Are ALL Foreigners Supporting a Filipinas Family?!

[@ßhopkins]

As a Filipina, this is my question.. If supporting the woman's family is a non-issue /not required for Filipino men, why should it be any different for foreign men? Maybe foreigners should start to change their mentality that relationships are purely transactional..that everything is about money, thinking they can only get women bec their wallet is their only asset. If you are a decent man, you will only look for a Filipina who is a wife material, then I'm 💯 sure they will NOT even be requiring you to provide financial help to her family. But if you're just a passport bro who just wants temporary pleasure & who picks up girls everywhere, get prepared to get scammed. To me, its that simple..

[@ItsMe_Philippines]

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[@gary4451]

Thanks for your comment. Most of us live far away from the Philippines and we only know what we see on internet. I am happy to hear that decent Filipinas are out there.

[@emileneslo5695]

Just like how any man can buy and own land in the Philippines but as a foreigner you can not own land on your name. Crazy. But any person from the Philippines can buy and own land in the countries these foreign men come from.

[@ßhopkins]

@@gary4451 there are a lot of decent Filipinas, MAJORITY are, but you wont hear anyone talk about them bec that is not what sells in social media Most are working and are taken, dating a Filipino guy. If you go here, you'll learn about the truth.

[@ßhopkins]

@@emileneslo5695 Thats not the point Im making tho. I feel that foreigners and Filipinos have EQUAL opportunities in finding a good woman to date. The difference is THE FILIPINO USE THEIR HEADS. They know he culture perfectly well to know relationships here does NOT revolve around money. They get women with charisma, character, attitude, deep friendship, humor and respect towards her family members. Foreigners dont get that. It must be from the materialistic mindset from the West. I dont know.

[@nancyamaral5620]

I was a social worker for many years and I always said if I was hungry I would knock on a poor persons door before a rich person The rick person would call the police and the poor person would feed you

[@ItsMe_Philippines]

Very true!

[@guimarasourhomeberro2494]

@@nancyamaral5620 the difference between a rich and poor is very wide in general. The reason am saying this is because the rich don't know what means to sleep some days with empty stomach but the poor knows how to feel hungry. That's why you said you will knock the door on a poor person if you were hungry than knocking on a rich person's door. That's so very true .

[@Ruskino888]

How Rachel's confidence has grown over time/videos. She now speaks up, even leads some parts, and clearly feels comfortable. You still (humorously/perfectly) keep her in check, but I must say, your dynamics, confidence and (value-based) content is lovely to see. Thank you.

[@ItsMe_Philippines]

Thank you, I really mean that.

[@mrbHanoi]

Your wife is the laugh track. So upbeat Always smiling We love it She is the sunshine of your videos.

[@paulk8444]

She truly has Blossomed since their first meeting and now is a confident caring woman as it touches me she gets her happiness from helping others, especially less fortunate. Like when she makes food and shares and passes it out as she is truly sharing her blessings humbly which makes Corey want to encourage and assist in that effort

[@TheFox808]

I know you didn't want to cover this topic but I'm really glad you did. This was an excellent video, and certainly puts my concerns to rest with some facts and real-world info. Thank you so much!

[@philipzoeyemma]

I'm married 8 years to my Filipina wife with 7 year old daughter. I'm 63 and retired, not wealthy. I do help my wife's family if I can because I'm a compassionate person. Life is rough in PH. I help what I can afford.

[@ItsMe_Philippines]

Nothing wrong with that

[@destroyermaker]

@@ItsMe_Philippines The trouble is when you're enabling them to not better their own situation. But everyone needs help at some point

[@Chermakdaddy]

@destroyermaker absolutely there is no limit to helping, bit know when your being used. My little brother is doing that and it pisses me off, I work and I'm handicap. Just be aware of the people trying to suck everything out of u

[@dazocat5566]

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[@BruceBlitzHasTits]

you're awesome. you're getting entry into heaven. god bless you and you're fam

[@guimarasourhomeberro2494]

I agree with what Cory & Rachel said. The way Rachel put it is the best way to explain since She is a Filipina and knows the culture. I have been coming to the Philippines for the past almost 21 years and when I used to visit the Philippines especially the Dumaguete area at least twice a year so I have learned a lot from those years about Filipinos. When you want to do something do it because that's how you feel and want ,not because you are obligated and you have to. Most of Filipinos love surprises they don't expect a lot even if you made a dinner and invite them over it makes them so happy. I like to from time to time invite poor and orphan kids by cooking for them their favorite food. I don't do it because I have to do it or to impress anybody . I do it because it comes from my heart and appreciate all the blessings God gives and one important thing think is to look at their happy faces. We as foreigners need to give a little and be thankful to everything we have and the reason I said that is because a lot of foreigners come to the Philippines just to have fun. Giving a little is not going to make us poor and to me giving is appreciating what we have and extending our hands whenever is possible for those who are unfortunate.. Filipinos are very generous especially the poor ones even if they have one bowl of rice and a little fish if He sees you hungry He will give it to you before He eats it. Peace and love to all.

[@ItsMe_Philippines]

Thank you for taking the time to write that as it's a great comment.

[@guimarasourhomeberro2494]

@@ItsMe_Philippines you are welcome 😁

[@hawaiilife7451]

That is so nicely said!✨👏🙏

[@linkinemerson8620]

This was a good way to approach a touchy subject. I will just say I have similar thoughts about enabling & the risks that come from handing too much away. I also think mixed in with scam stories the line gets blurred, but imo that is a different thing entirely. Thanks for reaching out & trying to get some data on it. This gives me even more hope on finding a good woman where the family all knows the boundaries & doesn't use their daughter as a piggy bank, I mean this in a loving, but serious way. I'd like to help & not be pressured either.

[@ItsMe_Philippines]

Thank you I appreciate the positive comment and I tried to handle it carefully. Unfortunately, whenever I’m hearing horror stories it’s because they didn’t discuss it ahead of time which I think is the most important part. And yes, sadly, I’ve also seen daughters. used as a source of income.

[@ChristopherKnN]

Well said.

[@livingoutloud5729]

Thank you for taking the time to make another video. Its always fun to watch you two interact on any subject :)

[@ItsMe_Philippines]

It was a touchy one!

[@ChrissieSM]

The reason I like you both is that you are decent human beings, you are kind without being naive. You are well matched.

[@ItsMe_Philippines]

Thank you

[@adamsty1728]

12%?! From what I’ve watched on other vlogs I would have guessed 80%! Thanks for the real deal clarification! That $ that I was budgeting for family support can now go toward my visit to Makati!😉👍🏻 Best to you both!

[@ItsMe_Philippines]

That 12% also had the largest age gaps. For example, majority of them were over 60 years old and the Filipina happened to be under 25. Coincident?

[@adamsty1728]

@@ItsMe_Philippines That makes sense. By that age their $ is working for them and I imagine they don’t mind throwing some to the fam, considering what they’re getting in return…?

[@terryburke4932]

Another very informative video your content never fails to be interesting. You guys covered some very important points, I am sure this video will clear up a lot of miss information that has been on the web. Love the respect and communication between you guys. Wishing you guys all the best.

[@ItsMe_Philippines]

Thank you and well said. Touchy subject for us but we tried to handle it correctly

[@dennisbradshaw6549]

Thanks for the video guys even tho it wasn’t an action packed video I very much appreciate it and have learned some valuable information. Thanks.

[@ItsMe_Philippines]

Happy to help!

[@almightystu]

Love how genuine you both are, absolute relationship goals here. Plus the way you both talk about subjects like this is so refreshing

[@ItsMe_Philippines]

Thank you, it was a tough one!

[@amowatt01]

Home looks absolutely awesome.......decor is on point sir........ur wife and u have great taste.

[@ItsMe_Philippines]

Thank you but she gets all the credit for the decor!

[@ppgfreak17]

Thanks for another video! Comment for the algorithm 😂

[@ItsMe_Philippines]

Thanks brother!!

[@Pook500]

When I visited I was amazed how the people who had "so little" would give so much. The food spreads I experienced the few times with my fiance's family would give an American church's potluck a run for it's money. That was totally a run on sentence. Time for more coffee. Great approach on the video.

[@ItsMe_Philippines]

lol thank you

[@johnschuh4753]

My wife and I feel the same as you to. We help when really needed now she has cousin that knows she is married to someone from the US and they ask often but she just says she doesn't have it. Like you said they stop working. Great video on the topic

[@ItsMe_Philippines]

It was a touchy subject so we tried to do our best.

[@alveradavis9537]

This was a very informative topic…… your wife as always is adorable and very thoughtful even in her opinions ….. you two are a beautiful couple ! 💗💗 God Bless you both !

[@ItsMe_Philippines]

Thank you I really appreciate that. God bless you as well!

[@JenGioPhilippineJourney]

Great video i believe alot of us support our Filipina family. Its in our upbringing in America

[@ItsMe_Philippines]

Giving support or help while still living abroad is completely different

[@JenGioPhilippineJourney]

@ItsMe_Philippines yes true but I live here in Philippines. I buy them bag of rice and a bag of corn grits each month plus I buy other groceries for them and put money in their pocket

[@ripwff7502]

Thank you for shining a good light on this topic!

[@ItsMe_Philippines]

It was a touchy one!

[@tomspecht4733]

Your videos together are just the best. You are both so blessed to have each other. She cracks me up every time how she teases you.

[@ItsMe_Philippines]

@@tomspecht4733 I think it’s entrapment when she ask questions lol

[@tomspecht4733]

@@ItsMe_Philippines yea she has your number for sure. I wanted to come there to help people and this video gives me some really big insight into being careful who you help. One day I hope to be able to find a good partner funny and kind to build house there. Your home is my example of what I will want something similar.

[@tomspecht4733]

@@ItsMe_Philippines I have one more question for you. So my financial standing is mostly my American home. I live in Montana and my place is valued at just under $500,000. I am down to just over $100k in owing. My 401k is only around 50k. I have a son turning 18 in December so once he goes off to College I planned to start taking trips there to try to find my next phase of life and experience more of the culture. I was considering to continue working remote while there if possible and either sell or rent my home. Do you think I could survive there alright if I sell my house and go there or will I need more money? I am really just tired of the way America has been and I want to enjoy some years rather than just working non stop.

[@Dstromb232]

My friend is married to someone from the Philippines for over 25 years. He met her here in the USA where her and him were in the same college. He has an engineer degree, and the wife received her degree in science and works at a lab, but she can work only 18 months in her field then had to return to the Philippines. So, they got married and she stayed in the USA waiting for her green card Her father had a decent job but got sick and could not work as much leaving them strap for money. So, he does not give them cash, but he had someone over there to deliver them all the food they need to live on for one month at a time. Her parents not once asked for money. So, he said that it cost him around $150 a month which is cheap. Once in a while he pays their electric bill.

[@ItsMe_Philippines]

Makes sense

[@privatejoker76]

I told my fiance that as long as we can maintain our way of life, pay our bills and she's working that its her money and she can send money. I totally understand because of the income and cost of living disparity. I should note her family would never ask for anything or expect anything. They still thank me for taking them to dinner and Airbnb weekend when I was there last.

[@ItsMe_Philippines]

That’s a great way to look at it and I completely understand. My wife has her on Monday and I would never help with it.

[@guimarasourhomeberro2494]

What I like about Cory &Rachel they both are genuine couple and they say it the way it is. They both don't pretend and when you listen to either one of them talking about an issue or an idea they make you feel like they are talking from person to person not to a group of people watching them. Rachel is very funny so many times She likes to say things to make people laugh and for Her living in the states She knows how to react to certain things and explain it to the viewers. One example is when She mentioned about the way She is dressed ,She said I do it because that's how my husband likes to see me so it was pure and genuine reaction. Her concern is to make Her husband happy and make Herself happy not to be flashy or impress the viewers and She explained in a humble and polite way. Another woman will be irritated about it and say well I wanna wear the way I like and if you don't like this and that that's your problem. They are both here to help the people who come to the Philippines have an idea on what to expect.

[@ItsMe_Philippines]

Thank you very much for the kind words and I appreciate you taking the time to leave this comment. We definitely keep everything honest and we are just being ourselves. Sometimes I need to be a little more polite than I like, but that’s only out of courtesy not to offend anyone.

[@Surfbird11]

Married over 30 years to my wonderful Filipina. She makes the decisions if and when we help. For example, her mom is too old to work so we support her. One sibling tries hard but needs a little help once in a while. They don't ask but we help if we feel they really need it. Another sibling is lazy and asks all the time for money. They get nothing from us. So it depends.

[@ItsMe_Philippines]

I like they way you think 👍🏻

[@epicriosonlinemoney3654]

There is definitely A LOT of Simp Walking ATM's in the Philippines‼

[@ItsMe_Philippines]

Some of the calls I from them are entertaining lol

[@justingoodnow851]

You 2 are adorable together!! Love it

[@ItsMe_Philippines]

Thank you

[@johnvalle3180]

Hi Corey and Rachel, Good topic. Just before I married my wife 15 years ago we actually had this discussion and made sure we had and understanding. In 15 years my Filipino family has never asked us for a dime, Have there been times there were needs of course there was but the way that was handled was we would split cost evenly with other family members. This was for stuff like Nany's medication or a family members hospital stay. There were never any allowance, or money for starting a business. But for a genuine need of course.

[@ItsMe_Philippines]

Smart man and great comment.

[@AnthonyCataldo-ez5ej]

Prior to leaving the US I gave some nice little piles of money to my niece, nephew and older sister. The first 2 did not need it; the last one did. I did this only because I had more than I need and will help my Filipina's family for reasonable reasons (e.g., education for her children). I do not like giving money to people for "consumption." I like helping them build a foundation for their future and a better life. Stay well. AJ

[@ItsMe_Philippines]

Well said! And I completely agree

[@orfatron]

Shes full of life ! Always happy and bubbly, love it . A posstive Character is everyrhing . A good man and a loving wife ❤️. Congrats you guys . Enjoy your life together , good and bad .

[@ItsMe_Philippines]

Thank you!

[@vinnie1711]

Your hair looks great Brah!❤

[@ItsMe_Philippines]

Thank you 😁

[@ernesthallett8003]

All good information for everyone… ALL THE BEST…

[@ItsMe_Philippines]

Thank you, and happy to help!

[@adamthompson6669]

Loving the channel bro and from one gym bro to another looking jacked keep it up 💪 😁. Thanks for the advice and tips legend keep it going. Salamat. 🎉❤😊😅

[@ItsMe_Philippines]

Thanks bro!

[@JimiC.]

More great information, thanks for the time and effort that you put into helping others.

[@ItsMe_Philippines]

Glad it was helpful!

[@InvestInBricks]

When I got married to my Filipino her family expected help from then on. They had a few nieces who were with foreign men ( they bought fridges and cookers etc ) I told my wife from the start I work hard and I'm not rich if you want to send them you can but from your wages. She does but only for her mum around 3k pesos. From the moment we got together she got so messages from everyone asking for help from everyone from school friends and distant family but she just said no. Now my wife works almost as many hours as I do and she offers to pay all the bills for the house. She helps but I just tell her to save. Once we move out there I'm sure it will start again but I'm like you give if you want if expected then not a chance. Don't fall for the start a business for them either you could do another whole video about that too. Great video your a lucky guy got everything you want so young. Take care.

[@ItsMe_Philippines]

Than you but I didn't get any of this from luck!

[@smartbiz888]

Agree on your thoughts... I do employ 4 family members, but it's a pay for work situation... No issues, as I need the employees anyway, so someone else would be earning the money... Enabling is not a good thing... Helping because you can and it's warranted is OK... Hair looking good! 👍 🙏🙏🙏 👍😎👍

[@-whackd]

Giving people work is virtuous

[@ItsMe_Philippines]

We have family members employed as well and he's a great worker.

[@Chermakdaddy]

I agree, it's not your obligation, but if something extreme arise, help out. There is no statute saying u marry a filipina, but just be aware and conscious

[@ItsMe_Philippines]

Agreed

[@Earthwormjim1981]

Every situation is unique. Your house is a mansion compared to the house my fiancee wants. At the moment I only support my woman and no one in her family while she is getting better and she wants me to stop sending her once the doctors let her start working again, which we have spoken at length about. We both have goals to have a small house in Provence and be totally off grid which makes her eyes glaze over because she thinks it's so expensive but she will learn doing things your self is cheap if you know how

[@ItsMe_Philippines]

Very true and well said. If I could go back, I would’ve made my house half the size as it causes too much attention.

[@dave_in_florida]

Clarification, that is not “his “ House. It’s not in his name so technically he’s already given it to her in the family. Foreigners cannot own property in Philippines.

[@Earthwormjim1981]

​@@dave_in_floridafrom what I understand if you are married to a Filipino you are allowed to then own property in your name ....but this is something I will have to do some research into as I wish to start a small business as a nest egg for me and my partner and something chicken nugget can inherit when she's ready

[@mercenarymike1397]

The beautiful Filipina I want to marry told me something disturbing. Her 2 Aunts want to control MY money. I believe it would be by them intimidating and manipulating my Filipina girlfriend, as she is very submissive and has a very kind heart. I want to help her, and her family, but I draw the line at being used, I worked almost 50 years to earn my money and am very frugal, but I splurge on my gf. I have told her that I will control the finances and she can control the household. I don't mind helping her family by giving money for basic food stuffs, but U know that every Auntie, niece, nephew and cousin will come out of the woodwork to ask for money from the 'rich' foreigner boyfriend

[@ItsMe_Philippines]

That will happen for the first year, but if you keep telling everyone no. They’ll get the point very quickly.

[@stevesilver7437]

Definitely move to another island with her 😊

[@mrbHanoi]

I gave my wife, next to nothing the first ten years The next ten, at least 1 million. They have to earn it. It is not their birthright.

[@markhuizinga4993]

Great video !. Hope you had a great week there!.

[@ItsMe_Philippines]

Thank you, and we did!

[@ChristopherKnN]

I've seen and experienced the same situations here in the States, it is not unique to the Philippines. If you have substantial means and start "helping", the requests will continue and increase. The trick is to always say, "No". If you do decide to help, it should be unexpected and of less value than what was asked. You most likely will not be the only person that is being asked to help. You are in a relationship with that individual, not the entire family.

[@ItsMe_Philippines]

Great comment and good point

[@markeuringer8106]

My wife and I are living in Vancouver and have been married for 22 years and we somewhat support her family. More towards her daughters grandmother ( she had a daughter before I came along) who is old and getting minimal support from the rest of her Philippine family

[@ItsMe_Philippines]

That’s helping one person and a great thing to do. Supporting the rest of the family (the ones that can work) is where I feel it’s not the right thing to do.

[@markeuringer8106]

Totally agree!!

[@hardtail-gy8dk]

Great presentation to a sensitive subject, probably one key difference of west vs east and ironically one of the thing that attracts us is their philosophy Could also be differences between if you get together with a rural lady with more impovished background or an urban with better financial position, responsible giving is a wonderful feeling

[@ItsMe_Philippines]

Good comment 👍

Entertaining and informative appreciate you covering the topic

[@ItsMe_Philippines]

Happy to help!

[@vincelafore4281]

Good video for us foreigners. Gives perspective

[@ItsMe_Philippines]

Happy to help

[@chefmike9945]

Definitely one of your finest videos. You've addressed a vitality important subject, with discernment, intelligence, yet most importantly, kindness. So many In the Philippines view a Western marriage as winning the lottery. We'll, most lottery winners go broke because if you can't manage what you have, how will you manage found money?

[@ItsMe_Philippines]

Thank you and that's a great comment and valid point my friend!

[@snbi7959]

Tasteful and tactful video on a contentious subject. Well done guys.

[@ItsMe_Philippines]

Thank you, it was a touchy one for sure

[@annettef6481]

Love your earrings Rachel.. I believe thats true anywhere you live. If you can afford to help now and than no problem BUT if your constantly helping you'll create people that just want to mooch and do nothing for themselves.

[@ItsMe_Philippines]

Great comment, thank you and she loves her earrings!

[@Neal-1958]

Good information and subject. Thank you for sharing.

[@ItsMe_Philippines]

Happy to help

[@jiminma50]

"Of COURSE I'm ready!" right off from the start....I love it!

[@ItsMe_Philippines]

lol

[@sfgoncalves]

My wife is the same way. She and her family have been a blessing to me.

[@ItsMe_Philippines]

That’s great to hear!

[@paulk8444]

Absolutely as I am fortunate that I chose a Filipina where ALL of her family works in Great jobs as mostly professionals and they NEVER ask me for anything but just as Corey and Raquel pointed out in a family emergency, a holiday and I look at that they do so much to assist and make my life easier and more peaceful. And just all the family meals they include me in as a member of the family I just want to every once in awhile treat them by covering some of those expenses Only on an occasional basis. You only want your assistance to Empower and make their life better Because they are making the effort; not to pick up the pieces when they mess up. Like my girl's son lost his phone and while i could have covered it she felt it was a lesson for him to learn by not having one and then when he excelled in school she gave him her old cheap one. Fast forward another 6 months and he makes Honor role top 2 in school and reward is a similar phone he lost along with a contribution by him of money he had saved up. Best advice is choose the woman who compliments your life and makes it easier filling it with Peace and Love

[@ItsMe_Philippines]

Great, and I completely agree with you. It’s great to see you also found an amazing wife like I did.

[@dannyeicher6173]

Very informative video. Thanks for sharing, you two...🎥😃👍👌👊🙏🙏

[@ItsMe_Philippines]

Happy to help!

[@Dstromb232]

My wife is from Iran and does has a brother still living there and we do help him. Inflation over there is over 43%. Even he make good money the buying power is very low.

[@rdland2985]

Very good points and earrings look great!😂

[@ItsMe_Philippines]

Thank you and lol

[@flag8orfan62]

I’ve been married to my Filipina wife for over eight years. I have never been asked from her family for support. If there’s an event, a funeral or someone needs medical or dental care I’m very willing to help, but Ive never been asked to pay the entire bill. Every couple of years we send Balikbayan boxes with stuff that only improves their lives. People shouldn’t believe everything they hear on the internet, see for yourself.

[@ItsMe_Philippines]

Perfect way to handle it

[@EricBeckersr]

With my feyonce she's has 6 kid's and my sister in law has 3 kids her husband works very hard selling fish I help them with Emergencies. And stuff, that's out of their control no one gets a salary and my feyonce has her own business and she works every day so no one is being lazy and not working hard but yes I help the family when they need it but they don't get a salary ❤❤❤❤❤

[@danadevost5875]

Rachel, nice earrings. Beautiful house.

[@ItsMe_Philippines]

Thank you!

[@kimhart9316]

I want to tell you. I'm so proud of both of you. I knew someone from here at the muffin. California would send money all the time. And all I did is want more and you guys are awesome. You've worked hard for your stuff and what is still amazing is that when you're saying that yet said one time was? People always wish and wish they want to do something and have a dream come true.But they never make it happen.And you did both of you.I'm so happy for you guys.I give you profits and I think you're amazing people and I enjoy watching your videos.Have you been filling the Earthquakes?Are having any the flooding issues going around by you?You'll take care

[@ItsMe_Philippines]

Thank you, some flooding yes but we are slightly elevated so no issue for us.

[@shangrilamonkey2008]

Really a topic most people avoid and it is nice that you tackled it very well. A lot of foreigners move and chose to live in the Philppines due to the low cost of living so they really do not have a lot to give to start with. Does not mean they are not able to help in their own way and most Filipinos do not really look to someone supporting their famliy other than themselves. It is in our culture to help and take care of of our parents or siblings if we are well off or in times of need. Which I wish the US can use some of instead of dumping their parents in nursing homes. Hve you seen a nusing home in the Philippines? Nope. Some are lucky to come from well off families that this is not a concern. But for foreigners to think that they will be burdened by their wive's family is a little bit ridiculous. Most Filipinos work hard even with little pay they get. BTW your wife is hilarious. I love it!

[@ItsMe_Philippines]

Good comment and well said, thank you.

[@randywunderlich6315]

Been there done that!!! I escaped the filipino family support cycle!!!! Good luck… it’s no win!!!

[@ItsMe_Philippines]

lol

[@JDOff-Course]

Good video. I've been talking to a filipina. I wondered how tonreact if the subject came up. Thanks for the info. Hopefully, the subject won't come up. Thanks! JD

[@ItsMe_Philippines]

You NEED to bring it up yourself so you have an understanding prior to anything. Otherwise they might expect one thing and you are expecting another. Never hide from things, confront them so you're prepared!

[@JDOff-Course]

@ItsMe_Philippines Thanks man!

[@robertpalozzola6413]

Good morning you two .....that concept is a old world concept that has died over the years with the rize of selfishness..... it's nice to see Once again great job

[@ItsMe_Philippines]

Thank you, my friend!

[@hardmtnbiker]

Let’s be honest, everyone has a unique experience on if they support their gf or wife’s family. But let’s also look at the facts. The majority of the Philippines is living in poverty. Yes they work but have a very low income and don’t have many of the basics that we take for granted in USA. Most don’t own cars, own a house that is built in modern standards and have typical bathroom, kitchen and laundry room. So with that said. That Filipina is entering a relationship with a foreigner that will be her sponsor and support her traveling abroad and other expenses such as a car or motorcycle. That Filipina would never be able to afford a house. Will that Filipina ask her bf or husband to support her parents or siblings. Not all will but obviously FAMILY is a priority for most Filipinos and if that foreigner is providing a very nice lifestyle for his Filipina wife/gf. She’s not going to neglect the fact that her family is poor and struggling. Many of those poor families are too proud to ask their daughters for money but some will think, why can’t that foreigner provide them with a little help. Personally,I obviously support my wife and her mom happens to own the property that my wife and I have improved. So technically yes I support my wife’s family because we share her mom’s home. When we buy our new property and build a home, we will be bringing my mother-in-law with us. She’s our family. The family home will probably be rented our if her mom wants to sell it, it’s up to her.

[@oxroush]

In a way yes. Even though I do not directly send money, my wife sends money all the time. My wife only pays for her car payment, everything else is on my plate. I would estimate 30-40% of my wife's income goes back home. The sad part of that is they don't seem to understand the value of money. She sends money for one thing but it always gets spent on luxuries not needs.

[@ItsMe_Philippines]

Very interesting and sounds like a problem. If she has a car payment, I’m guessing she moved out of the Philippines?

[@oxroush]

@@ItsMe_Philippines Yes we live in TX and we would like to live in PH when I retire. We already have a house in Negros Oriental and by that time the two little ones will have graduated high school. She is thankful being able to help but it upsets her when they ask for more because now it an "emergency". lol

[@oxroush]

One other thing, THANK YOU for always responding to your viewers. You are one of the best out their!

[@ChristopherKnN]

I experienced the exact situation with my ex. She worked part time and only paid her car payment and part of the insurance. When she would ask me for non routine items for herself, I would tell her to buy them; ie. fashion purses and shoes. She would get upset and say she had to send the money to her family. I would enjoy tampo for a couple of days 😂

[@oxroush]

@@ChristopherKnN Ohhhhhh tampo. Same here, can't tell you how many purses and gold jewelry she has. I told my wife I will not buy her another purse, shoes or jewelry. It's not worth being used/worn one time and then sit in the back of the closet.

[@jimmiemeeks9795]

No unless u have been there and met them . Im heading for the first time to meet my Mary face to face . She never ask because they take care of each other all she ask for is hugs and kisses 😊 just be careful thank y'all for sharing your wonderful story 🙏 😊

[@ItsMe_Philippines]

Have fun!

[@jimmiemeeks9795]

Nothing but im really excited 😊

[@kpgsx]

I provide my Asawa, Basics. Anything over and above is hers., and she is eager to work, Every day.... There ARE situations that are encouraged to HeLP if you can... Safety, Food and Clean Water, and Rice is priceless there.

[@ItsMe_Philippines]

Well said

[@KillTheFear]

I just love them together!!

[@ItsMe_Philippines]

Thank you 😊

[@billlloyd9755]

Yes, the Filipino people are hard working and willing to work when they can.

[@ItsMe_Philippines]

100% agree

[@ExpatNTraining]

Nice Video! There are the Haves and Have-Nots. I would not want to be perceived has the Haves in the Philippines. Peace

[@ItsMe_Philippines]

Thank you! And I get what you’re saying

[@af186]

I thought it was way more than 12%, very informative video, but lets be real in the States usually is much closer to home, e.g. your wife and sometimes dates that will be gunning for your wallet and sizing your value depending on how thick it is, so for most US man it shouldn't be too much of a shock that some Filipinos may do the same at times, good post thanks guys!

[@ItsMe_Philippines]

I agree with what you’re saying 100%. Because people always ask me if women here just want money and I always laugh. Realistically their 10 times more woman back in the west that just want the man for money lol

[@Dstromb232]

Do not give cash just help them with food or some needed items.

[@oldmanrock7542]

We were at the grocery store, and a lady came up and wanted money for food. We pointed at our groceries and told her to pick something out. Nope, she wanted money.

[@ItsMe_Philippines]

That has happened to me as well!

[@thomasq9181]

Got to love true hearts!!

[@ItsMe_Philippines]

I enjoy readying their comments lol

[@neilgunns8391]

Showing off the forearms in the screenshot. I lift… I know. 😝 😆 The wifey is always hilarious. 😆

[@ItsMe_Philippines]

😂💪🏻

[@Reveltrekker]

Great content. Thanks for having the data and not just an opinion.

[@ItsMe_Philippines]

Our pleasure!

[@TonySchiavone6]

Thanks for sharing. Each situation is different. I am sure if I was over there I would have plenty asking for hand outs, and doing my best to find the ones not asking. My first experience with a Filipina was offering to pay my bills. She made pretty much ten times I was making back then. Already had the citizenship. I couldn't keep up with her. She was traveling all over the world. She said she works so hard so she can send money back to her family. 2nd situation was someone i was interested. Never asked for money. Just wanted to hook up. I asked to take her out on a date or dinner, she said no. Continued just to hook up. She also supports her family. Most recent one I have had somewhat meaningful conversations with, seems to be looking for a greencard and money. She sounds like she has funds saved up from working in the US, but I don't trust it. More research needed. The Filipinos that I hang out seem to all expect me to dish out money if I go there. They keep warning me, marry them, get divorced in 5 years when they can get citizenship if they stay in the US.

[@ItsMe_Philippines]

That’s funny cause I heard that comment before about citizenship. My wife, for example, lived with me in Chicago and she was looking forward to going back to the Philippines. She didn’t want her citizenship. statistic show that one local girls are interviewed over here, 80% want to stay in the Philippines

[@philosophicaltrucker9279]

I dont mind helping my family when i can whether they are my american or filipino family becuase i love them. Boundaries are always important.

[@ItsMe_Philippines]

True

[@JLunaK14]

Fortunately my Filipina does not ask me or does she expect me to pay for her family . I am blessed with her and she is good to me.

[@ItsMe_Philippines]

@@JLunaK14 I love comments like this because there’s so many men out there that found great Filipinas. Unfortunately, the handful of them out there, asking for money, are making the rest of them look bad.

[@TheJrwhite]

We support the family for education, B-days and Emergencies. But also teach the difference between assets and Liabilities. We bought a rice field that her family works and we let them keep the profit after taxes. As you said teach to fish don’t give a fish

[@ItsMe_Philippines]

Exactly, great comment

[@michaelschaffer9165]

Your home is impressive. Great job.

[@ItsMe_Philippines]

Thank you 😊

[@cnorth50]

Great Video Corey and Rachel. I can relate to this. We send money back to family to support my wifes mother who has health issues. We only send extra when there is a illness in the family or something like that. I agree its important to not enable people. If you dont mind me asking Corey, what line of work are you in? I am just curious as to what kind of work can be done while living full time in the philippines.

[@ItsMe_Philippines]

Thank you very much, I appreciate the positive comment. As far as work goes, not to sound sarcastic when I say this, but I would google online careers. If I explained what I do it would definitely not apply to you as it’s extremely rare. However, I have friends over here that are online accountants, handle taxes, IT support, digital marketing, photo editors, video editors, product support specialist, and even online personal trainers. Point being is that I could list 100 different careers so you would really want to google and research what would apply to you.

[@bryanprehoda]

I push the ring button too: I disagree big time. I know over 100 foreigners I have talked to in last 2 years. Everyone provides something for their wife’s family

[@ItsMe_Philippines]

That could be the case in the circle that you’re in. I’m not disagreeing that it happens. I noticed the trend right away that it seemed to be a relationships with the largest age gap. Coincidence?

[@RichardFerrer-wg2vw]

Iam so amaze how tou handle your Filipina wife filipina wife are some time crazy but the wife Filipina wife are amazing and just respect and love is the best Way fb or the Filipina are the best raising family

[@ItsMe_Philippines]

Thank you

[@showmeadventurevanlife49]

I agree 100% an example I have I told my filipina wife I would buy her nice a birthday cake. She said it would be 650 PHP then she said her other nieces and nephews were jealous so I said ok I'll buy all of them a birthday cake. But by the end of the year it was costing me 1500 PHP per cake (the same type of cake) and I ended up buying a cake for all of her brothers and sisters nieces nephews several family friends. And it was expected that I would continue the next year. Imagine their surprise when I said nope that was a one time thing. Now I watch what I say and do. Atleast untill I move to the Philippines 🇵🇭.

[@ItsMe_Philippines]

650 is already a nice cake here!

[@TheIObook2024]

I’m married to a Filipina and living in her hometown. Her family are all hard working and independent, have never asked me for money. If they fell on hard times, I would help.

[@ItsMe_Philippines]

My wife’s family has never asked either

[@sheryllight]

Thanks for this content, someone is doing a research lol 🙏

[@ItsMe_Philippines]

😂

[@stevel1733]

At this time of uncertainty, its nice to watch you and king marcos just live normal lives.

[@billlloyd9755]

When it comes to the elderly I will help because I can. That is when I move their next year, if I land in that situation.

[@vandinroth]

do you have to support them? No. WILL they ask for money? 100% absolutely yes without question. A cousin, an uncle.....SOMEONE will reach out to you or your wife and ask for money and get upset when you don't give it. The big question is whether or not your wife or GF will expect you to and get upset if you do not. The other thing to be aware of is even if YOU as a foreigner do not give them money your wife WILL from her finances which will probably directly affect you or her when SHE asks you for money next week because she's now short. This is a 100% guarantee that someone WILL ask you for money. It's a good topic to talk about with your filipina before you commit to marriage or a relationship. In my experience filipino's are truly terrible by and large with dealing with money and anything with planning for the future. It's just not in their cultural mindset.

[@bclaminack]

I have to disagree a bit. My wife is a natural penny pincher and has been since I first met her.

[@ItsMe_Philippines]

I understand a lot of your comment, but some of that I disagree with. My wife has a bachelors on business and she’ll tell someone no before I would. She’ll help them find a job, or apply for school, encourage them not to make bad decisions. But she’s never giving out cash.

[@-whackd]

You can just say "Who are you?" If someone asks you for money right away. Are people really this bad at playing the long game? I can't imagine someone asking me for money unless I know them very well.

[@RT804]

I would have guessed it was higher but most Filipinos I met that were family oriented are proud people so they probably don't like asking for help unless they really need it. I tipped someone a thousand pesos once at a steakhouse in Manila and they put it in the tip jar for everyone to share. I said no that was for you but she wanted to share it.

[@ItsMe_Philippines]

That’s common here and the person would probably get fired if they actually kept the tip. I learn the hard way from giving tips without doing it in secret and then having the manager take it and then warn the employee.

[@gdennis310]

I've been with my filipina wife for 30+ years, living in the US. She has a big family in both the US and the Philippines. We don't regularly support any family member; however, we do occasionally get the call asking for help. What's frustrating are the family members that have no savings and choose to live beyond their means, yet are are quick to ask for help. We've essentially become a backstop for when things go south. And being filipina, my wife has too big of a heart to tell them no, so I have to be the a-hole.

[@oldmanrock7542]

We have friends like that. We had to cut them loose. My wife is 1 of 11. She draws a hard line with her family.

[@ItsMe_Philippines]

I've had to tell people no before after giving them help multiple times. Then they would get upset and shocked and I would just nicely say "you need to prepare yourself and not just run to me every time something comes up".

[@gary4451]

Thanks for dispelling the myth. I was under the impression that almost all of the Filipina's family expected the foreigner to be their retirement plan. I also observed that when people are given things without earning them through their own work that the tend to take them for granted. My older brother was spoiled rotten by my parents. I was largely invisible. Guess who became the most successful son (yes...me).

[@ItsMe_Philippines]

Great comment lol

[@lesterh9421]

One thing I want to leave here is, (I only shortly travelled and not much deep insighted expeirence) that what I observed from the PH is there are totally lack of indsutries that could provide job/career to guys in there 30/40/50s. I'm from Korea and guys in 40s/50s are those who are the most productive in their career wise. The Phillipines seems not to have those established industries(Manufacturings, services)/infrasctructure for the nation which could be partially contributed to its historical background(colonization by Spain, the US). Coloization means getting used by and ribbed off rather than development. Plus the natural environment is hard to build infra structue like highway(essential for logistics), too many islands! and there is study that people from near the equator line tend to be more easy going, relaxed(lazy) due to planty of food(fruits), which makes them not worry about future unlike people from the north who have to be prepared for coming witner when there is no food guaranteed. Anyway It is another nice video! I also not agree with providing money only to support them when those suportees has solid healthy body and availability to work on their own. I even enjoying reading comments :) Have nice new week!

[@ItsMe_Philippines]

Thank you, and I do agree with what you’re saying!

[@michaelschaffer9165]

The attitude of dependence is a large factor that is slowing development in the Philippines.

[@ItsMe_Philippines]

Completely agree

[@iangalwey4876]

When my fiancé had to go back to the Philippines at the end of her tourist visa I put an internet connection into her parents house as cell / mobile data was not good, she has now been back in Australia for 2 years and I continue to pay for the internet connection so she can keep in contact. We do give gifts for birthdays and Christmas for parents and siblings only, however I would never "support" them so they did not have to work and cater for their own day to day needs.

[@ItsMe_Philippines]

Great comment and I like what you're doing

[@ShikokuFoodForest]

Hi Corey & Rachel. I agree not to enable relatives to become lazy and completely dependent on financial support. I had a conversation yesterday with a Filipina housewife with a Japanese husband here in Japan. Her husband is the only one working. He is receiving a low salary, since salaries in Japan are often much lower than in North America. She mentioned her sisters in the Philippines are always asking and even demanding money. If she says no, they become angry. So some relatives living overseas are under tremendous pressure to send $$$$ back to their family members in the Philippines. There’s no way I would tolerate that. Giving a gift at special occasions is one thing, but relatives demanding $$$ regularly is too much. My impression is many Filipino relatives will expect financial support especially if a family member marries a foreigner.

[@ItsMe_Philippines]

That’s a great comment and I understand what you’re saying 100%. We love giving during events, births, or deaths. However, I can’t be the guy to call every time the get a bill and didn’t budget correctly.

[@stefan6412]

Of course you help family but not regularly as a demand from them rather you bring your parents or your aunt some groceries, invite them to dinner, buy them a winter coat because the don´t have that much retirement money to ease their lives.

[@ItsMe_Philippines]

Agreed

[@vktravellog1242]

Filipinos are great people! Been there twice and will go again in Feb 2025

[@ItsMe_Philippines]

Amazing people!

[@EchoKreeger]

It is a cultural norm in the Philippines for a family member that is overly successful to “help“ less fortunate family members and is expected. Specifically, it is most commonly encountered when the family members in need are poor and the one being relied upon is abroad earning a good salary or married into a better financial position. I have been married to my Filipina wife for 22 years. She moved to be with me in the US 21 years ago. Since that time we have supported several family members to get a higher education and several to go abroad and find work. We have also improved the living conditions for family members and their children to the point of which we can afford. I will say that my wife works very hard as a professional as I do and she is from a very large family with many, many cousins and first-degree relatives. However, she is very resistant and selective in her support family members when she feels that it is not necessary or it’s a frivolous reason. She is constantly trying to encourage family members not to rely on us and to work hard to achieve a better life. Because of that, many of her family members are upset and constantly calling her stingy or “kuripot”.

[@ItsMe_Philippines]

Sad when that happens and they should be thankful for any help you both give them.

[@stephenallen4374]

You guys look great together and yes she's got great earrings😂

[@ItsMe_Philippines]

Thanks 😂