Reality distortion is the worst. People legit make you think you are going insane. Its wicked
@Mystic_PathsАй бұрын
People with anxiety or low self esteem might struggle to express their needs or fears in a healthy way. Instead of calmly discussing issues, they might avoid conversations, overreact, or assume the worst, making it hard to resolve conflicts and deepen trust.
@eileendom5858Ай бұрын
Fantastic video! Speaking of self esteem and self worth is huge when trying to get over a breakup with an avoidant who blames you for their discretion and alters the reality to make you feel guilty for “ ruining” the relationship. He was dying for any grasp at straws. No accountability either wow
@mint_soup9743Ай бұрын
"Whats to go back to?" How I feel this with my ex and the longing for the beginning of the relationship again... that longing is a longing for TRUST that doesn't exist anymore on this timeline... Thank you guys for talking not just about the success stories but for people struggling with disordered dynamics, too. Its clear you care about your listener's well beings first and foremost. That's such a wonderful thing. I'm looking forward to these workbooks! Love you two! 💗
@DonaldMeyers-v8cАй бұрын
Wow. Just wow ...lol.....i cant with the requests. God bless these people
@LeonScottKennedy7Ай бұрын
Run away from this guy girl are you INSANE?! For God's sake, there are so many willing guys out there!
@jackiel7726Ай бұрын
Thank you That was a really good video. Great story. 👍❤️🩹
@vixter2827 күн бұрын
My EX avoided any conversations about the relationship! HIS low self esteem! Immaturity He broke up with me It was so unhealthy/ toxic EXACTLY what’s there to go back to ??
@heatherhanson7043 күн бұрын
The same... avoided all questions bout the relationship 😮
@vixter283 күн бұрын
@ We were in a relationship, but he couldn’t talk about anything He just reached out to me Thanksgiving And told me things that he’s never told me before - maybe this is a good thing that he left so he could realize what he lost !
@heatherhanson7043 күн бұрын
@vixter28 there you go!! Maybe a good sign?
@vixter283 күн бұрын
@@heatherhanson704 right !!! He’s gonna have to WORK FOR IT THO !! Bc HE LEFT !
@heatherhanson7043 күн бұрын
@@vixter28 maybe one day i can have your luck!
@IanuaDiaboli26 күн бұрын
My heart breaks for her. Because of his emotional availability, she was trying to compensate his lack of care with something material. Girl if you are reading this comment, please consider reading “Women who love too much” by Robin Norwood. It will change your life.
@mollyhardy4550Ай бұрын
Silly goose! Oh my 😂
@parkermedarbАй бұрын
excellent video
@carlfreiermuth5424Ай бұрын
it looks to me like she was a lot more avoidant than he was, and now he is avoiding getting hurt, maybe she will find another person to toy with. it seems to me that they are both codependent
@mxrsfx6930Ай бұрын
Is it still a rebound if the person was the friend your ex told you not to worry about, 3-5 months after break up, and you were trying to be secure and not push away the friendship? And you are all mutual friends that met around the say time?
@BirdNotrealАй бұрын
No, that's monkey branching. The seeds were in place a long time ago.
@LeonScottKennedy7Ай бұрын
I would say yes, you were the first choice
@carlfreiermuth5424Ай бұрын
yes, that can absolutely be a rebound, but if the partner changed the terms of your relationship against what you wanted, then you will need to carry on with your life and respect their decision, if you want them to come back for you, then you must allow them time and space to miss you, so that they can choose you.
@mxrsfx6930Ай бұрын
@@LeonScottKennedy7huh?
@carlfreiermuth5424Ай бұрын
she loves him? or she loves it when he behaves exactly the way that she wants him to.. well they are welcome to the club as we all need to do the work. these kind of experiences can feel very difficult
@dedeebird7727 күн бұрын
With Autism too 8:09
@-taylor-9980Ай бұрын
Microcheating!
@carlfreiermuth5424Ай бұрын
almost?!... it sounds ALMOST like she has conditioned him to be afraid to express anything directly to her anymore, obviously that will not go over well.
@carlfreiermuth5424Ай бұрын
keeping the virtual phantom ex alive with a long-distance relationship.. so basically they were probably both using the long-distance relationship to soothe their anxiety.. and things got complicated, of course. I'm guessing that they are both codependent, much like me. it can be a rocky road, I prefer a hot fudge sundae myself 😁🙏
@carlfreiermuth5424Ай бұрын
so she keeps manipulating him into investing more... so what was the good part of the relationship with this girl? it's no wonder that he is still feeling anxious enough to want to connect with others, even his ex.. because she is obviously not giving him any genuine connection, more like just stringing him along at a distance that she feels comfortable with, with no regard for his feelings.. not surprising. it seemed that he was afraid to express himself openly with her anymore.. relationships with avoidants can feel cruel and cold