Anxiety and Low Self Esteem Lead To Breakups

[@DonaldMeyers-v8c]

Reality distortion is the worst. People legit make you think you are going insane. Its wicked

[@Mystic_Paths]

People with anxiety or low self esteem might struggle to express their needs or fears in a healthy way. Instead of calmly discussing issues, they might avoid conversations, overreact, or assume the worst, making it hard to resolve conflicts and deepen trust.

[@eileendom5858]

Fantastic video! Speaking of self esteem and self worth is huge when trying to get over a breakup with an avoidant who blames you for their discretion and alters the reality to make you feel guilty for “ ruining” the relationship. He was dying for any grasp at straws. No accountability either wow

[@mint_soup9743]

"Whats to go back to?" How I feel this with my ex and the longing for the beginning of the relationship again... that longing is a longing for TRUST that doesn't exist anymore on this timeline... Thank you guys for talking not just about the success stories but for people struggling with disordered dynamics, too. Its clear you care about your listener's well beings first and foremost. That's such a wonderful thing. I'm looking forward to these workbooks! Love you two! 💗

[@DonaldMeyers-v8c]

Wow. Just wow ...lol.....i cant with the requests. God bless these people

[@LeonScottKennedy7]

Run away from this guy girl are you INSANE?! For God's sake, there are so many willing guys out there!

[@jackiel7726]

Thank you That was a really good video. Great story. 👍❤️‍🩹

[@vixter28]

My EX avoided any conversations about the relationship! HIS low self esteem! Immaturity He broke up with me It was so unhealthy/ toxic EXACTLY what’s there to go back to ??

[@heatherhanson704]

The same... avoided all questions bout the relationship 😮

[@vixter28]

@ We were in a relationship, but he couldn’t talk about anything He just reached out to me Thanksgiving And told me things that he’s never told me before - maybe this is a good thing that he left so he could realize what he lost !

[@heatherhanson704]

​@vixter28 there you go!! Maybe a good sign?

[@vixter28]

@@heatherhanson704 right !!! He’s gonna have to WORK FOR IT THO !! Bc HE LEFT !

[@heatherhanson704]

@@vixter28 maybe one day i can have your luck!

[@IanuaDiaboli]

My heart breaks for her. Because of his emotional availability, she was trying to compensate his lack of care with something material. Girl if you are reading this comment, please consider reading “Women who love too much” by Robin Norwood. It will change your life.

[@mollyhardy4550]

Silly goose! Oh my 😂

[@parkermedarb]

excellent video

[@carlfreiermuth5424]

it looks to me like she was a lot more avoidant than he was, and now he is avoiding getting hurt, maybe she will find another person to toy with. it seems to me that they are both codependent

[@mxrsfx6930]

Is it still a rebound if the person was the friend your ex told you not to worry about, 3-5 months after break up, and you were trying to be secure and not push away the friendship? And you are all mutual friends that met around the say time?

[@BirdNotreal]

No, that's monkey branching. The seeds were in place a long time ago.

[@LeonScottKennedy7]

I would say yes, you were the first choice

[@carlfreiermuth5424]

yes, that can absolutely be a rebound, but if the partner changed the terms of your relationship against what you wanted, then you will need to carry on with your life and respect their decision, if you want them to come back for you, then you must allow them time and space to miss you, so that they can choose you.

[@mxrsfx6930]

@@LeonScottKennedy7huh?

[@carlfreiermuth5424]

she loves him? or she loves it when he behaves exactly the way that she wants him to.. well they are welcome to the club as we all need to do the work. these kind of experiences can feel very difficult

[@dedeebird77]

With Autism too 8:09

[@-taylor-9980]

Microcheating!

[@carlfreiermuth5424]

almost?!... it sounds ALMOST like she has conditioned him to be afraid to express anything directly to her anymore, obviously that will not go over well.

[@carlfreiermuth5424]

keeping the virtual phantom ex alive with a long-distance relationship.. so basically they were probably both using the long-distance relationship to soothe their anxiety.. and things got complicated, of course. I'm guessing that they are both codependent, much like me. it can be a rocky road, I prefer a hot fudge sundae myself 😁🙏

[@carlfreiermuth5424]

so she keeps manipulating him into investing more... so what was the good part of the relationship with this girl? it's no wonder that he is still feeling anxious enough to want to connect with others, even his ex.. because she is obviously not giving him any genuine connection, more like just stringing him along at a distance that she feels comfortable with, with no regard for his feelings.. not surprising. it seemed that he was afraid to express himself openly with her anymore.. relationships with avoidants can feel cruel and cold