An Excellent Christian Explanation on Singleness and The Gift of Singleness

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Drs. Henry Cloud & Sheri Denham explain the true meaning of the "Gift of Singleness". You can read more about Henry's book on Amazon.com: amzn.to/Christi...

[@damarrbrown4915]

I think I could potentially have the gift of singleness because I love to do things by myself

[@AdrianIsaacs]

One thing I wish churches would stop telling single people is to sit back and "let God bring you and your spouse together." I used to work for a ministry that tended to tell people to do that. According to this teaching, you were just supposed to live your life and not put any effort into finding a partner and just let God bring you and your mate together. That sounds romantic, I'll admit, but I've read the Bible straight through and studied it for several years, and I have never seen a passage of Scripture that says that God does this.

[@mdf1951]

I try to encourage all men to stay single. This is an old video, but also up to date. Men need to understand that they have options. They need to understand that there is a lot of world in a marriage. Look at the divorce rates, and what happens in 2nd, and 3rd marriages. Look at the family courts, what they do to a man and have done to good men. I have seen people come to church just to find someone, and get married within months of knowing each other. Guys need to understand that you only know about 10% of a person till you live with them. There isn't a whole lot of difference in women of the world and Christian girls when it comes to the basics. I know there is a difference in faith, but there are traits that wont change. If you have saved your money, and not wasted a bunch of money on stupid things, and taken good care of your health, I can promise you will have a full life and you will want quiet and to be relaxed in your life. Then you can do what you want, when you want as long as you have continued to be obedient to God.

[@jesuschristsaves392]

The Gospel of salvation of our souls:❤️💕💕❤️📖✝️🕎💡💡❤️❤️💕For what I received I passed on to you as of [first importance]: that Christ died for our sins according to the Scriptures, that he was buried, that he was raised on the third day according to the Scriptures, and that he appeared to Peter, and then to the Twelve. After that, he appeared to more than five hundred of the brothers and sisters at the same time,

[@TheJon4242]

Very interesting conversation. I am 48 and a single man God has blessed me in my life I have worked in 50 nations and have been blessed. The one missing area is not finding the right lady - I found a lady recently and it went as far as seeing her parents and then her anxiety led her to break the relationship

[@gracenamwila1427]

I pray you have not given up. Many Christian women have been misled about singleness and marriage. The Bible clearly states he (thats you) who finds a good wife finds a good thing. The church is full of single women so go out there and find your God given spouse. PRay and then take action

[@catatonyanew]

I never married or had children. It is my biggest, most heartbreaking regret...I chose to be cautious, finish college. My friends who married young (for celibacy) were soon pregnant & abandoned, or trying to survive bad, even abusive marriages. I am insecure, shy by nature, come from a broken home, acoa. My life's dream was to marry a Christian and have children, adopt children, foster children, teach at my local Church or missions.(Teaching was/is my major gift and calling.) Ed degrees and jobs put me in 98% female settings. Low salary kept me working 2 jobs. Went bts for MA to make ends meet with 1 job. During that busy time period my Christian friends had married and remarried. My Church had basically disintegrated. By age 26-27, I knew no Christian singles, and most married friends had left the Church.. I wondered since high school if God was punishing me for sins, bad decisions. By my late 20's I was certain He was, plus angry since I was a "good girl" approaching 30 with no hope. (yes, legalistic Church) I left Church altogether by 28-29. Tried bars (not my scene) activities, charities. (Charities= mostly women.) I gave up on my dream and came back to God in late 40's. Since then...I've prayed, studied it, etc...my thoughrs: 1- I have tried to see it as a gift. (A friend's daughter is a missionary and does not desire marriage.) Maybe I "missed" that call in high school. 2- See it as "but a light affliction" sacrifice for His Glory. Both make me feel guilty and show me as the ungrateful, self serving, unloving sinner I am. I'm unhappy with His gift and not happy to sacrifice something to Jesus, who gave ALL all for me. 3-Tried to accept as logical consequence for my bad choices. God is fair and just. 4-Trust God loves me and knows this Was/IS best for me. I guess that is my favorite, though it shows me as selfish. 5- Trust God knows I would not have been a good wife or mother. That makes me sad, but He would know better than me. I imagine many Christian women feel cursed since barrenness is referred to as such in the Bible. It's hard to fake single=happiness when you are single and wondering where did I go/do wrong? What did God plan for me that I ignored? It's also hard to find friends who understand. I don't know a woman who's 50+, healthy, heterosexual that never married AND never had a child. I do know some that never married, but had funds to adopt or use other means to have a child. So there's nobody to talk to that really understands. Mostly I hear how lucky I am not to have to put up with husband, go through a divorce, raise a teen, etc.... I am the 1 who stays home, or tags along with a family. In Churches, by 40-50 you aren't really welcome at single events. Something must be wrong with you. Stilll single??? Most Church groups/classes and activities are designed to support, promote family values. Groups, classes for marrieds, divorced, single parents, parenting, addictions, finances, children, youth, singles 20-40 (ages have extended a bit. ) At 30 I was an old maid.... People who missed marriage/kids still don't fit in at 50+ where typical groups are now for marrieds, divorced, widows, empty nesters, mentorship for young marrieds/parents.. People often assume (correctly) that you are depressed. If you aren't too depressed, people often assume you are crazy or covering up a gay lifestyle. It's not fun. All the groups, volunteering, etc...don't compensate for your own earthly family as a woman who never married or had a child. Maybe different for men, I don't know.. At 50 I thought I'd made peace with this issue, but as my friends become grandparents...I realized I haven't. As single/no kids I am 1st to be asked to take care of elderly parents anything, ...since I have "nothing to do". In reality, it is totally opposite. 1 person has to do all duties typically divided between spouses, children. Money and time are much more limited.

[@queenvic83]

Agree with this post. Im in my late 30's and I feel this way! Given its been 3 years from this post, any updates?!?!

[@LivingForJesusNET]

Hi Everyone, Wanted to share some bible-based posts on marriage: livingforjesus.net/category/marriage/

[@eddies838]

Lets clear some smoke...the gift is the discipline it takes to be a righteous single christian single. It is not easy and does not come naturally. If singleness itself was a gift then whats the reward of someone who just became single through loss or divorse? ("Yeah I'm single,again!")

[@LivingForJesusNET]

Everyone, thanks for the thoughtful comments. We have additional posts on our site specifically for singles and how to prepare for marriage: livingforjesus.net/singleness/

[@martinathom5167]

paul is biased. I'm not buying it