Am I Binge Eating or Overeating?

[@annas.770]

I've always framed this problem to myself as a lack of self-control, which is the part that really scares me and fills me with shame (and which I can see now perpetuates the problem.) Thank you for reframing the issue for me. Ironically, acknowledging that this behaviour isn't a choice but a compulsion actually makes it feel somehow more approachable, as it gives me permission to be kinder to myself and 'look after' myself as I would another person, instead of continuing the old shame & blame routine. I'm so grateful to you for doing this work. With a problem that's so poorly understood in the professional community, you're providing a critical link to understanding and real help. Thank you❤

[@belindarussell2961]

You are a beautiful gift Sarah to all of us that have become trapped and are suffering. Thank you especially for dispelling the myth that any type of suffering is more valid than another.

[@colorfulforesight]

That is great. Watching this made me realized how I am overcoming and recovering from binging less, yet still overeat at time. It is definitely two different vibe from each other.

[@jennybaversjohumble7966]

Thank you so much Sarah! I am feeling seen and heard without even making a noise. ❤️

[@mjgenualdi22]

Thank you. I don't know where I fit in - but I really appreciate that you recognize "being out of control" is also a problem. I wish I could give up food completely. I could totally do it, I'm great at restriction - at least for a few months. But, really it's this in-between - eat some but not too much - that does me in.

[@beccabooer]

Thank you for this video. You have no idea how impactful your words are. I am currently learning to intuitively eat because of your videos and am just so thankful you have decided to share your knowledge and experience!

[@annakortukov2845]

Your chanel is super helpful! I think it's first time for me hearing someone trying to keep focus on binge eating, thank you for your kind heart!

[@katestephens4258]

Thank you Sarah 🙏 I feel like I’ve watched every binge eating video on KZbin but you actually understand what it’s truly like. I love the language you use, I love the self compassion, you are a sublime human being! 💛

[@TheBingeEatingTherapist]

Thank you Kate. I’m glad my videos resonate so much with you ❤️

[@Od.3056]

Stop blaming and shaming myself is my most importent first stap in freeing myself of this problem. Thanks to you, i am getting more and more convinced that this the truth.

[@Beto-o1y]

I think you are so inspiring Sarah!! You give me hope, your work and the information that you provide make me feel that there is a way to heal. 💕😁💕 Thanks! 🇨🇱

[@wackthegood8884]

Thanks again for a wonderful, insightful video. Thank you for your emotion. It shows that you understand and care. Thanks to you, Sarah, and Stéphanie, I've been taking the path towards food freedom. I did binge, for years, due to excessive restriction for decades. I can't continue living with food as my friend/enemy and being disconnected from my body. So I said enough! I have stopped all restriction, and I'm no longer bingeing - at all! It's completely stopped. But I am still regularly overeating. I'm not weighing myself, but know my clothes are tighter, and see my face is fuller. But I've decided to trust the process - to the end. I have noticed a difference; the other evening, I fancied something sweet after dinner, and thought about what I really wanted, and surprised myself as I really wanted to eat an orange. Normally, outside of my periods of restriction, I would always crave ice cream, chocolate or sweets, and fruit was kept for when I was trying to 'eat healthy.' I'm finally trusting my body; while letting myself have whatever I want - and finally, that is not always 'party' foods. So maybe - Sarah - it's a process? From bingeing, to sometimes overeating until I reach my ultimate goal - neutrality around food. Thanks to you and Stephanie; I don't know if you realise how much you help.

[@christines6584]

Thank you so much for providing these videos. I am finding them so helpful.

[@Blessedbeyond.]

Noone understands except those who suffer the same. My siblings, we are all 53 and older, still want to put me on a diet. I'm 220 pounds in menopause, quit smoking and not working now. I'm not ashamed, I am who I am right now and right now, I'm getting better 😊. God bless and keep all my fellow sufferers we rock whether we have this issue or not!

[@aryanakurillo3536]

Truth

[@rebeccasmith1952]

Brilliant. Thank you for this, and for putting my feelings into words. :) Going to shift my focus on validation and acceptance for a little while. Keep up the great conversations everyone!

[@aryanakurillo3536]

You did a fantastic job of explaining things and did a great job at making this video. Thank you for sharing your knowledge to those of us who need this education!!

[@shadowqueen8042]

Thank you. :( it took me awhile to admit i had a problem. Thank you.

[@jemmawhitehouse1043]

Gonna watch later. Very Interested to see the difference x

[@sarahRA86]

For me it’s definitely compulsive overeating…would you consider doing a video on it?

[@TheBingeEatingTherapist]

I think pretty much all my videos apply to compulsive eating too. Binge eating is a form of compulsive eating. The only difference is the quantities ❤️

[@sarahRA86]

@@TheBingeEatingTherapist ah ok, so you don’t feel there is a major difference in how you tackle them

[@TheBingeEatingTherapist]

@@sarahRA86 I really don’t. I think they are slightly different expressions of the same thing ❤️

[@sarahRA86]

@@TheBingeEatingTherapist I did think so but thanks for the clarification. I once had a private consultation with an ED dietician and she said I don’t qualify for BED, I just need to control what I eat and eat less…wasn’t helpful to say the least!

[@TheBingeEatingTherapist]

Sounds like you were completely missed by them 😞 I can only imagine how invalidated you must have felt (and maybe believed it too). I’ve shared in previous videos how a CBT therapist once told me she really wanted me ‘to try this week’ as though my lack of progress was down to me not trying hard enough. I believed that for years

[@elodieemeraldantine5230]

That was So Beautiful ❤😭 Thank You sooooooò Much Im crying 💔💘

[@koolforkatss9155]

This struck a cord with me, especially the point around needing a label to justify or validate your struggle. This is where I find myself, hating myself every day for overeating and my excess weight getting in the way of what I want for my future, but also not acknowledging to myself that it’s a ‘valid’ enough issue because I don’t have a diagnosed eating disorder. It’s a choice, right? That’s paired with the native I have where I think I’ve got my sh*t together elsewhere (career, relationship etc) so the fact I overeat is all on me and lack of willpower or discipline… it’s so confusing! Thanks for introducing new ways to look at it. I’ve ordered your book as a gift from me to me ☺️

[@TheBingeEatingTherapist]

I hope you find the book helpful ❤️

[@lu9765]

Thank you so much for this video. I am watching it the morning after a food binge. I feel disgusting and am finding solace in your videos 💕

[@sheeliekittie9298]

Sarah, you're the best therapist ever =) I can't emphasize it enough, I am so motivated by your videos and you give me so much hope. This video is really helpful for me, because I sometimes mistake eating too fast as a binge, but I'm actually not sure if it is or not. I would like to be a slower eater, as being a more mindful eater is important to me. I've been trying to challenge myself with fear foods or things I really like and want, but then I find myself struggling to enjoy the moment because my mind is anxious and feeling that guilt. Would this be considered a binge, ( e.g. eating a piece of cake but having it really fast ) or is there a way we can improve our ability to eat our fear foods? Thank you!

[@alwaysriverrrr]

I just ate half a pint of ice cream and had some cookies earlier. No lunch for me tomorrow:D

[@TameraReynoldson]

Thank you for this video. I too have always felt the “hierarchy “ of eating disorders is unfair. The assumption that the person who binges is just not disciplined enough is so common. Specially in the medical community. So frustrating….

[@carollug]

Thank you Sarah!

[@khansaaali7810]

You've talked about the night eating disorder which I'm struggling with for nearly 15 years... it became more frequent almost every night now for the last 6 months ..while it was at maximum 4 times in a month.. and this along with other reasons that led me to intuitive eating.. is there any resources that talks about it ... because there is a misconception between eating at night before bed and waking in the middle of the night to eat several times in different levels of awareness and compulsion.. p.s your channel really is my backbone in this journey you do talk my mind thank you so much 🌸

[@TheBingeEatingTherapist]

It’s a really frustrating area because there is so little information about it. We don’t really understand it. I did do a video about it here ➡️ kzbin.info/www/bejne/eafEmaOmfKyMp9U

[@brandybug6001]

@@TheBingeEatingTherapist I would gladly volunteer myself as a tribute for this research cause! It is so frustrating.

[@gerrijalosky5844]

Thank you🌸

[@tomalol9772]

Great info! I think definitions are important and I definitely have moments where I don't have full blown binges like I used to but still struggling with compulsive overeating at times. Any chance you could make a video on ADHD and binge eating?

[@TheBingeEatingTherapist]

Funny you should ask….! That’s coming next week! 🔮

[@tomalol9772]

@@TheBingeEatingTherapist Brilliant! I look forward to it :)

[@jclay5567]

I have struggled in the past with anorexia, then bulimia but my hardest struggle is night eating, it’s have been going on every single night, 2 or 3 times a night for many, many years, I feel disgusting every morning at the sight of the wrappers and packets of food that I’ve eaten each night, I don’t remember what I’ve eaten unless I see the carnage that has been left. It disgusts me that I have no control at all. I dread night times, I seem to have absolutely no control. Every night I tell myself not to do it but every night it happens. I feel so alone, out of control and have no idea how to get out of all this. If you have advice please could you maybe consider doing a video about night eating? Thank you for what you do, bringing awareness around this subject, I wish there was more information and help out there xx

[@TheBingeEatingTherapist]

Night eating syndrome is not understood very well. I have done a video about it here kzbin.info/www/bejne/eafEmaOmfKyMp9U

[@Ali-kf5bd]

I feel so confused about whether I'm binging because I do feel out of control and ashamed and I do make myself so full that I feel sick frequently but the amount I eat doesn't seem the same as other binge eaters. I manage not to eat a whole dozen donuts at once and, out of shame, I can usually stop myself before I end up eating an entire large pizza (even though I always WANT to eat the whole pizza) so I don't know if that counts and it makes me feel lost.

[@ZLink0692]

How are you doing?

[@aryanakurillo3536]

I say "I lack self control. I lack discipline. I haven't found a motivation that's strong enough. I have a dependency."

[@TheBingeEatingTherapist]

I have this video on discipline: kzbin.info/www/bejne/eonKqniVnNF7kNEsi=j5_jyLgtJ8x77VDe but I'm currently planning a video about willpower that may resonate with you

[@h.l.asolomonov7674]

Thank you

[@lorriredmon7531]

I am at a place today where I'm not bingeing in huge quantities but in regular meals with the panic, compulsion to get it in fast, frenzied feeling of bingeing. I have had times of peace and I am so grateful but today I'm struggling with my thinking. And with that emotional frenzy comes the worry that I'm overeating. I'm also feeling resistant to intuitive eating. It's really really difficult to sit and concentrate on just my food. What's up with that? What could I be afraid of? I will be looking for your video on intuitive eating for possible answers. Thank you for sharing your experience.

[@TheBingeEatingTherapist]

It doesn’t have to be an either/or, meaning it doesn’t have to be a choice between paying full attention and zoning out. See if you can play with a middle ground, asking yourself, ‘how can I bring a bit more presence to my eating?’ I’ve done a video on mindful eating that may be useful here. Let me find it and share the link with you ❤️

[@TheBingeEatingTherapist]

kzbin.info/www/bejne/hmbOZ62kntRjiqM

[@lorriredmon7531]

@@TheBingeEatingTherapist Thank you so much. You rock!

[@karenkennedy6293]

Do you have a podcast

[@TheBingeEatingTherapist]

Indeed I do. It’s called Life After Diets available here on KZbin or across any of the podcast platforms ❤️

[@zehra3613]

I am feeling tired

[@lisashannon9381]

No addict has control.. Any alcoholic at AA will tell you, it is impossible to recover and still drink. You have to accept you will never be a moderate drinker. Yss, everyone needs to eat, but we don't need any junk "foods" at all

[@easymukbang3835]

nice