Are Motivational Influencers Wasting Your Time???? New Year, New You Bulls**t

[@CaitlinPawlowski]

Do you think indulging in too much motivational content can do more harm than good? Ps thankyou so much for watching today's video! Super interested to hear your feedback on my first ever long form video :)

[@ubiquitousflow]

I've never been on manifesting tiktok, but the phrase "claim it" is familiar to me. It's a phrase I've heard in American churches growing up. You're supposed to "claim your blessings". Looks like that mindset has been copy-pasted into manifestation

[@Laure__Line]

I have never taken part in the manifesting trend, but I have improved my life a lot over the last decade. « Manifesting » is not going to lead you anywhere because nobody, and certainly not « the universe », is going to grant you the results you want to achieve. If you have a long-term goal, you need to identify the necessary steps, then make those steps your yearly goals. For example, if you want to be able to buy a beach house, let your first step be saving $10.000. If you’re in debt, your first step should be to pay off all your debt before aiming for savings. If you want to get married and have your own family, first aim at 2 or 3 new activities you would take part in consistently so that you can make new connections. But if you really have trouble making conversations with people, your first step should be to be able to talk comfortably with anybody. The great thing about the gradual step method is that you will be able to aim at realistic goals, put in the effort and enjoy your success at every step along the way. It will make you feel proud of yourself, for good reasons, and you will be able to improve yourself and become happier all along your life, instead of conditioning your happiness to owning a certain thing maybe one day in a far future.

[@rachiboo14]

Since I gave up the self help train, I’ve bought a house, got married, passed my driving test - my take is things change when you just go out and do things. Manifestation is just procrastination

[@CaitlinPawlowski]

👏 amazing!

[@denisef5217]

To me manifesting is bullshit. I am an atheist and all these things seem like any other religion that will do nothing for me. Instead of focusing on what i want, I am trying to focus on what i already have in 2024. I am focusing on preserving my heath, my friendships and my relationship. A new car, a bigger house and another handbag will not truly make my happy. Being consent with who i really am and being surrounded with good people will make happy tho.

[@TheStoriedSelf]

The short form content on social media is designed to keep you on the app... watching, liking, sharing, etc. They benefit from you giving them your most precious and irreplaceable resource, time. If they gave you tangible steps for improving your life, you'd be less likely to scroll mindlessly. It's a toxic trap that I, myself, am currently working at escaping

[@whitneysperrazza9475]

Well said. They don’t really want to help. They want money/

[@rina-nv5yr]

My issue with this type of content is how materialistic most of these goals are. And ultimately they seem unfulfilling anyway. They just add fuel to the envy towards a certain lifestyle, but does it make anyone happier really?

[@mrd736]

That's totally true. We must choose goals that reflect who we truly are and what we truly resonate with. :)

[@shellbell8062]

I have often looked at the lives of people who preach manifestation and thought: "don't see the husband, the boat, the house, the happiness or the dream job - why are they still doing this 6 years on?" Meanwhile, Tony Robbins and Deepak will only accuse you of "not doing it right" when you have failed once again, and they keep making bank. It's quite the business model.

[@minorcadence1]

"Come to my next seminar/buy my next book. Then for sure it will stick" Rinse and repeat. It's genius.

[@design.bysarahm]

Remember “Everyday is a fresh start”. If you have a day where you fail, pick yourself up the next day and keep going, don’t give up. Putting in the work and effort daily will reap rewards. “Also if you really wanted to you would”. If it is that important to you, you will work on it and if it’s not, maybe it’s time to rethink and reevaluate your goals. Nobody is going to ring your doorbell and hand it to you on a silver platter. You need to work each and every day on what it is you want. Also Caitlin you said it best when she said imagine what you could achieve not spending 23 days on ticktock and putting your time somewhere else. Imagine those hours spent on your goals. 😀

[@CaitlinPawlowski]

You’re absolutely right 💫

[@physiojules]

You summarised it well! ❤

[@design.bysarahm]

@@physiojules thank you

[@Gooeybrowniebaby]

People are generally so depressed with their lives. Unsatisfied with their work and the emptiness of their lives. So much so they need to psych themselves up to have any sort of motivation to go on. PS. Your dog is welcomed to come ‘haunt’ me.

[@CaitlinPawlowski]

Sad but true Thanks for watching! X

[@Laure__Line]

Something that never gets old is to improve one’s character. Working on artistic and physical performance is great too. These are internal personal challenges that do make you happy because you can feel the improvement and pat yourself on the back for your great job.

[@marialeg2367]

Thank you for putting this stuff out there. Self-help is a whole industry in and of itself and it's also full of targeted marketing and false advertising, like the fashion industry for instance. It's great that you found your own motivation to quit shopping!

[@CaitlinPawlowski]

Thankyou so much! ❤️

[@sophiep9938]

That whole « claim it » thing was popular in the 90s and early 2000s. It was a philosophy of « name it and claim it », often pushed by MLMs and some religious groups. It was part of the prosperity gospel, for example. Often, it tended towards gaslighting people in lower economic brackets and particularly related to pushing their participation (losing money) in MLMs, or donate, or pay to participate in nonsense conferences…

[@emmy8526]

It’s also part of the whole capitalist economy setup to blame individuals for systemic issues. Wages haven’t kept up with inflation since the 1970s, but you can’t buy a house because you have avocado on your toast or didn’t say the right mantra today. 🙄

[@CaitlinPawlowski]

Oh Thankyou I didn’t know that!

[@Mindyhartwick]

As a Gen Xer (the last generation to grow up without social media) growing up I only had my immediate peers to compare myself to and for the most part I was happy and felt good about myself. Now I find that I have to be very careful about the content I choose to watch. I find the “that girl” content to be especially toxic for young girls growing up right now. That might explain the videos I’ve seen recently mocking the tweens shopping at Sephora. I think it would have made me miserable in my teens. A lot of content on social media can make you feel inadequate and a lot of the time it is aimed at selling you things to cure that inadequacy. It doesn’t help that I already have a tendency to beat myself up when I don’t follow through with what I plan to do. The whole hustle culture is another thing. I feel like we’re being told it’s not okay relax, but I’ve been working for almost 36 years. I’m tired! Thankfully at my age I am getting to the point where I just don’t care what other people are doing. Comparison is the thief of joy. Just do you and be happy. You are enough.

[@andreavaughn854]

I feel ya! I'm so glad we didn't have this, growing up!

[@heidijay5902]

I definitely ended up in the self improvement content trap. Then I realised it was time to actually start doing the things I wanted to achieve. Now I’m overwhelmed with choices of things to do & I need a journal for my extremely messy, scribbled out to do list. I gave up on a vision board years ago & now just screenshot anything that peaks my interest for future reference, I’m always amused when I look back through my photo gallery of screenshots & see something I’ve actually done/ achieved/ purchased. But I don’t usually put much thought or effort into it. For me 2023 (& the last few months of 2022) was all about self discovery & 2024 is the year to live my life authentically, screw everyone else’s ideals, I’m going my own way & so far (2023 included) I’m having a great time just being myself.

[@design.bysarahm]

One thing not many people discuss is the work it takes to get there. Oprah Winfrey said it best in this quote. “The big secret in life is that there is no secret. Whatever is your goal, you can get there if you are willing to work.” - Oprah Winfrey

[@CaitlinPawlowski]

Such a great point Thanks for sharing! X

[@kimvilleneuve2543]

Love your new content. I don’t write down my goals. I have a brain and I keep everything up there.

[@CaitlinPawlowski]

Love that!

[@SarahBethWernic]

Can I just say, your transformation has been the coolest thing to watch! I really love your honesty in confronting these topics and talking about what really helps us help ourselves. I personally do not have instagram or Tik tok (never have) because I hear so much about how addictive it is from all kinds of people. I know I just don’t need that. I love your content! You’ve blossomed so much as a creator. I’m impressed and excited for what’s to come 😎🥂

[@CaitlinPawlowski]

Thank you so much!! ❤️

[@RachelJayne92]

‘Manifesting’ is a joke. Consistency and dedication is where it’s at. You gotta do more than want it, you’ve gotta work for it. 💪🏻

[@GracieReacts]

and Discipline.

[@haute03]

I think manifestation is fine, but the issue is that many people think that all you have to do is visualize yourself achieving your goals in order to accomplish them. It's important to have a clear idea of what you want, but you then have to put in consistent work to get it. I see success as preparedness meeting opportunity. So, for me, ~manifestation~ is that moment when an opportunity that will get you closer to your goal comes around and you're able to take it.

[@Advise771]

It’s not a joke , it’s the way u believe. write words and pictures nd say words don’t make come true , I love manifest cause it’s remind me what my main goal is this year , I don’t let sit somewhere nd take look I put the work into . the same u write down ur schedule, watch KZbin, movies sometimes it’s good to have an inspiration nd motivation that you can look at it . We humans we can’t think about the same thing everyday u need a remind her.

[@user-dv9xx3yy8v]

​​@@Advise771i guess when it comes to "big" or "long term" manifestation, that includes hardwork. But ones like getting the only one vip ticket available for a concert by a popular artist by robotically affirming or visualize seeing your "person" in the exact way you imagined it are short term "manifestations" that happen without "action"

[@lexsummers5714]

I think the problem is that we’ve forgotten that progress isn’t always going to be comfortable or convenient. And that it actually takes consistency & effort for these changes within our control to take place. Active manifestation > passive manifestation. So glad I found you I appreciate your takes 🙏🏻

[@CaitlinPawlowski]

Thankyou for sharing your two cents ☺️

[@emmy8526]

As antidotes to this stream of time and money wasting content, I recommend: - A podcast called If Books Could Kill which humorously debunks airport books that peddle in the sort of mush that online influencers then paraphrase for this type of content - A book titled Work Won’t Love You Back which is a great reality check on productivity culture and its limits for achievement

[@a3zth3tikz]

Alyssa Lenore said it the best, “you don’t need to reinvent yourself when in reality it’s just a new month, a new week, a new day” also, the best motivation quote IMO is from Nike “JUST DO IT”

[@rainforest.4577]

The manifestation trend is a control issue. They all want to control the outcome but you can't. You can only do something about the process which most "manifesting" obsessed people don't care about. Also, as you said, we don't control how a year will turn out. Last year was "my year" or so I thought. I experienced a lot including abxse in the workplace. That changes you. I left that job since. If "manifesting" was the key to getting what you want 99% of people with the internet would be rich, glam, with a "dream partner". Reality always slaps you in the face at the end of the day.

[@Advise771]

I manifest this year and I will do next year 🙌 nothing won’t stop that .

[@rainforest.4577]

@@Advise771 so what have you manifested, so far?

[@jlconnors7872]

"Manifestation" is the worst word that millennials and gen z's could have pulled from the dictionary. It excuses laziness, scam behavior, and makes victim-blaming okay, "because you didn't want it hard enough, babes." When I hear "manifestation," I think "manifest destiny," a necessary evil that destroyed millions of lives in its wake. So think really hard if manifestation is even an idea to be considered.

[@ashleystephens610]

Manifestation is a real thing… you manifest every single day. Some people work at It more than others and It depends on how much you believe and if you limit yourself on what you believe. Your reality starts with your mind.

[@CaitlinPawlowski]

Yeah but you also actually have to put in the work

[@barbsterk5030]

Thanks for saying this. Very true. Glad someone is noticing this! I needed to hear this because I put way too much daily time in social media and it distracts me from living my life and doing what I need to do to reach my goals.

[@CaitlinPawlowski]

Glad it was helpful!

[@lolipena8051]

ive never done a vision board. however i do a roadmap, which is a written version of a vision board, but it has months/timelines. example, 3 months, 6, a year, etc. it has truly helped me reach all my goals. sadly once i reached all of them, ive been on a weird stand still since 2019/2020 as to what to do next. of course during pandemic, i didnt bother. 22 & 23 not so much as i was trying to get back to "normal life". this yr i keep telling myself to get on it, lets hope i do.

[@meeseeeeks]

This was a good one. The motivation saturation depicted in this vid reached a level of humerous and ironic, I had to have a laugh. 😆❤ I’m so not into the tiktok content… Personally I find it all moves too fast for me - it’s far too easy to become just a quick hit of dopamine (with rarely any follow through...?) I’d way rather watch thoughtfully created long form. Motivational content still has its time and place. I appreciate the act of goal planning and taking time for gratitude/ journaling - but that’s more to give perspective and help break down the bigger picture, gauge next steps. Social media is toxic. Positivity/negativity, keeping up with the Joneses… The best thing I ever did was walk away from my public accounts about 7 years ago and regain focus on real life. Turns out that was one of the best decisions I ever made for my own well-being, but I had no idea how far things would escalate in that time. 🤯 I still use YT and definitely follow some people who present “motivational” and growth content, but they present it in a very un-flashy way, where you know you’re agreeing to show up for the hard work and that it takes discipline in order to create a better life, etc. There will always be room for improvement and nothing is perfect, but often messy action is the real goal. I’m here for more of that.

[@CaitlinPawlowski]

Thankyou so much for sharing your two cents xx

[@kaylar5178]

One thing I realized is that many things I naturally have together I didn’t learn by watching “self improvement” videos, I just did them because I was bored and curious instead of believing it would change my life.

[@donnaamos3766]

People say they don't do things because they're not ready. What's ironic is that they'll never be "ready" to do something they haven't done before. You're going to suck at something new before you'll be good at it. So if you want to do something, try it, suck at it and see if you like it enough to stick it out until you're good at it.

[@CogMarks]

Mel Robbins has fantastic content.

[@1978Rbh]

I have seen lot of UK influencers I follow now with same goals. Use less phone, eat healthier, move more...bla bla bla tooooo boring.

[@imbilliee]

Never did a vision board in my life, thought it was a waste of time 😅❤

[@curtalaura796]

I mean... Yeah, you can be positive but you also need to put effort into making things happen, having the resources and the knowledge to be able to put in the effort, to be born in a part of the world who allows or appreciates the said effort, etc. Just sitting home and wishing for things is not really a 'healthy' thing...

[@minorcadence1]

Caitlin I am loving your content. The intro to this video was 🤌 your videos are exactly as long as my daily dog walks, so I can exercise my brain and my legs at the same time!

[@cecilemayor4037]

Your „flow“ is already very good to me! I love your changes from „material girl“ unboxing handbags (which you did well!) to a person being critical of self help fads and time wasting. I find you very articulate and smart and I love listening to you new content. Long form all the way! ❤❤❤

[@CaitlinPawlowski]

Thankyou so much ❤️❤️❤️

[@Mimses-b4e]

Manifestation is all about taking inspired action

[@Advise771]

🙌💯

[@Advise771]

Social media nowadays is about selling things to u , I rather watch manifest video create a little cute vision board put in my room nd be reminded every day what my main goal is . I love the inspiration

[@jins_thicc_lips]

I realized that "motivational" content with negative reinforcement is not fitting me, they're overwhelming me and making me feel like I'm not enough. It may help some people but not me so I quit watching them entirely. Thank you for making this video 🤗

[@shizumaakiyama3129]

I hate “self improvement” is lame,also vision boards like i could use that time to do something i like.

[@staceyd8397]

Vision board _yes mainly to keep me on track Diary _ trying as I’m a sticky note girl 😂 What are those gorgeous flowers behind you

[@tuttuttut7758]

Set realistic goals, then when achieved move the horizon. It’s more motivating then unrealistic stuff

[@jennifyliving5511]

Ughhhh. lol. I’m obsessive and I love diving deep into content for whatever it is I want to learn or be better at. But it’s not manifest-y. I am very much the type of person who’s gonna work hard to get to what I want. But not in a boss babe way. That said, I wanted to be the best partner I could be cuz I want to get married… I’ve grown so much in my relationship with my partner as a result. I am negative cognitive biases that I’ve been working on lately - trying to identify the root negative thought and rewire it so I can have a more positive foundation to my thoughts. That’s my “self-improvement”. Really just trying to understand motivations and why we think as we do. I’ve gotten really into Chris Williamson as a result. I love the content on evolutional psychology and other psych topics. I just find the human brain and human motivation to be fascinating. Anyways. I’ve gone down a rabbit hole or two but I truly love knowledge and understanding things. Haven’t found any of that in a self help book or in manifesting though!

[@Emmmmmmmmmieeee]

As a millennial that also was SO on the self improvement train in my 20’s and still am susceptible to get lost in the self help isle at the bookstore…I agree long form content feels so much more substantial and actionable. However if I may be devils advocate for a sec: if something as alluring as TikTok short form motivational content, in all is aesthetic glory, was around in 2015? oh you better believe I would have been hooked. The closest thing would probably be tumblr (for me).

[@Iquey]

On a serious note, I really thought 2020 was gonna be "my year" the year i was 29 years old for the most of. No pressure to get something great achieved before I'm 30!! Oh...OH.... Well, we know how that year turned out for most people😂

[@gedhession]

Not sure about motivational speakers but I have dealt with career coaches. I did what they told me and I recall one email saying, "We have nothing whatsoever that requires your skills". That's the world we live in.

[@StaciLeaBeauty]

Great video.I agree I want to focus more on my life. I fall into that "this is my year" kind of thinking.

[@MuseSunflower]

The hardest part is getting started for most people! We have these ideas that are exciting but at the same time it’s all overwhelming because you don’t know how to actually get there What’s needed is more content on how to set goals and practical steps to move yourself forward like you said I love all the information on atomic habits you can find within that book and on KZbin. There’s another concept on the compound effect that’s helpful too. Both reminding you that nothing big happens overnight and it’s your small daily habits that change you in the long run Be prepared to course correct and pivot A LOT as you move forward because it’s all part of the process But of course most people don’t have the attention span for that 😅

[@antonijab8075]

I don't know if it's just me, but I really can't believe that an adult can ACTUALLY believe in that manifestation thing!!??

[@emmy8526]

Great montage at the beginning. It was so obnoxious, I thought it was an ad and tried to click out. Accurate representation of the genre.

[@CaitlinPawlowski]

😝

[@salixcaprea8346]

I completely agree with you! I felt the same way last year when I was determined to learn a new language. I spent so much time on watching 'How to study more efficiently' or 'How I learned X language ' videos that I finally realized that if I have spent that time on ACTUALLY studying....i would have improved quicker 😅 There are great creators on the internet but in the end you just have to do the work for yourself.

[@alesavokin3635]

Motivation will only get you so far.. but if you want to stick to what you want to reach.. repetition, consistency and persistence are the key! Don’t wait for motivation.. just go for it.. force yourself. Remember why you started.

[@Nuevala]

New bubble unlocked 😂 Got 47 years old, became a lawyer, own a house, two apartments and two cars and NEVER heard of a vision board, Tony Robbins or all these motivational books/ podcasts/ videos in my life! If you have fun with that kind of stuff, go for it, but you don‘t need all of this. Just know yourself and what you want to archive, then you automatically will follow through. And if not, you will reconsider and reevaluate alike.

[@okaywhat123]

I thought I was the only one who was gagging at all the motivational content thank u for this video 😅

[@CaitlinPawlowski]

😝

[@Iquey]

Vision boards are out. Derision boards are in! Make a collage of the worst possible scenario that will motivate you negatively with fear and disdain! 😂

[@CaitlinPawlowski]

😂

[@mariajoaoribeiro493]

I don’t believe that ‘balance’ can exist on social media and that is because it was designed to keep you hooked on others! It was designed to make you watch other people under the ‘inspiration’ disguise. And the people that are putting the show are giving away a lot of their privacy (among other things) which has to pay off >> by selling you a product, a service, a promise that their life is worth watching. Best decision I’ve ever made was quitting social media. Can’t even remember if it was one or two years ago. My life only got better! Our lives can only be ours if we decide to embrace all its facets instead of running away to avoid dealing with the uglier parts of it and of ourselves. Go within :)

[@Hannah_BananaStand]

lol the ads I'm getting while watching this are for life coaching courses🙅‍♀

[@ritafernandes7218]

😂 same , literally a weird manifestation ad

[@flohough1870]

Just live life. All of this overplanning, etc comes off as a bit control freak induced. And I worry about the emotional effects of it if nothing happens the way the person expects. I also have concerns about some of what these people are telling others that might be total hogwash and cause more problems than help because it's not based on any research or facts. I watch some of this stuff and scratch my head, wondering how much of it is reality and how much of it is a cash grab.

[@KChantelle92]

I’m doing a vision board as well as a bucket list of things I wanna do this year at 32 (I’m turning 32 in February). But I’m not going to pressure myself into getting everything off my vision board or bucket list. I never do. Because I think it’s more realistic to stretch out certain goals. They take time to accomplish.

[@cherieroatz4233]

I am laughing so hard at Matthew McMcConaughey story! Lols

[@fortheloveofdata]

I have found myself many times in the cycle of planning, longing and just not doing anything to work toward those things because its almost as if the "work" step was left out of the instructions. I used a lot of motivational videos to get out of my post divorce slump, but found them only good for short term gratification rather than long term goal achieving. I have found many times my for you page on KZbin being full of videos that promise a change in x-amount of days but only showing highlights of life, not the work, the frustration and the perseverance some of these goals actually take to achieve. Thank you for covering this topic and really giving us a personal view of your experience with the topic!

[@jaclynns.jungle]

Whos gonna tell the girlies that "manifesting" is actually praying for something? 🙃🖤✨️

[@notnoaintno5134]

Thats not what the word "manifesting" means and thats not how ppl normally use it. Usually in this context manifesting something means willing it into existence, or thinking you have the ability to do such a thing

[@mrd736]

I am an extremely rational person. Yet, manifestation works, y'all. It's all psychology.

[@elipotter369]

All the adverts I'm getting from this are those woo woo self help stuff... Yeah, tony robbins etc- gee you up but no actual how to... Most helpful was practical information on communication skills, dealing with difficult people self discipline- stuff in some basic self help books by psychologists and free you tubers- including the long form conversations by quality people.

[@Mistersgoodgirl]

Several years ago my husband and I wrote down our 5-year plan and I tucked it into a book. And then we started pursuing these things. I found it 7 years later and we had done most of them! Keywords pursue and do/done. I didn’t keep the list right in front of me, but they were all related and things we really wanted. And things within our control, to a degree. Achievable if we worked at it and made good choices. We wanted a larger piece of property so we could basically have a mini homestead. Large garden, small orchard, berry patch, and chickens with lots of room for our kids to play. We wanted to live news family so our kids could grow up around cousins. It required some saving and smart financial moves, my husband looked for and found a job near his family, we waited until we found a home with almost an acre that we could afford, etc. But we started out by defining what we wanted, so we had a direction and knew what we were aiming for. It also took several years to achieve all these steps.

[@melissapetzer3560]

I love a vision board ✨ but as you mention I have realised I need to meet myself where I am at. Its good to have it on a day where everything feels cruddy. To just remind me where I am working towards

[@NadoJoe]

The problems deal with women believing anything other women say instead of taking accountability with the real issue and wanting to take the easy way out. Anyone saying manifesting is just nonsense and that I don’t get how anyone could think for a second that’s real. Women believe in All this crap for what reason? Not to take accountability. Oh it’s my time of the month, it’s my birthday month, it was a bad ex boyfriend ect. No. That is not the issue. It’s u

[@pianomanhere]

This philosophy of "manifestation" is a syncretistic fusion of Theosophy from the early 1900's, Buddhism, American New Age thought from the 1960s-1990s, watered-down Hinduism, the Urantia Book, and that wretched, toxic book "The Secret," much of this promoted by Oprah, too. Ultimately it means that you can somehow manipulate objective reality by the use of your mind. "It's your fault" is one of the results. Thls philosophy in its extreme ends asserts that EVERYTHING that happy to you is COMPLETELY your responsibility and is CAUSED SOLELY by your mind. I have even heard non-fascist, non-anti-Semitic people assert that the Jews ended up in camps during WWII because of their thought processes. This is clearly an offshoot of the strict sense of Karma and even reincarnation to some extent because by that idea, people are living their current lives because of whatever they did in a pervious life. Look at this long enough and see the absurdity of it all. People can even work their hardest, be focused, etc and still not achieve success. The point is that external factors and unforeseen adversity will thwart many goals and many things are beyond one's control. Have goals, strive for them, but also look at the obvious around you. All the meditation and chanting in the world won't manifest the items affixed to your dream board and life comes hard, with a thud, very frequently.

[@Georgeツ]

Let's take a lesson from infamous Nike and JUST DO IT! LOL Quit manifesting and, literally, go out and do the work. That's the only way I've gotten anything decent in life. I see my friends that are stuck on that self-help train. They're mentally stuck, if anything. EDIT: Not to mention, all of the goals that these people promote are materialistic and too many people think that these things will lead to happiness. Too many I know find out that that isn't the case after they get that house or car or whatever material goods they were told = success. Now, they just want to be happy. It's sad 🥺

[@mmocha7824]

Is it weird that I have 1000 in some video games but it’s not this short form brain rot so I don’t feel that it’s bad? Like there’s a bunch of mental stimulation, planning, strategy and engagement that goes into my gaming. But even after an hour in TikTok I can literally feel the effects on my brain. It’s like hypnotizing. Literally. It’s giving Jim Carey’s Riddler from Batman. Which brings up a point people used to say video games were destroying brains and they definitely can, moderation is key in life you can’t have too much of anything. But i barely use the app and occasionally get on to see a couple things and an hour or two can go by and it’s jarring. I can’t explain the feeling. Not something I ever experience gaming if that makes any sense. Just wondering if anyone else feels the same and if not I wanna hear from you too

[@abundantlyinspired]

Just makes me think of that joke if fortune tellers can tell the future then why don't they win the lotto every time? 😁There is no quick fix, life is about work. 💪🏻

[@chelseatruttmann9956]

I honestly can’t get enough of your content. It’s refreshing. It’s real. It’s honest. At 33, in relate so much to your topics.

[@yourneighborhoodmoonfaery]

12:20 how ironic, the ad i just recieved was one of those 'do you want to be a master manifester' lol ....don't get me wrong I do somewhat believe in manifesting but these ads are so cringy sometimes 😅

[@84Mazzy]

I sooo relate to this video as a millennial myself. I got sucked into the secret era and also louise hay's affirmations. The bad thing is the guilt you would feel if you started thinking negatively and what you wanted wouldnt happen now as you werent thinking positively. Happy to say i have gotten past that now and i dont want material or tangible things what i crave most is peace ❤ love your videos.

[@TheSebdizzle]

Motivational content as a whole isn't necessarily bad, it depends on the specific type of content and most importantly, your relationship with it. Indulging in too much is a bad thing, especially if it's eating up hours each day that you could actually be doing the things that will get you closer to your goals.

[@oceanahealer]

Well said sista, been doing this since forever , seminars , this that and the other & the spiritual teachings as well, so burnt out from it & I’m glad you’re talking about this , some of them is flat out scams & people’s lives have gotten worse than better

[@madiipage]

I do think digesting the content too much without actually acting on it is the downfall. Finding creators that can give you tangible ways to get to where you want to be is important. I for one, always have vision boards as my screen savers. I have been able to attract what's on it in my life as it reminds me why I am working on myself and my goals. I genuinely think there is great content out there and it does help people. But you can't help people who don't want to be helped and at the end of the day, it's up to the person to make it happen. Manifestation requires work and many of the original books out there tell you that. I agree that long-form content is much better for this topic than short-form as it's just a bit of a dopamine boost (which can be beneficial too to hype you up to keep going).

[@kaylheecarroll3186]

Very insightful and informative ❤😊

[@bettym3709]

Thank you so much for this video! I've started the year getting rid of my self help books. I try to do more so I can finally get results;😄

[@CaitlinPawlowski]

You got this! 🥳

[@cindymargarett4009]

I’ve never done vision board or anything manifestation for my whole 30 years of life 😅 I just work, have my time to talk and taking care to my family and husband and seeing my friends. The rest is quite necessary for me or boring for others 😅

[@katekiddo1714]

23 days a year on social media? That’s rookie numbers

[@luxetolowkey]

Go Caitlyn go!!! Love this new format you’re exploring. I didn’t follow you back in your luxury days (sorry 😬), so it’s been so refreshing and pleasant to see the changes you’ve made in your life (and the way your content reflects that). I enjoy luxury too, but good lord luxury content is a borefest. This is the what’s up - well researched thought pieces with a true point a view! I hope you enjoy making these videos, because we enjoy watching them. Hope you’re having a fantastic day!

[@CaitlinPawlowski]

Yay! Thank you! Hope you’re having a great week xx

[@bleuumscarlett7977]

I was into self help for a bit, but i realised the motivational speakers all 1) have no special education or certification that make them more knowledgeable than my neighbour or myaelf and 2) all say the same old empty things. I also realised what i call "no motivation" for what i'm feeling, is probably more executive dysfunction than actual laziness and lack of motivation. I really really want to work on my sewing project, but getting up from the couch is so so hard, it's like my body lives a life of its own. And growing up, i internalised the "if you really wanted to, you would" and to this day, i struggle with knowing if i want to do something for real, or if it's just a thing i kind of convinced myself i wanted, because i just can't get myself to do the thing. Like, sure of course you need to do a thing for it to happen, but going the "you don't want it enough" motivational route is just really not universally good for absolutely everyone, but it's touted as THE only way to be motivated... idk, i also feel like motivational speakers and self help books just promote constant hussle to better yourself, and for me it's demotivating and exhausting

[@ktidel007]

Great video and I completely agree as someone who believed in manifestation but did not put the work. But I also would like to add motivation is not enough as it is feeling that comes and go. And sometimes self motivation gets affected by life events… discipline is the key in my opinion

[@TheLittleDanda]

Thank you! I pray that the younger generation listen to more of this type of content. ❤

[@brenmmw]

Late to the party but this intro was 🔥 The end 😂 👌

[@chairmanmeow958]

Obsession is, by definition, unhealthy. Unhealthy is an unnecessary modifier.

[@Beeatrix]

The Bilyeu and Mel are awesome 💯

[@levidwashington]

Awesome video. I love this topic.

[@andreavaughn854]

I'm here right now, aren't I??? LOL

[@daniellementha7256]

Caitlin I loved this and I cannot agree more with the person A or B analogy! I think there is a place for a degree of these motivational type content and there is definitely something appealing about it, after all there is nothing wrong with wanting to better yourself. Although personally, I have never been able to take it all seriously and even if I did, I have adhd so there is almost no way I am going to maintain this sort of lifestyle... let alone keeping those diaries and journals up to date.

[@CaitlinPawlowski]

Thankyou so much! I’m so glad you enjoyed that analogy Thanks for engaging in my first ever long form style video it really means a lot 🥰

[@picklepirate]

I found the most fulfilling replacement for motivational speakers is looking for real knowledge. I now read culinary science, started learning about history, watching vids on how to improve how I make coffee, and downloaded art apps like Leo. It makes me feel like I have so much more to talk about and I’ve become more interesting, which helped with my self worth, friendships, and work relationships.

[@CaitlinPawlowski]

This is so true ❤️

[@Jennifer_Lewis_Beach_Living]

There is nothing wrong with wanting to level up, and visualization is a great tool to use to help you get into the right headspace to WORK at improving. For example, Olympic gold medalist Mary Lou Retton used visualization to perfect her moves, but she still practiced vigorously. However, the flaw with manifestation is people believe that if they sit at home, say that they’re “claiming this”, and wish upon a star, they’ll get what they’re asking for. When they don’t get what they’re asking for, they’re disappointed because it “didn’t work”, and to add insult to injury, the “manifestation experts” tell them that it’s their fault because “they did it wrong.” The truth is that the people who got what they wanted put in a LOT of work (money, time, labor) to get it. As the Britney Spears song says, if you want that hot body, that Bugatti, that Maserati, live in a big mansion and party in France, you gotta work, b1tch!

[@RikodiusRex]

Girl, you just explained depression with the extrinsic and intrinsic motivation. Holy hell lightbulb moment.

[@elizabethalam9228]

No vision board! But as a 53 year old I do the list and highlight it:) I know that sounds weird generationally - but it was home baked in me. We don’t have TikTok in Hong Kong - it’s banned. But what I have seen of it - no good! It’s rubbish spat out by peeps who want attention. Skip motivation- make it discipline

[@cynthiasoka]

Can you do a deep dive into Gary vee

[@zahraabdullahi1601]

Subscribed 🙂

[@yo-31]

It is more a nuisance for me.... 😂I do not need someone to tell me exactly what to do because the "advises" you get are not the full story how to achieve your dreams, goals... etc. I might take in count certain advise from specific people but not all things. I am so happy I am not aware of those trends... I am happy to stay in my cave 🤣🤣

[@DreamingGirlLola]

Fantastic video! Thank you very much! Now I need to digest it, but first, DO something that has been procrastinated for way too long. Thank you!

[@smophos]

This was brilliant! It's funny this has come up actually, I used to be one of those colour-coded fancy planner people and I've recently changed to just using one pen and todo lists because I was driving myself crazy... I'd feel like a complete failure but also be unable to do -anything-, as well as falling into the self-help rabbit hole and the 'buy all the things to make myself feel better' rabbit hole constantly. I'm not sure I really have a point :') other than now I feel a bit better and can look back at this objectively, and I really think this needs to be spoken about more.

[@Marizzzz1]

I do create a vision board, but I make sure it’s with things that are realistic. My goal is to be able to ‘replicate’ the pictures myself during that year to motivate myself to go do the things

[@MidnightMuse102]

TYSM for this video 🖤

[@CaitlinPawlowski]

Thankyou so much for watching 🥰

[@heyimcortney]

You said you scaled back on self-improvement and feel better now because of it, what if that was supposed to be the plan all along? You are exactly where you are supposed to be ❤

[@veerlevelzeboer9485]

Great video I had this idea as well that people consume the motivational content (books, events, social media) but not put in de work so much. Thank you for sharing this same tought! Al though I think reading books and going to events can be more good and that going on social media can do more harm. Just do it in moderation for time to time.