Are you Finding Indifference to your Pain Impossible?

[@dr.amitabhamukherjee3601]

Dan, honest to God, indifference to the pain WHEN THE PAIN IS RAGING ( i.e. when you are in the middle of a flare-up that takes forever to die down) is the toughest challenge in this journey. You can only take it for so long. Crying helps, in my experience. Anyway, this is another hugely instructive video worth its weight in gold.

[@PainFreeYou]

Thank you Doc.

[@cdracos1]

TMS is sooo much like being trapped failed relationship or going through a divorce . You have years of investment , dedication, fear of change and strong emotional ties . Grab a pair of Dan Buglio certified scissors and make one snip per day . Just one snip and move on ! 💗

[@privateperson5769]

One snip per day - I like it !

[@jodijodi6228]

You seriously are doing great work… I hope you know that profoundly. Just hearing you talk calms me because during the worst of my pain I listen to your videos nonstop. I am now pain-free with the exception of occasional flareups… And I just tune in to your video and I feel better. That severe pain I once had has never ever returned like I said just occasionally I’ll get little twinges But nothing severe

[@PainFreeYou]

Thank you Jodi. Love to hear of your success. If you are ever interested in sharing your story, get on my calendar by going here: TalkWithDan.com and selecting the Success Story Interview. I understand if you would rather not. Either way, I'm thrilled you are doing so much better. :-)

[@larryc1964]

This, to me is by far the best video Dan has made. This is the attitude and mindset that chokes out TMS! Gotta take that attitude “Whatever! , I’ve got s**t to do!” Love it!

[@PainFreeYou]

Thanks Larry.

[@thewoodster8607]

One of the most important aspects IMHO, along with focus and mindset. I like your teaching style as well: honest, direct and informative. Thanks Dan.

[@PainFreeYou]

I appreciate that!

[@tatianacupello8059]

Thank you Dan!!! I will never stop thanking you. I am still with this banana but you always calm me down

[@PainFreeYou]

Any time! you will get through this.

[@MrEndoscope]

Getting to Indifference / mindset is getting easier each day

[@PainFreeYou]

EXACTLY!!!

[@nathanporter4697]

Just watching this today Dan. This is the part that is hard for me. I needed this. Your videos are gold.

[@PainFreeYou]

Consistent messages of safety are a great approach. Watch this one: kzbin.info/www/bejne/a4TWfKF3nKappLs

[@aliyakassam-dawoodani6736]

Thank you for this Dan. This is going to be a challenge but I will start to practice this as well as I can. If this is the last bump before freedom then here I come!

[@PainFreeYou]

Calm reassurance!!

[@junkgirltoo5005]

Love the analogy about pouring stress back into stress makes more stress and pain. The fire image is great. I’m an artist and very visual. It’s time I used that gift with TMS brain work. Super advice. 👍🏻👍🏻

[@cdracos1]

Sometimes if I flare up I close my eyes, relaxing, breathing and imaging pouring a bucket of water over my fiery symptoms . Hiss and watch a cloud of steam evaporate into the sky. 💗

[@PainFreeYou]

Thanks for the kind words Janet. Nothing good can come from stressing out about a stress illness. Soothe, calm, breathe, smile.

[@kathleenwharton2139]

I found indifference hard for me to do..but I am a relgious oriented person so I thought of the closest relgious way to look at this. It was easy. “Gods Will Be Done.” I used this prayer to help me with a cure a dependency..so I use it for TMS. It is soothing also because I feel like I have some extra Help. Whatever Works!

[@tatianacupello8059]

I loved it!

[@PainFreeYou]

Awesome. Thank you.

[@cheryl8493]

Yes I lost my old life, but I’m determined to make an even better one in the future. At least I don’t want to die everyday anymore, just once in a while now ❤

[@PainFreeYou]

Keep going Cheryl. You ARE on the right path and you can get well.

[@cheryl8493]

@Pain Free You Thanks, Dan! You’ve given me the strength & knowledge that I can do life, my body is Not the problem, and that I can get well despite what others in the med community have said. I’m not broken. You are such a blessing to All of us! It’s apparent to me that your past pain struggle was used as a vehicle to bless and change so many others who are suffering to heal & live happy, productive lives. Thank You!

[@PainFreeYou]

@@cheryl8493 I appreciate the kind words.

[@patrickmcmahon1443]

Great message. Focus away from pain and mindset of indifference is absolutely the Key. Thanks for reminding us it is so helpful on this journey.

[@PainFreeYou]

Absolutely!

[@hbe7259]

Very powerful video, as usual! Looking forward to your videos every day. Hope I can reach my last destination some day...

[@PainFreeYou]

You can do it!

[@gayleosborne5109]

Awesome yet again. Love your breakdown of is it TMS? Accept it and know that you are not broken. Feel painful emotions and then self soothe. Change mindset to absolute indifference. Put so simply that even I get it Dan 👍😆

[@PainFreeYou]

Awesome - really glad the break down is making it understandable. I jokingly call it "Sarno Simplified".

[@SushiSara44]

Thank you for this video! I needed it today :)

[@PainFreeYou]

You are so welcome!

[@dccastilla12]

Im really struggling with indifference. I try not to care but I still am constantly thinking about it. It reminds of me of the example of someone telling you to not think of an elephant; the first thing you do is think of the elephant.

[@PainFreeYou]

If indifference is not available or seems impossible in the moment, the response I suggest is to reassure ourselves that it's just TMS and that it's temporary and that we are on the right path. And since it's just TMS and not a broken body, it's easier to turn down the fear and take the attention away from the pain. And since fear and attention fuel the pain, doing so will result in less anxiety about the future and the pain should settle down and eventually go away when the brain gets the memo that we are actually already okay.

[@dccastilla12]

@@PainFreeYou Thanks for the response. Your daily videos are a life saver. From the bottom of my heart, thank you for everything you do!

[@sharynfuller828]

Great analogies. 👍

[@PainFreeYou]

Glad you think so!

[@MrEndoscope]

Another great video this and mindset are my to hurdles to pain free you ..these are the only 2 I need work on ..thx dan

[@PainFreeYou]

You can do it! I would encourage you to reinforce that you CAN be indifferent.

[@Healthy-Life-Happy-Now]

Love you videos, Dan, thank you. I am confused about how can I have strong belief that I can defeat TMS, i.e. believe it can go away, and at the same time be indifferent about the pain? Seems contradictory. When you talk acceptance, do you talk about acceptance of TMS or of the pain itself? or both?

[@PainFreeYou]

When you believe it's TMS - you know it doesn't matter and you can not care about (be indifferent) the pain because you KNOW it's TMS. You KNOW your body is not broken. I don't speak about acceptance much. I speak about choosing your response to the pain. "Whatever". Not caring and shifting FOCUS to anything other than the pain itself. Try to put as little attention on the pain as possible. Feel your emotions. Soothe your body - calm your thinking. Don't care if you hurt or not. Shift your focus away from the pain as much as possible. That's it. Hope that helps.

[@AS-uv3jm]

Dan it’s ok if it takes me longer to get rid of the pain than it does for others, right? I know the answer to this but might be good to hear from you. Initially when I learned about TMS indifference was easier because I felt more hopeful, now altho I don’t have the pain as frequently I still have it and I sometimes start to worry that it’s taking me longer than 1 or two months..this attitude keeps me more focused on the “problem” and I just start to somewhat feel hopeless again. I stopped going to spin classes because I thought I had a type of pudendal neuralgia, I was terrified is an understatement- but now I’m finally stable mentally and wondering if I should start attending those classes again.

[@PainFreeYou]

There is no normal timeframe. Some get better faster than others. Some slower. In the end, how long it takes you is dependent on how long it takes YOU to teach your brain that your body is fine and the symptoms are unimportant. This video on Exercise and fear may help you answer the question you posed about the spin classes. kzbin.info/www/bejne/imfMaY2ilp59rtU

[@AS-uv3jm]

Thank you Dan, I’ll watch that video.

[@kathleenhannmann760]

I stress over my job in my situation it's not always about my pain

[@PainFreeYou]

Life is quite stressful at times. It's how we respond that matters most. :-)