Are YOU manipulative? 7 ways to stop…

Last week I released a video about why it may be easy for you to be manipulated and I got a lot of questions about what to do if you're manipulative and how to stop. So are you the actual manipulator or perhaps you're that friend or girlfriend or boyfriend that people are always saying is toxic. Or you're asking yourself am I toxic or am I a manipulator? We may not always think our behaviors are manipulative but perhaps we're always using subtle tactics or behaviors to get our way or to get people to act or behave a certain way, this is manipulation. But how do we do this and not engage in toxic behaviors or be a toxic person in our relationships. We have to first recognize the signs we're doing this and then we can start making changes.
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[@danielroy8232]

This type of video is refreshing, because most resources will say "how to deal with a manipulative person" as if the burden is entirely on the victims.

[@IilîliîliîlliI]

lol

[@jennyanderson9357]

I'm thankful that someone told me that people pleasing and constantly apologizing was manipulation. I thought it was nice and had a really hard time breaking those habits. I still struggle, but I see now that I am trying to manipulate situations to make them safe for me.

[@fairygurl9269]

Here's to Having Healthier Resources 💞

[@Moon_Fire_Water]

I'm very glad to have found your channel in recent months, I wonder what my life would be like now had I had more of these very helpful, not accusatory or blame /shame ridden discussions around the topics you cover earlier in my life. Growing and healing things now as an adult I wish I had learned sooner. Very grateful still to have this now, thank you for everything you are doing in the world to help others in this way, myself included!!

[@brittanywilcox7377]

I feel the same!

[@deeclark386]

Thank you, really insightful. Being self aware is such a positive state

[@TianaBarker]

I’ve realized these things about myself and I want to stop it because it hurts me and everyone around me thanks for the video hope you have a good day ❤

[@brittanywilcox7377]

I'm proud of you for taking accountability. That's the perfect starting place. You got this!

[@zak-a-roo264]

I manipulated my drunk parents into parenting me as well as I could get them to, they were incredibly resistant. Probably doing it to everything since.

[@brittanywilcox7377]

Fabulous video! I started it fully ready to reflect and tweak where I might need it. It felt good to see my progress in therapy has already helped me identify and avoid these pitfalls. The ones I haven't ever struggled with made me see where I lost relationships with people because their forms of manipulation just didn't work on me, and that it wasn't my fault. ❤

[@BP-nn7tq]

thank you!! love how this is being addressed ❤

[@eugenebelcher3]

I'm happy I clicked on this

[@Trevor_7777]

May you always recognize the beauty that fills you, both inside and out, as clearly as others do. Your presence brings light and joy to those around you. ❣️

[@iu.5146]

I haven’t watched your channel in a few months. You seem to be feeling a lot better. That is wonderful to see. I can so relate to people pleasing and burnout. Since I’ve stopped doing it, I’m so much better. Keep on thriving and creating your insightful content. It is very helpful.

[@SherriOlson-er2xr]

Sometimes self-reflection is a way to get people to the right mode of behavior without jabbing them with a sword. Getting there on their own is how therapists teach the client the ‘why’s’ of the behavior followed by “a lesson and reflection “ and doesn’t push them away as “bad manipulator, go to your room and think about what you’ve done “

[@tiresias3342]

I struggle working out the difference between setting a boundary by saying no to doing something I don't want to do compared to manipulating someone to do it the way I want them to. Like if I want to do something one way and someone else wants to do it another, me saying no to their way effectively forces them to do it my way if they want to do it at all

[@leonievh1223]

I am guilty to be a people pleaser and some of the things you mentioned the ather day me and my daughter was walking and she hurt her foot and I told her there is no time to worry about your foot you can worry about it later when we are home later I was feeling bad about the way I react because I don't want her to learn it is wrong to show your feelings or pain like I did now I'm working hard to show more empathy when It is necessary❤

[@masolhaosol]

omg it's me I'm doing that 😢 someone important told me they're getting frustrated (bc I wasn't answering a particular question, which was communicated in a good way) and I just agreed that I was frustrating and went completely silent on them 😮

[@Yambataller]

Already complaining about something, someone or an own sickness or ‘problem’ in the world is already a form of manipulation looking for sympathy. We often just complain about things seeking to connect with others or feel understood, only to get an empty instant reward that doesn’t help anyone in the long run. Negativity and drama are addictive and everyone knows that is a way of manipulation. It’s used in advertising, news and the entertainment business all the time.

[@Altermyego-]

For some reason i quite often will say something that was negative towards myself when i didnt even need to make that comment.

[@Katimorton]

I think that's very common.. and it often happens because our internal talk is mostly negative. So it's hard for it not to overflow out of our heads and into our lives :( If you start paying attention to that you can fight to not be as negative towards yourself.. little by little. xoxo

[@LightRoshni]

​@@KatimortonHi Kati Thanks for your time, for spreading knowledge and awareness . Thanks for your support . You are like a Family

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[@eugenekrabs3837]

See none of these manipulations work if you embrace conflict and i don't mean in a angry way but in a logical peaceful way see most people can't take not being able to win an argument if you're dealing with someone who is always argumentive or passive aggressive or trying to break your stance they'll soon find out its not gonna happen and they'll either leave or accept help to change see endurance is the name of the game

[@Rohan-bg8ci]

Katie is awesome! Love yaa

[@SherriOlson-er2xr]

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[@Muricata]

Oh, this is hard to hear...

[@elonmust8859]

Will a therapist use rollplay on you subtly to cause you to findout the answers to your questions other than them answering it ?

[@magnetohex703]

That's a good question. If your therapist cannot answer your question with an absolute answer? Is probably because they can't picture themselves being in your shoes. For example if I was a therapist and I had a patient that was from the hood known as the ghetto I probably could answer every single question that they may have. LOL 😂 But if a person that is from a middle-class neighborhood off of the houses and cars show up and ask me some questions more likely than not I won't genuinely be able to answer them. LOL 😂 And if a rich person enters my therapy session?. With some questions then my response would be?... you are rich what kind of problems do you possibly think you have?.. LOL 😂😂 So I hope that answers your questions of the part where you ask a therapist of the question but then they want you to navigate in your mind what the answer would be I would kind of call that lazy therapy but in truth is most likely that they don't have a clear answer probably because the way you grew up and the way that they grew up. But like therapy and all other things like doctors they never stop learning.🙂

[@elonmust8859]

@@magnetohex703Thanks I think you are right I feel like asking them another question though have they ever seen the film "Shutter Island" rotfl I bet most therapists have.

[@treckrunner711]

Hmmm, people pleasing is not a form of manipulation, at least not in a coercive manner. People pleasing comes from trauma throughout one's life, sometimes from people who developed fawning as a way of coping. People pleasers are the ones at risk of being manipulated, from the comments it seems some people have a poor understanding of the subject. The rest of the video is good but this one area is somewhat distorted.

[@okyouwinleavemealone]

...yes, but I'm not the overly sensitive clown with a gun 🤡🔫, I learned to be a manipulative Bully from fighting games. Set Ups 24/7

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