Why Women REJECT "Nice Guys" & Why They Finish Last! ( How To Change The Nice Guy Syndrome)

[@all1nerd377]

Be a good man, not a nice guy. All this requires is 1 thing. Authenticity. Be true to yourself no matter what

[@ApolloniaPonti]

BOOM! AND having Self-Worth .

[@jayc5756]

EXACTLY!!!

[@jayc5756]

I Always say it...nice guy is an act. Anyone can be nice. But who i am at my core is a good man. I treat ppl accordingly...how I wanna be treated. But if they treating me bad or funny...I Definitely Won't be Nice. FOH! Lol. IJS

[@tebogomosala3761]

Show up and be REAL!!

[@azmike3572]

You can be "authentic, a good man, REAL", have all the self-worth you can have, and STILL not get the girl, because SHE'S making the decision, not you, based on her own many standards, right or wrong.

[@MountaineerChemist10]

We show lack of confidence on 1st dates because we feel like they’re auditions. Make the wrong move & she’ll lose her interest in you. That’s how it is now in 2023.

[@erikbergum2586]

I struggled with worries whether women would be uncomfortable or not.

[@ralfj.1740]

I used to be the typical nice guy.. that's why I had blueballs for many years and a low self esteem. Now I would say I'm somewhere in between a nice guy and a bad boy, I don't let myself get pushed around anymore and I know my strengths. Sometimes I still lose my cool though and have self doubt.. always being the confident guy is not easy if you're only average looking and have a low paying job.

[@marksallai2289]

Yes in-between is ok but still be yourself and don't validate a woman's crazy ideas - enjoy life to the full hit the gym and do what you want - be proud and strong a woman will belittle you if she can - do not be afraid to approach Beautiful women but remember this is only outside value or colourful - what is really inside

[@yousfiabdelali]

I love this

[@jerimodel]

I guess I am screwed because I am natural listener and empathetic holy sh#t

[@chologaming2887]

I feel as if the dating world today is soo damaged (mentally, physically, emotionally,etc) that you don't even have to do something "nice" if you're just a real guy and honest and basically are yourself this scares 3 out of 4 women today.

[@mohanamarnath]

Being yourself without losing your true identity has its own charm and this should not be at the cost of your dignity and your social status.

[@TomFox1]

Now i’m bad guy.

[@radfoo72]

lol

[@evilsaint42]

This applicable to men and woman and goes far beyond just dating advice. 👏👏👏👏 Thank you.

[@aaronchester6737]

I'm a nice guy but always in the friend zone. So now I've given up hope on Women. I've had it with being rejected by women. 😕

[@Higher_human1]

stop being a nice guy and start being a good man

[@erikbergum2586]

Be kind and friendly towards women. Not nice. Huge difference

[@ALFfan1]

The more I work on myself The less I realize I don’t like being nice at all, or kind

[@CrowArchery5150]

I've always said that nice guys and nice girls are those who do things based off of an idea of expecting a certain result vs. doing something just because it's the right thing to do. Women can smell that from a mile away.

[@TomFox1]

Great video as always

[@CoachSteveJandS]

Even worse than finishing last, they languish in middle-management... 😮

[@regisjohnathan]

We went from being best friends to lovers then she told me one day that she loves me but she feels like she can't love me atm that shit broke my heart why build the bond that connection with someone then push the person you claim to love and care for away

[@DanFeldman-Edge]

How does one develop a crush on a woman that they have not even had a chance to know? Are you referring to an attraction to just her physical attributes?

[@MephiasLisenga]

Like to hear from every time you post.❤

[@3SRtales]

As a man make sure to reject a couple of women here and there and create an abundance mindset. It will do magic in your favour.

[@ApolloniaPonti]

reject the ones who aren't right for you.

[@pen2009]

Don’t reject women just for the sake of rejecting - you only reject those that you don’t want in your life

[@3SRtales]

Thats what I actually meant. Women do this all the time.

[@ShadowNash108]

This is a highly requested video and 💯 big facts about why the nice guy syndrome is the ultimate killer of attraction. Don't forget to create a nice guy syndrome recovery course program so men can begin their journey of recovering nice guy first before learning how to attract the right woman.

[@ApolloniaPonti]

I appreciate you and you have inspired me to create a program about overcoming the nice guy syndrome. Appreciate you! I know how important it is to do. See it far too much now. :-) Best, Apollonia

[@CHill-tj4gw]

Great video I never been a nice guy

[@davidb7358]

Thank you!

[@oh.boi.keepyaheadup]

that's just the way it is something's will never change. still I see no changes cause I am a victim of battered man type syndrome suffering psychological victim of damage goods. I cant get out of the life cycle of abuse.

[@radfoo72]

You can be masculine and comfortable with your sense of self confidence and still be nice and polite towards women. I am those things and I'm assertive too yet the majority of women I have encountered in my lifetime look down on me like they rather have a bully who pushes them around and mistreats them🤔 Being nice alone is not enough, I get that but I'm not just cordial. There's so much more to me as a person with character and personality yet the only person who validates me is Me. Have you ever considered that maybe the common denominator here is women shafting eligible suitors? Couldn't that actually be a part of the problem resulting in rampant singleness among current and younger generations? I'm traditional and respectful in my ways yet I'm deemed "a nice guy" and basically stigmatized for being a gentleman. The math doesn't add up yet men are saddled with carrying All of the blame.

[@ApolloniaPonti]

OH this is such a great comment. I need to answer this on Instagram. Do you follow me there? Please look at stories soon as I will get to this today. This is such a wonderful question with so many points I want to mention. :-) instagram.com/apollonia_ponti/

[@coltenkelso5764]

@@radfoo72I know that this comment was a while ago. But it’s them bro not you. Nice guys think that there is something wrong with themselves when really it’s the woman. It’s their emotional issues.

[@smiles7631]

Great video! Thank you.

[@Krizbonz]

Nailed it 😂

[@ELCHNO-zl7lv]

I need help I’m lost the women I love she ask for space and now I’m stuck if I move on or I wait for her she stop looking for me or call or texting me and but still wants in her life and still help me but I’m at where if can’t be together them let’s cut all ties cause it’s been 3 months now and I believe that’s a lot of space I feel lost confused and unloved and there was not no cheating involved I admit I fell off for a bit and couldn’t help her and she lost hope in me

[@JeffersonRah]

I'm trying to distinguish the difference between the nice guy trying to do it slowly vs being confident enough to just do it and get her number

[@ApolloniaPonti]

The first approach isn't "nice guy" syndrome. Nice guy syndrome comes down to behaviors on how you go about the courting, attraction and dating process. Makes sense? Let me know :-) -Apollonia

[@JeffersonRah]

@ApolloniaPonti it's a gym environment. I approached her. Had a good-short conversation with her but never got her number(I just assumed every guy would on the first intereaction). 2nd interaction it was a quick topic on how she was doing. 3rd it was almost like she cut it off quick. 3rd no hi or acknowledgement. Was I too slow or not witty/upfront enough?

[@marksallai2289]

if you have the edge and they are into you they can give your there number happened to me - and even buy you a drink

[@jayc5756]

​@@JeffersonRahYou should've got it on the 2nd. But this is how I do it...if it's a quick conversation 1st convo...then you can wait til the next convo to holla at her again and get her #. If yall had a convo for a few minutes the 1st time, you could've easily got her number bro.

[@JeffersonRah]

@jayc5756 yeah that's what I was thinking but I felt like I should try to cook it a little longer

[@mikecallahan4499]

I recently was tried with someone a 3rd time. I messed up on the 1st two times. I was broken After telling her I would like a relationship with after getting to know each other better. She wanted to be friends. I made my intentions clear and it seemed she understood. The 2nd conversation we had about us, after going out together about a dozen times. She questioned me about my intentions. Again I thought we were on the same page, but the very next week I could tell she was pulling back. On 4th of July she tried to friend zone me and I told her if we were not on the same page I would humbly move on. She agreed. I never showed any discomfort or fear of losing her, but here we are. I feel like she confused and deceived me. What are your thoughts?

[@fernandokausel4925]

Being vocal about our opinions, being a bit aggressive (even if you're soft-spoken) and a little selfish is natural for most of us, yet we still struggle to find partners. The main differentiator between being desirable vs more of a friend/brother (there's a lot of value in that too, btw!) to a girl is being comfortable with your own sexuality & don't be afraid of rejection. Don't ever be afraid to escalate things, while always be respectful of her boundaries; if she gets uncomfortable or tells you, immediately back-off, but also understand this is part of it, she might reciprocate when she's ready later on. And for when you get results, be comfortable with the sexual tension and teasing; I understand that as a man you're taught to respect women above all else, and you should, but women love sex just as much as you and I do, they just happen to have standards. So, to my fellow brothers out there, if you are living a fulfilled life, you have meaningful friendships, and you're content with who you are and your purpose, yet you still struggle with women (or men if that's your jam) I'd say, do not be afraid of being a human being, and let your sexuality show! If there's a girl you're talking to and find attractive, don't hesitate to get closer and slowly escalate. Touch her shoulder, see how she reacts and get the feedback (context appropriate though, do not do this at work lol.)

[@miltonpowell9520]

Facts🔥🔥🔥

[@h8rmgnt144]

Appolonia ponti are u a giver or taker? I need to know for research purposes 🥰

[@briar35981]

AP is dead on with these points. If you don't possess self confidence, a Stoic mindset, and exhibit strong masculine qualities. You don't need to deal with women at all. They will take your soul if you let them. Believe me, if you can find any other way to have a happy and fulfilling life. Please give that a chance first. If you do decide to try relationships with the ladies. Please study and research relationships prior. If you have watched AP's content for any amount of time. She is always right on with her information. Now scroll thru her content. Do you see all the information that you must process to be anywhere near successful ? The possible scenarios and situations. Do's and don'ts. Tips, tricks, and secrets. Look out for this. Look for that when she says this. Don't do this when she does that. This woman has 1000's of hours of information for men to use for what? Dealing with women? You could have a college degree in the time it would take to learn and apply all this. Life is short and time is your greatest resource. Use it wisely. Cause no one gets out alive.

[@ApolloniaPonti]

appreciate you.

[@jonathonpaille4865]

Thank you

[@SaveShop]

You’re a rock star✴✴✴✴✴

[@ApolloniaPonti]

Appreciate you and the support. :-)

[@jaswahn]

oooo that terrifies me.....

[@comitosway]

Hey Coach, so if we’re on a first date or second date, do we open the door for for our date the car door, the restaurant door?

[@ApolloniaPonti]

Always I've been with my husband 8+ years and he still does. AND holds my bags (not my purse, unless needed. lol)

[@hellswindstaff91]

Long time follower if your work Apollonia. I was always taught to be nice and respectful to women. Im comfortable and confident with women but i feel like it doesn't matter anymore. Ive dated women and dealt with their issues and always been supportive through good and bad times. Guess im doomed

[@ApolloniaPonti]

Hi there- I'm so sorry to hear this. It does not have to be this way as I know the feeling is tough. Have you thought abut investing in my membership or coaching so we can get to the specifics and see if we can change things around. :-) Here is a link to my 7-day free trial to my membership: membership.apolloniaponti.com/checkouts/membership-quarterly-7-day-free-trial/ Best, Apollonia

[@hellswindstaff91]

​@@ApolloniaPontiI actually registered today and have a session booked! Thanks think I'll need it I must be doing things wrong

[@Some_Cat_]

Ifaic, if you don't want a nice anyone, you shouldn't be in a relationship. The "standards" are rubbish and the mind games are a waste of time and a social burden. Nice isn't the problem, people who think it is are the problem.

[@rayromo7222]

its all part of the plan

[@roarchristoffersen]

I wonder why the natural instinct in women makes them feel turned off by the nice, listening and empathetic guys. I mean that's how a modern woke 2024 guy should be right ?? No matter which culture we're living in, we can't deny that our instincts are the same as 10000 years ago. A man that doesn't stay firm on his values and are not willing to fight off "intruders" and protect his family is not worth much... Knowing all this, I've fallen into the same nice guy trap lately. It's hard to navigate in the mass media bullshit about gender equality and so on. Recently I heard in the radio (I'm from DK) that young men are turning more conservative/to the right and young women are turning more left... Is that a healthy way to go for our culture ? I think not. It's about time that men dares to be men again!

[@miltonpowell9520]

2 , they are a man, 3 they can walk away, and is seen as high value to the woman.

[@curiosoneee]

Again the the man has to have it all together . the woman , all she has to do is smile and look good .

[@jermainepatterson3213]

Epic video be u and confident in u and right woman will like u not a false version of u

[@PrezidentHughes]

"Don't want to make her uncomfortable 'for some reason'."? Do we not live in the METOO era? 🤔

[@nobodysperfect06]

It's probably because women are born with value, men have to prove they have value. If you are a man who lacks the ability to be playful and put others at ease with stimulating conversation, interactions, especially if you are not good looking, society simply doesn't give a care about you AT ALL. Women will usually have someone propositioning them at all times regardless of their weight, looks, age, or personality. Women are in abundance by default, women are always guaranteed options or attention from Men for simply just existing or for hust simply having a pulse. When the titanic sank, men were shot if they tried to get on the lifeboats over the women and children. Men are basically utilities to promote the consumption society that is largely female driven, as their genetic drives pushes them to improve themselves to essentially impress and win over women as a main genetic goal having to out-compete with other men. This includes giving their lives for said women, but of course not all men share these traits and many hate, resent being placed in this role.

[@alex_chugaev]

What the hell are,you talking about? What a sad bs, my Lord 🤦‍♂️

[@roberthagedorn290]

Women view nice guy lack of confidence out of the bed as equaling lack of confidence in the bed. They don't want to go there to even give the nice guy a chance to prove otherwise. Lack of confidence and boredom are two items at the very top of the list of things women cannot handle. So off they go with Chad, Tyrone, Ray-Ray, and Pookie.

[@miltonpowell9520]

Yes

[@handsomedubbledee]

Nice guys finish last in America

[@dieseltu1035]

You should rephrase this to damaged women seek damaged men. Which is about 80 percent of women. Us nice guys are married in nuclear families. And wives who do what. They are susposed to do..not what they want ro do. or well on our way to retirement with everything paid for and you arent participating ..we aint playing your games .

[@LOLROTFHAHA]

How is a single mother the expert? THIS MAKES NO SENSE!

[@TheAce1991x]

Go to jail for 5 years come back out with tats with deep pockets and that will land u a hot girl a promise

[@Jason.cbr1000rr]

Im a nice guy, but grew up a bad boy, im still really nice but i will try to be more.. "tough" Weird thing is my niceness actually attracts a lot of women and they always have interest in me, probably my looks and personality. Funny, cool, smart, nice, kinda bad, and know and understand life in general i think thats why. Butt.. when i get into a relationship im way too nice, anything she wants ill give. Ill always buy and pay for food and anything. I think thay part makes me fall back, always paying for her. Food is ok. But when it comes to expensive bags/wallets w.e and ill get them it, a lot of times, i can see thats probably the problem. Idk how to say "no you buy your gucci wallet" lol id just say next time and then yeah. That was my ex, lasted a year and a month so 🤷‍♂️

[@kc270352]

the amount of "nice guy" videos I've seen on KZbin, its become so redundant now seriously 😂🙄

[@ApolloniaPonti]

Good news.