7 Things Nice Guys Do WRONG! (MUST WATCH)

[@Filiopietistic2762]

You deserve over 1 million subscribers Apollonia. Great work you do

[@ApolloniaPonti]

Thank you so much. Truly appreciate this. Just want to really help as many people as possible. :)

[@TomFox1]

💯

[@blackjackomfg]

Simp

[@kristopherryanwatson]

@@blackjackomfg what's wrong with complimenting a woman and her hard work? tell us about your channel and the many subs you have. if anyone is a simp, it's you. so grow up.

[@HypnoticHollywood]

@Nicale ATiffa You say never take advice from a woman, but you clicked on a video of a woman giving advice lol.

[@LastEarBender]

Still watch the video for Apollonia's insights, but here are the Cliff Notes: 1 - not knowing who you are as a person and being a people pleaser 2 - not speaking with conviction/ not being assertive 3 - doesn't say no and puts everything else on hold for her/ losing yourself 4 - losing your honesty and transparency / compromising your integrity and dignity 5 - having a neediness for sex 6 - investing more in relationships than others invest in you 7 - you apologize for things that aren't your fault

[@TomFox1]

And you are loved timestamps buddy!!❤️

[@Reilly5]

8 - Be a stoic, You have to be the emotional rock in the relationship.

[@ChrrolloDI]

How is 5 even a thing. That would imply nice guys even get in relationships.

[@iamsofia3782]

The best thing we can do, is be ourselves. Either we get accepted or we won't.

[@EmpoweredTravels]

I agree. The people that like your true self will stay and the ones that don't won't. It's the perfect filter. You don't have to pretend and be fake because that's exhausting and unattractive anyway.

[@sag577]

amen

[@Tubes12AX7k]

That's really, really true. Even if you date the person you were originally interested in, as time goes on you will relax into being your true self again. And honestly, you're going to want to be who you are. So why not find someone who truly matches with you?

[@deyontenoel3491]

This is the best answer @IamSofia

[@debojit.chowdhury]

Bullying in my childhood affected me badly, still doing everything to overcome this.

[@Luigi-xg7hx]

I know how u feel bro, I was bullied in my childhood either.

[@maartenkatar4028]

Im 38 and still working on myself. I didnt had the best childhood myself but personal development helps me alot

[@jackblues9232]

For a man like me, with asperger's and difficulties with social skills You really helping me out. Thanks for this.

[@matthewtetley7048]

Respect, hidden things like this make it harder aye.

[@I_Can_Draw24]

I cringe when I watch your videos sometimes because I was making so many of these mistakes and I know better. I stop watching this content when I get a woman I like and go back to that needy routine and lose her. Thank you for your info .

[@michaelchatman6333]

Dude I am with you. It’s like I felt I was the problem.

[@I_Can_Draw24]

@@michaelchatman6333 we just need to make some adjustments and remember women want to be in our world, not our world.

[@michaelkeudel8770]

Staying single is easier, no games, no double standards, no non stop changing rules or head games.

[@External2737]

It is so hard, as an older man, finding a woman worth dating.

[@timothybrown4213]

@@External2737 for real 💯

[@nickhawthorne7740]

#1 is absolutely true. If you don't know who you are and where you are going then nothing else matters. No one goes to an art museum to look and a blank canvas. I'm 41 and have no clue.

[@carlosgarcia5458]

That metaphor of leading while dancing just spoke to me on another level thank you

[@nelsonv3352]

I am guilty of doing these things a few years ago, and yes, I thought doing these things would give me the approval, acceptance and eventually affection from a woman, but I was so very wrong. Today, things are very different, what is more surprising is that the results are awesome. Thank you for this video, you hit the nail right on the head.

[@micahvenable92]

How did you just “stop” being that way because I’m that way now and I feel as if my wife doesn’t want me anymore. She screamed at me today for apologizing for everything cause I always think she’s mad at me cause I can never seem to make her happy and she thinks it makes her abusive in my eyes idk iv always been the “nice guy” I guess that’s why iv never really had success with women over the years.

[@19Bacardi79]

How did you make the change though

[@Filippirgos]

I have been like that only once - in my recent relationship. And that's why it failed

[@tyt2006]

Take kindness from the beta, and confidence from the alpha. That's the middle ground.

[@thrasherdave1428]

Facts

[@Nick-ue9of]

I like this

[@JoeyAnthonyGuerra]

A sigma is the way I see it

[@amit77]

Betas aren't kind.

[@jean-paulfaye7794]

Nah alphas ain’t confident more like a ruse

[@jtbatista]

The most painful & hurtful comment I've gotten from my ex during our last moment in the relationship, was when she told me I have to stop seeking approval etc. That if she was one of the many out there, they would have taken big advantage of me. And all I did was I sucked it up and refined myself that it's true. So she broke up with me, and of course I went back with flowers and trying my best to make it work but I realized...she left long before that day of our dispute towards her lag against me. And I realized: I need major change and progress for myself because looking back? I did lost myself not only emotionally but also, I wasn't even tackling my financial life to its fullest.

[@juliejay5436]

Do you, take care of yourself, pursue the things you love and bring you joy, and most importantly - be true and honest to thyself, always! Wishing you much happiness!

[@blackjackomfg]

How about women accept men for who they are?

[@davorebo5790]

Everything is conditional my guy when it comes to women..the only woman that will truly accept you is your momma.. lol

[@jacouriwhite9252]

Right

[@TomFox1]

ikr!!

[@iyukioo89]

No .. obtaining a women shouldn’t be easy ... it gotta change you !! For the better .. you gotta build with each other

[@kristopherryanwatson]

in an ideal world, yes. but high value woman have standards, so that is why these things matter if you want to aim high for that type of woman. and i hope that you do.

[@smiles7631]

Thank you! As I have gotten older and went through a divorce, I've been trying to make a better version of myself. I've learned alot from your videos and others. I'm so thankful for these lessons.

[@kuunami]

The women are so masculine now that you have to be a superhero to have a relationship.

[@TomFox1]

😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@itumelengmosailane1192]

No just do you she will follow

[@adrianmaycroft6483]

Women have bollocks

[@kennyadedayo8550]

No...Most women are still very feminine.

[@guille4350]

Valiendo madres 🤣🤣!

[@1mattlove1]

yOO this content has a deeper mission..do your thing Apollonia

[@aussiekid3588]

This popped in my recommended. Based on what I see my peers who are same age or younger go through, who are with a woman, a relationship or a woman is not a good thing to have in life. The strongest of men have been through the most life lessons and , like me, would much prefer to solely focus on myself and find pure real purpose and real happiness

[@Trisof88]

Exactly.

[@danhuskey2496]

Great video.I like that you differentiated the difference between nice guy syndrome and being a nice guy.Good way to explain leading with the Salsa explanation.Thanks again.

[@stevenhilderbrandt3463]

Excuse me. I’m very happy man being single. I might flirt with woman. I don’t want anything serious. I’m more confident about myself. Really don’t need any relationship.

[@jayphive2468]

You ain’t never lied on these videos!

[@ApolloniaPonti]

Thank you for being here!

[@KadeSyx]

Anyone that was bullied as a child will mess you up as an adult. Being over weight + being bullied will mess you up. Having parents that you couldn't go to regarding said situations messes you up. Having to deal with mental situations as male child all the way to high school will mess you up. It will take years to break such mentality. She can say whatever on this video, but child hood trauma is not easy to just shake off and be who you want to be. The point is to keep working on and keep learning about yourself

[@Mega6teem]

OMG I've had niceguy syndrome during my life but I'm pretty sure that I can get over this. Thanks for this video, it's helpful to realize things.

[@secretsquirrel8903]

Dont listen to this bullshit, just be yourself.

[@fleadoggreen9062]

I’m cringing thru this cause it’s me But I’m so done with being nice I’ll just stick to myself and work out Clean up the crib

[@shakonic]

I ain kno you joking but this was my exact thoughts 😂🤣

[@fahadhawks2]

sometimes people mistook class and manners as nice guys...

[@larklandmorley]

The principles are very good. Outside of the obvious, people are complicated in some ways and each person approaches relationships slightly differently,. Someone actually recommended the book called "5 languages of love" and it's very interesting. Some girls will not see flowers as a big deal to responds better to other things. Bottom is stick to principles but be flexible with each individual.

[@mashmanishgwalani]

Guys, I know most of you think that why do we need to play these mind games and women should be less complicated. Trust me if you simply do what she is saying here it actually works! I am able to get girls that actually I could have never thought of trying on. All of what she says actually works! Thank you Apollonia! 😘

[@stevecarter1673]

Thank you for your explanation. I wish I would have known this 40 years ago. But then I wouldn't be the awesome guy I now am. .. I was a die hard nice guy. I didn't understand what that even was and "why do nice guys finish last?" I answered that question decades ago with a joke that only I thought was funny. You actually connected the nice guy syndrome to sex. I will have to listen to that again. I did have a dependency on porn back then too. My wife didn't like sex, was my mindset she gave me. I ended it after 18 years.

[@innoLeBaron]

Great work, awesome advices unfortunately there is always exception to the rule. You treat her like you would love to be treated, going far as taking care of her family but that’s never be enough. It’s tough to make a decision when there are kids involved. Kudos for your awesome advice!!!!

[@stephanvillavicencio5679]

Congratulations, Apollonia! I have a steady girlfriend now, thanks tp your guidance. but i continue to watch your channel, refreshing my knowledge. And i love how you end the video on a positive note, telling us that we "are always loved."

[@stewoutdoors3020]

Definitely a great lesson. You are fantastic. I'm a few months into my relationship with my girlfriend. Things are going very good. Thanks for your support.

[@JoeyAnthonyGuerra]

You know I'm going to get my icing on the cake with this information.

[@dannyd4922]

Damn, what the hell ever happened to normal dating? Roller coaster full of mind games and hidden signs, F all that! Just be normal please and I'll do the same

[@WestCoastReg]

That PART!

[@briandunmore6030]

YEP....i agree Danny

[@oceanhedonist265]

Dating women is like walking through a mine field.

[@amitchkrabarty05]

Hi Aoillonia, First of all Congratulations on 500k subscribers and many more to come in the future. Really love the quality content which is really vital for healthy relationships. Secondly, this video somehow relates to my past where I used to be people pleaser and ended up in becoming lonely and depressed. I completely understand the importance of being unapologetically honest. Many thanks for highlighting these points. lots of love 🧡🧡

[@shyy0.0guyy37]

This bih said insecurity is a attraction killer... imma hold these girls to the same standard... and half these girls insecure about their own eyebrows lmaooo

[@simosavustaja9420]

@Lino27 He's kinda right tho. Almost every girl wants the nice alfa male, not many of them are nice alfa females.

[@davidmatengu5726]

@Lino27 how so?

[@oceanhedonist265]

@@davidmatengu5726 They have too much masculine energy. They suppress their feminine qualities.

[@agbordaniels]

Honestly 😂

[@ricardomoranarnulfo1769]

3:23 love it Do you want to spin? NO this is not a circus 😂 thanks coach AP

[@coriander3170]

Ya know this makes a lot of sense. You have to be on a path, for someone to follow or join along side you. You both should be headed in the same general direction.

[@ricoswave9873]

Right guys you're the one who's putting in all the want and work and value in yourself meaning that you should be on the pedestal not women she should feel like she has to work for you and what this lovely young woman just said on this video

[@Tom-bu8uj]

You're my favorite coach!!!! I have learned a lot from you. Stay blessed!!!

[@matthewtetley7048]

I know my worth, but others don't see it initially, learning to be better of course and let go when needed.

[@YnRJm0n3y]

I needed this. I need to start watching your videos again. I had too much pride in my own knowledge, that I just became metaphorically deaf & blind to the quality content that you put out here. I could learn so much if I just learned to listen again.

[@TheofficialChi]

Watching this video, I now understand better what is wrong with my relationship... Before now I've always thought to myself "This guy is nice..why do I feel so off about him?" He literally apologises for everything even when I'm at fault. And seeks too much validation from me and everyone. Makes me feeling like I was the man in the relationship. I broke up with him cos I was no longer happy

[@aafaqkhan7438]

Hello Appolonia, Your videos are life pulling!! Number 5 is most likable I request you to make video on number 5. Thank you.

[@BennyBlancoSko]

Now this is where I get gamed up!

[@osvaldovalentin3329]

I love this channel, full of useful information .

[@ApolloniaPonti]

Thank you so so much!

[@CrossfitCarlos]

You are the best Apollonia, because of your contribution to online education.

[@lasaraungbakri7386]

I want to confess and cry my heart out in front of this wonderful girl, Apollonia Ponti

[@ApolloniaPonti]

LOL!

[@Hiddenrage1]

Great video. I wish I had seen this years ago when I was married. Thankfully I can still learn and try again.

[@rjohnson5972]

you know me I'm usually somewhat critical of your videos. But I always watch because sometimes you have a gem this one is a diamond !!! I can catch em all day long , and even take take them home , my problem has always been keeping them , usually I get bored , but sometimes they get bored. I learned a lot and directly from you instead of one of your other coaches . Keep up the great work 👍 . Have you ever done a video on guys who are addicted to the chase ? Once you get her the chase is done. On to the next.

[@55cyprus]

Hi Apollonia: ..love what you're saying. Actually - now - flipping the script some - I LOVE BEING A NICE GUY!! More than ever before! Reason being is that: ..I find that not too much has changed between the sexes in several decades in terms of reciprocation & taking personal responsibility! As an older man in the mid 50's, I understand a lot more of the emotional/physical dances/needs/expectations of the sexes. I have a hell of a lot better understanding than my fears/nightmares of trying to fit in w/ certain females when I was in my athletic teens/20's. Almost overnight - in the last 5 months - without doing much - I'm attracting a lot more younger females for some strange reason who are actually waiting, almost in queue, for me to hang out w/them to do a luncheon or whatever(here-and-there)? Many of them obviously are in between dates/divorces & deciding whether to reconcile w/ old exes, etc? I have to say - it's kinda nice to be in this sort-of mystical-mystique 'cat-bird-seat' for a change. Not having to chase but just using a long-view lens to scope matters! Just taking my time because I'm busy in a global self-employment career during this global Outbreak we're all experiencing. But one of the challenges it presents is that it's harder to pick & choose who and what & where[haha]? So I just abstain & don't choose at all. Just having fun w/ life & myself bcz the need & sense of urgency hasn't been there for a very long time - unlike my younger years - that were full of these types of hurried mistakes. Also there are a lot more single females than ever before(various ages, nationalities, their fears of not wanting to be alone, etc). I also see a lot of females complaining about men in general, but I know I bring a lot of experiences especially in the Emotional Intelligence space that many men know nothing about, therefore making them push too much. Again I know what I have, so I don't rush anything anymore. We can do a few luncheons together & just chill - no pressure. Lastly, if a female isn't ready or not interested, it's ok to leave them to their own vices & move on & no need to look back. There are tons of other open minded females in the global dating sea😂💕

[@NeoSoulCrew]

As a man it might be unfair to play by a woman's rules but it doesn't detract from Appolonias amazing insights on how the game is played.

[@algumbs5115]

You gotta love that "Salsa analogy" 👍👍

[@ApolloniaPonti]

Yes- Dr. Robert Glover uses it. It's the best. This is where I got it from. :-)

[@algumbs5115]

It's perfect....awesome channel 😎

[@johnallens479]

"A man that's too alpha, can't keep a woman. A man that's too beta can't keep a woman. It's about understanding the two principles and blending them together." So what you are saying is that we need αβs.

[@comva]

After 8 hours of work come home to your 2nd full time job.

[@wread1982]

Keep her happy bro 😂

[@SMJ95]

Apollonia- Thanks for all you do!! ❤️

[@audiofeinz5754]

Powerful I'm subscribing

[@Filippirgos]

Dammit, I have been too nice in my last relationship, can't believe how I fit in almost all of this 7 points. And that's not me

[@maartenkatar4028]

Great video. Explained very well

[@darrickbrisco5016]

U are absolutely right about leadership it’s not do as I say one must have a plan and confidence this goes for all aspects in life

[@j.g.jdagentlemantv]

I'll advise all men to hear this message #Truth thank you for this powerful message

[@JuanCampos-vq9ig]

Thank you so much Apollonia for this video I needed this kind of insight and advice defiantly shed some light in for me it hit me to the core , I love your videos too they're so genuine.

[@jamesmarchetti3286]

I am fine with who I am and so are others and the people I minister to the only thing is I am very careful and a very tiny bit scared with women I meet !!! Long story but every woman is an individual and so that doesn't stop me from trying without much success !! I watch your videos more than once ! Repition can be a quick and easy way to learn !! It does seem like I'm back in full-time College again but in all Humility and Honesty I really have a lot learn !!! I Thank you and God for everything!!! Maybe He says it is now time !!! I saw this woman and was instantly amazed and He told me to introduce myself !!! This something totally different for me !! When He tells me something many times I have to Obey Him to find out why...

[@Sih975]

I really appreciate how educational and inspiring this video! Keep up the good work

[@johnroman4608]

Yeah Apollonia saying no, standing up for yourself & not liking certain things get you into crap ... heads up for us that stand up for ourselves 🥂 Relationships are just too much p/t and people don’t value you for who u are !!! 👎🏻 going 🎣

[@dennyb8442]

This is the best video and information I have seen from you, and all facts. Really well done 😊

[@UNCNCAAChamps]

This is very helpful. I seem to can't break the nice guy. I'm seeing a woman now and I've treated with nothing but respect and she said I've treated her like no other man as before. But all of the sudden she just seems distant and I'm guessing unsure about everything. Its really painful because I'm trying to be a gentleman and it just seems like it's not enough

[@martinyeboah5526]

Quality and good info as usual Apollonia

[@SAMEntalhealth]

You're great ;-) I hate myself. I shouldn't, I'm not stupid but growing up I was always told everything I did wrong not right. Later on my self esteem is gone :-((

[@steverumovicz4702]

Thank you this video truly has helped myself. Your videos truly help my self confadence

[@ApolloniaPonti]

I'm so glad! Thank you so letting me know!!

[@Jrshowuncensored1]

I total agree with you on this video wow you should have your own t.v show everyday at 4pm you a smart woman that got game I respect that 💯

[@peteyn.y.7960]

- Congrats on 500K Apollonia!! Very much deserved! Continued success! 👏👏❤️

[@ApolloniaPonti]

Thank you so much!

[@peteyn.y.7960]

You’re Very Welcome! ❤️

[@valena2000]

I absolutely love your videos!

[@DAVEROD84]

Great lesson, everyone should listen to this.

[@nathanieltaylor2956]

You’re loved by us your subscribers❤️(AP)

[@ApolloniaPonti]

Thank you so so much!

[@zebuwaemenyi3330]

Thanks Apollonia. You give good advice!

[@jayb3033]

I don't wanna sound like a " mommas boy" when I say this, ( especially since my mom isn't even alive anymore) but I was just thinking, " wouldn't it be great if every guys mom was like this woman in our video here and coached us on this stuff as young boys when we were like 10 or 11 years old. That way when we started dating in our teens, we would already master this stuff. Especially if mom wasn't getting what she wanted out of her marriage with Dad and she thinks, " well Im going to train my son to be different then his dad is to me, so that when he starts dating girls, he will be every girls alpha dream boy." The problem is alot of mothers are so overly protective they don't really want their kids to find true love since they think that love is going to be painful or dangerous for them. It takes a special kind of a mother to want her kids to be like this.Some kids can get help from their dad in this area ( as long as the dad is the type of dad that raise a son to be a guy women want, some dad's can't do this either.) However, a mother can give her son the inside idea on what women like from guys better like a dating coach, but I don't think nearly enough mothers are like this or fathers too for that matter, and most guys including myself had to turn to other sources to learn this stuff or had to depend entirely on their good looks to attract girls, which makes it alot harder for some guys to do.

[@juliejay5436]

Brilliant comment! Yes, you are right!

[@mikefredrick7186]

Wow you nail it I’m just like that and I’m trying to become better!

[@JM-Ju]

If you are/were a nice guy, this can be painful but it's the utter truth

[@enriqueraulpandocastro3896]

My dear, receive a warm greeting from the oldest new world, Peru Apollonia you really rock!!

[@cosminsava1151]

Honestly, I am 100% as you said in this video.

[@malakhimalik7218]

this is so spot on. every word of this.

[@BAKER22-l4u]

LMAO!!!!!!!! LET US KNOW WHEN YOU LEAVE FANTASY LAND....

[@rorysmith2415]

I love nice women. I love women. I am a nice guy. I hate bullies. People who fancy bullies are evil. It is warped, twisted, depraved, nasty, selfish and cruel to fancy bulles. Peoole who fancy bullies are supporting bullies. Niceness and goodness are the most important qualities in any human.

[@Shadez1986]

you literally described everything I do

[@johnnycatfishproductions2288]

THANK YOU, Apollonia! 100%

[@DarkGeminiFox999]

Happy 500k Subscribers Apollonìa Good Morning Y'all What y'all got today⛅⛅☀

[@georgevossen3846]

Thank you and im going to use your tips and what ive read to l me recover

[@ApolloniaPonti]

Amazing!

[@Legendxtoli]

Guys listen the reality of relationships are you will always be tested. To attract, test them back

[@dexdagamer2887]

Had to watch twice thank u

[@richardtuman3716]

I love this woman. My new Gf calls me here safe place.

[@darionanat5032]

I recently found out she removed me from her stories on snapchat, and have just been using me to get favours and stuff. I'm deleting her today. Broken hearted, but it's the right thing to do.

[@rorycornish3865]

Your awesome everything was almost bang on, best coach ever. There was a timeline in my case but I'm an ampath ,and so is she, so we anticipate each other's moves to of course, check the boxes. Just wanted to say, thank you.

[@hunterterhun3]

You are so passionate about every single thing you do and I find that amazing about you. 😘💕🌹

[@markmurphy2492]

I THINK THAT YOU VERY GOOD AT DOING THIS KIND OF THING. ❤

[@BudBrothers4Life]

Appreciate your time and knowledge 🙏🏽 💯

[@Danielle-no6wo]

Any advice for a guy in a wheelchair. A friend of mine is a para and struggles with confidence and has a difficult time dating.

[@SPCBRAWLERZ]

1/2 a million subs! Way to go!!!

[@monaural2.988]

Hearing what I have from every corner of the “dating coach” world assured me that the wise ones will put all of it in a dumpster and fly solo. “There’s someone for everyone” is one of the biggest fairytales ever foisted on the human race. The truth is that some will win, some will be left on the roadside. Plan accordingly.

[@MrGerrit007]

My girlfriend dropped me 2 months ago. I still love here. She pushed me into friendzone but my ego got a hold of me. I started chasing and now she is ghosting me. I am not blocked yet but would love to resolve some kind of relationship again that can build back to a real one. We where together for 3 years and we where friends before we dated. Here Dad and my dad went to school together.

[@henrytorresvlogs]

Amazing content gracias cariño much love and wealth.

[@rayromo7222]

After 3 failed realations I learned you can't always be nice

[@diloromkubayeva6561]

I don't know what I am doing here 😂🤣 . But one thing I can say is that know your worth and pull away when ignored . I think women need some time to realize if they really need you . And they need to feel the emptiness when you are gone . It is my experience and I am still experiencing it 😁😂😭 . I did ignore not only one time when someone was nice and too caring , and I think I still do to whom always there for me ... But If I ever cared it was for someone who is respectful in the first place .

[@michaelchatman6333]

Yeah this is me. I’m overly nice. I was giving a girl so much time and told her I’d like to spend time with her and get to know her but I was making forth effort and she wasn’t. It was always me going to her for sex and even crossing a boundary. I told her that I felt like she was using me and how I felt and she spent it on me and I was constantly apologizing. Even gift giving trying to show her I care and appreciate her. Many of my friends, and therapist told me that narcissist traits from her but they told me to learn from my mistakes and when I heard that I thought negatively like I did something wrong. Like even when she told me I was affecting her mental health. But when I really sat down and thought about it the mistake I made was still giving this woman my time and energy. When really she didn’t deserve what I had to bring. It’s been 2 years and I still not there emotionally but I’m better . It’s a slow grind but it gets better men. You are worthy.

[@tlewis84able]

I understand. Sounds like you were nice to someone who’s not nice. Don’t lose that nice side.