Are you a type 5 but often don't look like the type 5 "The Observer?" Enneagram Type 5 COUNTERTYPE

Enneagram Type 5 Countertypes often don't act like the stereotypical type 5. Sometimes you will hear the enneagram type 5's called divergent. They are at the core of them a type 5 but their energy and behaviors don't always look like other type 5s. All types have a countertype. It has to do with the instinctual subtypes. For the 5, they are the sexual 5s. Watch to find out more what it's like to be a type 5 that doesn't fit the type 5 mold always.
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[@JH-yj7kk]

I am this type. The desire to find your special person is real. Unfortunately the downside of this is turbulent romances, disappointment, loneliness and heartache. I've never understood growing up how my friends can view dating as this easy breezy fun time. It's hard to understand how others can appear to be so shallow.

[@Save21]

same

[@kima5165]

This is spot-on for my husband who is a 5w4 sexual countertype. When we first met twenty-two years ago he was looking for a deep & meaningful relationship. I'm a social 8w9, and his sensitivity was exactly what I was looking for. However, he still has the awesome quality of the 5 to help me analyze a situation calmly when I'm hurt and angry. You 5 countertypes rock!

[@chrisgiles109]

Found this video today... good stuff! I am the countertype to 5, and I prefer the term 'synchrony five'. I've come across that word when reading about 5 subtypes, and I think it's a better fit than either sexual or one-to-one five. As a synchrony 5, I love it when I find a great energetic connection with another person... when they 'get' you, enjoy your quirkiness and sense of humor. It's very validating and brings a sense of comfort and relaxation. For me, it isn't about 'that special person' or a romantic connection... it is a platonic connection that is extremely internally satisfying. This may be because type 5's typically don't 'get' other people... we feel isolated and apart, like we don't fit in. I look forward to watching more of your stuff... good job!

[@francesca.pellegrino]

Oh, this is fascinating! One of my best friends from college fits this very well, and this explains how it was weird that she gave off such a 5 vibe to me in general, but seemed way too extroverted for that. If she ever takes interest in the enneagram, we'll probably talk about it for HOURS. I always love listening to her talk about the sci-fi novels she reads, what mathematical concepts she's been learning for fun, and all the weird adventures she ends up going on because of her holding her family together at times. There's always something new to learn from her sharing things.

[@sn3596]

Thanks for this. I typed as Feeler first and even now usually get pegged as INFP, because I'm not as stoic or distant as most 5s or NTs are pictured as. It took me a long time to figure out I was actually INTP, and finally got 5 sx. I feel lonely but like being alone. The longing for a deep, intimate connection/being understood is real and constantly in conflict for my need for privacy. Many of my (ended) friendships weren't just "friends", even if I experienced them as platonic. They've been described as "breakups without the romantic experience". The only way to call it is turbulent. I have no idea how to take the slow approach though I'm trying to work on it.

[@juice_lime5114]

INTPs dominate type 5s. For me an oddball INFJ 5W4 with well developed Ti and very strong Ni, having the Sx variant wasn't surprising. I have the longing to understand everything, and to share the knowledge with others that could understand. Have to watch myself though, I cannot isolate myself too long before the emotions set in. It's quite a troublesome combination. On the bright side though, I could imagine things in an impossible depth, and continuing to build this inner cosmos with knowledge.

[@_linlin_]

@@juice_lime5114 you can be an NF and type 5, I am type 5 and INFJ

[@CuddleClaw.]

I’m in love with a 5w4sx ENTP. I’m a 4w5sx ISTP. I love this pairing.

[@Citrine-K]

This might sound strange, but the background noise and the microphone malfunction was sort of relaxing, like the ASMR effect!

[@enneagramandcoaching]

LOL! Thank you for this!!! ❤️

[@Pickles-w2f]

They also have a lot of hobbies and interests.

[@scrunt62]

this is me! but i would say that it's definitely not that i mainly have a strong preoccupation on intimacy, although it definitely still applies. describing the instinct as "one-to-one" in general makes so much more sense for me. to me, it doesn't seem to have anything to do with physical chemistry. if anything, i historically have had a lot of distrust surrounding intimacy. and when someone wants "that" from me, i would often lose a lot of my perception of their depth. it would make them seem like a bad candidate for me to emotionally invest in, since i'd believe it's the only value they'd see in me, and that they'd abandon me once they realize there wasn't a circumstance where i'd give them that. i've recently been learning about "sexual anorexia," my shame and my sa trauma, and i've been working on these problems directly. i'm highly observant and preoccupied with my relationships to the different people in my life. my relationship with every single person feels like it's perpetually "on hold," because moments of actual conversation/contact seem so small in comparison to my understanding of the person, what's going on for them, an approximation of how they're currently doing, my thoughts about them, my feelings, ongoing conflicts (even if they're totally unspoken). i just have a *map* for every person. my awareness idles constantly in the background, and i can access it directly any time. sometimes i ruminate passively, and chew on different situations that have happened and what i make of them. at the same time, i'm so restrictive in my relationships. i feel like a burden if i initiate, especially if there's minimal precedence for it and the person otherwise keeps themselves busy. i'm scared of tarnishing how others think of me by being too forward, and i don't want to risk losing my relationships or making them even more distant by being too needy. i also don't want to risk showing interest in talking, and someone (maybe with an anxious-preoccupied style) responding by doubling down, and for me to be unable to maintain that relationship because it demands energy of me that i just don't have. i used to be totally shut off from my intimacy needs, and turn away from others as soon as they'd show any interest. but now that i've been working on processing it directly, it's like i can see everything so much clearer now? i'm actually looking people in the eyes and letting myself not feel ashamed just for being present. i'm not assuming that people think the worst of me. rather than trying to hide in every conceivable way, i'm starting to embrace my wants and needs, and i finally am feeling like an independent adult in the world when this sense of self completely eluded me prior. i'm finally able to see the whole picture, and i just feel this overwhelming connection to people now that i'm not just observant, but fully present and attuned as myself. you yourself are always an important piece of the context, worthy of accounting for. even if you're doing everything you can to avoid being burdensome, what you do (or don't do) has an impact on others. i'm learning to take responsibility for that and it's helping me to finally feel whole, as well as make more accurate and much healthier conclusions. it's made me sad to look back at how much i've always treated myself with hate--i was an equal this whole time, i just didn't know it. i wonder if this is a common occurrence for 5's? my intimacy needs seemed burdensome and intolerably vulnerable for me, so i had completely shut down that part of myself. and thinking of myself as a burden in general--no matter how much i knew about psychology, or the details i remembered from my interactions with others, no matter how much i picked up on or saw--my conclusions would always start to fail whenever i had to account for myself, since i'd assume the worst, because i saw myself as such a genuinely shameful, needy, intolerable person.

[@HouseHoldAdventures]

Damn, ive recentlu figured out that im this subtype and its even closer to who I am as a person. Im interested in other peoples prepectives on how to get out of that "self hate" and doubt. Reading this makes me see hope for the demons im currently fighting.

[@joshuaelias.caswell5003]

This was interesting! I am a 5w6 584 sp/sx but I think one of my mates is a 5w4 sx/sp, I originally thought he was a 4!

[@13thravenpurple94]

Great work 🥳🥳🥳 Thank you 💜💜💜

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You’re welcome 😊

[@djblade3688]

This is me wow. I was so confused because I related to the a lot of the non core aspects of a 4 but not a lot of the core things

[@diannarowlands3784]

Thank you. Great content and straight to the point ❤️

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❤️❤️❤️

[@trustyourself-ashleyching3646]

What a cool series!

[@MatthewEaton]

*lightning cracks and thunder rolls as a figure shuffles through the mind castle of a disgruntled five. They turn the corner, holding onto a long pipe-like object, pushing open a door labeled Wing 4. The lightning flashes, revealing a crazed look in the eyes of this figure as he rears back. A voice screams over the rumbling of the thunder as the crazed figure swings down.* _squeaky noise_ Bad Wing 4. Bad! How many times have I told you to stop causing problems with your emotions? No! We don't do that inside. You go outside to go have emotions. Don't make me discipline you again. _another squeaky noise_ I can't even be normal in peace, I have to be the odd one out because YOU have to make a connection with people. _more aggressive squeaky noises accenting every pause_ We. Don't. Like. People! _throwing aside the squeaky bat_ I swear, it is as if I have to do everything around here. Matt, why don't you come out to have some fun? Why don't you open up more? Why don't we have a better connection? Why don't you like pickles? _shuffles away grumbling_ I think this is the reason why I try to pull myself back from interactions because it can be quite intense. I have had some great conversations with people because I can make that level of connection and conversation, but it is taxing as well as a two-way street that often ends up just being a one-way. I had some people tell me conversations with me were too intense and request I try to play dumb because I was too focused on deep conversations and connections. Really has burned me out, yet I find my strength in helping people who need it. Stupid Wing 4.

[@francesca.pellegrino]

To be fair, pickles are freaking nasty. No need to berate yourself for that.

[@jojoco120]

Lovely!

[@margaretjudice8944]

Great information! Thank you for sharing!

[@ilovekagura5189]

this makes me wonder if i am just sx/sp 5 countertype or just an sp/sx 5

[@melannydayrethratliff1309]

I just discover I was a SX subtype with 5. And I was thinking yes im 5 but my 4 wing is kinda more extrovert o is more obvious ? 😅 With your explanation make more sense

[@Alien-f8z]

This is interesting. - Tritype 135 sp/so

[@tanstaafl28]

ENTP 5w6 So/Sx 584. I often feel like the odd 5 out.

[@isa-manuelaalbrecht2951]

Wow... thanx for the todays enlighting...didn't knew this..I'm a 5/6..😁🥰😚

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You are so welcome!

[@ellensippel8413]

I have been re watching your videos on the 5 and it has hit me like a bolt of lightning. I am the countertype pf the 5. I am curious, when the countertype finds that person, they love and trust, does that change how they express being the countertype and how?

[@juice_lime5114]

Was confused with the typing because I wasn't able to pin-point. I had traits of a nine, two, four, but with a really strong five. Was tested Sx/Sp, but was conflicted with the other collective results of 5W4, tritype 529 (5W4, 2W1, 9W8). I was thinking, does this actually make sense? Because type 5s are usually So or Sp. My So was nonexistent. Turned out that I had to look at my real motivations and fears. I want to understand everything, and share that to people that could understand, and bring out their best. What I feared the most, is being too distant, self-absorbed and selfish. I was clearly disintegrating into a 7 when under severe stress, trying to seek sensations to numb the pain that I have uncovered. It did not end well at all. Saw it in another vid, talking about Avarice. I fear that massively, it sends chills down my spine as it brings up my worst memories. Thank you for clarifying that such an opposing type exists. I was thinking that my core motivations really made me an oddball that just doesn't seem to make sense. And there goes my self-destructive overthinking. You definitely nailed my quirkiness, extremely vivid mind, and talkativeness when opened up. And yes, the intensity is real. Personal and analytical intensity.

[@enneagramandcoaching]

Yes! Thank you for sharing this!

[@fckyafeelingz4064]

Oh No!!! This is very relatable but I've identified as a sexual eight. 😱😰😰😰. ::realizing the irony of what I'm about to say:: I think I need to schedule a typing session; I've just budgeted my next two months (both time, financial, and energy) - most of which going to graduate studies, legislation reform, and employee workplace advocacy (type 5/8 confyoooooooshun). 😂😂😂. Do you offer limited appointments December/January due to the holidays?

[@donnathedead7554]

I struggled with this - am I 5 or 8. What helped me was thinking about comfort levels and what I do when stressed. You could be a healthy 5 in a perpetual state of growth and look like an 8, or you could be an unhealthy 8 in a perpetual state of stress and look like a 5. What makes more sense given your life? Are you happy doing 5 things (research, etc.) or do you associate that with some anxiety? Is it easy for you to push back and defend or do you need to work up the courage to do so? For me, I realized that I didn't just do research when I was stressed, I did it all the time. While I was usually quick to defend those I love, I was more inclined to tell them how to self-protect (based on all my research). Also, I was not too inclined to defend myself, which would be most unusual for a true 8. Being a sexual subtype 5, it is easy to confuse yourself with the 8 because when in a state of growth, say when initially pursuing a love interest, you can be very assertive, exhibiting a lot of behaviors more typical of an 8 than 5.

[@sourgrapes7482]

Darnit Im a 5 countertype

[@rdmanalo9946]

Hahahahaha this is so me I wonder i have doubts in my ennegram type cause i am sx

[@enneagramandcoaching]

😂

[@SmileFreestyle-hx2rc]

Now I'm starting to think there's less truth to the enneagram than I was giving credit towards. Myers-Briggs seems like 60% accuracate and now Enneagram just gets a C grade.