ARE WE GETTING MARRIED?

[@dianaj3139]

Very Honest discussion about kids!! It is really how I feel about Pets... I enjoy them and they are great, but I don't want the responsibility because i like to travel :) One friend that I used to travel with had two dogs and she always had trouble finding someone to care for them for only a 10 day vacation... Also it was an added expense of several hundred dollars. Some people LOVE taking care of pets and lots of kids, but it's good to do what is right for YOU!! :)

[@darrelphillips7895]

Thanks for the “F” word. I almost fell out of the chair laughing. I need that. You two are a great team.

[@juligrlee556]

Your relationship is inspiring.

[@johnnyg7899]

In spite of not being married, she is still more loyal than many married people. Congratulations to you both for knowing how to enjoy life.

[@ManOfAdventure2011]

She is indeed unique in her way of thinking when it comes to having kids. Dan youre lucky to find a woman who loves travelling as you do!

[@erf1971]

Qiang is such a sweet heart 🙂

[@bjm9071]

I told my Asian boyfriend that I did not want to get married or have children the first day we met. He was 14 years older than me and was under a lot of pressure to marry since he was the oldest son and it was the tradition that his younger brothers could not marry until he did. I did not change my mind and after 3 years he consented to an arranged marriage and he was miserable with his wife for 5 years. The only thing good was that he had a daughter that he loved. After their divorce, we got back together again for another 11 years. After he died, I became close to his daughter and she recently became a mother. I am happy with my decision not to be a mom, but love being a grandmom!

[@kmilton1593]

This turned out to be perhaps the most interesting vlog you folks have put out: just a great series of short honest conversations; i remained glued to the screen. Big thanks, and cheers.

[@johnway9853]

It does amaze me, but not surprise me that people insist on trying to put you into their own worldview. Having been watching you and a Vagabond member since before you even started your own channel I'd like to say it has been obvious to me and anyone who cares to pay attention that you two are together because you want to be, which is the ONLY thing that matters. Carry on being as you are.

[@gregd.88]

Geeze, where was this beautiful lady in my day? I love her attitude!

[@northernbohemianrealist]

In Wisconsin, the phrase "I Do" carries an infection. It's nearly impossible to avoid. The consequence? Both the husband and the wife gain ten pounds a month for the next two years.

[@dew4040]

Also, did you know that wedding cake is the number one food that kills a women's sex drive?

[@johnclark8637]

Dan is a lucky guy! I hope I can find a nice girl who doesn't pressure me to invite the gov into our relationship (marriage)

[@jipacek]

She is a lucky girl ;)

[@Mmmmmppppppp]

Awesome so happy to see you both smiling and joyful!

[@JAG72270]

Met you both on the road in Siquijor. Much taller in person! 🙂

[@spincube5734]

Qiang, you & Dan seem like a wonderful fit !! I envy you both.

[@stewartclark3259]

from a young soul to both of you - I'm so glad to see that you're walking your own path through life. Qiang - your parents sound very unusual (in a good way!) and understanding! I'm so similar-minded to you guys, it's crazy - I caught myself nodding along to your commentary. Live the life you want, not the life others expect you live. Be the person you are, not the person others want you to be. I wish I had learned these lessons 30 years ago as a late teenager - I would have done things quite differently. Keep living the dream! :)

[@edwardgeezil3318]

Oh my God, U2 completely lift me out of my depression

[@williamh.schmidtjr.7614]

Thank you thoughtful people. I enjoyed the way you relate to each other.

[@Joeysgonerogue]

Every morning I check blood pressure and I laughed so hard when you said “young kids want to f-around” I had to stop. You two are so fun to watch. 😁 see you both on the beach someday I’m sure. Cheers, Joe

[@spurlworld]

She's gorgeous, you two make a great team!

[@ronlafleur4246]

Totally agree is paper. You are where you want to be,

[@StevenThomas-mz8lb]

I’ve had the same experience as Dan’s so I don’t need to have more kids. I really want to focus on the relationship and like you both have that commitment of exclusivity to each other. Great content and best of luck for you both for your futures.

[@aaronbux1]

Adoption is a great way to "have a kid". There are so many millions of orphans around the world who could use a stable upbringing .. and if you adopt, say a kid that is 5 or 8 y/o or something, as parents you skip all the cost that comes with having a toddler .. and they're old enough to travel with you. Anyone wanting to have a kid, but not many of the side difficulties and costs .. adoption is a great (and needed) way to go.

[@Maintenance63]

You're quite beautiful. Keep doing what you're doing.

[@hjander]

Wise couple. Enjoy your relationship, tomorrow is not guaranteed.

[@richardhowe5583]

Did you change the name of your channel? I take long break from KZbin and when I came back you popped up on my screen with a another name and I just subscribe.. I cannot remember the name of your other channel but it would pop up on my phone all the time and I would watch it.. what was the name of your other channel? Are all of your other videos still out there under the old name? You have always had lots of good information.. congratulations on whatever you decide to do.. I think your girl is a real sweetheart and you are a lucky man.. I wish you the best🥂🌊🏝️🏖️👙😁😎🤗🥂

[@phmiii]

I have been married three times. The third one actually works. But I do not recommend it. Keep up the wonderful work!

[@MichaelPrudhomme-u7x]

I've heard it said that the 1st marriage will be imagination over intellect. The 2nd will be hope over experience. So what is the 3rd, I asked myself? Perhaps a successful 3rd marriage comes with the realization that the gambler understands that the house always wins. You "play" while ever putting all your cash into the pot. When the kit is gone you walk from the table to play another day. As Rabbi Friedman says, you should love someone because they are important to you. I don't love you today, OK maybe tomorrow. But you are always important to me. So enjoy her, bond with her (kindness, dignity, generosity) while remembering always that innocence means you can't own it.

[@phmiii]

@@MichaelPrudhomme-u7x Great Analogy!

[@stephenmitchell7915]

Almost same age gap as my wife and I, 47 and 72. The wife is built like Qiang too, and could have been a model looking at her pics. But, she has a son to take care off and was not free to travel. I used to travel all the time for work and grew to hate it. So, now she travels all over with her girlfriends, when her work allows the time, and I stay home with the boy. It works for us! BTW, my sister always kept a pawn shop wedding ring in her purse to slip on her finger when the need would arise, so I guess wedding rings can come in handy!

[@juligrlee556]

I have thousands of books. I give away most of them. I worry about travel because I like my own desk, my thousands of books and a place where I can buy more books and have access to them all the time. I just can't carry my books everywhere I go. Of course there is kindle. But, kindle is way too heavy and not as much fun as a book you hold and feel connected to.

[@billyjohnson9166]

Qiangs trying to protect herself so she says no but she would if asked

[@cheedovision39]

I think marriage is a contractual construct. When a woman loves a man she is married to him with her heart no ceremony needed.

[@johngalt6708]

I must admit, I just assumed you were married. But then when I see how happy you are with each other, I'd say, you're probably not. 😉

[@hnahar]

This is your best video. Love it. I’m divorced every one keeps asking about getting married. Why??? I agree with you both.

[@all4fitz]

Wooowww....you both are ahead of the times and I am 100% in agreement. The rest of the world is slowly catching up. Marriage is outdated!

[@armunro]

Great video; you guys made me laugh. I married my Thai gf so she could come and stay with me in the UK and on the other side so I could stay in Thailand on marriage visas. It has worked out well for us 11 years on from getting married.

[@StanLyons-wp5vx]

Great topic to explore! Touches on some deeply held beliefs for us all, especially having courage to simply BE together without traditional life forming decisions. Living the way you two have discovered, that promotes your dual happiness, may yet become a new tradition 🎉😂.

[@succesid]

I love listening to you, Qiang. Ik like that more than just the beach videos on Dan's channel. Even though that is how I learned about you. Have a blessed 2024, you both. 🙏

[@robertl2227]

If you want to get married there is nothing stopping you from giving vows to each other. The state having authority over marriage and divorce is unbiblical.

[@chuck5553]

Why screw up a good thing. Even though you two are made for each other….marriage will come in time if ever. Just keep having a blast both in travel and love

[@dougparson667]

You Two are so Good Together. My thinking has been, if you have an extremely good relationship then why would you change it? Marriage does not provide any benefit these days over staying single even if in a committed relationship. I am married to a Filipina who is 37 and I am 62, so we have a 25 age gap as well. I have been married in the past and have a grown daughter from that marriage however the divorce was very brutal and the relationship with my daughter is not as good as I was hoping for. My Filipina has a daughter who is 15. The biological father left before the kid was born so this young girl never had a father until I came along and we have bonded and have a better relationship than I do with my biological daughter. I have found being with a younger woman and her young daughter makes me feel much younger than I am and gives me energy and purpose in life again. I love it and so Happy that Asian cultures do not frown on big age gaps. Love the Video Qiang - keep them coming !!!

[@MichaelPrudhomme-u7x]

Thank you for sharing your experience. I think there are many of us divorced dads trying to figure out how to best navigate this 3rd chapter of our life. My wife divorced me, but I think she has a very unrealistic understanding of how this will affect our two boys and the potential relationship with their father. Perhaps biased by her own experience of parents who stayed together due to tradition but where not happily married. When I had the talk with my children about the coming divorce, I was careful to let them know that it's not anything they did wrong and that there is nothing for them to do to try and fix it. That was an important point I learned from watching divorce TED talks. But I also let them know that I didn't want this divorce. It's tricky in the sense that you have to be careful not to sound like you are blaming mom (because it does take two to make a good marriage) but I wanted them to know that I didn't abandon them just to walk away and be free.The second important point from TED. So my youngest is too young to understand any of this, but I hopefully planted those seeds of him doing nothing wrong and dad didn't abandon them as if they are not important. My oldest understood more. Things were about to become very different. When I hugged him that day and said "I'll always be your dad" what I meant was that I'll always be your father. A dad is in the house and I knew that dad was now dead. I went through it as a child. My parents divorced, and so I know what is going to happen. I'm looking at my life ahead. Comfortable and content but an adventure awaits. My biological father became self centered and a sour old puss. Instead of going in, I'm looking at going out as you did. Live and give to others. Perhaps it can balance out the universe as I accept the death of 'dad' sin while living a life of 'father' for which they can see as an example. Life will have challenges. Some come to you and some you create yourself. How you react to these challenges will define your life.

[@rosskennedy3987]

Dan, have a good think about marriage.....divorce rates inching towards 50% these days in USA

[@user-dz2dc4qf1w]

Dan is like don’t want to get married again man !! Thank God

[@vgshwk]

As long as you are both happy that is all that matters. I think most people who have had a bad marriage look at as soon as you said I do things changed. If you listen to Johnny Cash’s ring of fire it explains marriage to some of us.

[@moresugartradercc2744]

interesting questions and answers enjoyed the video

[@globetrotting2628]

It's good you are in a loving relationship, and I agree, you don't need a paper for that. However, I worry that the age difference will leave you by yourself someday without much income for retirement. You don't want to be scraping by at 70 years old, or even having to settle for a man you don't love just for stability. I think the paper would guarantee that Dan's assets will help maintain your life into old age as you've spent your youth with him. Dan would want you to be comfortable and a marriage would guaranty that governments or distant relatives can't come in a take asset away from you. It's important to have a worry-free retirement. My spouse and I were together for over a decade before we decided to make it legal for financial reasons. People keep that in mind.

[@formica.]

She said she would reconsider in 10 years when Dan is 73 ...

[@globetrotting2628]

@@formica. Hopefully, then she will be able to collect his Social Security when she turns 68, and Dan will be able to file his taxes as a married couple which gives him a much higher deduction. She's still quite young and most people don't think about things like that until it's too late.

[@formica.]

@@globetrotting2628 Survivor benefits are where she can receive his full social security if she outlives him, but she needs to reside in the US for 5 years while married or after his death. The specifics are ambiguous tho. I am in a similar age gap, and we're moving back to the US for a few years, but not just for that, as the crazy living expenses might not justify payments out! But that isn't the only reason we are heading back tho.

[@RobertMeadePowerOfImagination]

You are both amazing. Love the way you both are honest about it all. Such a fun relationship and it seems to stay fresh without the societal weight of marriage. Always dating, always courting.

[@garygibbs7683]

Yes tie the knot you 2 travel a lot and that’s what you both love

[@judithmedeiros9126]

Lovely loving love story… why tie a knot in it? Very healthy perspective … enjoy NOW fully! ❤

[@StanHasselback]

People have their own beliefs on this and mine have changed over the years. I would say both of you have a very good relationship right now so why change it. Asking Qiang if she has gotten any marriage offers is dangerous as I'm sure many of the subscribers have thought about this from time to time. 😊You would have to be responsible for feeding her every 4 hours🤣

[@papadougpapadougsadventures]

Never say never but i don’t think I will ever get married again. I was married for 38 years and we had 3 wonderful and successful children. Those children produced 7 grandkids. My girlfriend is in the Philippines and is still married but left him 5 years ago. She has 2 children. Her husband has never given her a dime of child support. In the Philippines you cannot get a divorce so we continue as we are. I support her and the children and I visit 3 times a year. It works for us.

[@MichaelPrudhomme-u7x]

Oh! She could get an annulment. Not inexpensive, but as a foreigner I would be cautious about their marital laws and if you want to continue this arrangement then acquire the annulment. Just my .02

[@papadougpapadougsadventures]

@@MichaelPrudhomme-u7x too expensive with no guarantee. 7-11kUS was the estimate we got

[@koufax174]

Thank you for sharing. When I was in my late 30’s I was being pressured to marry and have children. It was suggested to ask 12 of my closest friends who were married and who had children if they would do that again. I did ask. All, all said no they would not and these are conscious people. They said they wouldn’t give their kids back now that they are there but it was not what they thought it was. I learned from my wise mentor to implement into my relationships a yearly renewable contract that if for any reason the relationship wasn’t working that we would end it instead of being unconscious and letting time pass and being in a relationship that neither wanted. I have had three Asian partners long term like Qiang in my lifetime. They were the best. My last one passed away two years ago and I took very special care of her until she was gone. I have started my slow travel lifestyle in SE Asia after having been to China over 20 times previously in my life. Eventually I’ll find a landing ground and a great relationship to enjoy my latter em years. Thanks again 🙏🏼

[@koufax174]

@@RetireandGo Enjoy

[@js7un165]

Best of luck to you in your latter years.

[@koufax174]

@@js7un165 🙏🏼

[@raybythebay247]

I totally respect your views on marriage(& divorce!) I have never taken the "yellow brick" road of marriage? Realizing that marriage is a formality and a document 😢! I would recommend that you two are obviously strongly attracted and committed to each other. Why not share a pair of "commitment rings"? You are letting each other know you are committed, and let others know the same thing😮😊❤! Take care of each other, you two! Stay happy!

[@kuyaIhor]

Welcome a new subscriber! You have a very interesting channel!

[@thebestlifejeremy]

You both are awesome. I love your content, and this video was great.

[@lostboi3974]

Geez, everything she said reflects exactly how I have felt since I was in my late teens. If you had the same chances of getting hit in the head with a bowling ball when you walked out the front door as you do of getting divorced, would you leVe the house? There's too many good things to experience without spending years getting divorced or remaining unhappily bound to someone.

[@MichaelPrudhomme-u7x]

I heard the same from James Sexton. Should be required reading/watching for anyone contemplating marriage!

[@stannmcb3]

I like travel and exploration so that is why I started watching your videos. This is the first video I’ve seen focused on the two of you. It is a nice surprise and most interesting. 👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻.

[@fourtywater77]

Y'all have a beautiful relationship. So happy for you guys.

[@digitalnomadtrader]

package deal is a great idea, they should definitely offer that

[@velsdelosreyes1666]

It's about time and you look good and happy together🎉

[@Paul-McB]

I early retired at 54 and now live in the Philippines. I only believe in marriage if you are having children and building a family. I'm past that stage of my life. I had a vasectomy years ago. I've been approached by women to have a child a few times. Filipinas love producing children.

[@damncars2618]

Marriage is not a piece of paper. It's the commitment and vow you made to each other and before God.

[@LahrySibley]

Thanks for the video. Qiang, my Doctor's last name is Hui. :)

[@mickeymouse8945]

Marry her Dan,you look very happy together

[@realpropertymangement7640]

I don't need the approval or permission of a government entity to make the love I have for another legitimate. That bond, that commitment, that partnership is between my love and I. Nobody else. Nor is it anybody else's business.

[@ronyoung1270]

Maybe do a video on how you keep your money separate and how you split expenses? I imagine you must track every penny you spend??

[@andyrose5576]

Great video Qiang and Dan, this is a very controversial topic as marriage is still the standard for couples. I think you both handled the topic well. The best reason to get married is if you are going have children and be a family. If this is not your goal in life then marriage is a personal choice for each of us.

[@theburtonchannel]

Great video

[@eddenoy321]

This pair is as close to perfect as it gets. Why tamper with something perfect already?

[@Andy_Pandy2000]

“Let’s think about that” = No

[@Andy_Pandy2000]

Qiang has an unusual perspective for a Chinese woman

[@MichaelPrudhomme-u7x]

I don't think so. Different than "traditional" pressures which have shaped much of their society structure, sure; a structure was built upon the family taking care of family. But it is quite Buddhist to accept that we are here to learn and improve ourselves. In the west, happiness is excitement and achievement, whereas in the east it is calmness and contentment. My Chinese wife divorced me because she was unhappy and felt the loss to "self" whereas I was more of the western mentality of her being an important person in my life and thus we should try to love each other. Not today, OK maybe tomorrow. A forever concept like our image of an eternal heaven.

[@Imarriedaforeigner]

Haa haa that's a good idea ..if they pay the wedding gooooo!! 😂😂😂❤❤❤

[@Four_Words_And_Much_More]

The decision to not marry is common today. When I grew up, it was unheard of. What changed? I could tell you, but why bother? You have your opinions and I know that even my facts and data (F&D) or F&D plus logic will not prevail against your opinions. I have even created a model - as in mathematical model - that shows the advantages of marriage. Believe what you wish. I will follow my F&D plus logic that I put in a model. I hope for the best for you.

[@mjfab74]

Go team “there’s No forever, but still together!”

[@dennisgonya4500]

Enjoy what you have.

[@WISERandHAPPIER]

Some people love wedding cake 🍰😮

[@Neal_only1]

Is it working? Why bother if you answer yes

[@Neal_only1]

Qiang does not look like a drama mama

[@dallaspowwi6682]

I love this video. 😂

[@danitzm]

Not to sound cold but there are non-romantic reasons to get married. It could help financially and legally. Dan can file his taxes in the US as married and save on taxes. If Dan became incapacitated you could make health and financial decisions. Last if Dan died (something no one wants to face) you could inherit the Vagabound business and his assets.

[@PerfectSense77]

Many of those can be had without getting married. You can give someone power of attorney without needing to be married, and you can also leave your business and assets to someone without needing to be married.

[@formica.]

Americans need to be married for a spouse to receive her deceased partner's Social Security.

[@PenelopePitstop888]

I respect others choice to believe in the institution of marriage but it's not for me. I was married once for 10 years to my son's Dad, but never wanted to repeat that. I love my freedom too much!

[@donmcdonald4874]

Marriage ruins very good relationships. Nobody marries someone because they hate them. Also, a father who remarries effectively disinherits his children. Long after the father has passed away and his widow is at the end of her life, will she think of her children or the children he had with another woman.

[@SlackHoffman]

Marriage destroys relationships……just keep it simple and happy 😊

[@garycarmain1758]

NO KIDS‼️

[@livingworkingoutsidebox]

I think marriage is a foundation for a young couple to build a stable family. Marriage has been on the decline over the years. Its a shame. I understand in your life stages its not an issue. But Dan there are tons of benefits beyond tax. It creates a stable environment for children to grow and become good members of the community. You see how this has degraded over the years in western society 50% divorce 😳 rates where the majority are initiated by women. Look at Asian families most look at marriage as a good thing. You see many American men moving to Asia to find a more traditional woman. Thanks so much for sharing this with us.

[@renesioanno-que658]

Good to get married the man and woman of your choice!

[@manoverboardfiddyaintnuthi5314]

some pretty tough questions asked.

[@Cebudude]

Probly cause he Needs the visa

[@AM-bw8no]

Get merry now ❤

[@ta5355]

You are nuts poor man. Better prepare a prenup, you will be sorry 😢

[@Haydra1898]

If you don’t marry her, eventually someone else will.

[@jojojosian8777]

congratulations

[@stevejones4010]

How to kill the love, get married. It is only my opinion. Wish you all the best 👍😊

[@NA-me6sh]

Dan is The Man

[@ThatOneGuy-hp2pb]

If you don't marry that I'll have to move in with my travel kaibasa!!!

[@BrenThayer]

Dan, are you Ichabod Crane? 😲

[@TitaMariamSaladBowlC02]

Indeed. There’s No Forever in this world bcoz this is temporary world we all die at any day or year and transfer to the Hereafter life. The Forever is only at our Final Destination either in “PARADISE” or in the “Hellfire” and that after the day of Judgement. Spiritually, if you both believe that there’s life after death… Please get married (in my suggestion only) and based on what I’ve learned religiously that sleeping together(having sexual relationship) before marriage or without marriage is a grave sin or fornication even if the man and woman are both single. Therefore in the day of judgement we will answer that sin to our One and Only GOD Almighty Who Created us and gave us life. Take care each other, Love one another and do not love another one. May God Almighty guide us all to the right path always. Ameen. May God bless you both. ❤❤

[@McCloudChris]

Im 64 living in the USA I said I would never marry again because I'm not having kids. I got engaged last week with my Asian girlfriend after over 9 years it provides some security for her when we get married next year despite the prenump agreement . If I live 10 years she will get half of my Social Security for life after I'm gone and she can live very well in Thailand off that. I think they are doing the right thing and any women that can travel like she did deserves it Haha!

[@Paul-McB]

I may be mistaken, but I think your future wife must live in the USA for 5 years to qualify for SS.

[@papadougpapadougsadventures]

I’m 63 and my girlfriend is 35. It works very well for us

[@papadougpapadougsadventures]

@@AG-so4gl we have a lot in common and we enjoy each others company. At 35 she has a level of maturity that mirrors mine

[@keangwooichoo6138]

If you do , congrats. If you do not congrats too

[@betweendrinks8885]

Good life

[@mikesimpson9997]

Your a good couple having fun. Marriage can ruin a good thing but when your ready it can be a beautiful thing. While your traveling the world I would stay single. Lol f around is right

[@peaceonearth1971]

Donot do it! por favor!