Are you a pleaser? Understanding the pleaser reaction to childhood trauma.

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@jenjen2868 9 ай бұрын

As I was walking down the path I saw my inner child standing in front of me crying. I went over to it, picked it up and hugged it very tightly. I told it everything would be okay now, as I felt tears running down my face. This was very powerful. I think I really connected with my inner child from 50 years ago. I'll keep talking to it, telling it that we've got this now, no need to keep pleasing everyone. Thank you. This is very helpful.

@AwakenTherapy 9 ай бұрын

Wonderful work Jen. Yes, very powerful to connect with our inner child, bring them out of isolation, stuck back at that time. As you keep connecting with her and reassuring her, also try letting her know you are here now to be the good parent to her.

@jenjen2868 9 ай бұрын

@@AwakenTherapyI will. Thank you for taking the time to reply.

@NotDone-bt2hz 9 ай бұрын

Thank you so much for the complimentary introduction! I'm so used to hearing people denograde pleasers like me as weak, but your right, we are stronger than reactive people and we are much more amenable to therapy and incorporating healing methods to our lives. Thank you for the respect, something we lack the most.

@AwakenTherapy 9 ай бұрын

You are so welcome. Yes, I have learned from 30 years in practice about the strength of the pleaser, who is always a much better candidate for therapy!

@Flowerdalevalley 9 ай бұрын

Having psychology sessions with James is one of the best things I've ever done ✔️

@AwakenTherapy 9 ай бұрын

So pleased Mel

@_n_k_a 9 ай бұрын

Thank you, James, I could relate deeply to this. My inner child and I were dancing on the beach, happy to be free to just live and have fun now. PS The black and white lotus painting behind you is stunning 🙌🏽

@AwakenTherapy 9 ай бұрын

Thank you, I love the image you experienced with your inner child. The painting is by my wife. Her website is www.tiarosegallery.com/

@GrahamMalkior 9 ай бұрын

Oh wow I really connected with what you said. That was my life but I’m trying to heal from so much people pleasing, which has made me so ill. Thank you James. It made so much sense 🙏🏻 written by Gae Malkior

@AwakenTherapy 9 ай бұрын

So pleased it landed for you, Gae. One tip is to access your healthy childhood anger for having to work so hard trying to get love...

@Feeneegreen 9 ай бұрын

Wonderful talk, James. Much needed. Yes, I'm a pleaser and married a pleaser too. 😊

@AwakenTherapy 9 ай бұрын

Thank you, glad it helped. Better to marry a pleaser than a narcissist!

@heatherh5639 9 ай бұрын

Thank you this was very releasing. I was the pleaser scapegoat fixer all my life and always blamed myself. I'm happy to say i finally realised the role I unwittingly took on in my marriage and have left the vulnerable narcissist.

@AwakenTherapy 9 ай бұрын

@@heatherh5639 Well done Heather, such a journey of self love and courage to outgrow the narcissist.

@NatalieFalicz 9 ай бұрын

Thanks so much James, this resonates with me so very much. I’m really enjoying these KZbin videos. Thank you so much for doing them. I’m really getting so much out of them. I’m going to share this episode. Thanks, James .

@AwakenTherapy 9 ай бұрын

Thank you Natalie, pleased it was useful.

@sarahkirsh7925 9 ай бұрын

Thank you James. This was so needed

@AwakenTherapy 9 ай бұрын

So welcome, glad it helped.

@JulesKingfisher 9 ай бұрын

This was amazing and so clearly explained. My whole life in a nutshell!

@AwakenTherapy 9 ай бұрын

So pleased it landed Julie, such an important piece of your healing puzzle.

@nancybartley4610 9 ай бұрын

Pleasers try to get along. We understand compromise. However, we also react when our attempts to meet others half-way are ignored, not appreciated, We become angry, annoyed and say enough. Others see us as the problem when we call them out. We have two choices: don't care about others feelings, needs. Just take care of your own. Or don't interact with people. Be social or don't be social.

@AwakenTherapy 9 ай бұрын

Very true Nancy. I call the pleaser dynamic the, "give, give, give...FU dynamic!"