasn’t taught any skills on how to deal with life in a safe way. I felt being alive was something to be terrified of. My parents are long gone my family have grown and left home, so I’m alone now. And I wake up terrified every morning and I can’t control my emotions of fear in my body, the shaking and sweating and nausea. I’ve been in and out of therapy but I can’t stop or control my body from behaving the way it does, I feel I’m frozen in time at 3to 4yrs of age, and feeling that overwhelming fear that a child felt but can’t let go of and feel safe,

[@DocSnipes]

You may want to consider working with a local, licensed counselor to work through some of this. Wishing you peace, health, and happiness.

[@sylviashapiro7593]

Thank you for your comprehensive review of the inner child which lives in all of us. Today as an Octogenarian, great grandmother, retired psychotherapist, having fulfilled most of my life and my desires, the inner child is still knawing at me. I have a lot of leisure time and I have to accept that. What happens to me now is that I get Restless Leg Syndrome. There is no cure for that and you need to move around and have many healthy distractions. I induce the RLS RLS unconsciously and then I can't get rid of it for hours. I resent having that but there's no one to blame anymore. It's childhood trauma however I have grieved that already. Unfortunately I go to junkfood for relief of the incessant movements of my legs. The food becomes an addiction and a vicious cycle ensues. What I want now is an adequate bodyweight. So I must speak gently to my inner child and tell her that I understand where she is coming from and that inappropriate food is not the answer. It is self- punishment that has no place in my life. Daily struggles are not easy but that's what I must do to make my life better and better.

[@jennykelter9518]

Try somatic therapy if you can. It focuses on trauma that’s stored in the body. I’m so sorry this sounds horrible to live with and so demobilizing. I wish you hope and peace

[@freshliving4199]

Your issue is anger. You need to forgive your mother and father for messing you up, they did the best they know how. As a child are born innocent. When mother traumatized you with her anger you went into the darkness of your imagination to escape the suffering. You are your mother, weak, angry, insecure, resentful. Forgive so that you can become the Wendy you were created to be.

[@jennykelter9518]

@@freshliving4199 wow. Absolutely beautiful. I can apply your advice to my situation too. Thank you for relying with that message of hope !

[@J-equineheart]

I had 2 alcoholic parents with zero guidance, lack of nurturing, dismissive behaviour, invalidation, inappropriate behavior from my mother, emotionally absent father figure. My mom's favorite thing to threaten the family with was "I'm leaving and never coming back!" As a child, looking back, I was numb. However, my twenties were extremely emotionally volatile, anxious, grief stricken, and lost. Having my own kids was life changing in the best possible way and I can't imagine being a parent and not loving them with every fiber of your being. 💙💜

[@DocSnipes]

I appreciate you watching.

[@Chaon_ality1111]

Thank you for this lesson. I have learned so much about myself and how to assist others in my profession. When you mentioned as an adult we might throw a tantrum, I think it will be helpful to give examples of what an adult tantrum might look like. A child may thrash on the floor at a supermarket but an adult may go to the supermarket and purchase all the wine and go home and try to drink it. As adults we have access to better harmful activities.

[@DocSnipes]

Thanks for watching.

[@justdoit11]

I can relate to so many things you described in the beginning. I have ADHD and Autism and have always struggled with emotional dysregulation. My mind races constantly and I wake up ill because of it. It’s horrible. I wasn’t even asked to be born yet I have to deal with all these things

[@DocSnipes]

I am sorry about that. What tips from the video will you use to cope with that?

[@aminawilliamson2694]

This video showed me I am healing! I know acceptance, taking time out for myself, words of affirmation, doing things that make me feel peaceful, trust and faith in oneself, listening( especially to myself), commitment/ self discipline….. I know it seems like a lot but shoot I was worse than that

[@DocSnipes]

That’s awesome! Thanks for watching! Other videos you might be interested in can be found at kzbin.infosearch?query=ptsd

[@crownedlegendzmuzik]

Wow, My mom was a tyrant, abusive both physically and mentally. I know I got some PTSD from it. Thank you for this valuable info Doc!

[@donnaarney543]

Mine too!! Started at 2 yrs old. Had asthma, was overwhelming for my so called mother. She lost 4 before me. Has always been against me. Worse as an adult!!!

[@michelejonjock5910]

Living in the past doesn't help today. Know we have what it takes within our selves. You are strong. You are courageous. You are bold and beautiful. Your feelings matter and what you do each day will help build confidence. Self talk really works. There is strength in self talk

[@DocSnipes]

Thanks for watching.

[@nadiamcintosh2736]

For years I self sabotaged living a fulfilling life. Anxiety, depression, silent anger, withdrawal, etc. it took me years to recognize that this entire time it was the wounded inner child in me trying to protect me from the “big, bad world.” I’m at the beginning of my healing journey. God be praised!

[@DocSnipes]

Thank you for watching the video. Congratulations on starting your healing journey

[@maryaodonoghue5]

Same. I wish you all peace and love. I'm hoping it gets easier, I think it does the more aware we become. Good luck

[@DocSnipes]

Thanks for watching.