7 Things Elegant Ladies NEVER Share

[@AnnaBeyOfficial]

Thank you for watching! ❤️Which classy words or phrases do you enjoy using? To learn more about things that show you have class, watch my next video 10 Things Elegant Ladies NEVER Say: kzbin.info/www/bejne/pZSmaGyEl9BlkNk

[@sandhautami1309]

You are right not to share... @Anna Bey i'm the one that was like sharing everything. Perhaps, im extrovert. im not toxic, people in my past manipulate, make me become toxic in people eyes, playing victims. But actually no. Im the one got blame. they know how to setting me down, hit me from my comfort zone, which things that im best from it. Better not to tell our plans true. Some who doesnt like to share elegant and rich people, i wish to share and they would too, i thought simply but they are not. Im sad ppl around manipulate me, when this happens i asked powerful, elegant, rich person dont help me in that time. No one help, i got isolation and make me burn out, procastinating, ruminance, etc.

[@AlyssaTheePatriot]

Love your work Anna, really uplifting and positive as well! Keep the elegance coming...

[@Richardsonprincess00]

Mean women are out, leave the mess elsewhere not in public

[@DM-xj6se]

Dearest Anna, it doesn't matter how you wear your hair because you always know what suits you best. So either way, ponytail in back or front, it's lovely. Another wonderful video, thank you for sharing. 🌷

[@bethbeebout2738]

We should use our words to edify others, not tear others down. Unkind things are better left unsaid. When you get out of the habit of saying negative things, it’s hard to go back because it feels so wrong. “You are so kind to…”. “How thoughtful of you to…”. “Anna, that color is lovely on you!’’ Etc…

[@claudiaTolle]

Very true... My grandma used to say: you don't talk about money, you simply have it. 🌸

[@radlyn7234]

I love this ! So true

[@Adhara740]

I like that

[@AiBernadas]

Love it. ❤️

[@krisztinakessel6869]

My grandma says the same:)

[@sabry1085]

Also mine said it 😁

[@helenlucka]

It’s with getting older that I realized that there is no point over sharing with people… not everybody who smiles at you is your friend. Plus at this point I only have one friend left and even at that, I have my reserves

[@mscrystald]

💯!

[@diontankeita6650]

"Not Everybody who smiles at you is your friend". I especially loved that bit, so (painfully) true...

[@maryamxxx7294]

I totally agree with you and all things Anna mentioned in this video. Although I don’t have bigger circles of friends, but had few closer ones. But they showed me their true faces and love when I am facing some challenges in my life. I still couldn’t believe their behaviour, no matter what, how dare you can leave a friend when they are having difficulties?!so you never know what’s inside people. Therefore, simply don’t share things. Don’t expect anything from anyone, Keep your private life private, and just do your best each day! Best wishes to you all my hardworking, strong ladies!

[@helenlucka]

@@maryamxxx7294 I’m totally with you on that 💯

[@galuhproborini1119]

Yess.. I already realized it when i was still in junior high school lol.. 😂

[@nadiayc85]

"elegance is being mindful of other people." wonderful interpretation!

[@Fastest_turtle]

@JAY LOVE KOOKIE that you take into consideration their feelings. you don't go and deliberately say something that would upset someone

[@Fastest_turtle]

@JAY LOVE KOOKIE glad I could help! 🤗

[@dawnwiltshire7632]

@JAY LOVE KOOKIE and do also things to upset peoples feelings, I have a brother like that, so I distance now

[@lorrainebazydola816]

I was getting lunch today with my bf in a very wealthy town. I couldn't find my mask in my bag. The young female cashier asked me to take one in a box, but I declined. Then I found my mask and put it on, but she gave me the evil eye. My bf started with her asking "Why are you staring at her like that?" I quickly said "She's looking at me eye makeup." And he said nothing more. While eating he said he was "going to give it to her, but stopped after I said what I did." I believe I was much more refined than my bf. Not sure if we have a future together. Red flags..

[@carolnahigian9518]

Elegance: knowing it is not all about ME; knowing when to be low-Key!!

[@estherbolekia]

This is why it’s better to hire a therapist than to go around looking for someone to listen to you. I mean, I’d rather over share with a therapist (I know I’m safe) than with a friend -only God knows what they will do with what I tell them.

[@havanax8096]

I disagree , therapists are for the mentally ill , but I do agree that anyone should never discuss and talk too much.(To all the replies , I am sorry in my country therapists are usually confused with psychiatriists , I apologise I couldn't remember much facts while typing this reply , I regret typing this , I am really sorry ).

[@anagutierrez4473]

@@havanax8096 a therapist is there to help in anyway. Don’t put limits on them.

[@havanax8096]

@@anagutierrez4473 well I don't hate therapists cause they are good for people who want to recover but as general everybody deserves a nice person with whom they can share their thoughts to , I don't hate any of the opinions but being strictly restricted with people who wanna know you a bit is bad , it shows arrogance and ego

[@freshstrt3140]

@@havanax8096 therapists aren't only for the mentally ill. They are also for people who are looking to develop their mental health, and chart their inner mapping. There's a difference.

[@Mmmmkaaay]

@@havanax8096 Therapy is also for people who don't want to become mentally ill. 💁

[@rossinaianakieva5804]

Ponytail talk: More elegant and put together when it’s in the back, more seductive and playful when you put it on the side. And that was a great video, Anna! Congrats! ❤️

[@Anna-Anna53]

I agree with you. ☺

[@lisanderjames7872]

This is passive aggressive

[@auroralmoonelf]

Add a bow hair tie and it looks very playful regardless of being in the front or back 😊

[@Midnight-rj4ed]

Truth, you look fabulous in the front. If it's behind you, put it in an elegant bun.

[@Samegirl_differentmindset]

I had to get off social media because i felt constant pressure to post pictures and stories of what i was doing. Almost trying to compete with other peoples posts and life. But Ever since I’ve been off everything in my life has been going much better because there’s no outside involvement or pressure to compete. It Basically helped bring me back to focus on the present moment

[@kristinam.p.5058]

It’s very toxic!

[@bethbeebout2738]

Same here sis…

[@marxh.7675]

Oof I feel you but I stopped oversharing and I basically treated my life as a privilege. Like, it's a privilege to know me and know what's up with me. Being secretive has become my safe haven.

[@anoukc6928]

I decided to post less on social media, but to post better quality content. For example, if I go on a trip/gateway, I will post a one or two of the best pictures (or videos) of the place with information that is useful for my friends/family/acquaintances. Like why I like this place or activity, a funny story that happened, etc. I stopped posting food pictures unless there is an interesting context (I made the meal myself, or I am with the chef 👨‍🍳 that cooked the meal, etc.)

[@yuri6642]

Yes, this is so true! Preach

[@VaswatiDeb]

I move in silence ❤️ I don’t share my financial situation with anyone, it’s not useful, not everything about me should be available to all.. In short, Gossiping is pointless. I hate drama, try to avoid at all cost, it drains energy. Unwanted opinions are unnecessary. I Give/donate secretly, don’t even tell about that to family members because that’s pointless. Liked the vid Anna ❤️

[@havanax8096]

Then what do you discuss whenever you're at an event ? I usually go with sports and yeah politics with my friends as I gain energy from talking a bit

[@christelvalo5343]

hmm you just told the internet that you give/donate 😅❤️👍

[@marxh.7675]

@@havanax8096 any other stuff. Ppl who are interesting and knowledgeable have other things to talk about 😉

[@carlabridgesmason3529]

All of the above, for me too

[@AT75L1NG1]

The problem is: some people feel that their unwanted opinions really should be shared. Whether you ask for them or not:) They have no concept of the idea that: if I want your opinion I’ll ask for it. If I don’t ask. I’m not interested in what you think of me and what I’m doing. My reply is usually: Thanks for sharing. I’ll file that away for future reference if and when I have the time.

[@nccountry1412]

I have learned a lot from people who shared about their plans, money, and personal life with me. It put me on the right track and gave me a different perspective on a lot of things. Otherwise, when things go wrong in your life, it feels like you are the only one who is failing, and everybody else has it perfect. But I agree that sharing information should be done selectively.

[@ellb8795]

EXACTLY! In addition, most of these points have NOTHING to do with "elegance".

[@xcytd4diys894]

Those people that shared with you , most likely have already manifested their plans. Then and mostly only then is when it is ok to speak on it.

[@Masovung]

@Xcytd4DIYs Agree. And sometimes, when you share about something you plan to do, it gives you a rush and a feeling as if you had done it. The likelihood of you actually follow through your plan becomes lower.

[@shadiap]

Exactly !!! I agree with you !!! Also when I share these things selectively, it also works like a stress buster for me and sometimes so much new and better ideas come out of it !!!

[@s.a.4358]

It really depends who the information is shared with and for what reason. I definitely agree that we can learn a lot from others and get good advice, but there is sharing just to talk or brag, and sharing to get advice, specific insight, etc. A basic example: asking someone how much a (designer) handbag costs just out of nosiness or asking because you are interested to purchase you first designer bag and want to understand the price of different brands to make the best decision for an expensive purchase.

[@gr8lady147]

So true Ana, I learned while training to become a Paralegal, the advice I've always lived by is: Once you share a confidence, it's no longer a secret and you've lost your competitive edge.

[@koki8710]

I’m a regular visitor on this channel. on top of that nothing Can’t stop me from commenting on this channel.

[@candice44441]

I love how your channel has evolved from elegance to elegance+ personal growth.

[@malibu64]

I’ve been an oversharer for years now and I’m really trying to change it lately… thank you for the support!

[@nicolet2165]

Dear Anna unfortunately my silence about intimate matters was my own undoing. When I finally left him after 16 years nobody believed me because I had confided in nobody. I was embarrassed by situation wanted to protect his reputation and didn't think subject matter was appropriate to be shared but the silence hurt me at the end.

[@chilibandit6660]

I do relate to this so much! I wanted to be loyal to my mariage and keep the troubles private. Then I could not stand being treated badly and it all exploeded... People around were shocked wnen I started telling them what is going on, some turned their back on me, my in-laws chose to live in denial, at first accusing me it is all my fault since I did not seek help earlier. So it is not so clear what to do, I wish I spoke about the troubles from the wery beginning... Really I wish I never met my husband

[@SolutionsWithin]

@@chilibandit6660 yeah. I agree. But I guess in the video she’s talking about when you’re just dating someone and haven’t decided if it will be serious yet. No need sharing the whole enchilada. Then you share again when on yo the next suited too? I don’t know. She seems to have to make up subject matter. Not to be taken too seriously. Don’t share too much with people whom you’re not sure have your very best interest at heart.

[@chilibandit6660]

@@SolutionsWithin Yes, definitely it all depends on the circumstances.

[@samnieto6463]

Big internet hug Nicole. I would wager that Anna would not promote concealing abuse in any way. Proud of you for getting out. Keep talking about it and be that light for other women. 🙏🏻

[@nicolet2165]

@@samnieto6463 Hello Sam thank you for your kindness 😊💗. I know Anna meant more on a casual basis and she is very Pro Woman and wants to see women be happy and their best selves that's why I am here. 😊

[@thecreativestylist]

"You never talk about your income, your personal life and your next move" quote. Nice video my teacher!

[@Mehreen890]

Absolutely right! NEVER over-share your confidential and personal details with anyone. I learned it the hard way 😅 I used to over-share everything with a woman I called my 'best friend'. She ended up gossiping about me and spreading malicious rumors that sabotaged my engagement. Thankfully, I handled everything. So, ladies be very careful and don't over-share anything. Keep your relationship issues and goals private. However, if you have to share a problem and need help, don't just share with anyone & everyone for the sake of relieving your stress. Develop a problem solving approach, only share with someone who is in a position to practically solve your problem. 😊

[@carrieduvall4579]

It sounded like she was jealous of you. I have learned never underestimate someone that is jealous of you, they can single handily ruin your life just because they can’t have what you do. I would rather someone hate me that be jealous of me any day.

[@carrieduvall4579]

I had an ex best friend that was mad because CPS took her kids….take a wild guess what she did to me? Yep! Not once but twice because I tried to be a good Christian and forgive and forget. I saw her in the grocery store I was so mad I was shaking. I cussed her out for everything she was worth. The messed up part is that it was because she lived in a condemned place that wasn’t safe. She knew I had nothing to do with it.

[@historiqueafricaine]

Oh wow that's wild😮 I am so sorry you went through that I am glad you learnt from this and moved on

[@Mehreen890]

@@historiqueafricaine We have those who will love us even if we cut them into pieces, and those who will hate us even if we feed them pure honey. I'm glad I got to know their toxic malicious intentions. Now, I'm wiser and more practical. Everything happens for a reason 🌸

[@mariamaboumia9284]

This hairstyle is stunning .always shining like a diamond

[@Oldnicefunnylady4923]

Absolutely I prefer your hair on the shoulder, you are perfect and stunning in all your outfit my dear Anna.

[@georgia3045]

Wonder what shampoo she uses ? 🤔

[@tsunginaomencube4204]

I like the hair at the front! You look beautiful

[@mindfulpaths101]

I love your videos!!

[@kinneystudios]

Definitely you're ponytail in the front. It's your unique branding;) And, it's beautiful. Frames your face perfectly 🥰

[@pennypenny376]

I wish I learned earlier in life that just because someone (except in certain circumstances, like to your doctor or something) asks you a question it does not mean you have to divulge any information at all. These tips here were BRUTAL To hear, but now I'm free to start over and practice doing way better. Thanks!

[@KawaiiSHIKA]

I'm 15 and watching this, I'm literally into Elegance ❤️ So I want to say thank you for making this videos!

[@sanathoiakham801]

I'm also same with you

[@chiaralistica]

Nice to see ladies learning at a young age because the internet is forever...

[@rosannaanisi4642]

Your absolutely correct. I’ve followed these rules for many years. Mine and my husband’s personal life has only been our own.

[@c.l.9344]

Being private makes a woman alluring, in an oversharing world. Being discreet makes a woman intriguing, especially if you're dating. Men don't like women who put all of their business out there.

[@historiqueafricaine]

That's so true

[@ZionRV]

Anna, you are so very correct! My journey with not sharing, started with the little message in my fortune cookie at a restaurant. It said "The more you share, the less likely your plans will come true". I was a changed woman and never went back.

[@dr.zuzykitsune]

I can honestly say that as I get older, I realize that sharing relationship difficulties with friends is not a good idea because if they love you, they get defensive and assume he's in the wrong and treat it like he's hurting you without factoring in his side of the issue. If they don't love you, they wouldn't mind messing up your relationship. It's not fair to your partner to have a perspective that demonizes him and causes more problems for your relationship.

[@s.a.4358]

I do not necessarily agree because I think that a good friend, a true friend, will also tell you if you are wrong. I have 2 close friends that I know will call me out on my BS and be honest with me, even if I will not like hearing it - and with those friends I will do my best to listen and not get defensive because I trust them and know they love me like a sister and have my best interest at heart. In fact I think they are more likely to tell me when I am wrong, than to accuse my partner of being wrong, out of respect for not knowing him as well as they know me.

[@dr.zuzykitsune]

@@s.a.4358 I agree but I only have like 2 friends that would tell me when I'm wrong. The rest would blame him. Also never trust guys cuz likely they'll screw up your relationship to get in your pants

[@s.a.4358]

@@dr.zuzykitsune agree, I also only have the 2 I mentioned above that I would trust to give advice. In fact I once had a ‘friend’ (who always had drama in her life) comment that I don’t talk much about my relationship and then only positively and superficially. I responded that of course no relationship is perfect, but I don’t see that necessity to air my dirty laundry in public, she got offended. Ha!

[@dr.zuzykitsune]

@@s.a.4358 Lmao drama queens, ain't nobody got time for that. 😜

[@spirituallydivineevibess]

This. If u and ur partner go through something it’s you vs. your partner not you vs. your friend advice. You and ur partner should be the only people fixing and getting through the problem and situations you are going through. Not venting to ur friend that’s not going to fix the problem. Grown people should talk situations it out especially couples!

[@emerald-shinigami]

I follow this quote “work hard in silence and let your success make the noise” and thank you for this amazing video ✨ also I like your ponytail on the front 🥰 but of course both looks perfect 💕

[@thekindmaker6219]

Love the quote! Thanks for sharing! I’ll keep reminding myself. I think keeping silent and never talking too much are qualities that make people alluring and create a mysterious vibe. I remember when I was in high school, I was a super shy and silent person! My classmates said I was the most quiet person in the class. The funny thing is I was one of the most popular girls out there :). A friend of mine said “she was the most silent girl, but very influential”. I believe silence had a lot to do with the popularity I got.

[@minimini550]

I talk about salaries with women within the same profession as myself. We women tend to be *extremely* underpaid compared to our male counterparts with identical qualifications in the corporate world, and therefore we have to be very aware of the level of our salaries. “Am I getting paid enough or should I ask for a raise?” This is easiest done by comparing. We women can help each other tremendously by having each other’s backs in male dominated fields 🌸

[@Pocketrose3]

I believe it’s important to talk about salaries, not because you’re women but because you’re employees working for the same company. If you work harder and have more to offer than your teammate, it’s only reasonable you get paid more than them, regardless if your teammate is male or female.

[@frostflower5555]

In Europe it's a different mentality. People know each other's salaries and is not a taboo subject.

[@wendynamisnik11]

I just came here to write something similar. Gender wage discrimination, and things like obscene CEO bonuses, nepotism, etc. will never stop unless salaries are transparent and people demand fairness. I also think it's imperative women are absolute forthright in their political opinions, especially for things related to their rights, such as bodily autonomy, persecution of women abusers, access to education and equal rights, etc. We are living in dangerous times in that these rights are being rolled back in several places and these are things on which women must absolutely take a stand, encourage their fellow women to stand for, and express publicly that they will not be silenced, shamed, victimized, or go backward. If women are too busy being "elegant" and worrying about making other people "uncomfortable," those in power will continue to take advantage and think women are too "passive" to actually care or take a stand.

[@talia9012]

Agreed. Girl power 🙏🏻

[@inga1721]

@@frostflower5555 In which country...? I'm from Europe and in my country it is impolite to ask?

[@myrahouse2368]

I totally agree not to share until it is achieved.

[@MH-tm5uz]

I usually don't comment but this is really from the bottom of my heart anna whenever you feel unmotivated (I hope not) you dont't know how much your videos and your existence inspires others! and what a positve impact you have on a stranger like me! you really thought me so much my style, my discipline, my dating habits everything changed to the better and I even chose to go to university and I never thought I would actually make all of this but I did and you really inspired me

[@MH-tm5uz]

and I hope you're doing amazing great karma is coming from me forever!

Number 2 has an exception: always talk about salary with your coworkers, specially those who do the same as you. It's the best way to learn if wage gap is happening in your company and then fight it

[@jinde75]

Exactly. I learned that I was one of the few who negotiated a better starter pay. I sometimes think money is overvalued in some senses. I know people that have huge fights about money in the relationship. I never had that. I have always been open about my salary and debts with serious partners. Some people have unreasonable expectations. They want to pay 50/50 for tjings when thr man makes twice as much money. I think it should be 50% of income (or more) for shared expenses. If you live together and even have a kid together I think that is reasonable.

[@JB-lr9pi]

@@mrw301 If you are in the US, the National Labor Relations Act says an employer can not forbid employees, either verbally or through policy, from discussing salary information. Yes, it happens, but it's unlawful.

[@NotLikeWhatYouThink]

There secrecy act for that P&C..another thing salary increment different from others even you and your friend enter company at same time or your workers enter company also been offer salary by HR based on certain criteria..eg experiences,education level etc..when i want to do assesment salaryincrement for staff i privately call them..and review etc based on their result,capability,perfomance.i also warning staff when some one ask you related to it caution..cause it can create distatistiction and jealosy..if they really want to know i told my staff ask me directly😆i didnt like those licking and air cond type who like to fan boss even they not perform doing work.

[@katek2635]

“The key to elegance is being mindful of others.” ✨(Paraphrasing.) A lesson so many are taught as children but forget as adults when it means making a small sacrifice or altering behaviour. However, we can only control our own actions. Thank you for the reminder. 🎀

[@kathryndegrande7179]

Hello Anna, I just watched a few of your videos from two years ago, and while your command of English was very good then, it is amazing how far you have come in that regard! Such an impressive example of polishing one’s presentation and what is possible with hard work. Thank you as always for the lovely content and enjoy your holiday break!

[@thinkthank2631]

Can you share

[@hazydreamer7965]

My dear elegant Anna, this is meant honestly and as a compliment. You can speak about elegance and style. You yourself are the living picture you wish many other women should try to become. I enjoy watching your videos and I do pay attention. Now to your question about your long hair, - back or front? The front is better. Hair, especially longish hair, is something feminine and it is like a crown on a female head. It brings softness to your face, - so pls let it rest on your shoulder. Take care and stay healthy. Hälsning.

[@MsActor2009]

This is so brilliant. I agree. If you share your plans and change your mind or prioritize something else, people are going to keep asking about it or hold you accountable to it.

[@successfulinspiresandempowers]

#Truth

[@Coco-zj6wb]

One of my friend was a drama queen and she literally created problems in my life, I helped her thinking that she’s in a problem and I must help her… but that was really immature of me. Thankyou Anna💘

[@bumblebee803]

This is what you call an empath. You are NOT immature, you are very caring and kind. Your friend was really lucky to have someone like you, but took you for granted. I'd love someone like that in my life (not the drama queen).

[@ashreetis625]

Yes and it literally never stopped, it was like one problem after the other. Its important to keep away from the negative because you will end up manifesting that if you constantly think about the bad stuff!

[@happym3008]

I’m learning to say non, it’s called boundaries

[@nochannelfoundhere]

i never never share a single detail about my marriage with others. i've learnt it from experience. i had this really close friend, and i was just discussing some things about my partners habits not aligning with mine and she just blew it up into a major issue and was almost telling me to walk away! like, wth, just a general talk becomes a fodder for people to give us their "advice" on, when none was asked! i'm very protective of my marriage and my husband, and i've learnt now to never talk anything with anyone about us!!

[@LadyDr.]

Anna, I love your ponytail to the side ❤️, you look splendid! Thank you for another thoughtful and informative video. I am taking notes 📝 and I am filled with gratitude for your meaningful teachings.

[@sandiepetersonsellsraleigh]

I agree about not sharing personal information about my husband and I. A partner is your best friend, why share negative or personal information about your best friend.

[@sannajohanna5579]

Thank you that I found you! When I was young, I adored elegance. But my environment did not support it. No, my mother was elegant and dressed me elegantly, but I got bullied and ridiculed by other children because of it. After the time, I tried to adopt and I lost myself. Now, when I found your videos I feel as if I have found myself again! I found ”my tribe”, as they say. Even I am much older than you, I am so grateful to find your videos and engouraged to get back my style and personality!

[@mmmohamed5934]

Hi, here in Egypt we learn to keep every plans to ourselves and not to tell them to anyone not for elegance but for envy people. Oh by the way hair in front it’s much better. Thanks

[@dod57]

I am not very sure that in egypt we like to keep secrets or plans , we like to share our problems as a consultancy .

[@ASawa-il2wg]

Yes...in Jordan too .. everyone is in secrets circle from generation to generations😆🤣

[@olgathorpe2378]

Also ladies, what I've learned, that if you do share your problems about your partner, there will be the one in the circle of your "friends" who will take advantage and see your pain as an opportunity ... I have seen 2 families fell apart because "friend" took an advantage. It is difficult to know with who we can share and sometimes it feels like dark and lonely place, therapist is the best solution., or even your pet you can talk to 🙂 if you haven't got that one trusted person

[@samnieto6463]

Well, 3 hours of Anna binge later - I’ve joined the course and am ready to change my life. 🥂 Mindset lesson here I come!! ♥️

[@faizahanif9515]

Some people say that Anna cannot teach about affluent life becuase she is not living one. But I think it's not always about experiencing something yourself first. She has definitley lived among affluent people, she observed their ways of thinking and doing things, she knows their mantras and some of their tools. And there is nothing wrong with teaching what she observed. In fact, I feel improvement in my dressing sense and etiquette after watching her videos. So yeah it's worth it.

[@AnnaR.33]

Both, ponytail in the back & on the side just look beautiful/elegant on you!!! 🥰 Thank you for the lovely video!

[@xcytd4diys894]

Yes, Sometimes we get so caught up that we forget what to keep a secret and what speak on. Thanks for the reminder. 🥰

[@marxh.7675]

I don't consider myself as classy or elegant but it's really good to know that I'm already doing these unconsciously and will continue to do so.

[@sarahclemons9191]

Couples discretion among you and your significant other is definitely a must. Thank you

[@letgo84]

Love this!! My acquaintances find me a bit boring because I never gossip!! My best friends and I will be very careful about things that we do share. Happy life!! 😊

[@multiversityx]

Speaking up for one self or others is a virtue

[@sarahclemons9191]

Your ponytail looks both elegant and flattering in a classy way of course up front. Picture perfect.

[@claudiasaavedra1284]

I would be thankful if you make a video about sophisticate language and how to replace informal words into a more refined vocabulary!💕

[@bumblebee803]

I made the big mistake of telling people what I wanted to do next year and now due to Co-vid I won't be able to. I feel so sad about it and that I even said it. I learnt my lesson the hard way.

[@chiaralistica]

The important thing is that you learned from the experience and will do things differently going forward. All the best to you!

[@anjaliekunwar]

I NEEDED THIS SO BAD 😭

[@belie2352]

Thank you for the support for me and others

[@LenaDoraKaszubska]

I agree, discretion is crucial, it's obvious and above all it protects. You keep control over the intentions of others, they don't know your plans, finances, relationships.

[@FrostyDufour]

I always feel uplifted by these videos! Hope you have a lovely and refreshing holiday, Anna💗

[@solidcatink]

Yes, me too.

[@sylviadiro]

Actually I think this is the unique honest video of this channel, most than try to be elegant this video is about appropriate social manners. I really love it 😍

[@AlyssaTheePatriot]

Yassss discretion is elegance..IMHO...really liked tip number one ..I've seen it happen over and over again...a lot of it is COMMON SENSE! In this crazy world, overshare is holding many people back.

[@sidoniewinterpasternak9938]

My mother used to say, never share anything, especially about yourself, that cannot be shouted from the rooftops.

[@parisaarafi5087]

Any time i shared something to some one i was thinking is my friend,they used it against me so i learned dont share any detail to any one. Thanks anna to be there teaching us❤️

[@patriziapadovani428]

You can put your ponytail wherever you like! You are always a wonderful woman. Thank you for your precious suggestions! Kisses and hugs from Rome!

[@kingdomlivingmiami100]

Anybody here ever kept secrets so well that you have just forgotten the majority of them that was ever told to you? You couldnt tell them so they just eventually faded away....

[@chiaralistica]

I've got a lot of secrets in me but I'll never tell! That's why people tell me these things in the first place. Discretion is everything.

[@jeaniejane]

I love your hair to the side, very classic and you can appreciate the effort you put in to style your hair nicely every time.

[@soniakal7751]

THANK YOU SO MUCH... I find it soo hard to share my good deeds in job interviews because I find it so arrogant! Everytime I shared my plans with people I ended up losing my friend and failing to achieve my goals due to all this negativity around me... I also feel so uncomfortable when people get fanatic about controversial topics... You're so right in every word you said...

[@germinahdavid-hi9pc]

I had learnt to stop talking about my relationship after I realised that my friend is going around gossiping at me. thankyou,this video really will help going forward.

[@hadiaharoon4529]

I agree. It's draining to be around people who always bring drama!

[@tammy6452]

Best whatever drama created by you be as an accident and corrected quickly. When I am overwhelmed I can get over emotional but I am ever so grateful I learned not to drag others in, it makes it so much easier to clean up the mess.

[@chaliceguard4575]

Excellent advice! Creating a mystique encourages greater interest and curiosity. My mother used to say that classy people do not discuss money or their finances -- that is so "nouveau riche" and quite gauche. However, this may be quite acceptable if asking for advice, particularly if asking someone who is financially successful (people do enjoy giving advice). I've always been repelled and distrustful of women who are nosey or malicious gossips; likewise those who are braggarts or boastful. Drama queens are also a huge turnoff. On the issue of sharing "good deeds", I do approve of those who want to encourage others to participate in a charitable cause or to help others in need if they are able. Often, this is more appealing if inviting someone to join you in such a cause.

[@arabellaspencer2191]

Nonsense.

[@aly5664]

Only you can look so elegant with 360 mirrors. It's always good to keep in mind that not everyone you speak to doesn't have your best interests at heart. It's best to keep you cards close to your chest.

[@CarlyyE24]

Ponytail in the front, definitely! It adds to the elegance and femininity of the look.

[@elizabethkhetoli7665]

I love the way u respect oneself and other ladies.

[@jessicadesmond-robitaille5972]

Love the ponytail in the front ☺️ Also I hope you don’t take this the wrong way but I wanted to give you a pronunciation tip. Zero judgement! You’ve just mentioned in the past that English is not your first language. When saying “Discretion” the E should be pronounced “eh” the way it sounds in the word Egg. Otherwise it sounds very close to the word Secretion which is never a good thought 😂

[@TheKarebear666]

I was literally thinking that about secretion vs discretion. It made me cringe and distracted me from her message

[@nancy07]

I am gonna miss u this month Ana..I think there is an elegant lady in every woman..and a reminder is needed to stay that way every week.. Anyways...take care

[@lindybright1938]

That essentially wipes out social media, lol! Still, all really good advice. Thanks, Anna.

[@lanarobinson9727]

Ponytail in front looks amazing

[@kyliekale1102]

I'm so grateful to people who at present, still remind us about too much oversharing in our culture. Thumbs up Anna!

[@milicaradakovic8098]

Every teenage girl should watch this video. Thank you for being so normal.

[@kaminiborse2768]

In my opinion this topic is indeed necessary to know and also Anna you're looking beautiful in the cover picture of the video!

[@meganrenee6046]

Great video. As someone with ADHD I’m an oversharer and guilty of most of these. I agree with these though and need to get it under control

[@bettyboop8529]

Hi Anna🎀 Can I just add to no3, you mention previously that manners are about not making other people feel uncomfortable. I often feel awkward when someone speaks badly of their partner or relationship and I think it can actually be bad manners to do so! Not only for the parter but to anyone who can hear xx🙏🏼😘😘

[@Silvercentipede]

I don’t have aspirations to marry a millionaire or anything like that, I just love how you teach me such good etiquette 💖✨ Class is priceless

[@j.rebekah8605]

Anna, can you do a video on funeral etiquette? Do I bring flowers to the gravesite, the reception after, send them to the berieved? I know it's not a fun topic but it's a fact of life Maybe also a video on baby showers or congratulating people on new life. How do we best participate appropriately welcoming and saying goodbye. Thank you.

[@chiaralistica]

The memorial flowers will vary. Some folks (like myself) would rather you donate that money in their honour to their favourite charity. Not everyone even has a memorial service anymore. In my own Italian American family, we put money in the card at a funeral, not sure why, but it's the way it's done.

[@debrajones3272]

Oh how I can listen to Anna all day. So classy

[@thatsandrac]

Anna we need a part two🥺❤️

[@dianewallenborn7137]

Hair over the shoulder to the front looks wonderful!

[@piedbald47]

“One may smile and smile and (all the while) be a villain” - Shakespeare’s “Hamlet”

[@CEOcrafty]

Hi Anna! Your ponytail looks great both ways, however up front shows us the style of the day. I watch your videos while I get ready before work, you give me inspiration everyday!

[@marann7223]

Anna, I appreciate the effort you make to create these videos, watching this one specifically raised a question regarding how to respond elegantly when someone asks a personal /.out of context question, for example; what do you do?, how much do you make?, etc, thank you again for these videos, regards from Texas

[@havanax8096]

How much do you make should nt be asked if you don't know them personally and your not their relative of friend

[@ginalazaro7628]

One can always say in a nice manner *I earn enough to be happy* and ppl are surprised at a smart reply!

[@trekstarsam2494]

I never give a number, I usually just say the pay "isn't bad" even if it is or isn't. Or I say, "I make enough to pay the rent", or " I make enough to get by". Usually people don't keep insisting on a number after I kind of downplay it, thinking it's not a lot. lol

[@ConstructionKing-e5o]

I know I am not Anna, but in hopes of sharing helpful ideas: I agree with the suggestions to just bypass the question/redirect the conversation when possible. If people are persistent with inappropriate questions you can also set a direct boundary with "I'm not comfortable discussing that." Or something softer if preferred, "I like to reserve those sorts of details about my life for sharing after I really get to know someone. It's makes the conversation (or experience) more meaningful for me." Variations if that last one are great for turning down men too.

[@preranapradeep3963]

Most absurd and illogical answer. Like I get enough to buy avocado and that makes me the happiest. Or enough to save 2 pennies by the end of month and I go happy to buy avocado.

[@george46light]

This is the third or fourth video of you that I see (I discovered your channel an hour ago), and what I like as a dude, is how universally applicable the tips are that center more on the behavioral/ethical aspect of elegance. Very clear and to the point also. Thanks!

[@lmariecarroll]

Thank you so much for this! When you say “never share your plans, never share your love life”, etc., could you share how to avoid or what to say when those questions are asked out of just “making conversation”?

[@rhythmicelegance4670]

You can simply say “It’s private.” Or “It’s too personal.” Or “It’s too sacred to go into detail.” Or “It’s between me and that person only.” Or “I don’t discuss those things.” Be polite yet assertive and they will likely back off. If they insist on pressuring you, then they do not respect your boundaries and you can then excuse yourself to walk away from them or change the subject or stay silent if you are stuck in their company for a while.

[@MatronWisdom]

Ask the questioner: "Why do you ask?"...simply answer the question with question, putting it back on them, turning the tables so-to-speak.

[@Arushhiiii]

Please come back soon!!!! Missing you more than anything😔🥺❤❤❤

[@vickilau716]

I've had men (usually dressed poorly) asked about how much money I make. Needless to say, I never saw those people again.

[@chiaralistica]

I had someone inappropriately ask how much I paid for something. My reply... oh, I got it at a good price. I'll never tell people what I pay for things. My life, my business.

[@Plainandsimple25]

Helpful tips thank you. I often get asked how much money I have, it seems to be talked about a lot here in England, I find it a bit noesy but end up trying to answer and then feeling judged for not having enough, from now on I'm going to reply politely that "sorry I don't discuss money issues"

[@yvettedean92]

You look so lovely with either ponytail back and to the side ♥️

[@olgacampbell3918]

Hello Anna , This video has many or all born-again Christian values ,very biblical .Powerful teaching. Thank you for sharing ,and for all your hard work .much appreciated . Big hugs from Palm Springs/Coachella 🌴

[@maureenrose9166]

Hello Anna and Bravo! Another outstanding and uplifting video! You are " spot on" with your tips! Your beauty and aura transcends to your audience with your kind and encouraging guidance.....thank you and well done!!

[@erpollock]

I see that Anna is really all about discretion and privacy. Keeping your life basically private. That makes you interesting. Adds an aura of mystery, and people want to get to know you. I like that she keeps the topic on women with other women, not women and the relationship with men. It's a subject that is not discussed enough. I keep thinking - what have I unwisely shared about my plans? What have I talked about that I shouldn't have? And she is so on target about gossip. You don't want to say anything negative about another person. It's so destructive! And they will then turn and talk about you.

[@irinam6808]

As an extrovert, I find it hard sometimes to watch what I say especially with friends. So glad I watched this. I'll be more mindful!

[@CannedTunas]

I personally like when your hair is behind you because it's less distracting to me, but I love your hair so much I'm lightening mine to a similar color

[@cherryblossom0818]

Wonderful video Anna! as always. I must admit I'm guilty of some of these things... I tend to share some drama but I'm working on not being a drama queen anymore lol

[@FabiaDosSantos1]

Wow! By these standards, I am Blabbermouth Deluxe and have Zero Mystery. Thanks Anna! Keeping mum from now on!