and what do we say when he wants to come over?? therapy thursday 💅😅

[@maurinet2291]

Have you thought about doing your own version of AITA, where it isn't lifted from a public subreddit but your viewers can send you questions directly? I love advice columns and you are AWESOME at it.

[@binglemarie42]

Agreed, this is a great idea!

[@alyssabrown1121]

I feel like that might ruin the objectivity of her "verdicts" if she knows they're follower/fan write-ins

[@obviouslyyoucare]

​@@alyssabrown1121you're underestimating her ability to be objective/stick to her ideals. And boundaries between followers and creators. An example of someone trying to do this idea is Rebecca Rogers with her Am I the Bad Apple series, check it out if you feel like it.

[@maurinet2291]

@@alyssabrown1121 You could submit by filling out a form anonymously and retain that professional distance. Then, no one would know who the questions belonged to. I don't think there would be difference in verdicts; her reasoning is always fair and well thought through.

[@Sarah-Harvey]

Love this idea!

[@angeladavidson2350]

Why are these all SO RELATABLE

[@pinkpunther]

One time a therapist told me "you are the sky, everything else is the weather"

[@shaaba]

I don’t know what this means but it’s so profound 😅

[@pinkpunther]

@@shaaba like emotions, weather is temporary I guess is what she was trying to say

[@Disney8272]

On the one about emotions as guests: I once had a therapist tell me that the judgmental things our brains say are often trying to help us, they're just misguided, so we can look at them and try to pick apart how it is meant to be helpful and then kind of thank it and move on. (Edit: since we're being honest here, I'm not good at the moving on, but it's a nice idea)

[@faenene]

I love that! Reminds me of some tips I’ve heard in Buddhism like observing your emotions as a neutral outside onlooker

[@chelsiie123_3]

0:07 - NOT IN THE SLIGHTEST. LOVE YOU SHAABA❤️

[@CC4real]

"MANIFESTING MY MUFFIN"😂🤣

[@frolikswfroggys6416]

Best thing I ever heard from a therapist. Tell yourself you love yourself every day. Because you are the only person that you can guarantee is going to be there. And you deserve to hear it. This time, I am here, though. So, in case any of you haven't heard it today. I love you, and I am proud of you!

[@flotenstimme4608]

❤

[@unapologeticallylizzy]

Enjoy your muffins, Shaaba!

[@chloebrindle9295]

I relate to the empath problem - I try to fix everyone’s problems in my life to the point where sometimes it makes them uncomfortable - I’m trying to learn that some people just wanna vent and I should just listen and be there for them rather than offer solutions

[@emmie1977]

Oh I feel this....

[@ShinTriAce]

Maybe just ask them if they wanna vent or want solutions if you're not sure. That way, you can skip some of the awkwardness of picking the wrong response

[@blaireshoe8738]

@@ShinTriAce Honestly this. I'm a fixer, and I drove my venter SO crazy until I started asking. So I started asking other people too. I find it's generally appreciated, plus then they know you're open to either for next time, even if they end up sticking to just one or the other generally. It can feel awkward to ask, but it's a lot less awkward than accidentally steamrolling them with a response they weren't looking for. In the case of my SO, I don't have to ask every time, because we had a conversation about it where we determined that I could/should/would assume that he is only venting unless he specifically states otherwise. Saves us both a lot of headaches, lol. Thinking further on it, I'm just the opposite... when I complain about things, generally I'm looking for solutions and not just to vent (even if the solution is "go do the thing"). To the point where when I do vent, not expecting solutions, it's frustrating to people because they think I still want solutions, and it's something stupid like the bug bites I've already treated are still itchy. I have to specify that it's just venting, that they can mostly ignore it and just sorta vaguely agree with the sentiment (bugs are RUDE) and move on. I don't expect them to magic away my bug bites, but it can sorta come across that way when all my other grumblings are about things with practical solutions that I just need some encouragement on, lol

[@Link-dx1lx]

I agree with everyone else in this thread about asking the other person. On of the most valuable sentences me and my partner use is "What do you need right now?" The answer can be advice, space, comfort, hugs, just being listened to, or honestly whatever. I felt like I had reached enlightenment when they brought it uo for the first time, after I had had lots of trouble with communication in previous relationships.

[@brinagotsued]

Last I heard: fight, flight, freeze or fawn. Fawning meaning that one acts agreeable to escape the situation without further harm.

[@bossyboots5000]

Yes, that is exactly right and it's important that people know about all 4, not just Fight or Flight. Especially bc many people's response is neither, it's Freeze. And without knowing that is part of our body's natural response, we can blame ourselves for "not doing anything" when in reality we were too trauma blocked to do something. And I can personally say I've used Fawn to get out of a sexually dangerous situation and get home.

[@ktm9292]

Yes, fawning is a thing. It's a particularly common response for people who have a history of trauma. However, it doesn't apply in as many contexts and the literature is still in the early days. Definitely something to be aware of though.

[@therainydaylibrary4532]

you're truly one of my comfort youtubers. i really find joy in watching all of your videos; thank you so much for posting and being so kind

[@caitye.4943]

I'm a mental health counseling intern, aka therapist in training. Penny drop moments where the therapist is smiling are great. The therapist mostly likely caught on to it a while ago, we don't tell you because it has to be your idea, or you most likely won't believe us. Lol

[@sarahallegra6239]

That’s what I’ve always heard too. It kinda drives my partner crazy when he says something/gives me advice and I don’t really take it in. Then my therapist will tell me the same thing/advice, worded slightly differently a little while later and it’s an epiphany for me! I mean, that does sound genuinely frustrating, but I feel like sometimes it’s how she words things, or that I need to be in a receptive place finally to actually hear what’s being said. My point is that I imagine that if therapists just told you all the answers right away, it would be like my partner giving me advice before I was ready to hear it, lol.

[@fghsgh]

Yes, but also, i feel like it shouldn't be up to the therapist to decide for me that im not ready to hear it. You're basically keeping a secret _about myself_ from me because you _think_ i can't handle it. People are famously bad at predicting how i'll react. _Especially_ therapists, community moderators, and other people whose job it is to know how to people. Now, the best thing a therapist could do is probably to lead me onto the answer, but from experience (and from lots of testimonials on the internet), this doesn't happen often enough.

[@WaruiKira]

​@@fghsghit's not about keeping something from you, because we think you can't handle it. It's about leading you to a place, where you can find it out and realise it by yourself. This way the effect is more longlasting and effective. If the therapist tells you about your feelings and relationships and tells you exactly what the solution is, it's more likely that you are not open to it, or you will give up after the first try. But if you put 2 and 2 together yourself and guided by the therapist find a solution yourself, you are more likely to try it out and keep at it.

[@fghsgh]

@@WaruiKira I don't doubt that. It's just that the pace at which they think i need to be guided to it does not match what would work for me. If it's too fast the problem you describes happens. If it's too slow i feel like the therapy is not helping and i will stop going. I get that the pace they use is scientifically proven to be the most effective for the most people. Or maybe they even try to tune into me to see how fast they should go for me. But it just doesn't work.

[@faenene]

4:38 I really like and agree with the whole point Shaaba makes here! I so appreciate people affirming that you cannot control your emotions, because I’ve felt so guilty for not being able to and being told that I should. Seeing emotions as temporary guests is a new mindset I’d like to try. Love these videos!

[@julierose689]

I was just talking to my therapist about this today. I've always had trouble controlling my emotions and had ppl constantly telling me that I need to control them better aka "suppress them so I make others feel more comfortable"

[@larakleefeld8855]

I‘ve learnt that we can’t control our emotions, but we can control how we act on them. They’re not an excuse for bad behaviour. Acknowledging your emotions and taking care of your needs is not bad behaviour (we’re entitled to do that, and we should).

[@flashthemonkey6032]

Therapy-ing my way back to drawing, very important thing to me, not super stressful, but sure is a slow burn. Probably won’t relate to anything this time! EDIT: Nevermind, these are too relatable and i’m having repeated moments of introspection.

[@MirandolinaAmaldin]

It's "fight, flight, freeze" and sometimes "fawn" is added in. The reaction to try to appease an aggressor

[@Eco_Hiko]

Ah yes, there's nothing like running your brain like chrome. There are many, many tabs open and half of them have those abnoxiously loud pop up ads and I think there's a MySpace music player somewhere.

[@emmie1977]

Pretty sure I have adhd, and this is def my brain .....

[@PokhrajRoy.]

“My illness is chronic but my tits are iconic.” is Yassified Therapyspeak.

[@PokhrajRoy.]

Every day is a school day and I’m happy to attend this class!

[@rebekahbishop8870]

Fight, flight, freeze, fawn, flop

[@shaaba]

definitely not seen flop before!

[@Brooklyn99432ofmd]

I think it’s good to find advice online because it builds community 👍🏻💕🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍🌈😁

[@rowanrobbins]

Muffins are tasty and comforting! So maybe you will manifest comfort, Shaaba!

[@Charlotte-hv6ll]

Leaving a comment for the algorithm

[@kiraerickson472]

I really needed this. This week has been hard.

[@shaaba]

sending hugs to you cutie 🍑✨

[@crombo9399]

we love jamie’s dino sitting on the shelf next to his book

[@captainfinn64]

I love it when the big text comes up. I'm always like "ooo this is important I should be paying attention"

[@flotenstimme4608]

Your inniatial "I don't think I am" sounded so cute. I loved the Video

[@nescient1545]

Shaba, therapists actually do bring people's families/friends into the office for a chat sometimes! Patients are (hopefully) not isolated. They are affected by the people around them and their environment, and if their loved ones are unsupportive and ununderstanding they can often undo the progress made in the session. Sometimes it is necessary to involve them in the actual session when the patient is struggling to convey their needs or they just simply aren't receptive. The patient will need to discuss with their therapist if this is something they want to do and what boundaries they need maintained and what information the therapist is to share and what they are to steer clear from etc. You sound like you'd make a great therapist. You certainly have the intuition.

[@kearstinnekenerson6676]

Honestly I relate to possums in America so much because their playing dead is literally them being so anxious that they freeze up and fall over same possums same

[@jaimyboelen9445]

I see myself as a feeling hotel. Feelings can come over and stay for as long as they'd like. Even if I really don't like them, I have to make space for them like I make space for happy feelings. Because all feelings deserve a nice stay. :)

[@katie17330]

10:15 Telling a bunch of strangers instead of your therapist ...another very relatable thing! 😅

[@Piccylo]

It's actually good that you're aware of the potential problematic aspects of being an empath, and it's pretty fitting you went into that on this video.

[@dreamsmyth7]

it took me so long to realize that my anxiety makes my fight or flight kick in. that explains so so much. like why i have the urge to either run away (with the focus being on the running, not the getting somewhere else) or scream from the top of my lungs and punch a tree (my brains logic is that it would be more satisfying than punching a wall, because a wall wouldn't give, it would just hurt, but a tree would give if you punch hard enough and would also hurt). i thought that was a normal response to stress

[@johnhmaloney]

In my second session, my therapist just told me the realization. I completely rejected it until a few years later, when I realized that she was absolutely right. I've been seeing her for about 5 years and I occasionally joke about it. She always looks a bit embarrassed by her miscalculation in thinking that I was ready to hear it so early.

[@PokhrajRoy.]

Releasing music? That’s awesome! All the best!

[@iamjohnlocked2532]

I’m sorry, what? you haven’t had a muffin yet this year? Please have a muffin. It’s a Mental health essential. Forget therapy, just have a muffin.

[@PokhrajRoy.]

1:38 “So, how does that make you feel?” followed by that woman cry talking.

[@cexilady3333]

I have my therapy appts on Thursday so I love this!

[@kayliemcintosh7841]

Fight fight freeze AND fawn

[@durabelle]

I'm trying to decide if having two fights and no flight is a mistake or an accurate description of your actual options.

[@kayliemcintosh7841]

@@durabelle I can't think and type at the same time. And, proof-read before hitting enter? 😅 I was trying to show off how smart I am! 🤣 Joke's on me. But the fawn response isn't talked about as often as it should be. Its way more common than people realize. I think. -source, Natalie Liberman.

[@buckyball2003]

Who gave you permission to look directly into my soul at 6:00 ?? How dare you entirely understand all my problems Shaaba

[@vyvii3293]

@Shaaba if you did want to become a therapist, you would learn tools to approach your empathy in aessions, and to practice self care to allow you to step back from client's experiences. I just graduated from my BSc, and my ultimate goal is to become a counsellong psychologist... i know so little about providing therapy, but having spoken to tonnes of qualified humans in counselling and psychology, they all say this to me. Which fills me with great feelings, because even in life,. conversation, mentoring or whatever else... you do practice interpersonal skills and invite reflection for others, and if you have boundaries and practice self care - you've definitely got potential in therapeutic work.

[@UnhingedFairy]

Flight, fight, freeze and fawn. Fawn is one not as many people have heard but it is one that many traumatised people experience

[@haveaballcrafting8686]

easy cheesy muffins: 1 cup self-raising flour, 1 cup milk, 1 cup grated cheese. mix. cook in silicone muffin tray (very hard to get out of metal, impossible to get out of paper patty pans) ready in about 15mins.

[@808atlas5]

The most infuriating thing about going to my therapist, is her insistent ability to make me call out myself with a smile on her face. How dare!

[@SpoopyAce]

(I'm sorry, this turned into a wall of text lmao) My biggest frustration with my understanding of therapy comes from the simple fact that like, that penny drop moment really upsets me to hear about because *if you knew about it for a while, why the ever-loving hell would you not at BARE minimum lightly prod towards the idea?* It's really easy to say something like "they don't know if you're ready" or "you have to come up with the idea yourself" but from my experience at least that's really just? Really sincerely not a healthy standard to hide information behind / not even the case? In the case of "being ready", that's relying on a judgement of character that frankly I don't think could ever be perfectly built even *if* we lived in a world that never had to deal with common-place profiling, infantilising, stereotyping, or other forms of discrimination that would lead someone to presume you're not ready to hear something when you full well could be, but also because of the fact that for me at least, a big part of *why* I'm ready to hear things is *because* they're brought up to me, or even outright suggested I might need to look into something?? And in the case of "you have to come up with the idea yourself", I can partially agree that, yes, being involved in the process of discovering it / realising it does sincerely help in processing and coming to terms with the situation / realisation in general but like, why does have to be *fully* you? That just makes no sense to me? What's even the point at that point? What's the point of putting money, time, mental energy, and often physical energy on the line, especially when it's not even close to being always accessible or having barriers to entry, while also needing to be extremely honest and emotionally vulnerable with someone only for them to actively hide things from you and not co-operate to help you realise what you need to work on at all? How is this supposed to help people? Is this just a rare weird thing that happens that people overstate the frequency of? Because genuinely it's all people ever seem to talk about when therapy is brought up?? There's this constant energy that therapists spend a lot of their time reflecting questions and putting all the work on the person going to it? Because if that like, *is* just how it is that sounds like a space I would fucking *flounder* in lmao. It seems wildly inefficient and borderline negligent to me 😭 (For clarity, I want to be very clear I'm not saying I want a therapist to do all the work for me, nor am I saying I don't want to be involved in discussing things. But a space where *both* parties actively contribute to the conversation and actually communicate about ideas and thought processes in a mutually beneficial way where conversation is actively encouraged and prompted, especially in a way where you feel like you actually have the room to say things that aren't like "100% confidence" because the person you're talking too is *also* willing to toss ideas onto the table for you two to then walk through and whittle down whether or not actually apply or make sense, for example. it just seems like an objectively better system at the very least for someone like me idk) (for all i know this could literally just be the therapy norm and the narrative around it has just done an absolutely awful job of communicating that kajsbjkfas) (i also want to strongly emphasise that if such a system works for you or others that that is great and im not trying to diss that; however the system as i understand it seems like an oppressively bad environment for me to be in) If you made it this far into my rambling im super impressed and you deserve a cookie :3

[@lostinmymind8147]

So excited to hear your music Shaaba! ❤

[@laznishashazmaul5462]

First I am so not emotionally stable, second I love my therapist. When I just want to talk about nothing and everything she is all for it but if I want to talk deep she is there to help.

[@friendly.felidae]

There is flight, fight, freeze, and a new one I just learned from my mom (she's a psychiatrist), faun, where you literally try to take care of someone as they are being abusive to you or pause your own emotions to take care of others instead of yourself.

[@Beveybumblebee]

Fight, flight, freeze, and fawn

[@thevoidismyhome7242]

A few things I wish were more known: 1. In my case at least, the feeling of excitement/happiness is the same as the feeling of anger. Physically my body heats up, I get more animated, I get louder, maybe I shout, maybe I cry. 2. I know what anger is, what causes it, and what my reaction to it is, but how do you feel anger without allowing it to spiral constantly and risk hurting people? How do you cope with anger? How do you feel an emotion and then let it go? and sometimes how do you even know what the emotion your feeling is? I can't name an emotion I don't know, but I often don't know what I'm feeling.

[@nathryl03]

Regular reminder that you're all awesome, beautiful and valid little peaches, just the way you are ❤🧡💛💚💙💜 Love you all ❤🧡💛💚💙💜

[@PokhrajRoy.]

2:27 This is giving Tara-Darcy Energy

[@cassandrawhite633]

Fight, flight, freeze, and fawn are the ones I know.

[@PokhrajRoy.]

If my mother dropped in on an online therapy session, I’d say “MOTHER MONSTER HAS ARRIVED!” (It’s a Lady Gaga reference if you didn’t get it)

[@TransGuyShane]

Are we feeling mentally stable? That is a question I ask myself every day and the answer is always no 😅😂 I loved the freaky Friday therapy scenes 😂 you lied to me your a liar 😂

[@audreymeach9826]

As a therapist I love AITA stories 😂

[@rainbowflute10]

Shaaba, everyone's going to LOVE your music!!! 💜

[@arlecchino4004]

Not me watching it right after I watched an interview with the former principal of the gifted kid program I was in (one of my favorite people in the world btw, she's awesome) that invoced a shit ton of imposter sindrom

[@juliweizen1759]

Fight, flight, freeze or fawn.

[@PokhrajRoy.]

I think I do over exaggerate my place in peoples lives for cheap thrills but then you realise it’s not always you so I learn to chill and let the moment pass.

[@thylacoleonkennedy7]

7:03 As an Australian, 1. same, and 2. at least you don't live in the same country as four of the five deadliest snakes because it's not great to think about on the loo 😅

[@takula2642]

9:08 Yes there is also Freeze but sadly it's often forgotten

[@BelleHurricane]

I kinda want 'Manifesting my muffins ' on a shirt...the general public would be so confused

[@circewiborn]

the whole "im not living with my parents rent free; i pay with my mental health" is the exact reason i get grompy whenever someone says "why dont you move back home". hell nah.

[@christinakyleloves]

Love you Shaaba!!🩷🩷🍑🍑

[@genx_jen]

I originally found you because I watched Jamie's videos. But now I almost never see his and I am obsessed with yours! 🥰

[@Morgan_le_they]

In Irish we don’t say “I am angry” or whatever the emotion is, we say “I have anger” or whatever, kind of like a piece of clothing we’re wearing for now. I like that better because to me it acknowledges that this is something real for me in this moment, but also reminds me that the emotion is not permanent. That’s just how I see it anyway

[@JennieFuchsia]

Fight, flight, freeze… my go to is fawn 😰

[@SartorialDragon]

9:10 Fight, Flight, Freeze and Fawn! Fawn has been added recently. Fawn is, to put it very shortly, people pleasing. When you act in the most appeasing way to keep yourself on an abuser's "good" side.

[@HermioneDisapprovesOfJKR]

So excited for your music!! You are amazing 💜💜

[@Brooklyn99432ofmd]

Yeah it is freeze 💕

[@SartorialDragon]

9:40 well yeah, but also, you *need* to get to the realization yourself. People told me for like 10 years to not sacrifice myself to take care of a romantic partner. I've only gotten to the "heck NO i'm stopping this" 3 years ago. You can't stop doing things when someone tells you, you'll stop when you're ready.

[@larsbenken9588]

About the emotions as guests idea: maybe they’re guests at your B&B? You don’t decide who comes, but you take care of them. If a guest is being a big problem, you get some help to get them to leave.

[@Louisyed]

As a therapist, I wonder whether the idea behind treating emotions as guests is about learning to be mindful of emotions. It's not to say that they aren't real or you can just change them, but that they are events that happen in your mind, they aren't YOU. So if an emotion happens it can be helpful to step back and say to ourselves "I notice that I am feeling x" to create a little distance and help us recognise that they are temporary and they don't always have to dictate our immediate next action. There is an us that feels the feeling but there is also an us that can observe that we are having the feeling.

[@marieonishenko]

When I realized my mom was a narcissist, my therapist didn’t even like that bat an eye when I told her that I had realized my mom is a narcissist. She just like cool as a cucumber said oh yeah.

[@undefinederror40404]

Yeah, it is freeze! They should really teach people "freeze, fight or flight" not just "fight or flight", because freeze is actually the most common one. And freeze is the one surrounded by the most shame, self-hatred and judgement. Awareness could help combat those, because people who freeze are often blamed and judged by others who don't know how common the freeze reaction is ("why didn't you just run away"). Which comes on top of the fact that those who freeze often feel betrayed by their body and then struggle with self-hatred. Bit of a serious comment but it's important info to spread, just in case someone comes across it who didn't know yet.

[@freckles4603]

Does anyone else feel like you’re emotions just never change? I feel really alone in this and was wondering if anyone could relate. Every emotion I’ve ever had has never left me it’s always there, that’s an exaggeration but it’s pretty much every emotion. Like a conveyer belt that goes round and round is still the same conveyer bolt but it gets faster every time.. that doesn’t sound quite right to me but it’s the closest I can describe it.

[@activatingchangewithsteph1259]

Fight flight freeze or flop and I can get all five in the same situation….. yup I said five cos the fifth one is the mixture of all four which I think is the most joyous

[@Mariethechaotic]

9:29 ouch this one hurt. I broke my own heart by falling in love with my best friend who was in a relationship *and* told me that she wasn't capable of falling in love. And then I further broke my own heart by telling her so that she abandoned me just like everyone else.

[@hazell1304]

My illness is chronic but my tits are iconic is such and mvp response to social expectations

[@kirstymilano7180]

I stress about ways things i aready did could have gone worse

[@NotLaura-Baka22]

First time I went to therapy after my son almost died for the second time in 1 year she said "your are very well informed and self aware person" so I win therapy? "no" lol haha

[@PokhrajRoy.]

I’m Team Hahahard Time

[@PokhrajRoy.]

6:47 HAHAHA I FELT SEEN

[@mikkareads]

I guess if the therapist had said "Uh, yes, that is exactly what I meant by saying you're getting hotter", they might have felt like they're being inappropriate with a client.

[@larakleefeld8855]

9:10 It’s definitely freeze, I would know

[@TheAwesomes2104]

I feel like the people who like to throw around saying that they are an empath really don't understand that, in our society and world today, being an empath sucks. It's a lot on your shoulders to be able to, in a way, feel the horrific pain of others. Vividly, at that. There was a kid in my town that got hit by a truck while waiting on the school bus and was killed, and I've literally cried about it like 12 times, both for the kid and the family, and also the driver who probably didn't mean to hit and kill him. I've never met this kid, I don't even know what the names of the people involved are. I get seasonal depression not due to the weather at all, but due to the fact that there are hunting seasons where people happily go out and murder innocent animals for their own personal pleasure and everyone acts like it's okay. Being an empath does make it harder for me to trust people, because I am well aware of the fact that other people are typically not nearly as empathetic as I am and regularly do hurt others for their own benefit without even blinking an eye or even thinking about it at all. I feel empathy for anything sentient, and sometimes even nonsentient things, while other people tend to have a line of who they will show empathy to and who they will not, an ever changing blurry line. I mean, most people have some degree of ability to feel empathy, So I guess most of us are empaths to some degree, but to me, you're only really an empath if it's on a daily basis that you experience it in a burdensome way. I don't think you can call yourself an empath if you can just turn it off for the sake of your mental health, which I'm not advocating that it's wrong or unhealthy to be able to do that. Sometimes that's a very necessary skill for survival in our world, but, at least in my opinion, being a true empath does mean It's constantly on. For me, the only thing that can turn my empathy off is when someone is hurting another, but even then, is it me turning my empathy off or is it me being more empathetic to the abused than to the abuser. I don't know, I'm no expert or anything, it just seems the term is extremely overused by people with moderate to no levels of empathy.

[@colegisicki6486]

9:13 it's actually fight, flight, freeze, fawn and fold.

[@tkrause1116]

ooh! I've never heard fold.

[@imgeniusish]

you said you dont want to say stuff like "give me the realization" to your therapist and i remembered when i was in therapy i frequently told mine stuff like: you're poking me on purpose. you're poking me to make me say it. i just dont know what it is that you want to hear so maybe you could tell me? and we laughed about it, it was great, i miss him

[@Brooklyn99432ofmd]

💖💕

[@shanw.2948]

❤

[@NMSRyan]

🤗

[@RowanArk]

I have a question. Does anyone else have to constantly convince yourself that your friends do indeed like you and are not just putting up with you and being too polite to tell you you're annoying/not interesting?

[@westcoastfireafc]

My problem is I can’t inflict the situations and some of the images I have in my head most fro my work how do I inflict this trauma onto the innocent mind of therapist

[@kia.tarsia]

🩷🍑

[@CC4real]

🏅second!

[@shaaba]

🥳✨

[@emmie1977]

Don't suppose you have an email I can send stuff to? I don't do Instagram.....

[@bossyboots5000]

Shaaba, maybe you misunderstood and have been trying to manifest the wrong kind 😉😅

[@shaaba]

MAYBE!! 😂

[@ofentity]

First

[@shaaba]

🏆✨

[@thatladygeek]

🧁