Are you an INFP or INFJ...

[@mellooobruhhh9281]

I took many online mbti tests. Some gave me INFP and some gave me INFJ. That made me watch several comparing INFP and INFJ videos, but didn’t find a clear indication which shows I am which one of those cuz I have many things related to both of types equally. Until I found a video about "can u have 2 mbti personalities if u have something related to more than 1 type?" The answer is no and ur type cannot be changed cuz u were born with it. The reason why u feel u r related to more than 1 type is u grow up and some of ur cognitive function have developed. I totally agree with that cuz I always feel like I’m infp with more punctual, planning and organizing version cuz I am always taught by my family to organize everything carefully and professionally, but when I was a kid I was not good at organizing things at all. That makes many mbti tests mistyped me as INFJ. Another thing that makes me even more sure that I am INFP is the names of both personalities "mediator" and "counselor" What both personalities have in common is they like helping people especially by listening to their problems and help them figure out what to do. I realized that when people tell me their problems, I always say something to make them feel better, cheer them up and make them understand themselves more about what they want then suggest them multiple options of what they should do. That’s what mediators do. While INFJ people will give clear a advice and come up with a specific solution. That’s why they’re called counselors.

[@kathleenferguson3296]

I'm an INFP, my closest and oldest friend is an INFJ. We are closely attuned to each other, even long distance. He had me take the Myers Briggs test. I looked like I was an INFJ, but there was a tie braking question

[@kathleenferguson3296]

I am a Mom bossy person. We are musicians. I'm a dancer for a living. Now I teach. I get a lot of abused women in my classes, and I can spot them the first time they walk in my door. Usually by the third class, they ask me to coffee and confide in me. I altered my class to build more confidence in my students, and it works. It's part dance, part therapy. I love teaching that way, and helping people.

[@anniem2777]

That’s so surprising to me that people get different results. I always get INFP

[@dddenes]

Might be late to the party, but I have the same feeling: I was an INFP, but certain things changed inside me, and in many situations I work as an INFJ. I have Si for sure, but Fe or Fi? I have both, I think. Also I became a software developer and I get paid for thinking all day :D So I use this function as well a lot (however it is around the bottom, even if I am an INFJ or INFP). I am still a feeler, but I also questioning myself, if it is right to feel that way. I have some core beliefs that can't be hurt, other than that I can go with the flow internally and externally. I have random crap around the house, but noone understand my emotions as much, as I understand theirs. And I also adapt to the group I am in at the moment. And sometimes I feel soooo complex. Once I was also a heavy drinker. But also a heavy thinker (pun intended) and I quited because of that. :D

[@veronicachic]

100%...I'm an INFP who has learned to clean her room/car and keep things as clutter-free as my INFP heart can withstand :)

[@vlandorrackhum5420]

Synergy between these two types can be as deep as the ocean. Making great friendships/relationships.

[@AlexisKingsley]

I love the way you put that! 🌊

[@colonelgraff9198]

INFJ husband with INFP wife. Deepest relationship I’ve ever had, by far, but we’re different enough to keep things interesting. Black fashion is spot on. I have a ton of black coats/trench coats/khaki pants/hooded sweatshirts

[@rebeckajg2862]

Mmhmm. I'm an INFP and my sister is an INFJ and we definitely have a deep fluidity and synergy woven into our relationship. :)

[@clayless8701]

as an infp with an infj mom, can confirm this is accurate

[@lisamurdoch2525]

I can tell that this girl REALLY knows her stuff!

[@rayw3332]

INFJs use "directive commands," like "Get the baby!" Whereas the INFP will use a more subtle informative remark, like "You might want to look at Herbert."

[@tidypeaches]

That helps.

[@CrystalShadow]

Yes, it seems rude to boss people around. I’m INFP for sure. 😊

[@La-meiga-celtibera]

INFP for sure

[@liamhain2155]

The Si vs Se is on point. My sister is INFJ and she is a clean freak, constantly purging and owning so few things, like literally the bare minimum. On the other hand, as an INFP, I have so much stuff. I am regularly throwing away stuff too, but I still have so many things (not necessarily memorabilia but often things related to things I tried/my hobbies/random crap). Also, yeah, I have a junk food problem and I don't care about trends at all (why should I? I'm trying to be me, not to follow someone's idea of how I should look like). Great video!

[@richardrichard688]

The more I hear about INFPs, the more sure I am one.

[@user-im2xp5mq8n]

Looks like I am an INFP who wants to be an INFJ😂

[@blissfulpancake]

As an INFP your description of us is SPOT ON !!

[@devi8703]

This really helped me clear out my doubts! I got infj first time i took the test, but i can relate a lot more to infp. Thankyou so much for sharing !🤍

[@slimshell2448]

Same thing for me I mistyped 4 years ago and I've always thought I was an infj, but I took a test yesterday and I got infp twice😂

[@Cybrdra6on]

The random crap isn't random. For me as an INFP, each item has an emotional connection for me. It's one way I remember experiences and connect with the external world with my emotion. This is a great video with some great examples that should help INFPs and INFJs distinguish which type they are. Thanks!

[@thinkinghippie4549]

This is great for a general breakthrough of functions. I didn't like the stereotypes. But it's great for a summary of what type are *generally* like. It's also pleasant to watch these vids for some reason. I don't know what it is, but they are satisfying.

[@AlexisKingsley]

Thanks!

[@heidiwaits6987]

This was hilarious for us to watch, thank you! My husband and I are both in our 50s and after years of heartbreak and trials, once we found each other, both our worlds really took off for the better. I’m a female INFJ and my husband is an INFP (we both took the quiz a few times at different times just to double check). We really do have an almost unfathomable, almost other worldly relationship that friends have said they want a relationship like ours and the depths that it goes. But I truly believe this is only possible when you have two people willing to go into their own personal depths to identify their own traumas and work on healing them. We have a strange dynamic, even though we are always together, we are always separate and very independent. An example would be, especially from lockdowns during the pandemic, we could spend the entire day working next to each other, barely speaking and completely focused on our tasks, yet feel comforted just being in each other’s energy. We also have a daughter who’s 20 and is an ISTP. We had a really interesting conversation about our family dynamic when we’re out in public and realized we actually have a protective system built on how we interact with the world. Example: me, the INFJ (when I’m rested and full of energy) will initiate conversations with strangers or strangers will speak to me, probably because of my friendly tone and persona - which FYI, we ALL cracked up when you did your impression of how an INFJ greets people! My daughter said, OMG mom, that’s SOOO you!) My husband, the INFP, will watch and listen, occasionally interjecting and then stepping back to observe as I take his topic and run with it. Our daughter, the ISTP will stay completely silent, usually right near dad (he’s definitely the strong silent type) and only speak minimally when directly asked a question, unless she knows and is comfortable with the person. Very interesting! Thank you ☺️

[@joannaobrien9306]

I'm an INFP-A and one of my very best friends is an INFJ-T. We compliment each other perfectly. We have never had a cross word between us and respect and love each other deeply. Learning about the MBTI has honestly changed my life .... I now know and understand who I am and am urging my other family and friends to find out their personality type too. I believe this will be beneficial to us all and result not only in more harmonious relationships but a greater understanding of who we all are and how we all see the world. This naturally will lead to a better understanding of who we turn to in times of need. You want a shoulder to cry on ? Go to X, you want advice on a more practical problem go to Y. You struggle to understand someone, know their MBTI and it becomes clear to you how they think and view the world. End result ? Family, friends and loved ones gaining a better understanding of our individualities and gaining a wonderful, supportive and harmonious future together. Love, hugs and peace to you all, ❤️🤗✌️

[@sztefanek]

I agree. It's much easier to understand and accept someone when you know their type and you can go ahh so that's why this person does this and that and that's why we have those arguments and that's why we see this and that differently. Seems some people don't like being reduced to 4-5 letters but I think just understanding that there's reason why people are so different and knowing there are some patterns in the way their brains work can make us more humble - in a good way - and help us communicate better.

[@desertfish1460]

SPOT ON! I test INFJ my sweetie tested INFP. This is the MOST spot on video description of differences... We do overlap, but yep, this is spot on❤!

[@ernstvandijk6342]

I watched your video till the end, but I'm still none the wiser as to which type I am. I seem to be both.

[@teddyshapedsoap]

My mom is an INFJ, and I'm an INFP. You described us both perfectly, even the example interactions between the two.

[@noracondarco2209]

I love this video! INFP here, my whole life I had never really had friends who I felt like really understood me until a few years ago. The five of us formed a strong bond so quickly and I asked all of them their personality types and we’re 2 INFPs and 3 INFJs!! The bond and understanding we have with each other is so special and unique, and now I know why :)

[@maryelljazz]

Most tests I've done have came out as INFJ but then others as INFP, I feel almost like I have in equal measure both types you describe. Even as a teenager I went through a gothic phase and then a hippy phase. My personal appearance used to be more flamboyant when I was younger and as I've grown older has become more minimal and very toned down. Having said that I'm an artist with many passions but even though my house is full of paintings, books, musical instruments, everything is super tidy, no hoarding at all just what I need for my creative work. When I deal with other people's emotions I'm always mothering them and asking why but when I deal with myself and my emotions I always ask what if and get lost in the multiple option path. If you're my guest I will ensure that you're feeling loved, pampered and catered for. I know you can't be both. So... I'm still confused as to which one I am and then developed characteristics of the other over the years and why did that happened.

[@sandiegoslots]

How the heck do you know so much?!?! It's amazing how quickly you switch back and forth between such similar personalities.

[@yoshiperspectives4880]

An easy way to tell the difference between an INFP and an INFJ is have them debate. The INFP may tend to drift off the maint point of discussion and hit a lot of side notes, or just try to move from one point to another without concluding the original point of discussion. The INFJ will will simply stay on the original point and try to bring the INFP back on point. Moreover the INFP will tend to make loose claims that they just think are true and the INFJ will be picking the entire claim apart in an attempt to show It's logical incoherence and then construct their own argument in an objective and logical fashion reaching out to many different related points of fact and observation and logically bringing them all in to explain in detail the factual and logical coherence of their opinion as objectively as possible. I would say that the INFJ would most likely win, but due to the likelyhood that the INFP simply doesn't care much or doesn't understand the logic of the INFJ's argument because they simply FEEL they are correct and are pretty set in their opinion they will likely skip over answering many if not all the logical points the INFJ has made and just continue to affirm that their view is correct in a way that attempts to cool the conversation down because the INFJ seems to be getting heated for a number of possible reasons lol. My dad is an INFP, and myself an INFJ. Maybe i'm just projecting, but this is how it is with my dad and I lol.

[@Daeva83B]

Yes... INFP & often i can't debate. It's the stress? Or just chaotic, because everything is connected to everything and ... lost track again.. I know 3 INFJ's and they seem to be more in depth and thought through then me. Me personally speaks in assumptions, my best educated guesses. I do believe what i say or write at the time, but often (always) never sure if i am correct about the matter or the so called fact i mentioned is true or not and they (INFJ's) asking for a source and wants to know if it's a one time paper or a real study done by various & independent groups of researcher and on and on and on. (exaggerating a bit, but true for 1 particular INFJ i know, haha)

[@yoshiperspectives4880]

@@Daeva83B It's possible these people you're talking about are not actually INFJs... I don't think an INFJ would care so much about your sources... The INFJ themself would most likely hold no special respect for any source as their own internal logical system is the ultimate authority on judging if something is true or not. The INFJ could very well disagree with the source Itself. Like what gives this source the authority to just be right? no matter how much research was done. For example, I disagree with Einstein's theory of relativity! I see flaws in his thought experiments and don't think it deserves the respect it is given today. So i wouldn't care if someone sourced Einstein to me. So rather than asking for your sources or somehow prove what you're saying to be fact, i think the true INFJ would just get straight to the logic of the idea built with the facts and concepts and observations that are his own. And It's people like that, like Jung himself that Instead of citing a source, they become the source themselves.

[@Daeva83B]

@@yoshiperspectives4880 Well yeah, ofcourse that's possible. of 1 i am quite sure that she is an INFJ, of the other 2, i am not sure of. They just did the test because i asked them to. The one i am referring to in my answer above is the odd one out of the bunch. This odd duckling, does asks the constant 'why' question and pretty much always goes deeper with my possibilities what i present to her. Which seems INFJ to me, but i'm no master in the MBTI system. Anyway, she is always digging deeper in order to understand, i have that much less. Personally quite content with a 'hint' and based on that hint i can proceed with my thinking.

[@TianTan]

I totally feel you on that with Fi users. You could completely tear their logic apart and even get them to contradict themselves but at the end of the day they still won’t budge on the thing they originally had decided on regardless of how illogical it may be🤷🏻‍♂️

[@Daeva83B]

@@TianTan You know.. i am guilty. I guess the best way i can explain it is by comparing it with instinct or a 'gut feeling'. Unable to explain it, i just know what i think/feel/want is the way to go and you are completely correct that in many cases (not all) nothing can change my mind, not even logic at times. I am now as well in a typical situation and all odds are stacked against me. Do i change? Go another way? Drop it? No.. not really.. and i know that the chances are slim, i just have to try.... won't forgive myself if i don't try. All my friends are questioning it and they are right.. I know that.. But i am not ready to call it quits just yet.. Sometimes i think i am naïeve, but i still prefer to try and take that hit IF that comes... ;)

[@user-hl1eo1hz7y]

Great video. Fe in an infj doesn't focus on the group, it focuses outward on others feelings on an individual level. But that's just my two cents.

[@andmiran]

I’ve taken several tests over the years and I’ve always either gotten INFJ or INFP. And more recently I’ve been thinking that I’m actually INFJ. But after watching this video I feel like I might be an INFP who has trauma from childhood that makes me seem like an INFJ. I can be very concerned with the group and how everyone’s feeling and making sure everyone’s okay, but when I’m around people who I know I don’t have to impress I really just go with the flow. And when I’m by myself I’m much more concerned with my own inner feelings than how other people might be feeling. Makes me think I’m an INFP with people pleasing issues lol. I’m also not really concerned with trends and have trouble committing to one thing because I’m like ooo what if I did that or ooo that might be cool to do and get so caught up in the possibilities that I end up doing nothing lol

[@isanawab1441]

You described me to the T. I've had multiple tests over the years and always test either INFJ or INFP. I feel like I'm the exact same person. Childhood/ generational trauma is definitely the reasoning of INFJ showing up. The thing is I really do relate to both types, not all the time but I do relate to quite alot from both personality types

[@andmiran]

@@isanawab1441 yes same! It’s so hard to tell which one I actually am. Every time I think I’ve figured it out I hear or read something that makes me second guess it again lol. But I really wonder if there’s any validity to the idea of childhood / generational trauma basically creating a mask over the true personality type

[@isanawab1441]

@@andmiran The thing is, I do relate alot more to INFP, but INFJ is still something I relate too even though they are complete opposites in some aspects I know it makes no sense it's more or a what I think/ want myself to do rather than what I do. We aren't all slaves to our thoughts, if we were then our personality types would just be robotic. I'm not psychologist but I definitely think I lay in both types somewhere, definitely leaning more towards INFP. Btw love your other comment on the channel about you sharing too much on the internet with strangers, trust me, I'm the exact same haha

[@andmiran]

@@isanawab1441 That makes complete sense to me. It might not be accurate, but I feel the exact same way haha. One of my best friends took the test a while ago and got one result and then took it again recently and got a different result, and I told her that the same thing has happened to me and that I feel like I get different results when I take the test and I answer the questions based on who I want to be versus who I actually am. So it’s crazy that you just said what you think / want yourself to do rather than what you do 🤯I’m definitely not a psychologist either but it really doesn’t seem like personalities, with all the complexities, could realistically fit into these neat little boxes that MBTI has created. I feel like there are always exceptions and maybe that’s why we both feel we relate so much to both types. Also, I’m so embarrassed by that comment I left on the other video now that I’ve seen people responding to it haha 😅 but it’s just because I’m not used to being vulnerable like that, especially with people I don’t know haha. It just comes out sometimes. But it feels really good knowing that other people feel the same way ♥️

[@menageriegardenshoppe]

I am both INFJ-A and INFP

[@sandrafrancis3631]

Thanks that was very clear. I was bit confused about what's the difference between these two. Now I get it. I'm definitely INFP But wouldn't say I was into being bizarre. I did do substances when I was young, but gave all that up decades ago, due to my idealistic goals about myself the sort of person I wanted to be. So many things you said made the differences clear. So thanks for that! Good job done!

[@sztefanek]

Exactly, I think INFPs are likely to try "things" when they are young but not necessarily when they get older and have made their opinion on them. I tried smoking, wasn't for me, tried drugs, not for long, drank for a bit, stopped entirely. Those things can easily clash with the morality thing and being authentic thing.

[@sztefanek]

I do wonder tho if the environment you're in works here a bit of an inversed influence? Like if everyone around me drinks and does drugs and does wild shit after, it's impossible not to wonder if that's the right way to do it, you know? But if everyone around is like you can't have drugs, drugs are bad, I'd try it just to explore myself and question them, the oddball I am.

[@user-mr3ch6zg9i]

Your channel is seriously the best! I am an infj, I’ve discovered my type 3 years ago and I am 100% sure it’s correct, but I still watched this video, listening to every word of yours. 😌

[@digitaltyro]

I'm an INFP who wears all black a lot of the time. It's because I spill sh-t on myself dude. Like every day.

[@pagethreemodel]

Lol it's true. I was thinking about how I need to wear more black - even at home, because I get so much crap on my clothes.

[@Imperialscorpio]

After doing research on the differenc between infj and infp I've come to the conclusion that I'm both. Blah blah I know that's not how it works, okay, but I literally identify with both. Some more than the other but I dont think I can say I'm ultimately not both. I've always claimed infj since that was my result since I was a child until more recently I've learned more about myself and have been getting infp. The percentages are too close and I cant pick one when you break down these functions. I must be different because I do it all

[@subliminalmuse]

After studying the functions, I’m still not sure or my type either. I think I’m wasting too much time with this.

[@carolinamilanesio6057]

Same!

[@menageriegardenshoppe]

I'm both also.

[@rayrascanvas9403]

Why do I feel that you're decided something that is not according the rules or laws is Ti?? :/ Since I'm pretty sure I get soo irritated whenever everything were not according to the rules. (Me INFP inferior Te)

[@sparkstudies1675]

same... and I have no idea which cane first... it's almost like it's an even split for which I am

[@hollyhedges1486]

I’m an infp and my grandmas an infj and she’s one of my favorite people on the planet and I have an infj friend and ik not all personality types are the same but every infj I’ve met so far always gets into a manipulative relationship this has happened with my grandma multiple times and now my friend also something that bothers me is that they will always defend their partner over anyone else and are willing to sacrifice their friendships and family for them because I think maybe it’s because they’re afraid to be alone but I just wish they would realize that they are worth so much more then what they think they’re worth and that they shouldn’t settle because just because it could be worse doesn’t mean it couldn’t be better hopefully this is making sense idrk how to explain this but one way ig I could explain is that quote from perks of being a wall flower and the main guy says “why do the nicest people choose the wrong people to love?” and then the teacher says “because we accept the love we think we deserve” I’ve asked myself this exact question so many times and this quote explains it perfectly I feel like in some ways infjs are slightly codependent and maybe it’s not just infjs I just wish they knew how special they are and that they don’t need to settle for these people that don’t deserve them hopefully this made sense and doesn’t sound like I’m attacking infjs

[@MaxRiley]

I like videos like yours with practical examples! The problem is, I still don't know where I better fit as I somehow fit into both.

[@elisabethschlarb3059]

Lol I'm an INFP and I was literally braiding my hair the moment you mentioned the hair braiding 😅

[@sara.the.muggle]

I realized that I isolate myself because I strongly take on others' emotions. When their negative emotions arise, I get really horrible anxiety, and my heart feels heavy, and it hurts. For example, when my husband is in a bad mood, I've noticed that I take his emotions. He feels better after I do, and I'm left with the hurt he was feeling. I thought that I was selfish in staying away from everyone, but really I'm just afraid that if I consume someone's negative energy, it will break me. I thought that I was individualistic, but I really conform and cater to whatever group I am with. This is eye-opening. How did I not see this for so long?

[@verbenastars]

These videos are very frustrating for me because they still don't help me to decide which one I am. You would go over a list of examples, and I would agree with a couple of those examples on either side for the same issue. This is driving me insane. I've watched countless INFJ versus INSP videos, and I still don't know which one I am.

[@mystilooch8274]

Haha I am an INFJ and when you said the bossy Mom vibe… so true! I’ve been called bossy but I just want to make sure everyone’s needs are met and no one is left out

[@SolomonSage]

i dont see the point of trends jsut wear what looks col to you and what feels comfortable and then you should be fine thats my motto

[@ayjaymattson6635]

I took the official MBTI profiling instrument many years ago, and I got INFJ. However, based on the videos that I have seen on INFP, I feel that there's a lot more alignment with INFP. For example, not changing who I am and treating everyone the same, and speaking my mind the same way regardless of the audience. I have never gotten INFP in any personality profiling instruments though...just INFJ and occasionally INTJ. Go figure.

[@allyson87]

Well I just discovered I’m actually an INFJ. I always thought I was an INFP but have also tested as INTP. I’m always trying to balance a group. When comparing P and J, I thought I was a P for sure because I don’t want to be able to adapt to a situation… I also have ADHD inattentive type (aka ADD) Also thought my mom was an INFJ, and why I thought I wasn’t one. But now I think she’s an ISFJ because she’s always on the go…

[@hollyli9651]

ye so thats what im so confused about, does neurobiological disorders affect your personality types or does it not. Becuase generally speaking people with ADHD their thought process might be more jumpy and like creative, also they might be a bit messy interms of organisation. But all of these traits seems to have a link on personality types as well.

[@AkaRuby]

Infp here. I actually like minimal, simple clothing, I like wearing neutral colors, like brown, black, tan. I never dressed colorful. I don't like colorful hair. I prefer very minimal, natural look. But I do love the color teal. Lol true about not being hospitable though. I am working on this.

[@ladykupo]

I still really have no clue in some ways. I was always typed as an INFJ, and I really resonate with most of it. Another example someone gave (my partner is absolutely an INFP)..we went to an orchestra concert, and while he was focused on the way he felt exclusively, I was focused on other people. Afterward, I had said "hey did you see this person? They seemed annoyed, or this person was having such a great time." he didn't notice any of it. I always feel as though I'm the much more observant one. I am the one who offers drinks and food to everyone at our house. He just chills and goes with the flow. When I had my own space, I was very organized but also had a certain amount of sentimental items. Now that I have kids, I want to purge things and let them go. I know we have too much stuff. The state of my house definitely doesn't sound like a typical INFJ place, but I guess it makes sense because we have a combined area between us. I can definitely be very mom like and bossy. I was always called the mom of my friend group. I guess my doubt kicks in when I hear things that aren't exactly me, but we are all different. Edit to add that I am in recovery 9 years from heroin, specifically. It was the only drug where I felt I was in control of my body and mind in a way. I self medicated my trauma and anxiety. My husband only ever smokes weed. I don't like that out of control feeling I've gotten with certain drugs, where I couldn't think straight or be in control of myself. Obviously, my life spiraled very out of control with drugs. I hope that makes sense in a way.

[@jessicarose1991]

So from this video, I have gathered I am an INFJ in behavior but an INFP in terms of fashion/aesthetic/home decor. Interesting...

[@DIDisguise77]

When you said "INFJs wear black" I looked at my clothes and laughed. Cuz its true! 😂

[@dfusco]

Outstanding presentation, I came across the Myers-Briggs test a while ago. May be in my 50s, I am now 63. At first I tested as an INFJ. But occasionally and INFP And I became confused as to what I am as I would now continually come up as INFP. However, with your detailed description along with analogies I can conclusively say I am in INFP. Thank you for your outstanding work. 😊

[@rhyno6116]

Iv done the Myers-Briggs personality profile quize twice over about 6 months and come up with INFP - A both times. This vid was amazing but after watching I feel like there are definitely some things that I'm more INFJ with.

[@deniscaesar]

Before this video I was sure I was an INFJ, but now I have a little more thinking to do.

[@Allaiya.]

Only thing is I don’t dye my hair black or wear grunge/goth but more preppy style. But Skyrim & Zelda Ocarina, 2 of my favorite games ever. I feel personally called out 😅 And yes, as a teen I didn’t really follow trends. I tried to set them. I still wear what I like but what I also think looks good to me. I don’t really think of myself as a bossy mom though. I feel like I’m a bit oblivious to it but feel super bad afterward for not doing something.

[@GinoNL]

When you said “infj’s wear black all the time”, I realized with certainty that I’m an infj lol

[@OceanicPearlz1]

I wear black pants :0

[@calmingbabysleep1256]

I am an INFJ and dated an INFP. I said it is very important who I socialize with and am the average of the 5 people I surround myself with. As a high FE user and empath this is of course so through. MY INFP ex said he doesn't feel this way, yet I could see the influence I had on him simply by being in his life. He even said it . As an FI user, do you feel your emotions so deeply and strongly, that the presence of others doesn't influence you? Surely not.

[@calmingbabysleep1256]

@@thecommenter2711 thank you for the insight..weird

[@calmingbabysleep1256]

My sister is a high Fi user too ( ESFP) and frankly, I don't understand them. She will make bold statements like " I am everything I am through my own efforts, challenges and tenacity" I think: " I am everything I am because of everyone who has walked before me" It is obvious that your environment and people around you have an effect on you. She will also claim she understands everyone ( especially me) but no-one can know her ( I assume because she is so unique) - don't get it.

[@sztefanek]

As an INFP I feel like I am very much influenced by people but most of the time it's rather shallow and short-lived. I can mimic behaviors when I go into certain environments but after some time I feel like this is not me and I stop. Most likely just leave the scene if I feel like I can't comfortably be me in that group of people. And I've noticed the older I get, the less likely I am to adjust to the people around me, as described in the video. Nowadays usually I just don't bother. There's very few people I care about deeply and feel connected to, and they are the only ones that can truly influence me - and they do, and I don't mind. INFJs and INTJs amongst them.

[@neverforgetpapa5386]

interesting elaboration, i appreciate it ^^ i resonate spot on with INFJ, but every now and then the stereotypes of INFPs send me into reanalyzing. one thing i’d say as someone who seems more Ne because of a greater number of interests/pursuits, is that they’re all cohesive in some way, or i strive for that. most interests are driven by overlap and narrowing down, and tend to share a core meaning. i put my energy into all of them as a unit, and rather than dropping ideas for another, i tend to mold them into each other. not to say i’ll never do unrelated things, but generally speaking i prefer seeing my Ni ideas come together (which could appear similar to how INFPs value Fi?) vs expanding on a whim. i’m also 4w5, if that gives further insight. but anyway, thank you again!

[@mjwalker942]

INFP male sitting here listening to your description of being an INFP Me thinking 🤔 to myself: Yep, Yep, Yep and unfortunately Yep. Good video pretty accurate description, Can't say if being an INFP is good or bad or weather to feel sad or happy about being one, but we are who we are and I'm stuck with myself so I might as well learn to value these things. Plus with dominant Fi I'm to dame stubborn to change anyways. If the hole would decides it's right to go left, but I feel it's right thing to go right screw you guys I'm sticking right 😄

[@eugeniapystogova4512]

gosh I'm an INFP and I'm exactly like this!

[@fsmithh]

I am an INFP and my sister, who has also become my very good friend in the past years is an INFJ - God literally put my best counterpart into my immediate family with only a one year difference in age.

[@NavesNiche]

Your analysis is very clear and on eye's level, not to mention accurate. so thank you for looking into and making an effort to understand these personalities so deeply etc..

[@kierasthoughts2480]

It doesn't really make much sense to me, though. Because I used to test as an INFJ and last time I took the test, I was told I was an INFP. I don't really trust the validity of the test.

[@fowchiiiliedpuppiesdied]

Dead wrong about the black lipstick, God no, never. That’s so FI. INFJs just look very put together, with nothing in particular standing out, but rather, the entire package looking slick, clean, minimalist, with some key details that express distinction, a watch, a pair of shoes, some jewelry. I’m not bossy, I do it myself, before I’ll burden someone else. Oh God, this is so off. It’s very clear you haven’t known an INFJ. Sorry, but we aren’t into serving food, we care about big picture needs, not caretaking. You are an INTJ, so I think you can handle this criticism.

[@tash6974]

I love how clear your videos are! Thank you, you’re really observant it helps me build character outlines

[@OceanicPearlz1]

😮:0 6:07 woah i can actually be pretty bossy especially if it’s in a rush😅

[@yoshiperspectives4880]

I don't mean to just always negate, but I don't think this is what INFJs are actually like, and the cognitive function stack suggest such. I think most if not all the people you met as INFJs may not have truly been INFJs. Many people pass off as INFJs because they are high in Empathy and think a lot. Or some subconsciously say they can feel the emotions of others to the point that It's a burden almost like It's their cursed super power just to fit the profile of an INFJ because they think they are an INFJ. They may also have even subconsciously changed their thinking habits to think about other people's emotions and attempt to feel what they feel more often to fit the INFJ profile. These are all things centered around EMPATHY being one of the main trademarks of the INFJ, but It's actually inaccurate. Empathy is NOT specific to INFJs, and a true INFJ does not magically feel other's emotions to the point of a burden.. i mean some might, but it has little to do with being an INFJ. Contrary to the stereo type, INFJs are NOT FEELERS. having feelings is a characteristic of a human, not specifically an INFJ, and INFJs do not particularly have more or stronger feelings in the way they are stereotyped. INFJs are first and formost PONDERERS! (Ni). And as this pondering is in the introverted attitude, the accompanying Ti in the introverted attitude makes an INFJ secondarily a logical analytic! That's a HUGE aspect of the true INFJ that everyone misses! I would actually say it makes it super simple to immediately tell if someone is not an INFJ. If they do not express their thoughts in an analytic and logical way with at least a little passion i would say they are not an INFJ. If the main thing they talk about is helping others with really mondane things, i would say they're probably not an INFJ. An INFJ should see through the mondane BS and see what an individual needs on a life scale and do what they can to help that person in life, not with peeling the potatoes. For an INFJ, Fe is in the PARENT position in the opposite extroverted attitude as the dominant function making it something that runs almost subconsciously in the mind like software on a computer that you don't see making the INFJ naturally interested in people and tend to naturally understand the vibe of those around them with the help of Ni and blend in like a chameleon without hardly even thinking about it. It also may tend to turn the focus of thought on what other people think/feel about what the INFJ is saying or doing, but that does not dictate that the INFJ will be nice. The INFJ may focus thought on how others feel to manipulate them, or just to know how to avoid making them mad for their own comfort. Fe is a function for the INFJ that operates almost subconsciously creating certain habits and thoughts and interests to occur naturally.

[@liaduriez9531]

I agree with this description of INFJs and I’m an INFJ myself

[@pagethreemodel]

Instead of writing essays to her, make a video. Seeing as you're an expert and everything.

[@yoshiperspectives4880]

@@pagethreemodel Oh, I'm not an expert! I'm sorry if i made you think that. But even expert psychologists would admit that understanding the human psychi is still very difficult and there's still much we don't know. Therefore things I say are meant to be more like a proposed hypothesis to which any negating evidence is welcome to prove my hypothesis wrong so i can revise it in the scientific method.

[@yoshiperspectives4880]

@@liaduriez9531 I'm not saying you are or aren't an INFJ by the following question, but what exactly brings you to the conclusion that you are an INFJ? (This is an honest question with no hidden malicious intent behind it. I mean only exactly what the question says with no other unspoken implications.)

[@Thilosophocl3s]

I super enjoy your hypothesis, but I think there's a certain aspect that's been left out of all of this. It's been stated that we "can't" change types... I beg to differ, my evolution has taken me down a few paths while I figured out where I needed to strengthen things about myself that were hindering my development and overall success. INTJ, INFJ, INFP... probably a couple others. My point, is that we mature, we learn to relax what we "know" and eventually learn that we know far less than than we think; this leaves us open to seeing broader perspectives, having actual empathy for the human race instead of merely absorbing emotions, etc. Changing thinking habits are simply not simple; but absolutely possible if that's what one desires, that doesn't make that person a "fake" infj... Is your hypothesis based upon your level of logic and the way your mind works specifically? That's not an issue, it's valid for your understanding and well reasoned; however, there's only 16 types.... there ain't no way that 70 million infjs would all be the same as you 😁 I'm a few points away in any of my last 3 cognitive functions from shifting into any number of highly social introverted types. But that's just been my experience, since 1978

[@tehufn]

I've grown out of mbti, but I'm still interested in your videos, keep it up

[@deepurple594]

Thanks Alexis for clearing this up for me. Your examples of the cognitive functions really explained it best! 😅

[@Cinderella-mc8kf]

I watched couple of your videos, and i looove your way of explaining and giving examples, really different from everything else ive watched.

[@default_user_id]

OMG. Too spot on. Nothing wrong with weed and oreos, it's just my personality

[@SolomonSage]

my deepest desire is to show the world the love and beuty that feels my heart i defiantly do not care about a group.

[@StephenHENDERSON1]

I really enjoy your explanations. I love your diagrams. For me you have to be one of the best communicators on mbti

[@melancholikak6844]

With all the hype around these two types, I have found most often people who mistype as either one are most often...ISFP. The Fi Dom makes some ISFP think they are INFP, and the strained Ni can make ISFPs think they are INFJ...not to mention both types struggle with this weird "inner contradictions" they experience. I can see ISFJ mistyped as INFJ too, but strangely I see ISFPs do it a lot more.

[@CrystalShadow]

Interesting 😊

[@jaredvaughan1665]

Socionics shows Ni (Intuition of Time) is visualizing one's future or past (Aka memories.) Si is present moment sensory intake. If Si = memories then that means SJs have their heads in the sand reflecting on past memories and not being in the present, imprinting present Si sensory details for Ni to later reflect on. Also, Socionics shows what really defines SJs is not that they favor Si over Se, but rather they have sensation as a parent or auxiliary function. As ISTJ (LSI) uses correctly defined TiSe (Laws enforced like accounting rules.) ISFJ (ESI) uses FiSe (relations enforced through external sensory means like nursing.) ISFP (SEI) = SiFe or sensory aesthetic mood 💄 SiTe (SLI) = SiTe or sensory pragmatism 🔨 🛠 ⚒️ Note: Only introverted sensors have a different cognitive stack between Socionics and mbti (once you do a j and p switch ONLY for the introverted intuitives.) And this is because of the mbti introverted sensing cognitive stack error.

[@research1982]

I think the easiest method to discern between these two types is that INFPs are much better looking than INFJs.

[@CrystalShadow]

😅👍💯

[@devynryan1341]

I'm even more confident that I'm a INFJ now! I was already pretty confident because I usually have one or two close friends, and they're usually also INFJs.

[@peachpanda-hg6fr]

im ngl I've been typing myself as an infp for along time but recently started wondering if I was infj. This video halfway made me feel still comfortable with infp but also halfway confused me because I noticed similar behaviors in me with infj too- ah

[@Genius-Freedom]

I am 50/50 P & J... it was a fucking ride 😶‍🌫️ until I loved my unrelatable patterns and made friends with them 🔥🥰 Thanks for your time and video!

[@annabelle3762]

-I understand others more than I do myself. -I get hunches out of the blue nearly all the time. -I keep getting seemingly random mental image, a meme, or a joke out of nowhere, which made me laugh but others start looking at me weird. - I figure out people by studying their behavioral patterns, their preferences or even social circle over the course of time. Why they do what they do; why they are the way they are; how their mind works; why they like certain things, hate the others; or what kind of environment they grew up in for them to develop those kind of values, etc. - my gut feelings are strong. I do read people easily if I am not emotionally involved with them. - Others tell me I appear very detached and lost in thoughts. - I am more about ethics and morals and those moral principles sort of become my values. - I ask a lot of why and how. - I am not very emotional but when I am, it's mostly anger and unaddressed pain. - I tend to be a social chameleon. - I don't want to stand out. - I am different but I am not trying to be. I just am and sometimes I get frustrated cuz I don't understand myself and others also don't understand me. - I don't do crowds. Small group of 4-5 maybe but one-on-one is the best. - I provide a definitive insight or give one overarching advice along with other options cuz I like to give people options to choose from which works best for them, rather than what I think is best for them. - I am subtly controlling and bossy. I am a bit rough around the edges with people but I do soften up with animals and old people. - my observation goes from broad to specifics when I am serious. But at my relaxed state, I do that INFP "what if" thing. - although I don't wear black or dark colors (anymore), I do like to dress socially appropriate. My wardrobe is like a rainbow compared to when I was in my teens. - I am usually reclusive and aloof. When I am overwhelmed, I become cold and harsh. - Decisions that involve other people, I do feel obligated to do what's right for them. I need to do right by them even if it hurts me. I tend be a bit more relaxed with my personal decisions. Simply put, I rather hurt myself than hurt others, esp the ones I love. - I trip over stuff, bumped into things, forget where I put things just seconds after putting them, confuse left from right sometimes. I don't dance cuz I don't know how that works, I guess. - I do love ASMR stuff. - I don't have many hobbies. I just focus on few topics I like in depth. - I struggle to trust my intuition sometimes. I am very skeptical and doubtful. - I tend to like to meet people 's practical needs. - I am very organized and like to be well put together. - I can take a loooooong time to really understand my feelings. I have to talk about it to kinda make sense of them. - I am sort of obsessed with accuracy and objectivity. - I am selective when it comes sharing myself with others because I get drained easily. - I don't like trends although I am aware of them. Sometimes, I feel like socially resigned. - sometimes my best friend tease me by calling me mummy mummy, so yeah, fits the mom thing. - I cannot stand clutters. I do like to organize because I need SPACE, THE WHOLE UNIVERSE. - my internal monologue is often, " where the f- is this image of the future coming from? Or where the f- is this intuitive hunch coming from?" - I am also secretly judgemental lol. - I don't have ambition or aspirations per se, but I do want to be more gentle and balanced. I want to have a simple and peaceful life that doesn't attract unnecessary attention. When it comes to people, I do want to make an impact on an individual level, sharing my wisdom, changing their life for the better, guiding them through obstacles, be the pillar of strength and help them become their best version. If I can't do sth great, I'll do sth small but in a great way. So.........what am I? H.e.l.p??

[@Shadow-zf5uc]

Where do you think your morals and values systems come from?

[@jenniferkiehl6186]

@6:30 - yeah that's my "little Martha Stewart" rearing her head!! 🤣

[@coultersheppard2052]

I'm here studying the I-N feelers to better understand the differences between INTJs and INTPs. Pretty sure I'm INTJ.

[@SolomonSage]

i see mysef as an alien in society i dont even think misunderstood is th eright word i think not understood is it.

[@gaberialla]

Thank you for sharing this video and it definitely helps me what one I am. Definitely Infj. Took a personality test and definitely an introvert but all of the tests for infj and infp want to charge me for the answers

[@maddywilcox9012]

Bless you honey, I think that cleared it up for me...¡¿¡ Very impressed with your dedication to this, very useful resource your creating... ❤

[@keegster7167]

Every other detail seemed to describe me in either category lol. I can’t tell which I am. And when I take those Meyers-Briggs tests I get one or the other and always very close to both

[@adamquery7048]

Some good insights.

[@AlexisKingsley]

Thank you!

[@christinawong6573]

I’m an infp. In theory I love infjs, but I’ve met about 3 in my life and I can safely say, when I’m with them, I find it too serious and heavy, not a practical friendship nor are they silly or fun to be with. I love the chats but only in bite sizes.

[@rosarioesteban4792]

Hi Alexis! Great video!! I love everything related to MBTI and personality types 🤗 I really like the way that you explain everything. I would love to do Spanish subtitles for this video, if that's something you'd be interested in, please let me know! It'd be such a fun experience! Love from Argentina

[@jarredparenzee1756]

Love this comparison! I think one of my good friends is INFP. For now I type as an INFJ. Another friend of mine is likely INTJ, so I'll be checking that out next.

[@donn1473]

Anyone else feel like they are a split of INFJ and INFP? I relate to both 50% of the time....

[@mine6472]

Where I disagree..I have an infj sister who constantly collects..notebooks..books..waterbottles..candles..any cutesy stuff..clutter clutter.. on the other hand I have an infp cousin who is a minimalist.

[@WALDENSOFTWARE]

What if there is a group person that is not bossy and a 1 by 1 person that is bossy? This is what I am seeing and is opposite to what is said in the video 🤔

[@galacticman3376]

Thank you :) helped me understand myself a bit more

[@verntoews6937]

Very simple Infp is the most introverted introvert at the extreme end Infj is the most extroverted introvert just shy of the middle

[@northwestwind85]

I absolutely agree with all the INFJ points. I'm definitely a bossy mom. Focused on others feelings on a personal level in order to nurture and expand them. I like to flesh out singular insights. My question would be that I'm still in touch with my deeper emotions and I love expressing personal emotions in an artistic way that is cinematic or movie like in its representation of insight. I love to see films and emotionally connect with that on a internal level. I'm an Enneagram 4 so I have a hunch this might not just be Fi. Thoughts? Does the 4 make the INFJ emotionally reflective?

[@adamlowery2915]

As someone who identifies as an INFJ 4w5 (not professionally tested) I can see us being more emotionally reflective as opposed to one of another enneagram. Seeing as how a 4w5’s experience is focused a lot on the self and identity.

[@sztefanek]

I loved the vid, just one thing I have to disagree with. The inviting people over thing and greeting them. As an INFP I can't imagine inviting someone when my place is dirty/messy, and I'm not 100% ready myself to greet them at the door. If I treat them as you mentioned it means I either don't care about them at all cos e.g. they were invited by my roommate/family and therefore "invading my space" OR sth else is totally off OR I feel so close to them and know them so well that I feel absolutely comfortable. But that's incredibly rare. Normally if I invite someone, and that doesn't happen often, I'd always clean first (the more I care about their opinion, the cleaner xD), I'd make sure there is sth to eat and drink, I'd wonder where we can sit and stuff like that, and I'd definitely greet them at the door. I wonder if it's just me, or do other INFPs have the same thing? Also, it seems to me that INTPs are way more likely to behave like what you described, from my experience.

[@kingjames1308]

I still don't know which I am and every time I start to think i relate to one more then I hear something that's like, nope. I always score INFJ, but feel like INFP is more accurate to me. But then I hear 'I don't see INFP's wearing black', my whole wardrobe is black.

[@CrystalShadow]

I’m an INFP but I’m the quintessential hostess. I want everyone’s needs to be met and will make sure everyone has a drink, snack, etc. So there is a little INFJ in there I guess. My best friend is an INFJ and she is more like help yourself to whatever you can find. I’m also a minimalist. Maybe I’m an INFJ 😅 NOT. I guess everyone is different. Thank you for your video!

[@sztefanek]

That's exactly what I said in my comment! It's also an INFP thing to take care of the people close to us or people we feel for, just not everyone. And I consider myself a minimalist too. It's not like I collect all the random shit, and I don't buy stuff for myself at all, but it is hard for me to get rid of things, especially those that have sentimental value or that I feel I can use for something in the future (like some creative projects for example). Maybe it's that WHAT IF part that speaks here. INFJs I know are more neat than me and more likely to actually clean stuff or get rid of stuff but I feel like both INFPs and INFJs are often surrounded by chaos, partly because our minds are always somewhere else, partly because we do so many different things.

[@Benz74M]

I'm INFP-A and recognize myself 90% of the details given here, except the colorful, vibrant and eccentric clothing. I'm more into dark colors like a INFJ. But enneagram 4 individuals often type as INFP-T people, very eccentric and colorful, whereas I'm enneagram 9 INFP, more laid back, not seeking the attention, zen type.

[@cleo1074]

Finally it’s settled… I’m INFP

[@studytoreachsuccess]

Awesome explanation,

[@AnaLuiza-gk1si]

All Infp’s tends to be an artist? Because I am Infp and I don’t have these preferences

[@giuliatonero1153]

Not necessarily but we are usually creative people, even though you’re not an artist you can approach any kind of work in a creative way

[@margolitapnina6716]

"REALLY INTO MERMAIDS" 🙋🏾‍♀️; "the fridge is over there"; will never buy that thing everyone has; invisible millionaire 😂

[@SolomonSage]

im a infp and i like wearing black ....

[@babyonemoretime5011]

thanks

[@sad_hedgehog]

thank you! i have finally figured out wtf i am!

[@SolomonSage]

i get bossy if someoen tries to get in my way or try to change my beleifs

[@SolomonSage]

though i will imediatly relay the emotions of others .

[@Esperion12]

Finally, someone made it clear for me! Thank you! Though I feel I am INFJ 90% and 10% INFP xd

[@laralilyLaraMaljevac]

I got INFJ twice . But I don't feel it fits me . I think INFP fits me more , thank u for this video ❤

[@OceanicPearlz1]

I got infp twice today but I don’t think so…. Im INFJ

[@verbenastars]

I have a theory that I am both or neither one. Because I think I am introverted feeling and introverted perception. I am not extroverted either one of those.

[@AlexisKingsley]

It's extremely common for people to be in what's called a "loop" which is introverted judging and introverted perception. If you resonate with Fi most you could look into INFP and ISFP, as INFPs commonly loop Ni-Si. ISFPs commonly loop Fi-Ni. I'm not sure which introverted perception function you resonate with, but if it's Ni then you could look into INTJ which loops Ni-Fi or ISTJ which loops Si-Fi. It's not uncommon to resonate with your third function more than the 2nd function, especially in younger people.

[@Zachdude123]

I think I'm neither

[@wally4golly]

Why you gotta judge my random tiny Halloween tree? 😢

[@jaredvaughan1665]

Socionics shows INFP is more spiritual than INFJ. And INFJ is more concrete than INFP. Why? Because as INFJ (NiFe) and INFP (FiNe) progresses through the Socionics Beneficiary and Supervision Rings INFJ looks more like ISFJ and INFP looks more like INTJ.

[@davidclarke10]

How are infjs differ from infps?