Introvert Men | Approaching Women | 5 Step Process For Success!

[@Trace7173]

Being an introvert as a man affects every area of your life. You are most likely to be past up professionally and socially. It's nice that you are attracted to introverted men but I believe you are the exception and not the rule!. Men are expected to make the first move in dating and when you are an introvert you let countless opportunities pass by. Unless you have an exceptional talent (music, art, etc) introverts are going to be overlooked. Life has been debilitating and quite lonely as an introvert!

[@nobodysperfect06]

It seems men are expected to get job promotions more than women are

[@donchello2128]

So what else is new

[@jonasnoack1875]

I really appreciate your advice. You are really overviewing the topic. Your videos are sparkling from foundation and passion ! Great work!

[@superburrito9436]

Smh missed opportunities

[@hebrewkazu]

Professionally, I somehow managed to learn to be quite fearless, I guess, because I tend to just know internally that I'm qualified for the opportunities I want. It's only in this area of my life that I stumble a lot...

[@fuadahmed6060]

Introverts are definitely the one woman type. I believe they don't wanna waste time on small talk and getting a second job by chasing after every woman they meet. Less talk, more silence and observations. I love having my own time but I still do enjoy spending time with the few close friends that I do have. Thanks Apollonia.

[@asdfoio]

I agree for the most part. But I want to touch on the wasting time on small talk. It depends on my mood and my relationship with the other person I'm making small talk with. A lot of the times, I feel small talk is a waste of time...I dont want to engage but I do for politeness. But sometimes i feel like making small talk because of the relationship, for ex, if i perceive them to be outgoing, im more willing to be outgoing myself. or if we already know each other, and we know whats up with each other. and so forth. For the most part, I hate small talk. But there are instances where small talk brings up my mood and positivity.

[@slxbeats8146]

Aye you took the words out of my mouth....i can relate Broo✌️i feel like we understand each other in a way...at least we know why😂😂😂 i really not a fan of small talk or making small talk however i try my best to at least start conversation with people (strangers now and then) but it depends on my mood. Sometimes having i lil talk with people uplifts me a bit..

[@but199018]

This is me all day!

[@danielnesbit1710]

I agree

[@thunderclap4974]

Why would someone go out when they don’t even drink?! We all can have a great time without drinking, but it sure can be fun as well 👍🏼🥴....... Just don’t overdo it!

[@kevingeorge3169]

With being an introvert and having depression, I can't count how many times I've talked my self out of approaching and talking to women with all the negative thoughts that invade my head.

[@Awaiting_YHWHs_Return]

kevin george i hate it man

[@YeshuaIsTheTruth]

Most people feel similarly, even women. Unless she's giving you obvious signs that she doesn't want to talk to you, you're probably doing her a favor by talking to her. Why? Because, who doesn't want more friends with the potential for something more? Don't make a woman feel like she has to come up to you just to be able to socialize. They hate making the first move more than introverted men do.

[@arkyboy14]

Same

[@thehustleofvince3327]

You can surpass this! Remember "growth isn't soft, growth is painful "

[@xMCxVSxARBITERx]

Yeeah 😔

[@ModernDatingMastery]

*It’s not about changing who you are, but finding ways to leverage your strengths.*

[@mwloos1]

So basically after a woman has been through the ringer in her youth, the introvert with the stable job gets her. Ok, got it!

[@B_Rha]

💯

[@M33-f9t]

Yeah, good thing they look for you to toss them a life preserver, lol. You get her after she's spent.

[@SennaSaopaolo]

Why Bey a cow if you get the milk for free

[@TruckerJohn97]

Stay red my brotha

[@4evafanboy]

So as a introvert in his early 20s I'm shut out of luck

[@robireland2831]

I am an introvert and my wife was an extrovert. We complemented each other all the time. She was Spanish on her dad's side. She had attitude and life was never boring. We were married for almost 18 years, before she died of cancer.

[@jessed9429]

I am truly sorry to hear that

[@rturae]

I have a decent job. Currently in the best shape I've ever been. Live alone. People tell me I'm attractive. Yet I still have a really hard time talking to women (for some reason now more than ever). Not trying to flex or show off but I'm 30 now and used to think having all these things would make life easier yet I still feel painfully awkward talking to people like I did when I was a teen. I guess the lesson here is despite having more, I'm still a little boy deep down. Life's a constantly learning and relearning process.

[@wonderboy2402]

Internet Drifter this maybe weird, but I work with a lot of women. I am an introvert, and what has been working for me is actually practicing my social and flirting skills... with married women. Yes, married women. I know I will not pursue a romantic relationship with this person but it is great way to practice flirting and Evaluate female responses. There is little risk and it is treated as a exercise by me. Then take what has worked and start applying to available females. Your confidence will build with the more encounters, practice and experience. Doing this in front of other females also shows you are comfortable around women... might even encourage competition for your attention.

[@davemoody4517]

Internet Drifter I’m 59 y/o, I’ve been single for 15 years and I’d give anything to be 30 again. You have a gift . . . your gift is you have something to offer a woman. Not just any woman, she’s the woman that’s worthy of you. Stop going out telling the world with your actions and body language that you don’t think much of yourself. Stop being result oriented, if you scored every other night, that would be fun for about a week and you’d realize that life is just as empty and hallow with the complications of women madder than hell at you because they did you and you forgot them. I’ve done that and it’s unfulfilling at best. You have plenty of time to find the one that is right for you. Spend your time getting to know yourself, learning about who you are, being with the wrong woman is worse than being by yourself, and being result oriented has a stench that’s worse than body odor. Take care of yourself and be the guy girls have to prove they are good enough for, you are way more than you know.

[@PortingaleNightingale]

It is all in your head, bruv. Maybe you're "still a boy deep down"... Nicely put.

[@michaelt2596]

I feel you

[@FrancescoMaceri]

Dude I’m in the same MF boat as you!!

[@jimmiesmith8925]

Good Points , being an Introvert male is tough because we are normally comfortable in our own energy and typically try to be sure before we approach her because we protect or try to shield our self from what we perceive as negative energy. And sometimes rejection when we think we are sure about a woman can be that negative energy. It's different for me only slightly because of My career; I'm always facing new people I don't know having to talk about uncomfortable subjects so I have figured out how to get past it however when it comes to dating its still uneasy only because its typically some i want to get to know and then I get to in my head.

[@brianhoule3219]

If you're an introverted man, a damaged woman who's still getting over her problems will never understand you.

[@iJuanGutierrez]

Facts !

[@shahbajkhan8980]

Experienced! True

[@supersaiyan8437]

No cap 😂

[@MasterTSayge]

Real talk. The only women I approach are Extroverts. They are attractive, easier to talk to, and they don't play games.

[@terrywitzu7874]

Introverts are attractive? Well, don't let the other girls know I might get laid sometime before 2020.

[@jamespython5147]

Yeah I agree with you. Women like confident men, not introverts. That's why you see gorgeous girls with some loud dickhead.

[@B_Rha]

james python 😂😂😂😂

[@shubhamrathi5531]

Only 3 or 4 months are left then.

[@eonstar2441]

Running out of time fella

[@user-zy1oh8jk7j]

I'm an introvert. I get absolutely gorgeous women whenever I want. One difference between me a childish fools like you is I'm not looking to get "laid".

[@nicmuddmusic]

As an introvert, I almost never go to bars or clubs except with friends. I would much rather approach a woman at a meetup or event where we have something in common already. It helps skip past some of the small talk.

[@dukenukem5768]

WTF is a meetup event? How do you know you will have something in common before you meet?

[@RC--tw7em]

@@dukenukem5768 conventions, sporting events, stuff like that

[@bigblack111]

@@dukenukem5768, club events that encourage people to share their hobbies together can be one type. Another one would be events held in religious places where people who usually share the same ideology towards a religion gather.

[@joaolucasbraga4642]

What kind of events?

[@cesar.arrano]

Never in MY LIFE has a girl told me she finds me sexy/interesting for being an introvert :-S

[@danlyon2191]

exactly

[@cristiangomezmontt6248]

The story of my life

[@italkshyt14]

That’s because you guys are LAME and introverted. I’m introverted and I get hella choosing signals because I still have swagger. Get your swagger up..... loser

[@kylejackson7176]

@@italkshyt14 do not insult other introverts, instead help them.

[@tranqwl77]

SAME

[@but199018]

I’m an introvert man for sure with so much to offer and I feel like I miss out on so many great opportunities with beautiful women because I worry about the wrong things.

[@dennisbarker5986]

I'm kinda a strange introvert . most of my life has been out of my comfort zone . people never understand why I hide .i was always pushed outside my comfort zone to keep friends and family happy . to took the worst path to escape them and joined the Marines .i pushed myself for 4 years and I learned a lot along the way . over thinking every thing in the Marines made it harder on me than the others I served with . she's telling the truth lady's really do love introverted men . it's all in the confidence you show .

[@itunes4819]

This is the only woman coach that I recommend to all, this coach is legit and know how Men think and behave

[@DannyWhite29]

Apollonia - thank you. The quality of your channels’ content pleases me. Being fully present in woman’s presence is true game it seems. The manifestation of invisible confidence.

[@ricardosherman9220]

Apollonia could have written an excellent thesis on the subject of the introverted man. Many women are attracted to my mysterious mystique, regardless of how hard I try to fly under the radar. Some women consider me handsome and charming, yet I see myself as average looking and reserved. I am very selective and have no tolerance for the drama queens or succumb to the thrill of the chase of pursuing women. The only downside to being chosen by women is that many married women or women in relationships share intimate moments and want to continue having these meetings or extended relationship, whereas my values are to not impeded upon another man's possessions.

[@iheanachochukwu2988]

ricardo sherman me likewise

[@mylesanderson2861]

True I have had 3 women all married touch me at work 2 had been married for 15 to 20 plus years and the other was engaged to be married. I met her fiancee it was really weird.

[@beachbum4166]

Same here man. I have a lot of women trying to get my attention even when they are with their boyfriend. Even my friends wife's are after me. Doesn't matter to them. I am very selective and I value character along with looks.

[@4H54N]

You know you are 100% accurate with your statement when our home girl herself likes the comment

[@coltenkelso5764]

Introverted man here. Watching this for motivation. Haven't approached a lot of women. Going to start though. I'm not even focused on actually getting the girls number to begin with. Just getting used to rejection. Because rejection happens 8 times out of 10 times. Also rejection is the main part that holds as back from approaching. But it is just like a bike. And once you get used to it and show yourself that it's okay to get rejected you can do it more. And eventually I feel the social skills and game come with doing it more.

[@bluemalibu1969]

"You are always Loved" Apollonia, I love that you end your videos with this phrase. I had to rewind the video to make sure I heard you right. My ex's daughter still calls me her step dad even well after her mother and I divorced. I have the love and pride for her any parent would have for their biological child, we are still very close. For several years either one of us has ended conversations with each other, mostly good bye's, with "Remember, You are always Loved!" Hearing you say it brought a flood of emotion to me. She has recently graduated college and has been telling me lately I should go on dates and find someone. Being an introvert it is not easy to keep a woman interested, if I can even get her attention. I've watched other dating coaching video's and none seamed very helpful. Finding your's and hearing you say those final words tells me I've finally found the right coach!:-) You seem really sincere when you say it. I just wanted to say I appreciate your channel, I'm your newest subscriber, and I'm an introvert.

[@seanmick3093]

I am a highly functioning autistic person known as asperger's disorder. Due to this medical condition, I struggle with intellectual skills in various ways, I also consider myself an introvert in various ways, and also I consider myself humble in various ways. Have yourself a wonderful day.

[@mustaphadoaa1024]

Thank you Apollonia. I find " tell me me more" tip preferable to me. You are really correct Apollonia about the attractiveness of the introvert, as i was an introvert. I want to tell you, as you know that i love talking to you. I was in my first year at high school and actually a girl approached me. She saw that i'm successful in class, but did not have relation with girls. I then got out of my shell and we love each now. I'm known as her man now. Allah bless you Apollonia.

[@HeatherGerhardt]

Wow Apollonia you are rocking this! And posting all the time! So great!

[@ApolloniaPonti]

Thank you Heather!

[@duanedobson302]

As this type of individual, I truly appreciate your heart (mind or mindset).This is my first view of this video and it seems to me that you understand my character better than myself. This coaching is helping me to understand the importance of being authentic as opposed to trying to do or be someone or something I’m not. I will keep this in my file and review and take notes. I truly hope and wish u the best of success. I’m almost 53 and I still think I’m a work in progress. I’m just grateful for the referral and that I came across this video today as I was actually searching for a title a friend recommended . I believe your advice comes from an inside out paradigm. I’m just simply amazed by your insight. You articulated the exact types of thoughts that went through my mind in several occasions during the course of my life. (I actually felt it emotionally)

[@muneebow]

Lots of introverts don't feel comfortable admitting their feelings either. Speak of, why do some girls say "oh I'm just being friendly" or "I'm like that with everyone" when they are CLEARLY flirting and everyone around sees it too? Its so confusing.

[@thedroplett214]

so they can have more options available

[@atrainay]

Yeah dude. Show your emotions on your sleeve to a woman you don’t know is a sure fire way of getting rejected 😂🤣😅

[@monkeybubblessupperdude1016]

She's testing you....if you know she clearly flirting then you can see it...flirt back with her...trust me...I'm an introvert but lately I have been taking small steps...and while it might not lead to anything it will make you feel better about yourself....I also find that if I am talking to girls I know and know are in relationships I can talk to them confidently as we both know nothing is going to happen so there is no pressure ....I'm not going to ask her out or for her number and she's not going to have reject me....I know it sounds weird but that helps with my confidence..might not work for everyone but works for me

[@Fr_87]

@@monkeybubblessupperdude1016 Dude................. Stop u.......sing so many............ elipsis....................

[@skssuccess75]

Open ended questions definitely shows the level of interest in people in general. I learned this when studying sales and it's a way for that interest to be reciprocated back to you. I'm an introvert and it has worked for me. Another point you mentioned is to go to places that you're comfortable in. I'm not comfortable going to bars unless there's a salsa venue there. This has helped me to meet a lot of women. Great video!

[@ApolloniaPonti]

Thank you!

[@josephvalentine7]

Lol

[@trapgod3441]

I'm a introvert. I'm not shy, I just like to spend majority of my days alone. Don't listen to her. Women could never like an introvert off top because women like men with status or the most known guy.

[@lavans06]

Hold on...a random woman we approach wouldn't know our 'introvertedness'. She sees the confidence [eventual confidence when we figure that out] lol

[@coltenkelso5764]

It doesn't matter if you're an introvert or not. The fact is that if you're not confident enough to even approach a woman and start a conversation to begin with you mean nothing to her and you'll just be left and forgotten about. Also even if you get rejected, you were 2 out of 10 men probably that actually had the balls to go talk to her. Rejection happens most of the time. You rarely get the number or the girl. You just gotta treat it as a game honestly.

[@robblerouser5657]

I find it surprising that some women are attracted to introverted men. My life experience has shown me the exact opposite.

[@vitor613]

You need to be mysterious

[@silkroad1201]

You can still be cool and confident as an introvert. I think a lot of people misuse the term. Introverted doesn't mean "shy and self-conscious", it just means you're more comfortable inside your own head and gain energy from being alone. If you lack confidence, it's not your personality that needs work

[@M33-f9t]

I don't buy this stuff about women finding introverts "very attractive." I've not seen this materialize.

[@dukenukem5768]

Escorts prefer introverted men. They like quiet discrete men who don't make a fuss or try to bully them. And they will tell you (in fact most women will) that brash macho men are not necessarily good in bed.

[@orthotech9758]

Perhaps not all women, but from my own experience my girlfriend finds my being an introvert attractive. She knew I was attracted to her, and she waited on me for three months to ask her out even after two other guys taller with a greater physique than me hit on her. Most introverts, especially like me being an only child, are loyal to a fault. A woman that wants a serious relationship, not just FWB, would rather be with an introvert than someone charming. I don't make much money, I drive a car that only gets me from A to B, and live in a small apartment, but she cares nothing about that. She knows she has me and I'm not going anywhere. That's what women seeking a meaningful relationship want.

[@marcsorensen1184]

Im sure it depends on how you carry yourdelf as an introverted person. If you lack confidence, it wouldnt matter if you were an extrovert..women will see your body language.

[@enniswhalen2428]

@@marcsorensen1184 - But as you could see from Ortho Tech's point, a strong characteristic like loyalty actually trumped confidence.

[@romans8024]

Being introvert you can always move forward with your intelligence, sharp sense of humor, as well as your structured and detailed opinion. But you must wear those as integrated personality traits, and not as shield of cowardice and immaturity. And yes, it will take good portion of you depressed-ass youth to get closer to the factual truth of those traits. But trust me, those things create as much attraction as olimpic gold medals on guys of other type.

[@asphalthedgehog6580]

Introvert men only have a chance if the woman starts to talk with him, or is on the same project, where finally he may speak out. But he very probably will not make the first step, certainly if he's uncertain about his looks. The introvert men I know are mostly men with hobbies that women are not really interested in, like HiFi, cars, electronics. Some men seem to know quite a lot about nearly everything, from the living of ants to astronomy: curious as hell. To be honest: I have not met women with that 'feature'. It's hard to talk about a passion with someone who's not really interested. They just have to meet the woman that knows these passions can be very important and do not say anything about personality (he's a nerd...).

[@jasonlim4408]

Apollonia you always have great content, keep up for great videos! :)

[@ApolloniaPonti]

Thank you, Jason! :)

[@sobibawa]

Impressed by the fact that you appreciate your followers,very humble.Watched and subscribed

[@NevanRead]

I'm a 24 year old introvert and have had multiple negative experiences with women my age and I have decided to stay single for the rest of my life, because I don't want to get another rejection.

[@datstovey]

I've had many negative experiences and I personally gave up approaching women

[@barrycopithorne]

If introverted men were so wanted then why haven't I had a gf in almost 10 years? The facts are most woman don't. They say they like the good guy who's loyal and sweet but they usually go for the dirtbag who has slept with everyone. In Canada this fad has grown with more people especially woman going into open and poly type relationships. Being rejected and not being chased by woman has basically made me step into Men Go There Own Way area. And it's not about really being chased, but woman tend to give up easily for some reason if the guy is really introverted or even autistic. But craves that woman's attention and he is a slow one to get into the right position for that first kiss. Cause maybe he was severely hurt by another woman. So he needs some time. He just really needs love and attention and he will fall for you completely.

[@drummonkeystuffuk1875]

Im both inroverted and autistic, Life is definitely rigged gainst me, lost every job i've had, invisible to women, cant read people or social cues..Now 36, I may aswell just give up and call it quits.

[@user-cz4kt4cw1u]

It’s the moustache haha

[@Cyne116]

Woah! You're speaking my language! Let's hope I follow these tips.

[@YeshuaIsTheTruth]

I really like the how, what, when, where, why tip.

[@donaldgrazette9709]

Your videos always seem to put me in space of introspective thought..I truly enjoy the energy you share with us.

[@nobodysperfect06]

This was a comment or statement I read somewhere, it said: "because EVERY group of men has to learn courtship as it's learned behavior, you aren't born with the innate ability to flirt with women straight out of the womb. It's something that's taught as part of institutional knowledge and oral tradition passed on from your brothers, fathers, etc." Because of that, I like to feel that it's literally only men who need to know or learn how to get a date or how to get a girlfriend or attract women, not the other way around, because honestly, how is it that women need to know or learn dating and attraction skills, when they don't have to take any social action or take the lead in anything or lead the interaction, initiate anything on their part, don't have to do the courting? Typically you learn in life through taking action and doing, and since women are passive, I don't see what they have to learn or do.

[@nobodysperfect06]

@boganus699 plus, it takes skill and practice to become a good Hunter, but it doesn't take skill or any practice to become or just learn how to be Prey

[@scottphillips7612]

Welcome to manhood we got two options deal with it or jerk off

[@ArcticSeraph]

I find confident, intelligent and driven women very attractive. However I don't have the courage to approach them or know how to start a conversation.

[@rosenberg6060]

Thats not your type

[@awaheddyson9122]

It's so exhausting being an introvert

[@domesticatedgoyim404]

Exactly, it's almost like extraverts are vampirically draining your energy on a cosmic level whenever you're around them.

[@emekaabuah3431]

I'm an introvert so this is useful. I especially like the "tell me more about that" question and being in a comfortable environment.

[@Beast70]

Your approach is nice, and easy to follow. I wish I had these tips when I was younger. At this stage in life, I have completely given up on dating or even of meeting someone. I'm an introvert, but women were never interested in me. The tip I was always given was to be more outspoken, more extroverted, etc. It never worked, came off badly. If you are an introvert, then give her approach a try. Maybe it will work for you.

[@poohagainagain]

biggest problem for me is actually going up to a girl with no context and start talking the approach, if there is context say work mate, uni, college, friends introduction away i go but alas i don't have any of these things.

[@abadi173]

man i like brutal honesty

[@iprefurr]

I remember falling in love with someone who was a waitress and one day she was folding napkins at the counter. I'll never forget when we shared eye contact and a smile. . . It was beautiful! I had many chances to ask her out but I just couldn't. I sometimes wonder what could have been. . .

[@4H54N]

You could of said something like.. so when did you plan on approaching me and asking me out?. Its funny, its confident, its deff what an introvert is thinking. So why not make the most out of what your thoughts are. Turning your thoughts into a witty, manipulative, approach on a woman can be super confident to a woman. And that's all it takes to get her interested.

[@keneillithium8525]

😁 first self help video I found that actually made me fee good about being me !!!

[@persistentbc6889]

Keneil Lithium SO TRUE, I’m sitting here thinking the same thing.

[@derekdwaah5839]

Totally unrelated but I use the same Spider-Man 3 image as my avatar 👍🏿

[@chaosdweller]

Well when a pretty woman bend the truth to make people like u and I feel good, they make quality $$$ lol

[@abhisekrout8522]

I am an introvert. I have been liking her for last 5 years but could never tell her. She approached me herself and we are now together.

[@bridawg24]

I'm an introvert. A little shy but not to the point of not being able to talk to a woman. My main problem is when I approach a woman that shows interest in me, she gets extremely nervous. This makes it very hard to talk to her. I always attract this type of woman for some reason.

[@datboymike9650]

Vin Chung I have the same problem bro

[@ApolloniaPonti]

Hello Vin, Continue to ask her questions and if you feel a connection tell her she does not have to be nervous around you. Call her nervousness out but also comfort it. She might deny it but it will loosen up the energy. -Apollonia

[@4H54N]

@@ApolloniaPontiinfact this is why men stick to being the "nice guy" bc after calling her out..this is usually when it gets even more uncomfortable in my experiences. This is literally where I platueo in all my connections with women. Edit: a video to elaborate on this would be awesome!

[@terryjoeljunior]

Great video! I just figured out I was an introvert this year and i'm 24 years of age! Took time to recognize that from being in a toxic family environment my whole life of people trapping me and preventing me from being myself! I am now free thank God

[@michaelruiz4509]

Thank you for putting the video i did not know i was an introvert never heard of that word good to know

[@markjoseph4135]

Great content Apollonia. Thank you

[@loufaulk6812]

Thank you this was very helpful I like the part about staying calm because I get nervous and tend to stop making eye contact so saying tell me more about that is something I'm going to start using when I feel myself getting nervous when talking with a woman

[@lincbond442]

I wish I had a dime for every time I have started a friendly conversion with a woman and she brings up her boyfriend within the first minute.

[@shahidmufti795]

Definitely. I can't even count that high based upon my experiences too.

[@carmeloanthony2784]

Try some gum

[@acts1711-bg4gs]

Currently a 36 y/o male, just found out I'm an introvert. And your enthusiasm is encouraging. You deserve the commendation. Thank you for sharing your input.

[@danielbradley5255]

What other introverted men over 30 see the irony of wasting over 12 yrs since high school to realize we didn't need the feather to fly, that we always had it in us. We naturally just too humble, shy & of course never one to draw ANY kind of attention. (I remember at least 2 birthdays as a child where I actually cried when my cake with candles came out and people sang "happy birthday" for me)

[@alb12345672]

I am an introvert but it is just too late for me, I do love your content. I"m 47. I never asked a girl out, just had this unreal fear of whatever. Maybe because I was raised by women. I have social anxiety and aspergers, I did have girls definitely show interest(even complimenting me) in me but I was so oblivious. People told me so and so is looking at you, but I couldn't make the move. A girl even sat on my knee for weeks at work. I had one relationship with a woman and she couldn't get enough of me. I also did all the wrong things, I used to cook for her, clean, etc. She kind of liked it though. Another mistake, I should have married her. I was also brought up very strict and I'm still a virgin. I never partied, drank or smoked. I work out but I'm naturally thin so I don' t really build muscle, and I'm only 5'10". I watch lots of self help videos but it is nothing more than entertainment to me at this point. I make over $100/hr but even with all this money I'm invisible to women. I think women today seek model tier younger guys, and while I'm not ugly I'm certainly not model tier, and being under 6' is a big turnoff too. Women just care about what a guy looks like and any other quality is meaningless. Women say otherwise but if it was true I wouldn't be perpetually single. Money does not make you happy, I can assure you of that, I'm actually quite depressed. Guess it is meant for me to die alone :(. I'll never have a wife or kids. Only advice I have is younger guys reading this take action now. So much easy to digest self improvement that wasn't available 10, 20 or 30 years ago :(.

[@Daysdontexist]

Dude forget the past this life is all an illusion, find inner peace and enlightenment, and don't give up you will be successful, read echhart tolle - the power of now !

[@HTX.Jose28]

alb12345672 Thanks for the comment i really needed to hear this. I have social anxiety as well and if I don't take action that's going to be me when I get older except for the 100 dollars and hour. I'm also so oblivious to know if a girl likes me. it's not too late man you make good money all you have to do is put yourself out there and I'm sure a woman will say yes. Don't give up I can relate to every thing you wrote

[@Concatenate]

Don't focus on past failures as if they determined your future. The future hasn't happened yet. I'm in the same boat, man, feeling like I let the past 20 years just die without any hope. But feeling like that doesn't help anything at all. What you need to do is get into a social circle with something you're interested in. Maybe take a college class or something. Just get around new people with similar interests. It's so much easier to strike up a conversation when you're around other people of a similar interest. Gotta take a few stabs, man, ask women out on a date, more than one! Just go for it. Think of yourself as having died and never experienced asking a woman out. Refuse to die like that. Insist something better for yourself.

[@l2ebel96]

Women chase men who are driven, decisive and personable. But for real tho... as long as you can hold a conversation with any human being, YOU HAVE POTENTIAL! Remember that. Don't focus on your past, my guy! There is still time to find someone. I volunteered at a nursing home, and have met residents who still have it going on (if you know what I mean xD), at the ripe age of 70+! Here's this: *Try something different* Refresh your mindset. Start meditating. Pick up a new (or old) hobby. And instead of watching videos, go out and try something you enjoy! As she said: "Start going to environments that are comfortable for you!"... Then you WILL meet someone with similar interests and get that relationship you've been seeking all along. I highly recommend reading, "The Secret" by Rhonda Byrnes. This book changed my mindset, when my dad gifted it to his insecure, socially awkward 20-year-old son a few years back. It's all about your positive affirmations, thankfulness and the fundamental law of attraction. It's really done wonders for me, man! I'm in medical school pursuing my goal of becoming a physician and am working into a beautiful relationship with a girl, who might be the one! Anyways, I pray the best for you! Keep your head up and things WILL WORK FOR YOU! Just like how someone believed in me, I believe in you too!

[@raiden0801]

You are awesome! Nothing wrong being single

[@peternewman7940]

There is something rock solid about Apollonia's advice. And her wonderful reassurance! She does us guys an enormous favor. Many thanks Apollonia.

[@initiatorhater0688]

that's why i'm a fan of the belief, that men go through growth more than women do, as a result of improving your dating life, it's okay for women to by shy, quiet, and awkward but not the other way around

[@josephvalentine7]

You gone get in the game or sit on the bench .

[@billytrummer5589]

This is the single best resource I have seen for "the process of it all"--you have no idea how thankful I am seriously ur the fuckin best

[@PhotoLabMP]

Some women may like introverted guys to a certain extent but a relationship never lasts long. A guy that's not an alpha male usually ends up getting played or cheated on or laughed at behind his back by his girlfriend's friends because he does good guy stuff. That's why I stay single.

[@skinnyduggy100.7]

The comment about being in an environment that's comfortable when trying to rap, was helpful.

[@nelsonmolina1846]

Yes, putting ourselves in the right environment is a great strategy, like battles in the old days, all about choosing the right field to fight, hold higher ground.

[@dukenukem5768]

Please give examples of these environments. What if the "right" environment does not have any girls in it? The very presence of girls WITHIN SIGHT makes me nervous, even shaking, so I would never meet a girl in the "right" environment - their presence makes it uncomfortable. Anyway, they are always already with a guy.

[@lordmu38]

I appreciate hearing that there are women who do want an introvert man. I also love how you say woman instead of women. It's the sexiest grammar thing ever.

[@matasuki]

You're channel is gonna blow up. This is some real good advice. A unique perspective for introverts. Go in with a plan. I really like that.

[@ApolloniaPonti]

Thank you matasuki! Such a nice comment to see. Appreciate it!

[@JWES20]

This was so helpful. I’m gonna try these when I go out next time

[@vegangsta5338]

Wow you got it spot on the first 2mins you hit the nail on the head. I'm exactly like that. Now to carry on watching the rest of the video.

[@GratefulButGreedy]

This woman has NEVER led me wrong

[@GenXer82]

Thanks for the great info. Getting dating tips from the "female perspective" is very helpful for us guys!

[@bchad566]

😳I'm an introvert male ...this video just gave me confidence

[@TweelingzielenTheHeartPath]

I 100% agree with what you say, I believe that those men are very loyal and kind.

[@abdouyousif41]

This video was really very helpful and the way you explain the points proves that you're a professional psychologist who treated many people I appreciate that a lot ! God bless you

[@persiah7779]

Although I'm an introvert, I got offered a job to start djing at 24. I was a virgin with no game, but bc I was the focal point of where the good time was coming from, girls would naturally talk to me. On nights that I was drunk, it was easy to carry on conversations and not overthink things. I became comfortable in that role and slept with my fair share of women. Now, 30 years old and no longer djing in a club type of environment, I find it very difficult to approach women and keep conversations going. I feel like I'm in the twilight zone. I've approached several women over the last 5 years and got rejected. I continue to try when I find someone interesting, but now it's been a year and a half since I've tried. Just not sure what to do.

[@MyGenericYTC]

Try not to 'chase' after women. "Let 'em chase you!" - Morgan Freeman

[@malpaw2371]

I feel like a lot of people are against being around introverts because they assume we’re boring. We ain’t (always) boring. I just don’t want to be at the bar, club, etc I still love music (even concerts), traveling, have tons of hobbies, a lot of interests and knowledge. It used to be that I didn’t want to be around a lot of people that people didn’t wanna chill with me Now shit’s hella different in my late 20’s compared to early 20’s People LOVE being friends with introverts (or at least me as an introvert) cuz we don’t need people to have fun, I can have fun no matter what and I also help a lot of people just relax when they are are extroverts (I mostly date extroverts lol) but extroverts are used to having to talk or engage all the time. Not me fam, Im comfortable just chillin no matter what I’m doing. People at parties and my friends say they love that they can always rely on me to just be chill. Ive gotten friends who always gotta be on the move to just enjoy even just sitting and fishing even when there’s no cell service.

[@jeremy339]

You’re beauty runs deep.

[@DEMETRIUSblaze]

Thanks Apollonia lovely video informative as always nice you too hear the good of being a introverted male sometimes men that are get advice doesn't make sense to us. I always talk myself in my mind out of talking to a lovely woman, loved the pyramid idea of words and questions, also open ended questions and detailed answers, you shined a good light on how introverted Males are Misperceived Thanks for the video

[@ApolloniaPonti]

You're welcome!

[@csd2615]

I am an introvert and an HSP with an artistic bent, for which I need extended periods of solitude for quiet reflection. The presence of an attractive and available woman in my life is psychologically destabilizing, especially if she is loud and inarticulate.

[@dantarradellas7351]

Amazing. Never have I heard anyone before address introvert male approach issues, and specially, so effectively. Brilliant. Thanks Apollonia

[@dfresh9565]

Thank you. It's nice to know it's not just me.

[@keikei79]

Nah, been on 1,5 dates in my whole life like 20 something years ago and it took me 15 years to get over those awkward memories (thanks brains). We all die alone anyway, so I don't really bother myself with that social nonsense anymore. I'm happier as a hermit.

[@kpham8789]

I am an extreme introvert guy. From a very young age, I was constantly told that I'm not good enough to compete in anything. I so many word, I was shelter from the world. Being around female was a big taboo. One time, a girl from school called me about a homework problem, my parents found out about it, I got grounded for a week. Later on in life, I always have a fear of approaching women. All of the girls I've date in the pass, approached me. I never know what to say or how to act but somehow they wanted to stay with me. I have never had to work for it. As you can tell, they don't approach me any more. Now, I have to learn how to approach, how to talk, keep the conversation going and make it interesting. This is something I should have known earlier in life. I can't blame it on anyone or thing. The blame is on myself.

[@a.g.3144]

i like these videos soo much ;) helpful great examples like real. Makes it sound so easy :D

[@nelsonmolina1846]

Staying positive and getting rid of any self negative talk is vital

[@ApolloniaPonti]

YES YES YES!

[@JerryLee..]

Introvert here. I love a woman who knows what she wants and approaches me. Of course, I need to get better at social queues.

[@JaeTeezy1]

Popped up in my recommendations. Interesting video since I’m an introvert. I’m still hella scared of talking to woman but over the years I figured out how to manage it. I usually start off with something I like, shoes, hair etc. as an opener and since I’m weird it translates into me being naturally funny. Based off of the laughter I receive back it usually gives me a sign on if she’s interested or not. Call it a 6th sense but that’s just how it is...for me anyways.

[@zantigar]

You most definitely get my thumbs up! For anyone with intelligence, everything you say makes good sense. I love your warmth and positive, no nonsense approach. It's not like this is rocket science, but it's great how you take what qualities already exist in us introverts and emphasize which ones should be brought out and up front. Excellent stuff!!!

[@ronaldwilliams9635]

It don't seem like women like introverted men💯 I'm introverted

[@datstovey]

Women don't

[@srobs4]

Is it weird that I’m 30 years old and I am just now interested in the thought of having a family? I never took women seriously as a younger man because of the thought of divorce through my parents failed marriage. But I realize now that I want a family for myself and want to share life with a significant other.

[@hectorbanuelos7183]

concise and to the point answers or examples. I am quiet and good listener.

[@Kedingamusic]

There's more to life than socialising and approaching women.All the time ,money and energy u waste on socialising n approaching women can be channelled into ur career, education,etc. Introverts are generally very intelligent,pay attention to details, noted for their high level of performance, simply because they don't easily get distracted. Note that u can b an introvert n yet very confident. The best footballers, scientists, actors , performers,etc are introverts.

[@bigwilly43729]

I’m introverted because I don’t want her to know I’m crazy, lol.

[@davidmadisontheguardian]

Agree AND don't be afraid to DISAGREE WHEN or IF you have a different opinion. Always seeking harmony is boring; and shows that you're afraid to show any personality. She doesn't want a freaking reflection... she wants the back and forth dynamic. Good video though. These are great guidelines, keeping the questions open, who, when, where, why, how, what (the reporter questions - as I like to call them), and then using SITUATIONAL CONTEXT to CREATE CONGRUENCY in your CONVERSATION. So... commenting on your immediate environment, a timely issue that you both care about, herself and her motivations, dreams, fears, what have you (but doing this in a soft way, or a way that doesn't just smack her in the face right away with deep, personal stuff all at once). Compliment sparingly and genuinely. Not just to get a reaction or response from her; but as an authentic witnessing of her beauty, character, choice of style, or even lifestyle. She can feel the difference. Break out some poetry (if you're a poet); but do this SPARINGLY. She TRUSTS a man who will let her know about her weak points or that part of her character or choices that you DON'T like. She'll feel attracted to the man who combines a bit of BOTH... what he likes about her and what he doesn't. And when you do this... let your emotions swell to the proportion of how much something bothers you or how much you appreciate it. If it affects you; but little... then avoid the extremes of a flat voice and mannerisms; as well as over the top antics. But if you FEEL it... let it out. Both men AND women respond more readily to EMOTIONS; unless they've spent a great deal of time, curbing their own emotions and responses to those emotions. Whenever I see someone showing a few signs of that - I look to see if my initial misgivings were accurate; and if they are... get out of there quick. I don't want to deal with anyone who is a robot; or thinks that they are 'too cool for school'. You have emotions; we ALL do... get OVER it. And learn to make them work FOR you; rather than against you. End of rant for now! This particular video had much to do with the initial SCIENCE and MATHEMATICS of opening up a conversation, and attraction; but there will come a time, when you start delving into the ART. That's where the magic happens. That's when you say supposedly stupid stuff that gets her to laugh, or do something that seems illogical in the context of the situation; but because you chose to do it in a WAY that makes it not only right, but seemingly the BEST thing you could have done, given that unique MOMENT (MOMENTS: No two are exactly alike - This is why Bill Murray had so much trouble initially in "Ground Hogs Day" - He figured he could just fake the funk over and over again; but it came off as stiff, uninspired, lifeless, mechanical, cold, weird). I'm not just looking to be decent at something... I'm looking to MASTER it - and that goes for making great conversation with a woman or women, lovemaking and the eventual relationship stuff that might go along with that in the future. I'm looking to bring the MAGIC. We came here, not to simply go through the motions in life; but to LIVE it. So, let's get the basics down; and then once we are fairly comfortable with our competence with that... bring the ART!

[@M33-f9t]

"Humbleness"? Women are into humble guys now???

[@CRABBER-l7q]

Bullshit. They'll always be after the 6'8" giga chad who just got out of the military, who just got out of jail, who just became an actor.

[@gustros]

When they hit 35 with 2 kids and the life wasted out chasing chads yeah they are.

[@davemoody4517]

M33 the right ones are.

[@jakemf1]

M33 just listen she tells you after the bad boys she looks for a “introvert” aka bata simp

[@PortingaleNightingale]

@@gustros lol

[@Jay-us8ko]

I really do like that you take the time to make this videos

[@saaimshah3792]

I like this Chanel. Ur good at this. Subbed.

[@itsjustian8484]

This is my first video of yours. You sound like an amazing woman yourself! I look forward to your other informative videos! 😉

[@coppolasandro]

I really loved this video. Thank you Apollonia

[@bobo-wf1jv]

I really don't know if I am an introvert .. I have a suspicion, I am, .. my life consists of work and occasional sailing .. if anything beyond that ever happens .. the woman will have to find me. I just don't have time .. our paths will have to cross by fate alone. Honestly, she will have bump into me and begin talking, I suspect I'll be shocked, smile and converse with her, it could happen.

[@marten594]

Thanks coach Apollonia! This video is a great help :-)

[@artursilva1933]

Thanks for your help! You are the greatest.

[@Sobaloda]

Well okay... i did all this, it all was overshadowed because of social standing, personal drive/goals, and height. For sure this might help i can see that if you´re super insecure about the date. But god damn, there´s sooo much more in the way than just carrying a conversation.