Are You Codependent? (ft. Stacey Diaz) - Ep 34 - Big Mood

[@jazavalos]

this episode really had me in tears when Jess talked about how she’s not the scared little girl anymore. I’m really glad she’s sharing this journey with us.

[@kosiii]

Same here :( it’s proof that it can help to think of it that way and for healing. We’ve got some homework to do 😭😂

[@TheMaria232]

For real I came to the comments just to see if anyone else cried at that part 😭😭 Such a powerful and emotional moment

[@Wxtst.3]

Timestamp?

[@Paulfighteronline]

Stacey really adds a lot to these conversations in terms of the dynamic. She really stands her ground and she's not afraid to challenge opinions or takes, if she feels it is important for the other person to hear her perspective, because she clearly cares. Great talk!

[@JoJo-lf5jg]

Bring Stacey on more please! she’s literally the best guest you guys have had, the convo just naturally flows with her, the dynamic is amazing. 💕

[@xgpl8771]

this has got to be my fav ep so far. pls do more serious topics like this!!!

[@emanuelgonzalez7213]

When she was saying all the symptoms of codependency, I lowkey started to sweat 😅😅 NGL I was just like. Check, check, check, check ,check, check, check, check, check, check

[@alexareed8043]

Me af!! Lmao I was like "I have all of those and this is why"? Got me shook as hell.

[@goldenspice8382]

Meee toooo!!! This episode has legit changed my life.. sometimes you just need to hear it in another way.

[@mel-hz4vu]

This past weekend i was really struggling with fear of intimacy. As a child, my parents seperated but still lived together, i heard them fight and threaten to kill each other. It trickled down on the siblings. I always wanted to play with my brother, and he would yell at me to leave him alone. We started to fight so much by age 10 or so we just stopped talking. I see im at home and we just dont say anything. I started doing my own healing, and i thought i had my fear of intimacy under control. Though, i met this awesome guy.. he makes me feel safe. I realized now that I still self sabotage bc this weekend i told him that my gut doesnt feel anything for him (but my lady parts and mind do). Anyway, back to the drawing board to do more inner child healing. This episode could not have came at a more perfect time for me, Thank you Big Mood and Stacey for blessing us with you knowledge and vulnerabilities. "I am here with you"

[@muxlimah786]

LOVED STACEY D and this topic in general! . I wish the ADs were prerecorded and added into the podcast..the segways kind of disrupt the flow of the conversation.

[@aznstefani]

I agree. Sometimes their segways are funny but after the first few times I got really annoyed

[@karmelayeah]

I love how Jess is really opening up more and more with each episode I love how every girl on this show really gives different viewpoints and it's really just a good conversation overall ❤️❤️❤️ And if yall run out of big mood episodes you can also check out Nikki and Steve's podcast shit they don't tell you!!!!

[@at8052]

I cried when Jess talked about hugging herself as a child

[@houdinix3996]

PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE Make Stacey d a permanent host (especially now that boze + geo are gone) ! She's always been one of my favourites.

[@good_to_be_gold8]

Stacey is so therapeutic to listen to. Good stuff ladies.

[@fabulosa002]

this was by far the best episode everrrrrrrr!!! stacey is soooo centered and mature. it's always so refreshing to be reminded that first you must love yourself above all things, and then everything will fall into place. i love itttttt. and jess was awesome when she first admitted very personal things, and even had notes. very professional. love these girlsssss

[@rose-stainedframes3246]

"Have you seen you? Have you gotten to know you? Have you ever realized how wonderful you are?" - Stacey D BBY

[@davidperez-is6ny]

So can Stacey be on more regularly

[@TheBrainVomit]

This is one of my favorite episodes you guys have ever done. Stacey could’ve been a therapist in another life I love it 🥺

[@nhivu6538]

Omg one of my favourite episodes!!! Literally a topic that has been on my mind and I was super curious as to what others thought of codependency. And I love it when they hype each other up and support each other 😭❣️

[@kristinechao12]

YAY I love Stacey 💓 y’all just vibe so well! I really love that you’re talking about this topic!

[@tayamorales4147]

“Oh I’ve been waiting for this one” 😜❤️

[@Npg1234]

“TURN IT UPP!” 🤪

[@it_punkkid7298]

I loved her so much glad to to Stacy on again on big mood

[@liveyourlife243]

Omg I’ve been waiting for this episode ever since Stacey mentioned in her vlogs that she went to film for big mood!

[@driftwood111]

i've learned so much from this podcast, like it's not even a joke. i feel like i wouldve made so many mistakes if i didnt learn these. i'm so glad u guys can share ur experiences

[@M2161]

omg yess Stacey!!!

[@aznstefani]

damnnn I love Stacy 😂😂😂😂 "LISTEN co dependent! Let her set up her own boundaries!!"

[@karina1665]

Love Stacey 😭💖 but I absolutely loved this episode! Thank you girls for all that you do with this podcast. Thank you sharing your thoughts and experiences it reminds me I’m not alone💖

[@Tukuklan]

I loved this podcast. Very relatable from everyone's experiences. Yes i...am definately codedependant, for me qhat I experience the most is the pulling back, getting love and affection and then getting all that pulled back which makes me self conscious and in turn makes my partner not want to be around me.

[@mariarosep6208]

Stacey THE QUEEN

[@y.e.s.i.c.a6446]

I loved this topic! it made me realize that I was a codependent person in my past relationship. I was completely broken after our break up and was for months after but I started to work on myself and I think I have changed, I have given myself the love I used to provide for everyone else. Working on yourself is so important, this way you can give your best self to others and know that you deserve their best as well. AND stacey's tiktoks have helped me with that hehe

[@lysh9401]

I was LITERALLY binge watching Stacey vids and tiktoks, thinking that wow, it would be amazing if she came back to big mood and wow a gift ♡

[@jinlissul]

yooooo thank you so much for this episode i really needed it because it helped me realise that i'm extremely codependent too. last weekend i broke up with my partner and there were so many red flags after i ended it, especially the past few days after i found something out. i was willing to give him a chance later in the future because i loved him so so much and couldn't imagine being happy with anybody else but after the past few days, i decided to cut him off completely, which angered him and his narcissism jumped out so quick. now that i don't have those rose coloured glasses anymore, i noticed so many things and now i completely resent him and do not want to talk to him anymore. love yourself before anybody else because otherwise you will hurt more than you love.

[@ArminciaEdwards]

You all did great & have grown a lot. Especially you Jess!! 😂☺️👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

[@liberasum]

I want to give kudos to Jessica. Respect on the notes, the work. I love it 😍

[@Delabpm]

Girl the process is long and healing never ends. This episode spoke to me on all levels 🎯 broke up w my ex 3 days ago and have already obsessively called him to fix things bc i feel i overreacted. Recognizing patterns and cultivating self love. Been struggling w codependency ever since i can remember. Consciously aware of it for the past 7 years. Really needed this , so thankful for this!! finding myself a meeting . So much love to all of u💌

[@tammyngo7405]

jess carries this episode!!! love u girl

[@SilentFaces]

I would love to be on a show like this. I'm a woman with mostly male friends so would love the chance to have deep conversations like this

[@Janelyg1]

STACEY, omg yasss make her a permanent member pls🥰🥰 love you girlys

[@aks4142]

Big Sis Stacey after looong ass time!!

[@mariarosep6208]

Follow her ig her stuff is dope

[@stacey5680]

Thank you for sharing your story Jess I’m glad that I’m not the only one and I will definitely do the meditations y’all recommend. This podcast is definitely one of my favorites. I really enjoyed this topic and Stacey’s insights on the situation!

[@WhitneyUwandu]

Wow I really love that meditation method that Nikki mentioned, where you have a convo with your future self! I’m literally gonna try that 💖💖💖

[@neychachi]

I love that you can tell that they’re ALL genuine friends because they’re all checking each other in order to help each other grow.

[@s.9058]

I didn't even listen to the podcast yet but I can already say.... Add Stacey as a host!

[@JW-oi4wc]

Looooved this episode. I like the honesty in this. I feel like not a lot of people actually talk about this stuff❤️

[@emmaaaa2839]

Stacey is so introspective it’s amazing. Please have her on more she brings a lot to the podcast ♥️

[@alexareed8043]

This was such a GREAT episode, I felt like you guys were talking to me and about me and the crazy part is that I didn't even know I was in this kind of relationship. Especially the part about the symptoms, I'm going to try to seek help so I can break these patterns and know how to set boundaries. I can relate to Jess a lot in this, I always subconsciously go for people with drug abuse problems. What an eye opener. Thank you for talking about this.

[@Moody_momsta]

Wait I have a question though. When Jess said “I’m addicted to heroine so I don’t need/want coffee” like, she wants the hard core stuff and the moderate stuff doesn’t do it for her, HOW tf do you make that switch?! I think I had the heroine for years and now I’m trying to like coffee but it seems less then and not fulfilling. And I mean I’m GENUINELY trying to like the coffee... Anyone relate?

[@kosiii]

:( does this apply to someone who’s had a rollercoaster life since birth? That’s why I watch a lot of comedy and laugh at anything I find simple but funny. It helps kinda

[@Delabpm]

It could be bc “the heroin” is what you’re used to and what you already know. It takes time to understand how it’s not really healthy or contributing to your self love and growth even tho “the coffee” being what’s actually healthy maybe not as fulfilling since u may still be holding on to whats unhealthy the drama and the back and forth can be addicting to some, some people confuse that w “passion” and what love is about. Im tryna make the switch myself , takes a lot of work but trying to stay humble w the process

[@MichaelP-ke1tm]

@@Delabpm Wth is heroin and coffee supposed to be code for??

[@liyahdelana7998]

I fricking love these podcast

[@stephaniearana491]

Immediatley clicked as soon as I saw Stacey on :D Love all you girls

[@kvstar100]

"I deserve love just because I exist" awww Stacey, that was beautiful

[@eaz54]

Jess Lizama then Stacey Diaz?!? Such a great combo. Plz more of these two

[@Mavo139]

Please keep doing what you ladies do! This video is so detailed and I love Jess's input, it brought so much more sense into codependency and how to go about it! Stacey, Nikki and Gina are super insightful too! Thank you as always! 💜

[@itsNinaLeeyo]

I was avoiding this bc i really needed this. I finally muster up the courage and freaken cried in the middle. Now I'm at the point where, what are the details?!! Lol, the whole Gina situation. But I can relate so hard so I understand.This is another huge topic that we all probably need advice on lol. My new favorite ep ❤😊😊

[@mariarosep6208]

We LOVE STACEY!!!!

[@cynthiaqrz]

😳 when this episode makes you realize you are codependent 🤯

[@americadayz]

Yesssss, thank you for bring Stacey! She's the best I swear, I'm a fan thanks to you guys!

[@MusicFreak61594]

Wow I really liked this episode! I learned a much

[@jeita7667]

Yessss this episooooode 😩 👏🏼 Yessss Staceyyyy

[@eyo6812]

Best podcast yet !

[@NiCoFabolous]

Love this episode 🥰💕

[@christianlopezspeaks]

would love to see Mama Beaw Geo back with the ladies 🙏🏽❤🙏🏽❤

[@daryllepedrosa692]

I like the way everyone validates and relates their own experiences.

[@MegaBloodrain]

Stacey.. you need to be a permanent cast because these kids need a babysitter tbh.. Your level of maturity and self-awareness is outstanding, easily one of the most level headed individuals I've come across recently.

[@katherinegomez3403]

Same Gina.. I was like waiting for the definition. lol I kinda had an idea but i wanted to make sure. LOVE YOU GINNAA!!!

[@MusicGirl2597]

So glad Jess brought Codependency up as a topic. I related a lot when Nikki started talking about dating a narcissist. Nikki said, " People were inconsistent with the love they were giving me....Thinking that love was only giving based on doing and not off of just being..". Many people develop this bad habit with guys. I know I sure as hell I did. Like Nikki said, I think relationships can get to the point of guys not wanting to be with us because we (I) needed to please instead of thinking of what makes me happy or what I want for my life. Stacy was dope as well. She does a great job of making sure anyone can understand the topic. All the feels lol. You guys are all dope!

[@caseyholder7719]

Stacey

[@choonshon5165]

I can totally see myself in Jess. I wonder what type of books she's reading... 🤔

[@Monsquishy]

I love Stacey Diaz so much!!!! Please keep bringing her back on here or on jk 💕

[@milllllllllllll]

That was a great episode Jess, you did a amazing job preparing it!! You making this episode is truly an action of self-work and I. Love. To. See. It.

[@finabibi]

Omg i saw that they had a new episode and was excited then i saw that “ft. Stacey” and i was even more excited!!!

[@stuffedtoylover]

26:56 "just the fact that you're human means that you need love." saving this for me to look back later, bc this is the moment that rlly hit me in this episode. i rlly was a wrinkly beAn and they already loved me :0

[@ericamoua7426]

You guys are literally speaking to me I love this episode. I feel like someone else finally understands me. Please keep this up!!!!!

[@iselamg]

I love this episode of the stories you ladies share! Plus Stacey is so wise please bring her back more! ❤️🙌🏽✨

[@Hooney2me]

Stacy is so intelligent, she sounds like she got a degree in pychology. I love hearing her talk.

[@lunadenaj]

I am bawling my eyes out! I needed to hear this today. Not everything applies but thank you for sharing this. Lately, I’ve been feeling like I’m stuck in “child mode” and I am having a hard time reassuring myself that I am Ok. Wishing everyone the best!

[@pillowtyme3376]

This is definitely one of the BEST episodes so far! Loved the topic and loved having Stacey on! Please do a continuation or more similar topics with her on!!

[@daiishi_kinyoubi]

Staceyyyyy!!!! yaaaas

[@itzeldelgado15]

It has been really hard for me recently, this helped in a way, please update more videos like this. Thank you girls!

[@kimnahboi3188]

If Stacy was part of the crew I would watch every single episode!!!

[@lunalhd3381]

kim Nahboi agree

[@alexisparra6550]

Yes more Stacy pls!

[@lorena2494]

Loved this ep. with Stacey! Shout out to Jess for preparing this needed topic and talking about her past.

[@marinariquelme3982]

Stacey is awesome love her

[@paLeevang]

Loved this episode! ❤️😭

[@IvoryD_]

LOVE STACEY 😭💕

[@marianareyes3249]

Love this episode, love Stacey in the show. This episode helped me a lot girls. Love u guys

[@nikkibrianne8982]

Thank you for this episode, it really spoke to me. Could you make an episode about how to deal with toxic messy roommates?

[@theresab4603]

When this episode came out, I couldn't finish it because I was slapped in the face with reality of being codependent. I can now finish this episode and feel so proud of myself 🤍

[@DutchesLove1926]

This was an amazing show and I love Stacey thank you

[@janesjourney9092]

I needed this. Thank you ladies 🖤 you guys are like my big sisters

[@TheFoodie101]

Love Stacey.

[@TheFoodie101]

really needed to hear some points in this episode!

[@liciafeuerstein6296]

Stacey is so level headed and emotionally intelligent. I love that she is a good listener and accepting of people. And also never overbearing, preachy, or a try-hard. So much solid big sister advice in this episode. I feel like I was sleeping on her in past guest appearances on jk. Hope she's back in the future!

[@BurningHellz]

this was a really great and much needed episode for people like me :) love you girls

[@lilgoat1184]

This episode was so amazing and y’all gatta keep making more

[@lunalhd3381]

Omg Stacey love her

[@andyher4968]

awe yay!!! I love Stacey! really good topic. and nice flow with everyone.. just a perfect podcast

[@lady21993]

Love seeing Stacey in your episodes! She’s amazing!!

[@jasochoa94]

This was deep, loved it. More episodes like these please.

[@lysh9401]

I love you ladies ♡ I just went through a break up and I really needed this!!!

[@daryllepedrosa692]

I love when Stacy comes on!

[@karmelayeah]

GINA YOU LOOKIN SO GOOD GIRL!!!!! I mean you're always so pretty but something about you recently you look well rested and fresh and please just take this as a compliment HAHAHA

[@nailsbyvictoria1013]

Finally watched the full video. Looooooved it✨

[@cvang101]

LOVE STACY🥰

[@liberasum]

I love this episode. It was so great. Stacey did so awesome!!!