Are All Relationships Messy? | Carol Bruess | TEDxMinneapolisSalon

Carol Bruess (PhD, relationship researcher) calls it like she sees it. And, in case you’re wondering … yes, all relationships are somewhat messy, but that doesn’t necessarily mean we’re doing anything wrong! The reality is most of us hide the perfectly imperfect “insides” of our relationships, sharing on social media only our cleaned-up, best relationship selves. And what’s also true: there are things we each can do to build the healthy mini-cultures that are our relationships, the likes of which might not only extend the life of the relationship itself but even the people in them. Research shows we all can live longer if we attend to the quality of our relationships. Carol J. Bruess, Ph.D., is Professor Emerita of Communication and Journalism and former Director of Family Studies at the University of St. Thomas, MN. She currently serves as Resident Scholar in the Cassandra Voss Center for equity, identity, and dialogue-across-difference at St. Norbert College, WI. For more than 26 years as a professor, researcher, author and speaker, Carol’s primary interest has been in studying how families, couples, and members of all relationships create joy, happiness, longevity, and connection through micro-moments of interaction and ritual. She is particularly passionate about studying and understanding how the digital age is impacting our abilities to have healthy lives, fabulous relationships, and robust conversations. This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx

[@mytrp7616]

Jeez what's with this comment section. She illustrated her points perfectly by giving real life examples and making it humorous. I loved her talk! You don't need to be "high and mighty" to be into "science".

[@AlyanMartinez]

Relationships are not easy, and they take a lot of work!

[@stephan200686]

Fntastic talk!

[@suzannemahadeo3990]

So good!

[@amandaschmidt9528]

Will she just Mary Poppins in my window and stay until my marriage is fixed and we don't need her anymore?

[@ateequaalcorn6279]

Love this!

[@jaquearaujo6106]

Amei!

[@thatveganlesbian]

Interesting topic but not very scientific

[@cindyhalpern3187]

Sorry, but her humor was the emphasis. She wanted to be applauded . An attention seeker, not a good therapist!

[@rimckd825]

Did she hire her fan club to be the audience? Much ado about nothing.