Anderson Cooper reveals what Andrew Garfield said about grief that stuck with him

Actor Andrew Garfield's mother Lynne died from pancreatic cancer in 2019. In this deeply moving and emotional episode of “All There Is” Andrew talks with Anderson Cooper about how grief is now the only way for him to feel close to his mom again. “The wound is the only route to the gift,” Andrew says. “The grief and the loss are the only route to the vitality of being alive.”
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[@theresahoffman7444]

My mom passed two years ago and her not being here left me bereft. I felt like whatever was keeping on this earth was gone, like an uprooted tree. Grief has been keeping me adrift in this sea of loss, adrift from solid land. They say that time heals all but I feel like not even a hundred years would ease these feelings.

[@mariatourreilles331]

I lost both my parents and the only brother I had in a matter of three years. Awful. I’m an orphan, I feel like an orphan. My grief is always evolving but never going away. I have a constant sense of sadness at a deep level. I changed as a person. I keep going because I’m a warrior, but I feel a constant pain in my heart. Grief is rough 😭😭😭

[@francesstephens6112]

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[@jm1657]

I am so sorry for your profound losses. I hope your experience of grief becomes much easier to bear. God bless you!

[@immortalasirpa6006]

I'm so sorry, Andrew. I wanted to listen to the end, but it became too painful. Too close to home. But thank you for trying to share your grief process. It helps.

[@LaurieWiegler]

Andrew, I apprecaite what you said about not being able to speak so eloquently if you had not been able to say goodbye to your mom, but as I see this, I can't imagine seeing my mom suffer as you did. My mom died on the catheterization table, an unexpected outcome of checking her heart, and I got the call at school across the Pond. Everyone said it must be so hard for me being in London, but I was comforted by the people there. None of it is easy and we take the beauty where we can. I am so sorry for your and Anderson's losses, too. xo

[@yvonnerolley9676]

It is very important for conversations about significant feelings between men be shown and not suppressed and open discussions about grief helps many people who struggle in silence due to being in a culture of avoidance and lack of empathy

[@gerardfelix163]

Thanks for posting this. This is so real...

[@robz7789]

❤ I agree

[@Man.from.the.90sgeneration]

Ok

[@Litkovian23]

This was an amazing conversation that I really needed to hear. Grief is so hard. Thank you both for letting us in to your own grief, it helps so much to know that I’m not alone in this pain.

[@samray5516]

As somebody the age of Andrew Garfield now and lost my mother at 11. It has impacted my life a lot. I have been privileged in many respects, but my desire to achieve died a lot that day. I realize I should do things for myself but, when you lose a mom the world seems less meaningful. For me at least. Can't speak for others.

[@zoecunningham3019]

Deeply open, moving conversation. Beautiful emotionally loving. His writing, profoundly eloquently worded.

[@jm1657]

Beautifully expressed comment 🫶

[@tonyoliveira2509]

My 😮dear beloved mother died a couple of weeks ago. I am grieving and feeling lost and empty. This video made me cry and understand about grieving a lot. Thank you both.

[@fatimapastorello6898]

So good to see men show their deepest emotion and pain. Lots of love from me here in Brazil.

[@jkhhjsfohwo]

With my Mum died 10 years ago next month and I think your conversation has helped a lot, I have only broken down once. thank you for your stories

[@andyzar1177]

To grief is to remember, and to remember is to love dearly. Beautiful talk! One of the most profound conversations about loss and grief I have ever heard. Thank you Andrew and Anderson, the pain is the opening indeed.

[@ItsjustBeth-wk6qi]

Andrew is the sweetest of souls. His ability to articulate what so many can’t will be healing for anyone who sees this. I only got to have my dad for the first 25 years of my life and have gone 25 without him now. If I’d been told in the beginning of the short time we would have and the grief I would experience I would chose to have that brief time again.

[@jamesscully529]

I've lost both of my parents, my father in 2019, and my mother in 2022. I was able to be with my father when he passed, and what Cooper and Garfield describe was much more condensed for me. He was in a hospice and suffered a sudden heart attack and he was gone in mere minutes. There were no final goodbyes, but I did feel honored that I was there with him, Unfortuneately, I was not able to be there for my mother. I miss them but in a way I don't, because so much of them remain with me.

[@orlandoartiles7432]

I lost my other half( my mom) 3 years ago. I wasn’t prepared to see this conversation and it opened my hidden grief and feelings again. I wasn’t able to see her or talk to her on her last week. She wasn’t supposed to die, she went to the hospital for urine infection, but Covid was a part of it and I couldn’t find out what happened that week. 3 days before her passing she was able to reach me by a nurses phone and told me: time is ending, please you and your brothers keep close and don’t fight. That were her last words for me, after she passed 2 days after. Nothing is the same, I will miss her to my last Breath. And

[@LaurieWiegler]

I am so sorry. I do understand. Hugs.

[@jm1657]

I’m so very sorry 💝🙏🌈

[@lyndaboca8111]

Profound conversation...thank you, I needed this in this moment of my life.

[@Polyphemus47]

This was a gift.The last decade has been brutal for me. My entire family is gone, now, and my friends have been leaving the planet so often that I've lost each one long before I processed the last loss. I'm completely alone, now, so I guess there's that.

[@jm1657]

🙏

[@Northcountry1926]

Stay Strong 💪🏼Mate 🫡

[@fionaross]

Such a beautiful conversation. Thank you for sharing this.

[@sallymoen7932]

What a terrific interview. I love finding out people's stories

[@AZ-nr1id]

This is a good interview. It helps others in grief. So hard.

[@Caligirl903]

I lost my father, mother, and brother three years in a row... Grief never goes away! I grieve everyday! May father also passed away from pancreatic cancer in 2018.

[@dinodinosaur2930]

💔 Grief, is love with nowhere to go 💔

[@jimcroom4185]

Beautiful conversation😢! I lost my 9 year old in 1992 and my wife of 47 years I 2022. I am a research scientist yet I cannot navigate through it. I cannot cry, I take pills that do nothing. I feel Anderson’s and Andrew’s pain so much…..there are no words. Bless you both.

[@daniellekessler1712]

Thank you so much for sharing this. You were able to put into words what I have been unable to since I lost my mom. I cared for her until she crossed over as well and that gave me peace as well.

[@natinasingh4771]

I lost my mom one year ago, 2 days before my 40th birthday. I have not worked through it. Don’t know if I ever will

[@erinhoward6021]

I know exactly how Andrew feels and the pain is constant I lost my dad almost 9 years ago. February 18 will be 9 years and now I have borderline personality disorder

[@lillakursa4578]

I lost my dad on the same day. 8 years ago.💔

[@jm1657]

💝

[@HealthyMBS1]

don't know how they do it.. My father died a decade ago and I still can't get through two sentences about him being gone before I can no longer speak. Never got through the kinds of conversations these two are having.. I probably never will. I'm only 13 minutes into this and I'm not going to finish watching. It's too painful

[@ItsTeegan]

Grief is a real thing

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[@begoniablu]

Shew - I love this conversation so much. Thank you! And i remember that beautiful interview. My son of 27 and only child left this world abruptly 3 years ago. It continues to be such a deep and profound journey.. It changes you. ...and I will forever grieve for all the mothers that have gone before and will inevitably come after.. it is a cruel fate. What I wouldn't give to return to being uninitiated but I am grateful to have his love in my life that persists in inumerable ways and am hopeful that some day I will figure out how to uncouple that love from the pain of loss..

[@jm1657]

💝🌟🌈

[@LauraMason-u4y]

So glad this podcast is back! I LOVE IT ❤️

[@VickiGraybeal]

For sure. Anderson is so gifted as an interviewer and a human going on the journey that the depth of feelings springs forth in a raw and honest way.

[@ArchersPlace]

This is too close to home that I'm gonna need a few minutes now thanks for sharing

[@null_the_null]

Death will die, in the end. Because the victory is won. Condolences.

[@mimibenjamin562]

Thank you, Anderson!

[@lawriephillipasequeira8592]

My mother passed away 6 weeks ago she is a Kiwi ( NZ) and my Dad is English . My mother has Maori heritage she passed away in her small town in NZ in hospital . We were all with her around her bed when she passed they bought chairs because they expected us to stay for a long while . My father left very quickly so I went with him , they were surprised because Maori and Pacific Island people stay with the soul to comfort them and themselves . I think of that now and wished that we had stayed for a while . This is just a ref that Andrew made about 'indigenous " people .

[@ShyyyySativaaaa]

Very true the world just isn’t the same after losing a parent. 12/2/23 I lost my Dad. I didn’t get to say goodbye, he was in another state.

[@redsparks2025]

In the anime "Frieren: Beyond Journey's End" the subplot that is never said out loud is about getting over grief. Season 1 just ended and I hope they make a season 2.

[@dondevice8182]

Wow… just, Wow.

[@VickiGraybeal]

Wonderful to hear insight into grief and coping from his perspective.

[@tymalleco3522]

My grandmother just passed away. My mother cries a lot. My granny left us at 96! Losing a family member of great importance is God.

[@oneseeker2]

The Year of Magical Thinking by Joan Didion helped me just a tiny bit

[@tymalleco3522]

I wouldn’t make it without my mother and I’m over 30. Not the oldest either. This is so hurtful to watch.

[@vanderloo1978]

(Suffering: Timecode 5:09) It would not be a full life without suffering. How can one say they lived a full live if they only had "X" all the time. Anyone that had only suffering or only pleasure would have not lived a full life. To experience all of what life has to offer is a blessing in disguise even if it doesn't appear that way. I feel sorry for anyone stuck in any end of that spectrum. The key is to experience all this life has to offer both good and bad. Not to welcome the suffering, but to learn from it. There is something to learn. You learn about yourself and you learn about others.

[@shannonbowman5990]

❤

[@spideygamer_2926]

Dang man

[@jacquelynemartin6353]

we don't talk about death because it will consume you and your life to the point where you are miserable everyday. You're life seems so empty. I've lost my my mom, my dad, and my sister all in a span of 3 years. All of the family anchors are gone. Grief is the worst pain one can experience. I honestly don't know how life went on but it did and nobody forgets those people in your lives...never. In my case, I think I grew stronger than I actually was because there wasn't anyone to fall back on. I'm not sure that strength is a good thing or not.

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❤❤

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My Mama!!!!!!

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Good grief you troll😡

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Go away😡

[@tymalleco3522]

They lost me on the ocean part. So is water like a god. Is it figuratively.

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Anderson Cooper, did you ever want more for yourself?

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try to evolve

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talk to a therapist instead of an actor, why CNN is doing this non sense

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