This Mental Shift Makes You Dangerously Confident

[@hhhaaarrrmmmaaannn]

What really helped me gain confidence while not becoming a total dick was realizing, as a person, nobody is better than me and nobody is worse than me.

[@tadiqshahid4625]

Exactly. Everybody is the main character in their own story. Nobody is any more special than anyone else, we’re all human. Everybody has their own problems, it’s inescapable. We are all born, we then live on this Earth for about several decades, and then we die. Tom Hanks, You, and the drugged out bum on the sidewalk are all just living this human experience. None of us are perfect, we are flawed and we make mistakes and fall victim to temptation because we are human, it’s part of the human experience. We all deal with problems (albeit different problems) but nevertheless we all deal with them whether it’s relationship issues, family issues, a lack of fulfillment, etc. We all need to eat, need to shit, and need to drink water in order to survive.

[@leobeoleobeo1885]

@@tadiqshahid4625 type more 🤓🤓🤓

[@Obliter8ed]

there's always a bigger fish

[@hhhaaarrrmmmaaannn]

@@Obliter8ed I don’t think you understood what i meant. Yes, people are going to be better than you at things, but that doesn’t make you an inferior being compared to them.

[@Luca_Munz]

This.

[@mikejones4322]

A popular Jordan Peterson quote that always sticks out to me, "don't compare yourself to someone else, compare yourself to who you were yesterday"

[@chrismccaffrey8256]

You just helped me massively today. I was comparing myself to an image of perfection in my mind, rather than seeing my progress the last two days, it's not wonder I'm how I feel, I'm making strides and sometimes the subconscious likes to fight back. 🙏

[@ajkurth]

Stoic

[@JohnnyAllan-vj7sj]

There it is. The token Jordan Peterson quote

[@All5Horizons]

Jordan Peterson is a hack

[@karlobabic8495]

If you never compare yourself to others, how are you going to know at what scale are you ? You might think that you are BEST version of yourself, but myb you are below average

[@Misthegoatdamn]

Kenny is one of the few self development youtubers that actually want you to get better in life, rather than most of the other ones who just want your money and views

[@meehdrescher]

Ikr? Some self improvement influencers sound like they are just making shit up out of thin air just for the content

[@stevenkala9838]

100% agree. Dude gives some of the most solid advice on this platform

[@J5getlive]

Factssss

[@lepszyjaPL]

Bs in my opinion Some „gurus” sell their stuff but I can’t remember even one who didn’t give good advices for free on their free KZbin channel. Problem is with broke people who think they will constantly get free good stuff. Everything cost, even me writing this comment, cost You watching this you pay with your time as currency to boost up youtube platform Man if you don’t have money = broke just watch free content Why you think is a bad thing if someone decide to monetise their knowledge Your math teacher should teach for free? Does your mum work for free? 😂😅

[@Misthegoatdamn]

@@lepszyjaPL good statement, but All I'm saying is there's a lot of self development youtubers out there who may or may not give free content but they definitely do not give good content, but some youtubers do, like kenny, I hope you've understood my comment now. Also the fact that watching a video cost you time isn't necessarily bad because it may affect you to do something positive.

[@soundboy89]

"Instead of predicting failure and find a way to avoid it, predict success and find a way to achieve it" That resonated!

[@MikeCushion]

this video is pure fax, this is literally everything ive done the past year to completely conquer any anxiety and doubts in the mind. I learned to study myself, study my thoughts & emotions, and realized that I am the one in control, I can be whoever I want to be. The world is yours fellas. Go get after it.

[@thefruch7588]

Biggest thing for confidence. Accepting and appreciating who you are. Flaws and all. And then realizing that by being confident it’s actually super power because most people aren’t confident. And instill confidence in them when they’re around you. Sadly it took my into my 30’s to realize this. But man everything has changed since.

[@flameow8491]

"This is not some future you, this is the version of you that's been floating around available for you to shift into at any given moment, you just needed the clarity required to do so".

[@philipbjercke3977]

After watching this video. I want to tell you this: you are very articulate, you are a good speaker, you are very confident, and you are very charismatic

[@EARTH38221]

if we watched this video , then probably we aren't 😐

[@rail7646]

@@EARTH38221 not YET fella, not YET but on the best way right?

[@ModernDatingMastery]

*It's amazing how changing one's perspective can lead to such a boost in confidence. Embracing discomfort and viewing challenges as opportunities really does transform how one approaches life!*

[@tavish4699]

it took me years to realize that im not socially awkward but just dont connect with most people my age

[@dynnolism]

I relate to that

[@smokingcrab2290]

Yep. I came to a point in my life where I learned there really isn't anything wrong with me. It's just in living in a life and a world where I don't want to live. One where everyone and everything is fake and superficial and it leaves no real room to foster genuine connections and all of us are living lives of bland compromise rather than doing what makes our souls happy

[@tavish4699]

@@smokingcrab2290 sometimes I got those real moment but they are rare and you have to cherish them It all starts with finding people that have the same interest as you

[@Mmyythandle]

@@smokingcrab2290there is a loneliness epidemic, where people don’t have many or any real connections, largely due to living in the digital age. I knew it’d be an issue as soon as MySpace came out (I’m 40 so I was college aged). I didn’t know what anyone was talking about (I refused to get any sm til 2016 I caved) because there was apparently a whole other world ppl were living in and somehow ppl have come to believe sm is “connecting”.

[@tavish4699]

@@smokingcrab2290 finding genuine people is rare but they are out there buddy

[@Weaselsnaps]

Absolutely loved this video. I recently hit rock bottom and it gave me so much clarity on who I used to be, who I am now, and who I want to become. Something that really helped make things click for me was reading about Carl Jung's "Persona". The "higher self" IS something anyone can step into which to me is simply being unapologetically yourself and it has a magnetic effect on the people around you who are too insecure to do the same themselves - it's not easy at first but becomes easier as you see the amazing positive impact it has on your life, but in a way, the higher self is also a mask. In order to become the truly best version of yourself, it takes time and effort - the sooner you recognize this, the sooner you realize time is on your side and the world becomes your oyster. It's wild to think how I recently was going through the worst moment of my life and how quickly things shifted to being the happiest I've ever been with so much excitement for what's to come in my future. Just found your content today but will definitely be sharing this with friends in my life who need to hear what you have to say.

[@sebastianirigoyen16]

What’s the book called? Persona by Carl Jung?

[@karimxbear]

Video starts at 5:00

[@Astriaal1]

Thanks😂

[@heartandmindovercome3214]

If you want a preface, it starts at 00:00

[@eloinpuga]

Thanks for aliviating the yapping

[@Neo-b8e]

Thanks brother! 🎉

[@frankdevans1]

Aw come on man, the whole thing is half a sitcom long and KZbin doesn’t give good money til you break 10. I got you dog.

[@milosquared]

this is the one self improvement youtuber that genuinely helps me. My life has massively improved since I found this channel.

[@Zgod5S]

Principle NO. 1- Know Thy Self Principle NO. 2- Close the Gap Principle NO. 3- Step into the Higher-Self

[@VelzixMC]

Once every few months, I happen to witness a life-changing video. When I saw this, I immediately focused all of my attention. I’m about to watch it for the second time now. Thank you so much 🙏

[@katiavorgnano829]

Any chance you could provide the link to the videos pls??

[@VelzixMC]

@@katiavorgnano829 Last time I found a video as important as this, it was a video named “how to be a high frequency person” by Jack Hopkins. It is about spirituality and vibrations. Give it a try.

[@smokingcrab2290]

"if you don't step into the hero role of your own life, you will forever be an extra in someone else's" Holy shit balls this truth slaps.

[@ataarono]

isn't that just main character syndrome summarised tho?

[@butternutxo]

that's probably why i always feel like an npc

[@-jonahdrake-]

Bakugo has entered the chat

[@parthvyas9242]

Bro your channel is extremely underrated. What you just said in this video is pure gold.

[@kenny.bender]

thank you my friend, I'll keep working to make my content better so it can reach more guys like us

[@KAVINDUBandara-ee7kk]

you help me a lot on my self improvement journey. RESPECT

[@animetamizhan2279]

"Instead of becoming, just be" hits hard

[@Thr3leven]

Understanding myself, healing from my trauma, working towards my passions, and being patient with myself when I messed up has taken miles from the extremely anxious, depressed young adult that I was during lockdown. 24, started college this fall.

[@adgiijnadgopionagduiopn2o2222]

another little tidbit - add a healthy dose of low inhibition (not thinking) to all of this. when youre out in public, like he said, just simply think to yourself "im the shit" "im him" (him being the ideal version of yourself) and casually dismiss whatever negative thoughts come into your mind regarding yourself. don't think too hard about it just DO. the thinking and introspection can be done when youre by yourself.

[@SirsoDey]

It's less of traditional 'entertaining' self-improvement bullshit and more of a how to actually tackle those deep insecurities! Kudos man really love these kind of contents 👍

[@KeithGreenBiopic]

This is the best video on confidence I have seen in a long time. Realistic advice that was encouraging.

[@Pikachu_XD_]

Everything he has said really comes from pure life experience Thx dude for making this video for us

[@allanpeter7700]

I think I’ve always envision the confident version of myself but I was held back by my deep trauma which I broke out of.I feel great, you really can notice people looking at you more

[@InsidiousRebel]

@1:28.. out of all the books you had their you showed the bible. love that. By far the best thing for self growth. God bless brotha

[@kfircohen4839]

I haven’t seen this channel in a few years. I’m here from the fitness influencing days. Man, you’ve grown. A lot. Great to see.

[@kenny.bender]

welcome back :)

[@agentofchange2024]

Bro is explaining about what I am feeling now. I usually compare my self with other people and have low self-esteem about my self. But now I realise that I am unique and special in my own ways. Thank you so much bro.

[@moremana0909]

What helped me the most in gaining confidence with women is visualizations meditations. Joe Dispenza's in particular I found brought pretty quick results but I would also visualize ideal situtations with interactions with women without his guided meditations. I would visualize convertations going smoothly and both people having fun, enjoying the conversations, ebing flirty etc etc. And to my surprise, many times actually, the visualizations happened word for word or scene by scene. I found Joe dispenza's meditations to work faster for me than doing it without the guided audio!

[@varunsharma7007]

Steps were so genuine & to the point ! This is also called manifestation by thy way

[@SundtMusic]

Best video you have done yet. Straight to the point, very informative, precise and easy to understand. I'm into self improvement und learning since a while and still learned something new, also sent it to some friends of mine as well. Thanks for giving us these informations for free.

[@Haze_xyz]

"Dominating his friend" "Pause" 😂😂😂

[@Luca_Munz]

That internal vs external confidence is REALLY insighful and useful to hear put that way

[@rashidkassim6327]

you're very smart. I read a lot of books and study psychology, philosophy and all that good stuff on a regular basis.. So most of these average youtubers don't help. I appreciate your presence

[@JohnSmith-ij1jy]

My guy, I don't comment on videos but this video was exceptional, every single minute had a new insight it's insane. I literally had to go and check to see how long you've been doing it because of how high quality it was. Good work sir, you're the first person I can think of subscribing to after just ONE video.

[@1a-bt9rv]

This is the first time a youtube video gave me an actual breakthrough moment.

[@kenny.bender]

:)

[@shogunsamura1843]

"You become the higher self that gets those things, you do not get those things then become the higher self "

[@LTono-iu9mg]

In my view, there's a few important things that are lacking in people that aren't confident: - knowledge about their own overthinking and its primal causes - understanding about the uttermost triviality with which naturally confident people think in social settings - understanding about their advantage over others, since overthinking is just "thinking too much" and they do that flawlessly - real life evidence that proves to their brain that they can actually be confident

[@wiiplaya25]

10:41 “Insecure people are quick to disprove positive thoughts about themselves” is insanely accurate

[@miguelrhenium7560]

I've hit that subscribe video because you are me and I am you. Funny how the universe shows us these things all same but uniquely. I am in Kenya and I am seeing the results. There's nothing, nothing that opens the heart to self growth than the satisfaction that comes to you after GIVING YOURSELF THE CHANCE and a little bit of grace

[@martin-steiner-photography]

Soooo well explained! I was the best wedding photographer in my country in my mind as a beginner, few years before I actualy did it... I always knew I am that what I think I am, not the other way as there is a huge difference. You explain it way better. So refreshing to hear that. Thank you for clarifying the bigger picture with identity, that explains a lot and I will be working on that for sure. Thank you and wish you the best, so good Kenny and you did an amazing progress. Hats off.

[@IamKudos]

One of the more real videos, absolutely love it!

[@metecantarlac5568]

we need manuals to reprogramming our brain. your videos does that. I appreciate your work. please continue to make videos about these topics.

[@jsh4401]

Yeah, great video. Makes much sense, phenomenal articulation too

[@NamanShukla-l8o]

Bro's content is so much underrated

[@DanielHernandez-ng3km]

Woah this video just made me understand everything

[@adityabhanugarg3516]

You earned a charismatic subscriber Sirrr!! Everything you sad is so true I myself observed that if you want to be something you desire change the internal you .... but I don't know how I had forgotten this .... I was suffering very badly from few days not been able to concentrate not getting interested in anything but this helped me thanks

[@Josh-os1nf]

You just unlocked what had been forgotten for me thank you

[@Wanoiyori]

In many ways being arrogant is better than insecure

[@poppypasta]

Great video Kenny you always provide high quality content in terms of information for us

[@sebzeyt2327]

Ey man i want you to make a podcast so i can listen to you while doing chores and stuff like that. What you're saying is very helpful and i'd love to hear you in a longer content format like a podcast. Or maybe write a book?

[@JobibNurmagorogan]

Damn bro created a paradigm shift in my mind 🤯. Fuck this shit. I’m tired of being a lazy, uninspired, passive loser. I’m flipping the script, I’m taking the reigns and I’m taking charge. I’m gonna grab my subconscious, reshape my identity and tell my inner thoughts; *”look at me, I am the captain now.”* Also, in the video, you mentioned reading a number of books that helped you arrive at the conclusions outlined in this video - could you please share these books 🙂?

[@wyattw.2024]

i’m not him but i’ll tell you a few i’ve found helpful: Atomic Habits by James Clear (great book about understanding our habits and creating good ones) The art of the impossible by Steven Kotler (how utilizing flow and the subconscious can help you achieve success) The power of Now by Eckart Tolle (very very spiritual book that taps into the meditative state of awareness that he talked about in the video)

[@JanW51]

12 rules for life from jordan peterson helped me a lot

[@freaky2401]

That's like Neville Goddard teaching of living in the end. loved this.

[@Coletrain0128]

It’s called letting go🙏🏼

[@IanPx]

Super quality content. Makes a lot more sense to me.

[@JeremyBarbell]

Ok crazy epiphany from watching this video. You said to try and focus on that ideal version of yourself and close the gap. I realized when thinking about it, I already am that ideal person. I started seeing all the good things in me and realized I am awesome just the way I am.

[@swlegacy7821]

Wow, this is the first video of seen on this channel and I’m stunned. This guy really knows what he’s talking about. Great video, and great pointers. This answers a lot for me🙏🙏

[@Romit_Mendhe]

this is actual motivation 💪👏

[@irgendjemand8221]

So a takeaway from the video is "aim to be the version of yourself, that is confident", right? Which is aimed at the right direction, I think, but its not quite there yet. My take would be: Confidence is an experience you get, when you have competence and are aware of it. There is no trick or perspective that will give you a fastlane. It is a consequence of competence. And competence needs time to be developed.

[@rayraman3243]

Very powerful and to the point. Thank you for sharing your evolved selfs experience.

[@tushargupta7371]

Due to some setbacks in my career I was feeling extremly underconfident and insecure as I was thinking that I would be confident after achieving that thing not knowing the fact that confidence is what which is going to get that for me in the fist place so now I have to learn to accept myself and not letting my self esteem be decided by the size of goal I set for myself and for that this video has helped me tremendously to seek for my deeper identity and bridge the gap thank you

[@SuperSuperspoof]

1:01 "When you turn to the internet for answers" um...

[@EzN920]

Watching this every day before school

[@oguzhan3604]

1- know thy self 2- close the gap between you and your ideal version 3- step into higher-self

[@jiggg4263]

first time watching you, instant subscription. thank you

[@krishanakhatri4603]

First time on your channel, half way through the video and I am a subscriber now. You are honest and true, no bullshit or magic pills.

[@ryanerzar4387]

Bro casually drops amazing life-changing advice

[@nass419]

This video can literally save you years of your life and thousands of headaches.

[@Berkfulm3D]

12:15 If you don’t step into the hero role of the movie that is your life, you will forever be an extra in someone else’s That quote is really good, I’ll try to keep it in mind. Thanks for everything that you do brother.❤

[@drogiranalignja4774]

bro just got himself a new sub

[@hier0glyph544]

I really liked the video, some great points that expand on smaller things that I have come across myself. But these points are definitely helping push it further. I didn't quite understand the stepping into the higher self point, or more so fail to understand how to step into oneself. How does one step into the higher self?

[@p.anuragrao6381]

Great Video 👏

[@Farawayfromyou9]

Great this is pure gold, finally I found my answer

[@life2josh]

Damn bro, your talking like a young bob proctor. Great video.

[@mriduljoshi8705]

I think making jokes about yourself occasionally is actually not bad because 1. it signals confident & no insecurities 2. if you aren't bothered by it, you're already the person you want to be, or living the life you want, at least to an extent, & even if you subconscious registers the joke, one joke wont have an impact on your image of self as you know you're doing well, & so would you subconscious mind 3. if you do feel bad, you know what to work on if you aren't working on it as it is

[@georgejenson7402]

Iv never been able to find out my identity, but I know I have one, and I am comfortable with it and understand that I'm just not some people's cup of tea.

[@thebiggestbigmacever6315]

I honestly can’t imagine a higher self for me. That’s not to say that I’m already perfect or that I have everything I want. I most certainly don’t. But realistically speaking I don’t feel the need to make much of a change to myself. I’ve already made working out a habit, my financial goals are on track, I’ve been taking steps to meet more people. I think the gap is pretty small and the work I’m already doing is going to take me there with some dedication and patience.

[@beastoftalvar]

Wow. One of the best videos I ever saw on this topic. Thank you Kenny. Going to check out more of your videos.

[@cameroenskiable]

i wish these things would work for me but unfortunately my problem is PAWS wich is a condition that can happen after withdrawing from a substance wich strips you of everything you are because of temporary neurological damage, time is the only thing that can heal me, i'm glad this video is helping a lot of people but sometimes the problem is that of a more serious nature

[@briangara9708]

Totally accurate to my life

[@peteritithi]

Nice vid man

[@ProsperityAvenues]

I always say to people that I teach in day trading. Money is just a symptom of being rich. You must carry the mindset before receiving your symptoms. Being wealthy isn't a physical thing.

[@lukasbeaulieu]

Amazing video man! Thanks for all the knowledge youve allowed me to unlock. Your the man kenny!

[@arwaaamir9069]

Dude..mind blowing fr

[@DávidSimsa-l9y]

thanks bro, this video helped a lot

[@Keleu]

Such a cool tool once you learn how to reframe and trust in the process without thinking just about the results. Then suddenly you realize that you are already that person.

[@atillayuzer7950]

Hey kenny, Ive been watching you since the soosh and james english days. Seing you progress made me happy and I found your video very impactfull. I was wondering what books did you read to aquire this knowledge?

[@lojanessam-d9u]

In the background, is that a candle (the one next to the books) below the plant? If yes, please be careful if it can start a fire !!!

[@coboblo9946]

This is the most intricate and deeply made video I’ve seen. I’ve watched you here and there for about a year and you and I have very similar values. I’ve been on a journey like this recently and it’s nice to see a video that explains it so clearly.

[@paul8731]

Fake it till you make it can work, as a way to shift default negative internal responses that need to shift to positive ones. But must be used wisely, not for external success and without shame attached. ❤

[@SilverHand-fu1jn]

great video. thankyou

[@alannorthcarolina1776]

Be humble but be forward. If they don’t like you that’s their feeling not yours. People whom make fun of others only do it to mask their own insecurities because they wouldn’t ever put themselves out there to the degree that you are.

[@khayamlilo2180]

Love the videos bro🤘🏽

[@antonikedzierski4267]

Wow, a powerful video. Great job! ❤

[@TrillSantos]

Yooo this is a goated advice !!

[@MenStuff-rd7ki]

Oouuuuuh this is gooooood

[@st-abbah]

It all makes sense!

[@bigboykazmi]

This was a great video bro. Are there are books you recommend on the topics you spoke about in this video? Thanks

[@FreiVomKernNiedererTriebe]

Great video.

[@Chewbachi]

I’ll disagree with the gym one. If you go to the gym and change your body you gain a ton of confidence yes you have to change your mindset too but the gym really does help boost your confidence.

[@emergencyfood7660]

But again it is external

[@Tachyon2213]

@@emergencyfood7660 Not solely. Gymming is obviously good for the exterior, but also the interior organs.....especially the one between your ears! It is proven to provide a psychological boost just as much as a physical one. Perhaps even more so.

[@smahty5786]

That was actually a great video