Are our kids BLACK? WHITE? OTHER? How we teach our kids about their skin color

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Solo
Sarah
Judah - 17
Belle (Isabelle) - 15
Luka - 14
Micah - 12
Tori (Victory) - 10
Eli - 8
Noelle - 5
Hope - 3
Destiny - 2
Seth - 1

[@kayshelton2132]

Eleanor Roosevelt said, “What other people think of me is none of my business.” May God use us for His glory.

[@marilynpeppers1356]

💜⭐️💜⭐️💜

[@tammeemiller2430]

Solo’s perspective on how he raises his kids is wise.

[@corianne2099]

Solo isn't the only one raising those kids. Its Solo and Sarah and those decisions they make, they make together. Its an unfair assessment to say its just Solo

[@tammeemiller2430]

@@corianne2099 you coming at me with this “stupid” statement was unnecessary. I gave an observation based on my assessment of what he said.

[@joybrooks564]

Very true

[@jessicastreet2922]

Prophets at work!! All the time!!!

[@jessicastreet2922]

@@corianne2099 semantics The definition has 2 parts. The intended message was to glorify greatness, not diminish Sarah's. She knows she is loved. And now she knows you champion her spirit as well. Much 💘

[@kaylaliu3968]

I’m looking forward to heaven where the only box will be [Child Of God].

[@75skittles18]

Amen.✝️

[@DB-18]

Amen !

[@ericaholley3363]

Amen!!

[@teresabeamon9650]

Amen

[@josefinejohansson5526]

Im an ateist but hey i support that in the name of equality!

[@jenchilando9779]

I am white my husband is Zambian. Our children were all born in America but we have spent the last 7 years in Africa. It's amazing to me how much more emphasis is put on race in America than it is here. Our 15 yr old daughter just experienced the "choosing a race" form and said she filled in half the white circle and half the black.

[@macaylareilly254]

❤️❤️❤️

[@sharonpinkerton8297]

Cute!

[@MeganFoxUnlocked]

I am white so I feel like I am learning a lot from your family's experiences. Thank you for being brave and sharing ❤. No matter our color we should never raise our kids with a chip on their shoulder.

[@jessicastreet2922]

All of God's children are beautiful 😍❤ I sing... red and yellow black and white They are precious to his sight ❤ Jesus loves the little children of our 🌎world. This is OUR world. I appreciate 🙏 you as you were "decorated by God". Your uniqueness and bloodline should never make anyone cower!!! No fear!! You are just as you were intended to be. Drawn by our creator.

[@mariejeanne9461]

@@jessicastreet2922 I had forgotten that song, I sang it as a child at Sunday School and also had a book with pictures of all the children singing and playing together, a lovely memory, thank you.

[@jessicastreet2922]

@@mariejeanne9461 I too sang it as a child in Sunday school. Soul sisters!!!

[@Jennifer.villezcas]

Just came from watching your video! Both amazing channels.💗💗💗💗

[@janetgray8737]

I am a 66 year old white woman. My mother taught us as children, to treat everyone the way you want to be treated. My children were the taught the same way. My house was always full of my boys friends who were always outnumbered by their black friends. These boys always and still some call me, “Momma.” I am very proud of all my boys, black or white. We even had a young black man, who lived with us his senior year. There was never a time when the boys were not made welcome in our home. We have fed them for the four years of high school. We have cheered them on in all of their endeavors. I am still in contact with a few of them. I am proud of them as well as my own sons’. Kids need to be loved period.

[@mybby1966]

God I ❤️ Solo! He is so level headed and this world needs more people like him. They are both great parents!

[@lauramcginnis8508]

“Everyone is gonna have hardships.”- this comment from Solo and Sarah’s agreement reminded me instantly of the Bible verse my kids worked on last week: “You will have suffering in this world. Be courageous. I have conquered the world.” John 16:33.

[@lisahubbard5935]

I want to share a little story with you guys. My mother and aunt were both teachers. I was born and raised in a small town in KY. When I started 1st grade, my teacher was black. However, I had never been “taught” about different races. People were people to me. Mom was worried one of the other kids might say something to me about Ms. West, so after the first day of school, she was asking me all the usual questions. She said I told her I loved my teacher! I said her smile was so pretty and she was a little tan. “Through the eyes of a child here”. Ms. West was a beautiful black lady and she had a GOLD tooth. The cherry on top though...her house was painted a light pink. ☺️ I’m 56 now, and before we moved a few years ago they tore her house down. I stopped and my hubby got me a small piece of the pink siding from her house. 💕 I pray more people learn to see “through the loving eyes of a child”.

[@amma3536]

I am a 70 year old white woman who was raised in a large Midwestern city. I don’t need to repeat how I was raised. But, my husband and I were in the military and lived all over the US. I love your family. You have wonderful kids. I giggled at Belle and Judah’s conversation about the DMV. Angry people of any race will always be angry. Let them be angry and live your life with joy. Your family is so blessed. Love watching and look forward to your channel posts!! God bless you all!

[@karie3212]

Thank you for you and your husband for your service to our beautiful country!

[@colleenmauler5556]

I am right there with you !!! As a military brat I have seen a lot discrimination!! Father’s rank was a big one!!! I’m white and I love to pick “other”!! Makes people wonder what “ other” means 😏 !!

[@Marsha7490]

On forms, everyone should mark "other" and then write in "human".

[@amandarutter2574]

I love this answer 💖

[@dzejnalukovic9920]

👏👏👏👏 Exactly.

[@SpringFlowers537]

Love this🥰

[@jezzlynnnoparticularniche8019]

I do the EXACT THING!! We are HUMAN. Color is defined what are in a box of crayons NOT divided the HUMAN SPECIES we ARE NOT A COLOR!! They have to ACCEPT THE OTHER box on applications with HUMAN on blank space. It's there for us to check off. I ALWAYS check other and write HUMAN in the space they provided for me to write my honest answer

[@yvonnesmith9107]

Awesome..!!!!

[@TheChristycamel]

I’m a white American and my husband is a black Kenyan. Our first daughter was born in Kenya and for the first 17 months she was labeled a white “mzungu” baby and then we moved to the States where she was viewed as black. She’s now 9 and proudly identifies herself as a black Kenyan-American! 🇰🇪 + 🇺🇸 =💕

[@Warriormum-ox5sf]

I have a mixed race son, when he was born I got that question a lot, "what colour is he" to which I used to reply "green" stops them asking again 😅

[@SallySkellington84]

I have always felt like Belle....my father is black and my mother is Native American...I never want to pick one or the other because I am proud of all aspects of my heritage black and native american...this was a good video!

[@tilseptember]

This is the thing that people choose not to recognize- you're asking people to reject part of their heritage. Should they define themselves only as one parent's children?

[@SallySkellington84]

@@tilseptember I couldnt deny my mother nor my father...i love every part of my background

[@solentricxinc.9944]

Yeah dominican is not a race but that's what I am; color means nothing my culture means all...dominicana 🇩🇴 republic

[@1Lunasol1]

"I am not prepared to have their confidence determined by outsiders" Amen! I love this approach and message for our kids👍

[@katerrac9247]

Yes! Yes! Yes! 🙌🙌

[@feliciabethea9963]

When Solo speaks, it’s wisdom to listen.🙏🏾❤️🙏🏾

[@ChevieBabySalvatore]

I’m really glad you touched on this, as a biracial child I wasn’t “black” enough for the African American kids, however because my skin is brown I wasn’t “white” enough for the Caucasian kids. Thus I’ve always been a loner, didn’t really fit in, stuck by myself didn’t make friends. Not too mention being bullied altogether just because my skin is different hair different than Caucasian kids. It was terrible I didn’t goto public high school because of the torment I endured in elementary and junior high. I now at 37, always check African American & Caucasian if they don’t offer both I don’t answer! The crazy part is defining ppl like they are a piece of paper there black no there white guess what if we all dig into our family history and tree we would find that everyone is mixed with different cultures and races. I’m not black I’m not white... I AM German, Norwegian and African American thank you!! And that’s what I say and answer when o hear assumptions or ignorant comments. There always will be racism unfortunately that sadness hurts my heart that Ignorant ppl can hate others based on the color of their skin, Sexual orientation, Religion etc. Sarah, Solo you are both right in how you teach your children that we are all Gods children and too love each other. Keep doing what your doing it shows in your amazing, beautiful, intelligent blessings (your children!) We all bleed the same blood we breathe the same air we are all more alike than we know and think. Be kind too others stop judging and start loving. Love has no color we are all human beings respect one another. Much love too all 💙🙏🏽✌🏽

[@theropesofrenovation9352]

Sorry that happened to you. I was told to not spend so much time with black children at school. (I am white) I just ignored those kind of people and was friends with whomever I wanted.

[@Mmanous]

I LOVE that you said “you have a choice whether you make race a big deal IN YOUR LIFE or not”. I echo the same things to my children and try to reflect that in our life. Yes, racism in America is a hot topic, but our home refuses to let it dictate our lives, feelings and thoughts. Our identity is first found in Christ for those who are in Christ. Everything else is secondary. Thank you for addressing this!

[@bernadetteking4406]

I’m a 75 year old “white” woman. I always write “human race”.when asked that question. That’s all anyone needs to know. If that doesn’t work ,write in Child of God!!!

[@ChevieBabySalvatore]

Exactly couldn’t agree more 💙

[@lisab.1559]

Love it!!!

[@julliefillippi8155]

I will start using that.

[@ng3069]

Bernadette, I love that!

[@atrain8179]

Using that

[@donnaharling7653]

I’m a white older lady and you have given me a lot to think about , in a positive way . Love your family .

[@butterflysnme724]

This subject is one that is near and dear to my heart. Prejudice is rampant. When my 20 year old daughter tried to tell her dad that she was pregnant he cut ties with her. We had been divorced for years and their relationship wasn't great at that point. We are white and the young man that she got pregnant by was 1/2 black and 1/2 white. I'm sorry to say that as she approaches her 8th birthday she has never met her own grandfather. He just doesn't know what light and love he could have in his life. This child is the light of my life. She is my reason for keeping on in this crazy messed up world. There have been days that I just didn't want to keep trudging on. She knows she is mixed and hopefully by the time she gets her learners permit she will be able to check black and white! Until I will keep praying that this world will improve and grow up.

[@PethtelLady]

This reminds me of an interview I watched several years ago with Morgan Freeman. He was asked how he would end racism and he said “you just stop talking about it!” The interviewer was kind of surprised by his answer and Morgan asked him if wanted a “Jewish History Month” and the interviewer said no. Morgan then asked if he wanted one and again, the interviewer said no....Morgan then said “I don’t want one either.” Then he said that the way you end racism was to stop referring to people as a black man or a white man....they’re just men. I love that and it makes so much sense. For me, I recognize, respect, and acknowledge our differences but people are people to me. I don’t judge anyone based on the color of their skin nor do I define people by the color of their skin. We are all human beings....children of God.

[@staceysilver0116]

This was the best interview! The smartest way to address race.

[@jeninajiffy]

I love that interview!

[@StephanieC3]

That would be great... if we lived in a society that wasn't rife with racial disparity. When we fail to see color, we fail to see the experience of people of color, and all of the structural inequalities that we currently have (and all of the oppression in the past that lead to our current global economic and political status). Check out "colorblind racism" to read more about why this can be such a problem. We need to know the past and the present situation regarding race in order to come together on a path of healing. Once we have done that, I am really hopeful in the future that race will no longer have to be an issue. But for now- we need to do some serious work, and some of that may be uncomfortable for many of us.

[@OurTribeofMany]

Just read this out loud and solo and Judah both said they have seen that interview before and loved it. ❤️

[@lailanimessina1473]

@@StephanieC3 ALL THAT 🙌🏻💜

[@bagladyjones9776]

"why live your life and shape your life around what other people think about you" i'm 44 years old and i wish i had figured this out when i was younger. life is so much easier when we aren't so worried about what other people think.

[@OurTribeofMany]

So true!

[@solentricxinc.9944]

I've raised my black dominican-jamaican-american children about their history and how they are perceived worldly. Then I tell them don't allow IT to curtail your growth.✌🏿

[@tabithamiranda1861]

It is so great to hear others that have the same mindset! I am white and my husband is Hispanic (we also have 10 kids and homeschool Lol) and we have had the same box checking issues! We have also had some horrible things said to us over the years in regards to our children's race and our interracial marriage. And while it is hurtful, and in the beginning it made me angry at the unfair assumptions and hateful remarks, we have had so many opportunities to grow personally , to talk to our children about their identities, their uniqueness as God's creation, to teach them God's forgiveness, and to even try to have an understanding perspective towards people's response to us, because many that are saying these hurtful things were, sadly, raised to think that way, just like we are raising our children to think the way we are. I know people personally that have had to overcome racial thinking from being raised that way, and they have done so beautifully! ❤ So we have striven to teach our children that our character, our walk with God and obedience to His Word, and the way we love our neighbor as ourselves is what defines us, and Christ is who unites us all in salvation as brothers and sisters in Him through His death and resurrection! That this should be our greatest distinction 😊

[@faithfifield7278]

My son is the same and he encounter this on a standardized test in elementary school. He choose the same as Bell did and was told he could not choose both as well that he would need to choose other. As an opinionated 10year he ask what exactly was an other then stated that he was not an other and left it blank. Today he is almost 35 and proudly serves in AF reserve and a County sheriff deputy who will be a daddy himself in a few short weeks. We chuckle about it now, but it definitely impacted him at the time. Today he is of the mind set that race/skin color doesn't define who you are as individual. Love your channel & your family. 🤗

[@sairaraja4041]

I always get asked as im half Irish, half Pakistani I tick mixed, its quite annoying

[@nancywilbur8105]

I could listen to Solo’s wise words on any topic all day long.

[@darlam.9023]

Our son is half German half Irish...but his skin is a beautiful tan. Everyone asks him if he is Mexican or Native American. God made him just the right skin tone for what our son does. He is an International Missionary. He has been to over ten countries so far and fits in every where. Some people will only talk to my son because of his skin color and not any of his team members. I love how God is using him to share the Gospel to every nation

[@ashleyriggs7883]

I totally agree with you, Solo… if our country is to ever move on from this issue, we have to stop with the labels. We are all people- just people! To be equal, the labels have to end.

[@lesliecurtis8073]

We are not blind so to say " we don't see color" would be an ignorant statement. HOWEVER, we do see the character of a fellow human being, and that is the true identity of a person!!! We have to STOP letting the media, and politicians pin us against each other, and realize they win if we choose to believe them. WE ALL JUST NEED TO LOVE, AND EMBRACE EACH OTHER!!! I love that you two chose to have this conversation, and I just love your personalities!!!

[@minkgin3370]

I love that Morgan Freeman said...I am not a black man or a white man......I am MAN. IF ONLY the rest of the world thought like this.

[@lesliecurtis8073]

@Baby Curls You're entitled to your opinion, but no one can change what has happened, and we ALL have to move forward if we want to make it better for all of mankind. I don't dismiss the fact that we all have things to work on, but it doesn't have to cripple us, or cause us to have hatred towards one another. As far as when it comes to homeless people you don't know me, and I actually do a lot to help not just homeless people on the streets, but children at Christmas. As far as when it comes to people of other ethnicities than myself I have zero issues with ANYONE, if you talk to me I'll talk to you. It has nothing to do with the amount of melanin in someone's skin. Now I know I can't say that's the case for every single person in the world, but please do not pretend to know me, or what I stand for. As far as the media goes I meant every word if what I said! They want to play us against each other by publicizing anything they can to create a divide in our country. I am for mending fences with everyone, but not at the cost of being called despicable things that are nowhere near true. We are a melting pot with all walks of life, and it's a beautiful thing, because no other country in the world is as diverse as us! I hope you have a great day, and remember we can't change the past, but we can work towards a better tomorrow!

[@minkgin3370]

@Baby Curls Please don’t lump us altogether as racists either, just because we look different. I treat all people the same until they do or say something to me that offends me, then I probably won’t give them a second chance to do it again. Talking to non-white people on public transport I find, especially the under 40’s, have a considerable chip on their shoulders against whites especially. WE cannot help what our forebears did, in the name of Christianity or any other religion. Many wrongs have been done the world over throughout history, including things done to the whites.....we were slaves to the Romans & Egyptians long before tobacco & cotton was grown by the black slaves. Money has always been made on the backs of slaves, but We must work towards a new world, not live in it’s dark history & that goes for all of us, no matter what colour or creed - as I said, we have all been slaves at sometime in history, it’s our own fault if it holds us back & we dwell on the past.

[@AnchoredHousehold]

I couldn’t love this video more! I think I need to find Solo’s sermon on Sunday because I have a feeling he can PREACH!! 🙌

[@laurad7439]

I wish we could just get rid of those “boxes”.

[@jenniferreneecrust8180]

I agree why does it matter. Everyone is from so many different races. Who cares! We all need to love each other and respect one another!! That is it!!

[@grettaist]

Exactly why ask the question in the first place

[@lizheuserbevan6564]

I am German, English, Irish, Cherokee and Apache Indian. My children are my nationality and Scottish, Dutch, and Welch. One Race. God's race...

[@tlb0525]

As a mother of 2 biracial adult sons, this video truly spoke to everything I have always tried to impart to them. The only way the world can truly change is by changing the lens. Thank you so much for sharing this.

[@jenniferthomas3570]

My children are also "black" and "white." I would want them to do exactly as Belle did.

[@APena-gj8qc]

I learned at driver school that you always pick the race of the father because he is the majority or considered as the main person in the bloodline

[@ifeo.9774]

@@APena-gj8qc sorry I see that you've commented on this several times.. the explanation you gave has no biological basis at all - both parents contribute to equally to the genetic makeup of the child and their DNA

[@lailanimessina1473]

@@ifeo.9774 exactly ! Can’t stand when people say things like that smh

[@carolynrandle6049]

My grandkids are black and white also.

[@atxbrighteyes]

@@ifeo.9774 Thats actually not true. You don't get 50/50 from your parents. You can get any percentage from one or the other... and siblings sharing the same parents can also have different percentages as well. Its very interesting. Have you ever done your ancestry DNA. It pretty cool!

[@karenbrown5177]

This Grandma (abiga they call me) sees Belle as a beautiful, diligent student, loving sister and daughter, helpful, kind, young lady. Blessings. Oh, and have fun driving!

[@cecoakley6588]

My children are mixed Hispanic and White, but present as white. I raised them to be proud of their Hispanic heritage so that their culture is not lost to them. Their children are mixed also, one is darker and is always asked about her heritage and she says she is mixed. The other grandchild presents as white and is proud of his Hispanic heritage. My other grandchildren are half white and 1/4 Chinese and 1/4 Hispanic and they are being raised to be proud of their mixed heritage. We raised them to be proud of "who" they are.

[@stephanieburgess8217]

Solo nailed it!! I 100% agree. The more you discuss it and bring it up the more it causes division , but the most important thing is character and who you are in Christ. We are all unique. I love the values you have snd teach your children.

[@amandalaird1970]

i love how proud sarahs face looks while solo is talking she like yeah thats my man 🥰 they will be in love forever

[@cocomelon1234]

Agreed

[@witchymommy1918]

When you have true love and respect in your marriage the eyes show

[@suede2575]

I was thinking the same thing!

[@kentuckynanasaves1903]

The Way she 👀 at em, It's a love / Pride in her Face 😇❣️ Altho when my husband speaks, I am usually 👀 at him like that too 🤔🤗❣️... Most of the time, Sometimes tho, 🤭 he has em laughing 😜 he loves to laugh 😂🤣❣️...

[@SMaria003]

Crazy world we live in 🤪 looking forward to the day we’re all called “beautiful children of God”, plain and simple.

[@corianne2099]

Here's the thing....we are already called beautiful children of God. What I want to hear is, "Well done my good and faithful servant"

[@10qoal]

Well not everybody believes in God so that will never happen

[@RhondaRose5]

Amen!!!

[@corianne2099]

@@10qoal it doesn't matter God still thinks we are beautiful even if we don't believe in him

[@10qoal]

@@corianne2099 that's very true!

[@SarahatTheParmFarm]

This is so great and my 5 yr old was watching this with me and she said but he’s not black, he’s brown. And she has a Hispanic great grandmother and she has asked why she’s brown and her skin doesn’t match her own (very pale). And knows the different hair colors. She’s so innocent and doesn’t see “race”. She sees color but doesn’t know anything about it. She sees PEOPLE-or as she says, “humans” ❤️ I hope to teach her the same way you are teaching your children. She’s smart and kind and beautiful.

[@carriekennedy5334]

I loved the comment that Solo made about people being known more by the content of their character. He is so wise.

[@lasol5345]

As a parent I get that, building "Resilient" children especially in a world where the messages are loud, confusing and relentless. Loved this 👌.

[@stormihymnway8134]

The way Sarah looks at Solo when he's talking is Mood!!!

[@danamcdonald7468]

You can tell how much she respects him and his opinion!

[@brentandlouiseosborne6492]

Exactly Kayla Liu. I am English, Danish, Scottish and American Indian. I am also disabled and have adversity in many ways. However, God loves us so much and we all came here with the knowledge of what we would be facing and rejoiced in coming. It's not the adversity that matters, it's the ability to go through adversity well. With praise and love of the Lord. His thoughts of us are really the only ones that matter.

[@angelinamoreno7609]

I LOVE Solos views on this . EVERYONE needs to hear this.You both are amazing people.

[@mariemarieb3250]

Solo and Sarah, you owe no explanations to no one! With that being said you are 100% correct on this issue. It’s doesn’t become an issue unless you allow it to become an issue. Solo, you could not have explained this any better. You just gave us a great history lesson ❤️

[@lady4kalamity]

My children are mixed and they learn about all their heritages. Living in the South I do have to prepare my babies to watch out for those who would be profile them and treat them as less bc racism is very real here. We don't let it define them but they do learn how to handle the ugly when it tries to come for them. Balance is key

[@OurTribeofMany]

"Balance is the key"❤️❤️

[@nikki7369]

I am Black Hispanic living in Alabama. Racism seems worst in the North than in the South to me. I lived in large and small towns in Alabama and Georgia.

[@lady4kalamity]

@@nikki7369 that's a blessing! It is def worse in NC and FL than when we lived in IA or CA.

[@nikki7369]

@@lady4kalamity Sorry to hear that. Did you know the South kicked out FL and Atlanta out of the South because of too many Northerners moving into that State and City? Strange

[@lady4kalamity]

@@nikki7369 I lived there for over 20 yrs.... It was not the transplants that were the problem

[@Nonea350]

This is such a beautiful way to explain to people who don't understand that children do not see in just black and white. You CHOOSE to put that narrative on them by how you teach them. No wonder your kids are so lovely!

[@BeachLoverCindy]

I don’t get people who send hate mail. If you don’t approve of someone else, then get on with your life and let the rest of us enjoy this wonderful family! 😡

[@lindseysilva663]

I love Solo's perspective. I think he can look at it different because he was not raised in America. Which goes to show that maybe "we" as Americans might just have it wrong.

[@lailanimessina1473]

America has ALWAYS had it wrong when it comes to color, race, ethnicity etc ! They’ve kept everyone separated and confused for TOO MANY years 🙄 Sad country smh

[@ExNihiloArchitecture]

My husband was raised in the US. In the South. In a white suburb of Atlanta. He has the same exact perspective as Solo. What you are hearing is a man who is confident in his identity in Christ - so much so that no other cultural or societal identity actually matters. It is the same with my husband.

[@lindseysilva663]

@@ExNihiloArchitecture You and I can both agree that if anyone finds themselves truly a believer in Christ that they would not be racist because we know that we are all children of God, made in his image. The part thay so many people leave out is that there are people who are not Christians who SOME of them are racist. Our nation is not that far from the ending of segregation which my mother was school age and remembers. The point we should be focusing on is moving forward. As I can say we have but true societal takes time, person by person, generation by generation. Stop acting as though racism was not an issue and be the change.

[@melodystrong8953]

I a gree my wife and myself are black I I am 81 she is 66 years of age I love the the perspective of solo's I live in a time where we could not go eat at the same table as others races but my father's always told me I could do anything I put my mind to do and in my heart I felted it my wife's father's was in the navy at that time he wanted to fight for his country and he wasn't a loud to eat at the same table but he had a great idea that no matter what he was going to love and over come he did at the end of the war they became friends her fathers went on to get a award love is the best ever in times when it's not fair be proud of who god created you to be your family's are the most beautiful family's you two are great parents God bless you both

[@dzejnalukovic9920]

👏👏 'we' have it wrong 😔

[@n2creativity-ccladee640]

I understand Belle’s confusion. I am biracial - Am Indian/Caucasian but growing up (I am old) I often got told to use the “colored” facilities. As a college student, I had to complete a standardized National teaching exam which asked for race. I put other and wrote in American. My mother was convinced my test would be thrown out. Instead, when I got my scores (I passed!), there was a comment - “About the race - good for you!” Ever since, I always mark Other! Love this post! Bravo for your parenting (and I have taught parenting for 30+ years)! Hugs, love, and prayers. From a homeschooling mom of 20 years to you - ❤️ Bravo to Solo - maybe sometimes we need to identify ethnicity but certainly not always!

[@anetzband1383]

I always do the same. "Other" is for me.

[@10qoal]

The only reason why Bella's confused because her parents have made it that way. Belle is BLACK. Like are you people blind??? 🤣 Can't tell black from white 🤫🤫🤫🤣

[@anetzband1383]

@@10qoal I feel like you have missed the point of everything they have tried to say.

[@joytoyouandme4593]

@@10qoal - Belle sees her Mother everyday and knows she is 1/2 white. There is nothing about her that requires her to check the Black box. Please listen to what Solo is saying, you might learn something.

[@rachelschlesener-whiteside271]

The things I think are important is not color of one's skin, but we teach, love, forgiveness and respect and tolerance for we are one race human and we all feel and cry and love and we all have the same color of blood so it's time we see less of one and more love for We are all God's children.

[@kentuckynanasaves1903]

True , We all breathe the same air, bleed the same, n booty's split up n Down

[@barbaragrant9337]

I GREW UP IN A PLACE WHERE THERE WERE ONLY WHITE RESIDENTS, I ONLY SAW PEOPLE OF COLOR IN MOVIES, OR, AT AIRPORTS . One day this young 19 year man came to our town under contract to play hockey. Everyone fell in love with this so good looking guy. Since this was the first time anyone had met a person of color, we had no previous hang-ups that he should be treated any differently than we treated each other. I TRULY CAN CLAIM THAT TO THIS DAY OVER 60 YEARS LATER , I REMAIN AS COLOR BLIND TODAY , AS I WAS THAT TIME FRAME WHEN THAT YOUNG MAN ARRIVED IN OUR TOWN. Thank God.

[@crystltwilight]

I'm so glad your kids are free thinkers. Kids nowadays are taught in schools to memorize what is taught and not question the teacher at all!!

[@liveyourbestlife143]

I believe racism is a problem because people make it a problem. I am 1/2 white 1/2 Indian. I grew up in a family with a lot of adopted siblings. I have siblings who are black, Chinese, vietnamese, white,..... growing up I NEVER noticed race and that we were different. And now as an adult I try to teach my children the same way. Color, Disabilities, whatever it may be we are all different.... but we are all also very much the same. .. great video.

[@OurTribeofMany]

Thanks for sharing.

[@mischasmum2025]

I love Solo's take on life. He is so right. Define your own box and don't let perceived limitations get in your way. Peace and love to all your family ❤️

[@akmomma435]

Alaskan Native here, growing up in a small community, I didn't experience racism until I left. Was brought up not seeing people through color. People as people regardless of color. Still today, years later still can't comprehend color. Doesn't take that much energy to be a kind human.

[@niondauwilliams4769]

It's definitely up to you making it a big deal or not. I wasn't raised to make it a big deal. And yes I'm aware that I'm black but my parents didn't make that the only way I identify myself. I believe that this has helped me have beautiful relationships with people of all ethnic background. Solo made excellent points!!!!!! We are all diverse!!!!! It saddens me that as black people we force each other to think the same and feel the same about everything, especially how we view ourselves. Again your family makes me smile❤

[@whitneyigoe940]

Solo is black and of direct African decent. He has made a choice to raise his bi-racial children in America. So many people with far less ability to compare have strong opinions. He and Sarah are acutely aware. She has traveled extensively. A very smart man said, "Rhetoric can never replace reality". Keep doing what you're doing. Your children are bright. Very, very bright.

[@flyinggeckos123]

Poor kids. They really can get shamed and/or confused for just asking “why?” God bless you for the wisdom you give your kids.

[@AndreaMichelle677]

How do you talk to the kids about how to handle or navigate the adversities they may face for being “black in America.” It doesn’t matter how confident I am as a person, my level of education and what community I grew up in. Once you’re outside your “bubble” as a black person, you will face those situations at some point in your life. From micro aggressions to blatant racism. If I didn’t have parents or mentors to talk to me or advise me on what those situations could look like or how to handle them, I’m not sure what I would have done. I’m sure Solo has shared his experiences with all the kids but I would encourage Belle, if she doesn’t already have one, to connect with a college age black women to serve as a mentor for her.

[@TheQueenPsChannel]

All of this!

[@robyn905]

Why does Belle need to connect with a college age black woman? As if her family isnt enough to teach her? This is so weird.

[@sweetumsDenise]

@@robyn905 Just as a basic example. There’s nothing wrong with the suggestion, I think it’s out of well intentions. Of course we understand that just because someone shares your race, nationality, or ethnic background doesn’t mean they share your experiences or perspectives, so there’s that. Belle’s experience is uniquely her own and will continue to be. Something tells me she will be just fine in this often judgmental, sometimes unfair world. She’s being taught to interact with PEOPLE and that is a way we can all relate to each other 😊

[@InTheKitchenWithSandy]

Solo is so inspirational, always represents positivity, love listening to him speak. Does your church have a website that allows viewings of his preaching? You are definitely raising well adjusted, strong, beautiful and confident children of God. Such a beautiful family! I have a prayer request, had a large cyst removed from my back, awaiting the biopsy results. Please say a little prayer for me, extremely nervous. Would surely appreciate it!

[@OurTribeofMany]

Thanks. Our church website is lincolncitychurch.org

[@marilynpeppers1356]

🙏💜🙏💜🙏

[@donnacheeks5701]

Sending prayers 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾

[@michellebarham326]

I hope you don't mind that I prayed for you too. May His peace cover you and may you get a clean bill of health. 🙏🙏

[@christygabany7395]

🙏🙏🙏🙏🤗

[@nicolel6442]

Solo has so much wisdom. I love where he gets his wisdom from and he shares it. Thanks! Love the way you are teaching your children.

[@octavia7513]

Critical thinking is so important for our young ones. I am Navajo and apache and appreciate the conversations you had with your children about what is taught in many school books as “facts.” Your kids are going to contribute such goodness to this world as adults! Love your channel

[@caspence56]

Are your kids Black? Are your kids White? Your kids are 100% beautiful! Period. And the two of you are an amazing couple and amazing parents.

[@pamela6564]

Your children know who they are and from watching them for so long I can see how confident and intelligent they are. They are going do some great things in this world. I pray for all of you daily.

[@zoe0abundant]

Solo was on fire! I loved hearing Belle's point of view in that situation. I would love to hear how you instill confidence in your kids. My middle child seems to need more confidence as he is quick to give up on many things.

[@kellylerch6288]

Solo is a wise man ! Very good leader! I am proud to say I watch your channel!

[@blondie86ful]

I agree with everything you are saying. But the thing that scares me is you cannot change how other people think. I have mixed kids, one of who is a teenager and it scares me, in a big city, how other people treat him, or the cops. Some people don’t care, they see color first unfortunately. But I love the message! You guys are an inspiration

[@ericas1458]

The really messed up thing is that the more nervous you are, "the more guilty you seem". Confidence shines through. So I think the message is still the same. Hold your head high knowing you are made in God's perfect image and loved and protected. None of us get out of this world alive so live boldly and proudly and carry on with what makes you happy.

[@sherij7330]

I agree with you. My grandkids are bi-racial and my grandson in law is black. He grew up in a white suburban area where he was accepted for himself. Moving to a large city like Milwaukee, Wis. showed him that sometimes he would be judge first by the color of his skin. I'm glad Solo has had more positive interactions but that is not always the case. My grandkids are well rounded and positive individuals but that doesn't always protect them from how others will treat them based on their skin color. We're working for a change!

[@Handje3]

I love how you both allow each other to speak and don’t talk over each other. Y’all allow each other to get your whole point out before the other speaks. Your relationship and family is so beautiful ❤️

[@atxbrighteyes]

I thought it was interesting and loved hearing Belle's perspective to the question as a biracial child. As a mother to biracial children I have always marked them as African American when only given one race. Because that is how the world views them. Sad to say... some will only see that. But when they are old enough to fill that out themselves they will have that choice. I have always had to choose white. I am viewed as a white woman when in fact I'm white and Mexican. There is no pleasing everyone. Everyone will have their own views and opinions. I love that yall talk about these things! There is no doubt how smart yalls children's are and obviously know who they are in the world.

[@butterjujunut]

I'm a new mom and my child is mixed. My fiance's white and I am Haitian American. As of right now my son is light skinned and although I understand and agree with everything Solo was saying I will still teach him that the world may perceive him as a black boy. And what that means for him and how to act accordingly (how to operate in a world that may not always welcome you with open arms). I will teach him he's a human first and foremost and to treat everyone else as such. I will also teach him to be proud of his Haitian / black heritage, while at the same time he is allowed to check whichever and however many boxes he wants to. That is a personal decision that I would never take away from him. I want him to be proud of who his father is while simultaneously understanding that his identity, as black or mixed his beautiful, it has history, and there's nothing wrong with acknowledging that even as he chooses to forge his own path and identity.

[@sarak6401]

I love this, my daughters are Mexican and Irish so we decided to raise them as both. They will be given claddagh rings at their quinceañeras.

[@mollyjoy7820]

Solo is gifted and wise.

[@joybrooks564]

Star Jones once said" I am the author of the dictionary that defines me", I live by that philosophy

[@gigirob4635]

You are so right about there being different adversity that we all face. I was glad to hear you speak on that. You are both so very wise. Great job mom and dad! 🙏❤

[@davettegreen-henry6337]

I respect your thoughts, I think that it’s an individual experience and why many prepare their children to accept their blackness. And to be cautious when interacting with others.

[@creativevanspace]

It is not so much “race” but more of the experience. When it comes down to it, all of humankind comes from Africa (one race). I find that I have a lot in common with people of African descent from the diaspora all over the world.

[@possumandmeee]

Corruption of the mind that is it! When my children was younger in school (especially middle and high) they always come home tell me stories that I couldn't believe. It wasn't about their skin tone it was about how they spoke and act. It wasn't black enough or you acting white.. you're talking too proper.. "what really I said to my self". But I told my children (and still till this day) do not let others define you..you are who you are and be proud of it because in the long run it will pay off. There's always going to be a box that people will put you in but it do not mean you have to check the box that says..."this is what people see me as so I will check this". Thanks for sharing...

[@OurTribeofMany]

Thanks for sharing!

[@kclark9521]

Drivers license are for identification purposes. That is why race is included. It is not meant to tell anything about character, just like a passport.

[@cyberstudentsfly]

You have a beautiful family. As an only child, I am completely in awe of large families. I was having a discussion with a driver while visiting Maryland some years back...he was from Africa and as we were chatting while in traffic about different countries that we had visited, and that traveling around the world makes people more civilized....I agree.. It is great that your children have the opportunity to travel. I love learning about different cultures and sharing mine...being different from one another is what makes the world so interesting....character defines people, not race. Can you imagine how boring it would be if everyone had the same color skin, the same color hair, spoke the same language, had the same experiences and ways of thinking, etc.?. May God continue to bless you and your lovely family. By the way, I love the videos where your husband cooks Kenyan dishes...I love trying different foods and recipes from different countries. He has some really good recipes.

[@mrskop]

Amen Solo! I raise my children the same way. My kids are Hispanic and white. They definitely look more like me. I dealt with a lot of racism as a child but I do not walk through life assuming people are thinking anything negative about me from the start. I don’t think it’s fair to raise kids with a “chip” on their shoulders. I want them to see people with an open heart and mind.

[@arzinahemraj6782]

We are God's children and as human beings we are kind, vibrant, understanding, honest and have integrity. We should think about these human qualities from time to time and always endeavour to do better. Belle stand up for yourself with confidence. Do what is right and do things were you do not want to hurt anyone.

[@Tetee-mv8bb]

I am so deeply moved by this conversation..I am a mama of 7 children..we are a blended family..not in regards to race..but my husband and myself we previously married.. which has many times let to very rude comments..we have children of several backgrounds...Chinese .. Jewish.. European..my children also now have Black stepsiblings and mixed half brothers..we all accept one another for who we are as people. I love Solo's approach we are all diverse not just in our skin color..but our talents...our passions..that it what make us so exciting. I love your family and children!

[@brendajohnson2629]

You will raise amazing children. My daughter ran into a situation early in life where her "group " of friends told another girl she couldnt hang around them because she wasnt the same skin color..my daughter quickly took a stand and told them she was a human and a good person and she would be a total asset to their friendship group and upon this they all accepted her and became best friends.. Solo you are so right it's what we as parents teach our kids and mine was taught to love everyone..

[@gailsnow7375]

BRILLIANT. Solo you put the words to my feelings and could never find THANK YOU GOD BLESS ❤️

[@savannahmendez3964]

My mom was very ignorant, leading to her answer about race to be absolutely brilliant. We are Gods ice cream and he makes us all in different flavors. But we are all delicious to somebody.

[@OurTribeofMany]

Love it!

[@peachmelba9333]

@ Savannah I think your Mama has a very nice daughter and you do her credit!

[@DonnaSmith-ff2wu]

I appreciate your perspective. There is a risk in trying to pursue unity as Solo suggests that we sacrifice recognition of inequity for an artificial sense of peace. Yes we should prepare kids to know who they are, but not to have blinders about very real racial disparities.

[@kayallen4446]

I agree 💯.

[@stacieezell3678]

I absolutely love Solo. He is so wonderful to listen to. I wish he was my pastor and money management man....

[@Marsha7490]

Solo, great words of wisdom. I think that everyone should mark "other" on forms where race is asked. Then, next to other write in "human".

[@cherrywells23]

But I’m not an “other” I’m mixed with African and White so I mark those boxes. Being mixed you’re always an “other” not black enough but also not white enough so for me I just say what I am! There’s often a box that says “two or more races” Which is more appropriate than other.

[@angiedasner]

I’m 64 with purple hair. I mark the box “other” and then write beside the box HUMAN. I believe marking a box is meant to be divisive.

[@donnamyers7274]

I'm sorry but I do absolutely put your family in a box...the "beautiful family" box!💞 Everytime that Iwatch a video of you all, I wished my family was like yours. You prove how important loving and nurturing is for how each child carries themselves through out life as an adult! With Jesus leading the tribe every step. Love you all!💞👏🙌🙏

[@The-ii5mj]

I'm so glad you did this. I always wanted to ask but never wanted to offend anyone😕. Some people r so touchy. My beautiful granddaughters are hispanic/Caucasian & I nvr thought about the DL. I don't judge by color of one's skin. Solo I'm w/you! If we didn't make such issues about it, the happier we would ALL be. I get bashed every time I say "I don't see color". Doesn't mean I'm an idiot. Love your channel!!💞✌

[@kimberlyprzybyl1187]

So tired of people thinking we all need to be put in a box. I was brought up the color of our skin didn’t matter. We are all equal as children of God and to treat everyone equally.

[@Godismystrength1725]

So wise!! Thank you for always sharing what's on your hearts!!

[@meredithharford350]

People need to understand , color doesn't matter we are all human, flesh and blood and loved !!! I love your family, God Bless you all !!

[@maryvanmeter7369]

My view as a teacher is we are all human and each of us should be equal. Skin color should not be a problem. I loved all my students. I put high goals for all!

[@terrijoseph-miller5471]

In Trinidad most times there is a box called "Mixed".

[@DivineDianne]

Thats true. I think a lot of the forms need to be more inclusive or not ask about race at all. I was born in trinidad and I am mixed with Spanish, Indian and Caucasian. I now live in the UK and I find the forms so frustrating because they have an option for "black Caribbean" but there as sooooo many other races in the Caribbean other than black, so I just always end up putting "Other"

[@karbear26]

I think they should add that box on our forms!

[@erintacbas2280]

LOVE this! You’ve shown me some new perspectives, and I appreciate that very much. I am a white woman raising white/Mexican/Filipino children. I’ve struggled sometimes, with how to discuss some current race issues with them since they do not fit into the black or white box. Raising confident, caring, kind humans is the goal! Thanks for sharing your thoughts. ❤️

[@MrsK1689SDG]

Finally got around to watching this one today. Our kids are not yet old enough to have to pick any boxes, but when I have had to do it for them I have been frustrated with the options as well. It sucks when people make assumptions about your family because of what you all look like. Many people, unless they know us personally, will often assume that we think a certain way about this issue and will sometimes get very pushy about how they think we should talk about this topic with our children. We also homeschool so I am very thankful for the unique opportunity we have to shape our children’s worldview on this subject. It’s nice to see that we aren’t the only Mixed-ethnicity family out there with this sort of view.

[@vjohnson2400]

I may have found this video 2 years after it was published but I loved this discussion today, so interesting and such a sensible way to see the world and it’s people. We’re all part something!