Are you happy with your life? RIMA KALLINGAL Final Part |

[@pallavigopinathan8937]

Years back, i spoke to a psychiatrist friend of mine about the regret that I had regarding my mom's sacrifice. I was feeling really low thinking that I'm a selfish daughter. Then she said something which I remember every day. " A mother's love for her child is selfless. You cannot pay it back. But you can pass it on."

[@fats3513]

Oh that's so beautifully put and very much true

[@pachamaala3477]

​@@fats3513 absolutely

[@Meera490]

Truer words havent been spoken ❤ inspired !!

[@Black_Panther_Love]

My daughter is a feminist, a teenager! I too regard much respect to feminism. But I’m a working mother doing all kitchen chores with zero help from my daughter. And I ask her is this the right feminism! She’s making her mother to do all the work & she sits and share feminism posts in insta! When I tell her , If you have to be independent in life study the house chores alone with academics. If you say swiggy, house maid, that’s not how you win the argument. In todays world you should be conscious about what you eat, hotel food will defenitely make you sick! Be independent both financially & individually. If you do some cooking that won’t make you less feminist. I tell my boy & girl equally to be independent, to study the house chores!

[@commonbeing9359]

Divide the chorea and give to ur kids... Tell her to clean the plates she used and clean her room every day🤌

[@infinitegrace506]

U must b joking huh🤔suggesting to clean the room n do the dishes, jus bcos it's a girl. Modern day feminism is all bout leaving the kitchen n laundry behind n pursue total freedom n empowerment, don't u know yet??

[@evefernandez1454]

Yes. These young feminists forget that they should share house hold chores with her mother.

[@ashalizzy9573]

Well said

[@Kilukilu123]

chechi whatever u said is right, but next time do one thing ask ur son to share the household duties, and make him do tht, so ur feminist daughter will see this and might understand. I think some feminists specially girls get irritated when thy see their moms asking girl child to do the household works without asking same to their sons, even i had these same feminist thoughts and i never helped my working mother in kitchen, and when my dad says this dialogue “ 2 penpiller ulla veedaanu enn parayuo ith onnu adichu vaari ittode? “ So the rebel in me asks my dad that why dad do girls have extra something ? Why can’t papa or brother help my amma in kitchen and other works, i was super lazy like my brother, now i got married and i dont even know to cook, even if i see youtube and cook also it will be an utter flop, and my husband cook’s really well, his mom had taught both her son n daughter equally everything, literally everything, so now I’m learning many things from them

[@priyachidanandan2833]

I saw both of you crying discussing the topic of moms and it brought tears in my eyes too. Love Rima’s courage and spirit. Keep it up.

[@Fidaaaah]

Rima resonates with each and every woman around us, around me. My heart still feels heavy by listening her talk this beautifully. I could relate this with my own thoughts and feelings(especially about mom being happy). I have asked my mom once this same question that is she really happy. I had to take (still taking) several sessions of therapy so that I don’t blame myself for seeing her sacrifice her life for everyone else. More love to you❤

[@medh1234]

Rima has understood herself and the people around her so so much. She's one beautiful lady inside out. ❤

[@cloweeist]

Dear Rima , don't always say your parents suffered because of you , you put your parents through this and that . I strongly feel our parents get kids who help them evolve beyond what they are . someone who challenges their limitations and helps them grow. You are that for your parents :)

[@asha9988]

Great thought!

[@SyamaSivaprasad]

Felt Lovely and Light hearted reading this🙏

[@cloweeist]

@@SyamaSivaprasad so glad , thanks for letting me know this

[@meerayudepaattukal2818]

So many things which used to come in my mind has been beautifully expressed by you dear Rima

[@sapnanandkumar2527]

A very positive thought for all of us to imbibe

[@nasrathshahim1238]

റിമ പറയുന്നത് മനസിലാവും.... ഓരോ സിത്രീക്കും........ 💕💕💕💕💕

[@savithavijayan9045]

I echo what Rima mentioned, my grand mother was super bold, not only my grand mother, all other ammummas in that generation. My amma has dedicated whole life for her 3 daughters and still doing it and she wanted 3 of us should graduated, get a job and handle money by ourself and all 3 of us achieved that❤

[@ranjoo12]

I think the boomer generation could not develop intellectually much, they were scared to take risks and they just went along with whatever society mandated. Whereas their previous generation, the grandmothers had to struggle, make decisions and really push themselves, so they were better decision makers and had strength.

[@giftycv5280]

​@@ranjoo12 True

[@Drmaneeshar]

Change is around the corner.. No its in the room.. And you will be remembered Rima.. ❤️❤️❤️

[@BertRussie]

Agreed! It is in the room and she will be remembered

[@vishnusudhakaran4674]

Hi Ma'am Definitely, as Rima said, this show is a relief for all of us who are listening, and unfortunately, due to certain circumstances or not in the limelight common people like us are not ready to take chances to open up and to share our feelings for others especially to our parents and I feel I also wanted them to be extremely happy and I felt we need to empathise with them or other people who went through traumas in their lifetime. When you said I want to ask my mom whether she is happy with the life she has and definitely, it's a relevant question, and I think at least we should do this once inlife to make them feel proud of us that we even spare sometime to atleast think about it. Not only to our mothers but also to our fathers who took all the responsibility in their shoulders supporting their family sacrificing everything for them by living apart (NRIs) The most relevant thing today is that everyone wants to be heard, and to be protected or an empathetical approach is one of the most important aspects where it directly helps people with hope,happiness,positivity and connection with those who are around us or for those who feel that they are alone in this life and where they didn't felt they belong in this world or they have any place in somebody else's life. Life is always about sacrifice, and we find it meaningful when we were able to wipe out the tears of our dear and near one's with our empathic approach. First of all, we have to make our own parents happy, and that is the only way we can repay our debts of their indebtedness of their unlimited love, care and and innocence throught the life. Thank you DHANYA Ma'am

[@akhilaanilkumar4827]

Hearing a beautiful conversation between two women who chose to struggle , and are still struggling ....makes me feel connected and am just heavy with my emotions right now

[@see2saw]

Wow..she talked about women of today yesterday and daybefore..so true..my grandmother was a no shits given person..and mom and her sisters turned out to take up the ultra caregiver roles..and am trying to escape and embrace at the same time both..it's exhausting..

[@DhanyaShanker]

No words Dhanya.... Loved every part of the talk... Rima seemed to have spoken for many of us... Many of our mothers... Thank you Rima for voicing out so genuinely. She is absolutely right when she said about the space you are creating Dhanya... All your hard work and sincerity reflects in the talks you conduct. Keep going.

[@jestinbosco277]

She is talking from her heart that we all can relate ❤

[@jyothi404]

My heart is aching ❤. My mother cooked for 30 years for her parents and siblings and that was her only world . She told us to study and get a job so that I don’t want to spend the 24 /7 life in kitchen. Like Rima many daughters like me would like to ask mothers out there “ r u happy what life had given yo you “😢😢 Hugs and kisses to all the mothers out there🫂❤. Always Cudos to Dhanya mam 👍

[@subhadra9042]

Rima, when we see you from outside we feel like you are so stubborn.. But after watching the interview, my entire perspective about you changed.. Very sensitive and empathetic character... You are doing really a good job @Dhanya

[@meghnasreekumar]

Like Rima says in the end , you have no idea how much your interviews influence us girls , Dhanya ma'am ! ❤

[@Sreerajsree92]

When people come to dhanya's interview, they speak incredibly amazing. That's dhanya's quality ❤ She create such a positive ambience that brings the best out of everyone. Worth watching.❤

[@HariKumar-jt1qs]

The talk between two sensitive persons was really watch worthy

[@sansastark7802]

I have always had this negative association with kitchen and the worst fear of my life Is having to cook 3 meals a day for 365 days. As you both said the it travels back to my mother who I have seen always in the kitchen, doing everything by herself and not able to take a leave for a single day. Sometimes I feel I am a selfish daughter for not helping her enough and just ran from her. But now I know the freedom that I enjoy today is her tears and sweat. She wanted me not to suffer what she had to. I can never be half as selfless as she is.😔

[@athiramn]

That fear is so true!

[@WaveRider1989]

I guess either be single forever and enjoy the freedom or you can make that a deal breaker when you date or marry a guy. Test out his cooking skills and if he is willing to contribute as well.

[@newtothisworld54]

She is having very realistic thoughts ❤. Very much relatable... we need an equal world... I tell my son to learn the house hold works for his better tomorrow.

[@dhanyapraveen6695]

It’s really true , our grandmas were much powerful, many of us can completely relate to each and every word Rima has been telling.Dhanya Varma , hats off to you for such honest interviews, I always felt that we all travel through similar boats , with slightly varying experiences

[@DrHailin]

I really wished this talk never ended.. It jus touched the most.. especially for someone like me who cant find a strength to come out my depression pit, who dont yet know how to let go of my past.. who cant find any hope in the future, but still fighting to get out of my drowning phase.. these talks jus give that ray of light knowing its not jus us, but all are fighting their own lot battles in life,, ❤❤❤ Awww Dhanya, u r an amazing gem of a soul to bring out these invaluable talks to us… Really full on appreciation for u dearest Dhanya ❤❤❤❤❤👏👏👏👏👏

[@NK-dw3uy]

I think this was the best interview. Very thought provoking. More power and love to you Rima. Dhanya, as always you are a gem

[@hananadnan7406]

This is not an interview. It’s flourish of emotions. I don’t knw how I ended up crying remembering my mom, her sacrifice to raise us

[@outspoken7]

Its not mandatory that every one should understand that ,what she is very much clear about... Clear thoughts and vision..n respect for u rima n dhanya..

[@shabananoufal9547]

miss kerala മത്സരിച്ച ആ time മുതലേ ❤❤❤❤rima

[@preeraj4139]

😢😢I'm speechless ..Rima u wanted to ask ur mother but my 19 year old asked me this question few months back n I was stunned..cos nobody asked me about that..I won't blame anybody cos it was my choice..my husband my kid was my priority n in that long journey somewhere I forgot about my existence..may be I was not affected cos of my peaceful life abroad n now slighly self realisation is coming back in Kerala...Anyways Dhanya thanks dear for making your guests feel so relaxed n they pour out their true emotions🤗

[@medstudyforyou6363]

So heartbreaking to see even Rima who has stood for the right things has to accept and went in to depression that this world will not change all of a sudden and that is true for every warrior ....But she rose from that and has come back..kudos Rima and to all warriors out there...

[@athiramn]

That fear is so true!! Being trapped in kitchen, for I hv seen my mom like that always..she is a teacher but she never got off from kitchen duty.. Omg!..I will not do that for the sake of my sanity.. but the regret is also true..! N I have asked my mom how she does this, everyday..! She said she doesn't have an option, that's why. When I shared this with my therapist she agreed top notch on how true that is, n we talked about the social construct..how women is expected to be everything..and she gave assurance to my feeling of not wanting such a life by simply saying that its inhumane to live like that, n it's okay to get up late and do minimal things n go on with the day, in a way comfortable for me.. It does feel selfish! Bt I guess we have to figure out a point between guilt and selfishness..n be with our moms..

[@safarinsadiq8059]

Every single word that Rima Mam discussed is really true.. Including mine, our parents really want us to spread out our wings and fly high..but the way they are conditioned and the thought of how society will interpret, haunts them.. Thank you for the ultimate hope..and this is one of the finest interviews I have ever seen❤️ Really need Parvathy Thiruvoth Mam here💝

[@nandas3822]

How much I resonate with her!! collective women consciousness or something i don't know.. but loved this conversation so much.. thanks for bringing her to this space 🤍

[@Suvithav-m9p]

What an incredible conversation❤. Ellarkum palappolum thonnuna karyangal. She is so articulate and such a beautiful soul❤

[@nefelibata_05]

Dhanya mam is sitting in literal aww while listening Rima mam and I am sure I will be like her too if I ever could listen her speak❤

[@rosemolthattil1907]

As Rima said, Dhanya you have created a platform for honest 'conversation ' .... more power to you....❤

[@cloweeist]

So much of what Rima says is so relatable

[@divyasreenivasan2879]

Dear Rima, You spoke for all of us, thank you. We wish you all the very best

[@reshmasuresh4584]

Such a relatable interview ever. Became a great great fan of you Rima.

[@aswathi2348]

Happened to see the interview today and watched all 4 episode in one strech. Thank you for such a great show❤️

[@ammuzmikkuz2002]

Dhanya,i can relate her completely in this part..even I didn't have interest in cooking bcos I have seen all my childhood my mom was in the kitchen! ..and yes our grandmothers were so strong compared to our moms ...rima ..i don't know u r seeing my comment or not...but u r real..stay strong, healthy, happy....thank you Dhanya for these moments❤

[@prashanth.s9752]

She looks beautiful..✨ inside out..i felt like she looks like Kashi Bhai from bajirao Mastani personally..🥺🦋✨

[@janefarjamaludheen2056]

Why do you make me cry 😢toooo….such a beautiful talk show !!!

[@athulanil2549]

13.05 to 13.40 True Word...... Even We all Agree Dhanya Mam ❣️❣️🔥🔥

[@SreeenadiJio-zq2mt]

ഒരിക്കല് ഞാനെന്റെ അമ്മയോട് പറഞ്ഞു 'എനിക്ക് കല്യാണം കഴിക്കണ്ട,കുട്ടികളും വേണ്ട!' അമ്മ: അപ്പൊ നീയാറ്ക്ക് വേണ്ടി ജീവിക്കും? ഞാ: അപ്പൊ അമ്മ ഞങ്ങക്കു വേണ്ടിയാണോ ജീവിച്ചെ? അമ്മ: 'മൗനം'

[@WaveRider1989]

അപ്പോ ആ തീരുമാനത്തിൽ തന്നെ നിൽക്കുകയാണോ ഇന്നും? Still not married?

[@freebirdindia3911]

The bestest one.. Worth watching all four episodes. Dear rima u are an amazing girl with so much clarity in your thoughts and u have a beautiful soul.. Dear dhanya u are such a super journalist who know what to extract and how to extract things from people whom u talk with. Thank u so much for this.

[@anusree_s]

Was crying throughout ... Such a pure and beautiful conversation❤

[@faay5174]

Yeah the value of dhanya varma’s interviews are huge❤❤❤

[@linishap9088]

What rima concluded is so true. This show has a certain degree of value.

[@Ardra143]

Cheers to Dhanya for creating the space for people to speak their heart ❤️ 😊

[@reshma94]

Grt personality... Grt woman... Rima.. Generations will thank you both

[@anceysunil9890]

Loved the interview ❤ Jus came to know the wonderful person you are Rima, through this interview. Like Rima mentioned in the last part, Dhanya, you deserve all the credits for such wonderful conversations, the time you give them to answer your questions, your genuine response to them, wholeheartedly listening to them, these are things that make them comfortable in your show and hence they also talk genuinely.

[@paulinekattady]

My Mom's sacrifice is what helped me be a better woman...she made that choice and that sacrifice does bear fruit....as we carry and pay that compassion forward...was blessed to have a Mom like that...hats off to Mom's who make that choice praying it bears fruit for their children. Rima appears to have experienced some attachment wounds....may she find peace...reconciliation...healing.

[@amithakuriakose1813]

10:01 true! You are such a beautiful soul Rima❤

[@giftyjose8923]

Nothing to say...❤️❤️❤️ I think only one girl can understand other... Dhanya's questions were also very relevant. Such an amazing interview. U guys Rock 😘

[@lavinam8026]

What a beautiful conversation . Our grand mothers were powerful, ruling the house, taking care of farms , lands, etc. but our mothers suffered and was confined to kitchens or taking care of family .

[@shabanabasheer813]

Ye it's absolutely right.we were confused what was happened in between them.

[@kochumonrr3544]

Extra ordinary interview

[@iamwithdhanyavarma]

thanks so much...do share the video with your friends

[@Sasha11233]

What a relief to listen to you guys talking!

[@Jayrang90]

Thankyou Dhanya for this lovely interview. I could relate to her thoughts and sensibilities. God bless ❤

[@fill.n.stroke]

This was such a beautiful conversation Rima and dhanya chechi. Each and every word you told, about our mothers generation somehow stuck, even now, and their happiness, I relate to it so much. And the kitchen part, even though I enjoy cooking, i always pretend as if I hate cooking just because that image of our moms in kitchen, always scares me. And i would never want that for me. More power to both of you. ❤

[@sheelapereira489]

Such a lovely interview Dhanya always loved Rima as an actress now I adore her as a woman thank you Dhanya keep going

[@priyatiju]

Never felt like commenting on any KZbin channel shows. But this time I just couldn't stop myself. Wish this talk would never end... Hats of to both of you.. 👏👏👏

[@adheenanathm2409]

Wow.... This interview is mindblowing.... Every thought and every idea shared directly touches a woman's heart and can relate to it completely... Thank you for inviting her and for this conversation

[@unnimayaajith8370]

Loved every bit of the conversation! Bliss! ♥️

[@nayana-fh7hm]

I was waiting for this interview. I am crying now. When ever I enter kitchen and do something I have a fear that "Will I end up like my mother'' This is the only reason I did not learn cooking. I did not help mom. I wanted to escape from the kitchen. But my mom does everything for me. I was selfish. Now 28 years old. I cant cook a meal. I have been thinking about this for a while. Feeling guilty. How can I help my mother. I want her to know happiness outside kitchen.

[@infinitegrace506]

Then take her out n show around, what r u waiting for; the next meal to be ready?

[@seenabijoy651]

Those tears….genuine👌👌 You will be ever evolving 👍… finding new facets to your crazy and passionate self

[@Anuja.Jayasree]

Omg … this is so much relatable about moms 😢❤❤❤

[@vani83100]

This was such a lovely chat show. Thanks to both of you for giving this insight that there are more people like me.. 😅 Love to see you more Rima💛💛

[@Mimmymahi]

Enthanu dhanya chechide programil varunna ellarum imotional akunath...❤

[@s.hhivani]

Wholely loved it! Such a strong woman❤️

[@abhiramikp5546]

What an interview ma'am,both of you were creating such a wonderful space.. Were letting out the hardships of many average keralite women trying to find her own existence.. Just through your conversation.. Wish both of you, all the best things in your life. .

[@nasrathshahim1238]

ഈ പ്രാന്ത് എപ്പോഴും ഉണ്ടാവണം.... ഈ ഒരു തലമുറ കൂടെ ഉണ്ടാവും 💕💕💕

[@Kat_Jose]

I completely agree with what Rima said about the transition that happened in the past generation. My grandmother had the full authority in my home on everything but it did not happen for my mamma. She was having a job, and after marriage didn't go to work and remained as a housewife. But from when I was born, until now, she always told me to study and do my work. She always takes of the kitchen and other duties. But all of my relatives are against this and were saying pillara paniedupikunila. 😢 male supremacy was a lot higher in the past generation than in our grandmother's time

[@sayanasai2921]

I want to tell you about my mother .3 varsham munpu ammakk sugamillathe hospital admitted aayi . Annu ammayude koode njn aayirunn bystander aayittu ninnath ath ende first experience aayirunn .athikondakam enikk enthacheyyndenn ariyillayirunn ,Ammakk eettavum aavashyamulla samayath Ammakk vendath cheyyan enikk pattiyilla .ippazhum enikkathil vishamam undu Amma chilappol athu marannittundakum pakshe enikk orikkalum marakkan aavilla Annu ende manasil oraayiram thavana ammayodu njn maappu chodichittundu . I never repeat that again. Amma ennum enikk vendiyanu jeevikkunnath .I always thankful for that 💯 I want mom to always be with me🙌

[@originalgangstercinderella9992]

7:34 oh man I'm melting away..

[@aathiravm3190]

As Rima said, You may not know the value of the space that you created Dhanya. Thank you.... Wonderful Interview..

[@Shiney_Listicles]

Rima, always bounces back from setbacks.❤😊

[@Anythingg-And-Everythingg]

U teared me multiple times rima.really missed you onscreen

[@ShubhaDoulath]

Such an inspiring talk show from Rima ! It just instigated how one should be in their own life be it a he/she .. Love and respect 💞

[@anushamohan4944]

So happy to see a positive comment box , compared to fb...an inspiration to many..n we could literally feel the pain u talked about when you were taken of the opportunity to do ur craft... As u said u speak for the many woman out there..

[@thanuachuthan8057]

This was such a beautiful conversation could relate to it so much.Achama and Amama were so powerful and bold amma despite working I feel sacrifice and struggle a lot more I have always thought of asking if she is happy and content but the truth is I know it .She always said don't need help and silently puts herself second. Can listen to you both speak forever..

[@devikap372]

Loved every bit of this talk.... Thank you so much Dhanya!!!

[@anilaajith6541]

Thank you for bringing such a bold nd beautiful woman♥️she is a precious gem 💎

[@archanasmenon5335]

@iamwithdhanyaverma thank you for getting rima to this show.....my struggles have got a face now....wat i have been try to say since years is been said. So happy to watch this. Its doubled by spirit to fight. Love u Rima❤

[@shruthymuralidharan]

Totally resonate with what they're saying. I always feared of getting trapped in the kitchen too like so many other women in our society. I wish my Mom could also relax and sit down to enjoy a movie every night with us rather than having to worry about the kitchen and us. Now, even when she has time, she does not enjoy a movie because she's just not used to it. Being a Mother is probably the best thing that can happen to a woman but don't loose yourself or your own life for another life

[@ambilystipscooks4474]

Dear Rima, you are absolutely right, and I'm so happy to see you again 😊

[@sangeethamadambi2946]

A big salute to a strong woman.. 🙏🏼👌🏼

[@merin_here_am_i]

I am happy that my mom is now living for her happiness. .After my sister and I gt married, they gt some space for themselves. I don't want my parents to take care my kid. They have done enough for me.

[@infinitegrace506]

And there is something called "empty nest syndrome" too..

[@shibbyskaria8325]

The question ...Why.. coz Rima you were meant to be here perhaps for us to realize what our mothers of our generation have sacrificed. Thank you, Rima & and I can't thank you enough, Dhanya❤

[@haritham334]

Exactly rima said it.. The space u create for this kind of talks with deserving people ❤️ hats off dhanya 💯❤‍🔥✨️

[@krip3930]

Ammak dreams chase chyan pattitillaann matram alla she doesnt even know what her dreams are...she doesnt even have one for her own..lives of all our mothers is a horror story..but the saddest part is..they never have a problem with that...they have done all this for us with utmost happiness...thinking thats how a mother is meant to be🥺🥺🥺😭😭😭❤️❤️❤️

[@believeinyourself2611]

Wow ..what a conversation,, Rima is wonderful and you too..❤❤❤

[@anjalimuralim]

Dhanya Ma'am, thank you for giving a safe space for people to sit & talk. Thank you for not choosing click bait lines or questions and making sure that you talk about relevant subjects. Thank you for being a good listener and being genuine. You are a star!!

[@priyagg-rv6lh]

Wish this talk would never end❤️

[@sruthi224]

Oh god! Parents karyam parayumbo it reminded me of my parents. I think ella parents same ayrikm. About being in d kitchen, about praying, about having a normal job or pg or anythn tht of normal. Ente mamma orma vannu. Ente ponnu dhanya chechi orale enkilm karayikathe viduo😅 ipo i feel for them at d same tym aa dhe eyalem karayichu. Angeya thonane. Ningal oru sambavam anu. Looking forward for each n every interview of urs. Great work.

[@snehajyothi5049]

My heart is soooo full 🥹🥰 Loved each and every bit if this.I always loved Rima, never judged her for what she has been doing all this while, bcoz I could always connect with her and ideologies 💙 She reflects my personality so much and just like the ppl who always think she is a stubborn woman ....they think of the same about me as well.Wonderful interview 🥳

[@shabananoufal9547]

First episode 👍.wait ചെയ്യുകയായിരുന്നു

[@sony1446]

Dhanya, you make me love your guests so much.. And Rima is so sprightly and lovable ❤

[@safarinsadiq8059]

Just waited for the "to be continued" phrase until u said..thank you for coming 🥺❤️

[@sudhasharma8121]

Dhanya ....I am a huge fan of yours...or you can say I admire you lot for the person you are....the way you speak...your presentation, the way you interact with everyone...keep going❤❤🥰🥰liked Rima kalingal too....the way she speaks ....very sweet....May God bless both of you🙏

[@daedaldaedalus8067]

What Rima chechi said at the end is so true. Thank you for bringing such a sensible show for us. Keep creating and keep having such honest conversations more and more ❤