Making Peace with the Inner Critic | Cognitive Behavioral Therapy Tools

Dr. Dawn-Elise Snipes is a Licensed Professional Counselor and Qualified Clinical Supervisor. She received her PhD in Mental Health Counseling from the University of Florida in 2002. In addition to being a practicing clinician, she has provided training to counselors, social workers, nurses and case managers internationally since 2006 through AllCEUs.com #MakingPeace with the #innercritic and Building #Selfesteem #cognitivebehavioraltherapy #tools
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[@superkonijn988]

I was just looking into this for my own wellbeing, perfect timing

[@bettyhemphill1479]

Ok Ok ok ok 9

[@DocSnipes]

Thanks for watching!🙂

[@someonesaid2170]

Dr. Snipes, you have no idea how much you're helping me with these videos. I feel heard, seen and understood. Thank you so much from the bottom of my heart.

[@DocSnipes]

You are very welcome

[@JusCallMeC]

Isn't it wonderful?

[@truescotsman4103]

How do you overcome the absolute emotional vacuum of having two parents that are narcissistic monsters? I'm trying to cope with the darkness in the wake of the death of both parents after a lifetime of neglect and abuse. I made it through all of it only to realize after they died that there is nothing. It's absolutely overwhelming it changes you permanently. What do I do?

[@W-superS]

I am not an expert but I would like to say that they obviously failed as parents. It’s not your fault. You needed things as a child emotionally in order to grow as a person feel complete safe and loved and they didn’t give them to you. It’s ok. You are not the only one. Actually most people address similar issues. Accept it and “be your own” parent. Be the role model they failed to provide. Baby steps.. day by day. I wish you the best from my heart.

[@JusCallMeC]

My amateur opinion would be radical acceptance. They were who they were. You can't change that. They had no desire to. You did the best you could with the tools you had. Radical acceptance is hard. It feels like you're giving up and giving in. You're not. You're just accepting what you couldn't change and control. I'm sorry you had two unkind parents. You deserved better. May you find peace in knowing that they can no longer hurt you, now.

[@JusCallMeC]

Thank you, @Doc Snipes! Your videos are amazing and so helpful. This one definitely a contribution to a break through moment for me. I saved this video...took notes and I will listen to this repeatedly.

[@DocSnipes]

You’re so welcome. I appreciate you watching. What tools from the video will you use to start making peace with your inner critic?

[@JusCallMeC]

I think, not saying to myself what I wouldn't say to a friend. That one really struck a chord with me.

[@Hanna-Nyasa]

I feel like using the voice of the "you'll never amount to anything" to motivate you to prove it wrong is still being in its grip. That's what will lead to full on burn out because you're trying to hard to prove it wrong

[@DocSnipes]

Thanks for watching. Wishing you peace, health, and happiness.

[@TristineBarry]

Thanks Doc! You too!

[@DocSnipes]

Same to you!

[@Betternow1974]

Mine won't stop. Trouble is is I have Bipolar disorder and going through a major med change. Everything is off and my motivation is up then down. I'm just really vulnerable right now.

[@echoeos8705]

I decide not to allow inner critic to have a voice. Hurting myself with negative thoughts puts me in same line with my abusers. Instead of giving myself mental "claps" I give myself positive thoughts, what I achieved today and feeling proud of. Encouraging myself to do what I can, even smal steps are steps achieving my goals. I was enough shamed and be guilt by others and I don't want that any longer, even from myself not. I deserve love and respect, from me and others. If somebody doesn't like me, it's not on me, it's on them. Their loss.

[@W-superS]

OMG you are so right about the abusers and the inner critic… and the fact that not everyone is supposed to like us. It’s ok. We need to live consciously and do our best and that’s all.

[@W-superS]

Very helpful! Thank you!

[@DocSnipes]

Glad it was helpful!

[@yveqeshy]

Thank you for this, key takeaway if it's not helpful, truthful, necessary or kind then it serves no purpose and this goes for all that negative messaging we've received especially as children

[@DocSnipes]

Thanks for watching!

[@funkibloo3811]

Thank you! I learned something new today.😊👍

[@DocSnipes]

Thanks for watching!

[@indianagirl500]

Thank you so very much yes ma’am

[@DocSnipes]

Welcome.🙂

[@quincyfellows2636]

Thank you

[@DocSnipes]

Welcome!

[@DeeLeon7]

What about having Asperger's? How am I supposed to heal with intense sensory & anxiety due to autism?? With CPTSD due to several narcissists.

[@cindyc]

Definitely hear the voice of those who have chosen to speak negatively over me. Like Pete Walker's work on the subject, that he refers to as the inner prick.

[@DocSnipes]

Thanks for watching!

[@selfhelpchampion9664]

Turn down the volume of your negative inner voice and create a nurturing inner voice to take it’s place. When you make a mistake, forgive yourself, learn from it, and move on instead of obsessing about it. Equally important, don’t allow anyone else to dwell on your mistakes or shortcomings or to expect perfection from you. Beverly Engel,

[@DocSnipes]

Thanks for watching!

[@smashy_smasherton]

How do we get the inner critic to let you enjoy your successes? I just feel flat when I succeed at some task I’m working on. I literally make sure I write things down and remember to have gratitude for even the smallest things, and accept what doesn’t work out. But when I win, I barely feel it before I’m on to something else. Or Ill feel bad somehow about what I did. I’ve known people who puff up with pride (and deservedly so) for their accomplishments. I’ve had some major ones myself. But do I enjoy praise? Can I accept a compliment? Oh dear no. It’s like false pride in reverse? A megalomaniac with poor self esteem?

[@W-superS]

I decided at some point “to make fun” of my inner critic not pay so much attention. I am the critic now of my inner critic…😉 that helped me a little

[@edgreen8140]

The naming is a great idea. It"s not your stuff it came from___.

[@DocSnipes]

Thanks for watching!

[@lisajackson3743]

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[@Th0ughtZ_]

Dr. Snipes you're 50? You look younger.