An Ode To People Who Don’t Believe In Themselves

Chris reflects on one of his favorite lessons from 2024.
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[@ChrisWillx]

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[@IWLDELJ]

I am sending quotes from this video to some people who are still in the jail from which I was released. No trial.

[@Laura-lw2we]

Hey Chris. Long time listener and lurker. Wanted to pop in and say I needed to hear this today, so thank you for the short clip. Has been a rough start to 2025. Hope you make it back to Aus again sometime soon. All the best. x

[@indestructible8111]

I’ve read a lot of books, but Lost Scrolls of Jewish Wealth is on a whole different level. It’s the kind of knowledge that stays with you forever.

[@stephanndon]

one of the best book i ever read

[@slim56]

Action absolutely comes before belief. I was fat and badly out of shape at 43. I made a decision to change and did. I’m 51 now 175lbs strong and fit. Belief comes second

[@valeforedark]

Brilliant to hear 😊🎉.nicely done.

[@lupin7559]

Not true. If you believed being on fire was really good for you and you had the choice of entering two rooms: Room 1 is engulfed in flames. Room 2 is not. Which room would you enter? Belief often comes first before action.

[@mr.c2485]

@@lupin7559 That’s a nonsensical analogy.

[@AlexiosLair]

I salute your resolve!

[@LE-mx6yv]

Nice comment, would have liked but already on 69 likes

[@rm22.02]

“Chronic seriousness makes you rigid and at risk of blow-up” 🎯 as someone who is currently trying to unwind this themselves and be a little bit more relaxed, I cannot agree more. If you set the bar too high and are generally too hard on yourself, you’ll crack under your own pressure. Be careful

[@patriciakilgo23]

Wow, this hits on the point. It's crazy how much we hold ourselves back just because of doubt. I used to second-guess everything until I started exploring books on Mind-bloomery. I read all books, and honestly it's the kind of knowledge that stays with you forever. It helped me realize confidence isn't something you are born with-it's something you can build. If no one else believes in you yet, it's fine. You just need to make sure you believe in yourself 💛

[@kiranicharles0112]

That's really powerful :D

[@VasedCap]

What sort of books did you read?

[@internet_internet]

You bad.

[@patriciakilgo23]

@@VasedCap Hey, I read all books on Mind-bloomery as I said above. The assertiveness one is the best, if I had to pick one.

[@patriciakilgo23]

@@internet_internet what is that supposed to mean?

[@jacobyoung4753]

I lost my mom about a year ago and being in my early twenties, I’ve definitely had a lot of life changing experiences and learning from this. I never thought I would have the day where I would say goodbye for the last time be so soon. After hearing you say be the person your mum thinks you are is good motivation to stay true to myself and grow virtuous and kind.

[@baby-sheesh]

Cant imagine your pain, keep your head up, its part of life. Cant say I am ready or ever will be for that moment either But your mom would not want you to get destroyed inside and lose yourself. She will always want you to be strong, work on yourself and your happiness and be the best version of yourself Stay strong brother

[@cornchips704]

Chris, I’m guessing your audience might be predominantly young males (absolutely nothing wrong with that either), but I just wanted to let you know that I’m a 38 year old mother of 3 and I love your content. This video really hit home today. I teared up actually. It’s been a rough day. Thank you.

[@wizerd2089]

Women are here too! 😘

[@mrk6413]

This is very vindicating. I'm turning 39 next month and my brother who is 5 years younger than me and I have been having the conversation of how we are starting to realize that our self-esteem is not essential for our self development and self achievement. Not believing in myself became myself limiting belief. With three children and a wife to provide for it stopped being an option and getting it done somehow anyways became the priority. Finally, after all these years, I'm starting to realize who I am flaws and strengths

[@sovvrong]

Lost 125 lbs, got healthy and jacked, got full custody of my 6 year old son, started boxing and had 20 amateur fights. I maybe believed in myself maybe 1/4th of the time. At 300lbs i had 0 belief in myself But That guy just showed up cause he wanted a better life

[@SandyCove143]

Amen! You can’t think you’re way the right action but you can act your way in the right thinking. Thanks for sharing, Chris. The heck of it is, bc we are hardwired to predict and protect. We naturally focus on what could go wrong may go wrong or will go wrong. It’s a mean trick, however, the good news is, we can rewire our thinking by taking consistent, ongoing action. Courage can’t exist without fear, and both faith and fear demand belief in something we can’t see. Let’s go!

[@burntoburn42]

I'm actually discovering that my inner hardwiring is far closer to trusting, cooperating, believing etc. I'm starting to think all of that hunter in the wild stuff is false and honestly very disruptive to a productive, enjoyable life. We didn't make it this far by being driven by fear. Just my 2 cents.

[@kylebazyk]

Chris my friend. I hope you realize how many people appreciate what you do. For anyone with a lot of self doubt. Give yourself some grace, and keep moving forward.

[@Lishkabro]

❤️

[@dr3w92]

“What you’re doing right now; your goals, the desire for attainment, your attachments to this world. They’re hypotheses to be tested, not ideologies to be proved.” Fuckin love it man

[@TheOddOddish]

Thanks Chris. I have a funeral I'm preparing to go to right now. I also really enjoy the line: "Live like your ancestors are living through you!" Thanks for sharing that knowledge nugget right there!❤😊🎉

[@TheCompleteGuitarist]

From nothing comes nothing. Better to try and fail than not bother trying because not trying is failure. From what I see in others and myself is that each step we take, no matter how small is a step towards being better at whatever it is we want to be better at. Don't waste time, when you are distracted by meaninglessness, it gets sucked up and thrown away forever. Have faith in that rather than yourself. Thank your for the positive words Chris, time for us all to get of our a$$es and make something worthwhile for ourselves.

[@UnwrittenPodcast]

Saving this for whenever I doubt myself. I know I won’t but for those dark days… I’ll come back to this.

[@LoonyLife]

Wow Chris. This is, arguably, the best video you've released. Such powerful and affirming statements. I've watched it several times and will continue to do so. Thank you, thank you, thank you.

[@Tokeknudsen]

Chris, you remind me how important sense of humor, vibe and enjoying the journey is, so i dont make my current role negotiation on work to a make or break situation. But making it all a good experience with patience and enjoying myself on the way. Thanks !

[@science-with-sean]

This is exactly what I needed to hear today. Thank you Chris.

[@kosviik9584]

"Do it." "But I'm scared." "Do it scared." Keep pushing the bar ever higher. I've raised the bar so high in the past year, that old me would be paralyzed by fear of the height where I comfortably move daily. I'm proud of myself, and that's such a weird thing for me to feel. And yet, I've found more. Found yet another thing that makes my knees shake. I'm gathering my strength. Gave myself a deadline to prepare. And I'm taking the first opportunity. If I lose, I will still have won courage. Push yourselves. You will be surprised at the extent of your abilities if you just put both feet in.

[@christophercox8905]

The true faith!

[@Infinity_2-x4y]

If you are scared to Jump that is exactly whene you have to Jump.

[@backroadsofeasternwashington]

I’m realizing I no longer have anything to lose after losing everything. Why not try ❤

[@MackB2023]

Self respect and self love is paramount. The soul is dead without it.

[@Bailiol]

Spoken like a true narcissist! Self respect yes, but self love? No. Honour and generativeness are based on giving more than you take, real leadership is about putting others first. Maybe I'm the strange one, but I love my wife and family fiercely - I love them; I wouldn't even know where to begin to "love myself" similarly. Can't even imagine it.

[@MackB2023]

@Bailiol you limit the definition of Love. Explore Its deeper meaning and you will understand. Love is not adoration, it is not worship but rather appreciation, courage, creativity, expansion, intelligence.. add to it please.

[@leebennett1821]

Love yourself but never so much you could never think yourself wrong

[@moisesjimenez4391]

@@BailiolI think by self love they really mean to have grace with yourself and your imperfections not over-indulging in pleasure and calling it love

[@MackB2023]

@leebennett1821 absolutely, pride before the fall.

[@jrob07105]

MIND BLOWN. Wow. I needed this so much and at this precise moment. Thank you!

[@ZJSlade]

Thank you for your videos Chris. My life keeps getting easier with your wisdom and my optimism for my future has increased drastically.

[@deanxavier_]

Saving this to rewatch every few weeks. One of your best!

[@SeanMichaelUpton]

That helps alot. Cheers mate! Bless you all and all of yours. 🙌💚🙌

[@nogreenrocks]

I really really needed this, I almost quit something very important to me a while back and have been struggling every since. I don't have the best self esteem not because I don't have it but because every time I celebrate a win some say it's unearned or something like that. Even though its not true it sticks with me and I've just only gotten to the point where I don't care anymore. I'm going to do what I can to succeed and damn anyone else who tries to tear me down. I am finding my joy again hell or high water.

[@stevenosmond7447]

Inspiring stuff, thank you! Live as though all your ancestors are living through you again. Very powerful.

[@Mmmmchocolate]

I keep trying, for years, but life keeps getting in the way. Sick mom, mother-in-law, house problems, kids, work, I can never focus on the things I want. I’m exhausted just surviving.

[@kishoremaravarman9634]

Thank you Chris! I really needed this

[@glodbarth]

Well said, Chris. You've described in words what I'm going through and the realizations I've come to. Your words are already more precisely thought out and lived through than my thoughts, but basically very much the same. Thank you very much for that.

[@WillWorkForDopamine]

That was great Chris, thank you for this

[@_kmCarter]

The timing of this video is nothing short of divine for me. Thank you.🙏🏼

[@tonzmcbonz]

That hit SO HARD and I needed to hear that SO MUCH. Thanks Chris, you are treasured fam

[@MrCraigBevan]

Thank you mate. Concise. Perfect. Appreciate it.

[@2Ten1Ryu]

This is a wonderful message. Thanks for that. It fits right with a phase as a newly self-employed person that I am experiencing right now.

[@jackreacher2095]

Thank you for everything you do . People like you provide a light at the end of the tunnel when people are shrouded in darkness

[@shaunphillips6160]

Yes brother, this hit me so much!! Just do it!

[@christomizerthemizer4128]

By far one of the best motivational clips I’ve seen. Spoke to me and a lot of others no doubt ! Thanks Chris

[@farhanq2945]

I appreciate the insights in this, and I will caution the point about emotional pain not killing you. From experience, you can experience emotional pain so bad that your mind and body want to end your life as the immediate, logical antidote to the pain. To help moments like these if/when you get to them, I highly recommend a practice of self compassion. Treat yourself like the best, most compassionate parent or friend would when experiencing emotional dips. It might feel alarming or fake at first, but it'll get more authentic with practice. Then if things get very hard and dark, the self compassion muscle memory you've built can literally save your life, and save those around you from experiencing and living with 10x the pain that ended your life.

[@Sub0Kate]

Thanks! I'm constantly frustrated with therapy, wondering when I'm going to make progress. When I look back, I have made progress. I don't know how, I don't understand it, but I have.

[@johndeerman2105]

Thank you Chris. I needed to hear that.

[@littleinkling4604]

Chris, sometimes you guys who help others find their way miss out on what is a big problem for many. Yes you shine a light on a path we all know we need to follow, providing motivation to act on our best abilities. And so many of us do, for a time, be the person we need to be. But I have never seen a podcast or chapter in a book on what you're supposed to do when we start to slide. And sliding is innevitable. It is standard, and the more you experience sliding the longer it takes to dust yourself off and climb up once more knowing full well that sliding back down is right around the corner. Cheers.

[@Crcmvnt]

Wow I needed to hear this.

[@davyboy20]

The message I needed to hear, sometimes I feel like I take life too seriously, parallel to that sometimes I don't know what better looks life 🤔

[@ishu5434]

Bro, had to watch that 3 times for it to sink in. Chiseled words, so structured. How do you do it?

[@Benjamino5586]

I walked away from a toxic job and manager w no job lined up in December - still working to find a new one and trying to find/sustain belief I will soon

[@thechatloungepod]

I’m listening to this at the right time

[@thechatloungepod]

I listen to this everyday now this is my fourth day

[@RealziesCuts]

I won today just like yesterday 💫 871 days no alcohol 🏆

[@ChadCampion]

This 7min video has impacted me immensely. Thank you Chris.

[@solomondavid9811]

Listening to this on repeat as an antidote to my inaction. And it helps a lot.

[@davidfhima5148]

Very solid video. Spot on 🤍

[@actiondefence]

Japanese phrase - mokuteki dewa naku, katei ga taisetsu desu which directly translates to "The goal is not important, the process is what matters.". In my work, I used Fake It Till You Make It. When I became a full time single parent, I told myself I wanted to be the type of man and father that I want my kids to think I am.

[@JF-xm6tu]

When i dont forget i have implemented this kind of thinking in the past. The resaukts are astounding. Particularly not taking things too seriously

[@andrewch9165]

Thank you for this. I'm going through a break up at the moment, it's much harder than I expected it would be... and I needed to hear this

[@H3LVI]

Thank you for the wisdom, Chris

[@DylanOcampo-x8p]

Wow. This goes hard. Very well articulated message! Cheers!

[@hollyloomer7667]

Thank you Chris.

[@MarkBH70]

Excellent!! I needed to hear this!

[@reynemanzano]

Thanks for the reminders and new insight, man

[@colinellis9063]

Very good but feelings being the things you remember, ive had strokes and forget more and more as time goes on.

[@L4Nigav]

perfect for this new moon! thank you

[@chocolatebrick9777]

Best thing I’ve heard 🎉

[@TheBrendan777]

❤ Love this.

[@reynemanzano]

“Dynamic persistence” I like that word combo

[@PaoloLery]

Go on Chris

[@fernandomoralesyt]

Thank you brother

[@Kxzen]

Every attempt is a victory over fear. win or lose, courage is the real triumph

[@charliesummerfield4470]

I will listen to this every day until it permeates and I can bring it into action.

[@mingxindong3150]

Love your standard. Post at least 1 video every day.

[@SunRay963]

I remember an interview with an Everest Climber, that ultimately he said, the success is not reaching the summit, because at the summit, you only have few minutes to put the flag down and take few pictures and start the descent before it gets dark or you run out of oxygen; the success- he said- is the 6 to 9 months preparation and the journey that leads up to reaching the summit. All the challenges, fears, the unpredictable conditions, fighting through the elements and nature, are the parts that stay with you and are the most exciting parts of climbing mount Everest… the journey is the key.

[@zensvlognotapro]

I doubt myself sometimes but my strength is I Am courageous and God is my rock, my shield . Love and purpose maybe is the reason why I'm courageous . There's a quote what don't kill us make us stronger .

[@Ctrackstar]

Chris. You are an absolute stud.

[@MarkPrice-s4h]

You da man

[@KeepM0v1ngN0MatterWhat]

preach

[@MrWheeeeeeey]

One of the most powerful youtube videos i’ve watched in years

[@Chrillofthehill]

This is perfection

[@russellplatt1106]

How do I feel when things go well? No idea, I've still to experience that!

[@Infinity_2-x4y]

That was a hell of advice ! Good Night.

[@producedbyvawn]

Great Video

[@warrenterror7641]

I have never turned an opertunity down. I'll always give something ago... I've also failed at everything iver ever done. I' have no confidence at all. And all this trying any way has definitely made it worse. So unfortunate this has not been true for me. Nonetheless there is no option but keep on truckin

[@teok8855]

Optimizing for how you feel during the process detaches you from caring about the outcomes, but it is the very thing that will drive the outcomes the most, and if it doesn’t what do you care? You enjoyed the process.

[@Idiodyssey87]

I stayed with a job I hated because I didn't think I was good enough for a job I really wanted. After I got laid off, I applied for the job I wanted out of desperation. They made me an offer 40% higher than my last job's pay. Believe in yourselves, for God's sake.

[@TheMuscleArchitect]

I needed this ❤

[@limitlesszenproductions865]

You have an amazing channel!!

[@mahdibaba2963]

Fair enough

[@michaelm7901]

Beliefs have nothing at all to do with reality. Reality is reality.

[@dermobbing-ratgeber5166]

Wow, that's a powerful one.

[@thekhantv_5481]

Chris. This is by far my favorite clip you’ve made. As a person who struggles with self belief, I have an internal war of whether or not I need to be confident, have affirmations or visualization rituals to be successful. I try to find ways to enjoy the moment. The results terrify me. I’m in a flux of pain, anxiety and stress. Videos like these help me reset and find ways to navigate the world free of pain. Thank you.

[@Sh4dyClass1c]

There’s a lot of self help bullshit out there but this is legit. Thanks Chris

[@sathwikreddy3560]

Make sense of humor, your default emotion ❤ 🔥

[@marcoangelini8022]

I'm going through a time of difficult choices, so hearing this right now is really tough, but that probably means it's exactly what I need. So, thank you!

[@christianbaxter_yt]

Preach….

[@whoooischaseh]

Thank you, this is much appreciated. I'm gonna set out to not e the person my mothers think I am

[@DebbieGalbraith-l8r]

God is always there. Draw near to God and He WILL draw near to you - whether you believe it or not!

[@limitlesszenproductions865]

Amazing as usual! Thank you

[@jonphillip9655]

Thank you Chris 🙏

[@ChristoScriven]

After over 10 years on self-improvement, the number one thing I’ve come to understand is that I am most disciplined, strong, fulfilled, loving, and present, when everything I do is an expression of a healthy self worth. I have nothing to prove, not even to myself. I realise that I am worthy of my own honour and respect, and that of others. If I’m not treating myself in the best way to honour the highest side of myself, or I’m allowing others to treat me badly, then something is off. I honour the passions and purposes I feel called toward by diligently working toward them. I work on myself everyday and reap the rewards, not because I need to so I can feel good about myself, but because guess what, I’m worth it.

[@kylemedeiros6907]

Action

[@AmeliaBodilia]

“…You can have no self belief and show up anyway…” - Chris Williamson 💕

[@ZealoustheEnder]

Thank you Chris

[@StephenHopkinsVaults]

I’m 36 loser , just letting life pull me along.

[@ghabhimoz8560]

I was too, but then I started dreaming and fantasizing about a world where I wasn't and decided to reverse uno life and pull it along lol. Get you a dream brother, it's free.99🤡

[@Nalters]

Same, and no amount of money will change anything but the type of prison I’ll live in

[@EtienneLeBoeuf]

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