5 COMPLICATED Things God Will Allow When You Meet Your Person

[@KevvoLightswift]

I think number 5 could be easily avoided if everyone stopped online dating and just started meeting people organically. Online dating gives you the illusion of having "many options", but the reality is there are far fewer people we actually like than we thought.

[@4wheelwarrior]

No doubt. Using online dating eliminates God as your matchmaker. Dumb idea.

[@garret8787]

@@4wheelwarriorIf your God is ‘fate’ or random chance, then sure… but why can’t two Christians use it as a means of meeting other Christians?

[@KevvoLightswift]

@@garret8787 While it’s not out of the question that God could use that, experience has taught me that women are far too picky on there to make it worth my time. At least American women. Overseas like the Philippines is a different story.

[@yallcrazy302]

Not really any other way for a lot of people to meet someone

[@KevvoLightswift]

@@yallcrazy302 Lies. If you live in a big city there is plenty to do. Plenty of activities to go to, groups to join, causes to join, websites like meetup where you can find people with similar interests. Many people are just too lazy to get off their butts and put forth the effort to try new things.

[@Neptuneman07]

All 5 are accurate to the season I'm in. Looking forward to the transition from single to relationship on God's perfect timing.

[@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger]

God bless!

[@vidaacheampong2563]

Sometimes Marriage is not always part of God's plan for everyone some people will remain single and that's ok too

[@vanzrox1]

1) You will have to decide if the risk of romance is worth ruining the friendship 2)You will have to decide if you are settling or simply accepting someone for who they are so you can enjoy them 3)You will have to decide if giving up other parts of your life is worth it for this relationship 4) You will have to decide if the problems you face together are positive or negative signs 5) You will have to decide if you are willing to say no to all other romantic options for the rest of your life Thanks again for helpful insight Mark!! 😊

[@Neptuneman07]

Perfect timing once again. Thank you for listening to the Holy Spirit in each AGW.

[@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger]

So glad it was timely! All glory to God!

[@justbargelle]

Being emotionally healthy first and SETTLED in the Lord would really help alot to be a good partner of someone for life. Women and men must be mature enough in Christ before wanting to be with someone else. Coz once you get married, The devil wont stop to destroy what could give God some glory and Honor by offering divorce.

[@Cashman566]

@@tylerlee27Are you close to Pittsburgh?

[@undefeatedpraiser]

God showed me his occupation first. ❤🎉. Then he showed me him.

[@brianpaul98]

Hello brother Mark, every time I listen to one of your videos it brings up so many things in my life about my life. I think through patience God will lead us to the person we're supposed to be with. My person happened to be on the other side of the Earth and when we found each other I understood how complicated things were going to be but we decided to move forward together. There are always things in our mind that we imagine about that perfect relationship but it's not really about that it's about what God's plan is in our lives. When He puts two people together they can work together to accomplish that plan. I can tell you hundreds of times over the last 10 years that I've been with my wife that I could have said we're just not right for each other, this isn't going to work, we're just making things more difficult by being together. That's really not what is happening because God put us together and Satan is always trying to drive us apart so we need to understand what's really happening in the relationship. When two people come together there is immediately going to be challenges, struggles, hardships, arguments, disagreements and everything that comes with it. Two completely unique people are going to have challenges and through biblical teachings, praying, trusting God and the Holy Spirit and believing that Jesus Christ is the only way is how we get through it. Because of situations beyond our control my wife and I haven't seen each other in almost a year but in 3 weeks we are planning to see each other again!! I can say over the past year we have both grown immensely in our relationship with each other and with the Lord and I truly can't wait to see her again. God bless you brother Mark and thank you so much for making these videos, they are incredibly helpful.

[@dcharmed2]

The Holy Spirit revealed why the guy I am "dating" does not immediately want to proceed to a formal relationship. I am asking the Lord if I should keep seeing him. I remember what you said before, that if the Lord hasn't said anything about whether to continue or not, we should continue doing what we are doing. I just hope this season of confusion will end soon - whether we end up together or not...

[@Justyouraverageguy172]

This video reinforces a recent desire surfacing when I pray to God about my future spouse strongly highlighting a friend from over 8 years ago. I feel God is telling me to be patient for a while and pray to Him to bring us back together now since we were more than friends already. Our desire only grew stronger more over time, and we both accepted each other before. The relationship was Biblical, and we had no desire for anybody else but each other. However, life circumstances with the barrier of location and us both finishing college separately at the time split us apart. I grew a lot in the season of separation, but I suspect God won’t just magically remove the barriers of distance away and wants me to reach out to her and work through them.

[@KevvoLightswift]

You are correct. As the man, it's part of your responsibility to lead in the relationship. That includes navigating the geographical distance. Shoot your shot, brother. Her answer should give you closure on this issue. With our world being more connected than ever to each other, dating long distance is easier than before. Plus, you have that friendship you two built over the years. So you have that common base.

[@whoknows-tu4cq]

God literally removed the barrier between me and my fiancee. I know without a doubt he is my godly husband. I'm 34 he's 33 as the man he took the lead and said come home let's see what happens so I went and found out, now we can't be apart. It's beautiful. Take the lead

[@Justyouraverageguy172]

@@whoknows-tu4cq My spirit knows your words are true because I feel God has been nudging me to do the same as your fiancee did. I do have my insecurities and fears about being unable to meet the provider requirement as a husband with my lack of finances, but God rebuked me for my doubt and worries the other day asking me “do you trust man or me?” I almost have a knowing like God is telling 27 year old me to start planing my next future after graduate school ends next year for me and reach out to her in faith before then.

[@whoknows-tu4cq]

@@Justyouraverageguy172 yes remove all doubt bc she will 100 percent accept you for you and not worry about anything except you and not what you can provide. You both will come up together in life. I met my fiancee 9 years ago, I felt him instantly and knew I loved him but I wasn't spiritually ready or ready to be the woman he needed. I let him go which was hard but literally all these years later and I still feel the connection so passionately. She will feel you and you will feel her so much you both without a doubt will know it's right. My fiancee did not take the lead back when we were younger which we are finding out now we both had to grow up first and other things had to take place for us to be good together. He's a good man. You are a good man and will be an amazing provider for your future wife. If she loves you she will come in your life and want NOTHING else but you not materials, always remember that.

[@whoknows-tu4cq]

@@Justyouraverageguy172 Also take the lead as a good man and she will follow if it's meant to be.

[@Gregornmy]

I've been really stressed about this topic recently. Thank you for making these videos and giving people like me clarity.

[@ileycrawford6407]

I accidentally clicked this video and decided to watch it. I read this Bible verse today 1 Corinthians. I believe this is confirmation will Pray on it

[@joslynstokes3752]

I was just saying yesterday I feel like no Christian’s talk about the complicated things like this. I feel like I’ve met the one and Gods be rapid fire, exposing our weaknesses and lack of faith in him in certain areas and it almost looks like I’m not supposed to be with him n I even started to question if this was actually from God or a distraction from the devil, but I feel like Gods told me to be patient n wait on Him and seek him and his righteousness first. It’s a little frustrating to hear how “perfect” we have to be or it’s not from God bc my walk with Jesus has not been simple or easy or super clear all the time. I haven’t been the best Godly woman all the time and it’s kinda weird to be expecting a perfectly Godly man, that has his whole life together, that’s ready to marry on the spot, so thank you for sharing this information. I feel this is confirmation especially with the time that you posted this and my thoughts yesterday and situation recently. Gods truly amazing. Please pray for us n thank you.

[@sindrekdn]

The first point describes where I’m standing right now. I’m scared to ruin our friendship jus by telling her I like her. I really believe she is the one and I just have to trust God in this process

[@whoknows-tu4cq]

I met my fiancee and couldn't understand why I couldn't be with him I let him go so it's 9 years later now and we will be marrying soon. Sometimes God will I introduce us until we are ready. It literally took 9 years for me and him to get it together and now there's no doubt we know what God is saying. It's beautiful

[@sindrekdn]

What an awesome story, for me, it has been 3 years, and now recently feel like God is starting to work

[@Manglor824]

Yeah, I told the someone I thought was the one that I liked her and it seems like it ruined it. It's awful.

[@zacht.9585]

Hey @austinroberts6229 I can totally understand your feeling. I've been through this 3 times in my adult life. The first 2 were brutal, the 3rd time however, I decided to pray and fast and put God first in the situation. What he showed me was amazing. He told me to be a brother to her (and other women in the church) like it says in 1 Timothy 5:2, without expecting ANYTHING in return. Just trusting God that he has a perfect woman for me. Well sure enough, this woman found that very attractive (after initially rejecting me), and months later I found myself actually telling her I don't see us becoming more than brother/sister in Christ (after considerable prayer and counsel), which was CRAZY because initially I was head over heels for her, and she is still a very godly woman that I admire. All that is to say that I've learned that if you truly put God first, He has the absolute best for you. God bless you man!

[@johnhathaway735]

@@zacht.9585wait so did y’all end up together or naw ? I read that last comment and was confused… or are you saying “God showed you it’s her but for the future”

[@Jay-vs4fi]

Please pray, I met someone on street evangelising and we got on well. We led worship and have a good connection, but we don't know each other. Please pray. Not sure what the friendship and relationship will be, but it seems that we have the same desires!

[@ilianac.5547]

Sorry but it’s to early to say that

[@jesslaurajane]

I prayed for confirmation about my situation and this video gave me so much clarity! Thanks Mark!

[@pamelarenee8314]

I am currently having to sit still.. i have nothing else to do. It’s so hard. I pray for Gods providence to know how to move forward.. I am trying trust Him but this is hard

[@pamelarenee8314]

I waited until the other person was ready to sort their thoughts which was three days. He decided to end things. I’m just shocked and saddened. We always talked about getting married. We had ups and downs but he said he gave up. Now i have nothing to do but try and heal. I feel a lot of pain

[@pamelarenee8314]

I waited until the other person was ready to sort their thoughts which was three days. He decided to end things. I’m just shocked and saddened. We always talked about getting married. We had ups and downs but he said he gave up. Now i have nothing to do but try and heal. I feel a lot of pain

[@rhondacompton8787]

Never Settle!!

[@cherylrochs6560]

PERFECT TIMING. THANK YOU FOR THE HOLY SPIRIT FOR LISTENING.

[@angloaust1575]

Mere speculation who knows What God will do!

[@Christina_320]

I know this is right. Very anointed by God. Amen. Thank you brother.

[@verohb79]

I sense that #5 is very strong and prevalent in being an impediment for men to decide. Modern day apps create an illusion of abundance of options. The grass is greener when you water it.

[@garret8787]

Yeah… #5 doesn’t really feel like applying Gods word. Just seems like Mark’s advice for some people. Solomon and his wife were very attracted to each other and certain about how much they liked each other… and he also went on to being a depressed and miserable husband to hundreds of more wives. I think people shouldn’t get married until they identify a few things about their partner that they don’t like. (Because those things exist) If they still want to get married, at least they understand that they aren’t getting a perfect person.

[@verohb79]

@@garret8787 Exactly! Well said 👌🏻

[@itsnunu101]

Great video Mark. God bless

[@HaloNimbus]

That very very last tip Was what I needed to hear.

[@dianaaavula4306]

Master I will be waiting for you still.

[@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger]

God bless

[@banananna411]

A video on if it is possible to both be Christian but be in diffrent denominations/have different views of the same Christianity but still be together in a working relationship.

[@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger]

I talk about that here: kzbin.info/www/bejne/gJi6n3eppdOqh5Y

[@mezy432]

“Just do it!” Commit to love!

[@veenasmainplace3463]

Amen

[@tiffannyyu]

I learnt so much for almost a year now only to confirm if he's the one for me, and yes the answer is still the same.. it's just he's so afraid to admit his own feelings because of his own trauma, so I'm waiting for him right now.. although I don't know how long I'd wait though, if God tells me to be with another person, I'd still obey God

[@KatalinMayering-fb3vm]

Dear Mark, thank you SO, SO much for these videos!

[@annejacob]

Really nice video and makes a lot of sense.

[@wyattr.9995]

Number 1 hit me like a train

[@neshas.4774]

~Always on time ~

[@lesliec.8591]

Thank you, this was helpful 👍🏼

[@jg2132]

Another perfectly timed video

[@IronGiant2790]

6:19 - how do you balance "not settling" with no longer thinking that there could be someone better out there?

[@GazpachoMacho]

Funny. I seem to recall the phrase “never settle” to be on your list of bad dating advice at one point. XD

[@dezerismith7529]

It can be frustrating especially out here being single and older, i feel like no one sees me as someone they'd want to talk to, and i always feel its because im no longer young and beautiful anymore, i feel unwanted especially in this town i moved to 2 years ago, maybe alot is my own thoughts, but its not easy for me here, cause i don't drive and it is hard for me to connect here, i want to get to a place within myself where i stop caring about all this, everyone's story is different, but its difficult to be lonely and single and invisible in away where your just average and no one sees you as beautiful enough to talk to anymore, but if that's my lot in life , i need to learn to accept it and just focus on me since im here alone and super duper grown with wisdom on me.

[@zacht.9585]

I always tell people that the Holy Spirit makes you beautiful! And I don't think that's cliché either. I know this one woman that I didn't find attractive at ALL initially. Yet as we both put Jesus first in our lives, I could literally see her radiate and beam with beauty. My perspective of her completely changed -- because the Holy Spirit worked on both of us. I truly believe if we put Jesus first in our lives, He will change us from the inside OUT :) and the right man will see your beauty!

[@agnesr.4664]

Yeah. Very timely. This guy and I are supposed to minister together soon. We have been prepping and I guess, there is potential for more, romantically speaking. However, if I am risking the "friendship", I am maybe risking the option to minister with him - thus impacting a bigger picture through my decision. Am I not? Would love to hear your thoughts on what to do if ministry is involved.

[@zacht.9585]

Great question. Looking forward to hearing insight

[@wordsoftruth_7]

Well i have to say point 5 i see bit different. In the time you get to know someone i find it normal and healthy to have sometimes insecurrities. At least as a person who wants to serve god, is intelegent, and wants to test the person they get to know. One just wants to be sure.

[@maryj9968]

Hi mark you're ministry has always been a blessing I came across your video and I'm wanting to seek clarification as it is confusing is the inc(inglesia ni cristo) church and interdenominational Christian or interfaith if dating a Christian?

[@Apheres]

Greetings Mark 1 Corinthians 7-9 What does it mean to "burn with passion"? What could be some examples? Dating duration today as compared to during the times of Ruth and Boaz for example seem considerably longer. Enough for people to get burnt with passion? Are there consequences or symptoms of someone burning with passion? What can happen if someone burns with passion for too long? Maybe the term "burn with passion" requires a video of its own. Thank you. May God bless you and those with you. May the Holy Spirit continue to drive your creativity. Amen.

[@EieiExamplEeiEi]

Another video that I can't comprehend. I mean...Your videos usually show up at the impeccable time , which is great. But recently it's super hard for me to get your messages ; more than 3x. I am not sure what I'm doing is right thing or am I on the right path? I doubt everything , including myself what if I decieve myself? God never said such things? I dunno reality is so messed up far away from the promise he gave to me. Am I mad? Anw thank you again Mark ,gotta deal with myself first, God bless you.

[@jde-jj1lu]

Ask God to reveal what you can’t see

[@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger]

When in doubt, simplify everything and just serve the Lord by loving and serving the people he has placed in your life. 1 Peter 4:10-11

[@laurachandler]

Do you have any videos on loving a dismissive avoidant personality type who is a Christian?

[@KatalinMayering-fb3vm]

Yes, that would be great, Mark

[@garret8787]

Honestly… love them from a distance and try to avoid being their next victim

[@Nola5427]

Ya RUN! I refuse to deal with those type, once was enough, lesson leaned!

[@katieakin1091]

Is it weird if I relate to 4/5 points he makes?? It’s pretty one-sided with me and my crush, but I still relate to most of these points with him. The only one I feel relates more to my crush, is the 4th point, but I could be wrong

[@HendriSupradi]

Amen.

[@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger]

God bless!

[@carmen3193]

I asked God what he thinks about a guy that i like. But God doesn't answer my question. What does it mean ? I'm confussed.

[@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger]

Gold has spoke through his word. Get to know the man in real life and then compare his character to what the Bible says about good character

[@carmen3193]

​@@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger Thank you :) I will try to know him. That is funny when i asked God to tell me what he thinks about this person i heard a voice that told me know him!! Now you say the same. God's opinion is very important for me. God Bless you my brother.

[@faitheverline9492]

Is there anyone single here we date

[@delna144]

❤❤❤

[@DJKrisyKrisdude]

I feel like I have met my person. I can’t say for sure but there has been so much confirmation that I have seen from this video and I think your last video That being said I’m still afraid to say anything especially since I’ve only met her a couple weeks ago. She’s just so wonderful and we get along really well and I really can’t see myself spending my life with anyone else

[@kaylagranados832]

Okay so I have a very specific situation that has been making me very uncomfortable for a while and I want to see other people’s perspectives. I had this one guy at my church whom I’ve known since I was 11(he is about 6-7yrs older than me) start trying to pursue me when I was still underage(17) he would give me gifts at first I didn’t think much of it but then I was told what his intentions were and it made me very uncomfortable I didn’t even want to be around him. He was pretty cool before but then being around him made me feel uncomfortable. So it’s been about 4 or 5 years since that happened and I’m still pretty uncomfortable around him and I have this annoying idea in my head that if I don’t end up with him I won’t be happy or literally anytime I think about boyfriend or husband literally anything romantically related he pops up in my head but in reality I don’t want to be with this man and those are unwanted thoughts and they get worse when I see him. Rather than feeling butterflies in my stomach I feel uncomfortable at just the thought of him. I have nothing against him and I try to be as nice as possible to him but sometimes I don’t even want to speak to him. I have no intentions of being mean to him nor do I try to treat him badly I’m just not sure why this bothers me and it kind of makes me worry because I had a boyfriend after this whole situation and the whole time i was dating him I had these thoughts of “but what if you actually like the other guy”(the one from the church)but I don’t and I don’t want to. I’m scared that this might happen when I meet someone else. I am truly tired of going through this I know I don’t want to be with that man but these unwanted thoughts keep coming and bothering me I don’t know any thoughts? Not sure I explained it super well to clarify I’m not having those thoughts because I want to be with him because I really truly don’t.

[@kaylagranados832]

I know this is very long sorry folks 😅

[@rebeccabarrand5132]

Sounds like therapy would be helpful for you as you seem to have intrusive thoughts of him. It seems he was grooming you when he was 17-18 and you were 11. I think maybe the trauma of that is what makes you think those intrusive thoughts. I suggest you talk to a therapist to help with those thoughts.

[@tracyoguntokun4284]

Amen 🙏♥️🙏✝️

[@Curtis5241]

If masterbation is a sin how can i stop doing it and what's going to happen if i don't because every time i do it i repent and ask for help?

[@ABIGAILHOWARD-tq3lq]

Put in actual effort to stop and pray for the LORD to help you to overcome it. I have church brothers who, to break it, were willing to stay up until the feeling passed over

[@DN-wy3ud]

Where in the bible does it say it's a sin??

[@ABIGAILHOWARD-tq3lq]

@@DN-wy3ud this question you asked is the reason why prayer and a relationship with God is required.

[@jde-jj1lu]

You must be evenly yoked!

[@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger]

Amen, 2 Corinthians 6:14

[@TheAncientOneOfDays]

1. Focus on money, career, job, house, car... 2. Don't waste your time with XXs, don't commit, don't marry. Don't waste money. 3. You will never meet an XX that is attracted to you, because of who you are. Until you have the money, house, job etc etc. No one cares about who you are. This is the bitter truth. Just saved you. Ps: "fruits of the spirit" = money, career, house etc etc. That's what XX hears and thinks of and hears and thinks of. Lastly, XXs flock to You on their own, once you have the money, job, career, house.

[@MikeVangundy-pr9lz]

What happens when society collapses?

[@michellei7951]

horrible "advice"

[@mariahthompson388]

Did you just bring red pill rhetoric into this? None of what you said is true. I’m an XX (woman 🙄) and this is not how I think when dating or trying to find a partner

[@TheAncientOneOfDays]

Society cannot collapse, God ordained. You cannot hear me, you are a deaf npc. No advice for you. Keep moving. XXs do not have opinions. If you are an xx and here, you are already behind the wall. Time is up. Get a cat, or 3

[@DN-wy3ud]

What a sad life you have