When BPD Runs RAMPANT : Queer TikTok Is DANGEROUS

[@spiriteddefect5125]

I have BPD, Bipolar II, ADHD and Asperger's... Guess what I do? I go to therapy, I take meds. I don't use these as excuses, they are explanations

[@ophilianecr]

Im also with you on understanding that mental health diagnosis isn't taken as the explanation for WHY we are struggling, not why we shouldn't take accountability. My OCD & MDD are why i need to have alternative ways of dealing with life, but this idea of validtion at all costs is really pervasive in the ASD/ ND community too. There's an air of "normies just don't get us and they hate us for our issues". No, homie, they hate the way you behave and how you don't cope well.

[@Ladeda27]

There is a good chance your bpd and bipolar isn’t really what you have. You are probably just autistic. They overlap a lot. And a lot people are diagnosed with bpd and bipolar as adults before they ever get to being autistic.

[@thebigmanskeet6969]

I have Bipolar II and ADHD as well, and it's so annoying when these people use their mental illnesses as an excuse for their trash behavior. While not everyone can afford therapy, wearing your mental issues as badges of honor isn't healthy. It's called an illness for a reason.

[@reality_is_the_key]

Be careful...you don't want to sound like you're a collector of disorders

[@JaclynSTEWART-z2t]

I have add and pmdd yeah I get embarrassed when my pmdd changes my moods but it's not societies fault and yes I'm happy to hear you managing how you can

[@BMC__]

"Have you ever wondered what it's like being married to a gender fluid person?" No, no I have fucking not. I'd rather imagine being Vlad the Impaler's assistant for his magic act.

[@heyo80]

I would never for the life of me marry someone who identifies as some obscure gender bs. I have enough to stress about in my life I don’t need it to be worse.

[@JohnMacintyre-cl5nu]

DO YOU THINK IT BOTHERS THESE ATTENTION SEEKERS THAT 70% OF THE OLD GUARD! (70S AN 80S LGBTA ETC) ARE LITERALLY APPOLOGISING FOR THEIR GREAT WORK IF THEY KNEW IT WAS GONNA TURN INTO DRAG QUEENS WITH TODLERS AN A BAZILLION PRO NOUNS? I FIND IT FASSINATING AN WONDER IF THESE NEW BATCH EVER COMMENT ON IT? LOL GBYAA!!!!!!!!

[@wavyykeke5277]

BRUHHH😭😭

[@TanyaRando]

😂😂

[@AJStarhiker]

I imagine it would be a nightmare from kiving with someone who gets constantly offended. And it's "your fault" for not being a mind reader to keep up.

[@Onionfries-cz4wo]

I don't have BPD, but my mom did and I ended up being the FP of someone with BPD. My mom had a terrible therapist and once she got away from the therapist, she did better until she found a better one and did much better. On the other hand, my stalker is BIG in the LGBT propaganda and her therapist is VERY pro LGBT. In the 3 years I knew her, she went from being a lesbian, bi, being a trans man, back to lesbian, gender fluid and at every change, the therapist was in all support of it. BPD is dangerous in the hands of a therapist who encourages the disorder rather than helping the person finding healthy coping mechanisms.

[@Kathleen-vl5ws]

Bad therapists are scary! A friend of mine was seeing a therapist who basically was encouraging a whim he had to completely nuke his relationship with his father. His father who is the only relative or person from where I see it who actually cares about him, sacrifices for him, and has taken him in when he's been in between homes, and has actually broken up with a girlfriend because she didn't get along with his adult son (my friend). He went through a pretty angry phase toward his father while he was adjusting to new medications and wrote this extremely vicious, cruel, bridge burning letter and asked his therapist and me both if he should give it to his dad. I said absolutely not, there is a way to bring up some of the things you're feeling but this is not the way. His therapist said, "Yes, give it to him, it'll be healing. Better yet, put it somewhere for him to find and read when you're not home in case he gets angry. Horrible, destructive advice to give a 24 year old living with his dad who has no prospects of a job. These pro-LGBT therapists are absolutely nuts too. The very idea of a gender affirming therapist is insane.

[@Garbeaux.]

There are some really awful therapists who actively want you to blow up your life so they have a lifelong patient. Got to ask yourself if the therapist actually wants you to get better or is cheerleading you into your own destruction. Bc of being burned by psychologists, I only go to psychiatrists. Just give me my meds. I can have talk therapy with anyone. lol

[@vovin8132]

@@Kathleen-vl5ws This whole woke madness originated with psychologists/psychiatrists. Most of the people in that field got into it via nepotism (parents were established doctors or professors). When nepotism is involved, it means that the offspring never learned important lessons, while trying to make their mark in their field. This often leads to the downfall of any organization run by nepotism. However, the field of psychology is different: the people running it can simply make up their own definitions and diagnoses to appeal to feelings of clients for the self-validation of the professional, while gaslighting anyone who questions their lack of practical qualification. There's no real scientific impartiality or ethics anymore. The fact that they slapped together this BS "autistic spectrum" as a catch-all for all socially awkward types is a huge red flag.

[@Onionfries-cz4wo]

@@Kathleen-vl5ws I have had to go through many, many, MANY therapists in my life. Some pushed the 'you're just trans' ideology on me and a couple actually helped. I am not trans and never thought I was. It bothers me to hear about others being sucked into these terrible therapists warped sense of their job because it reinforces to me that they just aren't listening and helping the person actually cope. They are in it for their own warped agenda. And, another weird thing I've found is that the terrible therapist don't want you to leave their practice on you're own accord. They will try to tell people that they won't be able to get another one and blah, blah, blah. I say if a therapist is making things noticeably worse, then the patient is free to find a new one.

[@Khorne_of_the_Hill]

@@Onionfries-cz4wo I'm glad you got away from that monster; it sounds like she was actively trying to ruin your life...

[@Tusk_Tact]

I'm Bi but what you are touching upon is why I've never identified as LGBTQIA+ and why I never understood the concept of "coming out". I've noticed this pattern as a kid and wanted nothing to do with it. I don't like weirdos and fake ass people around me.

[@fstemarie]

Coming out used to make sense, it took courage because it was life changing. They became targets. They were treated differently and not in a good way. Nowadays, coming out is akin to saying "From now on, I want to be treated like a victim and benefit from it"

[@ally93796]

If people ask me my sexuality, I just say I'm not picky

[@tomjackson4374]

@@ally93796 If people ask me my sexuality I am doing something wrong. I a m a full grown man and anybody with walking around sense should be able to tell that. And there is no such thing as bi.

[@Tusk_Tact]

@@fstemarie i say it never made any sense because I guess I am coming from a different vantage than most. To me, validation is a sign of weakness. Do what you do and stand in it. If you can't apply that mentality then why the fuck are you doing it in the first place. I get that everyone doesn't see the world like that but imagine coming from a background of violence, gang-banging and dope dealing then asking for validation over what you do in your bedroom. Everyone I've ever known that "came out" was simply choosing one aethestic over the other as opposed to doing them for the sake of doing them. The person or persons I am intereacting with will know my preferences and outside of that why would it make any difference.

[@egghaverr]

@@tomjackson4374how is there no such thing as bi

[@randidennis7790]

Patterns like speech, self-image with eyeglasses, clothing. What is truly sad, is that BPD behavior, as on display with these persons...it is socially rewarded.

[@tbarnum6315]

and it is so useful, just like some animals have bright colors or patterns to show they are poisonous, to warn off possible predators

[@javaskull88]

This is, IMHO, the key to it all. Attention seeking behavior that demands not just acceptance, but validation and celebration.

[@blip-2024]

"Healthy Ego" I am old enough to remember when the societal movement started where parents were encouraged to lie to their children to build self-esteem. "Johnny, you are the smartest, fastest, most talented and the best student in your school." We stopped supporting their genuine accomplishments. True self-esteem comes from facing and solving problems. It comes from learning, growing, challenging and improving ourselves. NOT from false accolades! I once heard someone say we need to prepare the child for the road, not the road for the child. There are going to be challenges. The road will have potholes, speed bumps and dead ends. We need to give kids the skills to deal with disappointment and difficulty, NOT make everything easy!

[@tbarnum6315]

@@blip-2024 Exactly. Confidence comes from experience and work, as opposed to the arrogance-hubris being taught which believes one needs to do nothing and is amazing as-is. The latter leads to being brittle. Bones of chalk, skin of tissue paper.

[@nate6795]

@@tbarnum6315 yep. It shows us to stay away. Blue hair, weird style, changing genders every second, etc.

[@flintybraz1]

I honestly think a lot of these people are making this shit up. They ate pretending because they're bored and being gay just isn't enough anymore.

[@TheMurlocKeeper]

I suspect so, lol! Being "gay" is now considered pretty normal these days, and no one bats an eyelid at it. Therefore, calling themselves "gay" does not elicit any sort of shock response from others - which is what they are looking for, so they must come up with more and more extreme and ridiculous rubbish in order to get attention. It's a child-like trait, basically screaming out "LOOK AT MEEEEE" to everyone. Kinda sad, really. They need therapy....and a lot of it.

[@tassiodrigues]

Fun fact: most of them probably aren't even gay

[@Garbeaux.]

It’s like once being LGB became mostly societally acceptable, their entire identity was based on being oppressed & othered that they had to find something else. They find comfort & validation in being victims. This is especially true for the West’s middle & upper classes.

[@vovin8132]

It's all a psyop. I have had a front row seat to this madness for over a decade here in BC. A great example of this is a local WorkBC office in a small town I lived in (these are supposed to be publicly-funded services to help you get training and access to jobs). They put up like 20 rainbow flags all over the place. The manager always wanted to chat with me whenever I went in there. Why? Because every time I went in there, I would be the only client there in a building with like a dozen staff. I tried to explain to this manager that the reason why nobody wants to go in there is because it clearly only wants to cater to the woke types, but she insisted that this was about "inclusivity". She was an intelligent woman, but just could not understand how this "inclusive" measure for a fraction of the population of the town excludes everybody else.

[@Garbeaux.]

@@vovin8132 the rainbow flag has become overtly political. Especially the progressive pride flag. I’m bi & try to steer clear away from places that pander to the inclusivity crowd. My sexual orientation is just a part of me that neither needs a flag nor needs to be celebrated.

[@jaded5957]

The narcissism of these children is off the chart. Attention is like oxygen to them.

[@katieandnick4113]

Attention and validation is a very human need. A good question is why they must resort to doing what they’re doing in order to get that attention and validation. If they can’t get it from peers IRL, they should be able to count on getting it from their parents.

[@naomivought9317]

@@katieandnick4113I feel like many young people want to be rich, to not live in this economy. And they’re fully taking advantage of this online advantage and thinking they aren’t hurting anyone. Or dont care.

[@naomivought9317]

@@katieandnick4113I really disagree with attention and validation is a human need. I honestly could live in the middle of the woods and speak to no one the rest of my life. Before social media and phones, people paid attention to their families and their own lives. We have never needed this much validation in life ever!

[@Milky-hw6ck]

I think you’re confusing histrionic pd with narcissism. Narcissism while self centered is more about validation for achievements and superiority and not about attention

[@yerianagrande8343]

I have BPD, and I used to be like this. Thank God I got out. Coincidentally, my BPD symptoms got better too.

[@eliser9776]

Yes, people can get better. Awesome!

[@tablescissors]

People who challenge themselves to take responsibility and improve their mental illness by going to and following real therapy have my respect - often some of the most enlightened people out there tbh, it’s amazing when you come out on the other side of being controlled by your illness.

[@RoadWarrior-lo9vt]

Yeah, probably because you decided to be your own person, and take personal obstacles headon, instead of playing the victim. Well Done!

[@Lola_Nico]

I have BPD and was never this blatantly unintelligent. I’m actually offended at the title of this video insinuating BPD causes women to be brainwashed into the alphabet cult.

[@Bongwater6920]

Same here Hun. I was essentially brain washed from the libs around me 😅but it's all good now. I don't hate liberals as much lol.

[@iamshwee]

As someone who is Borderline, it's annoying as hell to listen to these idiots try and act like they have a single clue what its really like to have BPD. I'm self-aware enough that I can see, feel, and hear the change in myself and I'm able to adjust accordingly (when I'm mentally awake enough) and I never use this as some type of copout.

[@Teresia12]

I believe my youngest daughter has BPD. She will never go to counseling and be honest. I'm southern so here goes; Bless her heart. That's all I can say she's 37. Been self medicating for 22 years. She is addicted to various pain pills. Then a couple years ago she started in with meth. For the moment she is clean. I can not say she will stay that way. We've been there about 10 times after court ordered rehab. Mostly that my late husband and I spent every penny we ever thought of saving for retirement trying to save her. All of this is her to a T. She has never changed from being a female but she changes how she sees herself very often. She's either beautiful and strong or she's not worthy.

[@doeeyes2]

It took me years to get clean. Started wih pain medication at 22 after struggling with mental health. Im also 37. I finally got clean 6 years ago. Im gna send out a quick prayer for your daughter that she finds the strenth and courage to face life with a sober mind and heart. Also just wanted to add that i remain abstinent from all substances due to the fent crisis happening. My friend had meth that was laced. I dont say this worry you but maybe to caution your daughter. It was really freaking scary going to my best friends funeral. Fent is in everything... my friend had an extremely high tolerance to opiates and never thought it coukd happen to her. So many friends have overdosed by accident just from one toke. I was also sick of dissapoingting everyone around me. Life is 10000% better sober. All the highs and lows and the hangovers and sketchy feelings are not worth it. Im so sick of chasing that feeling ... it was never as good as i thought it be... it was just never worth it, if that makes any sense. Bless tou and your daughter. Love from Toronto ❤

[@breezyn]

I'm so sorry you are going through this. Your comment (minus the from the south) could have been written by my own Mother, but about my little sister. She is a couple years younger than me and is currently locked up in jail from what I hear, but its the first time in her life that my family couldnt bail her out or fall for the lies again. My sister might be a year older than her, but the story is the same. Its good to hear that she is currently clean. I am not a religious person, but I will keep your family in my thoughts and I hope our loved ones can pull themselves out of the downward spiral.

[@GenXfrom75]

My father is an addict in recovery… he fell off the wagon so many times, I lost count. But on my 17th birthday, he started again and he’s still sober 32 years on…. On my 49th birthday, it’ll be his 33rd anniversary of sobriety. As long as there is breath, there is hope. Prayers for you and your daughter 🙏💜

[@bunille]

Don't know if that's an illness, or just her being on drugs. Drugs EASILY give you mood swings.

[@PeetonJazzy]

Please know that not everyone with BPD is like this. I have BPD and I chose self improvement rather than choosing to cope in the ways shown in this video. BPD is treatable, not curable. I choose to react responsibly and question every emotion I feel. BPD is heavily stigmatized because of the people with BPD that choose the easy way out that causes them to be extremely toxic and self destructive, but there are plenty of us that actually care about becoming a better person (:

[@7ShadowMaiden7]

Thank you for making this point… I hate how we’re painted as insane and helpless to change. I hate that many other people who struggle with BPD have chosen gender ideology as their “treatment”. We can manage and there’s this book called “I hate you don’t leave me” and we usually tend to improve over time with mental, emotional, spiritual, and personal development… thank you for saying what you’ve said and I wish you the best on your BPD journey 🫶🏻

[@Mark-pl3bv]

She doesn't give a fuck about your comment, about people with BPD. She's just using BPD to make another uninformed video about trans people. It's not about BPD, it's about her political agenda. Wake up. Look at her content.

[@infinitivez]

The worst thing you can do to anyone else with BPD, is to think a social media influencer can diagnose random people over the internet. What's happened here is so incredibly negligent. And the more comments I read saying "Thank God I'm not like this", the more I realize just how damaging this video is. It further stigmatizes people with BPD and convinced laypeople that what she read from the DSM-V and how she misapplied it, was true. I know at least two other licensed therapists have left comments with similar concerns when this first aired, and they're not here anymore (Or I can't find them). Just everyone praising what a wonderful video this was, demonizing BPD and thinking these examples are clinically valid.

[@Ariana-zr2cr]

She is disgusting for making this comparison and demonizing people. Bpd is a spectrum and the violence that people display are a very small portion.

[@skwerlz4us]

I've had at least 4 professionals diagnose me with BPD over 26 yrs but I kept that info to myself. When I finally told a few friends within the past 5+ yrs, they all laughed & said "No you don't". They then went on to describe the stereotype that people online tend to discuss now and I realized they believed "textbook" BPD was this whole obnoxious delusional public behavior we keep seeing on Tiktok. I ran my life into the ground from years of untreated BPD, denial & self-medicating. I thought it was obvious I was severely unstable- but my closest friends completely rejected the notion I had BPD based on these types of videos & said, "you're nothing like them" All these tiktok kids have something major in common with each other but whatever that is, it's some extra outlandish crap I've never dealt with & can't identify with.

[@dudeorduuude5211]

Explains why Trisha Paytas was supposedly trans for a minute.

[@Rae0811]

She doesn’t have BPD. She’s just a narcissist and a grifter.

[@silviaconsonni586]

Self image issues. Not to confuse with gender dysphoria.

[@Pinky1babe]

That’s kind of on you for ever taking Trisha Paytas seriously 😭😭😭😭🤣🤣 That woman’s gig is entirely just one big bit, if you missed the joke that’s your problem

[@bugesophagus]

Trisha is definitely not a good example 😭😭

[@TheKyPerson]

I was married to a man who had Borderline Personality Disorder. It was the most horrible experience of my life.

[@VikingFireProject]

My ex is too. She was physically violent and emotionally abusive... but in her mind also the victim. Took a while to heal from that one. Hope you're doing good now!

[@autumnishere420]

please understand that not all people with borderline personality disorder are abusive. my stepdad had bpd and he was abusive, i know what it's like to live with that. but i have bpd too... but i'm not a bad person, and i've never abused anybody. because i've done the work on myself that i need to do. the problem is that if somebody with bpd is selfish, they won't get help. but not all of us are like that.

[@yaelfeder9042]

Was he a problem drinker? Had a family friend like that he was a problem drinker on top of it. He’s not even 60 and falling apart.

[@yaelfeder9042]

@@VikingFireProjecthas she been diagnosed?

[@jackchop1576]

my mom was like that and she undiagnosed herself because of a feminist article claiming that diagnosis is misogynistic and applied to difficult women by men.

[@nbrown5907]

When survival becomes difficult this crap will go away.

[@weswolever7477]

Agreed …. Life is way too easy

[@suzsiz]

True, they need hobbies or do volunteer work to get out of their narcissistic bubble.

[@Garbeaux.]

True. You never see people in dire poverty participate in it & spread it. It’s very much a 1st world ideology if there ever was one.

[@N0p3er5]

This, as someone who was slapped with this fake label. I got over myself and serve my family first. I'm also sober, with no numbing psych drugs or excuses. I came to the realization that most people are not the people who hurt me, and I don't need to act out to be loved or noticed.

[@N0p3er5]

They are trying to save face after trauma in the worst way, and saved faces are ugly. It's just NPD with a different name. I smartened the hell up (:

[@karenburrows9184]

More psychiatric facilities. We need a lot more psychiatric facilities; and we need them now.

[@PatrioticHippy]

More mental health providers to help with said mental health crisis. One's who want to truly help their patients be happy and healthy.

[@russ254]

being happy is not a right. we don’t owe them blank checks.

[@GenXfrom75]

@@russ254absolutely. And even in the depths of despair, I CHOSE happy. Finding one thing that brings me contentment, something as simple as reading a book, kept me from deleting myself. We can’t always control the bad things that happen to us. But we can choose how we react to those things.

[@nerored6235]

Unfortunately, there's a growing trend in mental health of confusing enabling with empowerment. They just ended up accepting the person's excuses, etc rather than calling them out and giving them tools to deal with situations.

[@Truscum_Tranny]

Insane asylums. That's what we need. Because these people are insane

[@Skitdora2010]

I can not stand my ex college friend with this disorder. If I could erase every moment with her I would. She denied my stalker trying to delete me for years and then I fully believe she went and told him where I lived and tried to anger him to attack me. She screamed at me when I said I went to police over him. Why would she do that? Stalker said my friends were not my friends, talked to him, and they didn't like me, and I figured he said that as an ass, but then she asked me to call up peoples jobs she didn't like and get them fired and asked me how/what she could get back at her mom. She said she feels like a bad person and hates her life, it is probably because she is a POS. I will never forgive her.

[@moldygrill8052]

That’s horrifying I hope ur doing well now

[@Rae0811]

I hope you’re not blaming BPD for this because she just genuinely seems like an asshole.

[@Garbeaux.]

My bff has BPD & is one of the best people I’ve ever met. It’s not the BPD that made your friend that way. She was already that person. It just made her worse and more extreme.

[@bakedandbeaded]

Okay, but this isn't because of BPD, the fuck?

[@N0p3er5]

Yes, I hope you are far away from the crazy!

[@rubycube1506]

As a person with BPD I distance myself from the unhinged gender crowd. Also, BPD is much more complex than what you stated in this video. Like, that it's often combined with other mental illnesses, such as depression, anxiety, C-PTSD or ADHD. And this cocktail is rough. I even experienced manic episodes. It can be misdiagnosed as autism or narcissistic disorder. Especially women with ADHD or autism are often misdiagnosed because there's simply not enough data about females with ADHD and autism. The problem is that so many of "us" have lived through intense childhood abuse or neglect. How are you supposed to build a sense of self and others when you grow being lied to, cast aside, neglected, beaten or assaulted? Or you were forced to be a literal nomad and being also homeless temporarily? I'm pretty sure there's overlap from females with bpd and the gender crazy females, but.... BPD is even worse than you think it is. And the trauma that caused it... Birdie and the others shown in this video seem to be coddled brats who are used to getting their way... But yeah, she probably has some severe mental issue. I mean look at her.

[@Lola_Nico]

Yeah as a bisexual woman diagnosed with BPD, I’ve always been repulsed by the alphabet cult. It’s offensive that Ariel even made this a topic.

[@virginiaintn4412]

Thank you. This was a really twisted take on mental health and borderline personality disorder.

[@shade221]

i dated someone with BPD and it became an unmitigated nightmare. not once, however, did any gender nonsense come up, besides her suddenly subscribing to gender roles that only made sense in her head, which is around when the relationship ended.

[@xeIam]

as a person with BPD, THANK YOU we often focus on how BPD looks like from the outside but never aknoledge how difficult it is to actually live with BPD or even what made us like this in the first place

[@Lola_Nico]

@@virginiaintn4412 for real. I don’t think I can support Ariel anymore. She’s adding stigma to an already very stigmatized mental illness. I’ve had fall outs where people would end up saying horrible stuff to me about my BPD. It hurts.

[@MrNobody66]

Jefferys family probably disowned him 😂

[@neepers22]

If he was part of my family, I'd be losing his number and blocking on all devices!

[@theinstituteofmonkeygunvio2542]

That's what you do when Buffalo Bill is your uncle

[@MettleHurlant]

Stranger Danger makes it sound like his choice, but I doubt that.

[@naomivought9317]

I would go into witness protection if I was related to him

[@someguy7805]

My brother and I mutually disowned each other. He hated our father, would never listen to anyone, lived in science fiction fantasy land, refused to pay back a $7000 loan to me, had elaborate revenge fantasy stories, and finally got M to F top and bottom surgery. He died from cancer a couple of years ago. I only found out because the county sheriff called me, looking for next of kin.

[@GenXfrom75]

Some people told their kids they can be literally anything and then they believed it! This ish is just fantasy. They do not live in the land of reality. It’s honestly sad. Nothing is this complicated… especially NOT GENDER. They can dress how they choose. Live how they want. All without forcing the vast majority of the population to engage in their ideas. They’re MAKING IT COMPLICATED because they wake up searching for the drama.

[@WeissdornDE1]

I was diagnosed with "Quiet" BPD, also known as "functional" BPD. Although I am a bisexual female, I absolutely do not identify with any of these TikTok "nut jobs". And I STRONGLY recommend against pathologising these people. First of all, it might give the average person the impression, "this is what typical BPD people are like". Second, it puts them into a neatly labelled box that gives them the perfect excuse that they can use to continue to abuse people around them, and then they believe they cannot change.

[@Jonathan-ub6kt]

The misconception here is that "quiet" BPD is somehow different than "normal BPD". It's all the same personality disorder. What you are differentiating here is that you have more resilience and better coping skills than these individuals. Also, by not seeking to understand the nature of where this is coming from and to understandably raise awareness of the potential link that certain actors in these communities may have with very real mental illnesses or personality disorders, we instead stay silent and by doing so only exacerbate and perpetuate this behavior. This ultimately not only becomes destructive to society, but also to these people as well, because they are endlessly seeking validation and attention by using manipulation and bullying tactics on normal members of society not trained or equipped to deal with these behaviors.

[@rxqueen1618]

Completely agree and if i do have BPD then i also have the quiet kind. It affects me 99% of the time, not those around me. And i've never once questioned my gender. I am also a bi female and I just really don't like this video. It's uninformed and being used as a catalyst for people to spread misinformation in the comments.

[@WeissdornDE1]

@Jonathan-ub6kt there is a big difference between "quiet" BPD and "normal" BPD. The short answer is that people with Normal BPD act "out"; people with Quiet BPD act "in". Quiet BPD people are mad at themselves and not at other people. They don't express their internal rage. So they usually don't get noticed.

[@Jonathan-ub6kt]

@WeissdornDE1 Again, to my original point, this is describing a difference in behaviors/coping mechanisms and reaction to various traumatic triaggers as opposed to an actual diagnosis. "Quiet BPD" is not a diagnosis.

[@Jonathan-ub6kt]

@WeissdornDE1 I guess I should clarify, I see that you're trying to argue for two subsets of BPD behaviors. I understand the point you are trying to make with this argument. My point is, though, one standing diagnosis exists, and more importantly, a person's response and behaviors as it relates to their trauma can change over time back and forth. A person can go from "quiet" to not based on additional traumatic responses. This is why it is important to identify it as a single BPD spectrum and not a black and white subcategory "diagnosis".

[@Eskisie]

I have BPD, but never went through all of this. I have impulsivity though, but again is very controlled. Therapy since 17 helped a lot, I have 35 now. About Jeffrey March I dont think he is borderline, he is just a predator and that's it.

[@vickils9571]

NPD and a bit psychopathic.

[@rxqueen1618]

He definitely does not have BPD. Arielle just read a list off WebMD and said "omg that's so them!!" it's way more complicated than that. You will not be able to tell if someone has BPD based on their tiktoks regardless of how genderfluid or crazy they are. People with BPD aren't predators or narcissists.

[@blip-2024]

Jeffrey has no contact with his family...no real surprise there.

[@Incomudro1963]

I'm certain his family is more than happy with that.

[@manuelcorrea2365]

No wonder why he wants children to break contact with their families too.

[@robertmarshall2502]

​@@manuelcorrea2365 On an entirely unrelated note predators and abusers often try to separate their victims from family and make the isolated and dependent on the abuser Can we all chip a few dollars so we can all permanently go no contact with Jeffrey? I'm sure we have a spare rocket we can point at the sun

[@pmc2999]

Or the truth maybe they have no contact with him. Perhaps not with Jeffery but sometimes for your own mental health and safety you have to shut the door. It always bothers me when someone homeless with a severe mental illness commits a terrible crime. People will say why didn't the family do something. You have no idea how hard some families try. You have no idea how many roadblocks are thrown in the way in the name of patient's rights. You have no idea what it's like to be afraid your own child or other family member is going to kill you.

[@Incomudro1963]

@@pmc2999 Exactly. I've got twin sons - 22 years old - and I've explained to them since they were teenagers how young people end up on the streets. There are things people do (usually drugs) that eventually can eventually even turn their parents against them.

[@momomoley1834]

How disappointing 🙁 I feel for anyone who has BPD. Things like this is why horrible stigmas exist. Not nice.

[@Rae0811]

I absolutely agree. I can’t believe that she would post a video like this going based off one person that she knows who is apparently a psychologist (a pretty poor one based on this video). People are just eating this garbage up and have absolutely no damn clue.

[@N0p3er5]

Doctors use it to drug abuse patients they don't like, as well.

[@rxqueen1618]

I don't know a single person with BPD who behaves like the people in this video. All she's doing is enforcing stigmas and has no clue what she's talking about. BPD is usually not this "obvious". It's way more covert in most cases and not something you can diagnose a stranger with just bc they following woke ideology.

[@eynav8820]

@@Rae0811 I actually completely agree with this because of my experiences… I spent my teen years in mental hospitals who most of the people who were queer had childhood sexual trauma and bpd

[@natto84]

@@Rae0811Uhh, there are tons of people with BPD in the replies confirming this is what extreme BPD looks like, one of my friends who had BPD and got over it with therapy detransitioned in the 2000s after putting her family through hell losing all their friends in order to accept her when it turned out she was just cis and straight, another friend is a lesbian who is recovered from BPD for many years now and recognizes this in people around her in the queer community… Coddling people with BPD and trying to keep them from seeing the reality of how they’re perceived by others is the WORST thing anyone can do. It is genuinely cruel and enabling and condemns them to further years of misery and embarrassment. No one gets better without a wake up call, and the reason this stuff has exploded in recent years is because instead of having to cope with how they’ve ruined all their relationships like they used to, they hop online and get new mentally ill friends who can’t give them an accurate reflection of their behavior and instead feed the very victimization narrative that typically has to be one of the first things to go before they get anywhere.

[@unchosenone3]

Do actual research, cite your sources, and elaborate on your points challenge (impossible edition)

[@JenniferMcMahonhawaii78]

As someone who was diagnosed back in the 90s, the early 90s, with bipolarism, I am so thankful that TikTok did not exist and social media the way it exists today did not exist because I can honestly say most likely those of us who were diagnosed (BY A DOCTOR) before social media are probably more well adjusted today than those who are on social media today self-diagnosing themselves.

[@fishbonesxx]

Are you sure about that? Because doctors then made a LOT of misdiagnosis, ESPECIALLY with bipolar, autism, and ADHD(mostly regarding women). There was also a lot of medical inaccuracy back then in general.

[@michaelfuseau5391]

i'll take my mental health "colonial", thank you

[@puffdaddy69]

They love them buzz words

[@someguy7805]

Makes me want to colonize something.

[@usernane3652]

speaking of bad habits, I need to quit smoking.

[@josmclove4426]

Good idea! All the best!💪🏾

[@annabagwell7965]

I have BPD. I've been suffering from this disorder for 30 years. I'm just a boring lesbian. I am still seeking help everyday. Dialectical Behavioral Therapy is something I am currently seeking. I'm not giving up. It's a horrible affliction. I wouldn't wish it upon anyone. It's painful. I'm lucky to have a wonderful mother, and good therapists.

[@lizardfishbird]

As a mentally ill person with “the look”, I assure you we don’t all act like this. Some of us are functional corporate emos with a stable day job and relationship. We want nothing to do with these people either

[@lucialovecraft]

I have BPD and have “the look” but I live a quiet existence, practice my faith in peace, and go about doing to my job. I feel kinda terrible about myself because when someone looks at me they’re just assume I’m NB or something. Like no. I’m just a woman 😭 let me exist in peace

[@TheSlamMiles]

this lol im rocking the dyed black diy mullet and the eyeliner still but im not tiktoking my breakdowns like when i was 19 nor acting like being gnc makes me nonbinary. now im just a gnc lesbian chilling and ngl my mental health has NEVER been better since i stopped validation seeking on the internet. shits crazy. slight tangent but ppl dont realise how much you can self sabotage by identifying so heavily w labels because you cant let that shit go or you feel like you lose a part of yourself. a huge fucking part of my recovery from addiction was just self acceptance and forcing myself to have respect for myself. just accepting intense horrible symptoms, not acting on them, not wallowing, just letting the pain come and go. i also accepted my lack of sense of self, spent a while vibing as just a person and when i accepted the confusion and let go of a need for identity, my life kinda just fell into place for the first time? i have never felt more secure in myself even though i am still so unsure of myself. but im ok with being unsure of myself because thats who i am!!! honestly i s2g nothing is that deep when ur just vibing in silence and i have spent the first 21 years of my life being fucking INSANE i never thought i could be this at peace w myself.

[@cheechalker8430]

“I am hot And I am Bi” My response: “You are not But nice try”

[@Itss.Ariaaa]

I'm dying 💀

[@eehlohluell]

Lmfao facts!

[@verindictus3639]

Also, "so take off your sweater."

[@j.christopherkrok8101]

"I'd say you're half right, but I'm not even sure I can give you that much credit."

[@someguy7805]

Made me chuckle.

[@bennywarren9866]

They want to stay in a constant state of adolescence and potential. Being an adult means you have to choose a path and your responsible for your action and you can be held accountable. . Something along the lines of what Jordan Peterson said

[@eehlohluell]

This is honestly what it is. Infinite genders= infinite potential of who you can be, it's an adolescent daydream but it is a nightmare if you're someone who understands having too many options and testing them all is absurd and is quite simply mentally exhausting/overwhelming when what you end up trying to do is to excel at it all, which is unrealistic and impossible with our lifespan.

[@megsley]

this is exactly it, and it's why I, as a middle aged adult with a full time job, find these people so exhaustingly insufferable.

[@naomivought9317]

I have adhd and I often find myself doing childish things. Puzzles, collecting dolls, crafts, stuffed animals. I’m feeling much better about my shortcomings in adulthood now after seeing some of this. My #1 priority when being in society is self accountability. My shortcomings aren’t anyone else’s fault. Yeah it’s hard living like this many days, but I’d never expect the whole world to cater to me as the minority. I’m actually really glad I’m so self aware. This is sad

[@bennywarren9866]

@@naomivought9317 respectable

[@NotAnotherKuromi]

I've noticed an awful lot of trans people refer to themselves as a girl or boy, despite being adults.

[@Toc1155]

As someone with diagnosed BPD, I hate that it’s one of the demographics that is falling for this BS

[@naomivought9317]

Same with neurodivergent. It actually is incredibly sad

[@daisysummer514]

Just wondering if there is evidence for this? I have bpd and friends with and they all hate the trans ideology so I’m wondering..

[@Rae0811]

I hate that you don’t actually take any offense to this video and actually think that what she’s saying is valid for us all. I personally don’t think that most of the people in this video have BPD. I think that they are narcissistic sheep who have fallen into cult like thinking. However, many people with borderline personality disorder are not like this. I don’t understand why people are so quick to believe what’s being said in this video.

[@Toc1155]

@@Rae0811 I didn’t say all people with borderline are like this. I literally have borderline. I don’t blindly believe whatever I watch. I make my own opinions and I stand by what I said

[@bakedandbeaded]

@@Rae0811 We understand nuance.

[@Cmpbll_Canada]

I once dated someone with BPD + multiple anxiety disorders + paranoia disorder for 2 years. Once she became non-binary, got self-diagnosed autism, and really full into the “fat power” movement, the symptoms became way too much and the mental illness was used as an excuse for constant manipulation, gaslighting, and emotional and mental abuse. There was no attempt to treat/manage it in any way, but it became worse the more she identified as a “trans person without dysphoria”. Calling her out on her behaviour just resulted in getting called a transphobe and she doubles down on the ridiculousness every time she gets called out. I’ve been out for over a year now and it’s the best move I’ve ever made

[@amayalaurenb]

I don’t think BPD should be inherently associated with these types of people. Lots of really sensitive traumatized people have BPD - and they get the help they need and live pretty much normal lives. These weirdos shouldn’t be thought of as the standard picture of people with this disorder by any means!!! Throughout my life, I have encountered and gotten to know many people who struggle with mental health issues, and I don’t really think any of them were like the extreme people in these videos!! I’m not dismissing, what people with BPD go through and struggle with on a day-to-day basis whatsoever, and I want to acknowledge that impulsivity is definitely one of the trademark symptoms for the disorder (not EVERYONE with BPD will necessarily struggle with this-BPD has many symptoms, and they are interchangeable from person to person) as well as having a tendency to be agreeable (again not everyone). I’m not trying to say that these people don’t exist and that they aren’t out there. And… Ideas and trends become popular for a reason in this day and age; people are so starving for attention that they will do whatever is popular. Unfortunately BPD is associated with extreme moods, Yes - but also extreme suffering and intense emotional pain. Without treatment this can definitely lead to behaviors that are hard to manage and deal with or be around. This definitely tends to shine a light, or give a lot of attention to people with BPD!! People see something drawing attention, and they jump on the train. Now all of a sudden you have another social contagion on your hands. Now all of a sudden, there’s a popular convenient excuse for their ideals and behaviors. Blaming it on a disorder they may or may not even really have. I just feel that you can’t not acknowledge the other sides here - their are so many people who really REALLY do suffer from mental health (and BPD!) who do then decide to seek out support and treatment! recovery is slow, but it happens all the time! I usually tend to like watching your videos, and I agree with some of the things you say, but from my own unique perspective with this disorder,… I think you’re being a little harsh on the entire group of people who have BPD and just go about their daily lives, and manage their disorder as a whole! I truly believe and have seen that the people and extremists in this video and others like them are definitely outliers. We do know that extremists tend to be the outliers of any group!! I don’t know just something to keep in your mind That’s just just my opinion! ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ thanks for reading!!!

[@autumnishere420]

thank you! i 100% agree and as somebody with BPD, i appreciate you speaking up. this video really rubbed me the wrong way despite having been a viewer of arielle's for a while now

[@amayalaurenb]

@@autumnishere420 I just edited it to better and more express myself, but thank you! I also have BPD and I have really struggled with the diagnosis myself and all of the stigma around it! I understand that there are really extreme and bad people in every group, but why do they have to be the representation? We can acknowledge that BPD can cause certain negative behaviors, thoughts, etc, and at the same time someone else with the same disorder, can really only struggle with the emotional aspects and symptoms of the disorder and say they have issues lashing out internally or fear of abandonment. Like seriously both can be true. The people more like the ladder are much more likely to be the ones out there living their life and besides an emotional outburst here and there you would never even know that they had the disorder! Thank you, sending good vibes your way🥰

[@isabellac1185]

can you worry about something that actually effects you? like using sunscreen? damn

[@doe729]

I have a stinking suspicion that it wasn’t Jeffrey Marsh who dumped his family, but it was the family who cut ties with him.

[@bunille]

Marsh knows that the best way to groom a child, especially anyone into a cult for that matter, is to make them estranged from their closest protectors.

[@juliehanson8976]

I came here to say the same thing

[@rand0mdude779]

Well, from what I’ve read, Gum-er, I mean, Marsh was placed into foster care at age 2 after his mother became an alcoholic and was placed into the foster care system until he was taken in by his grandparents at ten. What happens there is too tragic to describe, but now when the dude isn’t dancing to Goodbye Horses or ranting about putting bottles of lotion into baskets he’s convincing minors to distance themselves from their parents to talk to him privately with their credit cards for $ on Patreon, and then denying he did so when called out on it 🤔

[@kathleenpear3979]

Very difficult to live with a narcissist!

[@BeyondBitter]

you know what yea. I was diagnosed with BPD at 18 after a bunch of invol psychward visits. I jumped between FTM and nonbinary at the time and even spiritual beliefs, the face piercings, neon hair, binge drinking ect ect. All of that was an attempt to feel at home in my skin or self soothe. I went to DBT therapy, got on meds and y'know what...? I am no longer a high school dropout with identity issues, I am a young woman in college following my dreams and no longer meet diagnostic criteria for BPD! I even have healthy relationships now lol. I fully believe a lot of these people are suffering from something like BPD or another cluster B disorder and I have a lot of empathy for them because I been there and know how scary and confusing it feels. I hope they get the help they need. I became like that because of a messed up childhood, poor emotional regulation and sexual trauma throughout my life, being a girl didn't feel safe to me and I would dissociate out of my body because my brain was trying to protect itself. Not knowing who you are and seeking community is a part of growing up but BPD makes it much harder, its like being a teenager well into your adult years and not being able to grow up or self regulate.

[@hethefreak]

I have BPD & i never ever tell anyone bc of ppl like this, it makes me ashamed because i dont want ppl to think im like this😭☠️

[@yaelfeder9042]

Eh it depends. I have BPD and I get the vibe these peoples’ parents are cousin since they’re fugly on top of it😅 remember inbreeding makes everything worse

[@naomivought9317]

Best to keep things private tbh. They judge you as soon as they know. I have adhd, MDD and GAD. I don’t tell a soul.

[@Mistmantle88]

Maybe they don’t know that you’ve been diagnosed officially, but the disorder itself is right on the surface for all to admire.

[@manufacturedsmiles5512]

There is stigma online, but also lots of good resources out there from people who have healed, and the people who love and supported them through that journey. People in your life who have earned your trust can benefit from your explaining what is going on and how you're trying to work on it. But trust is earned, so you are wise to be mindful and intentional with who you get support from.

[@nemanjadelevingne4108]

Same, bcus last thing i want is to be put in the same box as these apes 😂

[@BarbieBarb-i3x]

As a Transexual MTF, l refuse to use the term c.. gender to describe Women. This term must be eliminated from our vocabulary. Keep spreading the truth Arielle.❤🦄

[@fishbonesxx]

Could I ask what's so wrong about that term? It's just a descriptor

[@cosmickilroy]

There’s been a study that shows a large portion of transgender people have BPD!! Glad you made this video

[@Tatenak]

I'm 32 and I believe something happened after Highschool, yet before adult life set in. College must've been some kind of trap. I've been to a community college at best, though more highschools than most do. Used to be as teenagers we didn't want to be put in a box and labeled. We wanted to prove ourselves as legit individuals who could make it in the world as adults. Now it seems all people want is to be STUFFED in a box and labeled like a b.d.s.m. trap. All the while pointing the finger at society and yelling at them like it's their fault, but claim it's institutional. ???? Something went horribly wrong. I.d.k. what that was, but people weren't this ridiculous.

[@annamossity8879]

Well said!

[@Imissnormal]

I think social media and the narcissism it fosters is the root cause.

[@AMKB01]

My dearest friend is diagnosed with BPD. She's been getting mental health help for more than a decade, and hospitalized for it many times. She would *never* behave this way. She recognizes that she has a mental illness that needs to be fixed, not embraced, like these people seem to be doing. In the last few years, it's been harder and harder for her to get the appointments she needs, because there are now SO many people with mental health issues. How many of those are genuine and how many are due to attention getting, as so many of these examples seem to be, is the question. Whichever it is, it's made things harder for people who have been diagnosed long ago, and can no longer access the resources available.

[@pmc2999]

I am so sorry for your friend. Mental illness is a chronic illness and we don't have a cure. Meds just help you manage your symptoms. I work in the ED. We send people to the mental health hospitals (three in our state). If they are lucky they get to stay three days. Sometimes people end up in the ED for up to a month. THERE ARE NO BEDS! You are kept as briefly as possible because there are 10-20 people behind you waiting their turn. Our system is so broken. Most of these people should be in long term treatment for several months to truly help stabilize them to be able to live on their own. Instead in my rural state we say, we'll treat you in the community as an outpatient. Just come to these appointments in the car you don't have with the gas you couldn't afford. I hope your friend is able to find a way to get the treatment she needs. At least she hasn't given up and isn't trying anymore.

[@genzi78514]

This is exactly the reason of why I'm firmly against phrases like "everyone should visit a therapist". No, all of us should be encouraged to learn to deal with the difficulties of life, so people in need can receive the help they need.

[@N0p3er5]

​@@genzi78514💯

[@wolfpack9552]

BPD is rough, and I have had severe body image issues, and I had a phase when I wanted to go in for extreme plastic surgery in my teens. I still have issues with body image, but it ain't about gender. It's about self loathing cycles and feeling worthless because of trauma. Lord.

[@fishbonesxx]

Right, but almost no one in this whole video has confirmed BPD. So.

[@AwesomeSimmo]

I got diagnosed with BPD years ago. The bigger issue was how my anger would fluctuate more, and I struggled with relationships. But I did therapy and take meds that moth manage my moods and ADD so I don't go back to where I was. Realistically I'd fit into having Borderline Personality traits now more than full BPD. These people are embarrassments to themselves and those who have BPD and act normal.

[@fishbonesxx]

Okay, but almost none of the people in this vid have actually been diagnosed with BPD. Ariella is just assuming.

[@tabilapointe2191]

I have BPD and I dont go through things like this, makes me feel like crap though when people compare BPD to an issue I feel isn't connected to that what so ever.. I have BPD because of an abusive upbringing, there are soooo many reasons why people have BPD. Its not fair to connect BPD with some gender issue in my opinion, coming from someone with BPD.

[@autumnishere420]

yeah i have bpd too and this rubs me the wrong way...

[@lunachan1805]

Thank you, I was about to say the same thing. This isn't BPD and I don't want to be associated with these people. It's also quite dangerous to label these people as people with bpd, we already get a bad rep as it is.

[@tabilapointe2191]

@lunachan1805 It's very disheartening that this comparison is being made, BPD has nothing to do with gender confusion. Say these people happen to have BPD, they also have a different issue connected to this gender confusion. If you and I (and many others I know) have BPD, and we dont struggle with our gender than that in itself is a clear indicator here that this gender issue is outside of BPD entirely. Very unfair and unfortunate.

[@autumnishere420]

@@lunachan1805 THANK YOU, i 100% agree, we already have enough of an issue with a stigma as it is

[@autumwho]

A lot of Detransitioners get diagnosed with BPD..that is what the point is. Not that EVERYONE with BPD acts like this

[@antongromek4180]

'No Trespassing - No Weirdos behind this point'

[@bertkilborne6464]

So umm , Somewhere out there, someone has explained to a friend that she / he's related to Jeffrey Marsh

[@scarlet12234]

Makes sense. People with unchecked BPD can be quite narcissistic as well.

[@yaelfeder9042]

The two are highly comorbid but anyone can be narcissistic without having the disorder. It’s a completely valid human trait. We’re all just trying to survive in this shit show of a world.

[@WeissdornDE1]

Cluster B personality disorders. There are the "Mad", the "Sad", and the "Bad" disorders. BPD belongs in the "Bad" personality disorders.

[@yaelfeder9042]

@@WeissdornDE1 where did you get this? It’s an ignorant thing to say and unkind.

[@scarlet12234]

@@yaelfeder9042 sure, but the topic at hand is BPD and how there seems to be an overlap of BPD and unhinged LGBTQ+ activist. My point is that the narcissism displayed by these people could lend credence to the idea that many of them do struggle with BPD that they aren't handling well at all.

[@scarlet12234]

@@yaelfeder9042 idk why but I can't see my reply to you so I'm sorry if this is a double comment. That's valid, but I never implied that only people with BPD are narcissistic or even that most people with BPD are. This video is about BPD and how there seems to be an overlap with the particularly unhinged variety of LGBTQ+ activist. These people also tend to be quite narcissistic which lends credence to the idea that many of them are suffering from BPD that they aren't handling well.

[@selinnazsur2328]

"I'm no-contact with my family" You should be no-contact with EVERYBODY, Jeffrey. Especially kids.

[@megsley]

i knew a girl in college with BPD, and one evening she called a mutual friend and wanted to him to hang out with her. the guy had an eight am final the next day so he told her no, and she flipped out. she ended up unaliving herself that night. it was quite shocking, but i have to think something else was bothering her and him turning her down was just the peak emotional reactionary event. its a shame, really.

[@CherryHotSauce]

Poor guy must have felt horrible

[@pukupuku]

Yeah, she probably misinterpreted his inability to hang out as rejection and was already struggling to cope with other things. That’s sad for everyone involved.

[@fishbonesxx]

Rejection/abandonment is a person with BPD's greatest fear, so this makes sense. Poor girl.

[@JanuaryLovesSelena]

I was diagnosed with BPD at 22 years old and started therapy the same week. As soon as I got the diagnosis, the next thing out of my mouth was “what do I need to do?” I used to be similar to this behavior because I didn’t know who I was or what I needed for myself Now, I’m almost 27, I’ve held a full-time job for a long time, I have strong relationships, I’m engaged, and I’m a published author. I’m queer, but that’s just a small small part of who I am.

[@krystalb4336]

I think I figured it out; they think personality, mannerisms and style are synonymous with gender. So just like that first example, they are gender fluid because some days they feel more masculine than others. They don’t realize that a man is a man no matter how masculine or feminine he is and a woman is a woman no matter how masculine or feminine she is. Using myself as an example, I am a masculine woman, and using their logic or illogical explanation, that would make me a man or nonbinary. Their views are misogynistic and reinforce the gender stereotypes they claim to be against. Lol. Like just because I’m not a stereotypical feminine woman does NOT mean I’m something other than a woman. I am a woman regardless of my personality, mannerisms and sense of style. Wow.

[@witchykittyy]

Bingo! Add to that clothing and hair, and the roles they play in society, and you have the reason why they’re confused. They don’t understand that they don’t have to follow the prescribed “rules” for each gender, as in, nobody’s gonna give a crap if you dress more like a dude, and if you’re a dude that wears dresses or whatever, we’re all aware that gay people exist. They don’t understand that this doesn’t make them the opposite sex. It’s kind of insane when you think about it.

[@witchyenvi]

This is literally false on SO SO many levels, how the fuck is this still up, or people are even still agreeing bro

[@trebleclef7792]

Thank you for talking about BPD. It's so hard to live with because it affects not just you, but everyone around you, especially your loved ones. That's why I try to do the work to be the best person I can be.

[@Berryations]

We should all being doing this!! Kudos 😊

[@arielle]

❤❤❤❤❤

[@Rae0811]

Are you kidding me? Am I missing some thing? She gave no real insight on the disorder and only listed everything negative and put a bunch of clowns on the screen to compare us to (or say that they are most likely suffering from it based on traits without any real context) so that anyone without the disorder and no understanding of it will think that this is how anyone with BPD behaves and thinks. Come on…

[@trebleclef7792]

@Rae0811 You're offended cuz she's right... I know there's a huge stigma around people like us. However, we need to step up and do the work to be the best people we can be and fight the stigma that way instead of just sitting in a pile of our own shit and doing nothing about it. It can sound like she was just shitting on us, but from watching a lot of her videos, it's coming from a place of genuine concern, which is valid. A lot of people need pushback or tough love in order to start getting the help they need (it doesn't work for everyone, but it has helped a lot of people, including myself). You have your own opinions and you make your own decisions, but at the end of the day, your actions are no one's fault but your own BPD or not and that's the point she's making which is 100% valid and correct.

[@Rae0811]

@@trebleclef7792 i’m not offended because she’s right. I’m offended because there’s no nuance here. I’m offended because she makes it seem like everyone of us are all the same and we’re not. YOU might be like the people in this video, but many of us aren’t anything like this. Obviously everyone is responsible for their own actions. People with BPD need to seek help. However, BPD often goes untreated because people that have it don’t realize that what they’re experiencing is a mental illness, and will chalk it up to just being part of their personality. It took me 28 years to even find out about this disorder. BPD is often mistreated or labeled with a different mental illness and is a very misunderstood (clearly) mental illness. There are 4 subtypes of borderline personality disorder and not one diagnosis is the same and it’s a case by case basis. Again, to put these clowns in a video and say that based on their abhorrent behavior, they must have BPD, is just ignorant. It’s a heterogeneous disorder and not one size fits all. Yet, this video makes it seem like it does. The people in this video to me are not people suffering from BPD but rather are extreme narcissist who have been brainwashed into this radical ideology. You don’t have to have borderline personality disorder to qualify. If you truly have BPD, then you should know this. yes, the traits she listed are accurate for some. However, they do not apply at all. If you want to think that she’s right for making this video, then that’s on you. Don’t include those of us who aren’t like this or like you.

[@DDRWakaLaka]

paleslime supporters be normal challenge: failed, AGAIN

[@carlton0124]

Can we not diagnose based off TikTok videos, it’s rather insensitive to trans people and people with BPD tbh.

[@reniefuwa]

When did she diagnose anyone with anything?

[@carlton0124]

@@reniefuwa Even the title alone “when BPD runs rampant,” who’s to say these people have BPD? She’s representing them as if they do. BPD is a diagnosis. This is not BPD.

[@zura8124]

@@reniefuwashe literally said “when bpd runs rampant” meanwhile she needs to find Jesus Christ and repent for her sins herself😂. I love the gays destroying each other it’s marvelous

[@V1LL1N]

"this person IS said thing...!" - YES Arielle!

[@HillCountryBluebonnet88]

I’m not going to wake up every day and have to ask my spouse who or what they are pretending to be today. A major mark of maturity is knowing who you are, what you stand for.

[@fishbonesxx]

Right, but a lot of those with severe mental illness lose sight of their personality and who they are. Doesn't matter their age.

[@bradparnell614]

"Not all control is bad." This is certainly true when it comes to choosing where and when we urinate and defecate.

[@MyWyo]

These people have made me not want any part of the LGBT… community any longer. Honestly once the T was added on, I was done.

[@NoOne-bp2jw]

The LGBs need to dump the TQUIA+.

[@fishbonesxx]

The T was added in the 1960s, so..

[@Midwestemoisme]

echo chamber is crazy here lmao, chicks like “i’m not a doctor i’m not a therapist” proceeds to make broad sweeping claims about weirdos online she’s never met, and these dogs eat it up!! holy hell

[@Clint52279]

The woman is supposed to ask her "partner," every day, what gender fits "partner?" In other words, before a word is exchanged between them, one makes the conversation entirely about them. It doesn't end there either. The entire day now is geared ever so slightly towards that person. This is "entry level" abuse.

[@fishbonesxx]

Good god, you're reading way too into that based off of like a ten second clip.

[@rackynjeff]

My husband was applying for a job and they had no joke 19 different genders on the application..no joke..it included all genders, demiboy and demigirl (never heard those before)

[@annamossity8879]

I saw that we have 21 different flags now. As I read the labels I couldn’t help thinking a lot of them were redundant, how many ways can you say that you’ll F anything?!

[@danaso2567]

That is transphobia, there are around 150 genders 😂😂😂jesus

[@fishbonesxx]

I will say that that is kind of crazy. There only needs to be "male, female" and "other" that's it.

[@dib4152]

I'll get my mental health info from a qualified specialist.

[@CyberChrist]

Who'll consult the DSM.

[@Gernot66]

Perhaps a therapist which has time to learn to know you better because he can observe you daily is better as any with a diploma. It's my personal experience, they don't sell ideologies neither drugs and they are aware that you can't understand a personality in a few sessions. You have to observe the participant as a team of therapists else you will probably conclude the wrong out of it. A collective and not a single ones opinion, that's for sure not wrong.

[@chriscintron3320]

@@CyberChristwho actually knows how to use it

[@CyberChrist]

@@chriscintron3320 Checking boxes is SO difficult.

[@fishbonesxx]

THANK YOU.

[@kitkakitteh]

BPD is characterized by a lack of stable (or any) self image. IOW- they are unaware to the point of being completely malleable. Driven by a phobia of being abandoned to the point of neurosis.

[@moodchanger3470]

seriously we need to go back over what a genocide is and what it isnt...

[@robertmarshall2502]

The last person I questioned about this said, "Ok, I don't know actually what genocide is but it definitely is happening."

[@n3wb1shness]

TikTok ruined the world. Cant be shut down soon enough.

[@nedrane297]

1 How much I feel like explaining myself 2 How much I feel like confusing people 3 How tired I am Those are great reasons for your pronoun choices. I mean if you need to have a reason those are the ones to have.

[@MargaritaMagdalena]

That chick who's married to a "gender fluid", who said that gender changes only during the night and every night? If it's fluid and unpredictable, why can't it change at random times, like 11AM or 5PM?

[@AMKB01]

Where is this "genocide" they keep talking about?

[@megsley]

it's so disrespectful to people who've actually experienced genocide in their life.

[@CMM726]

How is it a genocide if these people don’t have children? Genocide means every man women and child is removed from existence. These individuals claim they aren’t male or female and they don’t have kids… and they certainly aren’t getting deleted, if they faced the threat of that they wouldn’t be on Tik Tok they would be hiding in the woods. Get real!

[@CMM726]

In the depths of their delusions..

[@joeschmo622]

Probably the one where they want to erase biological women, umm, "birthing persons".

[@tassiodrigues]

They don't have any argument, so they just end up throwing super negative words around.

[@fishbonesxx]

"Impulsivity, like rapid onset gender dysphoria." That sentence doesn't even go together

[@richarddoan9172]

I am *shocked* that Jeffrey's family has no contact with him.

[@annamossity8879]

😂

[@heyhey9182]

He sounds like a guy who says "all my exes are crazy". Maybe, just maybe, the problem is him.

[@24framedavinci39]

I actually feel bad for these people. I can't even imagine having to live in a mind like that.

[@fishbonesxx]

I mean, most of them probably don't even have BPD. Ariella is just assuming

[@khanbika]

"Controlling your emotions is a colonial idea" Eastern philosophy that has tons about self-control:🗿

[@gymdilettante8407]

Not just borderline... it's cluster B more generally

[@fishbonesxx]

I mean all of this is just assumptions.

[@ufomechanic11]

I have BPD….it’s embarrassing. Like seriously my mind acts like a spoiled child.

[@eliser9776]

BPD: Unstable sense of self, pattern of unstable relationships, inappropriate anger, self harming or other self destructive behavior, chronic feelings of emptiness, explosive anger, lack of insight... blah blah blah... from your friendly neighborhood SW.

[@doeeyes2]

Cross sex hormones is just going to intensify alot of those feelings. Testosterone- prone to violent outburts, anger, sexual proclivity, jealousy, destructive behaviour, instability in relationsips. Estrogen- prone to crying fits, anxiety, depression, insecurity, sadness, mood swings.

[@Skitdora2010]

BPD I know, ex neighbor, tries to ruin peoples lives lying smears calling their job to try to get them fired and threatens self deletion to control others.

[@mjones8170]

You left out attention seeking.

[@vickils9571]

@@mjones8170 That is either HPD or NPD.

[@mjones8170]

@@vickils9571 BPD as well. There's a reason they love pink or blue hair.

[@theLadyjensen]

I’m a de-transitioner and I also have borderline. So thankful I made it out with minimal damage. I think 80% or more of transtrenders have BPD. Hope the world changed

[@Ol-T1864]

It sounds more like the most extreme self-centeredness. The “mental-illness” card is over used and a way to get out of responsibility to victimhood.

[@LogarAcc]

I'm very empathetic towards people with mental illness or people who have been abused in any way (since I am one as well). BUT every time I've met a person and the first thing they talk about is their mental illness or past trauma/abuse before they even get to know me, that is a red flag. They always end up being the worst and most manipulative AHs. People who are genuine, do not bring up their trauma/mental illness until they trust the other person. They don't use it to get away with being AHs.

[@katieandnick4113]

If people had more support, they wouldn’t feel the need to “play the victim card” in order to gain sympathy and support. If a human being learns early on that they have at least one other human being who will be there for them, no matter what, they won’t feel like they have to do “manipulative” things in order to avoid being all alone. Instead of vilifying them, try understanding them.

[@Ol-T1864]

@@katieandnick4113 sorry but when you give support they just take more. There’s no amount of support that selfish people are ever satisfied with. Why is it nice guys finish last, cause giving isn’t what they need, it’s what they want.

[@Ol-T1864]

@@LogarAcc the other consideration is, can you work on self discipline to work through your mental illness? Instead of making it your excuse. I’m not saying life will be easy, but you may accomplish something beside getting people to pity you

[@KomeruMiamada]

@@katieandnick4113more support than they already have? Dang

[@professortwenty8]

Gay dude here. I absolutely love ur content.... I'm glad ppl like u call this bs out

[@fishbonesxx]

Dude, she's literally just assuming that people have severe mental disorders based off of some ten second clips..

[@RynMayhem]

When your stick is transphobia, but you end up being ableist.

[@maylinrivera6482]

BPD is actually has the best prognosis among personality disorders. Typically onset is in the teen years and once diagnosed and with treatment you're likely to no longer qualify for that diagnosis after 5 years

[@dieantler]

Im a gay man with or was with BPD diagnosis. Most of us with bpd symptoms or diagnosis were neglected, seggsually abused etc as kids to teens.. Thus why we're like this. Remission/recovery is possible but need to be mindful, accept responsibility and accountability.. And being told no. Bpd is a painful condition for the one suffering and the one that has to care of them.. But yes, they are insufferable some time. Recovery is possible, and I hope the queer bpd understand that queer postmodern ideology is like poison to us who suffers from bpd. It drives us to madness and sewer sidality faster.

[@bakedandbeaded]

I have BPD... This is something interesting. I was diagosed at 16, 18 years ago, and re-diagnosed 3 years ago... I'm currently on medication that helps uuuuh curb my emotions a little. Not much help but it's better than nothing, from experience. Also, this isn't BPD. This is kids wanting clout online and lying about things. BPD is just another word on that list.

[@sarabellum._.]

There should be separate category for them, becuase they fall into many Cluster B categories. Social media amplifies, encourages and gives them the attention that many of them crave and may probably never received.

[@Nine28457]

My son has BPD. He has a great therapist who has helped him quite a bit. He’s a conservative/moderate gay man. Doesn’t show any of these bizarre qualities. - I wonder if it has more to do with being neurodivergent.

[@neepers22]

Are we seeing more of this as there are platforms like TikTok where they can post for validation, or is the current culture creating more people like this? Or both?

[@megsley]

social media is definitely making the problem 1000x worse.

[@janesmith8050]

I'd definitely say that people who slice their healthy breasts off are self-harming.

[@dudeonyoutube]

Old straight white guy here. Damn, I wish I knew Arielle IRL. She's wise, funny, honest, and dare I say it, sexy.

[@annamossity8879]

She’s definitely the whole package.

[@dudeonyoutube]

...and a bag of chips.

[@sandydenman6083]

Also a lesbian, dear. So you're not her type, but I'm sure she appreciates the compliment.

[@jamisonfawkes8537]

i’m detrans and literally JUST found out last week that i have a diagnosis of BPD while talking to a surgeon about breast reconstruction. how the hell no doctor thought to tell me this over the years is beyond me. thankfully, my symptoms have gotten much better over time and with self work, therapy, and medication (that i’ve finally weened off of after years of being on them). i can’t help but laugh that i’m part of the detrans/BPD statistic because this shit is getting ridiculous. BRING BACK REQUIRED THERAPY FOR MEDICAL TRANSITION.

[@Rsvohi]

Thoughts, emotions and feelings come and go. They are not you, nor do they define you. They do not dictate your behavior. You are responsible for your behavior. The responses you receive from other people with regard to your behavior are a mirror; they reflect the meaning of your behavior in a given social context.

[@annamossity8879]

Thank you! Well said. I’m afraid these people don’t understand the concept though.

[@piperpilot44253]

My ex girlfriend has BPD. So crazy you video came up right this moment. It was a very hard relationship. The hell my children and I went through. She cheated, lied and stolen so much from me.

[@psisky]

Narcissism is plague level this year.

[@terinn7115]

Thank you, Arielle. You are a very intelligent young woman, and wiser than most people out there. Keep it up. We need you.

[@RionPhotography]

I work in mental health and primarily with people with borderline personality disorder - it is insane how many of them have different pronouns/names/genders etc. I have no idea why the practice at the moment is to ENCOURAGE these things. I think it’s pretty clear to most people that it’s not healthy - but every therapist has their damn pronouns in their email signature and talks about this shit like it’s totally legit. I think everyone is just afraid to be shunned because behind closed doors everyone in mental health realizes it’s total nonsense. 🤷🏻‍♂️

[@valerianmandrake]

How would you know "everyone in mental health realizes it's nonsense"? I think the truth is much worse, that these incompetent "mental health practitioners" lack critical thinking and actually genuinely support this dangerous BS. Most of them never even question it. Psychiatry as a field has always been full of shit and misogynistic though.

[@kingofthejunglejoel]

I have pretty bad BPD , but I'm tired of being lumped in the same category as these types of people.

[@RandysVault]

Awesome analysis lass, I am so happy to see that you were not injured when you swallowed that big red pill. The 'trans' community will eventually destroy themselves, I just hope they don't set back the 'LGB's' too much, in the process. TY Randy K 😎

[@RoadWarrior-lo9vt]

I don't thing they will, because the rest of us who aren't brainwashed, have had our eyes open to what's really going on, for quite a long time now. The LGB community has my support for sure.

[@mikewade777]

Not the trans but the Queer, and they have their Tendrils in the LGBT.. They will destroy the lot.

[@EEsYouTubeChanel]

This is SOOOOO TEDIOUS! I have CPTSD and ADHD and guess what? I don't want my mental illness being a part of my life I WOULD BE THRILLED to not have it! Thank GOD I have a sense of self and no BPD or I'd be broken about how I feel like an actual proctologist for the number of assholes I have to deal with.

[@burninheartrob]

“I am not a doctor, i am not a therapist.” We can tell.

[@Jonathan-ub6kt]

As a mental health RN, I 100% agree with this and in fact have shared this same perspective regarding these individuals since the onset of these gender issues

[@annamossity8879]

That “birdy blossom” thing is raging due to the testosterone shots!