How to Deal with the Hardest Parts of Singleness: Loneliness, Confusion, Anger Towards God . . .

[@Cattegirn]

I would definitely say loneliness, and desire for companionship.

[@jtjones423]

Amen

[@vincentortega4284]

So true, Cattegirn, that deep desire for that best friend to share life with, and loneliness.

[@treyichabod5840]

I agree completely. Allow me to share a little story... After two particularly long and toxic relationships, I have started going to therapy, working on myself, doing self improvement... And I finally achieved my life long dream - I bought a motorcycle and started to ride all over my country, every weekend. Drinks after work, field trips, etc. Bad boy style. But it didn't take long until loneliness set in. Whatever I did, felt meaningless. Every second I spent on my motorcycle, I kept thinking about how much I want to have someone to share it with. Someone to come home to. Someone to join me on my field trips. Loneliness retreated for a bit, and I felt like I can live alone forever. But then it came back with a vengeance

[@mariaelizabethramos4975]

at times..,

[@kilodeltawhisky1504]

@@treyichabod5840 it's like your heart is in a cage. I had a vision this morning of my heart, ripped open and pegged out like a skin/pelt. Inside is Jesus on a cross. Jesus is the only one who will not forsake us. The only one who can heal our hearts. Take care, God bless.

[@TheReal_Pim_Tool]

The hardest part about being single is everything.

[@timetofly291]

"...and then some" 🙂

[@oaklandsoldier8520]

Definitely.

[@elizabethjohnson6923]

Amen

[@tristanmaxwell8403]

Continued unanswered prayer from god about my singleness is whet lead me to atheism

[@tristanmaxwell8403]

@@richardadesida5257 I get what your saying, but if god loves me he should prove it, by caring about the things I care. If I am going to care about Gods desires I think he should also care about mine. I am not going to be in a relationship with someone disregards my feelings but demands that I care about his desires and then threatens hell or punishments

[@ldreese33]

The hardest part, constantly thinking there is something wrong with you.

[@timetofly291]

Or thinking you've been too choosey in the past. However God doesn't want to bless some of us with a love we can believe in.

[@theonlyqueenyouknow]

This is so real!! I wad thinking about that today 😪

[@alisonbrooks5831]

Yes loneliness is the worst part especially on a Sunday after church when everyone goes home or out with their spouse or family and I go home alone again .

[@strobx1]

That's a BIG 10-4!!! Being terminally single sucks!

[@misss7758]

That's why I am done with church.

[@jamesdavidson4769]

Me Too.

[@soniayoyse4978]

Yes, I feel like that too Sunday after church I go home and I feel the loneliness

[@timetofly291]

Actually God sent me several Possibilities in church, bur they didn't measure up to my expectations. Always remember that there are divorces in Church, so what does that say about the partners God hooks us up with?

[@stephanieperry2602]

Seeing others in relationships when u are not in one

[@courtneypurdle9837]

That's me .seeing everybody in relationships.abd there's me .single as a Pringle😂

[@trugritt3789]

How is everybody doing? I hope everyone, and their family is doing fine given what is going on in the world. I have something I just wanted to express that I've been holding onto, you can say I have been a little embarrassed by it. I got into a car accident when I was 24 years old in 2013 leaving me a C4 quadriplegic, paralyzed from the neck down. People have been telling me what I could and could not do every sense, and I have been allowing their words to dictate my life and the moves that I have made for 7 years now, particularly in the world of dating. Only recently I mustered up enough strength to approach a girl and tell her I was interested. To her credit, she was honest with me and told me that she didn't think someone in my situation had anything to offer her. This shattered me, not because she turned me down, but why she turned me down. She didn't turn me down because I was a bad person, or I was insensitive, or was disrespectful, or I was lazy, or I was unemployed or anything having to do with the actual man that was asking her out. She turned me down because instead of seeing the man, all she saw was the disability. What she said wasn't wrong, I do not have much to offer even myself when it comes to being able to do things, but in regards to still being a man, and still being respectable, honest and caring there is much I still have to offer, that she didn't even give the time of day to take notice of. I am not ignorant man, I am not a foolish man, I know what I look like and I know the situation that I am in, but does that mean I am not deserving of love? Or companionship? I never intended on speaking these things, to anyone, let alone sharing them to hundreds of people in social media. But I felt as though if I can muster up enough courage to complete one momentous act, I can do it again. And that act is to ask the question, is there anyone else who has experienced this type of rejection? And if so, how did they deal with it, because to be honest, I'm not dealing with it so great. If anyone would like to reach out, or have a more private conversation you can shoot me a private message or send me an email at [e-mail]

[@shonnonwootensr.7762]

I'm friend zoned myself.

[@marshachesbro5969]

Even walking the mall is lonely.Couples holding hands. Even Lesbian 👭holding hands. I just want to die.

[@JTlifecoaching]

@@marshachesbro5969 bruh i feel you 😂 come on, we gonna go through this together

[@musicsmuse09]

I've been single my whole life, and the older I get (I just turned 35) the more I think about this very thing. Since I was a little girl I've always known I wanted to be a wife and mother, I felt...and still feel that it's what I'm called to do. The hardest aspect of still being single and earnestly desiring marriage are: 1. Sexual Frustration- I'm 35 and by the grace of God, still a virgin. This. Is. Hard. I'm human and God made me with sexual desire that I cannot yet righteously fulfill, it's really discouraging to think that I may never be able to have this life experience if I never marry. 2. Not having children- Again, I cannot imagine never getting to be a mom. Having no legacy to leave behind when I'm gone, never having the awesome experience of carrying a new life and giving birth. The thought of missing out on this makes me extremely sad. 3. Someone to share life with- I know that my family and friends love me, but living alone...having no one to go home to except my dog is getting harder as the years go. When I get home from work there's no one to talk to, to care for and have care for me, to share a meal with... sometimes women just want to be held, and having a man to love and love me in return is something I have a deep longing for. Those are my top three, I know God is able, He is a good God weather I marry or remain single. I try not to fall into doubt and disbelief, and I ask that if you're reading this, please pray for me.

[@georgebrown373]

I am a male in nearly the same situation. I would love to talk.

[@SomethingBeautifulHandcrafts]

Let's pray for each other. I never really wanted children, but secretly, I never really thought I'd get this far without having any real prospects. Maybe it's just a biological clock thing, I never noticed it before, but I'm starting to feel a little sad about never having children. With all the stuff I do, I have noone to do them with, and no one to pass things on to, so yeah.

[@musicsmuse09]

Hi George, thanks for reading and replying to my comment. I'd love to talk as well...but I'm extremely un-savvy with technology and have no idea how to give you my email without giving it to everyone else who reads this lol.

[@musicsmuse09]

Definitely! I will keep you in prayer.

[@georgebrown373]

@@musicsmuse09 Thanks for your response. I will try and figure out something. God bless you. Ttyl

[@Paul-ud7pt]

I have never been married, and about to turn 50. My most difficult struggle: Anger toward God. I was taught early on to “wait until marriage”. I did not have an issue with this. I was 17 then. I figured I’d be married by 25. Didn’t seem like a big deal to wait 7 or 8 years. Then I met “The one”, except this feeling was just wishful thinking. Ten years later, I met “The one” again. Was wrong again. Never had a problem being single, except when you feel you have met the girl that you have been waiting for your whole life, and she doesn’t feel the same way. This has caused resentment in my heart. I feel like I’ve been duped. Trusted in Him only to experience profound disappointment. However, in recent years my heart has healed. But this is my journey, my biggest struggle.

[@Cowzai]

I'm sorry. Praying for you brother. Keep your eyes set not on this life but the next. We are promised suffering. Keep your head up. I'll pray that God clarifys what He is saying to you in this seasons and I'll be praying that someone special will come into your life by the will of God

[@angelagoh5563]

Wow brother. I understand your situation. Went through the same issues. Angry at God. Made wrong decisions. Almost loose my faith. Then He came to me in a vision to trust Him again and how much He loves me and never forsake me. Thus, I surrendered to Him. Later, He solved all the cases at the result of my wrong decisions. As for now, I'm almost 50 too and still single. Still struggling and keep holding onto Him. Ya mock by other narrow minded people for being too "old" to look for partner.

[@tupouvukialau6027]

Same here ☹

[@Keralachosen]

Your not alone

[@ldwoods3237]

Very transparent and I'm pleasantly surprised this is coming from a male. Blessings to you 🙏🏽

[@melindahiggison580]

Hardest part for me is just wanting to be loved and to love someone. The loneliness sometimes is debilitating..

[@mitchelolson629]

Accepting loneliness after 6 years has gotten incredibly sad. I just want Jesus to return so the desire can leave, just want it to be over.

[@mitchelolson629]

@@BruceJC75 If I turn my heart to stone I would become quite the monster. The idea has appealed to me at times... but that just isn't who I want to be. Not to mention God took my heart of stone and made it flesh, I would be deserting His will and work in me.

[@kaleyjoplinRAWRR]

Yeah I sometimes feel like this too. I know this an old comment but I thought I'd reply anyways. I had this conversation with someone once in the past. They said they couldn't wait for Jesus to return. This was someone who was married for awhile, they had found their spouse early in life and had children. It looked like they had it all already. Like, of course they would feel this way! They don't know what it's like to have this strong desire to marry and start a family and wait, and wait for what seems like forever. Back then I couldn't help but disagree because I still felt like I hadn't gotten to experience so much, like marriage, love, relationships etc. But I was more optimistic and hopeful back then that it would happen eventually. As the years go by, it's been harder to still have that hope.

[@oaklandsoldier8520]

Me too

[@kristenrenken4931]

Yes !!!! I beg to go home 🙏🏻

[@mitchelolson629]

@@kaleyjoplinRAWRR Old comment, but still rings true for me, I feel for you and others like us. It is not an easy struggle to desire an intimate companionship, to desire children, to desire the deep human joys of life, but then be starved of those. I really look forward to Jesus coming back; but I cannot deny that I am disappointed to have not had a family of my own with the short mortal lives we are given. Time is so short at this point I doubt it will happen. I guess this is part of the struggle of being the generation to see Jesus return soon.

[@lindstheteacher1611]

Hardest parts: 1. Never having been in a relationship. 2. Seeing others in relationships and struggling with envy. 3. Sexual drive. At 20, it’s super hard NOT to think of anything sexual. I don’t want to desire it. 4. Loneliness and being alone. 5. The church’s idolization of marriage and family. 6. Not knowing whether or not I will be married or not. I just want to know:( If God told me no then I would stop my period and try to stop feeling sexual and start really pursuing singleness in every godly way possible.

[@popertop]

The solution is to prepare like you're gonna get married even when you don't. If God told you who you were going to marry, you'd need the same patience and restraint you need right now in your singleness. It would be just as hard not to rush things because you already know. Take your hands off the wheel and try to focus on what God has put in front of you for right now. Sometimes it takes a while, His timing is not our timing. It was hard/is hard for Jesus to wait too, trust that He knows exactly how you feel.

[@tinacampbell1384]

I haven't gone to church for 4 weeks now, everyone is married and has families, it's lonely.

[@jtjones423]

Lindstheteacher You probably hear this all the time but you’ve got plenty of time ! I’m sure the perfect person will come around when you least expect it. You’re a good looking girl, I’m sure any bloke would be happy to be with you.. Hang in there. Trust in god & trust in time !

[@timetofly291]

@@tinacampbell1384 Catering to couples used to be the foundation of church it seems. However the last church I attended had a "Single's Ministry" for those who weren't married. It doesn't matter how loving of a person we are. People get married for convenience and money in church just like they do in the world. Of course some of it is real love and leads to lasting happiness. I haven't been back to church in at least 20 years myself because I developed the habit of looking at the good marriages, and forgot about the several seemingly good marriages that I also saw fall apart. I am not so much angry at God, but highly upset that he doesn't care about the matters of my heart. Perhaps church is just about shutting up, accepting our lives as they are, and giving 10% of our income over freely to the church.

[@Anthony-yy3kc]

@@tinacampbell1384 but not going to church just hurts you. Don't think that because everyone there is married you can't get a lot of good by being there for worship and teaching.

[@leahluvvanderson3131]

The desire just continues to grow and there’s no outlet.... 😭

[@chengetaimachaka]

You know singleness is extremely difficult when people opt to be in toxic relationships than be alone. I just wish I had no desire to be married or dating, life would be so much easier if I didn't care.

[@Summerhaven97]

It takes strength for to hold out for Gods best instead of settling for something that won’t ultimately fulfill, but meets certain desires. I am sorry you are discouraged, I feel it too! I was dating a good man for his companionship but knowing I didn’t see him as my future husband. I was selfish and had to face my loneliness and break up with him so we could both meet someone who is meant for us. I wish I could keep him as a friend, but that too is selfish considering his strong feelings for me. May God reveal his plan for both of us, and soon!!

[@janetkatiwanorman2567]

May everyone here find true love and a Godly partner.

[@tonycole5209]

God doesn't guarantee that with every christian single.

[@soniayoyse4978]

Amen

[@ryanyoung8909]

Amen

[@Sophia-le4ll]

When I see other Christians who did not obey God's word and lived in sin but still seem to be so blessed by God through marriage....

[@chrisr5649]

Never judge a life by the surface. So much happens that we never see but disobeying God will always lead to poor consequences. Sometimes, his grace bypasses a lot of consequences, but a real Christian will not feel okay with disobeying the word.

[@livingunashamed4869]

I just think Christians stress/obsess over being single/being married way too much. If we just focus on worshiping God living for Him everything will be ok. Married or not the goal is still the same...Glorify Abba.

[@racpatrice]

👏👏👏

[@MrLoganTH]

For me, I would say there's three main sources of irritation. 1) Getting guilted by other Christians for really wanting to be married. This usually comes with something along the lines of "Christ should be enough for you", oftentimes being stated by a person that happens to be married. I like to respond to this by saying "God doesn't give hugs". There are very distinctive forms and expressions of love that one simply can't experience from God while we're on this earth. I like hugs, I like kisses, I like holding hands, I like writing and singing cheesy love songs, I like surprise gifts, and I'm sure I'll like sex. God is not going to come down from heaven and give any of these things to me. Yet none of these things are bad and some Christians will guilt you for it anyway (again, these people are usually married themselves). Also, being told that singleness is a gift. I would say that singleness is only a gift when it's separated from loneliness (this would also apply to monogamy). 2) People consoling you by saying that you're "sweet", "nice" or a "good guy". This isn't really specific to Christians necessarily, but I think its implications are far greater when applied to a religious context. I absolutely *loathe* when friends say this to me, especially after a rejection. It rings hollow and feels insincere. After awhile, you just come to associate those words with deficiency of self. They cease to tell you what you are, but instead what you *aren't*. It leads you to think that you're being "punished" or penalized by God for having integrity. That's the most dangerous part. Years back, I went through a few months of what would probably be best described as a crisis of faith. I did some things that I would ordinarily never do but did because I was sick of suffering for nothing. Eventually, I regained my focus but this still hinders me to varying degrees. I will say that my good nature did pay off in obtaining my last relationship. That and a whole lot of prayer. It didn't work out in the end, but it was the only relationship where we parted amicably. I'm grateful for that and I look to that experience when I'm feeling disenchanted. 3) Not knowing whether you're intended to marry. This should be obvious. If I'm hoping and praying for marriage and God does not will me to be married, it would be preferable to know that so I'm not wasting my time looking forward to something that will never arrive. The outlook of this can often feel at best, an annoyance, and at worst, cruelty. Anyway, those are my three.

[@SwatchMeCrochet]

To start, I'm single too. And I understand the part of "God can't give a hug." I've had that thought so many times. But I've also noticed that in times when I NEED a hug and I've been raw and honest with God about it, He's sent me a hug. It might have came from my daughter or son (who are adults) or a friend, and not been what I WANTED, but what I needed was a hug and He supplied it. And I mean down to the fact that one night I was hurting pretty bad, and crying. I told God I needed a hug. I was home alone. Out of the blue, my daughter who was in college and not really living with me, showed up, came into my bedroom and gave me a hug. She said she felt like giving me a hug. This is the God we serve.

[@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger]

Thanks for sharing this with us

[@rocquellove7786]

Thank you, you expressed these points well. I'm a single Christian woman.

[@craigime]

@@SwatchMeCrochet wish i could get that

[@SwatchMeCrochet]

@@craigime what do you wish you could get?

[@tabithakinner2407]

The one encouraging thing my pastor said last week was , " if I trust God with my salvation why can't I trust him to provide me a spouse?" so true and so helpful. Instead of praying that I would have a husband, I am thanking God for him beforehand .

[@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger]

Thanks for sharing this with us!

[@motobyahewithmaskriderjay4188]

🙌

[@beccacertifiedpersonaltrai3636]

@@InitialPC Providing a spouse is easier than providing salvation. I get what you are saying. I am reminded of the account in the synoptic gospels of the friends of the guy with the injured leg opening the roof & letting him down so Jesus can provide healing.

[@geraldineclark3438]

I was married 17 years and widowed now for 12 years. I miss the companionship and a partner. I've endured cancer twice thank the Lord I'm in remission. I didn't have a partner there to care for me.

[@judithreyes4664]

Geraldine Clark You have endured so much and the Lord has been with you so far, I pray God Provide’s near and Dear friends to fill the void.

[@Yes2Jesus22]

Oh max God be your vindicator

[@blessedsoul949]

May God be your strength

[@Miranda9Bella]

Geraldine Clark May cancer no longer just be in remission, but may every cancer cell dry up and be eradicated from your entire body by the Spirit who saith, I am He who healeth ALL thy diseases, may you walk in divine health and may the joy the Lord be your strength in Jesus Name🙏🏽

[@misss7758]

That's awful!

[@florencegitau8255]

May God help us singles to accept the hardships and ask Him for more strength cos many times I feel giving up. Fasting and praying for a husband or many yrs yet only seeing all my frds married and left alone and isolated hurts most. Being a laughing stalk makes me shed tears and feel disappointed.

[@jordangibreal6505]

i think what i am learning now is to be content and happy with the way our life is and wait for God to respond to our prayers , i am in the same situation and it helps sharing..

[@blessedsoul949]

Take heart in God

[@Miranda9Bella]

Florence Gitau yikes, if Anyone is laughing at you, they are not a true friend..ask God to reveal the hearts of people to you so you do not sow friendship where is it not genuinely and lovingly reciprocated..

[@timetofly291]

I've had chances to get married before, but I turned them down. I don't regret those choices because I saw where it was going. I know it really is hard to deal with, but sometimes a bad marriage can be worse. Never give up. Feel free to keep our comment going, so we can have a new friend in each other to listen to our problems.

[@EBThisThat]

If you have no social life it's hard, too. Being single is expensive.

[@nhyh]

What?! How is treating yourself and yourself alone expensive? Lmao

[@tinacampbell1384]

Paying everything on your own sucks, and it's harder for women.

[@tinacampbell1384]

@@nhyh try having 3 teenagers and doing it all on your own

[@tinacampbell1384]

@@nhyh 😠😠😠😠😠😠😠

[@MissLebo24]

I just need and want to be content with my singleness, I want to be after the Lord's heart. I want to be content to the point that whether God has a man for me out there or not, I'll still be joyful and worship him. I don't want to idolise marriage and this loneliness is causing me to start thinking that every guy I meet is probably my future husband 😩. Please pray for me not to seek marriage or anything else more than God

[@hotspark78]

Right on! I'm trying to get closer to God, I want Him to be the love of my life.

[@trishaspradlin554]

Yes, a great thing to pray for. I'm there too

[@Anthony-yy3kc]

One thing that helped me accept my singleness is being in a 12 step recovery group because one of the tenets of recovery is to stay away from relationships and surrender your desires to God. I have been celibate now for several months and I don't feel the urge to "act out" like I used to. In fact there are men in the group who have been celibate for 5 or 6 years.

[@hannahi9355]

I feel like the hardest part is not having a say in when I am or not. Every other area in life can be controlled, but when it comes to this you kind of just have to wait around. Its very annoying that way I think.

[@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger]

Interesting point, thanks for sharing that with us

[@shareewalls6032]

Oh yes the loneliness is real most of the time. I just purchased my first home I would've loved to go through that with a spouse. Or those nights in bed my new room seems that much empty..

[@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger]

Thank you for sharing this

[@ldwoods3237]

Came back to this after an extremely tough day at work feeling depleted and defeated knowing that I'm coming home to turn the key to a beautiful place but yet ALONE. Please keep me in prayer that I stay focused and not rush God's process for genuine and Godly companionship that will prayerfully turn into a Godly marriage with my purposed partner 🙏🏽 #ThisisHard #Godknows

[@timetofly291]

The power of prayer can do wonders except for when it comes to meeting a life partner it seems. After all, it would mean that God might have to bend someone else's will for that to happen. I'll pray for you to meet the right person for you, and you please do the same for me. God said "Whenever two or more are gathered he is there. ". I suppose he knew about the internet when he said that.

[@bensonalexander5264]

Actually the hardest part is not knowing who exactly or when you will meet the right person God wants you to marry, especially when you want to get married by a certain deadline and it seems like it's taking longer than when you want God to give you a girlfriend/spouse.

[@jacquilou7772]

Agree! Same here! :)

[@Miranda9Bella]

Benson Alexander Exercising faith comes with embracing Not knowing the "who/when"..and because God is omniscient, He knows our human deadlines generally don't take into consideration the eternal purpose, plan, and assignment that He has for the marriage, which always comes with Significant preparation, which is why anything hardly ever happens on our timetable..the timing of the Father is always perfect, never premature and never a day late..God bless

[@misss7758]

@@Miranda9Bella Well its way past late for me. The body is already in the tomb for many years.

[@Miranda9Bella]

@@misss7758 Ha nonsense! Your body is not in a tomb if you can type on KZbin!☺️ Don't let the enemy cast doubt or disbelief in your heart, trust God to do what seems impossible, because that's what He specializes in! And it may sound cliché, but don't forget Abraham and Sara, their story is recorded for a reason, to show us a Supernatural God is never bound by natural circumstances, the scripture says, Abraham was "well stricken in years", YET GOD STILL MANIFESTED A PROMISE..whatever you do, DON'T lose hope! The scripture tells us, "our ladder days can always be Greater than our former" -Job 8:7

[@Miranda9Bella]

@@misss7758 Lol I knew your body wasnt in a tomb, but was just trying to cheer you up a bit ☺️ I am getting older as well, and maybe the majority of my hairs arent grey, but they are definitely starting to pop out 😅 so I can actually relate to the majority of what you shared, and I'm reminded of something a Pastor I know used to say, "you can have a moment, but don't let the moment have you" meaning, if you have a moment of discouragement/depression (which most waiting on a spouse for an extended period of time probably would at some point) don't let it consume you to the point where that becomes your "state"..sure there are 100 things in life that we sometimes would want to happen sooner in our life than later in life, but God holds the master timetables in His Hands, but if you have already said the dream is no longer there, that basically ties God's Hands from working a miracle, since God only operates IN our Faith, He doesn't override it..believe it or not, there are many women in their 50s,60s, and 70s, that are still trusting and believing God to move in their life in this area of providing a spouse..I will send you a few links from a ministry I have followed the past 3 years, whose sole focus is on singles/supernatural marriage/marriage restoration, it has blessed and encouraged me tremendously..if you decide to listen, maybe something will be shared that will also encourage you..

[@danielhayes7967]

Isolation is mine. The feeling I don't belong anywhere.

[@marshachesbro5969]

I feel the same way.I had lots of dates before getting saved. I regret being saved when I have to go through alone now.

[@carmeebagnol8813]

The challenges: 1. Feel pressure due to age, I'm turning 33 next month and no boyfriend, no suitors or no specific man that I can pray of. I love God and he give peace in my heart while I'm waiting but He put marriage, family of my own in my heart so I believe that it will come to pass. 2. Surrounded with young men and non believers man. But my heart is guarded by God's grace. He sustains me and He gives contentment in my heart in this season of waiting. Lots of challenges but I am embracing these while waiting for His promises in my life.

[@stephenbaldassarre2289]

I don't know where you are, but a lot of men in Western culture have been shamed out of taking interest in women. If you like somebody, you might need to make the first move.

[@Ro2008sie]

Sexual temptation does not mean porn addiction. Little disappointed that it was equated to that, but this video made me bawl my eyes out anyway for the other points mentioned. I love God and have gotten so much closer in recent months than ever before but I admit I am angry that I have so much love to give and I am not married. As far as the hardest thing for me as a single Christian female is turning 37 next month. I have no children and have never been married and being in my late 30s I am scared I will not be able to have children. If not I am fine with adopting but still my parents were older parents and it’s different when you are an older parent too. My devoutly Christian sister actually suggested this weekend that I adopt as a single person if I really want children that badly. This is insane to me because who would ever choose to be a single parent. Parenthood is challenging enough with two parents why would you ever choose that path. I know the single female celebs make it look easy or cool to adopt all these kids and not have a father in their lives but I totally disagree. I would never want to deprive a child of a father. It’s just so hard. Other than that I whole heartedly agree with every point made / discussed here with regard to hardest things, to the point I had to literally cry out to God. It’s really so difficult to be a single Christian in general, but for me it’s being what I call a unicorn (never been married no kids and almost FORTY) I feel I am so rare I see no one else around like me in that way. 😞 2020 update: just got married a couple months ago to the man God had for me. I have never known love like this and it constantly reminds me of Gods love for his bride the church. My husband is a bit of a unicorn too although he’d been married before, he had no kids either. We are this amazing fit together and I’m amazed with everything we experience together we both talk about how long we wanted this exact life we have now. I would never believe you if you told me I would meet someone during a pandemic and get married finally after all these years. But here we are me and my beloved and we just had our first Christmas together. 😍

[@signesalumets7944]

Ro2008sie Hi, I am also unicorn. :)

[@jessekirksey1980]

It's some unicorns out here. Some people are careful about who they choose to entertain, as for me I don't go for the ones that are in a relationship,dating,married or anything of that nature because it's only failure in the end of it. I have a saying that goes you can turn me down but don't turn down opportunity.

[@SomethingBeautifulHandcrafts]

You are not alone. I have just come to the conclusion that it must not be God's will that I have children, and it's for my good. I'm 40, I do not want to adopt and raise a child as a single on purpose. The whole point would be to have a traditional family, it's hard enough for two people to afford a child, often mothers have to work and give their babies to the system during the most precious yeas of their lives. As a former school teacher, I would not want to do that. So to raise a child single, and older, no, I'd need to work, and that would defeat the purpose of even having kids for me. Besides, at this point, the physical energy alone, feedings at all hours... I think that would pretty much kill me. I'm not 25 anymore. If I ever get married, well, it won't be for the kids, family and picket fence thing...

[@HarrisonJBounel]

Hi, fellow unicorn here! 🙌 We need to all have a weekly unicorn prayer/fellowship /shindig together.

[@jimb3093]

Any updates?

[@curtishughes9485]

I feel the hardest parts for me are feeling that I have something to offer a woman, but I don't have anyone. And I've never been in an actual relationship. And I'm not even bad looking at all, atleast people tell me that. And it's like what is the problem with me? And also seeing other people in relationships makes me jealous because I have never been in one. And also I want to he with a believer in Christ, not an unbeliever. And it's hard to trust God a lot of times for me in that sense. And people say to be satisfied in God, and I want to. But I want someone I can show love to. And I feel I can be a wonderful person, but a relationship never comes to pass. And I feel insecure for a lot of reasons. From what people have told me in my life. And I don't really wanna type all this because I feel stupid for doing it. But yeah. And these videos are really helping me a lot. Thanks for them.

[@curtishughes9485]

Also I should probably add this. Love in a sense of where I can hug them and stuff like that. And speak to them face to face.

[@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger]

I'm glad these video are helping you

[@curtishughes9485]

Sorry for commenting again. Lol. But I really need someone to talk to. Not just in a relationship sense, but I need help with a lottt of things. Spiritually and emotianally too. But I feel I don't have no one to talk to. So I just keep it all inside and like miserably. And yeah, these videos are really helping a lot. Thank you.:)

[@curtishughes9485]

Live.*

[@curtishughes9485]

Sorry about all these comments. Lol. But I might as well type them on here. Lol. I really need prayer and help too. I feel like God doesn't love me as much cause I keep sinning. And then again I know he does, I just don't feel it. And then I feel that I'm not even worthy to pray to God cause I feel so ashamed at times. But I do pray anyways. But I keep committing the same sin, and I feel that it is making me really miserable. Along with everything else piled on top of it. Keeping all this inside and just everything I feel is going to kill me. That probably sounds stupid. Lol. But like I don't really know how to explain it. I could really use some prayers. Thanks.:)

[@archangel0137]

Loneliness shouldn't be the motive for finding a partner. Learn new skills, start working out and take up hobbies. This will take your mind off the whole 'singleness' feeling. I love exercise, playing piano, cooking and so much more. A relationship should complement a great life you've built for yourself. I'm nearly 25, single and never had a girlfriend but I've learned to love myself entirely and strengthen my relationship with God. It's a natural instinct to desire a relationship and I feel the same, but I know that relationships do not bring happiness. Just invest in yourself and build a great life anyone would want to be part of! A lot of Christians get married hoping that it will solve their problems and it doesn't. There are plenty of people who are in unhappy relationships and secretly wish they could be single. I'm just focusing on building my own life and will hopefully meet the girl of my dreams some day!!

[@AndrielleHillis]

Couldn't agree more! When my husband first died, I had latched on to this one guy, things fizzled out eventually, and it was rather hard. After a while, I started focusing on some of the hobbies I had before I got married and getting back into the ones I had before my husband got sick. That's really helping me get through it.

[@Miranda9Bella]

Archangel 01 Abbbbsolutely sooo true!

[@beccacertifiedpersonaltrai3636]

It's NOT good for man to be alone. Yet, in my pain of being lonely, I am learning to be a trader in the financial markets with Maverick Trading and hope to get some personal training clients. I would like to be the right man for a new wife, yet as I have elucidated, pain knocks me down and kicks my derriere.

[@cindyhofstetter6833]

I applaud your wisdom for being so young! Many young people your age don’t think like that 😊

[@cindyhofstetter6833]

@@beccacertifiedpersonaltrai3636 praying God sends you a wife that’s perfect for you!

[@lonniehicks9868]

I'm 58 and never married, and I feel God has forgotten about me when I see others being blessed with a wife and kids.

[@tonycole5209]

Don't feel bad b/c l gave up.

[@victoriagauthier2008]

God may have a better plan for you.

[@coveredbynobantu6082]

Hope you met someone special 🌻

[@juanitawrice9003]

I totally understand.

[@misss7758]

@@victoriagauthier2008 What better plan?

[@cailarice6511]

Thank you for addressing and covering these questions and issues about singleness!! So timely! Being a 26yr old single missionary is not easy but when going back to the states it’s even harder because we truly don’t fit in anywhere...(family life has learned to move on without you and former friends have families of their own) but the sweet presence of the Lord is so close and we can learn to be a blessing to Them in our singleness and we can find other singles to be an encouragement to. Thank you again for this very helpful video.

[@janetfaith1227]

Looking for miracle still. However, when I think of "eternity", whatever I wanna have now is no longer important! Being a single lady in her 40s, hoping to get married with someone who loves God, the chance is .....................................but again, this is my desire, Lord, may your will be done in my life.

[@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger]

Amen, God can be trusted, thanks for sharing Janet

[@jerrylisby5376]

I pray God will continue to guide you and bless you. God is pleased with your godly attitude.

[@Miranda9Bella]

@Janet Faith May He who is able to do exceeding abundantly above ALL that we ask or think according to the power that worketh in us,grant you your hearts desire in the Name above every name🙏🏽

[@carmi6831]

The hardest part is when people specifically non Christian like my workmates ask me when will you get married, dealing with people who don't know about Biblical marriage, singleblessedness, God's standard of living. People who are not rooted in the Word of God idolise marriage/relationship, it's hard to deal with worldly people, as if life is about getting married or having a partner.

[@amberholland8683]

People ask me that also

[@Yes2Jesus22]

I agree.

[@annenjoroge9695]

Av heard enough of that as well... sometimes I'm even told, you are beautiful, why aren't they (guys) noticing u? and I loathe that!

[@carmi6831]

5.14.22 This video shows up again.....God...is this you way of reminding me again coz I have monthly mental emotional breakdown...

[@katie12rose]

The hardest part about being single for me is loneliness & see everyone on social media happy in their relationships with someone. I’m only 20, but I want to start a life with someone soon & have kids at a young age. It is also very hard holding out for sex - I want to just give in at times. It’s really lonely when you want someone to build with & they’re not there. Feels like God doesn’t have a plan for me in that area. I know I’m young, but it feels like that at times. & a lot of guys at my college just want to mess around.

[@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger]

Thank you for you sharing this

[@sydneerodriguez6814]

I am 20 and in college too girl. I feel the EXACT SAME :(

[@sshuteandrew]

Girls...you’re still so young!!! Take your time :) I’m twice your age at 43....I got attached to the first guy I dated and kissed at the age of 14- I got married way too young when I was 19. I had no idea what I wanted at that age in my life, but I thought I did. I came from a volatile, unloving, emotionally unavailable yet “Christian” home. My then bf and I got along well and I got attached very quickly and easily since I had no attachment to my parents. 30 years later and I’m divorced- raising my 4 sons as a single parent. Not exactly the future I imagined. If I could do it all over again- I’d wait more patiently. I’d get to know myself fully so I know what kind of partner could best compliment me. I’d find a guy whose life I could enhance- not one that could rescue me. Prayers and best wishes to you! 🙏🏻💗

[@katie12rose]

+Stacey Swope Thank you so much for sharing this, Stacey! Thank you for your prayers, means so much! Praying for you as well 💕

[@katie12rose]

+ApplyGodsWord.com/Mark Ballenger Absolutely! Thank you for making your videos, they really encourage me & help me figure life out!

[@catheenmason]

I just love this thread so much!!! It's so healing to read all your comments. Thank you so much for opening up and baring your souls. It sure does help! I married at 20 and had 4 lovely children but I married a narcissit and I was abused the whole time for 39 years....I finally had the strength, support and opportunity to leave at the age of 59!!! I have been alone now for 6 years 5 years divorced. I have to say being divorced is such a label...I'm totally branded with a big D on my forehead. I trusted God when I entered the marriage and I felt totally duped and now I feel totally screwed. There are no godly men my age who even remotely feel like marriage and I feel I have spent my whole life living without knowing what it's like to have a loving partner. I feel sometimes like I may never in this life even though I know God wants me to be happy and experience this. He is the center of my life and I love God more than anything else. Sometimes though the anger, loss and humiliation of what I went through over comes me for a bit. But most of the time I have enjoyed the healing journey and am extremely grateful for God's hand in my life, saving me from total destruction and giving me peace.

[@shareewalls6032]

I'm a single mom in my 40's. The hardest part is just feeling marriage will never happen for me. Most singles I come across are young 20's maybe 30's with no kids. While re relate on being single they aren't moms. There's a different need or want for a partner. Sometimes I feel who's going to want someone with 3 kids. However I know God's faithful and He knows my desire..😊🙏🙏

[@oaklandsoldier8520]

Just like what woman is gonna want a 34 year old single male living at home with his mom? Lol

[@heisabletodo]

Knowing that if I never marry I’ll never be able to have sex and be in a loving and intimate relationship with a man. And that I’ll never have a husband to cover me in prayer and to do ministry with.

[@communistx8691]

Sex before marriage is not a sin. Thats one of the biggest myths of Scripture

[@heisabletodo]

I just recently broke up with my boyfriend. We’re both Christians. He broke up with me because I would not have sex and it broke my heart, but I trust and pray that in God’s perfect timing He will bring the right man into my life.

[@communistx8691]

@@heisabletodo I won't say if you did the right thing or not because I am not there and I dont know you or your man. All I can tell you is that premarital sex is not a sin in Scripture. But him breaking up with you just for that reason is also wrong. Truly sorry you had to experience that.

[@heisabletodo]

Mark Faith .. I don’t want to engage in premarital sex because I don’t believe it’s God’s best for me. Thank you for caring though.

[@communistx8691]

@@heisabletodo NP. You are more than ok to make that choice for yourself

[@oaklandsoldier8520]

The toughest part of being single for me is loneliness and lack of physical affection from a woman.

[@oaklandsoldier8520]

I'm here for the comments and reading about other people's experiences

[@johnbdsz]

My loneliness never seemed to be ending

[@geriroberts001]

Being married doesnt provide an automatic solution. An unhappy marriage is harder to endure than singleness . When single you're responsible for yourself while being married not responsible for a partners choices and decisions. Acceptance of singleness is the key. Being effectively single by having strong relationship with The Lord and others. Sowing into others' lives in Christian love.

[@Monika-tv8np]

Geri Rivenell I can relate, I was so miserable in relationships I accepted to be single. Whatever God wants

[@justink.mccurry4467]

Not an automatic solution, maybe. But a more workable solution. If you were to compare unhappy marriages to happy singleness, of course, singleness looks better. Try and compare unhappily married to unhappily single to balance it out. Otherwise, I could just counter saying "acceptance of unhappy married life is key, being effective in being unhappily married by having a strong relationship with the Lord and others" Sorry, the answer may help others feel better, which is good. In my opinion, it's just a cop-out​.

[@Monika-tv8np]

Justin K. Mccurry everyone has a different level of acceptance. Personally, I prefer to be single than unhappy in a relationship but I know many who prefer to suffer in a relationship, they can’t be alone no matter what

[@justink.mccurry4467]

Well, I'm not sure what my level of acceptance is. I've been single for a decade or so, and the response that "an unhappy marriage is harder to endure" doesn't really carry that much weight. Especially if you're comparing unhappy circumstances to happy circumstances. Geri is saying that accepting our circumstances is the solution. But wouldn't that be the solution to the circumstances of the unhappily married, as well? I don't think that has to do with 'levels of acceptance'. Rather, I think Geri is operating with a double standard that sounds nice since it was dressed up with Christian language. Only, it wasn't actually a solution but a platitude that one could fit on a bumper sticker.

[@godswordsaves7673]

Justin, yeah agreed with your earlier comment. happy and happy are the same. you're happy because you're content and fulfilled in life. whether in a relationship or not when you feel you have joy, satisfaction and fulfilment you won't necessarily want the other side of the fence. jmo

[@shawnadee8066]

Yes I do experience all of these to some degree or other but I think for me the hardest thing to deal with is jealousy; seeing other - younger couples getting married, having families or celebrating an anniversary. I want to show them I love them cos they're family or close friends but I also don't want to be around them for fear my jealousy will show... Thanks Mark this video made me analyze my own feeling and now I understand what to pray about.

[@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger]

Thank you for sharing this,I know many people can relate

[@johnjackson3197]

The hardest part of singleness is not being able to experience the intimacy (not sex) that you get from a relationship.

[@Christeenia]

There's so much but I would say The Waiting is extremely hard.

[@trugritt3789]

How is everybody doing? I hope everyone, and their family is doing fine given what is going on in the world. I have something I just wanted to express that I've been holding onto, you can say I have been a little embarrassed by it. I got into a car accident when I was 24 years old in 2013 leaving me a C4 quadriplegic, paralyzed from the neck down. People have been telling me what I could and could not do every sense, and I have been allowing their words to dictate my life and the moves that I have made for 7 years now, particularly in the world of dating. Only recently I mustered up enough strength to approach a girl and tell her I was interested. To her credit, she was honest with me and told me that she didn't think someone in my situation had anything to offer her. This shattered me, not because she turned me down, but why she turned me down. She didn't turn me down because I was a bad person, or I was insensitive, or was disrespectful, or I was lazy, or I was unemployed or anything having to do with the actual man that was asking her out. She turned me down because instead of seeing the man, all she saw was the disability. What she said wasn't wrong, I do not have much to offer even myself when it comes to being able to do things, but in regards to still being a man, and still being respectable, honest and caring there is much I still have to offer, that she didn't even give the time of day to take notice of. I am not ignorant man, I am not a foolish man, I know what I look like and I know the situation that I am in, but does that mean I am not deserving of love? Or companionship? I never intended on speaking these things, to anyone, let alone sharing them to hundreds of people in social media. But I felt as though if I can muster up enough courage to complete one momentous act, I can do it again. And that act is to ask the question, is there anyone else who has experienced this type of rejection? And if so, how did they deal with it, because to be honest, I'm not dealing with it so great. If anyone would like to reach out, or have a more private conversation you can shoot me a private message or send me an email at [e-mail]

[@portia547]

Wow this video popped up on my phone after I just got off my prayer walk asking God these questions. I'm in my 30s single and celibate and had begun to feel discouraged lately about Hope to be married to the one God has chosen for me. I'm naturally cheerful, kind hearted, & positive. But people keep coming up and telling me, you're so amazing why aren't you married. At first it didn't bother me, but after about 2 years of this and still being single. I started to think maybe something is wrong with me, and was crying out to Jesus. This video came just in time, God bless you 😄

[@kaleyjoplinRAWRR]

yeah, I think that's the worst part. When people come up to you and ask you why you're still single. They probably don't mean it this way but it comes off as like, "what's wrong with you??" Especially when you see/know about other people who are not the nicest and they're super toxic but yet even they found their person. I just want to tell them to shut up lol! Y'all making it worse 😅🙃

[@sshuteandrew]

My top 3 hardest: Not having someone to hold me at night, raising my sons as a single, divorced parent, coming home to a quiet, dark house. ((My church has 800 members and zero options.))

[@crossing.the.cosmos84]

Well atleast u have your sons. They love you

[@WhiteWolf-yz8sn]

I'm gonna say the waiting is the hardest part of singleness for me.

[@Niche0328]

I can totally relate with all of you. Sometimes I feel like giving up. I feel as though God wants me to be single for reasons unbeknownst to me. I just keep praying, believing, and waiting. Please pray for me and with me about this. God bless you all. 🙏❤️

[@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger]

God bless you too!

[@guayabagirl5]

😭😭😭 amen to everything said in this vid, and the honesty in those comments read. God is really faithful, i studied cinema studies as a minor I am reminded that he is working behind the scenes and the Song: WayMaker in Spanish comes to mind. Also as I studied Comm Dev health science as a major God reminds me he is a healer, the greatest of Doctors. For those waiting on Gods timing for that right one for you, THE holy spirit of God says: Linger, wait a bit Longer cause your blessing and promise is around the corner! He makes everything NEW🍇

[@paulaqualls6504]

As a single 61 year old LONELINESS, TOUCH, COMFORT AND SOMEONE TO POUR THE LOVE OF GOD ON

[@brendan.h293]

If it’s not Gods timing for me to be in a relationship right now, why can’t he take away that strong desire so that I don’t idolize it?

[@debbiefaulkner163]

I agree with Mark. Face the loneliness with God. He will be there with you because He loves you so much. It’s not easy, but it’s wonderful to know He will always love you.

[@savinggracechurch4112]

All the above plus the way the church deals with singleness. The leadership bangs on about the merits of being married. Im in my sixties and have been born again some 24 years. Been the son of a multimillionaire. From riches to rags, sleeping rough on the streets. People say seek first the kingdom but I do every day and have seen thousands healed and saved. People say that I am the model Christian but I'm still alone and never married.

[@trishg8852]

Very good points as usual! I like the part where you remind us that God is love, and he is always going to do what's best for us. And He Loves us!! Thank you! 💖🙏

[@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger]

Amen, God is good!

[@trishg8852]

@@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger yes amen! 😍

[@ladyshorty6989]

BLESSINGS to you,I am still in an angry/bitter/and hurt stage. I've been praying asking God to help me forgive and stay disciplined and focused. Please pray INAGREEMENT with me. Thanks

[@michaelarmstrong9417]

I just keep playing KZbin prayers about finding a wife and hope God will maybe hear me

[@oaklandsoldier8520]

Where do you search for that?

[@petercook438]

The best part is when married people or people with relationships headed towards marriage tell you that it isn’t all that great in the first place but then act like they’ve won the lottery whenever they talk to/about or otherwise interact with their significant other. Then they turn around and say that your concerns and desires are illegitimate.

[@cosmicbuddha17]

The hardest part of being single for me was being young. I am 45 now, not married, no children. I felt, as I watched others in marriage and making their families with God, that I was a waste. When I began my 30s I felt even worse as I was mourning my unborn children. It was a very dark time for me. Then I hit 40 and for a very short time it was the darkest time for me, but something happened and I just accepted it all. I am focusing on God, getting to know him, obeying him, and moving away from culture. I think what would have helped me when I was younger is doing that. Move away from romantic films and books. Move away from love songs. Move away from the expectation. Stop including those things that lead you to think about it and move away from it. Keep your thoughts far away from it. Focus on what God has for you now and don't fantasize about what you don't have. If you keep those things in your life, then you are sewing the seeds of misery, effectively it amounts to self torture.

[@cosmicbuddha17]

@Oliver if I had it to do all over again, I'd have done what you did, if I had the fortitude to be that strong in our Lord's promise.

[@nkosiphilenathanael8740]

Financial stuggles are a big problem too. Sometimes I wanna start going out too and hopefully meet my life partner but because I can barely take care of myself, I barely see how I can sustain a spouse and family. The motivation is just not there anymore

[@markmccormick4354]

Mark I appreciate your great messages here. I am single and have never really been a good relationship, so I struggle with being lonely especially coming out od the pandemic. Would appreciate prayers for anyone who happens to be reading this that I can remain patient and wait on the lord for his timing

[@michaele.odonnell9814]

I've been single for a long time. I don't feel the loneliness like would be expected. There's times when God's, or maybe an Angel's, presence is made clear. Not in the movement of objects or by speaking but, by what would otherwise be thought of as coincidences. Occasionally, I say, "thank you God" with like gratitude and, almost as casually as to a person that had done something for me. When I get around people, though, I seem to have a tendency to talk alot. Perhaps, a bit too much.

[@mrsturtevant1]

Thank you Mark. I needed to hear all this. This desire that I have for a girlfriend actually gets me closer to God. But I still hope He actually answers this prayer some day.

[@disaj7460]

Great vid, my bro! You know what, I can pretty much relate to every one of those points. Do I know better? Of course! Do I still emotionally feel like the bottom of the barrel? I sadly do, at times. I'm not thinking of myself more highly than I ought (at least I don't think so), but I do believe I have a fair bit to give. But then I remember how our Heavenly Father has wonderful plans for us, hope & a future... which may not look the way we'd expect (or hope). That usually helps cuz He could be protecting us from something or preparing us so that we don't get injured or injure anyone else. It's just exhausting sometimes. I know it shouldn't be if I'm truly giving all my trust to the Lord & not leaning on my own understanding. Phew! All the ramblings all at once! 😄 Thx for bearing with me! 🙋😊🙏👍💖

[@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger]

Thanks for sharing this with us!

[@davidherring3333]

3:20 What the video fails to touch on is just how cripplingly debilitating the depression can be.

[@Bea94Spacca]

You nailed it: to be quite honest loneliness it's my top one; second of all I am proud to be celibate but nowadays no one wants to wait- even the people that claim to be Christian but don't abstain or as an extreme you have good options but they are not believers and therefore not willing to wait, get married or commit..

[@BELLASHOPEFORHEALINGPODCAST]

The worst part for me is the loneliness and longing for wholesome Christian companionship. Also, intimacy not from a sexual standpoint but just someone to hug on my bad days or enjoy a movie with, etc. Being a seasoned woman of 59 years young:-) the pool is even smaller. And let me say that the Church doesn't help in these matters. Majority of the activities are geared toward Marrieds and IF there is a Singles Ministry its usually comprised of mostly Millennials. Christian friendships can be difficult because many of the married woman DON'T want to include the single women often times because of their own insecurities. So, where does that leave us? All I don't let it get me down in a funk, continue to enjoy ME TIME and continue to PRAY and build on my relationship with Christ, TRUST and have FAITH in GOD and wait on him to fulfill my desires. Thank you for your Ministry

[@jameswheat4225]

I looked through the comments and saw all the exact things i feel. I'm going to skip repeating those and just gonna say i love y'all and i cant wait to spend eternity with y'all and Jesus 💜💛💚💙❤

[@Miranda9Bella]

Beautiful comment!😊

[@coreyhansen4241]

Hi, Mark I just subscribed to your Chanel. I'm Corey, and I saw one of your videos the other night. I'm a believer in god, and I 've been a believer in him for most of my l8fe. As for being a Christian and being single, I understand what its like single. I've been single for most of my adult life. I do feel loneliness , especial when I see another guy with a woman at his side, I think to myself," boy is he ever a lucky guy to have some one in his life.i wish I was him." But, I have to trust God and see what he's got in store for me, since I'm single, and I have been single since I was in high school. Any way, I just wanted to say I started watching your videos and I like them. Corey Hansen from Canada.

[@eileenchang9365]

We are so honest HERE. We cpuld make a DATING SITE.!!!

[@fredaboateng7211]

Carrying very heavy food shopping bags!

[@alexiskeys9985]

It's the little practical things like this that married people have an advantage of

[@TheHelenhunter]

And furniture

[@jameswheat4225]

Lmaooooooo... you're amazing! I needed that thanks

[@ri.b.8700]

When I can't open something with a lid!! When I can't reach whatever!! (I'm short, 5'4") During the scary part of a movie, thunderstorms, really really big bugs!! Sigh. But I have to thank God for teaching me humility. Especially when I have to be brave, be strong (er), and when I have to forward think at the grocery store. Because I have faith in the Lord, that He wants the best for me, I just have to wait. That's usually when I say a prayer for patience!

[@Miranda9Bella]

Freda Boateng Practicality at its Finest! I put an Aaaamen on that😊

[@yvettediaztv]

Grieving though it is so painful & hard but it’s the only way to really show God how we feel. Thank you for sharing. ❤️

[@justcam8453]

I'm not gonna lie I low-key hate it when married people tell me that "being single is a gift and you should embrace it". In the end I know they're right

[@wanjikunjoroge839]

This is a very important subject, God bless you Mark for sharing. I think for me, the hardest part is sometimes seeing friends, some who are younger than me fall in love, court and get married. Also, meeting passive Christian brothers who don't read the hints (a lady can only do so much). Again, the notion that just because you are a pretty lady or a handsome dude, focused in life, living for God, etc.. that you definitely have SOMEONE in your life. Finally, meeting someone who doesn't share the same values or even someone you like but maybe they don't like you back in that way can be quite frustrating!

[@mtl6178]

I wish I had someone to bring my son up with. Someone just to talk to, tell all my dreams too. I know God will make a way but it's hard. I want to be married and be one with someone.

[@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger]

Thank you for sharing this with us

[@Miranda9Bella]

Marcia M'sichili May He cover you, keep you, strengthen you, and grant your hearts desire according to His times and seasons in Jesus Name

[@ldwoods3237]

Wavering in my faith and seeing people (Christians) not respect their spouse or the sanctity of marriage and needing companionship after a long day emptying myself out to others as an educator, youth organizer, etc.

[@MissOghezi]

Trying to stay focused on God and not idolise a relationship when my flesh is constantly driving me the other way

[@ladennayoung2939]

I'm so glad that you addressed feeling lonely. I'm grateful that you taught on that. It's the toughest part about being single.

[@quabronner98]

Yes it can be hard it's hard for me like. U be needing someone to love on

[@truthdontsleep1819]

Yes

[@truthdontsleep1819]

And to have a spiritual connection when it comes to the word of God and faith

[@robertbuchanan7839]

Ya’lls need ta chill, homie.

[@madridejosryuchan]

I fight loneliness and self-pity with serving. Serving in church and others is very fulfilling, as you make God and people happy. It makes me think about others than myself. Other factors like insecurity, depression, and pressure for marriage, I fight with diving into the Word of God and listening to sermons (and Christian music) as if my life depends on it-- that if i stop it's going to be a matter of time for me to die. And I cant express you enough that God is there with you and He will heal you. Time is your friend. Trust God and work on yourself. There is someone FOR YOU.

[@kateimm919]

Being single and in love is pretty hard. Especially when it's mutual. It's just not the right time for a relationship now and both of us (and my parents) know that. I'm not at the age to get married yet (only 16) and he is (18), so even though we are in love and both people who love the Lord, it can be hard to go through that. Hard to not know if this amazing person will be mine one day or not. But I trust God through all of it. I trust His ways no matter what happens

[@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger]

Amen, Jesus is trustworthy,

[@reginastevens7673]

The hardest part of being single is, a lack of intimacy. I mean I feel lonely, but I have my two kids so, as a Mom I’m never alone. But trying to find a counter part that loves the Lord as much as I do. I want someone who’s going to Love the Lord first. Anyone’s who’s not going to make my walk with the Lord stronger, is exactly the person that I don’t need. And that’s what I’ve been finding the most. Pls pray for me. Thank you.🙏

[@Miranda9Bella]

Regina Stevens May He send you a spouse/partner who is compatible for you, one who builds, supports, and nurtures you, cultivates your spiritual gifts and deepens your relationship with the Father in Jesus Name!

[@reginastevens7673]

Miranda Bella Amen💖

[@annaosentoski658]

BEING SINGLE DOES NOT MEAN LONLINESS. WE ARE NEVER EVER ALONE. GOD PUTS NO TIME LIMIT ON ANYTHING. GOD IS THE ALMIGHTY. THERE ARE NO COINCIDENCES HERE, NO ACCIDENTS. I'VE VEEN WALKING AND TALKING W/GOD SINCE I WAS TINY. I'M NOT EVER LONELY. I KNOW FOR HAS A PLAN FOR ME WHILE I'M HERE. EVERYONE SEEMS TO BE LOOKING OUTWARD INSTEAD OF SEARCHING THIER OWN HEART AND SOUL. ONCE YOU DO THIS YOU WILL LOOK NO MORE. I HOPE AND PRAY PPL WAKE UP TO THE SPIRITUAL CONCEPT, NOT THE MATERIALISTIC, HUMAN WORLD. JUST BECAUSE WE LIVE HERE ON THIS EARTH DON'T MEAN WE HAVE TO BE PART OF THIS PLACE. I DO NOT BLONG HERE, AND SOONER THAN LATER I KNOW GOD WILL TAKE ME AWAY FROM HERE. THIS WORLD IS MATERIALISTIC, I'M NOT PART OF THIS PHYSICAL MATERIALISTIC PLACE. GOD IS MORE THAN ENOUGH FOR ME. TRUTH WILL SET YOU FREE.

[@ADG-pl7ur]

I had the same attitude you have at one time in my life. These were the best years of my life. Then I married the wrong person and became sad and distant from God. After more than 10 years of marriage we divorced. Now I am still far from God and I am lonely and cannot find someone. I feel like the devil really did a number on me

[@hotspark78]

Hallelujah, I want my spiritual eyes to be open so I'll never desire the things of this world more than God. Come Lord Jesus, I long to be in my heavenly home!!

[@oaklandsoldier5920]

Blah blah blah

[@kimberlyholsworth8993]

Best advice I've heard yet on sitting with my singleness. I feel so much more peace right now than ever before with this topic. Thank you so much

[@shesallaboutthebusiness316]

I've been single for very long time that I'm afraid I don't know how to be with anyone

[@TheUnknown-vg1zx]

I think God makes you go through these things (and sometimes for a looong time) so that when you and your spouse meet, you'll APPRECIATE them so much. You'll be willing to fight for them. Keep in mind, your future husband/wife could also be suffering loneliness now. Pray for them.

[@Miranda9Bella]

@The Unknown Great insight

[@peacewithama]

I thank God for my life. I know I'm not where I'd love to be yet but I'm grateful and contented with where I am. I am 29 and single, loved and lost but I thank God for the lessons. I have a dog as a companion and I love him so much. I honestly desire to be married and have kids someday by the Grace of God. I get so lonely sometimes but I have decided to put my trust in God and focus on Him and see what He has in store for my life. Over the years, I have witnessed that God's plans for my life are perfect and comes with so much peace. I'm truly grateful to God developing my character during this period of singleness. My life is in God's hands and He knows what's best for me in Jesus' name Amen

[@ginatriana1523]

Keep on everyone Being solo is a very heavy cross I remained in a miserable relationship for 25 years, thinking I had to keep working on it to fix it. Finally he told me he'd never loved me, married me to get his green card, and to have children. So here I am 51 years old, sola, feeling like I've wasted half my life. And the repercussions of how it's caused my 4 daughters to rebel, and turn against me. Long story short: keep on clinging, keep on singing to God. Resist despair. He WILL dry every year, heal every heart, make everything right. We have to keep on believing that. It is a heavy cross, and He carries it with us. Prayers and empathy from me to all you out there in the same or similar boat.

[@aryn888]

No life that has been given to God is wasted, no matter the years. You are 51, still a young, beautiful soul that is loved and cherished by God! God bless you and your family, and I hope you find happiness through holiness! ❤️❤️

[@ginatriana1523]

Thank you

[@esthernwousi9813]

I am sorry to break it that way , but there is a place in the singleness walk where single Christians who have accepted a honest dialogue , prayer and continuous surrendering of those hopes and longings togetherness, shared love, companionship etc... can be still experienced while being content or comfortable in the loneliness issue. Loneliness is real but it also real for all individuals... I am honest with my feelings and thanks be the god and Glory be to God, I don't feel burdened or hurt by loneliness because the reality that Jesus is always with us, God is always with us. Your choice of scripture is so appropriate, and yes, we rejoice in the fullness and adequacy , completeness of the scriptures, this means that god's kindness and love soothe all those rough and sore patches from being single so long. I agree about the confusion part though, because I realized more and more that God is sovereign and all outcome will be his will, as I only desire his will, regardless if it is single for life or who knows what else. ...So, to summarize, it is possible to experience loneliness without trying to escape it, yet not loving it but appreciating the freedom for sure.... God is merciful and good all the time , thank you for your channel !! Lot of mature advices :)

[@lindagal4595]

If God already knows how we feel and what we need why wouldn’t he just make it happen. When u say we have to ask, what if we already did. A thousand times over and still nothing. Why?

[@JTlifecoaching]

I feel you sis lol and I don’t think God would mind his kids argue with him respectfully!

[@molaykollie7771]

Hi Mark, God is Perfect in his timing I been single for long time ( I'm 18 year old never Dated) your video on what to if someone host you and why you idolize relationship.) I never realize idolize relationship was a sin. Thank you so much. Jesus bless you video.

[@trjo6669]

Agree with what mark says here especially when he says “accept the loneliness” instead of pushing it away, as a single Christian man I speak from experience when I say that by embracing the single season your in with all its ups and downs and really digging into your relationship with the lord through prayer and by truly giving up and giving it to him he brings joy and happiness into your life, I believe the lord wants us to love and miss him first and foremost more then any other women or man I know this sounds cliche but it really helps why? because God is faithful and personally he has never let me down nor will he to anyone who puts there hope and faith in him 👏🙌

[@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger]

Thanks for sharing this!

[@MrMister441]

From since I was a teenager, I never thought once ever in my life that singleness would be something I'll struggle with in my adulthood.A Job maybe. This is the most excruciating pain I've ever felt in my life compared to all the physical pain I've ever endured. I can't see God in a positive light anymore only resentment towards Him. Wish I was made for singleness instead

[@jamespython5147]

NEVER EVER let anyone tell you that loneliness is not cruel!

[@sisterhoodofvirtue]

The hardest part of being single is not only loneliness, but someone who's a #Spiritual Mate. Someone being spiritual connected that is on the same level. I have never had a problem with getting a man. My issue has been keeping them. My heart is pure, they have motives that always rear it's ugly head before it get off the ground.

[@chinmayeechinnu3575]

thank you lord... u r always on time😊

[@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger]

Amen!

[@tinalemon267]

Verses 8 through 11 Psalms 32 promise that God is with us always guiding and teaching us, and we are only need to "Be in glad the Lord and rejoice"

[@shavonna83]

As the years past and you live the way God and the bible directs you to it does get lonely. The hardest part for me is l wonder if l am supposed to be single because God has called some people to be single.

[@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger]

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[@SnazzyZee]

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[@jamespython5147]

I don't know what is more perplexing, that there is no perfect partner for you, in the entire world, or that there is but God prevents you from meeting them.

[@lynn7348]

The hardest part is finding men who honor God and do not believe in premarital sex. I've been single for 5 yrs and have seen countless men ghost out after hearing my values, even men who attend church. I realize I'm sorting out the bad seeds but I'm starting to wonder if these men even exist....

[@oaklandsoldier5920]

Also, there are toxic women who are materialistic and believe in premarital sex.