An Asian loser watches another Asian loser catfish Nina Dobrev 😺🐠 *Love Hard Movie Reaction*

[@randomuserwitharandomname6183]

Movies being always about a gorgeous woman falling in love with an average guy but never about a himbo falling for an ugly ass girl is my villain origin story. I'm about to snap.

[@withcindy]

GOD I WANT IT TOO

[@randomuserwitharandomname6183]

@@withcindy It's what we as a society deserve 😔 Another great video, Cindy!

[@neptunie5171]

Basically. The only movie I can think of that maybe hits that criteria is Hairspray........that's it.

[@alleycat2297]

this comment makes me feel seen

[@mitchierainbow7353]

We need more movies like that. We need that average looking girl and himbo representation😫

[@boldanabrasevic3020]

"They picked the whitest mixed Asian guy" I'm honestly surprised they haven't picked Scarlett Johansson for the role

[@withcindy]

they shouldve

[@gabrielavo512]

"I am an act-tour. As an act-tour, I can play any Asian, man, woman, trees." Scarlett during the casting for this movie, probably.

[@juliannehannes11]

@@withcindy I heard Emma Stone was up for it but dropped out due to pregnancy

[@IAmLunaLi]

Originally it was going to be Charles Melton but there was a scheduling conflict

[@valeriav4867]

@@gabrielavo512 comment of the year

[@nerdy_swiftie8214]

“The guy is an Asian loser who is also a stoner. He really is me *wheezing* “ Cindy STOPPP 💀

[@withcindy]

i really could have played him

[@mels6970]

@@withcindy a sapphic version of this movie is all we need

[@Cia_M1986]

@@withcindy pls do. SOMEONE GET NETFLIX.

[@theannaliviams]

Darren Barnet is mixed raced with only 1/4 japanese, but his mother, despite being half Swedish, was raised culturally as japanese and he even knows how to speak the language. That’s why his character in Never Have I Ever became Japanese-American, because he was speaking in japanese with an AD on set. Before that he was meant to just be “Paxton Hall” white boy shit. So at least he has a strong relationship with his Asian heritage and isn’t just going around like “oh yeah I’m 1/9 blablabla” just to justify being ~exotic looking~ for Hollywood (cause we know that happens a lot)

[@MiguelThinks]

That's awesome. There needs to be more of this known, and so that other filmmakers can learn from this too. EDIT: No one's perfect, but there are methods worth trying, in order to represent.

[@cookielyon3937]

love this.

[@TheNinjapancake14]

Yeah, I thought that was a cool part of the show Never Have I Ever. It didn't feel like tokenism or anything, the actor just happened to be 1/4th Asian

[@jotaux3652]

Question, me as a half indian with zero relationship with my indian heritage, can't speak the language, ect. Would I then not be able to say I'm Indo-canadian?

[@bajabl]

@@jotaux3652 it’s up to you

[@TheEmmaHouli]

I think the friend points out that he is Asian so that Nina doesn't look racist when she is disappointed that White Boy turns out to be Asian Boy. Instead she is disappointed that Hot Asian, turned out to be Cute Asian.

[@theprettygoodgatsby]

Oooo K that's an Interesting point actually. That probably was the reason honestly

[@allister.trudel]

@@theprettygoodgatsby Tag was actually supposed to be played by another asian actor that isn't mixed (well maybe he is but he looks asian whereas the actor they ended up with is totally white passing). They had to change actors because the initial choice had scheduling conflicts.

[@Kuralai95]

@@allister.trudel well it's not like hollywood has only two asian dudes

[@wendyschlagwein5824]

@@Kuralai95😂😂😂

[@Authorthings]

I think it adds to it when she also talks about previously having dated an Asian man.

[@trinaq]

It feels so weird to see Darren FINALLY playing a character his actual age, rather than Paxton, who clearly doesn't look like a teenager.

[@withcindy]

i havent watched his show so this is my first time seeing him!

[@beanbagbooks]

@Trina Q I think it's actually really funny that Paxton looks like he's in his 20s because he's supposed to be ridiculously attractive lol. All the other teens look like teens, and they're played by teen actors, or actors in their early 20s. That's how it should be!

[@multistan9650]

@@Nyledam89 I didn’t watch the second season but I watched the first 😂

[@vlimans2795]

@@withcindy Please react to Never Have I Ever! I'm waiting for that one.

[@gameplayezssoiinnychgier300]

True

[@alexinator-hh5fe]

Cute or creepy should be the title of every YA book for the last 20 years. Looking at you especially, Edward.

[@trinaq]

Period, why is toxic, abusive, controlling behaviour suddenly the pinnacle of romance in every Wattpad teen movie now?

[@withcindy]

edward is definitely creepy

[@awkwardotter13]

@@trinaq *cough cough* After

[@multistan9650]

@@awkwardotter13 **cough cough** every kissing booth movie

[@cryforhelp7270]

@@trinaq ...Now???

[@nicolegallegos1257]

Also throughout the whole movie I kept forgetting he catfished her and repeatedly as like 'Wow he's to good for her' and then would be like oh no wait....

[@withcindy]

yaaaaa catfishing is def scummy tbh

[@annaswanson5903]

I dunno if you ask me she wasn't that nice or appealing and I low key wanted him to find someone else

[@DrBitchcraft.]

@@annaswanson5903 theyre both trash.

[@hothotheat3000]

She’s a superficial dope and he’s a gaslighting liar.

[@LudmilaRamirez7]

@@annaswanson5903 yeah but at least she was honest

[@CellSpex]

I just want one of these movies to end with two people realizing their not good for each other and being ok with that. Happy ending.

[@withcindy]

There's a movie like that called "we broke up"

[@CaulkMongler]

My actual narrative during the movie: “oh maybe they’ll get closer, but realize that maybe they’re just really good friends, but they still taught each other important things about being the best, most authentic versions of themselves? No? They just end up together? Okay…”

[@tomis_diaries]

Roman holiday

[@jreamscape]

The break up is a great movie that does this with Vince Vaughn and Jennifer Anniston

[@diana6388]

500 days of summer

[@riversrhodell2359]

As an aromantic asexual, the point Cindy made at the beginning is so true. The "you're only half a person" is just toxic for self esteem in general, but especially when you're an aroace person with no interest. It's incredibly dehumanizing.

[@withcindy]

yessss

[@WaftingCurtains]

Also an aro ace here and I agree. I still deal with people constantly around me playing up the 'you're incomplete without a romantic partner' and I'll basically never outrun it.

[@muskaan3711]

100 percent agree

[@warishakhan9339]

When I watched the movie, I kind of hoped that the ending would be her learning to be happy alone and realizing she's complete already alone, and then her and the guy stay friends.

[@lesbiangoddess290]

Absolutely.

[@yakamoose]

The long sigh when the female lead’s favorite Christmas movie is Die Hard. I felt that one through the screen

[@withcindy]

yep....

[@Natalie-mr7ec]

Especially when the only correct answer to this question is Muppets: A Christmas Carols

[@jeremyusreevu237]

@@Natalie-mr7ec Elf, A Christmas Story, and Ernest Savea Christmas: are we jokes to you?

[@Sam-0827]

Fr like why sis 😂💔

[@sanniichi_]

Because it's Shrek duh 🙄

[@nerdy_swiftie8214]

“Imagine if she was catfished by a woman and then they fall in love? Why do I always do that? Why do I always make everything gay?! Stoppp projecting Cindy!!!” Edit: Cindy just came out and I’m so happy for our Queer Queen 👑 🏳️‍🌈

[@withcindy]

jldsajdslakjdsjalk

[@muskaan3711]

There is actually a book with this plot called Girl Crush

[@atiqahhasnan573]

@@withcindy I HAD TO REALLY PAUSE AND PUT MY HAND OVER MY MOUTH TO STOP MYSELF FROM LAUGHING SO HARD BCS MY PARENTS WERE OUTSIDE KJFEEJWKFKNN CINDYYYYYYY

[@Mau-mo9er]

@@muskaan3711 the author????

[@sunspot5118]

@@withcindy yo you got those Netflix connects, please pitch the damn movie. MAKE EVERYTHING GAY

[@ardentlyyearning]

"we like the idea of someone, but not actually the person themselves." this be hitting me home omg

[@withcindy]

yupp.....

[@NoelleMar]

@@withcindy also the bed being off the ground comment

[@cheesecakelasagna]

Reminds me of the lyric, "Don't fall in love with the moment and think you're in love with the girl."

[@ArcadiasPlanet]

Asexual

[@leyIand]

This literally being the plot of Netflix’s “You”

[@DragonHotCoffee]

I literally said OUT LOUD "jesus christ" when his brother deadass said "his glasses aren't doing him any favors" how screwed up does your family have to be to feel like that's an okay thing to say??

[@withcindy]

he was such a doucheeeeeee

[@squiddyowlbairn1028]

I mean, Asian families be like that though.

[@poopoo8475]

i feel like that would be a normal sentiment for my family and a few others but DEFINITELY a bit too far for a christmas romance

[@lunacouer]

I mean...my mom 😂

[@tiffanykim2773]

Wow I've heard worse from my family so 🤷🏽‍♀️

[@dariam.zeretzkialiendre3421]

"Not the incest joke... pack it up Cassandra Clare" The war flashbacks that gave me

[@withcindy]

jkldsjkldsajkl

[@phoebe1313]

this

[@vsboardza]

That's when I gave up🤣😏

[@theab3957]

So glad I never read those books, because the scantily clad bodies on the covers were like sunlight to my hermit asexual eyes.

[@asteraster8667]

OMG YESSS CINDY GOT ME DEAD AAHHH

[@GorloftheMonth]

Cindy’s explanation for hot people that were ugly lowering their standards has the same effect of her wanting the movie to be messy once she realized it was enjoyable

[@withcindy]

honestly i need the movie to be messy and terrible so it does the work for me in these reaction videos

[@NoelleMar]

@@withcindy That comment about awkward then hot people vs always hot people rang true 😭 at least in terms of nice vs conceited people I’ve known. However hot guys are so rare they can get conceited pretty fast.

[@barbarabeatriz6504]

"Imagine if she were catfished by a woman and then they fall in love" There's a Brazilian book with this plot, I love it

[@anamarques4601]

Tem????? Qual é o nome???

[@withcindy]

oOOoOOoo

[@ninamaria.]

por favor volte aqui e me diga o nome do livro hahaha

[@manuela.a.l.m]

"conectadas" da clara alves?

[@tamakikawaii]

Name! Nombre o brigada

[@WhaleManMan]

The gap between movies my mom watches and movies Cindy watches is growing thinner every day

[@withcindy]

i am ur mom

[@WhaleManMan]

@@withcindy The dream 😙

[@marizztellahdeguzman8634]

@@withcindy 😦 i...I haven't done the dishes...I'm sorry mom...😔

[@Curiousphy]

“I thought he made a candle with her scent” BETTER THAN WHAT I THOUGHT I thought he made a candle with his grandpa’s ashes 😭😭😭

[@withcindy]

WHAT LMAOOOO

[@amandahernandez6117]

I’m glad I’m not the only haha

[@bananabread4127]

I thought he made a candle that smells like her

[@astoldbynickgerr]

That’s what I was thinking 💀

[@zainabmejja9936]

LMAO SAAMEE! He was like '"Grandpa" and I was like "ooh this turned morbid real fast" 💀💀

[@MissSkyscraper]

Watching Cindy’s mood switch once she realized this was a solid film is like watching the Grinch’s heart grow three times as big. Made me happy to see because I really like the film too 🥰

[@withcindy]

hehehe

[@francescakyanda9182]

POV: you meet this couple at a party. You make the mistake of asking how they met. You're in for a ride.

[@withcindy]

that would be a GREAT story

[@BlackCatedialogue]

Hindi movie jane tu ya jane na

[@Andyatl2002]

I would love hearing the guy tell it

[@mayac1105]

jimmy o. yang was an elite casting choice for this movie tbh, put him in more leading roles!

[@withcindy]

its great to see him in a rom com lead role!

[@Hello_Kristie]

Honestly, I hated this movie, but he was the only good aspect of the whole thing.

[@Noa......]

*Jimmy O. Yang

[@cheesecakelasagna]

I'm literally gushing the whole time watching this because of him.

[@astoldbynickgerr]

@@cheesecakelasagna I was also gushing…. 😻

[@elizzadeath]

Ok but the tinder's profile picture of you sitting on a throne surrounded by men screams "woman in tech" and I LIVE for it, I'm definitely copying it

[@withcindy]

go ahead!!

[@manmoy4104]

the photo literally screamed girlboss

[@Nyx_Oskurita]

Ok but the title of the movie is actually a mix of both of their Favorite Christmas movies ‘Love Actually’ and ‘Die Hard’= ‘Love Hard’

[@withcindy]

yessss

[@lexfluor]

With the thrilling sequel: “Actually, die”

[@eleonora1]

@@lexfluor i'm crying

[@asrieldreemurr1988]

@@lexfluor amazing

[@soyboy6953]

@@lexfluor netflix needs to hire you now.

[@griffinmoth]

the secondhand embarrassment of this movie would have killed me thanks for filtering it so that i only suffered near critical psychic damage

[@withcindy]

I gotchu boo

[@fiorev6274]

Honestly same

[@chasingthefame]

@@withcindy Thanks for your service

[@dananabread6632]

SAME SAME SAME

[@justanothercutefreak]

I finally watched this and did enjoy it in the end but I definitely muted the cringe parts (moments when I'm grateful for subtitles). I learned it's the only way I can get through awkward scenes in whatever I want to finish watching lol.

[@rachellewabissa5233]

Cindy’s bit about ‘not like other girls’ injected serotonin straight into my eyeballs.

[@teeboygamer1743]

The imagery you put in my head💀

[@enso4519]

"I've spent my entire life looking for the perfect guy.... but now I'm settling" I wheezed

[@withcindy]

dldjlsjldkasjdklas

[@queendsheena1]

I think this romance is more realistic. While the spark sounds nice. Knowing someone's personality is more than hiking and whining is great too. Sexy can't hide an empty canister personality.

[@withcindy]

good point!

[@ccasserole5267]

Bruh if romance that starts with catfishing is "realistic" then get me out of this reality 🤮

[@random_meta]

@@ccasserole5267 Both main characters catfish other people. The guy by using a different profile(as a test, he said), the woman by using a different personality(cause she was desperate). They honestly deserve each other(they aren't bad people, just insecure), and the Christmas duet song was cute 🥰

[@yulana990]

@@tamagothchic It's a comedy movie, not a psycho-analytical look into the desperation of a woman searching for love. The movie also literally mentioned the long distance thing, with her girlfriend forcing her to change the app into long distance range cause she wasn't a fan of it and wanted someone close by, but then ended up liking this guy on the phone and flying there. And if she's asking for a "perfect guy and true love" then wanting something long term who you're both physically and mentally attracted to is a given, that is very heavily implied with the true love and perfect guy part, so would marriage if she's interested in it as again she wanted her true love. I don't get why the movie needs to clarify all of those things when most of them are clearly implied in the story or wording, or just aren't important. Like why does a comedy romance need to tell the audience whether or not she wants true love "Or she just hated being alone"? That also isn't even something most people can answer, as its VERY hard to figure out the difference, and often just go hand in hand. You can be super lonely AND want true love at once, especially in this day and age where most people feel lonely. Either way, most of your questions were answered or implied in the story already, and most aren't important for a comedy either way. This isn't a big romance movie or a tv show with seasons where they can make sure all the drama and mental agony is in there, it's just a fun watch when you're bored and under the blanket and wanna laugh a bit with a cute ending :) Not everything needs to be overly analytical.

[@LoveK1]

@@yulana990 I keep saying the same thing. Why does every movie have to be deep and meaningful. Some movies are just a fun watch and a thing to relax with. I also really don’t like how people are making fun of women who are eager to find a romantic partner. Maybe she just wants a romantic partner to spend her time with(which has different elements to it than friendship.) Maybe she really wants to give birth to her own kids and as you get older it gets harder so she has limited time to find her partner to do that with. Maybe she just really wants to be a wife (which is a perfectly acceptable aspiration though people keep telling women otherwise and making fun of them). People keeping making fun of women who don’t want to be alone by saying they don’t know how to be. Newflash: Most people don’t WANT to be alone. It’s not that they don’t know how to be, they just don’t want it. Wanting desperately to be a wife and mother should not make you a target for ridicule. I’ve noticed that even progressives tend to treat women the same way they say conservatives do. They see being a wife and mother as unimportant in the grand scheme of things. But if you’re all about choice than people should be allowed to choose that path without being mocked.

[@WaftingCurtains]

A female friend of mine was catfished by another woman and did something similar, flying across the country to 'surprise' her 'boyfriend' and found out the truth. While she was furious and heartbroken at being lied to, they ended up working it out and they have been married for awhile now.

[@dahliahaha]

That's a whole netflix plot 😀

[@odilemltt2876]

wow that's a whole movie

[@getout3749]

What Dude

[@thang92]

I don’t like this movie because it glorifies catfishing! Since when is it okay to lie to someone about how you look? Shallow or not using fake pictures is wrong. Then they actually get together? That is insane.

[@faithyuna1458]

@@thang92 watch the movie dude it didn't glorified it.

[@LisaKokx]

My dad loves doing the "brain empty, watch romcom" thing and often drags me into it, so as a true romcom connoisseur I can say that this movie was actually pretty cute and funny

[@withcindy]

agreed!

[@aawillma]

Your dad is cool. Watching trash TV is an underrated dad activity. My dad would make my baby sister watch Bunheads with him. My sister had to pretend to like it because he was SO into it. Cool dads are cool.

[@shoujokadyan5502]

Reminds me of my dad who likes watching Hallmark Christmas Rom Coms

[@amybethwalks]

Cindy: “how do you know if you like someone romantically or if you’re just really good friends?” Me: *screams in asexual*

[@withcindy]

sjklajkdlsjklsakl

[@LilienNacht]

FELLOW ACE SPOTTED. I FEEEL THAT

[@UmbraKrameri]

Shit, I commented the same thing. XD

[@carolinaroveroni8101]

*Me: screams in aromantic*

[@charoraimondogarcia]

Goood! Being ace is soo confusing

[@katiec.936]

Harry Shum Jr. was in Glee, but he was also in the Shadowhunters tv show, so he gets two of your jokes in one.

[@Forty2Times]

Ok, so we're supposed to believe that this girl is this hard up for love but isn't the kind of girl that would run a full back round check on this guy? My mom's best friend is a serial "He's the one!" online dater. The moment she matches with a dude, she launches a thousand apps to dig up ever spec of dirt she can before setting up the first date.

[@withcindy]

totally!!

[@BlueEyedTaty]

Exactly. The guy I am dating, I met on an app and asked for his ID plus used my Google skills to find any info I could on him. Honestly, he did the same. Who doesn't?

[@avidanime158]

"my vagina fell asleep already" I take it back, THIS IS THE HARDEST IVE EVER LAUGHED

[@ShitakeMushrooms]

Seeing the catfish actor play a high schooler in another show and a 30-year-old here is absolutely sending me.

[@IAmSurroundedByCats]

"why do i always do that? why do i always make everything gay? stop PROJECTING CINDY" why is this such a mood

[@withcindy]

hehe

[@lesbiangoddess290]

Same tho

[@llel1416]

Same, I imagined both guys rekindling there relationships and get together.

[@ikeepscreamingbutgodwontan3132]

Ikr??? Like literally the whole time I was like, "what if it were a girl and they were gay" and even Cindy mentioned it later on

[@spookyho5994]

it rly is

[@Do2494]

Would I date him as as this character NO. Because the real question is "would I date him as the amazing humourist and as his character in Sillicon Valley that outsmarts everything in a corrupted way

[@withcindy]

i wouldnt date him in any version tbh LOL but then again i havent been attracted to a man in a while

[@fatimasantos5612]

I feel like a relationship with him in Silicon Valley would be insanity, I would also jump to the opportunity

[@cheesecakelasagna]

@@fatimasantos5612 Literally same.

[@dylanwickersham5610]

Cindy: Pack it up Cassandra Clare *Magnus Bane shows up in a Christmas sweater to roast Jimmy O. Yang*

[@eleonora1]

ah i miss harry shum jr as magnus, he was fab

[@DoubleBlack2.0]

YESSSSS, lmaooooo. Harry was amazing in this role! 😂 (And as Magnus, OFC. 😻 I miss Shadowhunters so much.. 🥺)

[@lesbiangoddess290]

@@DoubleBlack2.0 sameee

[@psychedelicpegasus7587]

When Nina Dobrev arrived at the airport, I was wondering when the guy would show up. When he didn't I thought he stood her up. Then, just as she rocked up to his front door I realised...He didn't actually invite her at allI!!!! That is NUTS!!! Like if they met at a third location, like the bar or something, but at his house?!! At Christmas???? I really loved the cringe of this movie. Full disclosure: In my early 20's I travelled from Europe to the U.S. to meet with a guy who I knew online for 6 months (phone calls, video chats and all). I stayed at his family home for a week and a half, but they all knew I was coming. Still can't believe I did that.

[@juliannehannes11]

That guy is exactly as much Asian as I am Hispanic and I'm judging him for calling himself a non white Asian. I'm proud of my Mexican heritage but playing the diversity card saying I'm a non-white Mexican American when I'm as white as my Norweigian ancestors it feels wrong and I could never, my grandmother who was bullied in school for being dark and speaking Spanish would roll in her grave and haunt my lily white ass.

[@RatedFforFUGlenda]

You are Mexican in the eyes. Eyes are the windows to the soul. Your soul is Mexican.

[@andrealucia4328]

but you kinda look hispanic actually xdd

[@spookyho5994]

I get that. Like, I’m half brazilian and I’m very proud of my Brazilian heritage, but I’m also very white and I haven’t faced the discrimination my mother or cousins have endured.

[@TenderNoodle]

As a half Indian person who is white as paper, I second this

[@clairvaux8459]

idk the half of it did the greek soulmate myth better lol they had a cute little animation intro and everything 🥺

[@withcindy]

they def did it better!!

[@heathern8043]

@@Sam-0827 it’s a pretty well known myth like anyone can use it, it is funny both movies open with it though lol

[@spookyho5994]

I was thinking that too, the half of it did that do well qwq

[@kinrateia]

and they said that soulmates can not only be romantic too if I remember right :" god I love that movie

[@clairvaux8459]

@@kinrateia yes! a twist! twas delicious. platonic soulmates 👌

[@jazzy8834]

Honestly, I am still waiting for Cindy to make her own romance movie.It would be chaotic but I feel like she really understands what makes a good story

[@withcindy]

oooo maybe if i get a good idea for one

[@jazzy8834]

@@withcindy I am still waiting for your amazing novel ! Love you Cindy

[@rafaela00002]

"i think it's funny when bad things happen to people" lmao and you're right

[@withcindy]

hehehe

[@R4yj4ck]

Netflix employee 1: We’ve got a pretty solid movie, but I feel like it’s missing something…we forgot to write lines for the mom! Netflix employee 2: What mom?

[@withcindy]

moms do not exist in netflix shows/movies

[@thereadingwriter4197]

IMO they really wanted Victoria Justice for this and that’s why they wrote in a bunch of singing stuff and cast Nina Dobrev because they’re doppelgängers then watched two episodes of B99 and made her favourite movie die hard for ✨flavour ✨

[@akiraholland457]

How did ypu know this

[@mel818]

why would they want Victoria Justice?

[@Silversubs29078]

Bruh it's 2021 and the 'hot girl with glasses and the ponytail' trope exists. Not only is it lowkey problematic but also unrealistic. I'm just as ugly with my glasses off🤣

[@sarasthoughts]

Deadass 💀 This stuff has scarred me since childhood

[@withcindy]

ponytail and glasses = girlboss

[@Silversubs29078]

@@withcindy what about gaslighting and gate keeping?

[@UmbraKrameri]

I actually look better with glasses. My face is so flat that they give it some dimension. XD

[@Veryy_Victoriaa]

I wonder who even started that trope 😂

[@lillianabright03]

about the romantic chemistry thing idk i think movies in general have this weird idea that you have to be totally in love or smth to be in a relationship. they did hang out mostly as friends, but that's not a bad basis of a relationship imo. movies tend to overexaggerate romance which leads to why so many ppl leave the second they realise the person doesn't live up to their dreams so i think its nice to see a relationship that wasn't overly romantic, cus most relationships start off as hanging out and just being friendly, there's more than one relationship type the die hard thing tho... i felt the eyeroll from the bottom of my soul

[@MiguelThinks]

This.

[@hibashams]

this is why i’m a little confused by all the people saying there’s no way they should be in a relationship at the end, starting off as friends and gradually developing attraction over time is very normal

[@cheesecakelasagna]

Yeah, meet-cute just ain't for me. I'm terrified by the fragility of it.

[@nessyness5447]

@@hibashams is not because they start as friends, is because they start as catfish and victim of catfish

[@DreaLinh]

Ye especially since that’s been the message of the movie all along. So many people look for the perfect person, that they just settle for a person perfect on paper. But people that fall head over heels in the beginning often fall based on looks when it really shouldn’t be the main factor. Only some are lucky that it’s compatible enough on a long term. She basically threw all of her morals overboard for that Tag guy to like her when the only thing she knew was that he was hot. But love should be a lot deeper than that. Falling in love should be a process and the chemistry and attraction starts to increase with that. Explosive stuff has never been healthy.

[@katr374]

I decided to watch this movie on a whim and was genuinely surprised by how much I liked it and that it actually made me laugh a few times 😃 But I had the same issue at the end where even though I was rooting for them to get together and the way they did it with the signs was a cute callback, I did not really feel any chemistry between them. They might as well have been good friends, wish there had been a few more obvious falling for each other moments.

[@withcindy]

yea i feel the exact same way! there needs to be either more falling for each other moments OR have them end up just as good friends

[@psychedelicpegasus7587]

I understand what you mean, but I did like that they held back a bit. Instead of showing that she fell head over heels in love with him, I thought the message was that they could start from an honest beginning. I think that's really sweet.

[@jessicamagri8211]

I felt the exact same way! Wanted them together (because I’m such a sucker for friends-to-lovers) but they didn’t have any romantic chemistry. Had they picked a different actress or made Natalie’s character less one-dimensional, I would’ve rooted for them even more than I did.

[@rihanshariff2194]

The fact that he catfished all of us and we STILL fell in love with him. We don’t invite scrubs into THIS household

[@rianna.g-c]

"she looks like any other woman that's not a celebrity" I'm crying😭

[@novisna]

"She needs a role since she didn't get Wicked" shots fired 😂😂😂😂😂

[@withcindy]

u know shes screaming and crying at the news

[@novisna]

@@withcindy "She's not that girrrllllll"

[@imzarxki]

I get serotonin everytime Cindy tries to make the movie plot into a lesbian love story.

[@withcindy]

Always

[@InterIdoru]

Nothing like making catfishing "cute" and making more people think they can force their way out of "friendzone."

[@nessyness5447]

The reddit niceguys are going to love it.

[@legalman07]

He didn’t force his way out. He never even fought for her. She just chose him Bc of thier chemistry plus ya know movie logic..

[@sturmlight]

I really like your end question about depicting the difference between romantic attraction and friendship--it's a hot topic in the asexual community since we aren't typically going to have a physical urge when close with someone. I think the movie does a good job with having their relationship feel deeper than purely platonic though.

[@withcindy]

i wish there were more moments that could have deepened their relationship more!

[@Ashak2001]

The friend: hes asian American and speaks three languages Me: why is that your selling point?🤦🏽‍♀️

[@withcindy]

LOL right??

[@RatedFforFUGlenda]

Everyone has their kink. Bilingual people are a pass. Like lazy much.

[@SilverSkitty]

Also he never ends up speaking more than one language in the movie so it adds nothing to the plot

[@kevin04230]

I wish they would’ve shown more shots where it would have both of them in the frame and he would be talking but it would focus on her and her reactions to what he says. It would be an easy way to show her feelings as they develop

[@withcindy]

good idea!

[@gp2671]

A Netflix movie calls out a song with sexual assault undertones and Netflix has a bunch of movies that make sexual assault seem romantic or comedic. *Sigh*

[@lesbiangoddess290]

Yikes omg

[@yuligolander9762]

the kissing booth cough cough

[@daniellecooper1766]

The high school version... Sierra burgess is a loser

[@Melissa-hd3jr]

I mean, is not like every Netflix movie is made by the same people

[@toebag4286]

“I’ve spent my life looking for a perfect guy…but now I’m settling” LMFAOOOO

[@withcindy]

the REAL message of this movie

[@miakraljev6634]

Don’t hate me for this, but I actually really loved this movie. I went in thinking it would be shit and like I would die of embarrassment, but it was actually so fucking cute. Tag was meh, I don’t really remember the mc, but I absolutely ADORED josh. I loved that he had an abstract interest like candle making and I just loved the singing seen and omg i just wanted to squish his cute little face. I just wish we got a longer end scene to see more of mc and him in a romantic light. This is probably the best Netflix original film that’s come out in a while tbh

[@annielise]

This movie straight up made me cry the fuck

[@cheesecakelasagna]

Catfishing aside, I love that it wasn't a meet-cute type situation. Also, Jimmy O. Yang might be my new crush now. Brb.

[@SheDrawsSometimes]

@@cheesecakelasagna Jimmy o yang is the ideal man, funny and respectful :”D

[@sakurachan288]

We need a sequel to see the two leads in a more romantic light than the subtle romance they built up in Love Hard.

[@rjb9239]

I loved it too. I'm crushing on Jimmy Yang!

[@asmaraiverson7667]

This movie has kickstarted a crush on Jimmy O. Yang and I can’t stop it

[@aarnapagdiwala9324]

“Imagine if she was catfished by a woman and then they fall in love?" isn't that kinda the plot of the half of it?

[@RavenmockerxX]

He's not ugly? Maybe he's not hot but he's definitely attractive...

[@withcindy]

im being facetious

[@RavenmockerxX]

@@withcindy i know ❤ i meant mostly the movie being so weird about him, although he seemed very awkward.

[@tkfan123]

Yeah, also he has a lot of charm and he is super funny.

[@jac8313]

Every mention of Henry Golding makes me feel seen.

[@withcindy]

he is the best

[@Genitianadinarica]

I watched Monsoon recently and his smile saved my life. I'm not even kidding.

[@awkwardotter13]

He is so breathtaking in Crazy Rich Asians

[@Ilikefrogs..]

I watched this movie only because of the rare opportunity to see an Asian male lead, even knowing that I generally hate romantic comedies AND Christmas movies. I was surprised that I actually loved it. HOWEVER, it still has the same glaring issues as most romantic comedies. The overall is as always, and this message is almost always directed at women, lower your standards. He doesn’t need to good looking, he doesn’t need to be financially stable, and (according to this movie) he doesn’t need to have his own place. Lower your standards and you’ll find someone. That message is toxic and disgusting.

[@esbeelavallee2568]

But he was sweet, was helping and understood her fears, he knew her well, was down to do things for her like stealing newspapers early in the morning and I think those are high standards to look for. Empathy and being sweet and caring are super important. Not just looks and financial stability.

[@mel818]

the message here is not "lower your standards", it's "question your standards and know what really matters to you". At the beginning she ran away at the smallest sign of imperfection, like her boss said, she had an ideal of what she wanted but never really gave herself the oportunity to actually get to know someone. She didn't settle for him, she authentically fell for him. She finally found out what was important to her.

[@vashtilantigua908]

@@mel818 I agree 🤗

[@astoldbynickgerr]

@@mel818 wow, period luv

[@alexprotomercer3465]

you seem like the type of women to argue about a fucking rom com🤦🏻‍♂️

[@bigbadjo6011]

The ugly guy becomes hot thing is incorrect. My boyfriend was a mess in middle school but now he’s buff and arrogant as hell. Mythbusted.

[@harshithasaisarabada9325]

You like him even though you say he is arrogant?

[@KassandraQuiseng]

@@harshithasaisarabada9325 being a little arrogant is hot, as long as he can back it up

[@harshithasaisarabada9325]

@@KassandraQuiseng lol maybe

[@ajmalaika1287]

OK as someone with allergies that shit was AMAZINGLY INCORRECT girl would be chocking from a swollen tongue, itching everywhere, instant epipen

[@Saighin]

~lol~ Yes, this! 😂 Thank you! This is the exact type of allergic reaction I have to certain foods & even if your throat doesn't close best believe you feel that face swell up 🥵

[@yoshmarsh8412]

I haven't watched the movie yet but it seems like the usually catfish movie except it's actually good , look at the writers finally doing it right

[@withcindy]

hope u enjoyyy

[@yoshmarsh8412]

@@withcindy thank you 🤧

[@sarasthoughts]

Okay but wait- the idea of using pictures of you casually carrying murder weapons is so funny 💀 "🤪 out for a picnic with my gals, don't mind the stains it's just tomato sauce! And the knife is just to cut sandwiches!"

[@withcindy]

i love that idea

[@pixiestxNyomouf]

Still better than Siress Burgusse is a loser. I actually loved this movie, then again I just gushed over Jimmy the whole time

[@cheesecakelasagna]

I don't know even Jimmy before this and I'm already gushing every scene he's in. Such a cutie.

[@jaydecampbell3499]

Oh me too. Other guy is cute and all but Jimmy was the movie for me

[@gwyn7327]

lowkey loving jimmy yang in his role he’s pulling it off lol

[@withcindy]

i liked him here too!

[@ZS-dr7bi]

Since this isn't based on Wattpad fanfics, I'm hoping it's good enough. If only for Cindy's sanity 💙

[@withcindy]

thank u for that

[@rochellerodriguez6431]

Your sigh at the Diehard reveal spoke to me on a spiritual level

[@luciazamora872]

I am very proud that the director of this film is Hernan Jimenez a very famous Costa Rican comedian 🇨🇷🇨🇷 He has directed several national films and seen him start being recognized internationally is amazing 💓💓

[@withcindy]

thats awesome!

[@frankundercoverdragon6288]

"I wish this movie was homoerotic" me watching literally any movie that isn't already homoerotic

[@stonecat676]

After Hannibal, all mlm homoerotism disappoints me.

[@symmetrykidkun8]

I watched this with a friend the other day, and we had to keep telling ourselves catfishing is bad. I think it was because this particular cast had good chemistry with each other, the characters (catfishing aside) were likeable, and the actors were great. I loved both Nina and Jimmy in this movie, and I loved the Asian-American representation that wasn’t so on the nose and stereotypical. Yes, the movie concept/plot definitely wasn’t original (see How to Lose A Guy in 10 Days or While You Were Sleeping), but I think it wasn’t executed better than those two. I dunno, I feel like it was one of those holiday rom coms that was cliche and problematic but still enjoyable.

[@confusedbat]

'Oh my god imagine if she were catfished by a woman and then they fall in love' GIRL you need to start writing screenplays!!!

[@withcindy]

"the half of it" already did that!!

[@bgeese1918]

despite everything wrong about this movie, and there is a lot and a lot to be unpacked, it has its good stuff. I honestly was surprised with the singing carols scene bec their voices blended so well and were good.

[@fortune_roses]

Imagine if the guy ended up being a beautiful korean celebrity type guy with a chiseled face & body

[@withcindy]

thats who they shouldve cast for the "hot" guy, not a 1/4 asian guy lol that way it wouldnt have weird implications that hes only considered hot bc he's white passing

[@fridasaavedra8460]

Honestly when I saw Jimmy I thought he had boy next door vibes and I'm happy seeing average people of color as romantic partners.

[@withcindy]

me too

[@rayraysunn994]

Imagine the chaos of A Very Cindy Christmas movie, all of the messiest choices made. Not a snooze in a single character. The feels. The tears. The growth.

[@withcindy]

yesss bad decisions only

[@landofthehazymist]

@@withcindy the tagline is bad bitches. bad decisions.

[@jeremy6193]

Honestly Nina Dobrev acting was good just as the way she portrayed her roles in vampire diaries ❤️ Glad she's back on film nd that this was a hit movie

[@kumoduo]

wait... he's 30??? he does NOT look 30, he literally looks like he's in his mid 20's wtf

[@withcindy]

he played a teenager in another netflix show so he is also confused about his age

[@sibs544]

He has a young face

[@FoxofGold]

Hard agree, they needed different casting for Tag if the point was he was an Asian American character and they definitely needed more chemistry build up in the story before the couple gets together in the end. I read them as friends every time they were together after meeting in person. Great video!

[@tineke4134]

Something I learned last week: if y’all (women who are into men) are ever doubting your attractiveness or are too shy to ask people out: go to a salsa social or beginner partner dance class. Guys just come up to you and ask you to dance and it’s super fun. I was trash at dancing cause it was my first class but the dancer dudes just spun me around and don’t give af if you can’t dance. Go for it! (It would probably be harder to dance with someone who identifies as the same gender as you though because you’ve both learned the same part and now can’t partner easily unless one of you learns the other part)

[@whatcanidooo]

Okay but I’ve always liked jimmy yang so it’s funny seeing him as the “undesirable” guy lol

[@ibrahimkamityoutube]

Happily watched your reaction before watching the movie. Priorities

[@graces.7310]

Please tell me I’m not the only one who noticed they stole the intro about Greek gods and souls splitting from The Half of It. Alice Wu needs to sue them

[@withcindy]

the half of it did it better

[@Sam-0827]

Yes I was so annoyed. 💀

[@Monochrome_11]

"you don't need somebody to complete you, you need someone to understand you completely"

[@withcindy]

awwww

[@shakirashipslied9721]

Girl I just need someone to give me cash

[@Monochrome_11]

*Hint Hint* Jeff Bezos

[@shakirashipslied9721]

@@Monochrome_11 Thanks gal

[@TheCrazeace]

the minute this movie fell apart for me is when you mentioned why they don't Facetime. Like nina dobrev literally developed a relationship with him on the phone without thinking to ask for Facetime? what? what person does that?

[@betteregglet]

Only justification I feel like is that it had only been two weeks? Even so little wild she still jumps on a plane without it lol

[@withcindy]

yea that aint realistic at all, and how she didnt bother to check him on social media lol

[@TheCrazeace]

@@withcindy I mean I'm glad you enjoyed the movie but like damn the whole first act be really the set up of a lazily written horror movie 🤣

[@XIIxMysticxIIX]

You should react to the netflix series “never have i ever” its so cringy, i love it. Its a mindy kaling show and follows an indian-american teen, Devi, trying to rise up the social ladder; from nerdy, undateable teen to popular hot girl w/ boyfriend alongside her geeky friends. Devi goes thru the usual teen phases but also deals with her cultural identity and overcoming trauma after losing the parent she felt closest to. Its endearing in its own way.

[@the_locks]

We should mention the hot guy is the hot guy in the movie! And he plays a character of Japanese descent!

[@XIIxMysticxIIX]

@@the_locks I was trying to be low key… HAHA

[@haleytiu3713]

i'm so glad that you made this video because i just watched this last night and i have so many thoughts! i watched it with my husband, and he's chinese and i'm white so that was an extra layer of entertainment value 😂 basically, i think jimmy being charismatic and the jokes being mostly pretty solid is what made the movie. it had some imperfections but i laughed consistently. the biggest issue i felt was that 1) josh and natalie's romantic chemistry wasn't built up enough and 2) in my mind josh didn't really reckon fully with lying not just about the catfishing but about getting engaged. i think josh and natalie had a good foundation upon which to build a romantic relationship, but it felt like there was a scene or two missing to transition from "we have good friend chemistry" to "i want to suck your face." and it sucks because i think they *could have* made that work. it wasn't like harry and ginny in hp where they just felt like they had zero chemistry no matter what. and then with jimmy not reckoning with his lies fully... i get why they had natalie do the confession to everyone at the party. this was her story and it was important to her arc for her to come clean with her part in the deception. but it felt like it still probably should have been josh who came clean. his deception was worse--he was closer to everyone that they were lying to, after all.

[@withcindy]

totally agree with all your points!!

[@dstodd]

No it really irritated me that it was Natalie who ended up doing the big confession scene and that it was her who caught the slack while Josh was the "victim" at the end because this all started because he was the one who catfished her?? And if I remember correctly it was his idea to even do the Tag scheme in the first place.

[@nesrinlovesjin6814]

I MISSED YOUR VIDEOS IT'S GOOD TO HAVE YOU BACK

[@withcindy]

sorry for taking so long!!

[@nesrinlovesjin6814]

@@withcindy No it's okay take all the time you need and thank you for the videos ❤️

[@thelonelylittledemigod]

I vibed so hard when Cindy was talking about the greek myth about the soulmates. Like hell yeah goo off queen!!!

[@withcindy]

yessss u should be complete on ur own!

[@idabergh-smith179]

cindy: "we all know men don't read, they're illiterate" ellias: 👁👄👁

[@elisamaza8909]

Boss and Brother are the most enjoyable characters.

[@cheesecakelasagna]

Catfishing aside, I love that it wasn't a meet-cute type situation. Their chemistry might not in your face but it's cute and realistic for their situation. Also, I think I have found a new crush on Jimmy.

[@MysterialBeauty]

Charles Melton was supposed to play Tag I’m so crushed

[@withcindy]

he would have been GREAT

[@christopheraquino4728]

IM CRYING. THE LEA MICHELLE DISS- I-

[@ayceinquisitor190]

1:25 I agree with *your* sentiment. I consider a "Soulmate" to be very flexible and something established alongside reincarnation-and a Soulmate is a person we've been close allies/friends with for multiple lifetimes, and is not exclusive to just one Soulmate. This expands the concept past romance and allows for a wide variety of companions, who arent somehow "incomplete"

[@Sam-0827]

The way I screamed joyfully when I saw Magnus. Right after your Cassandra Clare joke. You brought him into existence in the movie Cindy😂😂😂😂