Random Latenight Chat

[@stephanieodonnell8849]

Let your older kids make dinner for the family and you go to your moms after work and be with her. It is tuff but worth you spending time with your mom

[@eileenthomas6342]

Get the older kids to help you wrap up some of the young ones gifts this year, that should help with the stress you have Especially Eden she is a big girl now she should help out her daddy.

[@annamaria8755]

There three older than Eden so why shouldn't they help? Just because she's a girl doesn't mean it should all be thrown on her shoulders.

[@libbyaspen920]

ANY of these kids, not just the oldest girl....

[@cindywright14]

I am so sorry Tom sending lots of love hugs and prayers

[@debj4life478]

Tom please let Asher and Judah help with wrapping and stockings. That would be great memories with them. When my Dad died, he was 35 and there was 4 children my Mother had to raise by herself. She let my oldest sister help and She loved it.

[@debbiewilson2247]

I see you have a heavy heart, & that is very understandable, with it being christmas season, memories are so much more prominent at this time. Just remember, your kids love you & try to make things special for you in little ways. Anyway, Merry Christmas to you & the kids! 🎄

[@ShellyMiller-kd9of]

I wish you all lived closer! I would teach Sophia to crochet that takes your mind off things! I know Sophia loves giving to others she has a caring heart and loves her family! Praying for you all ! God Bless you all.

[@ShellyMiller-kd9of]

So sorry about your mom. I watched the video with you and Sophia about Andrea . Very heartbreaking. I’m so glad you are there with each other to support and comfort one another . Be with your mom as much as you

[@dianeweaver9215]

Keep yourself well. Remember you are a great father. You have a lot your children. Your moms sickness has to be a constant reminder of Andrea. Keep your head up for your children and for yourself

[@nancysimmons2225]

I’m just wondering time does your older son know what’s going on? Maybe talk to him that you could use his help after work after he gets off if he could maybe spend some time with her and talk to him I’m pretty sure he’ll be understanding that his grandma, you don’t have to worry about asking for help.

[@blessedhomeschoolmommy1453]

Oh Tom you are so right!! It’s so easy to judge how people deal with things but you just don’t know what you would do until you are living it. I know many people judged my sister in law for moving on so quickly after my brother died and they easily said they’d never remarry, but I never did. You just don’t know how you would handle it.

[@blessedhomeschoolmommy1453]

Just keep stockings simple. Just do candy and call it a day!

[@daniellebudick9485]

I miss Andrea even though we never met. Just seeing her in the videos and her bright, cheery spirit shined thru every year. I never had a spouse so I can’t relate. But I can relate on mom’s passing. My mom will be gone 14 years this December 26th. I had a best friend pass leaving her husband. He re-married a year later. He married a friend of hers. Im sorry your mom is dying. I’m praying for you all.

[@robinmonillas2002]

Holidays can be sooo hard. Just need to go with it find joy. In something.

[@susangrote3633]

Tom, You’re an amazing person and a fantastic father. Have you ever thought of not getting remarried? Perhaps Andrea was your one and only. You speak of her with such love and devotion. She remains your soulmate, as she should. I’m so sorry you lost her as such a young age.

[@Gwaycee]

Well, God did say that man should not be alone. He will provide another companion for Tom. He has a long life ahead of him, God wiling.

[@nancysimmons2225]

Tom, it’s called takeout it’s called pick up pizza Kentucky fried chicken McDonald’s Wendy’s Arby’s when you go to your mothers or you gotta go to your mothers you explain it to the kids. I don’t think they’re gonna be upset about that they’re gonna like the food they’re happy less stress on you.

[@honeybadger8893]

It helps ME TO HEAR YOU. I NEED to understand bc it hurts so bad so many of us experiencing loss.

[@marymary2998]

Hi Mr Mills sending love and Hugs to you and all the children. Xx❤❤

[@honeybadger8893]

Do you feel farther from God, the same, or closer? You truly think deeper than any widower and I hope you hang in there.

[@elizabethvallely4044]

Tom keeping your mum and you and family in my prayers! Hugs Millis Family Liz. 😊

[@EmbraceHappiness1]

Hoping for comfort for you and that things will feel better.

[@lindagoodrich2928]

$80 for a Stanley? Holy moly. Had no idea they were that much. I work for the YMCA. I could get you one from lost and found for the cost of shipping, lol. I recommend a helmet for heelies. I know speech paths who have treated many a brain injury from heelies. I'm so sorry about your mom. This season is going to be super tough to do all the holiday stuff and care for mom. Prayers for you. You are doing great being mom and dad. I'm a single mom so I get it. I get a break here and there though because my last kid goes to dads for a weekend here or there but all of Christmas and clothes and school stuff is all on my plate too. One day at a time.

[@RobinWilbanks-du7ii]

I love five below my granddaughter loves art and they have nice canvas and art supplies there

[@CloMarshall-q3e]

I have been watching your family for a long time but this is my first time commenting .your a great guy and doing a wonderful job . Take care of yourself . Sending love and best wishes from Minnesota ( originally England )

[@may-beeart7930]

I've lost my mother, daddy, brother and husband. My husband was the worst grief. I think it's different loves. You grieve differently for different loves. It's all horrible. But my husband's death was the Morse intense grief and I'm 10 years in. I still have his ashes they go with me everywhere I go. It's so intense.

[@RobinWilbanks-du7ii]

I know it’s hard on you now but trust me from the bottom of my heart it’s memories you and your family will treasure forever. You say she doesn’t have much time. Treasure it. I’ve lost both of my parents to cancer and me and my sisters cherish those last memories. My dad had four daughters and no sons and he was a thirty five year veteran Army. He told all the nurses we were not allowed in the room while they were changing bedding or washing him or shaving him he was very humiliated by the thought of that. Our mother was a different story she didn’t want us to leave her.

[@RobinWilbanks-du7ii]

I watch silently very often. My heart goes out to you and your family. Grief is the hardest things I’ve ever went through and your right it doesn’t get easier. I cry all the time because I married for life and no matter what I went through I still feel lost me a failure I couldn’t make it work. When you were talking about ready to go my mom fought cancer for two years and she was tired of all the pain and suffering. She looked at us four girls and stay stay in church, always be there for each other and I’ll always love but I’m tired and I’m ready to go. With in a couple of days she took her last breath with us four singing gospel songs and holding her

[@lauramclaine504]

Tom I say this with all sincerity I rarely comment on your videos, but you have two adult sons at home who legally can get married and have their own families you need to start depending on them more for the cooking and even going to the store you can give them a debit card loaded with the money. it would make them feel great as well to be able to know they help the family. You could maybe go stay one or two days on a Friday or Saturday with your mother and maybe take one or two of the younger kids or the adults stay at home with the younger kids. You also have two teenagers with justice almost being an adult and he’s very responsible at this point you’ve been blessed with the older ones that are able to take care of the younger ones never feel guilty for that. You’re doing the best that you can do. No parent is perfect. I’m sure if you had a counselor they’d be telling you the same thing I’ve been in counseling I know and also religious counseling. I pray for your family always.🙏

[@libbyaspen920]

If you don't want to ask your oldest children to jump in and take on more then what about hiring nanny or an afternoon helper - someone to do housekeeping, errands with kids, get dinner going, organize the house, play with the kids, etc. Reality is you might just need a nanny. I'd also consider putting all the kids in school, not just the oldest.

[@stephanieodonnell8849]

Let your older kids make dinner for the family this way you can go to your moms after work is done and you can spend time with your momIt is tuff but worth you spending time with your mom

[@Bgstflorida]

I'm sorry Tom. Big hugs to you.

[@stacisrainbownursery7825]

Wow Tom this subject of death and what you were saying in the beginning of this video is exactly how I’ve been thinking lately and I’m 55 but you’re so right….all the experiences we go through in life can definitely change us forever and I agree as we go through life there comes a point where you understand how people can be ready to leave here. I had no idea your beautiful mom was sick. I can’t believe it….Tom I am so very sorry. God Bless your mom and your family. ❤️🙏. I really love when you talk about the lessens you have learned in life and you’re realizing as you’re getting older what others have gone through and the judgement you may have put on them. You’re a good guy Tom. Again please know how sorry and saddened I am to hear about your mom. Life is so short . It’s scary , we just never know what life holds for us. Tom please don’t apologize for crying it’s ok we understand and please don’t feel guilty because you are a good son and you’re doing everything you can to be by your mom’s side when you’re able to. Your mom knows you love her. I can’t believe kids can be so cruel in school. I’m glad Sofia is a strong girl. Thank you for sharing that story of Claudia and the school folders, it lets us all know this is how real life is. We have all experienced that with our children. 😊😊😊 I agree if you’re unsure then it’s better to be more gentle with your children than to jeopardize the relationship. Good for you Tom! You’re doing a great job. Andrea is for sure looking down on you with great pride.

[@RobinWilbanks-du7ii]

I was only blessed with one child a son. I had a infertility problem. I hid 32 years of abuse from my son until about four years ago. He was married had four children came by our house and heard me screaming and crying and walked in on his dad beating me. I thought my son was going to beat him to death. Later on the police were called and he was arrested. I knew then I had to get out of that situation. So my ex is alive but I feel like he’s dead. I was with him longer that with my parents. Now I’m alone my saving grace is my sin daughter in law and four grandchildren they give me a reason to live.

[@Melanie.8888]

Never got be a mom a grandma, just a auntie

[@stellarose785]

Happy Holidays to you and your Family

[@blessedhomeschoolmommy1453]

I bet there are some great tutorials to teach Sophia to sew. You wouldn’t have to learn how.

[@blessedhomeschoolmommy1453]

I hear exactly what you are saying. The difference between a mom and dad.

[@babarapatrick5707]

God will send u some one I watch every video when I can u r a very good person dad I am sorry ur mom is ill but I think God can help

[@Allison-h9o]

Can your older boys go and see your mom or stay with her for a couple of days just to spend time

[@JenMutterer]

You can get a Stanley for 20-40 bucks.

[@BretMarie777]

Tom what were your mom's symptoms before she found out she had cancer? I am praying for yall. 🙏

[@robinmonillas2002]

7 years here

[@nancysimmons2225]

No, it’s not the same since my husband passed away. This will be my second Christmas without him. It’s hard you get lonely. I don’t have family where I’m living my son. My only child lives 30 minutes away and he’s married and he’s gonna have his first baby, any day now, so I used to see my son twice a month after my husband passed away but that’s gonna change. I am gonna sell my house but I got too many things to do and it’s probably gonna take me three years. I gotta have a lot of yard sales I got a lot of things to sell, a lot of things to get rid of and then some things done to my house so it will sell fast. I definitely got a new get a new floor in my living room. It’s a long story but I did it. It’s all bumpy. Lol I know what you mean about the holidays it’s hard it’s different but I’m still celebrating it because my husband would want me to. He would be very angry with me. It’s going to be hard. I’m gonna be very happy with my first grandchild, but I’m gonna be very upset that he didn’t get to see his first grandchild because we used to talk about it so I know it’s hard. I was talking to her a lot and she was helping me through things with my husband and then God took her too but at least you do have your kids with you and that helps to keep you busy. Keep your mind busy give you some joy and a very sorry about your mother. I’m a little younger than her and it’s very scary and I feel sorry for the kids. They’re gonna lose her and it’s gonna be hard on them so I know what you mean at the same time the holiday keeps me a little busy even though I live alone I still decorated and I’ve still enjoyed it even though I’m alone and I’ll be alone Christmas Day but I’m OK with that. I know he can see me. I can’t explain it, but things happen and things happen to me a lot when I lost other family members see I do believe they’re in heaven but I do believe God let them come to us when we need them and it might not be a big bag. He actually came to me a week before he passed. Oh, I know that was him. There’s no doubt I was crying a lot because me and my son got into a fight he hasn’t been the same since he lost his dad. I’m not sure if he’s feeling guilt that he didn’t get to spend more time with him or say the things he wanted to say to him so we wasn’t speaking that week and my husband came to me and I know he came to me and that made me feel better. I was more worried about me and my son getting our relationship back and we did so she could see you and she knows what’s going on and your mother‘s gonna do the same thing I talk to him every day about anything, Bill what I just bought what I’m gonna have for dinner and I don’t care who hears me there’s nobody here but you know what I’m saying I personally don’t care who was here. I know I’m talking to my husband and I know he can hear me and I will pray for you and your mother and let your mother know when it is her time to go because she’s not gonna wanna let go and you gotta let her know everything‘s gonna be OK that you’ll see her again so you figured I lost my husband. I was married 32 years and then I lost my sister-in-law six months after it’s called one day at a time but enjoy the time with the kids because you’re really gonna miss it. Really gonna miss it when they’re all gone they all leave lol you’ll have grandkids, but it’s not the same. It’s it’s not the same you’ll be in my thoughts and I pray that God helps you to give you strength to get through because I know your mother was there for you like my sister-in-law was there for me I know what you said that it could be overwhelming for you because you got work and now you gotta do everything for the kids and I agree there’s probably days you would just like to stay in bed and watch TV but I’m telling you you’re gonna miss those days it’s it’s gonna happen and you’re gonna really miss it so enjoy while you can now.

[@stellarose785]

Happy Holidays 🎄❄️🥰

[@honeybadger8893]

Do you have snow???

[@BretMarie777]

Asher Judah and Eden can all help make dinner. And it's good for them to learn how to cook.

[@vernareid4738]

Be proud of yourself your doing an amazing job with the kids .Andrea is with you every second of everyday ❤

[@ShellyMiller-kd9of]

Tom don’t ever be sorry about crying. I’m glad there are men who cry and can show their emotions. I lost my husband back in 2020. And still have moments where I break down. When I lost my dad it was very difficult for me too. I was my daddy’s little girl and I think i always will be even now that I’m 62 I still get emotional.

[@Hopeinthepain]

I understand the lonely parts. I lost my LH and kids and it’s the first Christmas without them.

[@peggysmith7692]

My Heart is with you❤

[@tammy-ow8rr]

I lost my husband in October of 2004 and then our oldest son (forever 28) suddenly 💔🥹in February of 2013, then 6 months later I lost my mom in September of 2013! I’ve lost a lot of people who I loved and cared for like siblings, nieces and nephews, friends etc and none of them compare to losing a child!! Losing a child is the worse!! No parent should ever have to bury their child 🥹💔😭 I miss my son so much it physically hurts my heart 💔 I think of him and still cry everyday and it will be 12 years in February 2025!!! 💔😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭

[@suzanneewing268]

Tom you need to protect your heart❤️

[@blessedhomeschoolmommy1453]

$150-$200 3 ish presents is exactly what we do

[@stanparker3636]

How do you get on live chat. Lynn

[@may-beeart7930]

My mother died of pancreatitis cancer. You couldn't have saved Andrea. It would have only shoved her into conventional treatment which she would not have wanted. By not taking her you actually saved her from suffering. We found out in Dec my mother had cancer and she died in February. She like Andrea waited it out they were two tough ladies. It sounds like your mother is toughing it out also. Andra did exactly what she wanted to do for as long as she could. It all happened the way life wanted it to. Bullying. After my husband died I went to a flea market and I made a comment that my late husband had one of what the vendor was selling. Then. Then the vendor yelled out to a man walking up to his booth. He yelled Mike you want a used woman? Can you believe that? That's one of the cruelest thing that has ever been done to me. People pretty much suck.

[@cbbeach8628]

That was just an awful thing to say. I am sorry you had to deal with someone so rude and insensitive.

[@dianekurley4963]

You do more for the family than you realize. Many of us, when we were your age, had similar challenges, but probably not the same amount of children. We were always tired. Being the major breadwinner is difficult, but as the years pass you will be rewarded. Your kids will say, “I don’t know how Dad did it. We were so lucky he was a caring, loving father.”

[@Byronswife]

Always here if you need an ear

[@nancysimmons2225]

Tom, I’m sorry I’m leaving you a lot of comments but when your mother gets really bad, you need to take a week off work I mean seriously you need to take a week off work why my husband died suddenly I’m trying to think he passed away on Friday my son and daughter-in-law took that whole week offyou need to take a week off you and Asher your customers are not gonna be mad at you if they’re a good customer you explain that what’s going on and they will find somebody else if it’s emergency but you need to take time off

[@Allison-h9o]

Are you still doing the merit store

[@rachelday9585]

Yes

[@JaniceTaylor-it3ed]

Good morning 😃

[@dianeferguson1074]

You look tired. You might want to see a doctor and run some tests, blood pressure, cholesterol A1c.

[@jamesmaclean7324]

One day at a time sweet Jesus That's all I'm asking of you. Just give me the strength to do everyday What I have to do. Yesterday's gone sweet Jesus,and tomorrow may never be mine. God help me today Show me the way One day at a time.

[@stephanieodonnell8849]

Is your mom on hospice care

[@peggysmith7692]

See u tomorrow ❤❤❤

[@nancysimmons2225]

It’s called ordering stuff candy. The girls that go to school. I would get them like a keychain they can put on their backpack a kitty cat you’ll get it done.

[@angelamiller4164]

Tom I am just lost for words of what to say. My heart goes out to you. I wished my husband and I lived near y'all and we would help out and pitch in making things a little easier for you. My health isnt good, but there is still things that I could do to take some of the load off of you. Just a suggestion, why don't you do a grocery haul pickup? You could go online and put in what you need as it hits your mind of what you need. Then through out the month keep adding to it. It would save you so much time from going once a month. Another option do a grocery haul pick up every 2 weeks, that way it wouldn't be so overwhelming of putting a months worth of groceries up. Just a suggestion. You are so right about people really not understanding what you are going through unless you are going through the same situation or have been through the same thing. God wired men and women totally different. Yes, a moms love for her children is different than how a dads love is for their children, and not saying that in a uncaring or in a bad way. Momma chick will flock a person in a heart beat if you mess with her babies no matter what age they are. That is just the way they are wired and God gives us so much love to show in a totally different way. Tom would you sit down and do a Amazon wish list and if a wish list is too hard for you to say, just go in there like playing a game and put a bunch of things in your shopping cart, no matter the price, small or large and let your subscribers look at it, and no pressure to anyone, let them buy you a gift just because we want to show our love to you and because we just want to show we care. Not for you to think we feel sorry for you, but just because people getting a blessing from showing love and care. You can start it out by saying one of my subscribers asked for me to make a Amazon list for things I like. Please consider that. God just impressed it upon my heart to have you to do up a what you like wish list. Tom, we are praying for you, your Mom, your sister, and your kids. I just can't imagine what you are going through. If you ever need or want to chat with someone privately just let me know. I will be a listening ear and will try to be an encouragement to you. Tom you are a good man and just hearing you say you are willing to give up your bedroom for your mom and you would sleep on the couch has just melted my heart to tears. You have alot of people that love you and I am always praying God will send a christian lady into your life to be your wife. Sorry so long, but this was what was on my heart.

[@GillianDavidson-gp3ge]

Ur looking tom .hope u family r all well n healthy .like you im a widow of 5 yrs gets no easier i can assure on that 1 .but im single n just carryin on wi life .i no my husband is in bttr place sepsis n pneumonia .plus he ad addissons disease n bad epilepsy but all organs shut down n we ad to switch life support off i was laid on bed with him until last breath xx.love you all good man n loyal lovin father to ur children xx

[@ledacharbonnet6516]

See if they offer sewing classes in your town.

[@KelleyCenturyRanch]

Tom I don't comment much, but I've watched your family for many years. Thank you for the reminder of how special moms make the holidays. As a mom I often worry if I'm doing enough. I'm sure even Andrea had those thoughts. I had a cancer scare earlier this year and Praise the Lord I'm okay, but your story gives me comfort that if something happened to me my family would look back fondly on the holiday memories that I've worked to create. I love watching your family. Thank you for continuing to share and for being real about the struggles. You are so right that there are major differences between mom and dads. Single parents have such a hard job and they do amazing at it, but it isn't ideal. I know this is so hard on you and I want you to know that from the absolute bottom of my heart if something happened to me I would be so proud of my husband if he were doing all the things you are. I know he would feel very similar to you. Love and prayers for you. I wish we lived closer to be friends. Hang in there Tom. You're doing a great job.

[@KelleyCenturyRanch]

Oh and I wrote that right before you went off on the "doing a good job Tom" part and it made me laugh. I truly mean it and you are just going to need to accept that! ;)

[@Allison-h9o]

I thought you don’t put up the tree 🌲 on Asher birthday

[@rachelday9585]

That used to be the case, but Asher doesn't care if the tree is up before his birthday now.

[@Melanie.8888]

When my mom was in a coma I noticed her ring on her still she was getting ready for bed my dad took off and handed too me say know it's yours feel too the floor

[@peggysmith7692]

I can hear you

[@stanparker3636]

Claudia is a different child. Lynn

[@blessedhomeschoolmommy1453]

I get it is SO hard to take everyone to your mom’s. I’m wondering if your mom’s community would do a meal train for you all while you stay over there more?

[@dianeweaver9215]

How are your children coping with your mom dying. They r losing another special in their life

[@RebeccaLathrop-r2z]

She is not dead yet

[@honeybadger8893]

What’s a Healy? And a Stanley???? Seriously 🤷‍♀️

[@honeybadger8893]

Where do you by “skates”. How are diff from skates. I got my gkids the skates your girls have. One loves them the other….nah. 9 mo apart

[@Melanie.8888]

I see you and here you single no on the mom

[@RobinWilbanks-du7ii]

I was only blessed with one child a son. I had a infertility problem. I hid 32 years of abuse from my son until about four years ago. He was married had four children came by our house and heard me screaming and crying and walked in on his dad beating me. I thought my son was going to beat him to death. Later on the police were called and he was arrested. I knew then I had to get out of that situation. So my ex is alive but I feel like he’s dead. I was with him longer that with my parents. Now I’m alone my saving grace is my sin daughter in law and four grandchildren they give me a reason to live.

[@daniellebudick9485]

I miss Andrea even though we never met. Just seeing her in the videos and her bright, cheery spirit shined thru every year. I never had a spouse so I can’t relate. But I can relate on mom’s passing. My mom will be gone 14 years this December 26th. I had a best friend pass leaving her husband. He re-married a year later. He married a friend of hers. Im sorry your mom is dying. I’m praying for you all.