Are you being manipulated? | David McCubbin | TEDxBurleigh Heads

[@lynnmillard1666]

Wonderful TED talk! What an expressive individual, taking talking with one’s hands to a whole new beautiful level. At one point, it seemed like he was dancing.

[@lisasreallife]

So true Domestic violence is becoming worse with increasing numbers of lost lives in my city alone but the problem is there's not enough support who want to help the places to protect having my Non-profit launched in March made me realize how sad this epidemic is being disregarded great speech thank you

[@coupleader]

Hi Lisa, thanks for your thoughts. You're in the front line and I'm a keyboard warrior!!! If there's anything I can do to support your non-profit, reach out. (Sorry I haven't checked the comments for at least a fortnight!). My dream is to make the language of psychological action common, so people can find the words to describe what's happening, and I'm talking about compassionate accuracy. Noticing feeling and not being entirely ruled by it. Being able to say it like it is. In my view, the nature of psychological action and the practical implications of being blind to them are really not understood. I've been trying to catch the attention of the ministers responsible. I've got some polite correspondence but no one with the power to drive cultural change has taken notice. I'm just not so good at PR. But, I've decided to follow the direction of Shyamala Gopalan Harris and do something about it. All the best, David 🙂

[@RondeciaWallace]

This is so true. I live in Guyana ( South America), a third world country where I feel like no one cares. I've been in this abusive relationship for almost 20 years, and I'm constrained financially, so my last resort is to get to a place where hopefully I don't get found and apply for asylum. I have 4 kids, and don't feel safe here at all. If you have any advice I would really appreciate it. Thank you.

[@zeeshanbhatti1161]

😮😊😅

[@zeeshanbhatti1161]

😊

[@zeeshanbhatti1161]

😅 0:47 😊😅😊😊😊

[@shanticlements]

Thank you, David. Still blown away by the term ‘artificial integrity’ and it’s impact. A great session! Thank you!

[@coupleader]

Thank you, Shanti. The worry is when Artificial Intelligence meets Artificial Integrity. I hope we keep ahead of it.

[@Chi100Maria]

I watched "social dilemma", I think we have lost already.

[@chanelleprice2513]

He was spot on !! Thank you, buddy 💜

[@deborahs3683]

such a powerful talk, with so many salient points. Well done🤩

[@kelvinnyantika3432]

Eye opening talk. Thank you sir.

[@kathleen7825]

After discovering everything I had over this past few weeks, in regards to hateful manipulative actions behind my back, ( a lot of indications, hypocricey, narcissism, etc...), i just want to say thank you for sharing this clip. 🙏

[@coupleader]

Sorry to hear you've been targeted. Thanks for letting me know the talk is useful.

[@Lolcoca]

Just ignore it ! I think the more you focus on something that you like and want in your life ! You just don’t have a time to waste it for nonsense thing ! I call it « distraction » . . . Take it as an exercise to focus on yourself !

[@joshuahutt]

I love this talk. The content is matched by the delivery in thoughtfulness, interest, and value.

[@coupleader]

Thank you Joshua. You’ve nailed my ambition for this talk. 🙏

[@pollystigger545]

Excellent, David!! 🙏👏

[@coupleader]

Thank you Mez

[@Chi100Maria]

Wow! That's powerful! Thank you sincerely for sharing it!

[@lucindaarmour7422]

Hugely insightful...and moving.

[@obbievillanueva5620]

Great presentation. I definitely needed to see this. Gracias 🙏

[@maggieo6672]

Awesome presentation, I thoroughly enjoyed it. And how true. Thank you for sharing pertinent information, so helpful in moving forward in freedom, without fear of power and control brokers out for themselves, using the likes of corrupt religion, government and war mongers dividing peoples against each other. ❤️🎶🍁

[@aaronspetersen]

Great presentation, bang on point. Nice one David. Sharing now!

[@PhoebeFayRuthLouise]

I really appreciate the insights!

[@SmokeyLove-vt4xd]

Exactly what I needed to hear. Thank you!

[@Romans15.32]

Thank you so much. This was a great presentation.

[@browe]

"Unsubstantiated entitlement" indeed. Reward systems activated. Overreach. We just want them to stop. Stand in inquiry. Hold your ground.

[@MeRiaNevaMynd]

And Speak the Truth. Amen 🙂

[@coupleader]

That’s the best summation. Thank you.

[@tobypease4990]

Great talk - such an important subject. So well expressed and illustrated. Thank you

[@coupleader]

Thanks TP. I’ve always thought the film set was the exemplar of great teamwork and collaboration, despite the sensational horror stories. Choosing you moment, picking your battles. Definitely come to work skills for cinema professionals, don’t you think?

[@heatherjeanmoyes]

Well done - great insight and presentation - important material.

[@coupleader]

Thanks Heather Jean. 🙏

[@katyhanara]

Loved the 'tantrum', ....& how you managed to get up again!!!

[@coupleader]

It was a bit of a struggle 😊

[@Kris-yr3zc]

😂❤

[@apolitik]

Thats a good message.

[@Michael-qh1ip]

Helluva talk 👍🔥

[@sherececocco]

I love it!

[@BlakeElliott246]

Well said

[@sanskriti_kalra]

Every person in a relationship should watch this 😂

[@SMALLDANE]

Every parent should see this, too 🙂

[@coupleader]

Thank you. I can’t tell you how much drama I’ve avoided by having an eye on the power dynamics.

[@coupleader]

@@SMALLDANE I agree that being explicit about power, in a practical way, helps parents make good decisions about boundaries. It’s ok to be the one in charge, as long as there are times when you’re not.

[@Chi100Maria]

And who is Not? We are all In the relationships.

[@coupleader]

@@Chi100Maria agree. Power dynamics are present in every moment in every relationship. Not always toxic or abusive. But always present.

[@hassnalbaghe7826]

Thank you darid a the still

[@Srindal4657]

Thought provoking...

[@BirdnestArquitectura]

Great 👍

[@drumbum3.142]

We/A Lot of us are Being Manipulated Now More than (Practically) Ever Before.

[@silviagreta8182]

Ai has more ethnikal knowlage than ppl around US at Work etc. Thats Something WE should Work on!

[@jordohiz1493]

"artificial integrity" made me wince. I thought the clickbait title belied matters of determinism & agency. "Hi I'm a theater major, and today, I'm going to talk. People make me feel sad, sometimes." O rly

[@coupleader]

😂. Theatre major! Sorry you feel baited. If you'd like to talk about determinism and agency, I'd love to understand your view. How can we discuss agency without recognising the mechanisms and decisions that give a person agency? How can we talk about determinism without addressing the cues for action that give someone the power to determine their future? This isn't the forum of course. I think we live in different worlds and I'd like to understand yours. In my world, I see political leaders hoodwink vast populations, and no one can describe it in a way that puts an end to the nonsense. In our country, we have a huge issue with men killing women, often ex-intimate partners. This Theatre Major wants to shake the tree. Happy to learn from you. Reach out. 🙏

[@lauraw.9876]

Artificial Integrity - expose it for what it is and offer suggestions for disarming it...ooh. a major challenge

[@williamkazak469]

Politicians give the war cry and people still go to wars. So very sad. I stopped voting. I am not convinced! Excellent.

[@MeRiaNevaMynd]

I stopped voting as well. Voting changes absolutely nothing (unless it's local for City councils, boards etc.).

[@ajitrai6160]

❤❤❤

[@fannydarat3545]

❤

[@bettyangwenyi1797]

48 Laws of Power.

[@coupleader]

Yes. Read it. I’m planning to reach out to Robert Greene to discuss our shared conclusions.

[@landmimes]

What if you're being manipulated by media conglomerates?

[@stephaneboisjoli1320]

You need to do your own research. But beware, there are a lot of charlatans that have convincing dialogs that are basically not true. Check their credentials, and not just what they claim (plus I have heard supposed experts say factually wrong things).

[@coupleader]

If? That's their prime objective.

[@whatinthehelen]

And the coveted Nobel Peace Prize is awarded to.... !!!!!!! ! 👈✨

[@World_cities_nature]

Assalomu alaykum from uzbekistan 😊

[@Hyperslob]

But AJ was probably raised been told “be a good boy and you well get that ice cream” that would most definitely create a behavior, so when he AJ is good he expects to receive that ice cream. But that’s not life, people who are good never get what they want and in fact very horrible things happen to good people. So parents really need to think about how they raise their children and what it is you are doing to develop these young minds and behaviors. It’s absolutely ludicrous for a parent to instill behavior in a young child then try to unwind it like they had nothing to do with the behavior in the first place.

[@maythamalwabari1531]

nis 👍

[@hassnalbaghe7826]

Ervery peeson in relationship should watsh this

[@piku5637]

Normalize Ⓐctive labour unions and worker owned companies. Democratize🗳️💙the workplace. Workers make society run, workers should run society☭.🌸🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍⚧️

[@МихаилИльин-р5р]

Oh yeah soviet union, gulag, concentration camps, holodomor starving to death 6 million people in one year, thats what you want

[@suzismith9729]

The 3 card system.

[@coupleader]

You got it! 1. Destabilise 2. Reassure 3. Coerce Awfully effective when executed well.

[@mariaantoniettamontella9173]

applausi

[@nexovec]

This is great but this man has rehearsed this talk verbatim. Might be better of as a blogpost.

[@Torreann]

Its like giving the nuclear codes to a lunatic.

[@SanderQuekel]

Artificial ignorance

[@monicaraybon1802]

Trump uses this

[@susans7091]

Artificial integrity. Ugh. Apparently trump watched this. and playing the three card trick. I am not convinced. Make the truth a priority. Share poser!

[@Saabdude40]

Yup...that's Trump to T

[@Saabdude40]

"Sorry Trump, you lost " But we've done a good job" 😅😅😅😅

[@flyboymic7182]

We’re all slaves

[@coupleader]

Unless we exercise freedom by holding ground when the tyrant commands

[@Phoenix56801]

No wtf, I'm not being manipulated m

[@creeib]

People who can't see it, are most likely to be affected 👍

[@stephaneboisjoli1320]

If you cannot see the power lines they are probably tugging at you. There's so many different goals requiring people to do different things... It's almost guaranteed.

[@craig617]

You keep referencing being white and middle aged. Whats that got to do with the topic in hand?

[@DeeTeaDee]

Christ that was patronisingly dull

[@coupleader]

Sorry Dee. At least you won't have to watch it again. (Please don't call me Christ.) 😉

[@DeeTeaDee]

@@coupleader didn’t watch it. It was in my ears at work

[@MeRiaNevaMynd]

​@@DeeTeaDeeI thought it was more interesting than most Ted talks. He incorporated much gesticulating.& physical movement 🙂 So yes it's different watching vs listening, imo.

[@lucindaarmour7422]

Introvert triggered by watching it and another commenting after listening to a physical presentation. Ok then.

[@User-mncbjlfjrebxkl]

@@lucindaarmour7422 why did you say that Lucy?😥😓

[@МихаилИльин-р5р]

Omg, speculative talking with no real point

[@coupleader]

My point? Be aware. Your post could be described as the action "to belittle", or to "dismiss". It's easy to play simple dismissive psychological actions from the bunker of anonymity provided by online communications. Build the habit of being reckless with your actions, and you might damage important relationships. Is that who you want to be? Probably not. That's my point. Does this feel like a slap-down? Sorry. Not my intent. When preparing the talk, I was super aware of everything I couldn't go into in 15 minutes. It's only possible to go from speculation to decisive action with a conversation, not a talk. Happy to have one with you, if you're interested.