Amelia Talks to Addison About Where Things Went Wrong with Link - Grey's Anatomy

[@carriew5106]

This is exactly the reason I wanted Amelia to talk to Addy about Link. Because she would never have been this honest with Maggie or Mer.

[@BrokenDarkFire]

Yup. She, Maggie, and Meredith love each other so much, but Addie has known and loved her longer and I think Amelia feels safer admitting these details to her.

[@winterhug4331]

October 22, 2021 - Indeed, I think it had to be Addison that Amelia told about Link because Addison and Amelia have been through so much together on #PrivatePractice

[@ashleesanche771]

She also practically helped raise Amelia with Derek. Derek and Addie are held to a different level of respect for Amelia then Mer or Maggie even. I am so happy they got to get together. She definitely needed it.

[@winterhug4331]

@@ashleesanche771 - I agree 100% - I think they both needed. I suspect Addison has ever admitted how she felt during the pandemic to anyone else other than Amelia💖

[@DTownGurl4488]

@@winterhug4331 actually I think she'd have a similarly honest and open conversation with Callie but not really anyone else

[@amycooper2364]

"because I'm older" is such a sister thing to say hahaha I love their relationship

[@Kaydeep94]

I love it

[@suzanner1630]

I love they maintained their "sister" relationship despite addie and derek divorcing

[@suncore598]

I can see where Amelia is coming from. Some people have it in them for that kind of life and some don’t. You can’t force someone to change how they are wired, no matter how good your intentions are.

[@shevahauser1780]

It still sounds like amelia needs to talk to someone, and has alot of unresolved thoughts and feelings. Link obviously doesn't get any of that, but that doesn't mean she can't one day be able to ,or want, to get married.

[@suncore598]

@@shevahauser1780 There's also the possibility of that never changing and that's ok. Or at least it should be with Amelia's romantic partner.

[@clarkshann]

Who's trying to force her? That's just Amelia making excuses and the men the bad guy. And Addison didn't let her get away with that. Nothing wrong with someone not wanting to get married. Being married does not mean being domesticated. Amelia needs to stop making the men the bad guys for her not wanting to get married.

[@biancaaaaaxoxo]

I get Amelia. Not everyone wants to have more kids after the first one. Not everyone wants to be a wife and be home. She's gone through a lot (she lost her father at a very young age, her fiance OD right next to her, her baby was born with no brain, and basically exiled from her family bcuz she did drugs). She can talk to someone all she wants to resolve whatever issues but at the end of the day if she doesn't want to be married and have more kids then that's her decision. She doesn't need to justify it. I also don't think she's blaming Link or men in general. She just wants different things in life.

[@thomask70]

@@clarkshann Linc, visa vi his repetitive proposals. I get his point… but I dunno, something inside me screams the more you ask me to, the more I don’t wanna.

[@denko3203]

I'm really happy she gave us an update on her son and husband. Thank God Krista Vernoff didn't ruin that relationship as well.

[@BellesView]

Right?!

[@chantimanti9131]

same I guess and hope that her husband is still Jake and not a new one

[@winterhug4331]

@@chantimanti9131 October 22, 2021 - Yes, Addison's husband is STILL Jake, Kate Walsh confirmed this in an interview

[@kenek629]

No honestly because with Krista Vernoff we can't acc be too sure! She loves to throw a spanner in the works for no reason whatsoever

[@winterhug4331]

@@chantimanti9131 October 24, 2021 - Yes, Addison's husband is still Jake. Kate Walsh said it in an interview

[@TheHeartGirl784]

Now this is an understandable reason. I’m glad Amelia is finally truly explaining her reasons. Aside from saying the proposal was manipulative I agree with her about everything else. However, I think her only mistake was that she hasn’t said any of this to Link other than simply no. They need to get their communication back on track.

[@sxxxxxlxxx]

I can see where she’s coming from with the manipulative part though. If your partner has clearly told you NO to marriage, and then you decide to go for a public proposal (involving kids and everything), it’s easy to see that as being unintentionally manipulative, since it’s hard to say no in that situation. Amelia obviously didn’t mean he was doing it on purpose, since she also told addie that link wasn’t a manipulative guy.

[@1234willali]

Amelia is a great character. I am glad they brought A Piece of Private Practice to Grey’s. By far this is the most mature thing here.

[@m.q.7149]

@@sxxxxxlxxx His proposal was about a year after their initial conversation though. So not surprised he did eventually propose.

[@samuellewis571]

Communication was never Amelia’s strong suit

[@Kadasberry11]

Agreed. The gaslight statement wasn’t fair but everything else made complete sense; they want different things.

[@vellymint]

"I heard. I prayed" Lolllll addieee

[@idsa-gq4eg]

remember when her brother was sick and everyone said “addison doesn’t pray” LOL

[@teniola9304]

Thanks To Callie influence too.

[@cecelove2821]

I wish she would just be this honest with link instead of leaving him to wonder. Sometimes some people require a full explanation to understand why it just won’t work.

[@TytyandChelsea]

she's done this with literally all her love interests. I'm over it lol

[@chachadurand9194]

Exactly ppl hate when I say it’s not fair that she won’t give an explanation and that no is good enough, but really it’s not a good explanation. She can’t just say no then leave him to wonder. Link will understand if she will just tell him why she doesn’t want to get married, she can’t keep saying no

[@reezeea]

She did try to explain before but link couldn’t understand.

[@Rosannasfriend]

The only reason why “I know” isn’t good enough to you is because you don’t understand anyone else not wanting to get married the way that you do… You need to get over that.

[@TheCollectorsSin]

She has absolutely explained it to him multiple times. He just wants the fairy tale because he was raised in a broken home

[@odettcordero7281]

Addison won my heart even more when she said she prayed for Meredith. That's what I liked the most about her, her ability to get ahead and never hold back bad feelings. I still remember when she says she is proud that she fought for Love (Derek) she lost but fought for it. We don't deserve Kate Walsh, she's a great actress. P.D. It would have been great for her to meet Carina and see her son Henry😍🤩and send Jo for more coffee😂🤣

[@alannalancaster3659]

Addison never prays !! Loool

[@BBWJamie420]

Her sending Jo for coffee reminded me of Mark sending one of his interns to do his errands 😂

[@emery6049]

Do you know what episode Addison says she’s glad she fought for love?

[@odettcordero7281]

@@emery6049 It was in Private Practice season 5 episode 2 😊

[@emery6049]

@@odettcordero7281 thank you!

[@whitneyjones5342]

I love how greys touched on the darkness the pandemic made for some of us .

[@amycooper2364]

!!!!!!!

[@shevahauser1780]

Yes. So real. Good for adison.

[@mst-pierrem5729]

Yes the dreading and suicides ideation some us had. I think this is low-key one of the best scened talking about such a subject I've seen on TV.

[@yankeesrule2007]

I just watched this video and it made me not feel alone anymore to know I'm not the only one and to see it portrayed on a TV show...just makes me feel seen.

[@kimma508]

@@mst-pierrem5729 Your 19 year old son hearing voices and spending 7 weeks in a mental health facility where I couldn’t visit due to Covid.

[@noashom]

"Some people love it, they bake bread, I don't like bread" Addison, explaining the hatred, depression and despair around other people doing boring things while you are drowning, stuck at home in a deadly pandemic, in such an "Addison-ish" way. I love her.

[@TheMystique29]

Getting married is not a golden standard of living and it surely not the only way of handling a relationship or living your life. I applaud Amelia for that. I actually think her not wanting to get married is a sign of healing and not her self sabotaging.

[@MsMoonlight89]

Yes, I agree, especially since she knows agreeing to something she doesn’t want would end badly, and she cares about how that would hurt Link too, so she’s thought about that and actively decided not to drag Link into what she knows would become a miserable, tangled up mess, showing maturity, which, good for her and I’m happy to hear, I just also hope that she works on her communication skills.

[@TheMystique29]

@@MsMoonlight89 she explained very well to Addison that this domesticity made her want to drink and take drugs. Her past self would've chosen the self destructive path because of some misguided understanding of pleasing her partner. She recognises now the negative patterns and actively chooses not to follow them anymore

[@darkhorseash4337]

Yeah. She didn't want to and that's okay.

[@noashom]

@@TheMystique29 My thoughts exactly! Thank you!

[@MoonHuntressMetaphysics]

If only more people recognized this. Bravo.

[@sulaganabiswas]

I love Addison and Amelia talking...they are so incredibly honest.

[@HeyMyLifeIsLibby]

Amelia couldn’t have put this more eloquently and Addison couldn’t have reacted and related better. Get someone in your corner who’s seen you at your worst to confide in about this stuff. And word to the wise, NEVER let anyone force you to march to the beat of a drum where you can’t find a rhythm, no matter how much you love them.

[@SleepIntoTheDiamondLife]

finally, the people, who have been asking why Amelia didn't want to get married, has an answer now. and it's a good answer. not that she doesn't want to is a bad one. but those, who don't understand why someone doesn't want a marriage, has a satisfying answer at least.

[@shevahauser1780]

It still sounds like amelia needs to talk to someone, and has alot of unresolved thoughts and feelings. Link obviously doesn't get any of that, but that doesn't mean she can't one day be able to ,or want, to get married. It sounds like she has post partum, or PTSD from the Meridith situation, which doesn't automatically mean she will never want to settle down or be with link

[@SleepIntoTheDiamondLife]

@@shevahauser1780 why is 'not wanting to get married' an unacceptable answer to you? why does it HAVE to be PTSD or some kind of unresolved issue for a person to not get married? she clearly said domesticity is not her thing and that is a good reason as any.

[@Elenuur]

The problem is that now everyone knows the reason but Link.

[@shevahauser1780]

@@SleepIntoTheDiamondLife it could be, but it just sounds like she needs therapy. Either way she needs to resolve some issues, and not come to that conclusion because it's the wrong time or person

[@SleepIntoTheDiamondLife]

@@shevahauser1780 I rather agreed with Addison. Amelia made a mature decision to let Link go because he wanted something she doesn't. she may need therapy but not because she needs to be steered to the direction of marriage by her therapist. if she changes her mind, it would be when she won't feel bad in domesticity. the issue is that domesticity is truly not for everyone. some settle into it because of pressure or because they feel like they have to. but that never turns well for their own mental health.

[@kimma508]

Addison returning to Greys has been a godsend. I’ve missed her and I’m so happy she’s back. Hope to see Henry and Jake make an appearance soon.

[@heatherlynsey3092]

I think Derrick would be happy to know that Mer and Addison have a mutual respect for each other, even more than in earlier seasons!

[@gleidissantos5815]

I respect Amelia for accepting her truth instead of settling for what everyone else would want, and doing it with the pressure of rejecting someone as perfect as Link. It must be impossible to trust your instincts and stick to your truth after being the family screw up, a drug addict, having dealt with a tumor for years and not knowing if your decisions where ever real or just a symptom.... It has been A LOT! But she knows what she wants and although I loved her with Link, I'm happy for her.

[@scabillis]

Addison will forever be the best sister Amelia has. I didn't even watch Private Practice (which i should do asap). But you didn't have to watch it to see how powerful their bond is, even in this one short scene.

[@Rosannasfriend]

I agree. I’ve only watched Grey’s Anatomy occasionally in the last six years, but I could tell she just doesn’t have that same connection with Meredith or Maggie. And thank God, because it gives Addison a chance to step in and reclaim her place as Amelia’s ride for “sister”.

[@nick-lv3rh]

To me PP is the best show Shonda created. I love Mer and Maggie, but Amelia's family back in LA was amazing, everyone got her really well.

[@monalisasmile6629]

I highly recommend PP. Great cast. And the characters felt like a close-knitt family as the series went on. I started watching from the moment Addison moved to LA. The storylines in PP were amazing and Amelia's introduction later on was good. She was a great addition to the cast. Amazing chemistry with Kate Walsh.

[@monalisasmile6629]

@@nick-lv3rh Exactly! I miss her friendships with Sheldon and Charlotte. They loved her but I'm so glad we got to see these great scenes between her and Addison.

[@gracezola6708]

@@nick-lv3rh yes I totally agree with you

[@artemisia4034]

I love Amelia, she is so strong and standing for herself while staying sober. I absolutely agree, marriage and domesticity make me physically ill.

[@Angieluv95]

Completely understand Amelia and Omg Addie " I heard , I prayed " haha Love Her! I think we all needed to see how Addie was doing and understand why Amelia said no . I love this scene wish Addie didn't have to leave. They are both so relatable.

[@msfriendsfan4ever788]

I don't see a future between Link and Amelia after this conversation. Link wants the domestic bliss, but Amelia dosn't. They don't want the same thing, and neither should have to sacrifice what they want for the other one. They wouldn't be happy if they did

[@alisonwall5540]

There is no FUTURE for Amelia because she sucks at acting, her character is a victim of everything. She is not BELIEVABLE.. and its all about HER!! Get her off the show

[@pooydragon5398]

I honestly don’t get Amelia’s character. She loves/loved link. She had a child with him. They were living together. How would getting married change any of that? What domesticity does she not want? She doesn’t want to come home to her child? Or she didn’t want link because he was a good father and he wasn’t struggling like her? Everyone in this show is raising children out of wedlock and they pretend as if it is some brave thing that they are doing!

[@batbabe1507]

@@alisonwall5540 Oh fuck off. It's a show. Let's see you do better. Get a life and stop taking a damn show so seriously.

[@nick-lv3rh]

The comments here make me wonder if y'all really liked Amelia at some point or you only liked her when she was acting collected. She is a recovering drug addict and she's flawed just like the rest of the characters. She's gonna mess up. She's been messing up for 11 years and it's going to keep happening and she isn't a bad person for it.

[@noashom]

AND-in this case she didn't mess up, at all. She just wants different things than Link. There are a lot of women who don't want the domestic life that are not recovering addicts and didn't watch their father murdered in front of their eyes. It's a valid choice and not a flaw or messing up.

[@nick-lv3rh]

@@noashom Agreed, she did the right thing. She might have messed up in the past about some other stuff, but this is not it and ppl need to chill out.

[@winterhug4331]

October 22, 2021 - I like that Amelia told Addison what really happened between her and Link. I also like the fact that Addison told Amelia about what she went through during the pandemic. It let Amelia know that Addison is not perfect. Amelia has always had this perception that she was. This scene brought tears to my eyes. Addison and Amelia a mini #PrivatePractice reunion💖

[@noashom]

Why do you add the date to every comment you write?

[@winterhug4331]

@@noashom October 29, 2021 - I like to add the date to my comments because if someone responses to it months or years later, I want to know when "I" made the specific comment. Which has happened before

[@ilahmaecunanan2629]

“I heard. I prayed.” 😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@thekid8832]

In four episodes they went from happily raising a kid together to a proposal to broken up and I still don't get what happened. Kinda like with Owen they were happily talking about kids and a few episodes later she was moving out

[@jessadios1990]

that's Amelia Shepherd for ya. The very second things either get serious or complicated she pulls away. Then she starts getting "gaslighty and manipulative" just like with Owen and Link. i'm really glad we're having this scene where she's confronted with her issues and can't cop her way out of it. would've preferred to see this two season ago though.

[@joshuapellicia4672]

@@jessadios1990 I mean she did tell Link that she didn’t want to….and he instead proposed more and more.

[@jessadios1990]

@@joshuapellicia4672 I haven’t seen the recent episodes but I will take you’re word for it 😁

[@theresabootie6541]

I mean you do know her full history right? Shes afraid... She cant do marriage or that type of commitment because of her past. And as well as domesticity she needs the busy hospital life to not return to who she was before.

[@kimberlyn8678]

I mean if you saw her past from Private Practice, she got engaged or married im not sure which to a guy named Ryan and she wound up next to him in bed and he had passed away. A marriage commitment is a lot to some people. 🤷‍♀️

[@aethei8560]

Amelia and Addison stole the show this episode 🥺 and my heart went out to Amelia’s reason to why she doesn’t want to get married. But the only issue is that this is the conversation she needs to have with Link. The poor guy feels so lost, and in any form of relationship (even if it’s just friendship) communication is key.

[@karenbrown5785]

Ok great. So Amelia doesn’t want a life with him. It’s done now. Everything she said is perfectly valid. They’re not married and she already didn’t want a life with him so that’s that. They clearly want different things in life and shouldn’t be together. I completely support her being happy with her decision.

[@BrokenDarkFire]

I am so exhausted of all of Amelia’s relationships not working out or ending with someone smothering her somehow, but god, that is so real, what she felt in that house with Link and I’m glad they addressed it like this. And I hope she eventually finds someone who doesn’t want her to settle down and become domestic because she’s been pretty clear for several years now that whatever other things she might want, a life of domesticity and homemaking is not one of them. And I’m so happy we got an update on Addison and Jake and Henry! I’m so glad they didn’t break them up. Their family was so cute.

[@raphaelrodrigues1645]

That's the thing. During the pandemic, everything that they could do was being domestic. Now that it's "over" they could go back to normal life. We didn't saw MerDer's life fall into domesticity, or Bailey and Ben's marriage settle down (actually the opposite, Bailey became chief and Ben became a firefighter), so, why would AmeLink end up domestic? If Link likes so much the domestic life, he can settle down, not expecting Amelia to do it with him, even when married. For God's sake, Derek went to Washington and Mer stayed in Seattle, and their marriage didn't fall apart (ok, he died after, but anyway), even though he expected that Mer would go with him, she stood up and didn't settle down (she didn't have to repeat Callie's mistake)

[@micahjenkins7708]

@@raphaelrodrigues1645 link wants her to have a domestic life tho he really wants that and it's easy to tell if they got married either he would be unhappy and have to settle it she would

[@raphaelrodrigues1645]

@@micahjenkins7708 well. That's something that they should talk about. I hope that, if she decides to marry Link, he doesn't do what Tucker did to Miranda, when she stayed true to her wish to be the badass surgeon she is.

[@noashom]

@@raphaelrodrigues1645 Seriously? All of Meredith and Derek's storylines in seasons 10-11 was exactly about that! After Bailey was born they had 2 children, they had a lot more domesticity, both of them had to give up a lot in work, research and surgery and none of them wanted to do it. Derek promised he will take a step back for a year so Meredith will be able to do research and make progress as an attending but of course, he broke the promise about 2 minutes after and they fought ALL THE TIME about it. Eventually Meredith was the one who had to give up(because the douche believed his carrer was more important than her's..) When he decided that his project with the president was more important than her and their family he left to D.C and she was left alone with 2 very young children, was exhausted all the time, missed surgeries, forgot to meet the nanny that she hired because he left(did I mentioned she was exhausted?) And for a brief moment she sympathized with a mother who threw herself off a bridge with her kids, said that maybe it was because she was alone and too tired to do everything by herself. Meredith and Derek are *the* example of what can happen when you expand your family without having a proper conversation about the outcomes of this expansion. Having a big family can be wonderful and it can also be too much and a person should be allowed to say it's not for them.

[@raphaelrodrigues1645]

@@noashom I forgot about this part of MerDer's history. Anyway, I'd say that Link is the one who wand to get domestic, so he goes domestic, he can leave medicine or anything like that so HE can do what HE wants. He has no right to require that Amelia do that with him since she doesn't want the domestic life (considering that they get married). Although, if this scenario becomes "true", it may end up like Miranda and Tucker. But it can go well like it is going with Ben and Miranda (Although bailey's kids are a teenager and a young adult, something easier to deal).

[@rm5492]

these two have such a deep bond and I Iove it!

[@emilyw530]

I knew Addison would be able to talk to her about Link

[@nanthinikunasehgar1790]

Amelia had a kid, she went through that whole hurdle of having a kid after loosing another and she just wants to be mum to one kid and be a doctor. Link wants a village of kids. Amelia opened up that everytime she was around all the kids she was thinking of doing drugs. And we all know how much she has grown and if she knows what she wants then link has to either be content with what they have and be happy or move on and let each other find a partner that makes them happy.

[@divinacommedia4000]

Amelia’s feeling are 100% valid, she felt trapped, she felt like she couldn’t breath meanwhile her partner was thriving doing things that were killing her inside. Ofc she took a step back. And she did what’s best for herself. It would’ve been so much easier to give in and settle with this seemingly perfect life but she realized beforehand it was not what she wanted, and she was strong enough to say no.

[@JohnathanHouston-uq6hy]

Yeah she realized wasn't in love with him but she didn't tell Link she just said no to his proposal's without telling why he thinking she wasn't ready so he give her some space hoping she would come around only for her to moved on without letting him know she has move on doing so springing him a long

[@sprihaupadhyaya7343]

I appreciate that Grey can bring this up without shaming Amelia. Just cause your partner wants more kids and marriage does not mean that you need to want that automatically. She does love Link and she does love her son but to her love does not mean marriage.

[@muskaankhurana9331]

The way Greys manages to talk about these issues… like it reminded me of when Meredith talked to Jo while she was going through her stuff in season 15. Greys anatomy does a really really great job with the dialogue in these dark conversations and I think it’s really important

[@jenjenwillemsen]

I honestly loved, LOVED, this scene. I have watched GA an PP through the years. This moment shows just how much things can effect people and people who are seen as STRONG characters who have went to hell and back and seem stable and happy. None of us are immune to depression. Also we should not have to "fit" into social norms like what she said about domestic life. That is not something everyone wants, despite it being widely advertised as the ultimate goal. GA continues to raise the bar on issues that are happening and I hope they continue to keep it real.

[@gavinsaunders670]

I developed an addiction to alcohol during the pandemic and went to rehab in February of 2022. This scene really hits home. I lost my shit during the pandemic and I gained 60 lbs. Im 18 months clean now, feeling better than ever.

[@SamanthaGonzalez-vm3lk]

so the problem all along was that she didn't want domesticity? so many arguments and sadness could've been avoided with good communication. of course, talking about your feelings isn't easy but if you have a partner, it has to be done

[@cecelove2821]

Her communication skills has always been terrible even back in private practice she has grown in certain aspects but this aspect she hasn’t and she needs to work on that

[@Crescentknight8189]

Thank you! This could have been solved months ago before Scout was born. They could’ve came up with a parenting schedule and everything. Instead, she’s now dropping everything in Link’s lap so she can go off on her next grand adventure untethered.

[@junbh2]

A big part of that is that he was delighted to be taking care of four children while she was barely surviving it. He wants a big family. She wants to have only the one kid. That's not something communication or a schedule changes.

[@palesapamelanhlapo9840]

I am disappointed in the writing team when it comes to Amelia I feel like they are not being fair with this character. I've watched this show from the beginning and I've always believed in how characters grow and we have seen how much Amelia has grown and yet every time they want to end a relationship it's always kids or marriage. This is not a problem I thought she'd have with Link because during last season they talked about it and agreed not to rush things because he also had his issues with marriage because of his parents so it makes no sense that all of a sudden end of the season he is so desperate to marry her that he is willing to lose her after everything they have been through that this will be the hill he is willing to die on doesn't feel real or true to the Characters just feels like the writers were rushing to end this relationship before the start of this season so they could give her a new love interest and as they always do they will bring someone new Into Amelia's life too fast like this new Doctor Kai and make Link and her relationship feel like it didn't matter. The way she seems so over him already just feels wrong. We were made to believe that this was it for them that they would be endgame but she is behaving like it meant nothing. It's really disappointing I hope the writers do better. With everything she went through with Owen and the kids thing it's just hard to believe that she would just be this way about Link. This actually makes me sad. I hope the long distance relationship she has with the next doctor will be what she wants. I hope one day they will give Amelia the good things she deserves. I hope. As a die hard fan who will keep watching even when it makes me sad I will keep watching and I will keep hoping

[@flamecorexxx6354]

I think Amelia well end up with that Kai or any other girl.

[@Rosannasfriend]

Why is the problem “Amelia being this way” instead of how link is being? Or how about just how sad it is that they’re on different pages and it’s not anyone’s fault? May be link can realize he doesn’t have to marry her in order to be together and happy?

[@mitsukai7192]

I agree; it's all the writers. Amelia's reasoning here makes sense, and even her saying no to the proposal makes sense, but the attitude that it didn't matter doesn't line up with the last season. They seemed to be setting it up so that she and Link could compromise/make things work. Maybe he has to learn to accept her for who she is and what she wants, but I feel like the writing has been trying to do all these things in a messy way. My one hope is that they don't make her pull away from raising Scout; he's her son, that isn't fair to him.

[@schmapples]

agreed!!!!!!!!

[@user-ib1is7ny7r]

yes exactly. this is why i want grey’s anatomy to end, krista is ran out of ideas long ago and she keeps destroying relationships for the sake of it

[@greeneyelove2003]

Some people aren't meant for 2.5 kids, a white fence, a prefect house and the supposedly perfect family/marriage and not being meant for that or not wanting that doesn't make a person wrong or broken.

[@mldy9229]

Why doesn’t she talk about that with Link? Amelia always manages to have communicating problems with all her relationship it’s starting to be boring

[@kennedy4257]

Because to be honest I feel like they’re hinting at history with her drug addiction and the last time someone proposed to her he died. And the fact that she’s going to AA it’s not the right fix f for most emotional problems meaning she’s going to struggle in relationships until she seeks counseling.

[@sex3156]

@@kennedy4257 she married Hunt though and at one point planned a cookie cutter family with him. I just think that she is scared because one guy she was engaged with died beside her, the next man she married and he was still in love with his friend along with her having a tumor. I’m not saying get married, but she should tell link this exact thing she told Addison. She just keeps saying no without giving a actual reason to Link. I don’t think it is fair for Link to keep proposing, but I also don’t think Amelia is fair either with not giving Link a reason why. She told him that marriage was on the table at one point, so that is why Link proposed. Then she changed her mind without telling him. Personally I think she should just stay alone for a while. She went directly from Hunt to Link in a short time, then when they got together she got pregnant. I don’t think she meant for this to be long lasting. Sorry for the paragraph!

[@kennedy4257]

@@sex3156 because I forgot about Owen for some reason. That might have contributed in making it worse meaning she runs from commitment. I think her not going into the reasoning also has to do with that. But yeah I get what you’re saying

[@yurelsisrodriguez1621]

@@kennedy4257 she was also engaged to a doctor name James before she broke it up and moved to Seattle.

[@allanaj6286]

@@sex3156 Thank you! I am sick of people saying that Amelia made it clear to Link early on that she doesn't want to get married because that's not true. He tried to propose and she turned it down but said that marriage is an option for them but she didn't want the proposal to feel forced. That's why Link waited a while before he proposed again so it felt more natural. Up until the proposal at Maggie's wedding Amelia never told Link that she had changed her mind about being open to marriage, she only told people at her meetings. When he proposed he had no idea she had changed her mind so he was blindsided by her answer. Now, he is probably feeling sad and rejected because she said she was open to marriage and now is saying she isn't but she hasn't given him any reason for the change of heart. Who wouldn't find that upsetting? Having said that, if he really wants to get married and have more children he should move on and find someone who wants what he wants and who uses open communication in an effort to try and avoid a situation like this happening again.

[@quinn3660]

Not Addison wanting to unalive herself 😭

[@gillesnotard69]

And Link said "you can't drink but I can", and that's the biggest red flag, that gaslight was enough for a lifetime of loneliness for him.

[@emilydebridge7145]

when amelia said that he kept proposing to her, i went back and rewatched a few episodes of season 17 and it wasn't far from the truth at all. link really did try to tie amelia down multiple times even though she kept saying no. like that one episode in season 17 where they talked about marriage, amelia kept saying she wasn't ready and link proposed to her🤨🤨 there was a few other times but the point is, amelia and link began falling apart a long time ago and in my opinion, it wouldn't be good for either of them if they ever got back together.

[@sophiarodriguez3706]

I understand and can identify with everything said in this clip except the statement “I don’t like bread.” 😂

[@MultifandomMashup]

Their relationship in Private Practice was everythinggg

[@elizabethshook9334]

Addy is going to fix everything and everyone. They needed her. 🙂

[@amartyaroy3754]

Am I the only one who wants an update on Charlotte and Copper and their 4 kids ?

[@kennediesimon5532]

Nope it’s not just you 😂

[@kellyjohnson4452]

I haven't watched GA since Dereks death, only because I tried watching later season and just couldn't get into the characters. BUT!!! I have full understanding of this scene. I feel like people forget she was mentally abused by her family. Turned the black sheep because of drugs. And even in the moment where she was trying and asking for help, her family did nothing. They didnt even want to come to her and Owens wedding. When you don't have love growing up, its hard to find it within yourself, and you just try to make other people happy. You fake it. She might have dabbled in getting married and having kids, but some where deep down it didn't feel right to her. The pandemic forced her into the situation she didn't want, but she went along because as she said, who could hurt such a nice guy. She is finally growing up and learning her boundaries.

[@mugdharedkar4870]

A public proposal done without thr consent of yout partner, catching them off guard and in a situation where saying no is difficult is manipulative and gaslighty even if not intentional. Especially when your partner has explicitly said they have zero interest in marriage. And even if some time has passed since the conversation it doesn't hurt to check in and ask them atleast what their views are before ambushing them with a proposal in someone else's wedding (which is gross in any situation). I am glad Amelia stood her ground and didn't cave in to link's incessant demand to have his way and being condescending af towards her wish of not wanting to be married. Thr constant proposing despite her saying no and it seriously affecting her addiction and link not paying heed to this is seriously very concerning. Toxic positivity is just as bad if you think about it. What he wanted was making her spiral and wanting to fall of the wagon and she doesn't have to explicitly state it. Like he should understand or try to talk to her about it. They were stuck in a house together for fucks sake

[@533134]

Addison needs to come back as a regular or semi-regular. She brings back the old greys feeling that I’ve been missing

[@winterhug4331]

October 24, 2021 Yes it would be nice if Addison did return to Greys but she has other obligations and she currently lives in Australia. Kate Walsh did Greys this time because it has been in the works for awhile and she had a break in her schedule. She is now back in Australia, getting ready to do a stage play.

[@lixquidlilo2984]

Y’all are missing the point link and amelias desired life styles aren’t compatible and unless they find a compromise they’re both comfortable with or one of them miraculously changes their mind it’s not gonna work

[@nick-lv3rh]

They don't want to accept it. They just want Amelia to do what Link wants to be happy.

[@msfriendsfan4ever788]

I don't think there can be a compromise to what they each want. They don't want the same thing.

[@Crescentknight8189]

@@nick-lv3rh No, people want Amelia to, for once, do the adult thing and verbalize her feeling coherently and not try to escape her responsibilities by passing them off to someone else. She can do what she wants, but that talk with Addison? That should’ve been with Link. Dumping the father of her child and trying to leave to another state without talking to him and just assuming he has this whole doctor/dad dynamic down? That a shitty thing to do both the child and the father.

[@Crescentknight8189]

@Tyga Eye Dude has stuck with her through thick and thin. He may not have been there for the worst, but he has shown that he was willing to stick by her through it. If she can’t trust Link with the whole truth about herself, then they’re going to be doomed to fail, which makes this more than a domesticity problem.

[@marinesnow6603]

So Jake is into model trains and somehow I'm realizing that's all I needed to know

[@nathalie_august8385]

I'm so happy she mentioned Jake and Henry.

[@Rosannasfriend]

People in the comment section pretending that they wanted to know why Emilia didn’t want to get married… When all they’re really fishing for is a way that she can change that feeling and decide to get married. Not wanting to is not enough for them… And then when they finally get the reasons above, they say well let’s fix that and get her some therapy and then she’ll finally want to get married! Therapy is fine, I do think she needs it, but don’t make it about how you can make her have a “better attitude“ so she can marry link.It is perfectly fine not to get married, and you can be perfectly healthy and not have trauma and have that stance.

[@moviegal6000]

All of this! I get those questions all the time. Why aren’t you married? When are you gonna have kids? Don’t you hate being alone? Yes there may be some trauma there but sometimes the answer is as simple as “It’s not what I want.”

[@shelbyharderanderson4578]

Realistically I feel like Link is the one that needs to examine why marriage is a priority for him. He loves her, it's clear. But his conversation with Teddy made it seem that the idea of "unmarried" was a detriment to their child. Even though they were in a committed relationship prior. He also knew what he was doing when he ignored her saying no. He needs to seriously examine why he wants to get married. Because "it's the next step in a relationship" or "it's what people do" is not a valid answer. Sorry to break it to him but marrying her won't just make you guys a great healthy couple with the perfect domestic life. Realistically (apart from any religious beliefs people have attached to marriage which are not shown to be a factor here) marriage is a legally binding status that gives you legal rights. But it doesn't do anything else. So where is his desire coming from, and why needs to be considered here more than why she doesn't.

[@clarkshann]

@@shelbyharderanderson4578 NO it's on her NOT on him he should not have to justify his feelings. She's the one who does not SHE needs to be honest with him. Just like she did with all the other men she screwed over and made them the bad guys.

[@Unbaked_P0tat00]

@@clarkshann She did not made Link the bad guy in this situation. He did it himself by not listening when she told him multiple times she didn’t wanted to get married. I think they are in a situation where nobody is wrong or right. Link wants to get married, he is allowed to, and Amelia doesn’t, she’s also allowed to. There’s no bad guy in this situation.

[@clarkshann]

@@Unbaked_P0tat00 Here we go. Just like clockwork attacking the man just like with Owen and every guy she screws over. They are the bad ones it's never her fault but guess what who is the one common demoninator here? She is.

[@lindseyburns1019]

I’m a nurse and love my career. I could never be a stay at home wife or mom. I love working. I totally get Amelia.

[@twittertweet6507]

Some people baked bread. I don't like bread.. Why does this remind me suddenly of Izzie and her baking earlier in the seasons? :D

[@noashom]

God, I hated her.

[@dancerfruit2]

Thank you grey's, I was wondering about Jake and Henry

[@MPG-ub5ke]

Ohhh I love hearing Addie talk about her husband & "video game obsessed son" 😍😍😍

[@rachelleloughin9733]

Yesss Henry and Jake 🧡

[@jonesh19]

I haven’t been watching closely lately but has Link said he wants her to be a stay at home mom and all domesticated? Because marriage and kids doesn’t have to = doing washing/dishes cooking constantly. They are both high flying surgeons I’m sure they could hire housekeepers etc. Or has he explicitly said that’s what he wants from her? I always felt Link was an accepting dude who wouldn’t expect her to just change who she is but maybe I’ve missed something!

[@mishakitty13]

In my opinion they have changed how they have written Link. At the start of their relationship he was very understanding and took the time to listen, but last season Amelia tried to communicate, but Link just wasn’t understanding her point of view

[@Mhaga81]

Maybe she has ptsd from owen…who wanted the domestic lifestyle. Owen did that to every woman he married, the expectation of children and domestic living

[@heatherlicious8224]

Also, Mer has more kids. Their life would not have been the same. She did lead him on by always saying “some day”. She didn’t mention that. This is her choice but I think she’s gonna get with that girl at the lab. She takes every problem from the past and brings it to the new relationship. It will be doomed to fail. I don’t dislike Amelia but I like Link better and she deserves to be alone

[@biancasilva8172]

It's still not what she wants. Marriage and kids does mean domesticity, you can tune it down a bit by hiring someone but that will still be your life, with a bunch of kids. Why is she the one that have to adapt to what he wants? Why is she the one being blamed, when he made it very clear he wasn't willing to give up what he wanted either? He wants a bunch of kids and marriage. She doesn't want a bunch of kids and marriage. And everyone acts like she is the bad person for not giving him what he wants, when in reality neither of them should give up on their needs. They don't match, the lives they want don't match. People need to start accepting not everyone wants a bunch of kids (if any) and getting married.

[@stefafa]

"Amelia talks to literally everyone else *but* Link about where things went wrong with Link."

[@omarcogle1965]

She did that with Owen as well too.

[@colleensimmert1283]

The thing that I’ve always loved the most about this scene is that it’s not just about how Amelia is talking to Addy in ways she wouldn’t talk to Mer or Maggie, but also about how vulnerable Addy is able to be with Amelia. You can see how hard it is for her to be honest about scared she was and how dark her own thoughts were during the height of the pandemic, but she knows if there’s one person in the world that will understand those thoughts the most in the world and never judge her for them it’s the woman sitting across from her

[@kathleenrunas9435]

She couldn't be any more clearer with her reasons! If people still don't get it, then they're helpless.

[@DacesWithWerewolves8]

YES, she mentioned Henry!!

[@hanisyafaah]

fun fact: Kate & Caterina's birthdays are only 3 days apart (different year tho)

[@sarika811]

I love it! I love them! I have miss them! ❤❤ Edited to add: As a doctor, why would Addison be stuck at home? The hospitals were overwhelmed and would have needed all doctors on deck. Love the Henry and Jake mentioned!

[@biancasilva8172]

Just reminding everyone that you don't need a reason for not wanting to get married. You can just not want to.

[@reallifewithray2707]

Other than the addiction part I think Christina and Amelia are a lot of like... They are both addicted to their work they give us the real from it and it's so much a part of their identity that they are very happy and content without marriage... They both enjoy sex and intimacy but I think Amelia would have been fine had she never had a baby but she has a great mother! There are a lot of comparisons and the characteristics of Amelia and Christina... Anyone else? I would say they're very different the way they express emotion but they are kind of not they both use dark humor, sarcasm... Amelia probably expresses more emotion than Christina but they are similar in that way as well... I would love to hear others opinion

[@nick-lv3rh]

Agreed. I would've loved to see them interact in the show, maybe they would be great friends.

[@Rosannasfriend]

It does explain why Owen married both of them and had the same problem with both of them… Not wanting kids! Ha ha.

[@noashom]

Also, both of them witnessed their father's deaths.

[@allasperans3984]

Their both are my favorites

[@nicoleevonnegalan2660]

I’m glad Addie and Mer talked to

[@dakotaskong759]

This was so needed 😭💔

[@flamecorexxx6354]

So Addison, only stayed for 2 or 3 episodes after that she leaves again. if i am not mistaken. This season interns i don’t know but they not much chemistry with the old the characters or they not noticeable in this season episodes of grey’s anatomy. The new intern look all plain and boring to watch. this show is not the same when Christina, Arizona, Callie, Addison, and other main characters left. I don’t know if the show survive once’s Meredith leaves. Or maybe they continue the show but the main characters are new or they start new season give Meredith and Derek, childrens own storyline as main characters.

[@bernardomello842]

I totally agree with you. I'm tired of this musical chairs number of new interns every other year. I can't make an emotional connection with them as I did with the original characters.

[@luisanoguera987]

I wish they would have actually shown Amelia feeling this way all last season instead of just the last few episodes, but I’m glad that this is something she’s able to actually talk to someone about without judging her. Honestly Amelia & Link were both on the same page of no wanting marriage (with her having a failed marriage & him having trauma from his parent’s divorce)so it seems silly that he’s all of a sudden offended & somehow doesn’t understand that she still feels that way. This story arc is good, but very careless writing. Anyways I’m excited to see what happens with Amelia & Kai even though I really enjoyed Amelink, but I really hope they keep Jo & Link as friends & only friends.

[@1234willali]

Amelia is the most complex character here. This episode, she brought Practice Practice to Greys and it’s the most mature thing they shown here on the show. STOP showing us people having hospital sex. It’s not realistic.

[@poojamaloo7504]

Just wondering, why is that most women surgeons on GA don't enjoy domesticity? Derek, Burke, Owen, Link, even Mark enjoyed and embraced domesticity. On the other hand, besides Izzie and April, none of the women surgeons quite enjoyed domesticity but then again, Izzie and April were never really depicted as the star/gifted surgeons on the show.

[@naedot.9779]

No idea. They really need to remove this picture that successful women can't have a really great domestic life and enjoy it.

[@fattysl26]

It's probably the nature of the job. If you want to be a top surgeon, then it's all about the job. That doesn't leave much space for domesticity and honestly not all women are about that life.

[@ssansu]

Domesticity is boring af. It's in no way the ideal way to live to many people. You sound like you think that there is something wrong with a person who does not want to be a wifey above all else.

[@naedot.9779]

@@ssansu ...

[@poojamaloo7504]

@@ssansu hardly. Just that on the show, while the successful male surgeons enjoy domesticity but the most successful female surgeons don't. Comes across as a trope now.

[@Adamayepoh]

I'll never understand the obsession of marriage. It is more than a piece of paper, in a spiritual sense, marriage is the combining of souls, it's more than legality and taxes, I understand that. But you can still have a domestic life and love someone for the rest of your life without getting married. Why does it always have to be marriage? If anything, a marriage in the Grey's universe is like omen haha

[@feliciatierney2265]

You know what, I've spent 21 years with the same man. We've lived our lives, raised a family, and loved each other dearly through all of it and all without the benefit of a wedding ceremony and it's not because either of us is opposed to marriage or that he never proposed. He did and I said yes but somehow life always seemed to get in the way of an actual wedding. I'm sure one day we'll say "I do" but ironically while it seems most of my friends who went the traditional route are now divorced we're still happily together so really who's to say what's right and wrong?

[@emgiemaico]

these surgeons are the neediest people, i swear

[@daisiejensen4818]

Let's be honest Amelia is not afraid of a family life. She is afraid of commitment. This is very similar to what happened to Own. Amelia's character went through enough with her addiction, her family and Owen, so when she now has a child with a man she has fallen in love with the writers are like "nope - it's on to the next one".

[@lara-gn6lz]

now we can see where Amelia is coming from... darn it , i will never be uninlove with her

[@josieshires6935]

I hope Addison can bring Amelia out of her darkness

[@BBWJamie420]

I kinda want Addison back full time on greys tbch.

[@laurafabianmarrero8614]

Love this two Now if she can actually talk to link They might have a chance

[@Rosannasfriend]

A chance at what? He still wants marriage, and she doesn’t. Period.

[@MsMoonlight89]

@@Rosannasfriend A chance at a successful relationship, if he can come around and respect her wishes and agree to a relationship without marriage, because having an actual conversation can give people more insight and help them be more understanding.

[@sxxxxxlxxx]

​@@MsMoonlight89 It wasn't just about marriage. It was about DOMESTICITY and MORE KIDS. Link wanted that but Amelia didn't.

[@msfriendsfan4ever788]

After what Amelia said, there is no chance for them anymore. Marrige isn't something that should be compromised over. Link wants marrige and more kids, which Amelia dosn't.

[@msfriendsfan4ever788]

@@MsMoonlight89 Why should Link give up what he wants. He wants marrige and more kids. Should he have to sacrifice that for Amelia

[@lilyfreed5642]

I love how they can close switch from Sisters to professionals

[@boingokky]

Sometimes all you need is a big sister...

[@kadrikeris]

#GreysAnatomy #CaterinaScorsone #KateWalsh Addison visits her ex sister in law for a medical consultation but Amelia tells her differences between her husband. Many years ago Addison helps her during Amelia`s drug abusis she tooks Oxycodon this a drug that involves very worse applacation in the brain systemic. Addison was married with Amelia`s elder brother Derek (Patrick Dempsey). For me Grey`s Anatomy is the best medical drama since the first serie "Emergency Room". Congratulations #GreysAnatomy staff for your 18th Season! I love you all of us. Your turkish friend Kadri.

[@brendasolanachiliguay6243]

I understand both Amelia know what she want and that is great also Link here i believe he wants the domesticity and monotomy because he experience the inestability by dicorceparents who kinda hate each other, so he does not want that for his child. The better for them is co- parenting

[@aleahrosner453]

Gimme a B! Gimme an O! Gimme a U! Gimme an N! Gimme a D! Gimme an A! Gimme an R! Gimme an I! Gimme an E! Gimme an S! What does that spell? Why Amelia Shepherd is one of the greatest and most admirable characters of all time!!!!!!!

[@WMM27]

the fact that Link couldnt see that she was hanging by a thread and focused only on what he wanted is why i am not really a fan of a the relationship. that and he really needs to learn the meaning of no

[@TytyandChelsea]

Damn Amelia you already figured this out in season 10?11? and now again. This kind of feels like a redundant plot for her to be honest. I want to see something else besides Amelia getting into a marriage/coparenting situation and not communicating with her partners that she hates that life and then it just falls apart. I'm ready for her character to go through something besides this or relapsing.

[@cherylhowe1541]

Why couldn't she have told Link that instead of just letting him go with no real explanation.

[@nick-lv3rh]

"I don't want to get married" is enough real explanation.

[@mayyamg2809]

Amelia is so annoying. Super annoying. Link deserves better. The idea that him loving her equals manipulation, wanting to have a family equals gaslighting - is her mental instability and inability to be loved. She ruined every relationship she ever had with her emotional drama. So Link should consider himself lucky, cause he is the kind of guy who doesn't get divorced

[@ejayancheta4966]

I noticed that Grey's Anatomy's relationship problems are all about the woman who doesn't want to get married and a man who really wanted it. And no relationship except for Meredith's and Derek lasted longer. Can the writer just give us Amelia and Link? Because Teddy and Owen are dreaming the good life and I dont even like them. While Megan and Nathan broke up after what they've been through. I really thought that Alex and Jo will be like MerDer because they really understand each other. I hoped that Alex just went away to find a job in othee hospital and not leave Jo for Izzie because as long as i love Izzie, she wasnt there when Alex is down instead she left him with a letter abd never came back. The last thread im hanging on is Webber abd Fox

[@checksanity]

You're forgetting Bailey and Ben, as well as Catherine and Webber. Megan and Nathan were barely part of the show in comparison.

[@ejayancheta4966]

@@checksanity Yeah I forgot Bailey and Ben, actually I like their relationship because they have a clear communication. The State or Church stuffs. And also I mentioned Webber and Fox at the end HAHAHHA. About Nathan and Megan, i mean Nathan and Meredith has a chemistry and connection but Nathan choses Megan and Meredith understands it. I just felt disappointed by that fact because Nathan and Megan are ready to have the life after what they've been through and then suddenly they broke up. I think the writers like to use break-ups when a character can't appear on the show just likr what they did to Alex. They can just say that they have work stuff on another state so they can avoid hurting audiences who is now afraid to settle because of them😭

[@checksanity]

@@ejayancheta4966 Ah sorry I did miss that very last sentence, my bad. And yeah I get what you mean about the breakups. I think the only reason Addison was able to still be with her husband and son is that she's only guest starring. Oh, but they did at least insinuate that Jackson and April are together. Whether just as BFF's and co-parents or a romantic couple, they're a team/family.

[@ejayancheta4966]

@@checksanity Yeah, well to end this discussion all I can say is that Grey's Anatomy made me realized that marriage is a mess-up and complicated concept in life. I think i should avoid it

[@beatrixhaigh1757]

Addison talking about her husband and son🥺

[@ryukomatoi3540]

“I hate that for you” It actually pains me to see how far the writing for this show has gone down the toilet

[@Gabbs_0.x]

Oooo Addison lost some points with me in this one. Who doesn't like bread? It'S BREAD!

[@NIVEA815]

I don't know how this show will end or when. But I do hope Amelia gets to return to Los Angeles and reunite with her friends over there. maybe she can rekindle her relationship with Sheldon Wallace ( a dr (psychiatrist) from private practice) Addison is such an important person to her and i would hate to see Amelia left alone after the show ends. she has already lost too much. plus Los Angeles and private practice just seem warm and nice as opposed to the cold and rainy Seattle.

[@austinblalock9058]

All I wanna say is when Addison said I went dark very dark they missed the perfect opportunity to have Amelia say “sometimes i go a A little dark and twisty but i come back” Just like Meredith said to Amelia outside the cemetery.

[@lolliesmile13]

That end of the Clip bring me to try..

[@shiney94]

I see a lot of people saying marriage is not important etc. Let me tell you as a REAL doctor it is important. I see on a daily basis little children/teenagers coming into hospital with suicide attempts/self harm etc. Why? Becuase they had a bad upbringing thanks to their selfish parents who had sex and then had a child but did not want responsibilities for it. Marriage is a union between a man and woman that is used to bring a child into the world in a stable way. Once you have destoryed the institute of marriage (which has already happened in the west), then await for the collapse of society which is made up of smaller units called a 'family'. Just like Rome fell; the West is falling, but it doesn't notice because it is still too high in the sky, but the collapse is occuring as we speak

[@StewNWT]

Amelia whining that Link was ‘gaslighting and manipulative’ is such bullshit. Link was perfect - he was there for her he passed her insane test of ‘do you still want this baby even if it’s not yours’ and he accepted her as she was and then she trapped him into parenthood and then abandoned him to go chase a fetish coworker She was never going to do better than Link

[@suzanner1630]

I can somewhat see tge gaslight part. She repeatedly said no to wanting marriage and it was almost as though he thought by doing it in public with her nieces and nephews as props would force her to say yes

[@oshirou]

Thank you, Amelia. Now I have closure...

[@megandoss6083]

I love Addison Montgomery she my favorite she is so beautiful and Amelia Shepherd ."

[@mrlogicwolf4867]

can’t believe the amount of people siding with amelia she’s dead wrong for throwing away a perfectly good family because of her stupid feeling and emotions changing every 5 minutes