How to Gently Shut Down Passive-Aggressive Comments - Including your Own! - Terri Cole

Have you ever been in a situation with someone where they're angry but they don't use words? Instead, they roll their eyes, stomp around, maybe slam a door?
Or, you might be the one that's acting out in this way. Someone asks you if you're angry or upset (you are), and you say "no," but then you slam around the kitchen or loudly sigh (or mutter to yourself) your way through dinner prep.
If these scenarios resonate with you, I invite you to watch this week's video, because I'm going to teach you about how to gracefully shut down passive aggressive comments and behaviors (even if they are yours).
What is passive aggressive communication? Passive-aggressive communication, simply put, is indirect communication.
Basically, it’s you (or others in your life) trying to express a feeling without directly owning it, without saying it.
If this is you, it’s ok. Passive aggressive behavior is extremely common, and I’ve got tips to help you communicate more effectively so that you can express yourself authentically, get your needs met and dramatically improve the quality of your relationships and interactions.
Download the cheat sheet that goes along with this episode here: www.terricole.com/passive-agr...
If you want to dive even deeper, my pal Mark Groves and I did an amazing 3-hour workshop all about transforming the way you communicate in every area of life. Get scripts, tools, and guidance to gracefully navigate challenging discussions, address misunderstandings, and develop a happier, healthier approach toward communication: crushingcommunication.com/
TIME STAMPS:
0:00 - Introduction
1:03 - What is passive-aggressive communication and why it's ineffective
5:50 - Lateness as a form of passive-aggression (time boundaries)
9:55 - Experimenting with a different dance (personal example)
16:50 - Tips to shut down passive-aggressive comments
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ABOUT TERRI COLE
Terri Cole is a licensed psychotherapist, global relationship and empowerment expert, and the author of Boundary Boss-The Essential Guide to Talk True, Be Seen and (Finally) Live Free.
For over two decades, Terri has worked with a diverse group of clients that includes everyone from stay-at-home moms to celebrities and Fortune 500 CEOs.
She has a gift for making complex psychological concepts accessible and actionable so that clients and students achieve sustainable change. She inspires over 450,000 people weekly through her blog, social media platform, signature courses, and her popular podcast, The Terri Cole Show. For more, see www.terricole.com/
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