This Mental Shift Makes You Dangerously Confident

[@hhhaaarrrmmmaaannn]

What really helped me gain confidence while not becoming a total dick was realizing, as a person, nobody is better than me and nobody is worse than me.

[@tadiqshahid4625]

Exactly. Everybody is the main character in their own story. Nobody is any more special than anyone else, we’re all human. Everybody has their own problems, it’s inescapable. We are all born, we then live on this Earth for about several decades, and then we die. Tom Hanks, You, and the drugged out bum on the sidewalk are all just living this human experience. None of us are perfect, we are flawed and we make mistakes and fall victim to temptation because we are human, it’s part of the human experience. We all deal with problems (albeit different problems) but nevertheless we all deal with them whether it’s relationship issues, family issues, a lack of fulfillment, etc. We all need to eat, need to shit, and need to drink water in order to survive.

[@leobeoleobeo1885]

@@tadiqshahid4625 type more 🤓🤓🤓

[@SeeryEyed]

there's always a bigger fish

[@hhhaaarrrmmmaaannn]

@@SeeryEyed I don’t think you understood what i meant. Yes, people are going to be better than you at things, but that doesn’t make you an inferior being compared to them.

[@LucaMu]

This.

[@blxckbear9]

Video starts at 5:00

[@Astriaal1]

Thanks😂

[@heartandmindovercome3214]

If you want a preface, it starts at 00:00

[@mikejones4322]

A popular Jordan Peterson quote that always sticks out to me, "don't compare yourself to someone else, compare yourself to who you were yesterday"

[@chrismccaffrey8256]

You just helped me massively today. I was comparing myself to an image of perfection in my mind, rather than seeing my progress the last two days, it's not wonder I'm how I feel, I'm making strides and sometimes the subconscious likes to fight back. 🙏

[@ajkurth]

Stoic

[@JohnnyAllan-vj7sj]

There it is. The token Jordan Peterson quote

[@All5Horizons]

Jordan Peterson is a hack

[@karlobabic8495]

If you never compare yourself to others, how are you going to know at what scale are you ? You might think that you are BEST version of yourself, but myb you are below average

[@philipbjercke3977]

After watching this video. I want to tell you this: you are very articulate, you are a good speaker, you are very confident, and you are very charismatic

[@tavish4699]

it took me years to realize that im not socially awkward but just dont connect with most people my age

[@dynnolism]

I relate to that

[@smokingcrab2290]

Yep. I came to a point in my life where I learned there really isn't anything wrong with me. It's just in living in a life and a world where I don't want to live. One where everyone and everything is fake and superficial and it leaves no real room to foster genuine connections and all of us are living lives of bland compromise rather than doing what makes our souls happy

[@tavish4699]

@@smokingcrab2290 sometimes I got those real moment but they are rare and you have to cherish them It all starts with finding people that have the same interest as you

[@TiaLei-e7c]

@@smokingcrab2290there is a loneliness epidemic, where people don’t have many or any real connections, largely due to living in the digital age. I knew it’d be an issue as soon as MySpace came out (I’m 40 so I was college aged). I didn’t know what anyone was talking about (I refused to get any sm til 2016 I caved) because there was apparently a whole other world ppl were living in and somehow ppl have come to believe sm is “connecting”.

[@tavish4699]

@@smokingcrab2290 finding genuine people is rare but they are out there buddy

[@Zoid_xyz.]

"Dominating his friend" "Pause" 😂😂😂

[@flameow8491]

"This is not some future you, this is the version of you that's been floating around available for you to shift into at any given moment, you just needed the clarity required to do so".

[@MikeCushion]

this video is pure fax, this is literally everything ive done the past year to completely conquer any anxiety and doubts in the mind. I learned to study myself, study my thoughts & emotions, and realized that I am the one in control, I can be whoever I want to be. The world is yours fellas. Go get after it.

[@VelzixMC]

Once every few months, I happen to witness a life-changing video. When I saw this, I immediately focused all of my attention. I’m about to watch it for the second time now. Thank you so much 🙏

[@katiavorgnano829]

Any chance you could provide the link to the videos pls??

[@VelzixMC]

@@katiavorgnano829 Last time I found a video as important as this, it was a video named “how to be a high frequency person” by Jack Hopkins. It is about spirituality and vibrations. Give it a try.

[@Zgod5S]

Principle NO. 1- Know Thy Self Principle NO. 2- Close the Gap Principle NO. 3- Step into the Higher-Self

[@milosquared]

this is the one self improvement youtuber that genuinely helps me. My life has massively improved since I found this channel.

[@JobibNurmagorogan]

Damn bro created a paradigm shift in my mind 🤯. Fuck this shit. I’m tired of being a lazy, uninspired, passive loser. I’m flipping the script, I’m taking the reigns and I’m taking charge. I’m gonna grab my subconscious, reshape my identity and tell my inner thoughts; *”look at me, I am the captain now.”* Also, in the video, you mentioned reading a number of books that helped you arrive at the conclusions outlined in this video - could you please share these books 🙂?

[@KAVINDUBandara-ee7kk]

you help me a lot on my self improvement journey. RESPECT

[@1a-bt9rv]

This is the first time a youtube video gave me an actual breakthrough moment.

[@kenny.bender]

:)

[@LucaMu]

That internal vs external confidence is REALLY insighful and useful to hear put that way

[@shogunsamura1843]

"You become the higher self that gets those things, you do not get those things then become the higher self "

[@agentofchange2024]

Bro is explaining about what I am feeling now. I usually compare my self with other people and have low self-esteem about my self. But now I realise that I am unique and special in my own ways. Thank you so much bro.

[@kfircohen4839]

I haven’t seen this channel in a few years. I’m here from the fitness influencing days. Man, you’ve grown. A lot. Great to see.

[@kenny.bender]

welcome back :)

[@JohnSmith-ij1jy]

My guy, I don't comment on videos but this video was exceptional, every single minute had a new insight it's insane. I literally had to go and check to see how long you've been doing it because of how high quality it was. Good work sir, you're the first person I can think of subscribing to after just ONE video.

[@LTono-iu9mg]

In my view, there's a few important things that are lacking in people that aren't confident: - knowledge about their own overthinking and its primal causes - understanding about the uttermost triviality with which naturally confident people think in social settings - understanding about their advantage over others, since overthinking is just "thinking too much" and they do that flawlessly - real life evidence that proves to their brain that they can actually be confident

[@Romit_Mendhe]

this is actual motivation 💪👏

[@martin-steiner-photography]

Soooo well explained! I was the best wedding photographer in my country in my mind as a beginner, few years before I actualy did it... I always knew I am that what I think I am, not the other way as there is a huge difference. You explain it way better. So refreshing to hear that. Thank you for clarifying the bigger picture with identity, that explains a lot and I will be working on that for sure. Thank you and wish you the best, so good Kenny and you did an amazing progress. Hats off.

[@NamanShukla-l8o]

Bro's content is so much underrated

[@Josh-os1nf]

You just unlocked what had been forgotten for me thank you

[@Uncommony]

Be fit, healthy, string, look after your hygiene, make good money and your confidence will skyrocket. Don’t forget to be kind, courteous and curious. Stay Uncommon!

[@ryanerzar4387]

Bro casually drops amazing life-changing advice

[@nass419]

This video can literally save you years of your life and thousands of headaches.

[@life2josh]

Damn bro, your talking like a young bob proctor. Great video.

[@drogiranalignja4774]

bro just got himself a new sub

[@EzN920]

Watching this every day before school

[@adityabhanugarg3516]

You earned a charismatic subscriber Sirrr!! Everything you sad is so true I myself observed that if you want to be something you desire change the internal you .... but I don't know how I had forgotten this .... I was suffering very badly from few days not been able to concentrate not getting interested in anything but this helped me thanks

[@mriduljoshi8705]

I think making jokes about yourself occasionally is actually not bad because 1. it signals confident & no insecurities 2. if you aren't bothered by it, you're already the person you want to be, or living the life you want, at least to an extent, & even if you subconscious registers the joke, one joke wont have an impact on your image of self as you know you're doing well, & so would you subconscious mind 3. if you do feel bad, you know what to work on if you aren't working on it as it is

[@irgendjemand8221]

So a takeaway from the video is "aim to be the version of yourself, that is confident", right? Which is aimed at the right direction, I think, but its not quite there yet. My take would be: Confidence is an experience you get, when you have competence and are aware of it. There is no trick or perspective that will give you a fastlane. It is a consequence of competence. And competence needs time to be developed.

[@swlegacy7821]

Wow, this is the first video of seen on this channel and I’m stunned. This guy really knows what he’s talking about. Great video, and great pointers. This answers a lot for me🙏🙏

[@tushargupta7371]

Due to some setbacks in my career I was feeling extremly underconfident and insecure as I was thinking that I would be confident after achieving that thing not knowing the fact that confidence is what which is going to get that for me in the fist place so now I have to learn to accept myself and not letting my self esteem be decided by the size of goal I set for myself and for that this video has helped me tremendously to seek for my deeper identity and bridge the gap thank you

[@oguzhan3604]

1- know thy self 2- close the gap between you and your ideal version 3- step into higher-self

[@miguelrhenium7560]

I've hit that subscribe video because you are me and I am you. Funny how the universe shows us these things all same but uniquely. I am in Kenya and I am seeing the results. There's nothing, nothing that opens the heart to self growth than the satisfaction that comes to you after GIVING YOURSELF THE CHANCE and a little bit of grace

[@Berkfulm3D]

12:15 If you don’t step into the hero role of the movie that is your life, you will forever be an extra in someone else’s That quote is really good, I’ll try to keep it in mind. Thanks for everything that you do brother.❤

[@Keleu]

Such a cool tool once you learn how to reframe and trust in the process without thinking just about the results. Then suddenly you realize that you are already that person.

[@rayraman3243]

Very powerful and to the point. Thank you for sharing your evolved selfs experience.

[@rich2x688]

Bro remind me of confident morty

[@Farawayfromyou9]

Great this is pure gold, finally I found my answer

[@ProsperityAvenues]

I always say to people that I teach in day trading. Money is just a symptom of being rich. You must carry the mindset before receiving your symptoms. Being wealthy isn't a physical thing.

[@georgejenson7402]

Iv never been able to find out my identity, but I know I have one, and I am comfortable with it and understand that I'm just not some people's cup of tea.

[@isaacguastaferro6965]

For the Christian, root your true identity in Christ. I am working on doing this and it's not easy. But read the Word and see what God says about you and your identity in Christ through Christ's work on the cross.

[@sunnyside832]

And find a community of Christian men. Walking in God alone is absolutely a hard task

[@remi9062]

Meditations is big secret. 🤯

[@imalex9023]

Guys, read Joe Dispenza's book, *Evolve Your Brain*. He explains everything kenny is saying and more.

[@thebiggestbigmacever6315]

I honestly can’t imagine a higher self for me. That’s not to say that I’m already perfect or that I have everything I want. I most certainly don’t. But realistically speaking I don’t feel the need to make much of a change to myself. I’ve already made working out a habit, my financial goals are on track, I’ve been taking steps to meet more people. I think the gap is pretty small and the work I’m already doing is going to take me there with some dedication and patience.

[@ImmaanuelBuš]

Thank You for this video!!

[@beastoftalvar]

Wow. One of the best videos I ever saw on this topic. Thank you Kenny. Going to check out more of your videos.

[@lojanessam-d9u]

In the background, is that a candle (the one next to the books) below the plant? If yes, please be careful if it can start a fire !!!

[@arwaaamir9069]

Dude..mind blowing fr

[@nicolondonoe]

"Calculator app, weather app" cracked me up dude

[@josephfurtado3084]

I feel the same 😢

[@lukasbeaulieu]

Amazing video man! Thanks for all the knowledge youve allowed me to unlock. Your the man kenny!

[@Chris-hp2gg]

Confidence is like money. It's hard to keep and easy to lose.😂

[@cascadianapplications7124]

Imagine if your name was John, you were an accountant and had a dog named spot

[@coboblo9946]

This is the most intricate and deeply made video I’ve seen. I’ve watched you here and there for about a year and you and I have very similar values. I’ve been on a journey like this recently and it’s nice to see a video that explains it so clearly.

[@babySALVERT]

You're so underrated🔥🔥

[@SilverHand-fu1jn]

great video. thankyou

[@JazzMaster01]

3:51 absolutely😂

[@st-abbah]

It all makes sense!

[@KevvoLightswift]

He slipped into Mickey Mouse at the end, lol. "Bye-bye!"

[@atillayuzer7950]

Hey kenny, Ive been watching you since the soosh and james english days. Seing you progress made me happy and I found your video very impactfull. I was wondering what books did you read to aquire this knowledge?

[@khayamlilo2180]

Love the videos bro🤘🏽

[@smahty5786]

That was actually a great video

[@killshot7041]

Kings start the video from 3:20

[@armanirios385]

Someone read think and grow rich - amazing book and amazing value

[@billdanitz5954]

It's called living in the end it's like you see the ball going through the net or you see the ball going into the hole

[@peteritithi]

Nice vid man

[@Jalopezlag]

In short, meditate. Changed my life, never been more confident.

[@wideshut1337]

this vid is helpful

[@bradylyde]

kennysfit podcast

[@TechDunk]

Huh, nice

[@Its_Asper]

This is amazing advice 👏👏

[@bigboykazmi]

This was a great video bro. Are there are books you recommend on the topics you spoke about in this video? Thanks

[@moozlemboi]

Isn't stepping into my higher self and fake it till you make it kinda same advice?

[@justinmean7370]

Step into = take action to improve. Commit. Fake it is lying to yourself. My pleasure ✌️ ps: see confidence like this: body and mind are 2 friends. Who agreed to go to the gym. If 1 didnt show up for 10 days straight; would you trust that friend? Or in other words: do what you say and say what you do. As precisely aa possible. Be reliable, to yourself 🔥🥰🔥

[@rileyf8036]

I see what you’re saying but they are different because one is more deliberate and requires introspection and effort while the other is fake and probably will not actually change you on the inside.

[@eliholguin1573]

No

[@Rohan-Soni_098]

So ultimately Fake it till you make it!!

[@braydenberend]

Great advice bro

[@FreiVomKernNiedererTriebe]

Great video.

[@rdeleonnn]

brooooo...what shoes are those @0:15

[@kenny.bender]

air max 720 OBJ

[@accurategamer7085]

​@@kenny.bender WHAT ARE THOSE!?!?! 💩💩💩💩

[@Rahuldvrma798]

Wow so good

[@SynthRockViking]

Another classic is "just be yourself" 😂

[@kaushikhegde2536]

Video starts at 3:19

[@YedidiyaK]

Word salad, wish this video was a hitter.

[@lewisseaward]

nice big statement opening there kenny 😉

[@kenny.bender]

my fellow audience alchemist 🤝

[@agielanaghy3878]

Law of assumption 🔥

[@Tvaevis]

8:51 My gap is that I somehow am unable to attract women. I am almost 18 now and I have never had a relationship not even a talking stage. Although, and I‘m not trying to glorify myself, I have some good physical traits I am not extremely good looking but I‘m average and I am 6‘4 tall. But somehow I still am single and I fear this is how will still be because I just don‘t how it would feel like to talk to a girl or even to be in a relationship. Am I awkward or Am I just not funny. Some people tell me after a party and I was drunk that I was so funny so I think sober I simple am not funny. I am introvert so maybe that‘s the problem??

[@troyswift9243]

Very silly Kenny. That's a fire hazard candle under a leaf next to a book 😬

[@Luco.26]

Im not sure but it looks like a fake candle..

[@spookyskeletins]

Found your channel a while back, been watching you grow as a creator. Just subbed now. Keep up the great work fella. You're going places.

[@anjounmorant3754]

So if i build muscles, improve mg facial features and speak slowly with a more mascular tone and be confident. I can get my ex back? And get better friends overall?

[@barryallen5127]

Hey Kenny did you release the Mindful Man project?

[@kenny.bender]

Yes I just decided on a different name! Mental Mastery is the full masterclass and Conscious Catalyst is the 30 day meditation series. Both in description 👍🏼

[@expiredfroyo]

Underrated

[@akshivgulati2986]

I'm quite sure "fake it till you make it" is just step 3 of your process dude. Not to take away from the video, useful stuff, but I'm quite sure you said the same thing you believe does not help people.

[@maca2237]

Even if I look ugly? Like, that is the thing that blocks my confidence

[@WYLLIESON]

Ugly doesn’t exist because what is really ugly if you think about it. Maybe everyone in the world wants to look like exactly how you look like right now. You probably call yourself ugly because you don’t look like what society calls “beautiful”. You are who you are.

[@asdasf8817]

I know quite a few ugly ass dudes who get a lot of women just because they wear the right things and act the right way

[@FilipSoldan1]

There will always be people or in this case women, that will find you incredibly attractive and the opposite as well. You are not ugly. You probably think, that you are ugly, because no one ever told you, that you look good. And you just grew up thinking you are ugly. Of course you should not be delusional, if you are fat, sad dork. You probably really aren't very attractive... In that case. Loose weight, gain muscle, redevelop yourself. You can totally become attractive.

[@colbyfroude2941]

You can absolutely be confident. And becoming confident literally makes you more attractive automatically.

[@tadiqshahid4625]

Just own how you look even if you are more average looking. Being confident in your appearance, having good posture, dressing nice and smelling good will turn you into much better looking man in the eyes of others and they will perceive you as a different person, they’ll perceive you as the ideal version of you. Why can’t you step into the best version of yourself if you want to? Why can’t you have it all? There’s no reason why you don’t deserve everything good in life.

[@ardennosaka750]

Yes what he said is really true, and this stuff can be uplided for women as well. For everyone.

[@yaboy1689]

8:54

[@upstairscandy0764]

The only true meditation is meditating on God word.

[@Danjoart]

He is good cuz his videos are not like totally fake scripted.

[@lucarutigliano6539]

Step 1: be handsome

[@enzodestruelle8038]

this man listened to some bashar ey?