Are You In Love or Obsessed? (5 Differences)

Love and obsession can sometimes go hand in hand, especially in a new and exciting relationship and can be perfectly normal. However, where does the line start to blur? How do you know when things have gone too far? Love is different from obsession, so in this video, we will be comparing love and obsession to find out. We'll also be talking about Obsessive Love Disorder (OLD).
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Writer: Sid Thompson
Script Editor: Rida Batool
Script Manager: Kelly Soong
Voice: Amanda Silvera ( / amandasilvera )
Animator: sarimopi ( / sarimopi )
KZbin Manager: Cindy Cheong
References:
Cherney, K. (2018, September 18). Obsessive Love Disorder. Healthline. www.healthline.com/health/obsessive-love-disorder
Fellizar, K. (2018, October 26). How To Tell The Difference Between Love And Obsession. Bustle.
www.bustle.com/p/how-to-tell-the-difference-between-love-obsession-13000434
Schwartz, S. (2022, June 18). Obsession vs Love: 12 Critical Differences You Should Know. Her Norm.
www.hernorm.com/obsession-vs-love/

[@Dev.Yadav.]

When you realize you're not in love just in love with the idea of being loved😔💔

[@endlesswonderland205]

Yeah, fantasy seems more beautiful than the reality.

[@Idontknowwhich]

Apparently love can make you blind.

[@anonymars.]

wow 😭

[@itscky2007]

Damn fr😔

[@Board64]

Damn that’s deep 😔

[@endlesswonderland205]

0:21 You need constant contact with little space 1:11 You don't truly want them to succeed 2:04 Your conversations are surface level 2:42 You give a lot of yourself 3:25 You have no long term goals Lol the third point punched me right in the face. Nowadays almost everything I care about is anything but surface level stuff (though this is a totally different story)

[@Psych2go]

Did you relate to this point?

[@endlesswonderland205]

@@Psych2go Personally, didn't. I think I am in a healthy relationship with my friends. I don't have a partner.

[@khalilahd.]

Thank you! 😊

[@feelstora3]

Thank you

[@kayla_scarlettthe_k9466]

The 1st one was with my ex before I broke up, tho, I needed someone to pull me out of that situation and he did (he's an online friend of mine) The 2nd one? Oh lord, she has voices in her head, now friendly I guess, but she also kept being so negative and wouldn't even let me succeed in fully helping her and seriously, she was the most negative person ever and I've never felt so burnt out in my entire life before I met her The 3rd one? It's not that surface level, but she mostly talks about her problems like I'm her therapist 4th one? I give a lot of myself because she seems more sensitive like seriously, I can't even be funny or joke around at all without them taking it literally And as for the 5th one, she only talks about it once before taking it the other way (and also, she wasn't only seeing other girls, she literally dated one while we were dating without confirmation of anything and at first they said "I'm bi" then said "I'm poly" after I found out then they said "I'm ace" after we broke up and then saying that she likes another person that is nonbinary) She was also pretty toxic, I felt like I couldn't talk to her without making her feel upset at me, she probably has gotten over the obsession on me to another person (btw, she's trans which is why I got a little confused when typing this long reply and almost type he instead of she and dw, I no longer have any connections with her, trying to get myself together and maybe also try to get a therapist for my past trauma that I never felt like it got closure at all when I'm older cuz my mom doesn't believe me and my dad doesn't even want to pay for an actual therapist so went to his friend that helped me a bit before it hit me again and also, my online friend is nice, but I got trust issues so it's taking me time to trust him and we face timed so dw, he's not a creepy old man that's for sure lol)

[@betelgoose9712]

I’m curious what it would look like if both partners were obsessed. It seems a bit unlikely but it’s an interesting thought to me that even though what two people might do may be a tad bit unhealthy, they do it together and to the same degree for each other. What a great video! Props to your artists for always making such cute imagery! Keep up the good work!

[@hippyelise1]

I think if both partners were obsessed it would look like a nightmare

[@doomfan8603]

Bonnie and Clyde come to mind

[@audreydoyle5268]

It's called shared limerence

[@sidnotsciencekid5309]

Yandere moment

[@aki_4191]

Unfortunately, it becomes way more toxic. I had been in one that because they are so obsessed, I think it's okay for me to do the same It's really a terrible situation to be in

[@kenrickbautista6141]

This is one of the real reasons why I've been single for the 26 years I been on this earth: I'm not sure if I'm really in-love with that person or just simply obsessed with them just for the sake of obsessing.

[@AL_-si8cz]

I'm afraid that I'll be going into the same path as you, I can't tell whether I truly like someone or I just don't want to be alone

[@Psych2go]

Is there a reason you haven't confessed or made initiatives to be with them?

[@jackmemphis777]

@@AL_-si8cz its probably a bit of both

[@jackmemphis777]

How do you plan on figuring out how to be in a relationship or ever navigating a long term one if you never attempt to have a relationship? You cant just sit there and second guess yourself. Take some action and see where it goes instead of being scared of the outcome

[@enzoamore8971]

​@@jackmemphis777 you're probably right. I always try to make sure if I'm actually having feelings towards someone. I have to be certain because I'm scared I'll then be lying, and then it was all for nothing. I never been in a relationship before in my life either.

[@ashwe832]

Weirdly enough, I experienced being obsessed and in love the same year but diff month. Thankfully I realized how toxic I was with my best friend. Before I thought I was just madly in love with her but overtime I got back to my senses and apologized to her and we started our relationship all over again. We've been best friends for the last six years and we have grown to have a much deeper and healthier bond. My story of experiencing being genuinely in love for the first time is another story but I can summarize it as: Full of warmth, changes, and green flags (and probably a lot of rollercoaster rides)

[@abcyes8887]

how can i stop being obsessed with my best friend? my mood depends on if she replys too me or not

[@ivannasilva6948]

Green flags? What is that?

[@Unknownlng]

@@abcyes8887 From my experience with being the obsessed person and being obsessed over... Definitely get more friends so you stop depending on this 1 person so much.

[@michaelagarner1282]

@@ivannasilva6948 Green flags probably mean positive signs that a relationship is healthy. Red flags are signs that a relationship is doomed to failure because of unhealthiness.

[@yimascat]

@@Unknownlng sometimes i end up obsessing over 2 people at the same time when this happens😭😭😭😭

[@UndercoverTherapist]

The worst part about this is that the line between healthy love and obsession can be very thin sometimes that you don't know when you cross it. I am glad we now have videos like this one to guide people and help them know when they are going over.

[@bumpkin8009]

I don't think it's thin at all. Of course at the beginning of the relarionship it is fine to obsess, but after some time it is very easy to notice if someone is too obsessive ( of course outside perspective can reveal this easily) and if the person can't really change you miggt have to just call it a day

[@UndercoverTherapist]

Well, it i think it might be thin for some people because they do not even know when they cross it.

[@casiel.]

i do feel obsessed, and i realized it more later on in the relationship. I'm trying to give them space they deserve, but im still.. "clingy" as some may say.

[@Psych2go]

Thanks for sharing. What do you plan to do next after this realization?

[@RayNightshade12]

I know what you mean. I was apparently acting this way with the last guy I had feelings for. Once you realize it, you have the opportunity to fix it

[@heyadanny4497]

Thank you! I literally just got out of an obsessive relationship with someone who I thought loved me, but was actually more obsessed with me. This person even flew a handful of states away to meet me, and.. well, at the end of the week I had to break it off. Guess we're both still learning about relationships and what we want. It hurt but it really was for the best. Y'all take care of yourselves first, ok?

[@lol-sl6nc]

You too!!

[@FBI-el4me]

I feel bad for both of you dang

[@jayantikumari795]

Thnx for sharing your opinion dude and take care you too

[@angelmarie2281]

That moment when you realize your entire relationship with your ex was an obsession.

[@Psych2go]

What were the giveaway signs?

[@lazyishardwork]

what moment? Were you sleeping through your relationship. Did you suddenly just pull your head from the sand. Why couldn't you sense aspects of your relationships gradually degrading. You went for pretty boy, you ignored the guys you didn't consider physically attractive and you paid the price. When you think you're too attractive for someone and are only open to your idea of guys who you think have a "god like" appearance, that's just poetic justice when you're turfed out for a younger prettier girl. You were obsessed with his appearance weren't you. For that I laugh

[@luigiboy72]

@@lazyishardwork oh wow it's really nice of you to assume the details of the entire situation and then judge the commentor based on just one sentence, i'm sure people will like that

[@doomfan8603]

@@lazyishardwork ... What makes you think that's the case here.

[@lazyishardwork]

@@luigiboy72 thanks, it was nice of me. You made my day :)

[@wolfcry087]

Glad this video just came out. Based on this video, my former relationship was a mix of what is considered "love" and what is considered "obsession", I did some of each for both things in that relationship.

[@Psych2go]

Hope this video helped!! How do you feel about realizing this?

[@nnirr1]

With you on that... My previous and only relationship definitely contained a lot of aspects of obsession on my part. On one hand, it feels bad to not be appreciated for any of your efforts and I'm still struggling with the trap of blaming myself for everything. On the other hand, I know how good it felt to be in a relationship even when it was so problematic and it makes me look forward with excitement towards the real deal.

[@tylerandari12]

Same actually…

[@lukiapotato8526]

Been there, buddy. These can also be signs of abuse/trauma from past relationships or even from childhood. I was clingy and fussy with my ex. We broke up, got together, then broke up again after I caught her cheating. That left me with trust issues I often manage but are easy to fall back into. You may even trust your current partner but feel insecure about you two, or skeptical of the people with whom they hang out. In that case, it's important to work on ourselves first. Good luck out there and stay safe!

[@wolfcry087]

@@Psych2go I guess I feel glad that I'm more self aware, going through that relationship did make me realize a lot about myself and I've become more self aware and in better control with my emotions and anxiety. I have hope I'll be better in my next relationship :)

[@Dev.Yadav.]

Sometimes they don't love you they just love that they have you. It took me a few years to figure that out lol

[@latoyadale5747]

Even if they DON'T have YOU... Some people just LOVE the WAY that YOU LOVED them!🙃 People nowadays will give you FAKE LOVE and CONDITIONAL LOVE but expect GENUINE and REAL LOVE in return!🙅🏽‍♀️ For those that's seeking relationships... Beware!🤣

[@drivingengine5717]

Glorify Undefinable, The Answerer or The Harmonizer of Matter Controllers of Body, By eternal Existence hope to Undefinable alone, be Serene and judge by how Matter executes, the Identity can exist in every possibility! Ask guidance and what You can't get to The Answerer, THAT allowed You into this body, THAT gave truth for clean-minded in subconscious, and increase the way! All ways in their depth mentions Lord of Existence, don't take what's unknown, until You will understand it! Compose Your own makings, and You will be supported! Blessed is Controller of Man united with intuition and subtle joy! That relies to The Originator alone, That chooses by the best, That hears brainwaves and sees eye pixels! The life can be mastered, for rules were made simple to Observant! Don't be fearful of destiny, as We're parts of Possibilities, that have freewill with Serenity! With wonders of environment and fasting, be satisfied! Avoid high anti-nutrient, PUFA, synthetic food - allow wheatgrass, fruit seeds and fermented food! Experiencer of senses, Observer's ownership over alive structure. About gifts and goals for Tranquil based from pair Container's perform Stable systems serve nature and Matter has shape memory and dual likes, don't change perfected bodies! Simulation theory is insufficient, and lucid dreams are managed by nutritionally sufficient and aware! Challenging are the days of Dullness and a sad burden to anyone that didn't seek independence, no first-cause was miracle-free! Great are the days of Responsibility that nourish the Soul! We always existed! Every Position is possible, You are in this body! World is created for Spectator's favor! Multiverse is in balance for Purpose! Viewer's event record is forever! Any place is special! By Foundations: Praise The Harmonizer!

[@khalilahd.]

I think the younger you are the more likely the love you’re feeling is obsession and I wish I knew the difference between the two when I was younger 😵‍💫

[@ordusrosae4940]

Clearly obsession is also a form Of being in love but conditioned by a lot of fears and insecurities.

[@star-stonelegend]

I was asking myself if what I am feeling is love or obsession and this video was released at the best time ...this did help me answer most of my questions. Thank you.

[@joanna.5552]

*when you have both signs of obsession AND love* ...

[@Unknown-kh7gv]

yes i need to know more about this topic.. i don't wanna believe that she's not the one for me, i just want to fix our relationship and make it healthy

[@dracaboi214]

Thank you. My last relationship I had was definitely obsession from her, but I'm hoping good things for the newest relationship I have.

[@heyadanny4497]

Yeah! Wish you the best, stranger!

[@vapour_xs9235]

This answered so many questions I've had in the past. As far as I know now, I've gone through 2 relationships that were very obsessive. Both times my partner was very obsessive over me and constantly wanted to be around me, even going as far as breaking my boundaries, such as: pulling me away from friends and family, guilt tripping me into being with them whether it be passive or direct, and always watching where I was. I always found it super creepy when my partner would text me "You never told me you'd be at (friends names) house??", signalling that they were watching me through Find My Friends on their phone... I had conversations with them about it and they always just sorta pushed it off... I don't get it... Why do some people want you all to themselves. It's not like the world is going to take me away, I'm still here. I wish I could sit down with one of my ex's and ask them this without them throwing a bunch of jargin in my face about me breaking up with them. Hell, I wish I could've sat down with them During the relationship and asked them about this and had them understand. Dating is hard... But, from past experiences comes a present mind for future events. We learn from everything

[@sgaf7001]

Our conversations were always just on a surface level. Whenever I try to open up, I could tell he's not taking it seriously. I never had a moment where I could feel that I could count on him. He likes talking to me, but only about his romantic plans and ideals. I had to say bye after trying to build that emotional connection that we don't have. It's for the both of us. Even if we do find ourselves being in a relationship, it will still not work. Not with an emotional person like me.

[@drivingengine5717]

Glorify Undefinable, The Answerer or The Harmonizer of Matter Controllers of Body, By eternal Existence hope to Undefinable alone, be Serene and judge by how Matter executes, the Identity can exist in every possibility! Ask guidance and what You can't get to The Answerer, THAT allowed You into this body, THAT gave truth for clean-minded in subconscious, and increase the way! All ways in their depth mentions Lord of Existence, don't take what's unknown, until You will understand it! Compose Your own makings, and You will be supported! Blessed is Controller of Man united with intuition and subtle joy! That relies to The Originator alone, That chooses by the best, That hears brainwaves and sees eye pixels! The life can be mastered, for rules were made simple to Observant! Don't be fearful of destiny, as We're parts of Possibilities, that have freewill with Serenity! With wonders of environment and fasting, be satisfied! Avoid high anti-nutrient, PUFA, synthetic food - allow wheatgrass, fruit seeds and fermented food! Experiencer of senses, Observer's ownership over alive structure. About gifts and goals for Tranquil based from pair Container's perform Stable systems serve nature and Matter has shape memory and dual likes, don't change perfected bodies! Simulation theory is insufficient, and lucid dreams are managed by nutritionally sufficient and aware! Challenging are the days of Dullness and a sad burden to anyone that didn't seek independence, no first-cause was miracle-free! Great are the days of Responsibility that nourish the Soul! We always existed! Every Position is possible, You are in this body! World is created for Spectator's favor! Multiverse is in balance for Purpose! Viewer's event record is forever! Any place is special! By Foundations: Praise The Harmonizer!

[@moonfire32]

@@drivingengine5717 what in the fuckaroos

[@NoRockinMansLand]

Her voice is very soothing

[@Psych2go]

Thank you!!

[@balazsszucs7055]

I'm glad to say that I'm actually in love and not obsessed. Although it was me diagnosing myself, so I might be biased.

[@minapaige2276]

This is something a lot of people should be looking out for because people think that being obsessed with their partner will solve all the problems but in reality if you’re a believer in God like me, it’s actually having a person as an idol and that causes more problems instead of actually solving any of them. So really balance out whether you are obsessed or in love. This is a message for me too

[@cha_hoe]

I don’t get what god has to do w this but great message

[@samanthajeffers9339]

True true.

[@minapaige2276]

@@cha_hoe I referred it with God because I wanted to get my point across.

[@cha_hoe]

@@minapaige2276 pretty unusual but you have a point 🤔

[@ordisidro5927]

well actually there is some philosophy out there that supports your statement. søren kierkegaard argues that in seeing God as an object/idol, there would be no reason to pursue belief in him since we are certain of his existence and everything about him, making him seem uninteresting, and giving no more reason to have faith. i guess the same would go for people- why would you want to be with them if there’s nothing more to discover? we need that sense of mystery in our lives to keep us going with them, and we need the space from them to keep this sense of mystery alive.

[@siimplybrxnie1478]

I saw you’re community post, i hope this comment helps a little i don’t always need the video’s you Guys make but i always find comfort in the animations and voice thank you very much. ❤

[@naomi9657]

I think I'm obsessed with my close friends but none of these signs match. A lot of your videos about crushes or relationships are somewhat relatable and I can understand how they can be similar in a friendship, but this one seemed a bit different, or at least for me. Could you make a video about being obsessed or clingy over friends? Or maybe how your parents, childhood or trauma can affect your relationships with other people?

[@PotatoChipse]

Guilty of being obsessed when I was younger. Now I give my partner space and I am actually happy to because I feel secure and I know its healthy!

[@casiel.]

0:20 - you need constant contact with little space 1:13 - you don't truly want them to succeed 2:04 - your conversations are surface level 2:46 - you give a lot of yourself 3:28 - you have no long term goals

[@pariscortez4190]

I think its obsession when you dont know the person well...

[@brain_respect_and_freedom]

Don't watch movies about 'love'. Usually they create drama for viewers. Better be alone than obsessed. 💟

[@RayPeng-07]

Ugh... not making any boundaries i na relationship and no matter if with a partner or a close friend can be destructive. I always thought, that if I won't give any limits to others they will be happy and do the same to me to be happy... but lets say it... It;s so not true ^^' If there are no boundaries people can go too far AND when we finally start to make some boundaries, they will dislike it and show their disapproval. I remember my old experiences. Too bad that I hadn't seen such smart animations years ago. Then things would go for me a lot better. Thank you a lot for another valuable episode psych2go!

[@munkeefinkelbeen5395]

A must see for certain fandoms these days. These are all things I ask myself when I'm attracted to someone. I try to stay grounded when approaching a relationship... seen too many fail in my lifetime

[@adelle8613]

The voice acting in some parts are amazing! Thank u for these amazing videos!!!♡

[@itsnei6711]

The timing on these topics when I needed it the most. Thank you

[@KingOfTheClowns]

So far, I'm only a minute in and I'm already glad that you made this. Now, I think I can safely say that I'm not obsessed. I can go a straight 48 or more hours with no contact of my friends.

[@jackmemphis777]

thats great that you can ignore your friends for 48 hours, but this is more so talking about a romantic relationship. I live with my wife so its impossible to go more than a day without contact and thats just when we are both working and are hanging with our families separately. Even before we were married we still hung out with each other almost every day and when we didnt see eachother in person, we would video chat (the relationship started with video chatting every day and not seeing each other as much in person since we used to live an hour away, but then I decided to make that drive almost every day)

[@WonderlandSnack]

@@jackmemphis777 you have *also* missed the point the video was makin, but good for you! !

[@_kokokola_6660]

reee- I can't even survive one day without my sister O>O like- if she's in the country I'm fine- bc ik I can just get a bus and get to her but when she outta dis country, that's when I start to crumble O>O I'm still trying to cope with it by distracting my mind- (mainly by focusing on myself and working on my anxiety)

[@lol-sl6nc]

@@_kokokola_6660 im wishing you the best!!

[@_kokokola_6660]

@@lol-sl6nc aw thx! :)

[@kevinnnit]

This channel always recommended me at a perfect time

[@iamgoddessoflove]

Don't allow the person who didn't love you, keep you from the one who will. 💙KZbinr That Helps People Overcome Toxic Relationships

[@seraphi3387]

I've dealt with 2 guys who showed signs of obsession towards me. It was very uncomfortable and scary for me. Thankfully I took initiative and cut all ties with them before it got any worse. And I knew they were not in love with me, just in love with the idea of it. They just mistook my kindness for me being interested in them.

[@Acrobia]

Any other signs you might’ve noticed? I’m curious as to what pointed it out for you!

[@seraphi3387]

Deep unease within your heart is definitely one of them

[@anime_girl4626]

God this is exactly my life 😨

[@playerunkown2477]

You have the perfect voice for this! You sound so calm and soothing like a caring mom. Love your videos, they have helped me not fall into toxic situations. Amazing work!

[@ArtsyAustin]

I am currently in my first ever relationship with my boyfriend, and I'm obsessing so much. Probably caused by my history of being left behind, and switching friends so much. I'm just happy he's patient and understanding, and we do talk about my obsessive tendencies. I do try my best not to obsess over him and give him space.

[@jesuswasgay]

Thank you for posting this. I'm in the same situation except we've been together for 4 years and I still can't be normal about him. I try to curb my clingy tendencies but it's so hard that it causes me intense duress when causes me to feel so bad that I can't function lol just kinda vegatating in a spiral of self loathing

[@peytonibarra8992]

I used to think it was love, now I realize it was obsession. Now I set boundaries for myself, I try to be more genuine and I know the signs for when it isn't in the cards. I make a lot more great friends now, and I am not stressed about maintaining a facade every two seconds. I do love my most recent friend, but the timing wasn't right, and I need her more as a friend than a romantic interest. Life is pretty good so far.

[@So-Many-Orphans_.Husky.]

I honestly obsess over people but not in a necessarily bad way. Like I have attachment issues so when someone comes into my life I will do whatever I can to not lose them. I’m the type of person to buy my partner things all the time to make them happy, though I’ve never been in a relationship due to being young. Even with my mom, if she doesn’t get home when she says she will I will look at the map showing where she is. It’s not that I’m needy or one of those annoying girls who is basically glued to their boyfriend, I just hate the thought of them leaving so I will try making them as happy as possible. I’ve lost way to many people in my life due to loss and just drifting apart that especially with a significant other, I want to be with them forever. I get a bit creepy, I know. I watch my crushes go to each class to figure out their schedule and locker and when they go to lunch. To me its more of a comfort thing, knowing where they are or how close they are.

[@JessicaDarling2]

Hi there 👋🏻 You said you are young - have you ever been assessed for anxiety? If you’re open to suggestions, you could look into that. It seems like you live with a lot of fear of loss as your base level, and you don’t have to feel that way. 🫂❤️ Lots of love

[@Lavenderrose73]

Sounds like separation anxiety, rather than obsession, but that's just a guess.

[@BumbliBee]

Thank you for this. These are good things to keep tabs on!

[@kandykornpumpkins]

I seriously needed this video. Thank you!!! 💚

[@pinnacle9774]

Amazing video as always! Providing insight to our relationships and daily lives.

[@Mennenth]

Number 4 is the kicker for me. I cant help but to give a lot of myself. I have a huge heart, giving comes as naturally to me as breathing does.

[@therabbidt]

Thank god for showing me this video. This was really useful and educational! Thank you!

[@synerzu]

Wow I relate with every single point on this one That explains why my last relationship ended terribly

[@wynn6938]

Not only the content is so interesting but also the animation is so cool!!!!!!

[@SupercarRiderAA]

Love is patient and understanding. Great content thanks.

[@shinygoomy9784]

I love your art style!!

[@mlpmadness2911]

This is really interesting. Glad I learned about this

[@TheNetherLord5240]

i love the 'a few moments later' voice the narrator put on. Loved the rest of the video, but that part was just funny.

[@Zanodia]

In my past relationships, I showed a mix of both the positive and negative aspects covered in this video.

[@jujuoof174]

Very nice and calming!!!

[@Vanji3]

this is really helpful thank youu❤️❤️🌻

[@Benny-ws4gw]

Thank you so much, my first relationship was like this. I guess I learned from her that this is how you should be, always talking and never having time apart, but I was just unhappy. It became more a routine of doing what she wanted me to do than me actually enjoying it. I hope this isn't too personal but I appreciate this video!

[@iluvpink1176]

I honestly need this ❤

[@-Nightingales]

We love the videos again they're absolutely amazing and beautiful and extremely helpful!! ❤️

[@kulshumkhatoonshah9587]

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An obsession can easily be compared to an addiction. Personally, I remember when I had a huge obsession with this girl I used to be very close friends with years ago. Her name was Whitney. Whitney was in the same grade as me, and the 2 of us shared a few classes together in the 8th Grade during the 2004-2005 school year. Not only did she and I have a lot of mutual friends, but my family actually knew hers for years. Matter of fact, my late father was really good buddies with her father. It's like Whitney and I inherited our friendship from our fathers. However, shortly after High School started for me and Whitney, Whitney eventually found my attention towards her to be more than she bargained for. Even if I wanted to, I couldn't have backed off from her easily as a result of the obsession I had with her. In all honesty, Whitney was NEVER my girlfriend. Nobody ever was. It was just these obsession induced delusions going around in my head that had me thinking that she was my girlfriend. Eventually, much to my dismay, I wound up on the receiving end of a no-contact order from her. I soon backed off. Later on, in the 11th Grade, it seemed that Whitney and I were in the process of reconciling, but it didn't take long for Whitney to develop a habit of leading me on by acting nice to me in person only to go behind my back and tell the school staff that I was bothering her. Eventually, in April 2008, the police made the no-contact order more strict. Tragedy struck on June 10, 2008 when lunch break came around. I got to my usual table (not knowing that Whitney planned on sitting there). When Whitney saw me there, she made up a story about me stealing her seat while she got up to "get a bottle of water" and called the police to arrest me. I tried to explain myself about what really happened, but I was cut off mid-sentence and arrested as a result of the false accusation that Whitney made against me. I had to go to court every month. This was a very traumatizing experience for me. I remember it well like it was yesterday. As long as I live, I will NEVER forget it. Now that I'm free from the obsession I used to have with Whitney (as if 2012), as "atonement" for my past obsessive actions, I now have intentions of remaining single for the rest of my life to prevent myself from developing a romantic interest in ANYONE ever again. Now while I do realize that people are trying to help by telling me that they're sure that I might "find the right woman", I highly doubt it. The incidents that took place in High School took their toll on me, permanently scarring me for life. However, while I do realize that no-contact orders are to protect stalking victims from stalkers (which is what they SHOULD be used for instead of being hijacked for use as weapons of prejudice against people who have autism like me), I have a burning hatred for them because of my bad experience of being on the receiving end of such a thing for unfair reasoning. NOTE: If Whitney herself ever happens by even the slightest chance to find my comment here, "DO NOT, I repeat, DO NOT TAKE THIS PERSONALLY!! If you didn't get me in trouble with the police, some other woman would've! The thing is, the incidents in High School involving the 2 of us could've happened with ANYONE I would've developed an infatuation with, and the consequences could've been a lot worse, especially if it were someone whose family never knew my family, as well as someone who never knew anyone I was ever friends with! I encourage you to at least be glad that I'm free now from the obsession I used to have with you. But hey, despite my single life preference, I am aware of the positive things about being married, so I do respect the marriages of others. I don't know if you're married or not Whitney, but if you are, congratulations on your marriage".

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There is power and facing trauma and healing from it. It sounds like you're already becoming a better person because of it

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Glad me and my partner aren't going through this anymore. Thanks for making the video

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[@idkwong]

I am finally convinced the last "crush" i had was just me liking to be in love with someone, while now i have a new one that made me realize what a crush is under different eyes and i am now shure this time is real

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One thing to note is that not all people are lively in a relationship but that doesn't mean they don't love their partner to the core. Some people don't like loud noises, areas, or situations that make them get overwhelmed. It's important to know that if you see this in your partner, have a talk in an environment where the other feels safe. The partner may meet the other things pointed out in the video except for the level of noise which may be from past, personality, stress, or something else. If it's changeable, help them. If it's their personality, don't help them unless they have a goal where they want to challenge themselves with being louder but needs a bit of help and courage. It's then your choice after the talk to break up or stay with them despite their quiet habits. Whichever you choose, don't be scared to let your partner know the changes. It's bad for them to know because it makes them sad but 10x as worse if you're hiding it from them. It's like a company. Tell, people may not be as mad. Hide then tell at a later date, extremely bad.

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For the longest time I didn't know what real love was. Every relationship I had was an illusion because I had convinced myself that I loved them when in reality I was obsessive and constantly thinking about them for absurd reasons. It was only during my first mushroom trip when I felt real love and realized what it was, then afterward I've had a few more and my brain has been reset ever since. I am no longer obsessive and now I am just fine being single until I meet the right one.

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[@Psych2go]

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In love with the grind 🤓

[@wannesweuts5147]

Nice video, have been in my first relationship for 2 months and it's nice to at least have a slight idea that I'm doing the right thing

[@kitteneyejo]

2 of these apply for me right now; the ones about conversation and long term goals we both have past experiences that make opening up and being vulnerable difficult, but hopefully it can improve with time and effort

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Thanks for the information. I know they are similar but radically different.

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This is pretty eye opening

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[@olafgurke4699]

Phew. I was worried I'd be obsessing over someone I currently like, but it seems that's not the case. Thanks for this vid, and all the other great ones!

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how did you absolutely nail the "a few moments later"

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Nice video!

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Very informative video..put it so well

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[@undeddjester]

It's nice when you click on one of these videos holding this as a fear, only to realise, yes, you do actually have love this person, even if you have wait.

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love you channel it help me a lot..i've been following you since 2018

[@Psych2go]

That's awesome. What kept you here with us?

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love this channel... or is it obsession?! ~looks around nervous just kidding! ty for the videos, they're helping me a lot in life :)

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Omg you're voice at 1:15 was *SO CUTE* 😍 💖

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THX YOUUU, you helped me to discern those 2 types of thing in m'y comportement, m'y mind is clear now le'ts gooo

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Hi!! Thank you sm for uploading this video because i was wondering wether i am obsessed with my fav boy band or something :) really helped !

[@gabrielestrada8770]

had to check with myself, I'm in love not obsessed. thanks for making this.

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I’ll forget this information by tomorrow, but the animations are too good.

[@Psych2go]

Aww. Just watch for the cutesy.

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