Never Let Go Of Someone With These 9 Character Traits

Are you still looking for a soulmate? Or have you found the one yet? Though the advent of dating applications has made the search for “the one” easier, not every relationship works. Finding “the one” has become difficult. Scientists have spent years trying to figure out the best qualities a potential suitor needs to bring into a relationship to make it a happy and long-lasting relationship. For those fortunate enough to find themselves in a long term relationship and are thinking of settling down, it might be worth watching this video to see if your special someone has any of these character traits!
If you found this video helpful, but are still doubtful about whether they are the one specifically for you, we have a video on that too: • 10 Signs You've Found ...
Writer: Sara Del Villar
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[@Psych2go]

What is one character trait that you value the most? Comment below! Let see what others have to say :)

[@ninaa9061]

That they care as much as I do for them :)

[@Psych2go]

@@ninaa9061 You sound like a very sweet person. Caring is a good character trait :)

[@arpitkumar4525]

Respect

[@ethanalgicosathlonchannel1110]

Kindness

[@Mani-ks2em]

Hey idk If you know me but I ask my crush and she is the best person I ever see

[@vedantchaudhari5385]

Big Brain Moment: You should have these qualities too

[@anitashahare4124]

And I actually does😳😳

[@melraidfadrago4759]

man i'm not gonna pretend that i fit this mould all that well...

[@navyasharma2989]

Yep, I need to work on myself more,to provide all of these tips completely. You shouldn't look for something you can't offer yourself.

[@jaemaxx]

Absolutely,to find the right person you first have to be the right person!

[@adriel1478]

Biggest brain: I'm watching this to know which traits people want

[@kero.j]

" If someone makes you happy, _make them happier._ "

[@aprilharrison5814]

I love this. Thank you for sharing!

[@Psych2go]

This is such a good quote :' ) Did you come up with it yourself? -Monica

[@kero.j]

@@aprilharrison5814 I'm glad!! :)

[@kero.j]

@@Psych2go Oh, nono! I think it's anonymous, although I'm not too sure. Nevertheless, it's beautiful indeed :)

[@janette6993]

Define ‘someone whom makes you happy ?” A sociopath can ‘love Bomb’ you and make you ‘happy’ too. Exercise care in choosing is wise.

[@nowanimportant8887]

If you got someone who is: • Never gonna give you up • Never gonna let you down • Never gonna run around and desert you • Never gonna make you cry • Never gonna say goodbye • Never gonna tell a lie and hurt you Then you better treat them right because they've been doing that to you. You know the rules, and so do they.

[@slayerdwarfify]

Memes aside, pretty much. That is the ideal relationship

[@beaumatthews6411]

Gold

[@samuelWx]

Rickrolled!

[@kinbre4448]

😂😂😂

[@vidhac5430]

Hehe, I'm the 100th like

[@velmasablan2290]

I think this list can apply not only to romantic partners but to close friends and family as well.

[@TrinhNguyen-sh4fj]

So true and this is healthy for all relationships not just romantic ones.

[@PlanetPsych]

All you u need is some1 who loves your weirdness, wants to spend time with you and most importantly, respects you

[@tianna6824]

So whats it like being a time traveler

[@tianna6824]

And why did you go backwards in time not forward

[@TheKyleFyles]

Yesterday Trump supporters stormed the capital building, bypassing police unhurt and staged a coup to overthrow the election. It didn't work, and the electoral votes were counted in Biden's favor. Also, its 2021, we made it! This has been a news update from your future.

[@Peachys.presents]

Well damn I better ask him out already what am I doing...

[@ki8488]

Yeah true

[@chanamand]

1. They emotionally and mentally support you 2. They engage in your personal growth 3. They are emotionally intelligent 4. They are understanding 5. They are kind 6. They are respectful (of your opinions, experiences, boundaries) 7. They know how to compromise 8. They accept your flaws 9. They share your core values (marriage, family, religion)

[@mohvtguhvr]

Thnx ❤️

[@Michelle82530]

Thanks

[@lincion]

Scrolled for this! Thanks!

[@monaural2.988]

Er...good luck finding someone who can check all these boxes. 99 percent of the time you have to take something you DONT like to get the things you do. This is a HUGE reason why a lot of marriages hit the toilet.

[@msladycelerysoup]

I checked all 9, got dumped

[@Artistbrits]

7 years with my husband who has all these qualities. Our relationship is always warm, peaceful and calm.

[@futgamer811]

hope I can found a relationship like yours someday

[@Artistbrits]

@@futgamer811 ❤️

[@Pelis_Chilangobythesea]

have You ever breakup?

[@Artistbrits]

@@Pelis_Chilangobythesea no. Not once

[@Pelis_Chilangobythesea]

so I recentlly break up a 4 month relationship. I was the rebound, You see? It really hurt me a lot: comparissons, sexual rejection, mega rush, pocketing, manipulation, etc (love is blind) She told me she was a very emotional intelligent person and that i would never find a gurl like her ever. After This conversations it just took her 3 weeks yo to reach out again her ex who has dump her 3 times before. I need your feedback.

[@kowalchukm]

don't forget that "accepting someone's flaws" does not mean you need to tolerate flawed behavior that negatively impacts you. Toxic or malicious behavior is not a "flaw" you need to accept. I had someone who acted this way and I was always told by him that I should "love and accept him the way he is" which would include accepting lies, manipulation, control, narcissism, cheating..the list goes on.

[@ryanwondertroll]

you should

[@xornedge8204]

Agreed. But just to add: that also applies to an emotionally unstable partner. Don’t be with someone who constantly drags you down with them. You don’t have to be kind and generous when you’re the only one giving positivity in the relationship.

[@adamsraphael526]

​@@xornedge8204 this can be very misleading

[@xornedge8204]

@@adamsraphael526 I guess some people can confuse it but to make it clearer: when someone is with you and it only makes your life more miserable, the obvious thing is to not be with them any longer. The rest is up for interpretation of each person.

[@Sophia-wcDM9]

Melanie K TRUTH.

[@ICEcoldJT]

“You deserve someone who’s gonna treat you like you matter everyday. Not just when it’s convenient for them.” 🙏🏽

[@hunnyb1308]

FACTS!!!👏👏👏👏👏👏👏

[@tartaraglicious3443]

Factssss

[@Psych2go]

It is so true! Keep this quote to your heart. Everyone deserve someone's treat them like you matter every seconds, minute, days, and years :) - Cindy

[@keiron.4612]

Unfortunately that Will never happen

[@natasha_val]

Keep talking your facts!

[@marcelanajar3703]

Im never letting myself go. Perfect catch.

[@KathleenRenninger]

What a marvelous view ! We should all support, be kind to, & love ourselves like this.

[@sumitambre6708]

Same I was thinking while watching video...😎

[@evamarek5205]

Ha ha ha.

[@Psych2go]

That's right. Love yourself!

[@C_mao]

me too

[@LarryPanozzo]

26 years I’ve been with someone with these crucial qualities. And that person…is me. ❤

[@brb6769]

Thats Great👍

[@FunnyJaguar-ur6kq]

Never be in a relationship😂 it's ok to watch video

[@Nanamka]

These qualities are gold not only in partners, but in friends too. Cherish such people in your life. They are a real blessing.

[@dannyboygregory-mccormick9157]

Alternative title: 9 traits that you should strive to achieve, in order to be a good partner. Edit: so it's been 8 months and I actually have been trying to put into practice what I said here. Although my partner and i have been together for 9 years, within just this past year we have grown so much closer by just by really trying to put ourselves in each others shoes. In the beginning I used to get upset at my partner because I felt like I was always giving more than they would give back. Instead of telling them this I would lash out and became petty and passive agressive. but now things are different, we still fight but we always try to express exactly what this issue is instead of blaming each other. If you are having a hard time finding someone, my advice to you is look for somone who is willing to learn but don't also forget to be willing to see things though their eyes. Sometimes you will fight and when you do really listen to what they are saying before calling them out on their insecurities, they may need your help when no one else can provide it.

[@emiliakarlsson2972]

I have all of them, but I don’t find seem to find anyone who is like that, like a true friend. They just stab me in the back and people just judge me :/

[@bgshok5841]

@@emiliakarlsson2972 saaaaaame

[@psibarpsi]

Exactly what I was here for.

[@wabbitseason8187]

@@emiliakarlsson2972 the reality is that the most peaceful are marvelous and selfish, it's hard to find the right partner that is worth holding on.

[@shriyapalsule4790]

@@emiliakarlsson2972 I am sorry for u I hope they don't judge u anymore...

[@Lost_Scarf]

"Psych2go's mission is to make physcology and mental health more accessible to everyone" *Everyone liked that*

[@Psych2go]

thank you for making this possible. your support means a lot to us! -Monica

[@Lost_Scarf]

@@Psych2go *ｏ(≧▼≦○〃*

[@timgrot1385]

I left a toxic marriage of 23 years, spent three years rebuilding the man who was torn down that long .. But I did, and I now have a girl who checks 9 for 9... I never knew life could be this good when you're finally with "your" person..so to all those out there coming out of abusive relationships, especially the men, there is hope. You are worth loving and finding that person who does the same back to you.

[@childkillers_shouldve_NoState]

❤

[@richardoliver8174]

This made me realize my ex isn’t a narcissist and neither am I. We met after suffering narcissistic abuse and were there for each other for a long time, but we have different values and goals and neither of us is wrong for wanting what we want.

[@simong7504]

A good one ! Each not blaming the other for a break up, and knowing separation the right thing for both partners, allows both to move on without resentment and other emotional baggage. Not a bad outcome at all, assuming no children. Well done.

[@Hyderagean]

When you watch this video because you miss somebody, just to realize that YOU were the one who should've been held on to... 👌

[@osodelososos5552]

Same!

[@marykirsten7773]

Agreed sister!!! Best of luck to us both finding the person we deserve--xoxo

[@elizabethcaron2970]

Yep, self love is finding someone who is going to reciprocate the energy we put in.

[@D.Molleda]

Yes they will realize we were the best thing they let go of 👏🏼

[@caniesrockers8440]

Reciprotate is?

[@koolgurl402]

Not only is this important for couples but it’s also important for friendships

[@dr.raccoon7002]

oh yea lol I commented that before I saw yours but was looking for someone who said it

[@EspeonjaGlaceonFilms]

do you think its important for family also?

[@questingadventures2355]

@@EspeonjaGlaceonFilms of course!

[@Jackgritty28]

Let go of any bad character trait,support or validate her feelings,I need to feel rewarded for my effort,I need to feel happy about myself,difficult emotions make you feel frustrated,it's crucial to the relationship,domination issues could ruin it if they are uncompromising,accept the situation for what it is instead of feeling resentment,show your value systems are compatible💲

[@hellkey002]

I was about to say it. Lol. Thank you. :)

[@peytonibarra8992]

I found someone I like a lot, but we both agreed we are better as friends. Doesn't have to just be romantic relationships, guys. Find these people in general, they are literal life savers!

[@AnastaciaInCleveland]

Number 9 is so very important. After a divorce from a man who showed none of these character traits, I vowed that I would only get involved with a person who shared my values. I started to date a guy at church (I'm a Unitarian), but he was all show and no substance. He, too, lacked many of the characteristics shown in this video as well as a few values that I found to be important. Not to be deterred, I still kept my eye out as I continued to live my life. It didn't take very long. I had to do some training for work. The instructor was interesting, and the other students in the class seemed to have a high regard for him. After the training was over, we started talking about politics. I could tell from his position on the issues that he shared some values in common with me. It turned out that he thought that I was attractive, and we started dating. I've been with him now for over 15 years. It's the best relationship that I have ever had. Hold out for someone who shares your values. You'll be glad that you did! ~ Anastacia in Cleveland

[@SweetUniverse]

I'm also careful about meeting a man at church. A lot of them seem to use it as a Singles Mingle, even if they aren't single.

[@hassanachahboun2687]

Thanks for being honest and sincere

[@AnastaciaInCleveland]

@@SweetUniverse I did date a man from church before I met my sweetie. He was awful! So full of himself!

[@kele4135]

I love people who are kind to everybody. It's important for me to see how they treat others, no matter their status. I wouldn't want someone around who is only nice when there is something in return.

[@polandball8877]

I'm only nice when I get just a zeptosecond of support (even though I don't deserve it, i'm going to quit when it gets hard anyway) *wish my parents had helped, i never got support from them*

[@emiliakarlsson2972]

I have all of those traits, but almost everyone I know are the opposite, they just stab me in the back and judge me :/

[@maryadeledavis8577]

@@polandball8877 I’m sorry. You sound unhappy. I understand your statement re your parents. It may help to have a friend with whom you could both vent. I wish you well.

[@maryadeledavis8577]

@@emiliakarlsson2972 I’d say the same to you that I replied to Polandball. It helps to have someone you can open up to. You just may be wrong to others’ reactions. Please try again. Good luck.

[@emiliakarlsson2972]

@@maryadeledavis8577 thank you :)

[@ascotcomm]

I have been married for 11 years and can say after watching this, I feel like the luckiest, happiest man to walk this world

[@Okaley576]

May God bless you, i wish I can say the same.

[@anjaliekunwar]

we don't know each other but im happy for you

[@32BitSean]

I am happy for you two. Keep going! I have been married for 17 years, and regret it. Deeply. Sticking with it for the good of our son has seen me through this storm. He has been my best friend through all of the turbulence, and that, makes me the luckiest man I know.

[@userm180]

im very happy for you :) may God bless u both

[@userm180]

@@32BitSean how old is your son? would he understand if u and ur partner were to break up?

[@jeffscott941]

I found this perfect person about 3 years ago. I thought it wasn’t possible, but she exists! This video describes our relationship the last 3 years and just reminds me of how amazing we are together.

[@k_v8420]

not a romantic relationship but a friend of mine has all the qualities included in the video... i have known her since elementary and even if we are in a long distance, our relationship never changed and how we treat each other is all the same... i am very grateful that i've met her coz she's actually the only one i can lean on and talk about my personal thoughts... i am an introvert and it's really hard for me to open up and it took a while before i told her about my problems, but i've realized that there is nothing wrong of opening up and that i should not be ashamed. i am also glad that i told her about it (my problems) coz it helped me grow and acknowledge that i am not the only one who's struggling emotionally. i would say that she is the person i have put my trust on and whom i'm very thankful for. thanks r.

[@HIXHAM]

Cherish the one who makes you glad to be different, rather than forcing you to fit in 🙌🏾❤️

[@anevara1780]

This! ^-^

[@Psych2go]

Psilove

[@FelixGotGamefr]

Yes, but sadly I have a toxic friend but the thing is Idk should I stop being friends with her or I should try to Improve her actions of how toxic she can be.

[@user-hw6bi5uc1q]

I don't have that person in my life, at least not yet

[@TTMS-Khaz-kun]

@@FelixGotGamefr Take this as a grain of salt, as I am but an unknown person to your situation, but: Do you think your friend displays any guilt or remorse for their toxic behaviour? Are they aware they are being toxic in the first place? Do *you* think they are worth the time and effort to be put into trying to make them better as a person? If yes, then you could try help your friend out of their toxic behaviour. If no, it might be better to distance yourself from them. There are kinder people out there. I hope you have a wonderful day!

[@valerieunger211]

A sense of humor! My husband and I make each other laugh all the time and we have now been married nearly 47 years! I think we now also possess a lot of these qualities you mentioned, but some we’ve had to work on.

[@MylenaMcWhirter]

This made my heart so happy 🥺 I got engaged to my fiancé a year ago, we’ve been together for 2 years. Despite’s the ups and downs, he’s had all of these qualities. We learned how to do better for each other and became a lot more resilient. At the rate we’ve been going I’ve been so grateful that he’s going to be my husband ♥️. Awesome insightful video!

[@soniyabanodha5891]

I really really am loving these small leaves at their heads.There cute.

[@Psych2go]

thank you!!! -Monica

[@soniyabanodha5891]

@@Psych2go :) :)

[@ma.cristinapelino7610]

Me too!!! 😝

[@Uedukai]

It keeps reminding me of sprouts in FFXIV

[@masonmaniac7410]

Whenever me and my girlfriend have a disagreement we always come up with a compromise

[@Psych2go]

To more positivity in the future x -Monica

[@CbSpike64]

As someone who has all 9 of these traits and has never been given a chance, I'm glad to see that being true to myself has not gone truly unnoticed...

[@ausrine4689]

Most of the guys I dated have these qualities, I’m glad to see that even though it didn’t work out, I met emotionally intelligent and kind people 💕 me and my friends also share these qualities and it’s the best thing.

[@kritikaagrawal9925]

Everyone out here looking for these traits in their bfs, gfs or future partners. While i sit here wondering how tf was i so lucky to have a best friend who has all the 9 goddamn qualities...theres a reason i believe in soulmates. Soulmates as best friends. She understands me like no one does. Its almost unreal. Im very grateful for her....i hope all of u find someone for urself. All of us deserve happiness

[@isbicror]

Hello. I was rather thinking of friends too. Pleased to know how you and others have such genuine friends and the traits mentioned above--what we need.

[@misce_]

Thank you. I'm glad you met one of your soulmates

[@emiliakarlsson2972]

I am so jealous, cause I also have all of those traits and no one else is just like that, they are just disrespectful and talk shit behind my and others back. But I am so happy for you :D

[@JohnSmith-ns6dp]

Why you gotta be flexing like that?

[@emiliakarlsson2972]

@@JohnSmith-ns6dp He didn’t flex, wdym

[@suga.7083]

In case your in a hurry 0:50 They're supportive 1:24 They engage in your personal growth 1:57 They are emotionally intelligent 2:33 They are understanding 2:56 They're kind 3:25 They're respectfull (your opinions, boundaries etc) 4:03 They know how to compromise 4:33 They accept your flaws 4:58 They share your core values. Hope it helps you😊 Have a nice day.

[@shadowgirl8446]

Thanks, you kind and awesome creature ❤️

[@richkidyeah]

Tysm

[@Purple-Tea]

Thank you, have a nice day/night/afternoon!

[@zamanfatima9497]

Youre literally an angel💖TYSM

[@kennethjones3114]

Ues it did and i thank you for summing it up bless up

[@charlestorres2759]

Whelp my last partner was definitely lacking a lot of these qualities. I was just blind to it and really didn't notice it until it was all over. Im staying positive and for sure will be listening in the next relationship. Thank you for posting!

[@deomnibusdubitandumest]

This is also true for your best friend! I personally identify as an asexual but I found this video helpful. These are the traits I value and appreciate with my best friend. So glad they exist ❤

[@insidiouslyfanatic714]

If a person is "truly" in "love" with you, these traits will be there.

[@ethancass6885]

but being in love is temporary

[@insidiouslyfanatic714]

@@ethancass6885 well said 👏

[@ethancass6885]

@@insidiouslyfanatic714 I think the strongest relationships don't stem from the good times together necessarily, but are ALSO deeply rooted in getting through the difficult times. My friendships and relationships would always become so much stronger after going through something difficult and being able to overcome it. Don't mistake what I am saying though, as the good times with someone absolutely still play a large roll, it's a balancing game

[@insidiouslyfanatic714]

@@ethancass6885 Yeah, you're right!! Thanks for sharing your thought btw

[@ethancass6885]

@@insidiouslyfanatic714 Thank you for listening to them ;) Have a wonderful day!

[@depressedvamp143]

When your boyfriend shows all these and when I put myself down he brings me back up and he loves my weirdness 🥺🥺 Edit: thanks for all the likes kind stranger x

[@MC-dz8be]

Aww I'm happy for you 😊🙏🏽

[@venangie1]

that's so sweet!

[@hamerhaai6274]

You are blessed 🙏💕

[@Psych2go]

psilove

[@racheldixon5528]

I’m so happy for you You deserve a boyfriend like him

[@jessereid8482]

this is freaking amazing. I really appreciate that people put this kind of stuff out there. thank you for helping all of us through our struggles.

[@saranicholls713]

My partner and I share most everything you mentioned. He is better at everything than I am, but we are good at accepting each other's flaws and weaknesses. We are very happy that we found each other!! Thanx fir the great video! ❤️

[@SamElle]

yessss to emotionally intelligent people + people who encourage you to grow!! Honestly these are traits that I would expect from a manager whos also supposed to serve as your mentor but in my experience, many of managers definitely did NOT display these traits

[@Psych2go]

What do you think is the best trait anyone could have? -Monica

[@user-wo4vo5nz8e]

@@Psych2go to be wise

[@MadaraUchiha-ly8wr]

I find all of these qualities in close friends then I do with an ideal partner.

[@kevinjacob2652]

@@Psych2go to be understanding

[@haydengough512]

My friend: why are you watching this? you don't have a girlfriend me: I CAN DREAM!

[@user-hw6bi5uc1q]

You can dream and you can set these dreams into action

[@Vimii]

Don't let your friend stop you from watching videos you have an interest in!

[@festiveseasons]

Yes same

[@wendyzelaya642]

aww, yes you can dream!

[@selfdevelopingandlearning3622]

Dream and achieve dear sister/brother! Only you can make your dreams a reality if you wish it! Don’t let anyone get you down and stay positive ☺️

[@GallardoFreak888]

I’ve only known this new person I’m seeing for a week but already she’s doing all of this! So much yess from how she responds and respects my time and emotionally communicates her feelings in a mature way.

[@earlofmar7987]

WHAT a valuable life lesson. Every person deserves to be treated with respect, kindness & love. You also deserve a mate/spouse that cares about your intimate desires and doesn't treat you like you are just there just to satisfy them. If they constantly talk about themselves, they are not listening to you. If they only care about their career or what they want, they don't care about you. There are a lot of crazy mean people out there. Don't let them attach themselves to you.

[@Athazago]

My girlfriend's most wonderful trait is her honesty and trust. Even when I get lied to a lot by others and feel like I don't matter. She's always there

[@servercabinet]

Some people find these traits boring. They want and thrive in arguments, disagreements and doubts in relationships.

[@koelreed8165]

I do agree. Not sure if they are bored or just lack any level of understanding. Remember, they learn relationship values from their parents (if they were even together).

[@shatteredscry]

Paranoia makes chaos more comfortable than unpredictability. People can lack a sense of trust :( if someone isn’t trustworthy they need to l e a v e

[@ebmage8793]

Sounds like Trauma bonding. They dont know what stable is like in their lives so they run to what is comfortable for them, which is chaos. These types of people need alot of healing and they need to want to change.

[@blazereho811]

Yep ^^^ Some people have good relationships and are scared of commitment/scared because it's such a healthy relationship that they'll sabotage themselves

[@kanya6499]

healing oneself is the only way out of this mindset..

[@missflipz]

I love the simplicity of your videos and gentle approach about powerful topics for creating healthier mental health for people and also warning signs of what creates poor mental health or even toxicity in relationships. ❤❤❤❤

[@starmanion1]

The two most important traits I would focus on from here are sharing core values and emotional intelligence. I am a generally passive communicator, so I would find it difficult right now to keep open communication up with a partner since I commonly compartmentalize my emotions and don’t typically share my feelings too often. I would like to embody all these traits myself before expecting them from someone else, but who knows, maybe I’ll meet someone who is also self aware and wants to grow in partnership 🙂

[@rachelfouche6080]

it's important to be aware of what you tend to struggle with in relationships and where you need + want to grow, but i think having that awareness and a desire to develop through communication can lead to a healthy, wonderful partnership. be honest with yourself and your partner, and trust that your communication won't scare them. if you have someone who cares about this growth as well, it will help both of you and you'll only grow stronger because of it. you don't have to be perfect before you open yourself up to loving and being loved.

[@elliemerc01]

What you're describing to me is that you are an introvert. You have to be careful because you will always attract an extravert and that person will do a lot of talking which will probably get on your nerves. It's very important for introverts to practice talking & share feelings in a relationship and not expect the partner to read your mind. Do not give hints and do not make your partner try to get you to communicate because introverts can be very moody. There is no greater punishment for an extravert that loves to talk than to have a partner who will not communicate effectively and who constantly pouts. If you expect to keep your thoughts & compartmentalize them, remain single your happiest alone. I am just a friend who also is a counsellor.

[@dustylong]

​@@elliemerc01 Why is it that they will ALWAYS attrack an extravert? Two introverts make a lot of sense to me 🤔

[@tyaherdestya]

"Simply witnessing their self-expansion can boost your level of happiness too". I really agree with that

[@chewsday5760]

Honestly my favorite thing to do

[@alaskachick7315]

We're celebrating 31 years of marriage this year. We've both had all of these qualities from day one, thank God. You forgot sense of humor, though. My husband still makes me laugh hard at least once a week and I try to do the same for him.

[@ryanwondertroll]

I don't know if it's good or bad to laugh once per week after 31 years together

[@ranisrikumar5735]

@@ryanwondertroll Alaska said “ at least “ once a week.,,, Really sweet 🎉

[@ranisrikumar5735]

Really blessed ❤🎉

[@annabeljames9146]

@@ryanwondertroll a real belly laugh is something special... i find i don't laugh like that often at all, so i'd say laughing in that way once a week is great

[@areliresendiz75]

i'm not in a relationship but it's so nice hear these beautiful signs

[@mooncake8254]

been feeling down lately, after watching your videos, it reminded me that i am with people's that shared the same values. thanks!

[@daletydoodles3389]

I love this! Super important: if you expect your partner to have these qualities you should have these qualities as well. ❤ I am continuously working on myself to be the best version of myself that I can be for someone someday. 🙃

[@kennethjones3114]

Bravo and fair play

[@mayleespann4552]

What wise advice. This is so overlooked! You must be a good friend/partner before you can expect a good one.

[@Raziel-mq3fn]

If you have all of this qualities then you don't need a partner :D

[@futgamer811]

Intelligent comment, I'm trying to do the same

[@AelOk17]

@@Raziel-mq3fn I don't think relationships should be based on that you NEED a partner. Is about wanting someone to share life. Just because you have all this qualities it does not mean you want to be alone. Is not about needing someone.

[@lampy1932]

I think I’m in love with the staticy effect in the art style. It’s very pretty. The music in the background is also nice as well!

[@metra8604]

same

[@Psych2go]

Thank you so much for the support! :D It's cute, eh? Any suggestions for future work? -Monica

[@clara8789]

How is your comment showing 2 months ago????????? 🤨

[@clara8789]

@Cringe oh ok thx ☺️😅

[@bookenjoyer3970]

Same it’s so pretty

[@tommyboy6267]

What a warm and loving presentation. You are seeing the positive in a world obsessed with the negative. My wife and I have most of these traits. Guess we need to work on the rest. Thanks for the heads up. I have always said the key to to a healthy marriage is this...hold your spouses needs as high, if not higher than your own. If both partners are doing this, well...what a beautiful union you will enjoy...what a wonderful WORLD we would enjoy. Thanks for the heads up. Liked and subscribed.

[@victoriaani250]

Beautifully said, and illustrated. Thank you!

[@brainify2862]

Definitely all these are a must for a relationship. Communication is also important, so it's possible to transmit all the emotions. Someone who can express himself/herself good but refuse to communicate surely the other person won't be able to understand and it will probably make the other person keep chasing in case that person care a lot. Thank you for this video ❤️

[@Psych2go]

Well said! You're very wise :) -Monica

[@shatteredscry]

I agree. Communication is such a strong and healthy affirmation to have in a relationship. It really levels the waters ~

[@venus_5937]

Here are some Time Stamps: 1. They are Supportive 0:51 2. They Engage in Your Personal Growth 1:23 3. They are Emotionally Intelligent 1:54 4. They are Understanding 2:31 5. They are Kind 2:54 6. They are Respectful 3:22 7. They know how to Compromise 3:59 8. They Accept your Flaws 4:30 9. They share your Core Values 4:57 - From a Mysterious Time Traveler

[@k.t3888]

Thank you!

[@annalesewinget6792]

How is it possible?

[@YomotoSmith]

TY :-)

[@xero99999]

@Ruchita Das channel members get to see the vid earlier

[@marcmarc1967]

One thing you left out, is learning to recognize when your partner is wearing themselves out emotionally with all the empathy. Give them a break. It can become a crutch to constantly need all this "kindness and understanding".

[@barrelswow9480]

This is so true! I have been trying to become the best version of myself without knowing these characteristics. I'm not there yet, but I will be. If i had to add anything to this video it would be to live out of love, and not fear. Once you do this, you will naturally adopt these characteristics.

[@Ianhawaii10]

I definitely tried my best to be all this for my ex, sadly she just treated me like an option and only put in effort when it was convenient and beneficial to her... worst of all I was too dumb to realize it

[@beverlyb4176]

I'm so sorry to hear that , i hope you find happiness with someone who treats you with all the qualities mentioned above in the video 💞😊

[@Ianhawaii10]

@@beverlyb4176 Awwwe thanks! I don't think my ex was a bad or evil person, I think we are all capable of working towards these nine character traits but that desire starts from within.

[@gabyc4377]

@@Ianhawaii10 wise words. And even it might be unnecessary. But it wasn't your fault they behaved as how they did. If you gave your best there's nothing to be ashamed or feel like you were dumb for not noticing.

[@ruhkil13]

Hey I have been there I know it hurts. You were not stupid. You trusted them. Be kind to yourself.

[@Psych2go]

I'm sorry :(

[@playingwithmilly7730]

Alright so I lost a person worth loosing! Thx!

[@michaelokeke4976]

Hey that’s even better. Well being first and foremost and we should never make time for people who waste our own time with disrespect, abuse and unnecessary drama

[@user-hw6bi5uc1q]

Lol SAVAGE

[@Ellapompom]

Omg I absolutely love the little hoouman illustrations soooooo much!! 😍😍😍

[@springflower68]

Thank you so much!! I really appreciate this. 😇👍 N the trait I value the most is "They are RESPECTFUL" Respect each other in partnership is very important n can create a better, stronger n healthier relationship. 🙏🏻

[@Nokyyyyy]

When you understabd other people's emotions But not yours

[@GabrielDipo]

Haha same bro.

[@potatopotayto8332]

lmao me

[@kevinjacob2652]

some powers do indeed have their limits

[@FlufflesMcFloof]

Heh, understabd

[@Nokyyyyy]

@@FlufflesMcFloof oopsie

[@nevel-luna5070]

This is making me realize that I need better friends

[@Psych2go]

I'll be your friend!!! To all people who want to be part of the psilove community... please let me know below ;D -Monica

[@ronwisegamgee]

I feel you there. Better learning that now rather than later.

[@monicanath4859]

@@Psych2go fantastic! Hi to my namesake!

[@nuhafatimah4303]

Aww I'd love to be your friend !! I hope you find good friends !! You are amazing !!!

[@weeglweegle]

@@Psych2go yess

[@vickc4743]

I seriously started feeling love early because she’s accepted my flaws, she’s kind and understanding and I feel comfortable being myself around her

[@LifeStyleTherapy]

this video reminds me about my video I've made in the past.. all the character traits you mentioned are valuable Thanks for Sharing

[@obay9673]

yes advertise yourself on someone else's KZbin channel

[@LifeStyleTherapy]

@@obay9673 Do You Think i need to make a comment to advertise Myself even if i have over 100k sub ? no bro you're wrong i just shared my thought because i love this channel

[@obay9673]

@@LifeStyleTherapy ok nice

[@Psych2go]

Thank you for watching! Which trait did you find the most relatable? -Monica

[@sunfloweresq]

shal you don't need to be so rude, they were just trying to say to what was on they're mind. That's literally what comments are for. Please do not be so negative on such a positive thing ^^

[@mohammedzaki2654]

My Girlfriend introduced me to this channel.. and guess what she isn't anymore with me!!! But I still watch every video.. and it reminds me of her..❤️

[@mohammedzaki2654]

@@litheria7267 🤭🤭🤭🤭

[@sasbttrr]

Rofl

[@randyfocht737]

Simple, short, deep, and to the point!

[@crazycatlady9856]

My boyfriend shows all of these qualities but lately I've been lacking. This video came to me at the right time and I'll use its content to strengthen our relationship. Thank you psych 2 go!

[@martinazoecremona2009]

Can we take a moment to appreciate the beautiful animation of this video? ✨

[@Psych2go]

Wow, thank you so much

[@rypoelk997]

This affirms I'm better off without a lot of my ex's. Thank you

[@marielchavez6337]

Preach

[@sheilascanlon4928]

Me too.

[@sethwoodworth3210]

Agreed.

[@whoblitzell]

I realized with this list here how bad my ex wife was..

[@l.a.raustadt518]

Yup any relationship since "bad love" does not include marriage plans ,so........

[@micheleroyce4177]

Thank you for this. My guy is definitely a keeper. His name could be the definition of kindness and generosity! I predict a happy future!

[@donnazerlinda4669]

I wantt to thanks this channel bc since i saw these videos, my social skills is improving a lot!!!!

[@stayhappylittlemermaid]

The most difficult thing in any negotiation, almost, is making sure that you strip it of the emotion and deal with the facts.

[@Psych2go]

We are human and so to what extent is that impossible? -Monica

[@arpitkumar4525]

Stoics have entered the chat

[@ronwisegamgee]

Emotions are signals that needs either are or are not getting met, so stripping your emotions is, in essence, a form of blindness. Why limit your perceptive capabilities?

[@flyingdart9819]

@@ronwisegamgee depends what the needs are.

[@seriouscat2231]

@@ronwisegamgee, emotions are an indicator of whatever you have trained them to indicate (or ignore, respectively). Or they can be all over the place. For example, immature and self-centered people feel oppressed and rejected by mature people because the immature don't know how to respond adequately.

[@jungersrules]

I can sum it up in one word …. never let go of someone who can empathize. 🥰

[@olgatrilogymartin3143]

Well said

[@guchidixit6346]

Your voicee dude , I’m hooked it’s so soothing ❤️

[@ashleylutgens9175]

I really found my person, Thankyou for helping me see that through all my anxiety ❤️

[@renseal475]

Here is a little insight I wanna share: Sometimes when we are with a certain person, we can subconsciously try to manipulate them to become something else. This is a signal that there is a certain partner that we want, but instead of changing someone to be like that, we should pick the natural candidate, than changing someone to be something else. This is something that I realised for me, that I had been with men that I subconsciously tried to make into something else. Not in any big extremes, but there were the subtle stuff like wanting my man to have a flannel.. I realised this just some months ago with my previous relationships.

[@jeffreyreeves9854]

Ren Seal, Thank you for sharing your moment of realization.

[@user-sl3ku7ir4y]

I'm sorry, but can you give an example please? I cant understand how we Do this

[@shatteredscry]

Ah I get it. Someone that proves themselves to fit the bill, as opposed to rose colored shades to a nice, handsome guy that may not meet qualifications? I think having a false perception of a negative partner is why people stay in unsatisfying relationships for a long time. If I’m wrong, correct me.

[@jeffreyreeves9854]

@@shatteredscry I'm not sure what was your thesis. If someone isn't supportive then it is best to find someone else. Of course that is difficult within the context of the current China Plague. I found that the 9 Character Traits listed in this presentation to be what I needed years ago. I'm a nice guy but ugly, I hope that you give ugly guys a chance and that you fuck them also. I don't know what was your point, but do what you gotta do & I hope everything works out.

[@sammaloney1746]

If by flannel you mean some sort of cloth you can use to clean yourself with then EVERYONE should have one and anyone who doesn't should be dumped immediately!

[@leorufi39]

In my almost 30 years of life, I haven’t had a chance to meet someone, not even a partner or a best friend or even a family member that has these traits. I pray that one day, I’ll meet one and so as all of you too 🤍 hang in there. Update (June 3, 2022): Finally meet someone that’s almost have all those traits and he proposed to me 💐

[@sleverlight]

You dont need someone to make you happy, you're enough

[@leorufi39]

@@sleverlight thanks for the +ve reminder buddy 🤍 you rock!

[@sleverlight]

@@leorufi39 No worries, thank you too. I think its good to work on self love because we all deserve so much love

[@eap61789]

If you can’t find that person, be that person.

[@leorufi39]

@@eap61789 already am. Being taken for granted all the time 🙂

[@pudding2675]

"Everyone can promise the whole world to someone. But only through unconditional love can one become the whole world to someone."

[@Raziel-mq3fn]

There is no such thing as unconditional love, unless you have godhead conciseness, but then you would realize what solipsism is, then there is no one but you, to whom you can give unconditional love that YOU do not need!

[@blakewalters6855]

Fantastic.

[@bunnyflop3864]

Nah, it is about dependance. I am fine with just being happy, my world is whole, and my partner is that secret spice, making great even greater.

[@jraelien5798]

Unconditional love does not exist. Perfect people do not exist. If you think you are loving someone unconditionally, it only means you are blind to something.

[@Icemario87]

The quality of your conditions makes it love or hate. For example, the condition of "being my child" is a high quality condition. Whereas the condition of "make me feel in control" is a low quality condition. Unconditional anything doesn't exist. Even existence, itself, is predicated upon conditionals.

[@ronja4351]

Aww ... ❤️ That Video was just soo cute! Love your style to make the videos

[@violetlune72]

My husband of 15 years still check all the boxes and more. I feel very blessed and grateful ❤

[@straightchlorine2434]

I hope I find someone with these traits one day

[@marjorymsuku9312]

Maybe You be that - that someone will find.

[@Psych2go]

hopeful for you :) -Monica

[@niki5923]

I'm already very scared of letting go of people, just watching this to see if anyone would care to hold on to me

[@lalehbryanskrenes5692]

I believe being at the same level of understanding of honesty and authenticity are very important. That is the foundation we build our personality upon.

[@emiliawinter6500]

Thank you so much for teaching this very importat psychology! I really appeciate your community.

[@nelloed]

i'll keep these in mind when i actually do think about getting a partner

[@Psych2go]

Great Let me know what you thought of the video! -Monica

[@chrisrobin409]

It's very hard to find someone who understands me an Introvert.

[@Psych2go]

Relatable :') -Monica

[@malachycarson5846]

I am an introvert, I understand you.

[@rosierb852]

Very relatable. After dating many extroverts, I would only be happy with introverted partners. I find that one person’s attention isn’t enough for extroverts...they need energy and introverts tend to give energy

[@agnespurwanto4635]

Hi, i am extrovert but i love him who is an introvert. Indeed sometimes I feel lonely when he needs me time. But there is nothing more pleasing to see him happy enjoying his time. And that's love. it's all about compromise. I will pray for you, so that she who wants to understand you will come soon 🙏

[@cryptocoffee1524]

the way this video just described all my traits really made me feel happy

[@LuminaryXion]

as a single person, take some time to think about yourself in your past relationships- were you all of these things? how can you remember to be mindful of yourself and build habits of kindness and the other traits detailed? focus on that, and you may find yourself suddenly with many options and find it much easier to identify these same traits in others (or when they are lacking, so you know when not to pursue a relationship with someone)

[@tilakraj.4408]

These are the most cherished traits you can have and look for in your partner but practically speaking the real test is 'time'.. real worth of a relationship lies in experiencing all these traits over the course of time with a some degree of certainty. Blessed to have found it. ♥️

[@asantlarm]

definitely kindness for me! being kind says a LOT about a person❣

[@hijodelaisla275]

I agree. It's a conscious choice and an important one for me, too. Someone told me a long time ago that if you want to gain some insight to a potential partner's character, go out to dinner and watch how he/she interacts with the server. Sure you can be fooled, but some surprising characteristics can reveal themselves. I had a significant other who I knew was right for me because he was warm and friendly to the server and loved to tip generously even though he didn't have a lot of money. "It's a tough job" he'd say.

[@bizdaretz8679]

So... I gotta say... I'm glad that this channel exists. AND I'm impressed... Not ONE of those things had anything to do with fame, fortune, or fakeness. That's one of the biggest problems MOST people face these days, is they either care too much about what society at the large thinks, OR they're only focused on money, or the top tier types of people. EVERYONE needs to see this video, specifically for the sake of making people realize that it's okay to have flaws, as long as all nine of these things are at least being attempted to the best of one's ability... they're a good partner. This was a breath of fresh air. Thank you.

[@jcsoabas20]

It's great to know that your partner exhibit this qualities. But often, people go for those who isn't ideal for them. I think the people who have these qualities are more often single, while those that don't are in dysfunctional relationships. May you find the right one for you!

[@FaunaFae-kz6zg]

I wasn't really looking for a relationship I hope this focused on friends but still thank you psi ur AMAZING :3

[@kiwimiwi5452]

EVERY video that I've watched on relationships and stuffs just further supports my idea of my future with my girl. That it is gonna be long term and healthy

[@Alyssa-yv4yb]

I just love the fact that the drawing style is soft shapes, and soft & pastel or slightly dulled colours. It helps as some bright colours and sounds can be triggering for certain mental or physical illnesses. The light, soft voice & music helps to explain things that feel like they can be understood easier. Thanks guys!

[@Psych2go]

Thank you so much for sharing in depth review on this animation style. Glad you enjoy it! - Cindy

[@Alyssa-yv4yb]

@@Psych2go You’re welcome, I just think that it’s so calming and helpful!

[@andreamaldonado7264]

Guys I'm getting there, it's taken years of self-improvement, but I've improved a lot