Arrested Development Basics

Learn how we can get stuck in our arrested development

[@ebonyapplepy3906]

That's crazy! In my early 20's, I came up with H.A.L.T. I told myself never to make a major decision while Hungry/H😜rny, Angry, Lonely, or Tired. I didn't follow it and got in a few jams. Thank God, nothing legal or life endangering. I plan to put it to practice from now on.

[@JamesSmith-gk8sz]

Such a concise and piercing commentary on a psychosis millions struggle with. There’s a guy at my job who’s in his late 40’s, still wears his high school graduation ring, has a laugh like a little boy, and works with a bunch of 20 something’s because he hasn’t been able to make it anywhere else in our company. Needs constant hand holding, only seems to talk about “back in the day”, and is next to paralyzed when asked anything deep about life. I hope he finds a video like this and gets help. It’s the most saddening and severe case of arrested development I’ve ever seen.

[@helenmathisen3499]

😔🙌

[@justblamedave]

Thank you for describing this. I’m 54 years old. With HALTS I got the S I guess. Stress from trauma as a kid. Plus SE from DASE. It’s hard. I made two songs “Cry to You” and “A Better Man” as part of my own therapy. Very recently I learned I have Arrested Development from a therapist and need help as a father of a 16 year old to overcome it.

[@davidbrown9914]

This is revelatory. I already knew my folks did the minimum to raise me, but it helped me discover more, much more. thanks.

[@FromTheHood2TheWoods]

You and me both bro. Lol. We have to learn all this stuff on our own. At least we recognize it and are seeking growth. Stay strong

[@mlab3099]

Came here looking for a definition and left with my life changed

[@hearme4581]

Seriously

[@mrwbjones]

You and me both

[@IAMTatianaIAM]

Same here! Mind changing! 👍🏻

[@QuantumMech_88]

Interesting comments and all the best.

[@ExaltedWarrior]

This video is AMAZING! This video should be shown in every school everywhere.

[@bungl3971]

this is fantastic, thank you. I especially appreciate the big picture modeling while also avoiding too many labels that could prevent productive discussion with others

[@afireinhearts1302]

Yes. It is so important to see this matter for what it truly is. More compassion (but not pandering), research, awareness, possible solutions/help, etc is needed.This is soo important. I am *so* happy to see a video like this. Outstanding!!! Bless! 🌟

[@Fendora]

Great video! Can you please make a second part for how to deal with HALTS in an underdeveloped spouse? I think society is starving for a few answers on this. Most of us don't even know it's arrested Development. We just see them as jerks when in reality they are unaware of what adults should be like.

[@FromTheHood2TheWoods]

Amen. So true

[@IAMTatianaIAM]

Good point! I am 44 years old and just now learning about arrested development, thanks KZbin!

[@vodkavuitton]

Can you do one on delusional stalkers who hold onto fantasies & harass victims 24/7 for constant attention instead of living their lives & leaving other people tf alone? Why don’t they grow up? Is medication needed? When do they get better supply & ACTUALLY move on instead of trying to make someone jealous who doesn’t even care? What’s the cure for ego & embarrassment?

[@marloboutte6661]

Excellent! It made me laugh. I'm trying to gain an understanding of my marriage and you hit the nail on the head. I will subscribe!

[@SeanMacadelic]

This describes my life to the letter. I am doing everything in my power to get better.

[@veelighted7]

Chris Watts who murdered his wife and kids has arrested development. Wow! You describe it well. Parenting with skill and love is so Important!

[@richard6088]

That's more like psychopathy. He not only cares only about himself, he has no feelings at all.

[@celticspike7]

like Jennifer Drake too. jmo

[@nathanmallory8469]

Wow!! You are great at breaking things down and explaining each part. I wish I had found your videos sooner. Thank you sir! I'll definitely be subscribing 👍

[@moseph8494]

You kept my interest and did a great job of explaining what Arrested Development is. I also couldn't get over your accent. Loved it! I look forward to learning more from your videos.

[@Clevelandsteamer324]

5:00 love bombing, devalue, discard. You missed all of this. Cluster b disorders are no joke

[@gaybyingtonhillpsynp5068]

Very well stated! Thank you for this simple, direct description. I’ve shared it with many others!

[@benjaminbarnes4339]

Easier said than done, but there is a responsibility towards all of us to grow and and learn. Granted, we all do not have the same environmental triggers that others have, and every situation is different. Regardless, morality and reconciliation of what you have done coupled with how it effects the world, however small, needs reflection. I think you did a great job explaining this. It was structured, and simplified for someone going down that road to morally judge their actions.

[@gumbothundereagle8006]

I’m glad I found You!

[@lizbethbrady8308]

You have described it well.......Excellent.

[@mjm5081]

Thank you for sharing your wisdom and expertise! ✌❤🌎

[@ShawnRoscoeVlog]

This is exactly what I was looking for!

[@nicksohacki7114]

Thanks I think I understand season 1 now

[@los396]

lmao

[@ProjectC14]

Lmaooooo 😂😂😂

[@pckid6780]

this is me! holy smokes.

[@lala5061]

Change it! So u can have real love in your life as an adult seeking companionship....🤗 u can do it please do 🙏🏽

[@faatimakriel4385]

Thank you for this eye opening video....

[@zoejoyblack]

hit different watching this in 2021 when he said pandemic

[@janjenkinson1829]

My mom I believe suffered from arrested development.Do you think this can be inherited? Your video: is me: I do all of it, around and around. I’ve been on a journey of self discovery. I truly believe I can break the chain. Your explanation spot on thank you Sir.

[@Wisdomseeker5]

Thank you so much. From Norway

[@LiLHarOak]

HFS…. Where were you when I was pro se during my custody battle 😂… (thank God I didn’t need you, but man I really could’ve used THIS!)

[@princessfrancois8225]

What does one do to "develop"? Do u have a video discussion remedies? Thanks!

[@rosanerio2]

EXCELLENT VIDEO!! Thankk you ever so much!🙌👏💖✨

[@wizwonderful268]

This was amazing thank you

[@thomasjones4893]

So what should I do if I am severely stressed? Where can I go to help myself?

[@tomokofliearman9468]

You are right and clear. What is the solution to deal with husband with this. Anybody? Thank you.

[@gigichica]

Thank you for this video!!

[@anitagreene1858]

Oh yes this is so true! I felt like, I became the mom to a little grwon boy So sad 😢

[@kismetbridgeforth9131]

Excellent! Thank you.

[@yobeenocreative6984]

Great explanation.

[@chrome92012]

Wow! That was some great info

[@aliceb.1957]

Good teaching

[@triggerwarning2982]

Just wanted to ask, are you a believer in Jesus? Your language reminded me of a fellow Christian when you brought up “the unholy trinity of me myself and I” and also when you rightly called out pride. Anyway, very good teaching on arrested development. Much appreciated.

[@makattackaa]

This is helpful.. my ex is in a DASE..

[@RadicalAwesomeness]

So what are healthy, adult ways of coping with HALTS?

[@goldbrick2563]

What is HALTS?

[@jamespeacock1130]

Thank you so much

[@bobsapp807]

amazing video

[@FromTheHood2TheWoods]

Thank you brother

[@d11i37n31]

WOW!!! EXACTLY.🤦 What percentage of the American population is struggling with Arrested Development?

[@BeeRoyLee]

Is it possible to correct?

[@hearme4581]

This explains so much

[@mr.g8173]

thank you

[@ssapsycho]

So...if you are a victim or sufferer of this...pistol or shotgun? You know everything else so what's the best way to go?

[@Cameren_Grimes]

🤣🤣

[@SmarchitectMann]

NEITHER!!

[@justblamedave]

Neither one.

[@showintell]

awesome

[@amouxaden]

this is such good info

[@eliciagarcia8981]

this helps but i was looking for CURES or treatments for arrested developments. Not just the problem explained but also the solution (im doing a project on it).

[@mohamedarbaoui840]

Unfortunately, there is no translation into Arabic

[@Relayneir]

Did he just say that "we represent the unholy Trinity"

[@JulieDeuxFois]

HALTS! WHat a revelation!

[@giulibi]

thought this was about the show

[@AlexHandforth-xr1gp]

lol so everyone is at first stage . lol ive never met anyone past the first level lolol . most adults are me myself and i lolo

[@BuioPestato]

so basically the trick is staying away from dugs alcool excessive food and sex during 12-21

[@mobrazenyet4606]

I am not sure about that part because I never do those all my life yet I still feel developmentally arrested.

[@BuioPestato]

@@mobrazenyet4606 try LSD

[@dollpits]

Lol I’m fucked

[@thematrix5115]

@@dollpits me too lol

[@EnpuerKT]

I made an observation while watching this video: Mr. Rob has a motorcycle in the intro, a portrait of John Wayne, and a Bison coffee mug, very manly indeed. I keep noticing my peers, 25-40 yr old men unintentionally and constantly, showing in their youtube videos, Funko POP dolls, action figures, cartoons(anime), stuffed animals, and many other questionable items, like treating video games as a worthy adult activity, all that makes me believe in Rob and the arrested development pandemic. Another thing I noticed is how all these ladies are divorcing under the reason that they wanted to marry a man, not a boy... sad but true. Rob if you ever get a chance, can you reply and point me to more content regarding this phenomenon of men losing touch with their Y chromosome, are we facing another Spanandry? Thanks

[@EnpuerKT]

@Tango November the comment was targeted to fellow men, females don’t count. It’s Mankind not womankind

[@EnpuerKT]

@Tango November ohhhh yeah lol, It’s a crazy world out there.

[@lilgorgo]

@@EnpuerKT Womankind is God 🖤

[@sissi8610]

Hi, thank you for this video. But how come I wasn't ego-based at age 10? My 16 year old brother got kicked out, cut off and I was horrified for him and cried and promised him I would come over to cook for him? How come I wasn't just all about me, like you said in your video, up to the age of 12, people are ego-based? I was totally feeling sorry for my older brother and crying for him. Maybe your model isn't so true? Maybe this ego-base stops a lot earlier, maybe at age 6 or something like that?

[@richard6088]

Not every single person is exactly the same. You have to realize the complexities if the human mind.

[@janjenkinson1829]

Sounds like you flew right into big time co dependency: me too

[@sissi8610]

@@janjenkinson1829 I don't see it that way at all. I am still amazed that I had compassion like that at Age 10. I think it's a good thing. I heard it somewhere before, some children have a lot of compassion already, they need to learn to assert themselves better, and to take care of themselves, and some children have hardly any compassion, they need to focus on that and learn to consider others as well. I strongly believe that our souls have been around for a long, long time, and we come here, already with characteristics and qualities. As David Attenborough said in one of his documentaries, every spider had it's own personality. I hope you learnt how to consider your own needs as well, and don't allow yourself to be exploited, but having this basic compassion for others, I think, is a really good thing.

[@justrenee2640]

I am Codependent and my ego is very wishy washy and never really presents itself until I become resentful