How to Manage Thoughts About Meeting THE ONE (4 Tips)

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ApplyGodsWord.com/Mark Ballenger

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@antfactory1
@antfactory1 6 жыл бұрын
This was a surprising video because I didn't know other people dealt with this 😅 I thought I was the only one, thank you so much!
@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger
@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger 6 жыл бұрын
I think a lot of people can relate :)
@infpt24
@infpt24 5 жыл бұрын
me too! I thought I was just weird. I wondered if there were morepeople dealing with this, I'm surprprised to see I' not the only one
@lamulata1azuquita128
@lamulata1azuquita128 4 жыл бұрын
Antsy me too
@throughthestorm3852
@throughthestorm3852 4 жыл бұрын
As long as there’s been single people, people have been wondering this question?
@jazzugno9581
@jazzugno9581 4 жыл бұрын
Lol same here I thought it's really weird that every man I meet I'm thinking "is he the one"? 😆🤭
@andrewstump6138
@andrewstump6138 3 жыл бұрын
For all the other ADHD peeps like me who need to skip around and back and what not😂, here are some stamps☺️: 1:32 You have to put the desire for marriage in it’s proper place, strive for contentment in singleness and stop idolizing marriage 2:31 Don’t try to not think about this person being your future spouse, rather, focus on what you should think when you meet a new person 6:38 Focus on living in the moment, being present and doing physical activities that engage you in the here and now 9:06 Instead of wondering if every new Christian single you meet will be your future spouse, you could assume every new person you meet won’t be your spouse one day Great stuff Mark! Very very insightful☺️
@forthejoyfit
@forthejoyfit 6 жыл бұрын
As a single this is something I struggle with on the daily😂 I tend to be a dreamer and imagine futures with random guys I meet. BUT I have really tried to be more realistic, and these tips helps and make a lot of sense! Thanks :)
@rogerbrady2003rab
@rogerbrady2003rab 6 жыл бұрын
Good stuff right.. :)
@TheWaffledPancake
@TheWaffledPancake 6 жыл бұрын
too true, but as a guy with girls :D
@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger
@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger 6 жыл бұрын
So glad this was helpful!
@ropafadzodzeka8276
@ropafadzodzeka8276 6 жыл бұрын
Hahahaha you are not alone
@shieabella5476
@shieabella5476 6 жыл бұрын
@@ropafadzodzeka8276 😂😅😆🙋🙌
@ineedramses
@ineedramses 2 жыл бұрын
Stop assuming everyone you meet is your future spouse and start assuming everyone you meet is not your future spouse….statistically speaking. 😅 Mark that is so funny but so true.
@pilgrimspassion5778
@pilgrimspassion5778 6 жыл бұрын
i praise God for sending this at perfect timing
@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger
@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger 6 жыл бұрын
Amen pilgrim's passion! So glad this was timely for you :)
@pilgrimspassion5778
@pilgrimspassion5778 6 жыл бұрын
yes.... thank you... i praise God for this
@divineprovidence803
@divineprovidence803 6 жыл бұрын
I'm a 38 year old male and I've been single all my life. God has given me the gift of singleness. I've prayed for years for a wife but I've unfortunately not met anyone. It would of been an interesting experience having a relationship but I trust in God's judgment.
@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger
@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger 6 жыл бұрын
God is certainly trustworthy, thanks for sharing
@DARKhorses73
@DARKhorses73 6 жыл бұрын
How is it too late ? I’m in the same situation 38 female but it doesn’t bother me either way . Happy alone and probably would be happy with someone God has for me. 😁
@JesusisHere777
@JesusisHere777 5 жыл бұрын
divine providence He could have saved you from a world of hurt and your May still have a ministry while you're here that will be easier without a wife!
@wasedejacob2856
@wasedejacob2856 5 жыл бұрын
Ive never been in any relationship for 30yrs but as I concentrated more on serving the lord, he brought different people in my circles whom i purely shared the love of God to but in the process ive found the one who the lord has led me to pursue, we had grown closer as sister and brother in the past years which made it easier to progress to the level of dating for marriage. It's important to grow more in the lord in the season of singleness as you trust him to bring you the right person in the right timing but you ought to be ready for it.
@triedandtrue142
@triedandtrue142 4 жыл бұрын
GOD bless you brother
@lucianocamacho8160
@lucianocamacho8160 6 жыл бұрын
I used to do the same... Dreamed about every christian cute girl I met. I've found that focusing on what you said treating every woman as a SISTER and also what has helped me is to actually prepare myself for marriage... that means, start becoming a ONE-WOMAN MAN. Thank you for this videos btw! New here!
@db2888
@db2888 3 жыл бұрын
Good message! I started praying for a husband 20 years ago and I struggled with this exact issue for the first many years. Looking at every man as the possible “one” and dreaming something up in my mind that never happened. I finally came to the place after many years that I knew I could no longer do this. It had caused so much pain to my heart and at times caused me to be angry with God even though none of it was His fault. I no longer see every single man has a potential partner and I have avoided a lot of pain. I’m 20 years in and still waiting but it feels much better to wait without the unnecessary pain! Thanks for the video!
@Linda-bj3bb
@Linda-bj3bb 5 жыл бұрын
Boundaries for yourself is so important. If you spill your beens about being so in love with a person too quickly you could be seen as manipulative. One can feel manipulated by these consistent overtures of love and affection too soon. I was also accused of not loving that person because I didn't respond in the same way so soon in the relationship. Love grows it doesn't just pop up. You need to spend time with a person and get to know them and feel secure with them.
@akajay7356
@akajay7356 6 жыл бұрын
Im so glad im not the only one who does this. It get so mad at myself when i do this...
@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger
@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger 6 жыл бұрын
Yes, it is a common struggle Janelle West, keeping seeking Christ and he will keep growing you
@chavala3140
@chavala3140 6 жыл бұрын
This was really good. I have started to put your tips into practice. Treat my Christian brothers as they are... brothers in Christ. I have been praying really hard that God renews my mind and He is!!! Thank you Jesus!!
@The4Tifier
@The4Tifier 6 жыл бұрын
I wish I saw this video three years ago; would have saved a lot of trouble and confusion for me 😋 Thanks again Mark!
@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger
@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger 6 жыл бұрын
My pleasure!
@katiebo1013
@katiebo1013 4 жыл бұрын
As an actively dating widow in my early 30’s (who desires to remarry and have more children) I can say I struggle with this very much. This video exceeded my hope’s, I watch your videos all the time, thank you.
@g__6623
@g__6623 6 жыл бұрын
Thanks mark for the advice! I’m currently struggling pretty bad in this area right now, so the timing is very good. I appreciate you Mark
@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger
@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger 6 жыл бұрын
So glad this was helpful GarLoug!
@riyamitraministries
@riyamitraministries 5 жыл бұрын
These are great advices Mark. I personally struggled with this. Now I'll treat all men with the love of Christ and focus on how I can serve them. Thanks Mark. God bless you
@HumourTanki
@HumourTanki 6 жыл бұрын
This video is super useful. Whenever I meet a new girl I sometimes start thinking that we might be together and things like that. I fall for people kind of fast. It's just hard not to. And sometimes I tell them, or leak them hints that I kind of like them. I don't like doing that, it annoys me that I do.
@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger
@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger 6 жыл бұрын
So glad this video was helpful to you BittyThread
@user-vv5ju3fj1p
@user-vv5ju3fj1p 4 жыл бұрын
This is uncomfortably relatable
@bkkersey93
@bkkersey93 2 жыл бұрын
So relatable. I also fall hard and fast due to my strong desire for a woman.
@jackjones3657
@jackjones3657 5 жыл бұрын
It's very true, just telling ourselves not to think about someone/something inevitably puts our focus on that person/thing. Focus on serving God on a date, or at an event and treat everyone equitably is solid advice. Just enjoy where you're at and grow from it.
@smoothblackskin7655
@smoothblackskin7655 6 жыл бұрын
This really resonates. Sometimes we set the bar so high, so much so that no one will ever be able to reach it.
@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger
@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger 6 жыл бұрын
True Smooth Black Skin
@thinkforyourselfjohn3163
@thinkforyourselfjohn3163 6 жыл бұрын
Thank you Mark. Great teaching. So true in treating everyone the same. Wise word's. Sizing everyone we meet creates anxiety followed by disappointment if they don't fit the mold. Your funny Mark with your analogies. So right on. Lol
@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger
@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger 6 жыл бұрын
So glad you enjoyed this Marie John 3:16!
@katiedrake76
@katiedrake76 6 жыл бұрын
This could not have come at a better time. Thank you!
@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger
@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger 6 жыл бұрын
Amen Katie Drake, so glad this was timely for you!
@jexica733
@jexica733 4 жыл бұрын
The Holy Spirit certainly does speak to me through you. Praise God!
@sunshinesunflowerz1647
@sunshinesunflowerz1647 2 жыл бұрын
Thank you Holy Spirit for this. Ive struggled with this since my 20's.
@shardhanamorgan
@shardhanamorgan 5 жыл бұрын
I feel personally attacked by this video LOL
@missweenieboys2
@missweenieboys2 6 жыл бұрын
This is spot on! I have been dealing with this lately. I have had a few awkward encounters in my life. I have been thinking about my obsession this past week and didn't know how to get past it. Thank you Mark!
@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger
@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger 6 жыл бұрын
My pleasure!
@natronthegreat5150
@natronthegreat5150 5 жыл бұрын
Yep. "Probably not" This is a good one. Thanks.
@Ylime197
@Ylime197 5 жыл бұрын
Mark, this is such a valuable video. I have watched MANY videos related to dating and marriage but it seems that first time only this video truly was relatable to me. I have major struggles with the Christian guys whom I find attractive to think that perhaps they could like me and have a relationship with me, but usually it turns out that it is all in my head haha. So yeah, this video is so good and it seems that I could really learn to apply it practically.
@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger
@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger 5 жыл бұрын
Amen, I'm so glad you found it helpful :)
@JC50-joy
@JC50-joy 2 жыл бұрын
This is a very good video because not only does it guides us to not take everyone we meet as a potential partner but to treat everyone we meet in a godly manner.
@wansuklyngdoh9964
@wansuklyngdoh9964 6 жыл бұрын
Good teaching.. Engaged in the moment rather than thinking is he the one for marriage... Got wrong all the time assuming things wrong.. I am Still single may be...
@sbentsen2714
@sbentsen2714 6 жыл бұрын
I'm gonna hold on to the last one, its the most applicable for me and goes in line with how my brain works.
@godswordsaves7673
@godswordsaves7673 6 жыл бұрын
Steven, indifference is key.
@lauracotter
@lauracotter 6 жыл бұрын
Such a timely message. I struggle with this tbh and needed to hear this message so bad. Thank you so much and God bless you!! 😊💕
@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger
@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger 6 жыл бұрын
My pleasure Laura Cotter!
@angelah.9144
@angelah.9144 6 жыл бұрын
It’s unfortunate that seven people disliked this video...it’s fantastic! Very helpful information and glad I found this channel! 🙏🏻
@MeADow0201
@MeADow0201 4 жыл бұрын
Thanks for the video! I needed this because I have been starting to treat the new person differently and I really don't like it but find it hard.. really sticking to Philippians 4:8!
@Wakeem.Creations
@Wakeem.Creations 5 жыл бұрын
OKAY SO I'M NOT CRAZY GOTTA TALK ABOUT THE HARD SUBJECTS THANK YOU.
@roxanaobrien4936
@roxanaobrien4936 2 жыл бұрын
I have this exact problem. And as soon as he approaches I start thinking in my head and NOT acting normal....and I hate it when I do that bc then I feel abnormal and frozen the whole time....I'm gonna do what you said to try. Thanks
@sbentsen2714
@sbentsen2714 6 жыл бұрын
wow hittin' it out of the park again sir! whew lol
@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger
@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger 6 жыл бұрын
Glad it was helpful Steven Bentsen!
@giodude92
@giodude92 6 жыл бұрын
I'm a single guy and I go through this all the time. Every time I meet an attractive Christian girl, I start to get nervous and my mind starts to race. I never seem to be in the moment.
@davejudah4833
@davejudah4833 6 жыл бұрын
Bro i know the feeling.. I've experienced the same problem.
@giodude92
@giodude92 6 жыл бұрын
@@davejudah4833 Yeah bro, it sucks! It's been a struggle but Mark's tips are very helpful.
@lifesjourney787
@lifesjourney787 4 жыл бұрын
Lol that last step made me kind of chuckle but it’s so true!! Gonna have to try that, thx again Mark. You are a blessing to many soulz, brother in Christ ❤️🖤🙏🏼
@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger
@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger 4 жыл бұрын
God bless you too! Glad this was helpful!
@worshipwithveron9510
@worshipwithveron9510 4 жыл бұрын
This video just happened to be in my feed at the right time. Unknowingly I've had these thoughts every time.
@lakeishagilchrist3885
@lakeishagilchrist3885 4 жыл бұрын
I feel like I’ve needed to hear this all my life. Thankful I know how to move forward in a Godly way now.
@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger
@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger 4 жыл бұрын
I'm so glad it was helpful Lakeisha!
@aristabooyse3685
@aristabooyse3685 5 жыл бұрын
Praise the Lord for this teaching! I so needed this today. This is so helpful and can't wait to start applying this. Thanks
@alexanderson3841
@alexanderson3841 2 жыл бұрын
This message was truly helpful for me
@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger
@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger 2 жыл бұрын
So glad to hear that Alex!
@jakubratajczak9269
@jakubratajczak9269 2 жыл бұрын
I'm about to meet new person, and I'm applying no.4 for sure! Also, she is older than me and I heard she didn't marry so far, because she wants to live for the Lord. And this is something I will respect and I will not push her boundries. We will be serving together and I would prefer a healthy environment for this relationship. I'm actually quite content with having this boundaries and not having to wonder if she is my future spouse.
@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger
@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger 2 жыл бұрын
Amen!
@psawyer871
@psawyer871 4 жыл бұрын
You always read my mind and speak to my heart! Unbelievable!!
@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger
@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger 4 жыл бұрын
All glory to God!
@Nick-gh5bi
@Nick-gh5bi 6 жыл бұрын
Keep up the great work Mark these videos are very helpful 😄👍
@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger
@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger 6 жыл бұрын
Thanks Nick, so glad this was helpful!
@awilson1569
@awilson1569 2 жыл бұрын
Excellent video, Mark! I love how practical your teachings are and I really needed help with this. I look forward to implementing them into my daily life. Side note: can you do a video on how not to be jealous/envy/covet other people who are getting married/married?
@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger
@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger 2 жыл бұрын
Yes, I did that video here: kzbin.info/www/bejne/aJaVXn6ZpbVgeJI
@InTheRiver2
@InTheRiver2 3 жыл бұрын
Wow, do I ever do this. Funny thing, I've been so fed up with thinking this, I was just praying to stop it but didn't know how. Thank you Mark.
@Ms_T_Perfectly_Imperfect
@Ms_T_Perfectly_Imperfect 6 жыл бұрын
Super helpful as I struggle with this issue. I'm definitely using these tips.
@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger
@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger 6 жыл бұрын
So glad this was helpful!
@debbiefaulkner163
@debbiefaulkner163 2 жыл бұрын
Such good advice Mark. Thank you and just trust God we are in the palm of His hand.
@AromieWorship
@AromieWorship 6 жыл бұрын
I'm also going to say this was perfect timing :-)
@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger
@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger 6 жыл бұрын
So glad this was timely for you :)
@imellengari8181
@imellengari8181 6 жыл бұрын
though its only me thinking like this.. haha..thankyou so much.. i've been struggling with this...and this comes in the perfect time.. thankyou mark..thanks jesus :)
@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger
@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger 6 жыл бұрын
My pleasure imel lengari, so glad this was helpful!
@eduardoantonionaranjo7972
@eduardoantonionaranjo7972 5 жыл бұрын
That scene in Tommy Boy where Chris Farley talks about killing his sales perfectly sums it up!
@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger
@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger 5 жыл бұрын
Amazing movie lol
@pineappledonut5011
@pineappledonut5011 6 жыл бұрын
I catch myself thinking this all of the time 😂 once I do realize I thought this I always tell myself I don’t know maybe they are passing through or help me grow
@michellecrandall8876
@michellecrandall8876 5 жыл бұрын
Very encouraging hearing this. Especially from a Godly guy. It’s nice hearing the guys perspective from a biblical perspective. Thank you Mark!
@goldenstone7094
@goldenstone7094 5 жыл бұрын
I have this problem, too. It's so rare that I meet realistic potential marriage partners I often can't help but hope she is the one 😅😅😅
@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger
@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger 5 жыл бұрын
Yes, it's common to do that
@daniellebitzer304
@daniellebitzer304 6 жыл бұрын
Perfect timing, I’ve been praying about this. Thanks Mark!
@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger
@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger 6 жыл бұрын
So glad this was timely!
@maggievada4797
@maggievada4797 2 жыл бұрын
Great start to finish. Realistic. Solid. Sound. From the Bible. Yeah.
@koreagirl2977
@koreagirl2977 2 жыл бұрын
I wish I had seen this channel years ago. I don't know if it was around years ago but I wish I had known about it. It would have saved me a lot of heartbreak and a lot of self-doubt and deprecation. 16 years of singleness wondering what's wrong with me why won't men like me why can I find someone. I mean it's not like I am 2000 lb and got warts all over my face or anything, I'm actually a pretty normal-looking person.
@rosem.3533
@rosem.3533 6 жыл бұрын
Thank you Mark! This takes off the pressure
@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger
@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger 6 жыл бұрын
Rose Morales 👍
@marylourodriguez3295
@marylourodriguez3295 4 жыл бұрын
Thank You God! 🙌🏻😅 And thank you Mark. I needed to hear this that I wasn’t the only one to have thoughts like these lol 😊 Great tips! 👍🏻
@ririsrumintan465
@ririsrumintan465 6 жыл бұрын
Every kind of your video it's really helpful and very clear. Easy to understand without other interpretation.... Thanks Mark! God bless!!
@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger
@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger 6 жыл бұрын
riris rumintan so glad this was clear and helpful!
@godfearingwomanilovejesus2840
@godfearingwomanilovejesus2840 6 жыл бұрын
Thanks for the video, helpful tips
@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger
@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger 6 жыл бұрын
My pleasure God fearing woman I love Jesus!
@damarine1
@damarine1 6 жыл бұрын
EXACTLY What I have been looking for
@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger
@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger 6 жыл бұрын
So glad this was helpful!
@salmasays6212
@salmasays6212 6 жыл бұрын
Gosh! Such wise counsel. Thank you!
@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger
@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger 6 жыл бұрын
My pleasure, so glad you found this helpful :)
@spreadthegospel6667
@spreadthegospel6667 3 жыл бұрын
Mark…such great info! You are so used by God and I thank you!
@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger
@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger 3 жыл бұрын
I'm so glad it was helpful! All glory to God!
@renaissancegirl87
@renaissancegirl87 5 жыл бұрын
This is what Tiffany Dawn would call getting stuck in the cycle of Mr. Maybe.
@SweetSerenadeXyWem
@SweetSerenadeXyWem 3 жыл бұрын
Hello random person who commented this two years ago. I'm happy to see other people who watch(ed) both this channel and Tiffany's. Do you perhaps have other channels you would recommend?
@LoveBeautyFun7
@LoveBeautyFun7 6 жыл бұрын
This was great confirmation for me. I just recently started doing this and now I feel more secure about it.
@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger
@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger 6 жыл бұрын
So glad this was helpful :)
@eduardofuste7194
@eduardofuste7194 6 жыл бұрын
Thank you for this amazing advice Mark! I SURELY NEEDED TO HEAR THIS MESSAGE
@akinpelumishakirat4217
@akinpelumishakirat4217 5 жыл бұрын
I am so blessed by this video. God bless you . I thought I was the only one. Thanks so much
@ityyyyyy
@ityyyyyy 4 жыл бұрын
Lol! I did this twice today at church. Looking at every young man
@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger
@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger 4 жыл бұрын
God bless :)
@c_mahepath
@c_mahepath 6 жыл бұрын
So good!!! Your videos are always full of wisdom & real practical tips to help people.
@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger
@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger 6 жыл бұрын
Thanks!
@SAI03
@SAI03 4 жыл бұрын
Doesnt happen EVERYTIME I meet someone. But when I have my eye on someone this is a struggle for me 🤦🏿🤦🏿🤦🏿🤦🏿🤦🏿🤦🏿
@lexie02jones25
@lexie02jones25 6 жыл бұрын
The third one is what I’m gonna do! Very helpful! Thank you!
@PowerAestheticsOfficial
@PowerAestheticsOfficial 4 жыл бұрын
Sound like really solid, wise and helpful advice, thank you very much for sharing this! Blessings!
@paigeperrine6751
@paigeperrine6751 2 жыл бұрын
Omgosh you’re helping me so much thank you! Praise God!
@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger
@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger 2 жыл бұрын
You are so welcome! all glory to God!
@Mary-gr3mr
@Mary-gr3mr 3 жыл бұрын
This is just awesome, awesome , awesome. Overcome
@kiaragonzalez6448
@kiaragonzalez6448 6 жыл бұрын
Thank you Brother for Applying God's Word and sharing it with us. GOD BLESS YOU, thank you for all the videos they help.
@kasujjamathias5463
@kasujjamathias5463 Жыл бұрын
It's important for God Himself to show you His chosen spouse.This will save you from your thoughts sizing one sister or brother after.(Isaiah 48:5, Jeremiah 33:3, Proverbs 29:18,Amos. When you're sure of God's will in your life,it saves from the try and error method of trying one sister or brother after another in your search journey.Even your prayer for your marriage become focused on who God has shown you.
@davidmckenzie1679
@davidmckenzie1679 5 жыл бұрын
Love your teachings Sir and the way you explain things.God bless you continually.🙏
@AceAgallah
@AceAgallah 4 жыл бұрын
This is something i actually want to wonder.
@merlinsvdd
@merlinsvdd 6 жыл бұрын
This video was very helpful to me coz I also am like that. That's why, I hurt the guy in church. I will take your advice, Mark. It will help me, too. Anyway, pray for me to heed your advice before I go for my retreat on Nov 9. I will be with the guy, that I hurt in the past. Thanks.
@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger
@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger 6 жыл бұрын
Just prayed for you
@jessicaborgogni9595
@jessicaborgogni9595 4 жыл бұрын
Also, do you have a video on “biblical divorce”? That’d be awesome
@johnlocke4670
@johnlocke4670 6 жыл бұрын
This video definitely relates to me. I’m only 25 but I’m starting to feel more and more nervous that marriage will never happen. I actually only know of one girl that’s a Christian who would be dateable for me. I feel like as a Christian, you have a lot less options since you must marry another Christian. This girl I like at my church I admittedly don’t know very well, but she is very Godly. We both volunteer a lot but our paths never seem to cross. We’ve only had very few interactions with each other. I feel like if God wanted me to be with her, He would have our paths cross in some kind of way so that we could get to know each other more. I don’t know who else I could possibly marry. If it’s not her, then it must be some girl I haven’t met yet, but for some reason, despite all the volunteering I do, I never meet Christian girls around my age. That girl who goes to my church is literally the only one, and I feel the pressure and anxiety if I try to talk to her. I don’t even know if she is single, but I have never seen her with any guy. But she does have a lot of Christian friends and some of them are guys which makes it seem unlikely to me that things would work out. I feel like it’s just wishful thinking on my part. Please pray for me that God will reveal something to me soon. If God actually gave me this girl in the future, I don’t think I would ever doubt God again. I feel like it would be the most miraculous thing He could do for me.
@johnlocke4670
@johnlocke4670 6 жыл бұрын
I was 17 when I went on my first date, had my first girlfriend and first kiss. We held hands too but never did anything beyond that. This was the only relationship I've ever been in beyond a first date, but it only lasted a few months. It was over the summer between my Junior and Senior year of highschool. This girl I dated was actually an atheist, and I wasn't a Christian at the time. I never grew up in church or heard the gospel. But looking back, this girl was a bad influence on me and she influenced me to be an atheist. She broke my heart(it was the worst feeling imaginable). And so don't be too sad about not having ever dated. You're being spared of experiencing what it's like to have your heart broken. What's ironic, is that the heart-break I went through is actually what initially led me to become a Christian in the first place. There were other factors as well, but that was the first spark that led to a chain of other events to where I am now. Now Jesus is the center of my life wheras 7-8 years ago, I didn't even believe in God. So looking back I can see how that God used that heart-break to draw me towards Him. Even though I wasn't a Christian for the first 18-20 years of my life, I'm still a virgin. I've been able to save myself for marriage despite not having Christ in my life for nearly 20 years(although I wished I could have saved my first kiss for marriage). Sadly, there aren't a lot of men like me 25 years old who can still say they are virgins. What's unusual is that there really isn't anything about me that I think would make me unattractive. I've had lots of older women tell me that they are shocked that I'm still single. I'm tall, fit, athletic, and have a 145 IQ. My pastor told me that I'm one of the nicest person he's ever met, have a huge heart, a huge desire to serve and love others, and am very reliable and dependable. I can teach the hardest math classes. I even taught natural theology at my church(arguments for the existence of God) and other christian apologetics material. I have a lot of talents, and so why on earth am I still single??? It makes no sense to me. My pastor told me I have the "gift of uniqueness." I've never heard of that before, but he says that God may have someone very specific for me since I'm not a normal person. The girl I like at my church on the other hand, has been a Christian her whole life. She grew up at church, grew up in youth camps etc. She's even the worship leader at our church. I'm kind of worried that she may not want to pursue a marriage with me partly because I used to be an atheist even though I'm genuinely a Christian now. Although most people in my church(including her) I haven't told them about my past atheism. My pastor knows about it and a few others. I'll be praying for you that God will bring the right person in your life. You are still 17 and so you got plenty of years. God sometimes lets us go through trials so we can grow in faith and in our relationship with Him.
@Ladybugs2225
@Ladybugs2225 4 жыл бұрын
I never clicked on a video so fast😂😭
@migdaliamojica7123
@migdaliamojica7123 6 жыл бұрын
Amen, we can't treat any one better then another one because of what they work in or age or guessing that's the one. Cause someone you just met is a stranger. You have to see as you be yourself. How that person is for who they are. As you keep knowing them and see thing or questions you had with in yourself being answer.Your going to realize how the person is. That's going to let you know if you could ever see yourself more then a friend in the future. Great advice given there. It's always a blessing.God blend you.📙📙📙
@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger
@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger 6 жыл бұрын
Thanks for sharing Migdalia Mojica!
@sadgilouis2092
@sadgilouis2092 4 жыл бұрын
These are some really helpful tips, thank you so much!
@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger
@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger 4 жыл бұрын
You're so welcome!
@skaterman8180
@skaterman8180 2 жыл бұрын
Great stuff Mark, I will be incorporating these for sure
@aramintawilliams5205
@aramintawilliams5205 6 жыл бұрын
I’m talking to a guy I met online and everything’s going well. Someone said he could be the one and I’m trying so hard not to think that way cause it’s not that serious right now.😬
@jessicasimunek6904
@jessicasimunek6904 3 жыл бұрын
I made an idol out of my current relationship and I think that is part of the reason that it didn't work out. Like a lot of divorced people, I want to be very sure about a person before I would ever consider remarrying again. I didn't like how obsessed I got about the outcome of the relationship. I definitely had to reframe the parameters of the relationship and get back to putting Jesus first. I don't know if things are "meant to be" but I guess I just want to find love inside the safety that a Christian realationship offers.
@Neenz2990
@Neenz2990 4 жыл бұрын
Mark you are blessing my life yet again.
@ConstantiaVerted
@ConstantiaVerted 2 жыл бұрын
Excellent vid as usual, thanks.
@rogerbrady2003rab
@rogerbrady2003rab 6 жыл бұрын
Thanks Mark you hit the home run with this.. but its not new for me either. My struggle with this (food for thought) is that if I did not entertain this idea at all how would I know if that person is the one or not? Obviously one should not be consumed by it but still, How would I know?
@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger
@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger 6 жыл бұрын
This might help kzbin.info/www/bejne/iqmWpaqticx-b5o
@alejandronarvaiz872
@alejandronarvaiz872 5 жыл бұрын
Still trying to make me feel like shit . I give up you win have fun with all your fuck buddy's
@maryswenson5357
@maryswenson5357 6 жыл бұрын
It messes up things to think this way always get to know character and personality I try to remember he's cute but he could have commitment issues not believe in God and no work ethic so get to know someone
@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger
@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger 6 жыл бұрын
True
@lovelymel1585
@lovelymel1585 6 жыл бұрын
Right on time 🙏 Thank you for this!
@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger
@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger 6 жыл бұрын
My pleasure!
@aliciakiarie372
@aliciakiarie372 6 жыл бұрын
Perfect timing..
@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger
@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger 6 жыл бұрын
Alicia Kiarie 👍
@wendyberkel4643
@wendyberkel4643 5 жыл бұрын
I saying it too i always asking God if they is the one me i think so but no more ill ask God and wait on him
@nisha9160Sac
@nisha9160Sac 5 жыл бұрын
This video came right on time. Thank you ❤
@blesschild365jesusistheonl8
@blesschild365jesusistheonl8 5 жыл бұрын
Om glad u but me back on focus.for the summer..
@surendemel8297
@surendemel8297 5 жыл бұрын
I'm done pursuing relationships. I'm just done.
@marylsanz
@marylsanz 3 жыл бұрын
Everytime you meet a person, think Lord help me be godly. If knowing a person lead for male take leadership, if not you have someone to speak on your behalf as a testimony of who you are.
@musicislife7464
@musicislife7464 3 жыл бұрын
Jesus first !!! Don’t loose hope tho stay strong .)
@zuvarashe900
@zuvarashe900 4 жыл бұрын
This was awesome! Thank you!
@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger
@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger 4 жыл бұрын
So glad it was helpful!
@alexanderson3841
@alexanderson3841 2 жыл бұрын
Thanks bro 💪🏾🙏🏾
@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger
@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger 2 жыл бұрын
My pleasure!
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