ANXIETY STRUGGLES!? Here's how to tell your teachers

Your education is important, but so is your mental health. I don't think that you should have to choose between them.
So if you want to be able to let your teacher know what it is that you're feeling inside, but you don't even know how to start the conversation, then this video is for you.
How do you talk to your school and your teachers about the anxiety struggles you're feeling?
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0:51 Your Success = Their Success
1:51 Don't Share Everything
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5:24 Ask For What You Need
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[@lenil2684]

one of my teachers came up to me this year because I was very alone and didn't participate in class. He also pointed out that I show signs of autism and now I talk to him every week after school kinda about that. But it's honestly so much more than just having troubles speaking and making friends because sometimes I fell terribly depressed and lonely up to the point where I loose all motivation and joy. My teacher really is the sweetest person and I think it would be worth telling him about it, but I'm just so scared of his reaction or if he absolutely doesn't understand and it's just gonna get worse. When I speak to him I always mask my sadness automatically so it gets a little dragged away but after that it comes back twice as hard and it's really exhausting. I hope I'll find a way to tell him about it.

[@mallorygrimste]

SO glad you have such a supportive teacher you've connected with. I hope your chat with them about this goes well, too!

[@gloriapinili4606]

I haven't been participating in his classes and I didn't pass any assignments/tasks. Actually scratch that I haven't be attending classes at all not only his. I've just been struggling lately and I want him to understand it isn't laziness. Especially when I've been dealing with a lot at home and the pressure of always having perfect grades is suffocating.

[@mallorygrimste]

So sorry to hear about your struggles Gloria- sounds like it's a good time to talk to them and your parents so you can get the help you need in school, too. So glad you found this video! Let us know how it goes!!

[@erinhedglin3542]

This really helped me to email my teacher about my social anxiety! I had a panic attack and terrible symptoms while i was writing it but it was worth it haha

[@mallorygrimste]

Yikes about the panic attack but SO proud of you for making this move!! Hoping this helps your teacher understand and get you the support you need 💛💛💛

[@joannaelise]

Thank you for this. My teacher got a bit frustrated for me for forgetting to do a assignment when she was the one assigning all those projects that were due all the same week. That made me stress and cry the whole week.

[@mallorygrimste]

Glad it helped!

[@user-rp1bq1hl9u]

thank you this video helps my daughter

[@mallorygrimste]

I am so glad it helped!! Thanks for sharing 💕

[@fortniteburger6765]

Thanks but guys wish me luck becuz i have to talk to my teacher on online class

[@mallorygrimste]

You got this!!!

[@fortniteburger6765]

thank you

[@h4mnxh]

how’d it go?

[@fortniteburger6765]

@@h4mnxh well i guess it went well

[@h4mnxh]

@@fortniteburger6765 you got a lot of confidence for that😝

[@s1enna742]

I have a deep version of anxiety and when my teacher tries to talk to me I get upset and go under my arms and cry and once I almost punched her and When I get angry at someone I usually steal their books and rips them up. I can be called a crybaby and I get really sad and upset, I’m really always upset and sad so I basically can do whatever I want. I finally when to a conclusion with my teacher, I can go to a learning support room and just walk out the room whenever I want. I get special treatment and a girl said I’m just a faker so I couldn’t control myself so I kicked her and ripped all of her books and the teacher got her in trouble and not me, but she was the popular one so everyone started hating me (this was years ago I’m telling you my hole story.) I can also get anyone in trouble and I can’t get in trouble or I’ll get really upset and I’ll rip someone’s book up. I got this when I was in year 1 bc of my best friend who left the school. I mainly don’t do any work. In year my teacher was really nice so she always went to get me when there was a fun activity on so I wouldn’t miss out. She taught me how to not rip someone’s book up and control it using this thing. Once in a while I would get a very high version of anger so I would rip a boys book up... my new teacher in year was really mean to me, so I always ripped up her paperwork. There was a new girl and she understood my anxiety so she was my BFF and I protected her from my teacher when she was in trouble and she protect me from my bullies. I once took a girls book and threw and ripped it up bc she stepped on my bff’s toe (Her name is Lisa) I couldn’t control myself that time bc i was really needing to protect Lisa. In year there was another new girl and she tried to steal Lisa from me so when i got the Computer she was using I threw it and it broke. She tried to tell on me but they said she needs to be more careful so she went on time out. Lisa went off at me for doing that so i got really sad but I didn’t hurt Lisa bc I would never. Lisa started hating me. I am currently in year and I meet a girl called Issy and she doesn’t understand me but she helps me. I would say I have a deep version of anxiety and I am about to get really upset all day tomorrow bc my teacher told me to sit down but to everyone without anxiety thinks she said it very low but to me she shouted. You might think I’m faking anxiety but I’m not, it’s just who I am I just know I’m going to get upset bc of it. I can’t control it so I need help. Another story is once I fought with my bsf (She was a fake friend to me) I stole her pencil case and ran with it and she told the principal and then a teacher from the other class yelled REALLY REALLY REALLY REALLY loudly at me so I cried and ran and I was crying so so so so so much so I ripped in half all of her pencils and had to be sent home. I didn’t come to school for 2 weeks bc I was in the hospital bc I couldn’t stop crying. I live a tough life but I’m currently and I am going through a lot so I just want to ask for some tips

[@mallorygrimste]

So sorry you're struggling with this. Working with a therapist could definitely help as your teacher helped you in year 2. You can check out this video for some more strategies: kzbin.info/www/bejne/lZzbYoewppd0apI Also can you please remove your age from your comment when you get a chance? We don't want young people being targeted here.

[@s1enna742]

@@mallorygrimste oh yeah sorry

[@evonybright2373]

I feel like I cant concentrate and my breathing is fast and heart, I get a bad headache,my vision sometimes goes a bit blurry andI shake alot-my leg alot!- and art normally helps me calm down but I'm scared to ask my teacher if I could have some paper out to doodle on.how should I do it?

[@mallorygrimste]

You got this! Honestly just starting the conversation is that hardest part. Once they know, they can help you

[@bluetoothpearapple9568]

I have a paper due tomorrow, I was supposed to work on it at home but I left it at school and now I couldn’t even start making the changes I needed to for the paper. I’m a new student there and I don’t know how things really work there or if my teachers are the most generous. I wanted to talk to the guidance counselor, they showed up after school and said next week they’d pull me out of class, but they never did and I don’t know where to request it, and I don’t know what to tell my teacher when I don’t have my due paper... this is really stressing me out and I’m afraid they’ll say I’m making up my GAD and panic disorder and I’m afraid they won’t take into consideration my mental issues and help me. Thanks commenters if you read this, just wanted to spill my thoughts out where people could see it and possibly relate to.

[@mallorygrimste]

Yikes! Thanks for sharing your experience. I hope things all worked out. Many schools will post their guidance staff's emails on their website. Have you checked there? It might help to reach out to them that way and ask these questions.

[@bluetoothpearapple9568]

@@mallorygrimste I don’t remember checking, I probably should check, thanks!

[@elizabethfd3977]

I’m scared to do a presentation and I’m just panicking and I have struggles because of how much they post homework , each day and I’m scared to tell them because I feel like I’m going to get pressured and scared.. i don’t know what to do 😖😣

[@mallorygrimste]

Starting the conversation is the scariest part. Once they know, they can help you adjust

[@sevvi_7665]

I get the worse anxiety when the teacher asks questions about a certain topic, it makes me guilty and ended up crying for not answering the questions (I feel dumb) I could've studied and prepared for the lesson but I was too busy finishing missing/ pending homeworks (bc i just started school last monday weeks behind school started) and also another problem of me is overthinking about school it just doesn't get out of my mind it affects my sleep and a hard time sleeping, I've been so conscious with my grades because I didn't participate to any discussions bc I focused too much on my homeworks and not on the topic, when my anxiety kicks in on a certain subject I ended up skipping WHICH makes me even more guilty, I overworked myself on the weekend continuosly, I think my teachers will think that im just lazy without them knowing I keep overthinking about their subjects day/night, I don't think its healthy anymore, It would be appreciated if you give me tips on how to cope this

[@mallorygrimste]

Sevvi you are right on time because I'm literally working on putting together a new series on exactly these topics! Though it will likely be a few weeks until they're ready for publishing. I hope the strategies I discuss in this video help you talk to your teachers about a catch-up plan. In the meantime, for the overthinking, have you tried the strategies in my video about Crushing ANTs (Automatic Negative Thoughts)? You can watch it here: kzbin.info/www/bejne/fKS7mXqpj9irjKM

[@fern5421]

I might have just been able to do this I just emailed my teacher about my social anxiety because I had 2 panic attacks yesterday I’m only telling her because at my school we have guidance teachers who are there to help you through school and if u have any problems

[@mallorygrimste]

I’m so proud of you for taking action and talking about it! Now they can help you

[@forpurposes3168]

I am months behind my class, My teacher emailed me that he was worried because I haven't passed any single assignments yet and he knew I am one of his "smart" students. But I can't do my homework anymore, I feel so emotionally and physically exhausted all the time. I don't know what to do. I cry every night to bed. I don't go outside and my anxiety just got worse and worse.

[@mallorygrimste]

I love that your teacher did this! If you’re not already linked with a therapist it would be worth asking to see one. Therapy can help you learn new skills and navigate how to manage all these stresses

[@user-ze3no2cm7z]

We have our first presentation coming up and I have severe social anxiety, but I feel anxious about talking to my teacher and idk why… but I cannot present at all! Like i start having a break down and that happening in front of everybody would be so embarrassing. I just don’t know how to tell my teacher.

[@mallorygrimste]

You can always try applying this strategies into a written message like a note or an email. You got this!! As for the anxiety talking in front of others or with your teacher, try some of the coping skills in this video to manage those anxiety stress responses: kzbin.info/www/bejne/e4vSomxuo850d68

[@destinylovesj]

i have severe depression and my teacher doesn’t know, i want to tell her but idk how. i’ll try talking to her monday/tuesday about it so wish me luck :/

[@mallorygrimste]

YOU GOT THIS!!! If you get stuck, I created a free self-help resource just for these conversation you can get here: 10 THERAPIST APPROVED TIPS FOR TALKING ABOUT YOUR FEELINGS so you don’t have STRUGGLE to help your parents, friends, teachers, and other important people UNDERSTAND you and your needs | bit.ly/2W29LkH

[@destinylovesj]

@@mallorygrimste tysm !! i told her earlier and she said she understood me since she also went through it :)

[@alicemesquita9008]

My french teacher asks us to recite a dialogue every class, a different one and she just shares screen, I always panic when she asks me to, talking in front of a whole classroom is a big struggle for me.

[@mallorygrimste]

yikes! hope these strategies helped you talk with them about your struggles

[@makaylajones9955]

Hey Mallory, I am going to start college this summer but I am scared that I will not be able to get my work done because of my depression and anxiety are both chronic and disabling, I have a hard time getting out of bed in the morning just to wait for night to come again. I have panic attacks at night so I don’t get much rest. Leaving me with a even shorter attention span should I try it? If you have advice to help me with any of these issues please let me know just reply if you can, thank you for your time.

[@mallorygrimste]

Yikes- so sorry you're struggling with this. The first thing I'd say is definitely find a therapist local to you to work with you on these struggles if you don't have one already. If you haven't checked this out already- I made a compilation video of mental health study hacks you can check out here: kzbin.info/www/bejne/iqe8aWh9fsunpZY

[@makaylajones9955]

Thank you for replying, I love your videos and I will tell my friends about your KZbin channel because I want to help everyone out that needs it. Again thank you and you’re the best

[@morgann1618]

ik im late but do you think this would work in PE, basically i’m an athlete and i love to work out, however when we are in PE i start getting really anxious and i have had a few panic attacks before. I don’t know how to tell my teacher because i have already gotten in trouble for running out of class when i was anxious, and i don’t want to get in trouble again but i’m also not very good at talking face to face about something serious. I want her to know how i feel even though i don’t know how i feel i just don’t know how to tell her

[@mallorygrimste]

Totally would help with PE teachers too

[@nottfatima]

Ik I’m late, but can you tell me if I might have anxiety. My symptoms are, heavy breathing before I start the breakdown, my heart beats, I bang my head with my hand, I start saying I’m stupid or something like that, I start picking at my hands, crying, scratch my arm nonstop, and my legs bounce.

[@mallorygrimste]

Definitely worth talking to a professional for an assessment. A good person to start with is either your primary care physician or mental health therapist

[@tiana4804]

We have to do a self-introduction speech in class and I don't think I will be able to do it, due to my social anxiety. What should I do?

[@mallorygrimste]

The this approach with your teacher. Let us know how it goes!! You got this 💕

[@madisonhatter2997]

ik im late but would this be the same witht adhd im am always not able to focus during class and im so afraid to tell my teacher

[@mallorygrimste]

Definitely not late- that's why I love KZbin. These videos are here for when you need them 😊 these strategies can definitely be adapted to ADHD and difficulty focusing. Hope it goes well with your teacher!!

[@riyatalati4860]

I always twitch my eye,stutter,and I get reallly bad headaches and it usually helps me calm down by listening to music or just getting a pencil and drawing random Lines on a piece of paper lol ik I’m weird

[@mallorygrimste]

Not weird at all- great job noticing your body signals and responding to them with healthy coping strategies- you rock!! 💛

[@jamilaahmed3951]

What if I'm too scared to tell my teacher? And I actually get anxiety when I'm around my teacher?

[@mallorygrimste]

Great question! You’ll definitely wanna check out this video for anxiety coping skills: kzbin.info/www/bejne/e4vSomxuo850d68

[@WB0916]

Ok so that's the thing. MY SCHOOL DOESN'T CARE ABOUT OUR MENTAL HEALTH!! 😔

[@mallorygrimste]

ughhh so sorry that your school doesn't care about your mental health. That's why legal protections exist. Most schools are valuing mental health care than ever before, but we still have a ways to go.

[@lexiharper4428]

How do you ask one of your actual teachers for help instead of a counsellor? I mean like for anxiety/depression

[@mallorygrimste]

In my experience most teachers would direct you to talk with a counselor if you’re looking for anxiety and depression help. If you’re already talking with a counselor than it would be a good idea to strategize with them around this if your teacher isn’t following your plan for help.

[@_Flute4life_]

hey mallory i’m in fifth grade i have adhd and test anxiety we’ll work anxiety in general and she actually asked if i had work anxiety and test anxiety and i said yes so she knows but my adhd is so bad i can’t handle it she has tried so bad to help me with everything she could she said i don’t know what else to do but she doesn’t even know i have it how do i tell her i’m scared i’m embarrassed just everything i don’t even know i don’t know how do you have any suggestions and can you make a vid on that well on how to tell a teacher you have adhd so they can help please if you can it would help so do that and please respond to me on your tips

[@mallorygrimste]

Thank you so much for sharing your experience. The tips in this video apply to telling your teacher about ADHD struggles, too. Try them out and let us know how it goes- YOU GOT THIS!!

[@_Flute4life_]

@@mallorygrimste one more question i want to get on meds like my cousin but i don’t know how to ask my parents do you have any tips my cousin said are you on them you need them i’m really hyper and i never can focus

[@mallorygrimste]

@@_Flute4life_ check out the videos in this playlist for strategies: How to Talk To Your Parents About Your Mental Health Struggles + Get Help! kzbin.info/aero/PLiLAumV7icFEF37mdWAx03wBmvfgIbnpU

[@_Flute4life_]

@@mallorygrimste sorry again if i’m wasting your time can you make a videos on adhd in generally it would also help even though these ones can all ready relate and that stuff

[@mallorygrimste]

Have you checked out the channel How To ADHD? She's my go-to ADHD resource on KZbin. Her channel is here: kzbin.info/door/-nPM1_kSZf91ZGkcgy_95Q

[@emmaaaaTV]

I tried but all of my teachers went like „aw I’m sure you don’t wanna tell me anything more so let me give you some math papers“

[@mallorygrimste]

ughh- what a bummer! proud of you for talking about it. To be fair, your teachers still have to give you assignments and papers, but they may be able work with you, too. Have you reached out to someone like a guidance counselor or school social worker for help with this?

[@emmaaaaTV]

@@mallorygrimste well I haven’t but I may get send to an clinic bcz of suicidal problems so I won’t be able to go to school or speak with them

[@mallorygrimste]

Glad you’re getting help. 💛

[@dianathereselastomen5368]

How to die in easy way?

[@mallorygrimste]

so sorry you're struggling. As a mental health provider, we help people live easier, not die easy. If you're needing support with this I highly recommend reaching out to a local crisis number. For a list of crisis numbers by country, click here: support.google.com/youtube/answer/2802245?hl=en&ref_topic=9386941

[@kaceemagee9981]

How do u tell ur teacher you have adhd ??

[@mallorygrimste]

You can apply these strategies- let us know how it goes