The Science of Emotions & Relationships

In this episode, I discuss the biology of emotions and moods in the context of relationships. I focus on the science of how early infant-caregiver attachment, combined with adolescence and puberty shapes our adult patterns of attachment. I explain the three universal aspects of emotions, the reality of right-brain versus left-brain personalities, and how the roots of adult attachment are also grounded in specific aspects of puberty. I review what factors determine when puberty starts and ends, and the role of oxytocin and other chemicals in controlling how we perceive and remember others. As always, I refer to various practical tools including new tools for understanding and predicting our emotions before they occur, and neurochemicals that shape human connection.
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Timestamps
00:00:00 Introduction
00:05:10 Announcing New Cost-Free Resources: Captions, NSDR Link
00:07:40 Emotions: Subjective Yet Tractable
00:10:53 To Understand Your Emotions: Look At Infancy & Puberty
00:15:21 Your First Feeling Was Anxiety
00:17:36 What Are “Healthy Emotions”?
00:19:03 Digital Tool For Predicting Your Emotions: Mood Meter App
00:21:08 The Architecture Of A Feeling: (At Least) 3 Key Questions To Ask Yourself
00:24:00 You Are An Infant: Bonds & Predictions
00:27:57 Attachment Style Hinges On How You Handle Disappointment
00:32:40 “Glue Points” Of Emotional Bonds: Gaze, Voice, Affect, Touch, (& Written)
00:36:34 “Emotional Health”: Awareness of the Interoceptive-Exteroceptive Dynamic
00:37:50 An Exercise: Controlling Interoceptive-Exteroceptive Bias
00:42:19 Getting Out Of Your Head: The Attentional Aperture
00:46:59 Puberty: Biology & Emotions On Deliberate Overdrive
00:47:58 Bodyfat & Puberty: The Leptin Connection
00:50:34 Pheromones: Mates, Timing Puberty, Spontaneous Miscarriage
00:54:37 Kisspeptin: Robust Trigger Of Puberty & Performance Enhancing Agent
00:58:26 Neuroplasticity Of Emotions: Becoming Specialists & Testing Emotional Bonds
01:00:25 Testing Driving Brain Circuits For Emotion: Dispersal
01:07:48 Science-Based Recommendations for Adolescents and Teens: The Autonomy Buffet
01:11:05 “Right-Brain Versus Left-Brain People”: Facts Versus Lies
01:14:18 Left Brain = Language, Right Brain = Spatial Awareness
01:16:15 How To Recognize “Right Brain Activity” In Speech: Prosody
01:18:32 Oxytocin: The Molecule of Synchronizing States
01:20:09 Mirror Neurons: Are Not For “Empathy”, Maybe For Predicting Behavior
01:23:00 Promoting Trust & Monogamy
01:27:00 Ways To Increase Oxytocin
01:28:34 Vasopressin: Aphrodisiac, Non-Monogamy and Anti-Bed-Wetting Qualities
01:30:43 Bonding Bodies, Not Just Minds: Vagus Nerve, Depression Relief Via the Body
01:35:18 A Powerful Tool For Enhancing Range & Depth of Emotional Experience
01:30:43 MDMA and Other Psychedelic Compounds: Building A Framework
01:38:54 Roundup, Various Forms of Support
Please note that The Huberman Lab Podcast is distinct from Dr. Huberman's teaching and research roles at Stanford University School of Medicine. The information provided in this show is not medical advice, nor should it be taken or applied as a replacement for medical advice. The Huberman Lab Podcast, its employees, guests and affiliates assume no liability for the application of the information discussed.
Title Card Photo Credit: Mike Blabac www.blabacphoto.com

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[@hubermanlab]

Thank you ever so much for the feedback and support. That is very gratifying to hear. Best wishes, Andrew

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My apologies for the kitchen incident! That said, thank you for your comment and your interest in science!

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[@prayaanshmehta3200]

7:42 intro to emotions perception 8:15 still tractable 9:05 10:53 where to look for groundwork- infancy 14:00 anxiety- first feeling 15:21 17:31 "healthy" emotions 19:03 (tool) mood meter - predict feeling not enough language 20:55 (i) "what is your level of autonomic arousal?" 21:22 (ii) "valence?" 22:00 (iii) "interocepting? exterocepting?" 22:28 24:00 emotions are for bonds and predictions infact starting to exterocept 24:10 starting to predict 24:28 tool 2 27:40 28:00 what kind of baby were you?

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[@ArthurDavidConner]

Emotions fall on three different ranges. (Possibly more) - Good / bad (aka Valence) - Interoceptive to exteroceptive - Alert to calm Emotions serve a purpose, but they are best understood by how they were received when looking at your infancy and adolescence. (Were you taken care of properly as a baby and as a teenager, physically and emotionally?) This also ties back to Attachment Styles Theory. Emotional bonds are made through gaze (eye contact), physical touch, voice, and affect (more on this!!) In social situations, it is far better to be exteroceptive. An interoceptive exercise (a lot like meditation): focus all of your attention inward. Points of gravity, heartbeat, breathing, etc. An exteroceptive exercise is a lot like practicing mindfulness. Focus all of your attention on a small object. (Pencil, water bottle, etc.) Puberty is happening earlier because of higher body fat (and thus leptin levels.) It has been found that injecting leptin into pre-adolescants will start puberty. Whether or not pheromones exist in humans is very controversial, but in Dr Huberman's viewpoint, it may exist. There is a tendency in humans and other species that from the start to the end of puberty, they will start to drift away from caregivers and spend more time with friends. Parents should not fear; this is a natural biological change for teenagers to want to spend less (but not no) time with them. There are differences in right brain and left brain, but the stereotype that right is emotional and left is rational is wrong. There is no evidence for this. Oxytocin promotes bonding, loyalty, etc. Vitamin D and melatonin can increase oxytocin. Vasopressin suppresses urination, increases memory, and creates feelings of love. Vasopressin can relate to whether or not humans participate in monogamy or non-monogomy. The vagus nerve is a nerve that connects the brain to the heart, gut, immune system, etc. There is a myth that stimulating the vagus nerve will calm you. Stimulation of the vagus nerve releases dopamine and increases alertness. It is a stimulant of alertness, the opposite of the myth. This is a lot of content, equivalent to 2 or 3 college lectures.

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Topic request: Executive Dysfunction! Please Dr Huberman, cause so many of us are trying to overcome this. It can be incredibly debilitating and understanding how to overcome the challenges to succeed with a different brain, especially for us adults who found out later in life we have it (whether it’s cause of a TBI, PTSD, ADHD, Austism, Dyslexia etc) cause our brains need more work. 😭🙏🏽

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I have been diagnosed with PTSD this has helped me so much more than therapy and drugs. I took myself off 9 prescription drugs in the fall of 2016 it was the hardest thing I’ve ever been through but the best thing.

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@@elizabethhouser822 that's excellent. With knowledge we can find ways to treat ourselves. Well done you.

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I said that before and I'll say it again, wow, your intellectual capacity and way of externalising them vocally is truly outstanding. I love the organised way you communicate things.

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This is what academia should have been doing all along. God bless Andrew

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Yes , knowledge to the people that is easy to adopt And apply it in every aspect of life .

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Amen!

[@lisaskye296]

I have been using the “mood meter” over 5 years. It’s great to granulate an emotion. The new book “permission to feel” is a good reference too.

[@hubermanlab]

Thank you. I will check out the book! Best, Andrew

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When I used the link provided I receive a message that the app is unavailable. Any suggestions?

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@@hubermanlab hi Andrew can you talk about split personalities and how they suddenly have different mannerisms? And ofcoarse can I switch my personality or self hypnosis for higher performance?

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@@hubermanlab Captions? All your videos have excellent captions except this one Andrew.

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Ptsd from surviving to thriving by Pete Walker is a great resourse for learning to learn about emotional flashbacks

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[@MiriamIllions]

What I’ve learned today: our emotions are always optimizing for our survival which is very empowering because: 1. Gives me a sense of trust that I’m always optimizing for my greatest good- especially when experiencing difficult emotions! 2. Helps me see that certain emotions have simply been running on autopilot because of conditioning, but now knowing their purpose, I can more easily remove judgement and seek to understand WHY these emotions surface and what I really need in those moments rather than being swept away by the emotion. Really puts you in the driver’s seat. Thank you Dr. Huberman! ❤️ I’m a weekly listener, reconstructing my life view week over week with the knowledge you share.

[@barbarafairbanks4578]

@Miriam illions - there IS quite a self-limiting downside to our brain's proclivity for 'survival'. Survival is a minimum state, not max., which is THRIVE. Big difference btw. surviving and thriving. This is why change is so hard. That protective part of our brain that wants merely to keep us alive, constantly resists changing things up, for the better, i.e., 'thriving'.

[@MiriamIllions]

@@barbarafairbanks4578 that’s a really good point! For me, knowing that the brain is optimizing for survival removes self-judgement and that’s why I find it empowering. It’s easier to thrive when you have high self esteem and positive self regard, than when you’re constantly beating yourself up. I am wondering now - is it possible for the brain to learn to optimize for thriving rather than surviving?

[@barbarafairbanks4578]

Miriam illions - for me, the brain's wanting only for our survival causes great angst, because I am trying so hard to effect change (for the better) in my life and I feel like the survival part of my brain is constantly fighting me on this. I know it is this way for our survival...has to do with our physiology's homeostasis system (which is a term that, IMO, can easily be subbed for 'status quo'). Homeostasis keeps our bodily functions in balance and we'd be dead without it, as far as the way our ANS functions. But, for instance, have you ever experienced trying to make big changes in your habits, for instance to improve your lifestyle, and you end up feeling SO uncomfortable with these changes, to the point they just feel so WRONG - like your body & brain are just begging you to slide back into your old habits. And then if you do manage to effectuate these changes - the pendulum you just swung in the direction of effective change, begins to swing back again. And once your vigilance on maintaining these changes relaxes, you can find yourself right back in the same position, only sometimes the pendulum has swung so far back in the other direction, we are worse off than before. Case in point, people losing weight by sheer will power, then relaxing their willpower because they've been 'successful'- and as a result gain all the weight back, plus more. So now, after all that effort, they weigh more than they did before they began their campaign to lose weight. This, I believe, can (at least partly) be blamed on homeostasis and our brain's wilfulness to 'survive' - but whether we survive 'optimally', or merely survive by 'scraping by'... this part of our brain 'doesn't care' - as long as we are 'alive' - that appears to be the objective....and making changes, especially significant ones, can be viewed by the brain as 'risk-taking' behavior. Not that I believe the brain is actually sitting there evaluating everything we do as 'risk', 'non-risk'...I'm sure this distinction is primarily biologically assessed, via neurotransmitters and their receptors in the body that would effectuate this result - 'keep the status quo.' Disturb the status quo, and we could get ourselves killed. I don't know about 'teaching our brains' to thrive, rather than just survive - not that simply, anyway. Real, lasting change has to take place internally, (our belief system), i.e., not with willpower alone, but thru the process of changing our mindset - our beliefs about ourselves. Willpower does need to be exerted to a certain extent, but will power is not the whole picture or the lone tool we need. Internal change, i.e., changing our beliefs about ourselves CAN be done, but it takes alot of hard work, wilfull intent, diligence, and vigilance, to effectuate. I intellectually 'know' this, but thinking & knowing is only philosophy in the absence of acting upon it. Action is behavior. Doing it is an entirely different animal from knowing it. We need both, and it is SO easy to be fooled into thinking we are 'taking action' if we remain stuck in the thinking/philosophical stage.

[@MiriamIllions]

@@barbarafairbanks4578 I think you nailed it when you said that the belief system has to change in order for us to change our behaviors permanently for the better. Yes, I have experienced the pendulum swing, but then I learned about how our beliefs drive our thoughts which drive our feelings, which drive our actions. So I began to focus more on the beliefs, because action that goes against a core belief is not sustainable. The pendulum will swing back, to borrow your description. For example, I began studying psychology last year at the age of 36. It’s something I wanted to do for the past 15 years, but was never able to get myself to do it. Instead of pushing against that, I went inward, did all the soul searching, facing my past, etc - and then I was ready. It took years, but I’m here now, doing it. It wasn’t as simple as changing a belief, it was years of inner work, but my approach to change is to be gentle, loving, and when experiencing strong resistance, going inward to examine why rather than pushing harder. The Wisdom of Anxiety by Sheryl Paul is a great book for more about the going inward practice.

[@DanielKimita]

When one has a passion for what they do, work feels like play. Thank you Huberman for this great and informative content that you share with us. Blessings.

[@dr.mahmoudjarhaman9584]

Mondays is much much better because of you!

[@sonjavass8014]

Thank you Dr. Huberman, you are a pioneer. Your dedication and commitment to integrity shines. The time and energy you gift to us is greatly appreciated. Your intelligence, fluid thoughts, scientific passion, humor and talent in speaking so every listener is spoken to with respect -and acknowledged, all with your charm and humble intentions - and you’re handsome. 😉 every time I listen or watch your podcasts or interviews I learn something new and relatable to my life. 🙏

[@superfun7380]

It’s been an emotional day, but science is making me feel better! Thanks Dr H!

[@sakuratanaka1877]

Thank you so much, Professor! Have an excellent start for the week and please take care of yourself. With the very best regards from Scandinavia, Sakura, your Student for Life!

[@sunsetradiance]

Just want to say thank you. I enjoy your podcast so much and I have told numerous people around me and they love it as well. Thank you for your time and sharing the knowledge.

[@brightonhardy4792]

I am creating into the universe the real experience of thanking you face to face. Thank you Andrew for all you have done to create these episodes it's much more than just making a video and doing research and I am very inspired by you. Thank you.

[@Telltale.]

I’m so addicted to these videos. I watch them over and over. Such a great resource of knowledge

[@anandk5536]

Thank you professor. This podcast has more information than a book.

[@robertobenedit]

It's incredible how you change my life Andrew. Present!

[@-farawla]

1:36:57 “consciousness, there I said the word”. Pure gold! I appreciate your work, generosity, humbleness, and so much more qualities that brings you to do the word you do! Thank you for such beautiful episode even as a PsyD with a background in microbiology, I found this refreshing and helpful in bridging the information and the training I have.

[@dlewis99]

I just took two pages of notes. I have 4 kids, but my 3rd, 14 year old son is very shy. I worry so much about his emotional state. This podcast is extraordinary I’m so grateful for the info🤍

[@PrashantMaurice]

Can you share your notes pls. I wish we can do something like that here

[@gheedbizri]

Can you share your notes pls?

[@christaknappen3355]

You can start a group on FB with Dr. Huberman’s permission, possibly? I would assume one already exists...

[@kylehall4275]

Definitely agree we need a group to share notes on facebook or some platform created to discuss topics related to specific videos

[@derrickrose4232]

@@kylehall4275 if this has been made I would like to join

[@christianpicardo2683]

a red notification and says Dr. Andrew Huberman uploaded new video...even im on the middle of netflix rerun(Breaking Bad/ Better Call Saul/ Narcos) will click the X window and watch a Free Golden Knowledge by this learneth Man . thanks doc

[@BenfromFlux]

It’s great to start the week with this. Thank you!

[@suzanneamos7690]

I love these podcasts so much. Thank you Dr Huberman. There are always so many practical take-aways from each one.

[@vozzsch]

The interactive component of this episode is a welcome addition! Wouldn't mind if there will be more of that in the future!

[@ruthkofmel1747]

This is phenomenal! My new working hypothesis served on a silver platter. The holy Trinity we shall call it - or so.

[@karolina.321]

Andrew, I don't know if you read comments but this podcast is exceptional. Excellent information and very well presented. Thank you!

[@catherineeagleson2005]

Your podcast was recommended to me by a friend. I found this episode absolutely fascinating. It clarified a lot of things I have been researching myself recently. I look forward to hearing further episodes.

[@jacksoneglise1657]

Oh yes, the magnificent revelations you provide us every time we watch you.

[@ruthkofmel1747]

I am so relieved. I might get this sorted after all. Thank you for ever.

[@Nick_Tag]

I got into all this about a year ago now -- i sleep-walked into some 'adventurous' lives that were perhaps emotionally taxing at times, but after all that (in normal brick dwellings once again) I accidentally consumed aspartame cola & a fermented food *almost* simultaneously -- boom, I fell into an inexplicable 2-day mood suppression -- once i backtracked to realise what happened, that led me to awareness of the gut-brain connection and further study. Suddenly, armed with that visceral empathy it felt like any 'upset' person might experience those same lows from random food choices... and that's just one of factors i've come across (so far) that can explain the way we, and others, think feel or act. It's totally re-framed my perception of human interactions and sociology. (Random semi-related aside: at some point, for weeks, raw cabbage was the unwitting culprit but within seconds of consuming butyrate/butter i was cured..!) Good luck with your quest.

[@CaddyOKnoglies]

Andrew, thanks so much for these videos. You're doing something truly important and paradigm-shifting by democratising learning. Will be signing up to donate what I can!

[@elisemailloux876]

I can’t get enough of your information! I started watching your podcast about 2 weeks ago and I always watch 3 episodes in a row while I train on my stationary bike. I always watch at 1.5x the speed to fit in the schedule but today I decided to watch one episode (this one) at regular speed(I was not training). Holy hell are you ever chill! I was not absorbing the content as well, my mind was drifting, at first I thought it was because I was not engaged in a hard physical activity but I put it back at 1.5x the speed and it all came back to normal. I’m questioning my ability to focus now... I’m eager to dive in the hormones segment. Thank you a million times for all the work, knowledge and kindness!

[@pyronation8764]

means it Hair Curse so bald' curse (Screename)

[@rosyloveslearning3013]

Thank you for sharing in such an outstanding manner. If I can’t sit in your lab or class, I will graciously accept this. 🙏🏼

[@samismx]

Please do a pod with Cal Newport! His work on Deep Work and your concepts on peak performance would be an epic discussion.

[@josiprietkovic]

Sir, You have helped me so much with these podcasts. I am grateful and happy to be able to watch and listen to You and the knowledge You provide us. Best regards from Croatia!

[@mc7965]

Ovo nebi trebalo bit besplatno hahahah

[@tauruslake6918]

Great episode! Your subtle humor is perfect, Dr H! Amazing how you include so much info but make it fun to learn about for both academia-nuts like myself and anyone seeking practical advice. Cheers and thanks!

[@beautifulintentions5678]

I just love how smart you are & your calm voice. I just absolutely love learning from you.❤

[@manuel8617]

So that's why I instinctively take out my phone for no reason , when I feel awkward. Makes perfect sense , I noticed mysel and many other people did too and hypothesized it was to anchor ourselves in something we are familiar and comfortable with instead of sitting with our awkwardness. Next time I will make an effort to sit with the awkwardness and embrace it.

[@hollywodetzki4982]

This was such an excellent, rich, valuable episode! So grateful! Would love to hear more nuance about 'affect' vs. 'emotions' - they kind of got lumped together here.

[@dianedevery3711]

What a time to be alive. Fascinating exploration of our inner world. Thank you.

[@naomimansfield6286]

Discovering about being interoceptive vs exteroceptive was perhaps one of the most useful tools I have learned, I have found myself already making a habit of incorporating awareness of these states into my day and trying to find more balance. Request for future episode: you mentioned that you will have a section on trauma, I would really love to hear more about interoception/exteroception in relation to trauma (specifically childhood). I’m also curious how dissociation relates to the two, I can’t quite figure out which it would fall under as it feels like you’re disconnected from both your thoughts and your surroundings. I think this could be enormously helpful for a lot of people and would even be a great topic to have a guest speaker come on for! So so grateful for this podcast- thank you for investing so much time and energy into giving us these science based tools to help navigate a happier and healthier life. Truly nothing more valuable ♥️

[@ceciliakuewa3167]

Thank you for sharing this information! Every parent should understand puberty at this level. I wish I would have known this then.

[@artsvanberg]

It's such amazing podcast to listen to every morning 😍 high concentrated value and very carefully delivered🌟 everyone should listen to this podcast if they are serious about learning things ♥️

[@michaelbond9231]

Love your work and this podcast. I recently did a WellBeing program launch for GHD the engineering firm i work for. Over 825 people watched the live event and now watched the recording. I spoke about using breathing techniques such as the physiological sigh to calm yourself. I used the technique to keep myself calm and stop the frontal lobotomy prior to my time to speak as I've never done anything like it before.. I also used the event to introduce my co-workers to your podcast. The response was amazing. Thank you so much for this podcast, it has made and is making a major difference to people lives. Thank you

[@jlittlejohn85]

I was interrupted during the 8 second silent pause & came back hours later to resume and it was awkward yet hilarious. Thanks for another fantastic & informative video!

[@blin483]

Thank youuu I already know this is gonna be another smashing episode

[@belindaoleary4000]

Appreciate you sharing your knowledge and insight so the masses can reach it at no cost ..What a gift 🎁 😍

[@gonzophilosophy7858]

I am so grateful for this incredible podcast. Absolutely beyond comparison. The best info I've ever gotten on so called self improvement.

[@larareynolds2765]

I don’t think Dr Huberman intends to be hugely amusing considering the subject matter but he is. Great stuff.

[@DreamsofStardust75]

I super excited for this episode!! These are my favorite topics.

[@UnrealSpecterz]

❤ HubermanLab 👪 Been here from before day one and i can't wait for the next one. It feels like my own private little neuroscience school haha

[@kidestm]

Thank you so much for this episode! I took so many notes --- the breakdown on interoception and exteroception is so invaluable!!!

[@mistydawn3825]

Thank you for making these. My understanding of attachment has changed and I feel like I can understand myself a little better.

[@healcptsd6467]

Wow! I've been busy with real life today and missed the notification but I am sure looking forward to listen to this while I am taking my daily sauna 😊 so much that I'll, even though it's yet a bit early... go right out and light it up 🔥 😊🙏

[@davidyeoman6013]

Can’t wait for my break to get this week’s dose.

[@theworldsonfire.4091]

Expanding the number of languages this podcast is in! Perfect.

[@ambreenzaman1812]

I just had a major breakthrough + epiphany. When you mentioned the Interoceptive- Exteroceptive dynamic, I immediately thought of Cognitive Behavior Therapy and how we use a similar tool to prevent patients from feeling overwhelmed or to reduce distress if they are experiencing uncomfortable emotions.

[@TheReminderChannnel]

Was waiting for the next episode - listening now! 🙈💪

[@martaizydorczyk45]

Love your scientific podcasts ♥️ listening from Poland. I wonder if it's possibile that you will tackle in the near future the neuroscience of Autism, not only the mechanism but also the recent neurological researches on what can influence some (even small) changes, especially for kids. Best regards 😊

[@sirik.1147]

Doc. I'm so grateful for this. My husband is not fluent in English and I would love to share these contents with him. Every time I have to translate. So thanks so much. I really understand the value of these informations.

[@shameemahmed7079]

the selfless guy in the field of science.he teaches everything simple and clear.