Live Late Night Chat!? Tom Spills Girlfriend Drama

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Asher - Dec. 15 - ISFJ - Purple

[@elaineshropshire1325]

She was deceiving you for three years? She was NOT perfect for you. Or your children.

[@SISSYKAY]

She was perfect alright. A perfect baby daddy cheater and liar.

[@mindybahr2490]

My sons dad passed when he was 7. I decided to not date anyone and just focus on my son. Because he just lost the other half of his world. He's gonna be 20 in a couple months and we have a very special bond. I dont regret my decision to just focus on him for a second. Maybe just be happy with your children for now and when it's meant to be it will be. God has perfect timing. May God provide you with peace, strength and comfort while you heal Tom❤

[@catherinep1800]

I agree with you so much. I’d never date if I lost my husband. My children would need me to be 100% present, and not sharing my time with a guy. Very few people think this way, as people just put themselves first, and don’t consider their children.

[@kezza138]

Tom, we already knew things were not going like you wanted with your girlfriend and saw you in pain and frustration in some videos. This is not a shock and there is nothing to be embarrassed about. I love how you did the right thing for yourself and family. Shows strength.

[@janetbrown5679]

Tom I hate to tell you but they're together,she was living a double life

[@libbysosa7420]

She may not even be with her kids Dad, He may have just been there for his kids. I'm sorry it ended up the way it did

[@blessedmama2727]

She is not a good woman. She was stringing you along. If she's living with her baby daddy, then she's also intimate with him. Guaranteed he mistreats her and she was using you as an emotional outlet. How wicked of her to use you like that. She was never going to marry you, even if you moved to be with her. Now we know why she didn't like the idea of your KZbin channel. She was scared someone might identify her and tip you off to the fact that she was already in a relationship.

[@SISSYKAY]

I think if baby daddy was mistreating her, she would have told him the story at the beginning of getting involved with him. I wonder how many babies she had with baby daddy or may be is really her husband. Once someone tells such a whopper of a lie, by omission or whatever, then probably there are more lies he hasn't even found out about.

[@unpoedichannah]

Based on everything you've disclosed - non-committal, deceptive, secretly living with a man with whom she has been intimate - this woman was not in fact "perfect for you" as a Christian man. You dodged a bullet, though you've certainly been grazed. I'm sorry someone wounded you like this. :/ You had better in Andrea and you deserve better now. Please don't settle for less, even if it means being alone - advice from one who settled.

[@carolemclemore6140]

And stop saying SHE was perfect for you, SHE didn't show you the true HER. This is not your fault!

[@cherylemaybury9967]

No, she wasn’t perfect for you. She lied to you and was stringing you along for all those years and months you were together. The perfect woman for you will be totally honest with you from the start and won’t string you along. You are very fortunate to be out of that relationship. It wasn’t realistic, she wasn’t free and available.

[@happycazimero1349]

You’re fooling yourself to think they’re not still involved

[@debbiewenckowski4670]

When you stop searching so hard, you will meet her organically! I don't believe baby daddy knew anything about you. There is a reason that she did not let you meet her kids,,,,,,, because they would of told daddy. If it was true, that they were not sleeping together, and if she truly loved you.. she would of eased your mind and had you come down to meet her ex to hear it from him. My woman gut tells me that she was living two lives, one with you and the other with her hubby and kids.

[@ggandbb1702]

that was my very thought too. a double life seems the most likely. she was still in some sort of relationship with the baby daddy. im so sorry Tom x heart-broken 💔 for you. you couldn't have known until you did and I think you handled it with dignity then x "The Lord is near to the brokenhearted and saves the crushed in spirit."

[@brendaz3644]

Exactly 💯

[@SuwanneeStation]

@@debbiewenckowski4670 I believe Tom likes to see the good in others, especially her. It’s hard to admit deception and deceit. Tom still tries to protect her and believe her that she was not having a relationship with her “baby” daddy. I agree with you on her living two lives or she would have been honest with Tom about baby daddy from the beginning. She hid him and the knowledge for 3 years. Tom would not know now if he had not been flying out there to surprise her and propose.

[@dianeferguson1074]

Take care of yourself. Eat healthy, loss some weight. You have nine kids to raise!

[@debraroberts6253]

Exactly

[@darlenemackamul7008]

She was not perfect for you. She lied about a life she was living at home. Once a liar always a liar. Concentrate right now on you and the kids. Heal.

[@ernestinescales9808]

👍

[@territn8871]

You're not running out of time, Tom. I think you had blinders on and should have realized that lady was NOT perfect for you. She was lying to you and never had any intention of leaving her husband. She was playing you and you fell for it. You have to be careful, Tom. You need to remember to "Be still and know that I am God." Please don't let yourself fall into a trap like this again. Enjoy your family, and let the Lord handle this. The right person will be sent to you when the Lord is ready. Stop being impatient, that isn't trusting God with the situation. God wants us to completely trust Him to answer our prayer.

[@annamaria8755]

Maybe you're not meant to be with anyone right now. Maybe you are just supposed to raise your children and be thankful you had a wonderful wife and a one true love. Who knows, the right person might come along one day when you least expect it. Tom, you need someone who needs you just as much.

[@ernestinescales9808]

I totally agree 👍

[@patriciamontagne1470]

It sounds like she was still married, she led you on. 🎉 Shame on her. Just focus on your children.😊

[@creativekeys1]

I have watched your channel for many years but never commented. It seems from the very beginning you have been trying to fill the Andrea size hole in your heart with another. Truly, the only thing that will fill and should fill that emptiness right now is the Lord. Feast on Him. Let Him be your all in all. Let Him heal your brokenness. Give up the relentless control and continual search for another. Truly, truly grieve, heal and ask the Lord to mold you and grow you into who He would like you to be right now without a partner so if in the future someone should come along, you are truly ready in every way to become a husband again.

[@superchatcat658]

Perfectly stated.

[@sharkeooe]

Amen I totally agree when some one keeps trying to control things like this happen. If your a believer GOD is in control and his time is not are time it will happen when he says it will happen. Those kids need you 😊

[@theresa904]

If you can survive a death of a spouse. A breakup is nothing to get over. Don’t waste more than one year without seriously discussing marriage with an agreed upon time line.

[@goldierox516]

Once upon a time I was in a dark place, I took up cycling and many many prayers, Bible reading, and cycling became my best friend. I hope you get back out on your bike. Trust me it’ll help your mental immensely.🙏❤️

[@angelmission]

And, no, she wasn't perfect for you. She created herself to be perfect for you, but it was a lie. You have no reason to feel shame. She should be the one who feels shame.

[@abby-lg2ow]

That is how you heal is feeling the pain & working through it with God’s help!

[@debgordon6542]

One of the first things you say in this live is, "I would never lie". I believe that, so why would you accept someone lying to you? I knew something was off when she stopped showing up in the chats. It was easy to tell it was her by your facial expression when she signed on. I'm in the IT world and would never date anyone that I hadn't fully researched or done a background check on. If so, you would have found out that she shared an address with another man 3yrs ago. Having said that, I know it's hard but why not become active in the church where the kids go to VBS or YG. You don't have to join the church or stop your Bible Studies. If they are a good fit for your kids, more than likely they will be a source of social interaction for you as well. Most of all, be kind to yourself. Godspeed and thank you for your transparency.

[@vickyCA1643]

Parts of her were perfect for you. That’s the part that hurts. But, in reality, anyone who would deceive you, let alone for over three years, is NOT the right person for you!

[@therichlife8657]

This is just so sad. I had to watch it for a second time. Spend time with your children. They grow up so fast. If God brings you a wife or someone special. Then cherish her like you did Andrea. Spend more time with Eden. She looks so sad in the videos. It breaks my heart that all the kids having to grow up without a Mother.

[@maryhogue-dv1og]

You seemed more present with your kids lately. That’s a good thing. You built a life and you are living it. A divided life is never peaceful. There’s always hope for a better tomorrow. You are loved and needed. You are blessed. God will guide you…❤

[@chrisbeaman8520]

Tom.. I am sorry about your breakup. But perhaps God has someone bettet for you. Just continue to focus on your amazing children. I will pray for a true godly woman for you. God bless

[@terrihartlep8094]

She does not sound perfect for you at all. Not the same values & lifestyle. I imagine there is a lot you didn't know.

[@terrihartlep8094]

There is nothing for you to feel embarrassed about.

[@terrihartlep8094]

I'm not impressed with Singles Groups even those at churches at all.

[@shannonowens4240]

So sorry you’re going through this. Why can’t you just be, Tom an amazing, thriving dad of nine great kids? Stop searching and enjoy your self and life. That ONE will come along when you least expect it. Who knows you may be meant to go through this to get to what’s on the other side.

[@blookieblay]

Tom, as long as I have watched you after Andrea passed, I have seen Andrea’s presence with you. Stop looking for “love” when it is before you all the time. You are a wonderful father and your soulmate is there supporting you. I also lost my soulmate but found that he has not left me. I am filled with love everyday. Fill your life with the family you already have and embrace Andrea, she is the love of your life / soulmate! Take time and turn to what you have and embrace the family you have nurtured. Again, Andrea is there with you…loving you and the kids! Peace to you!!

[@joyd4238]

Very well spoken ❤

[@Gwaycee]

He cannot possibly be expected to live alone for the rest of his long life, but God will lead him to the right wife.

[@Johnathonsmum]

Will probably get hate for this….but let’s be real. We know Tom loves his home, it is his castle. But how many people watching this, would want to uproot their lives and move to his tiny home that needs a LOT of work done to it.

[@rachelday9585]

He wasn't asking her to move into that home. Just to the area, he isn't against moving out of that house but he has a business in the area so he can't just move to another state.

[@superchatcat658]

He said he was willing to buy a new house.

[@katheenhammond7569]

Love is blind

[@crazydoxylady7169]

@@katheenhammond7569 Amen sista! We've all been there....

[@annt2685]

“The problem” was she wasn’t honest!! A good Christian woman is honest.Please don’t beat yourself up, she painted a picture that wasn’t “ genuine”. It could’ve happened to anyone.Don’t be embarrassed, PLEASE don’t beat yourself up ,but also don’t make excuses for her.This is all on HER!! God Bless you & your family.

[@katheenhammond7569]

I regret not being content with my children, I thought I had to have a husband but my biggest regret is that I didn’t make them my life, you have time yet, for now give those beautiful kids all you’ve got, I hope the best for you❤

[@stephanieinglett8569]

I am sorry that you are having to go through this. Even though you are hurting, It sounds like she was not the right person for you. God will send you the right person in His time.

[@tracyduty8141]

Yes, I agree. God has someone for Tom but it will be in God's time.🙏💯😊

[@stefaniebenson2949]

When you have kids you have to look out for them just as much as yourself. That was a huge lie, and you should have ran the moment you found out. If they lie about something that big, I can’t imagine the other lies she kept from you. You made the best decision for your family by breaking up with her. Your kids do not need a step Mom like that!

[@heidiknights9714]

You are not dumb, Tom! Everybody wants somebody to love and you deserve a good woman, Tom. She is out there, just give it some time. You will find somebody when you least expect it..best wishes, Tom.

[@debj4life478]

I’m so glad you found out about her before you married. If she was keeping secrets, it would have never worked out. Listen to your heart, if you feel a red flag, there is a reason. No you are NOT dumb. If someone won’t let you meet their kids after that long then yes she is hiding something. Hang in there, God has the perfect person for you and your children. Blessings

[@kathleenwayda2141]

You did the right thingTom. Lying in a relationship is so unfair. You can never trust a liar.

[@moonviolet27]

Please stop trying so hard to find someone. You have just come off from a deceptive situation.. Now is not the time to jump into another relationship. You need some peace in your life🙏🏼🩷

[@patg5743]

Time heals all .Im an older lady and you will find your soulmate Tom.You said you were looking for an attractive lady but a normal looking lady Christian and mother type is also ok.Beauty to me is whats on the inside of a person.Take care and you're doing great raising your family.❤

[@Mrsmadison45]

Oh my she was stringing you along, let this be a live and learning experience and move forward. People who lie, are not the ones you want to be with

[@cherylknight8239]

Dear Tom l'm so sorry for you, don't let it get you down, everyone needs love and companionship!!! Keep your eyes and heart open. You're doing a great job raising your kids!!!

[@mustlovedogs5569]

New girlfreind interviews need to be conducted on a Facebook live so the 500 women can give advice hahah

[@patriciamontagne1470]

Move on, focus on your children. Apparently she led you on... Too many red flags. She led you on. She was still attached to someone. Strange situation indeed, but that 🤔 situation left too many unanswered questions. It is best to leave. You have beautiful children to raise, and be there when they grow up.❤ Live live life to the fullest. 😊

[@kellistormont]

I'm just throwing some change out here. I have been here with your family for years!!! I have worked full-time as a pediatric psych nurse for over 17 years. Please consider not bringing anyone around your kiddos until Hannah is out of the house. I know it's hard and lonely, but it will save your kids some potential trauma.

[@superchatcat658]

That's a bit extreme.

[@endeavouringit]

I don't mean any disrespect, but I don't agree.

[@chelly2517]

Wow. Don't tell him what he should and shouldn't do. He's a grown man.

[@dianeferguson1074]

Super advice! Stop be selfish and take care of your kids

[@rachelday9585]

He's been through the same thing his kids are going through. I don't agree with not having anyone around until Hannah is grown and it's not like she was at his house anyways.

[@lstutz1]

You will meet your special lady when the time is right. Pray and have faith.God Bless your Beautiful family!!!!🙏❤️

[@kimmberlie573]

So sorry your heart is broken. You’re a kind, caring man and father. Prayers for you and your family.

[@chickennoodlegirl4444]

Dating long distance for over three years was a really long time for her to have not met your family and you have not met hers. I think that was a red flag right there.

[@cindydevine173]

I'm so sorry that things didn't work out for you Tom. You will get through this. Hugs from Indiana.❤

[@ddoz11]

Sorry Tom you deserve the best praying Gods peace and will for you and the kids. Prayers and blessings from Melbourne Australia 🙏🙏😊

[@saekrrow]

You built your home from practically the ground up, i remember watching Andrea's videos on all of your home renovations and your yard work and everything that was done for your children. You made it clear you are staying and she was finicky about leaving. Learning its 100% in or 100% out is so heartbreaking, i have felt it over and over. Its just so hard to leave someone you poured your heart out for! The stress we put ourselves through, and she was in so much stress keeping her secret from you, it seems perfect but the way you are already relieved of that anxiety is so telling. Your mind knows but your heart is blind, i am the same way. Focus on your mind and your faith, you got this Tom

[@purplecheetahprinful]

Do you love her or the idea of her? That can be confusing but I’m curious if you truly knew her as you thought you did so you loved the picture she painted.

[@ruthnissley4226]

Tom it's good you broke up. If she was dishonest in one area she was probably dishonest in other areas. Love blinds a person. I'm sorry, but she said she was just living with him. I doubt that highly, and 3 year and 3 months not having you seeing her kids in that span of time. 🙄🙄🙄 God protected you.

[@jodierdmann2078]

Sorry I think you need to finish grieving and focus on your kids.

[@SouthernlyBlessed]

Please don't beat yourself up. You have been through alot in your life . If you don't take a chance on love, you will never find it. The right woman is out there for you somewhere. Just keep praying about it. You deserve happiness. Praying God comforts you and mends the hurt in your heart soon. May God bless you and your precious family.

[@karengadke324]

Sorry Tom, hugs !! Remember, that there is no time to do with love, you’re never out of time ! Love finds you at any age !

[@pernambuko27]

Why does the lady you meet need to move? Why don't you move? If she has kids. She is in the same situation than you are. If you are not willing to move, you will have a very hard time to find a spouse.

[@superchatcat658]

Tom has an established business. It is his livelihood.

[@romanaabo3664]

Because Tom has always been clear about not moving....

[@cindyhorst7021]

❤ i appreciate your honesty in sharing Tom. I honestly believe her heart wanted a life with you, but if the father wasnt willing for her to have them relocate he could have threatened her with taking custody. I respect her for putting her children first even if it meant losing you. I went through something very similar years ago and stayed in an unhappy marriage for my child. I never got my happy ending but he and i had almost 10 years of a fantasy love that ill cherish forever. Hes passed on now and my child is grown. Its beautiful how you speak of her as perfect for you and that you are head over heels in love with her. Head vs heart is an awful battle.

[@judithwhite1042]

The good of all of this is you are now free to move forward with your life.

[@melodytallmage532]

We could tell you wasn't ok tom and we could tell you was struggling with a lot just been praying for you all to be happy again know u can truly focused on your children and your faith

[@lmkays]

I feel like men always expect the woman to pick up and move. As a mother, I could never uproot my children for a man.

[@rachelday9585]

She said she would move. As a business owner he can't just up and move states.

[@patriciamontagne1470]

Go on some traveling trips with your children, come out east to Michigan and visit some Historial sights. Have fun with your children.😊

[@saftis5304]

I'm so sorry 😔❤ please be patient and enduring, when good things come this will just be a memory.

[@abby-lg2ow]

I am so sorry Tom! I certainly understand the pain. Praying for your heart to be healed quickly! God bless you!

[@SuwanneeStation]

This is my perspective on living a life alone after being married for many years in my case 38 years. It's lonely, very lonely. I found that after having that special person that all of life's choices and decisions by myself was difficult. I was married for 38 years and my husband died suddenly and tragically. I had my sons but they were grown and had their own lives. Anyways after being alone for four years, Tom I met my boyfriend at Pizza Hut. I thought you would find that humorous. Anyways, it took time for me to decide to see him. My sons did not take my decision to start seeing him. We have now been together ten years. In those ten years he has been my backbone through me losing my youngest son. Tom, live your life. The right person will come along. I am so sorry that you have had to experience such heart ache and heart break. Never be sorry for tears. I still cry daily for my three sons. It is not a sign of being weak. Just know there are a lot of people who care.

[@endeavouringit]

Long distance isn't good, it's too hard to come together or for them to move, but hard I guess when you live in a small town. I wish you the best and that your heart heals quickly Tom ❤🙏🏻❤🙏🏻

[@angienicholson5143]

Tom I'm so sorry. Just know that there are others who have dealt with the same kind of pain. Your a great father an person. Stay positive you will find happiness again.

[@marylawson4492]

Maybe you need to be open about moving. I wouldn’t want to move into your house either. No offense but everyone needs a change and new beginnings. Why do you think they have to move to you?

[@JessRuff]

His whole business is where he lives.

[@rachelday9585]

He wasn't talking about her moving into the house. If he moves to a new area very far from where he is then he won't have a business anymore which means no job to provide.

[@superchatcat658]

Tom has a business he cannot leave . It is his livelihood.

[@lauraC1082]

Tom it's easy for all of us to give you advice and I think we all knew she was not serious. With that said going forward we all must respect any decision's you make about yourself or the children. We are on the outside looking in and only get a glimpse of what your life is like. Yes we all loved Andrea and she is missed deeply, but we need to respect that she is gone and none of us should be comparing her with anyone. Take the time, regroup and when the time is right start again. Blessings to you always!

[@debraroberts6253]

If she was married it wasn't going to work anyway.

[@Mrsstick07]

Its sad that your so desperate to find a partner. She would have to be one heck of a woman to care and raise your children. If that woman does exist then when the time is right she will appear.

[@Julie-sz2zv]

I wouldn't say desperate is the right word. I mean, doesn't everyone want a partner? Someone to share their life with? He wants to love and be loved by someone. Most humans want that. So it's not desperation, just human nature.

[@Wendy-yg8yu]

Oh Tom she was taking advantage of you. Long term relationships do work out as my sons have proven. Though the women they met were within a 2 hour drive. There were lots of warnings signs for you but your emotions took over. So sorry this did not work out. I’m sorry but I don’t believe she had any intention of this becoming permanent from the info you’re giving us. I don’t believe baby daddy knew about you. Her not wanting you to meet her children after a year is a big tip-off. Be very careful the next time. Real relationships progress over time not stall especially for 3 years.

[@vernareid4738]

Wow when someone cares about you they don't lie to you sorry this happened to you .

[@leithagrover9116]

I agree.

[@paulaward8372]

I am very sorry you are going through this. Losing your wife, then having this happen, it's very hard to deal with. I've been alone since 2014. My three kids are adults. Tread carefully when looking for someone to date. Seems our world has gotten crazier and crazier. Sending hugs from Indy

[@purplecheetahprinful]

Tom, my heart is breaking. Do not be embarrassed. It is not your fault for being sincere and giving your heart wholeheartedly. If anything that is admirable. You’re a rare gem and God is sending you a partner and when she arrives all of these experiences will make you cherish her that much more. My prayers are with you. Hang in there ❤

[@lisatimm8466]

You and your beautiful family are always in my Thoughts and in my Prayers too 🙏🏼 ❤️ I love all of your guys videos too . Tom just keep being awesome and amazing Father to your kids and Tom keep your head up. ❤

[@lindsayb1329]

❤ praying for you Tom. God will comfort you and bring you through this. Please remember that maybe you may not realize it, myself including many others look up to you in admiration for all that you have been through and all the strength that you have. I am still very young and at my young age have been through a lot. I try to give myself grace and remind myself of that. You're doing an amazing job with those children. I firmly believe hard times like this make us stronger. He has a plan for us all. How blessed you are to have all of those beautiful parts of beautiful Andrea walking around that house everyday. ❤

[@grandmasmurf2915]

I am alone and am very happy! I have grandkids that fill my life with joy! I am used to be alone most of my life unlike u. Take a break it will happen. God will amaze you!!!

[@Gwaycee]

Thank God it all came out in the open. A relationship based on lies is not one to base a marriage on. You say she was not playing you but she was. I pray that you will find a good, virtuous, Christian wife from the Lord. Christianity is lived in word and deed. She gave you all the red flags and I am glad you have got out largely unscathed. God has actually saved you from a lot of trouble further down the road by showing you why you should NOT be with her.

[@starlightdreamer1999]

She wasn't perfect for you . She is a liar. Hard lesson to learn .

[@brendaz3644]

I believe time to yourself is the key to finding the right one... You need time to heal after a failed relationship. Finding someone right away is usually not good. At least a year should pass before looking for someone else... I lost my husband and I know the feeling. Plus rather you want to admit it or not she was with another man . Doesn't matter if it's baby daddy or whoever. Cheating is what she was doing rather you want to believe it or not... Also no one Loves you if they cheat and obviously lie to you. You believe they weren't together? She was playing you. Sorry to be so blunt. But in time hopefully your realize it.

[@lizg5574]

The very first time I saw my husband, I knew he was the one God had for me, that we would be married. He was the age that you are now. I was 22 years younger. He had been widowed and had two grown (both married) daughters. It all happened really fast - we spent just parts of 17 days together before we married - because he lived in New Zealand and was merely visiting family who lived near me in the UK. We have been married for 36 years now, We have weathered many storms - cancer being the tough one, but God brought him through. He is now 84, I'll be 62 next birthday. What I am trying to tell you, Tom, is that God has a perfect plan for you but it has to be in His timing. When it is, everything that is needed will just slip into place. You won't have any struggles or difficulties, because doors will open, even when it seems impossible. I understand how hard this must be for you - and I can hear the pain you feel - give it time, God is still working on you! You're not finished with yet - He IS the ultimate perfectionist - you're merely in training! Take care and keep looking to Him, He won't let you down. And remember the hymn: All your anxieties, all your cares, Bring to the Mercy Seat, leave them there, Never a burden He cannot bear, Never a Friend like Jesus. Sending hugs xx

[@randomweirdo25]

My 56 year old uncle had a long distance relationship for two months. When he told her happy birthday and made it official on facebook, the daughter freaked out. He told her and she said my daughter is just losing it and not to worry. She ghosted him after that. Then he met his wife and they just got married after dating three months. God moves in mysterious ways and the right person will come along.

[@melodytallmage532]

s we both lost our spouces around the same time I truly understand the trama and the wanting to hold on tighter I haven't gotten to that point after 8 years and I still haven't dated I had to find rebuild my self and my life it's not easy tom we will never leave y'all ur family .

[@moonviolet27]

It has been 7 years since I lost my husband and soulmate. I have no interest in the drama even if I am lonely at times.

[@elizabethvallely4044]

Hi Tom, so sorry for what you're going through don't be hard on yourself ! God Has a better plan His ways are not Our ways His Thoughts are not Ours! The person could just be around where you lived!!! God Has a Wonderful way of working things out!!! You're a wonderful father and Person and have been a wonderful husband and will be again Amen!!!! We all care about Tom Keeping you in my Prayers and Thoughts Gods Blessings To You and Family Hugs Liz .

[@terrihartlep8094]

My thoughts exactly how the person may be right in his back yard so to speak or right under his nose? It will all come about in a way he never imagined.

[@mustlovedogs5569]

You need to hang out at the school gates and meet some local mummy’s hahahaha

[@susanclasen9706]

Just watched this & my heart aches for you. I pray for happiness & a lovely lady in your future. ❤

[@sandraboeve862]

I would suggest you switch your priorities as far as woman go. Beauty is skin deep and we all age no one is escaping that.

[@debbiegilbert1961]

Prayers Tom, may God give you comfort and peace❤️

[@joni7781]

Tom, I see your heartache. Many sincere prayers to heal your heart. In time, someone will come into your life to give you the peace you need. God bless you.

[@ms.princesskei1681]

God Bless you Tom! I pray🙏🏼 that you will be healed. Always know, wonderful blessings will come to you & your Babies! 💞🫂💖 It makes me sad seeing you hurt this way. But, I truly understand I've gone through it too. I'm Soo sorry. 😢🫂🫂

[@kathycassell590]

Tom you had such a wonderful life with Andrea that it's only natural that you crave that now Don't beat yourself up you will find someone worthy of you and your beautiful family Please don't ever think you were dating up noperson in this world is better than the next love yourself and God will help you sending love and respect

[@trainingolives3370]

Hang in there, Tom. I’m so sorry that you got hurt. I’m not here to pass judgement. My only hope is that you will stay close to God. And if you haven’t, I hope that you will get right back to that. He will sustain you.

[@lmkays]

It’s MORE embarrassing to marry someone and find out it was a huge mistake and have to divorce. You pulled the plug before the huge mistake.

[@starlightdreamer1999]

You arent that old Tom . You have many good years ahead of you God willing .

[@anniejones1839]

Oh Tom, Im sorry but it wasnt meant to be, you cant be with someone who isnt honest. You have a loving family ❤

[@karenwolf6305]

I'm sorry your heart is broken. No need to feel stupid or live in a "could of/should of" about the past.

[@vickyCA1643]

You were not dumb. Be kind to yourself like I know you would be to another. Yes, come away with lessons learned. You are a good man. You treat your daughters well. You role model what a good man is for your sons. Don’t feel bad for letting your heart hope, that’s a good thing. He still holds your future in his hands.

[@bigkiwifam844]

Praying you can find peace in all of this Tom. I truly think it is the right thing that this has ended. It shouldn't have been so hard and there definitely shouldn't have been lies happening if it was the right thing. Keep putting God first, He will always guide you steps. God bless you and your precious children Tom. 🙏❤️

[@couldyoupleasecallmecordelia]

Like others said, the perfect person might come along when you least expect it. I feel that searching hard will only yield results of all the wrong people.

[@cathyhibbert8940]

Just remember you will meet someone that really cares for you and your children.

[@elleb7523]

Don’t beat yourself up. Take time to be sad and move on. You have overcame much more. You can do it again. You will find someone. I’ve watched your videos for years. You’re a good person.

[@patriciamontagne1470]

Always keep in mind, looks don't count.😊