Arrogance, Expectations & Inspiration - Personal Q&A with my Brother | Ali & Taimur Abdaal

[@anthonysarabia4342]

Who else thought the thumbnail looked like he just edited two of him lmaooo

[@basicpenguin3844]

Me😂😂😂💀

[@sunnyyyyyyyy01]

I was just about to say this 😭

[@shagi1604]

Me too 🙋‍♂️

[@AArrad]

Tony Creates legit came here to type this, hahahahaha turns out everyone thought this

[@iqrahafsahussain]

OMG yes

[@aiyeshaamod191]

Imagine them fighting . So civil and using full standard english whilst also providing statistical evidence from various studies.

[@yos5177]

Aiyesha Amod ahamdulilla

[@pastelarvocado2475]

I know right 😂😂😂 love those two brainiacs 👏

[@jadex9733]

Aiyesha Amod haha

[@Zetsuke4]

Ali's a sucker for life advices. Taimur doesn't like it. Civil w a r .

[@tomh383]

😂😂😂

[@ozlemylmaz8822]

Wow, his brother is just so modest and lovely, being shy even about telling where he studied...

[@priyaramesh7196]

And that being Oxford

[@hanes2]

I knew it, u cloned your self to be more productive,,

[@SharveshYT]

That’s why Ali has 48 hours in a day!

[@abuzarismail9234]

This explains so much

[@gc-yt6627]

Ha

[@framclean7910]

Lol

[@percolating-in-this-dancerie]

Lmmaooooo I cackled sooo hard at this

[@Zetsuke4]

Cambridge Medicine and Oxford Math?? So strong.

[@username-yn5yo]

the seed is strong?

[@HeyEveryoneHi]

I knoowwwww the combination wow

[@artbymeema-abstractart593]

Hahahahahahahahaha

[@etlens]

Hence the receding hair linex2 ... 😆

[@patricia9990]

erikawithaktian sIS 😂😂

[@missmisha29]

Every asian parents dream children

[@abeldiaz111]

You can see in Ali’s face how proud he is of his brother

[@TheEgyptianBackpacker]

if they fight, it would be the most educative/productive fight

[@jaylakayalah5798]

They would come away having learned a lot about the other side of the argument Ali would then probably update his second brain on this new information.

[@debbiejefferson1624]

if they fight, it would be the most educative/productive fight

[@adamgil4159]

Not Overthinking Podcast in a nutshell

[@blueisanidiot4358]

@@adamgil4159 this is so true lmao

[@Antisocialhijabi]

Their mum really said copy and paste

[@Cattaaliyah]

Lol so true

[@adeelkhan5458]

Haha good one

[@lightofeyezz]

No, no they just have similar style

[@theloniousMac]

“At 13 I decided I needed to get my life together.” At 13 I was developing my own escape and evade maps to get home from school. Going to an all black school was generally an exercise in survival.

[@nowpresent2167]

Get out of that neighborhood or country ASAP and start a life somewhere safer 🙏

[@BayouBarbie504]

Me too! Oh America. It makes you strong though.

[@theloniousMac]

@@nowpresent2167 America is extraordinarily safe, quite possibly safer than anywhere else, but there are intense urban areas scattered around, with certain demographics and politics that account for the misleading violent reputation. I grew up and got out long ago.

[@t0fu27]

Lmao

[@tatendamhindurwa6380]

Here for Taimur's laugh.

[@JonahEbere]

Ali, I do not see, find you arrogant nor boastful. Let no one put you in a box, preventing you from being yourself so as to please anybody. You are helpful and inspiring and one to look up to. Keep being you and how best it works for you.

[@Bebbolove]

Jonah Ebere I find that Ali takes A LOT OF PRIDE in whatever he does & celebrates being proactive, achieving goals be it personal or work etc. Being ambitious, go getter, proud of what u do & have, can still be a positive thing.. I actually like such public figures who inspire. I also like Taimur’s frank & authentic personality. Tbh I have met arrogant ppl. Ali just comes off confident & positively proud of the results & benefits from his efforts. 😊

[@JonahEbere]

@@Bebbolove I completely agree with you and I love seeing both Ali and Taimur, they give different perspectives based on their individuality and differences which gives these type of videos it's appeal and relatability.

[@Bebbolove]

Jonah Ebere Yea, the relatability.. At times, I prefer this type of personalities than certain success gurus who overdo it... 😝 Being proud in what he does & being able to convey his practicality to others in such a way many ppl understand is really cool. In fact I like the confidence. Proud does not always equal arrogance & negativity. As Long as it doesn’t get to your head.

[@JonahEbere]

@@Bebbolove very true.😁

[@ltotheop7512]

Omg Taimur is so personable! I didn’t expect to enjoy this video as much as I did... I might start listening to your podcast

[@farhanmunawar2420]

"At 13 I decided I needed to get my life together.” when i was thirteen i realized i should not eat sand because it is harmful for my health lols

[@harshpherwani6590]

At 13 I was still crushing over an anime character

[@ayyubshaffy3612]

22:29 when he mentioned "Naruto" - I instinctively knew Taimur was the better brother..

[@nabeelhakeem3593]

Hahaha hes a man of culture

[@orange17apple]

SAME

[@niamhnortheast7413]

Imagine how hard their parents could brag oxford and Cambridge kids daym

[@t-bodebates7119]

Just their mum actually 😊

[@fahimr.09]

What happened to his father?

[@queenal7710]

@@xfire3778 Actually they were raised by a single mother who raised two gents. If my son's turned out to be like them I'd be very proud of them!!

[@xfire3778]

Queen Bee where does he mention that?

[@queenal7710]

@@xfire3778 In his other videos

[@rafiulalam2390]

Taimur sounds like a mathematician; thoughtful, never settles for something obvious, to him there is not an absolute answer to anything and has to choose among thousand approaches to talk about anything. 🤔 While Ali sounds like a doctor. He has to keep things simple and speak to the pith so accurately that even a 5 year old can understand it easily! 😌

[@poisonedpawns-chess1291]

hmm, wonder what they studied in college

[@soniyahussain4664]

Exactly

[@abhi.shek_24]

I love how Ali describes the difference between being arrogant and confident. And Ali is confident but certainly not arrogant.

[@notyou379]

i can see his brother gravitating towards a spiritual sense of meaning and i really like that, specially when he talked about ali and his external achievements

[@sayani6805]

I really loved their conversation. I find it very interesting and intelligent... And personally I really liked Taimur's personality and his approach towards life!

[@danyalk2660]

I agree with your brother 100% when it comes to feeling marginalized due to not being in the medical profession. I am a social worker and I barely can contribute to any discussion my friends have because all they talk about is medicine!

[@TheEliteunit]

What do social workers do? What's your day to day routine like?

[@fr-it6iw]

@@TheEliteunit shit all

[@danyalk2660]

@@TheEliteunit there are many different kinds of social workers. I work for a non profit as a project manager and mental health counselor. Some of my days are with clients in the community, some days are just administrative work

[@yeahgirl11]

@@danyalk2660 God bless you for going into social work. You people are saints. You're the very safety net of society, and you deserve MUCH HIGHER pay. It's criminal how you guys are treated.

[@saraha340]

@@danyalk2660 Thanks for existing. I am exactly in your position, this elitism tires my mind ( which by the way is already exhausted from finding solutions for the invisible plagues of people's minds). More power and prayers to you.

[@nishathaider741]

"You are actually wearing my tshirt right now" typical sibling thing😂

[@abhiramims9465]

Real confidence comes only by knowing who you really are, independent of the external(self realization) .That inturn makes you perceive life situations with more clarity, and thereby the real confidence sets in.We are always confident about something only when we are well versed at it.

[@ryujin8842]

Amy 16 Beautifully well said!!!

[@sazbomb6996]

24 minutes of Ali being assaulted by a plant 😂

[@Prof.SchulzeSternberg]

I just wanted to write THIS :-D

[@geewhiz5050]

I would have cut that leaf off after 0:00:01

[@nehachavhan4069]

🤣😂😂

[@maanika19]

🤣🤣🤣

[@sundusmahamed4477]

Lool

[@sampurnamukerjee2162]

I absolutely love how real you two brothers are! It's so heartwarming and lovely to see!

[@haniwww]

You guys have different perspectives, but I enjoy them, they’re interesting in ther own way. I’m like Ali, a sucker for life advice, but I’m keen on Taimur’s desire of being an original thinker. Favorite siblings!

[@fatemehb8585]

Every thing Taimour said is very true ! Specially when he was talking about growing up in a family that most of them are medics & the following problems & pressures ! I've been in that situation :|

[@Malikmxk]

Damn you guys look like twins mashallah

[@ImLadyBlue91]

They arent !!!!?????

[@Malikmxk]

ImLadyBlue91 I’m not sure 🙈🙈🙈lol

[@maddsn]

@@ImLadyBlue91 They're not twins. Ali is about a year or two older

[@asma5577]

Totally agreed hhhhhhh

[@asma5577]

@@ImLadyBlue91 nope Ali is older hahahaha😂😂

[@Muradsahar]

"You are basically building an app" boy you killed him.. Kiled his soul.

[@nadiarc7039]

Wish Taimur had a KZbin channel and do vlogs, too!

[@cocopopp-6865]

Nadia R C same!

[@ssp4321]

@@cocopopp-6865 he does have one

[@cocopopp-6865]

@@ssp4321 whats it callled

[@ssp4321]

@@cocopopp-6865 kzbin.info The channel is of the name Taimur Abdaal. Click on the link above.

[@mxdmo]

@@ssp4321 no it’s not

[@ThePeanutGiant]

Taimur needs a KZbin channel ASAP. Guy is more down to earth.

[@k____5697]

18:12 rings true to me as an Indian!! My dentist/doctor cousins are rewarded for the accomplishments and held in high regard and it doesn’t seem to equate to me, when I win an industry nomination/award or an award at work. I take comfort in knowing I’m not alone and it drives me to work harder.

[@QuanitlyDemure]

19:46 Love Ali’s impression of Tam. I feel like I know them both so well from this one interaction alone

[@DaanishMahmood]

Taimur needs to feature more on your channel! Big fan of the podcast! Listening to you two has made my car journeys more enjoyable

[@AN-mm9dd]

Imagine having a sophisticated, educated talk with your brother without fighting every two seconds.....😌 Nah never gonna happen😔

[@AN-mm9dd]

@-- lol I know. I meant that I can't relate because me and my brother always fight.

[@RuhabDabeer]

I do that lol

[@Dr.anisatariq]

Great discussion! And the part where Taimur said he felt marginalized is so true, growing up in a Pakistani family the one thing everyone dreams of is being a doctor or an engineer, anything outside that you're considered a failure. It's been happening for so long but unfortunately some people, especially in Pakistan, have no idea how that effects individuals growing up. This is a very serious topic and I think it needs addressing further!

[@DragovianMythiX]

It doesn't make sense anyway. A country needs qualified people in all fields, especially a developing country that cannot easily brain drain such people from other countries. Wish brother country Pakistan the best. Pakistan Zindabad! From Turkey.

[@katiavione]

Taimur, I feel you. ❤️ My older (and only) brother is a neurosurgeon! I’m obviously the family disappointment being just a psychologist. Happy to join you in one of these all meds gathering and talk spreadsheets all the time. Some might not see it this way, but spreadsheets can save lives too!

[@reezis1619]

I've never seen someone calling a psychologist a dissappointment before, thats weird, where I live it is just as difficult getting in to med school as studying as a psychologist. It is just a matter of personal opinion which one you prefer the most

[@shahiraifrit7992]

Although Ali always gives a disclaimer in the intro in this types of videos that this will not add value to life and etc. I always feel that I need to up my game on having actual intellectual conversation with people. Like, hearing you guys speak make me have inferiority complex.

[@colinhoknam7271]

Lmao accurate af

[@revatilokhande7121]

omg same

[@infinite19951114]

Me too

[@bookaholicn4367]

so true

[@Zetsuke4]

You need to be more confident and steadily develop your interpersonal skills. Learn and grow more today than yesterday, everyday.

[@notarsalankhan]

I low-key sometimes feel Ali is the living embodiment of Sheldon

[@daniyaparvez502]

taimur - *explaining how he was binge watching naruto at 13 * ali - visible disappointment

[@amfarhan88]

Confidence is I can do it. Arrogance is only I can do it Frankly you look confident in what you say. I can see you have things well sorted for you. I mean even I have and there’s a part of me that wants people to adopt some of the positives that I have. So I can see what you do.

[@quratulaintariq847]

I agree with Ali. Arrogance has 2 characteristics : either you think of others as inferior to you and/or has difficultly accepting the truth(denier of truth)

[@dilans3621]

Completely agree with Taimur and the pedestal given to Doctors in the Asian community

[@roxxymiller]

Confidence with humbleness is important. This can help reduce the perception of arrogance.

[@TheMarmite09]

Taimur should start a YT channel. He has a great sense of humour! Sorry, Ali!

[@sabrinafarah2255]

“The focus on the external achievement of things doesn’t sit well with me” dude that spoke to me

[@sabrinafarah2255]

“As the driver for confidence”

[@sabrinafarah2255]

Sadly that’s where I put my value and when I didn’t do well in school it work i would put my self so down. I think it’s so important to know your worth outside of your accomplishments and being you.

[@hanibunny]

I've been listening to your podcast for a few weeks already and I really like how Taimur laughs. It's very infectious in the podcast. Was finally able to witness it in this video. I thought in the thumbnail there were two Ali hahaha

[@keerthanakunnamvally116]

Though I like your tips on productivity and work but I like your brother's notions about taking our own selves too seriously, comparison and on the emotional front

[@nooraaljanahi1159]

Just two nerds chatting - loved this.

[@user-cr8xm1gw6y]

ههههههههههههههه ، يوم اتابعه احس اني غبي وفاشل

[@pallavimenon6299]

The difference b/w "internal arrogance" and confidence is that confidence only appears when you are faced with a challenge, whereas arrogance is something that's constantly present in the way a person interacts with another person. Does that make sense?

[@nooribrahim7868]

I'm Arab and I would say 80% of my family are Doctors, but neither my mother, father or family have ever pressured me to be a doctor. Ironically externally there seems to be an assumption that I will become a doctor (I'm not medically inclined by the way). It's to the point that me and my family were at mosque and an aunty came up to me, my mum and my sisters and starts asking about what we have applied to for uni. Neither me and my sister have applied for medicine and we tell her honestly what our choices are, and then the aunty says to my mum "But aren't they smart? Why wouldn't they pick medicine?" as if that has to be the default choice of everyone with good grades and a medical family. So it can be very pressuring. Even if you aren't pressured by your family, I find that there is a tacit expectation from teachers and acquaintances that arabs/asians/muslims in general will study medicine.

[@aena5995]

Ikr or engineering i feel like anything other then that is just condier employable btw wht did u do in uni and when did u apply for it , and got for alevels?

[@nooribrahim7868]

@@aena5995 Yeah me and my mum have this joke: " you could be a doctor or an engineer, or a doctor or an engineer". I am actually in my final year of Alevels and I have applied to do modern foreign languages. You?

[@thedragonreborn3905]

Noor Ibrahim yeah I studied computer science and people always ask why I didn’t go into engineering 😂

[@dhruvrajaganesh1608]

Basically brown skinned ppl like u and me 😂

[@dhruvrajaganesh1608]

Im thiking of going aerospace engineering line

[@imdee9024]

You two are just lovely and honest. What a brotherhood.

[@lifewithshreya7758]

Literally feel the same way taimur feels about comparing siblings

[@chin8062]

Im sorry but I find Ali hilarious and he doesn’t even try to be funny.

[@mansiverma8541]

Yes , same here. Don't know why 🤭😂

[@Cattaaliyah]

Lol me too

[@hassan123456killa]

People like Ali make great employees. Taimur is the type of guy to use someone like Ali to grow his business.

[@shaziasameen9687]

ooh god Taimur is so honest..Really like his vibe

[@leena1658]

have to admit i prefer taimur’s podcast topics as opposed to life advice topics just because they’re more enjoyable to listen to, but I still find the life advice stuff useful.

[@AN-mm9dd]

This channel is great for my brain😁

[@rushdamuneer]

It sounds exactly like me and my sister. She is a doctor soon to be surgeon and I am a computer engineer. My mother is a doctor and I grew up listening to their medical talk every single day. Never felt so relatable.

[@zhrae9992]

I got Taimur's feeling as an outsider and devalued. I am a chemical engineer and for years ppl did not understand what is a CE they understand mechanical civil but not chemical. So they just give me the same disinterested answers 😂

[@SolvayConference]

Yeah... people think CE= Chemistry + engineering lol

[@zhrae9992]

@Unsung Songs in my country they do because many do not understand what we do. they just think its a fancy name for a chemist :)

[@zhrae9992]

@@SolvayConference exactly lol

[@jksbottommole8463]

haha my brother finds chemical engineering boring yet quite useful in a way but his heartstring was pulled by mechanical hopefully and inshallah he can be that

[@aimmaz]

the proud tweet of Taimoor, 'I'm proud of you' is like I take self-pride in being by your side.

[@LouFederer]

Taimur is super philosophical. Love him.

[@fifihatchi9892]

You have a very endearing dynamic. I love these types of videos and the podcast, please talk about the "geting ppl to like you" idea on it. I'd love to hear your thoughts on that.

[@iOmarYGY]

14:40 Regarding this, Ali do believe in himself and is indeed successful in many areas and he is really meaningful. He seem very respectful to others, while remaining very respectful towards himself. Respect to both of you guys.

[@Mitachiyo]

You two brilliant kids! Adding - Its a very Asian thing, I'm with Taimur. In India people do either 1)medicine or 2)engineering. In that order. So imagine 15 years ago when you pick arts :) Things are tilting a bit but very little.

[@msz9523]

Ali is genuinely the only youtuber who'll start his own video by saying 'this won't add value to your life'. Keepin it real mate!

[@shumibegum3599]

Completely understood what Taimur was saying about feeling undervalued! Such a good video and had a laugh watching it :)

[@cleanupinaisle3]

I feel like Taimur is hugely accomplished and would benefit a lot from understanding that from his own side. I sympathize with his struggles with being compared to physicians; a huge part of my social circle is physicians and though I chose to study dentistry for a multitude of reasons, it is by no means because medicine was somehow too difficult or unachievable. There is a certain idolatry with physicians, and though I agree that medicine is an incredibly difficult field, the fact that someone does something else doesn't mean we have to fall victims to our environment. That said I identify a lot with Ali as well, having interests in science, healthcare, design, and productivity. I think having a career that spans both something people need (healthcare) and want (self-development, online learning, etc.) is fascinating. It's been great following your journey, Ali. And I checked out Causal; it's super polished and I can see it being exceptionally powerful, so I hope Taimur finds a lot of success in that.

[@anonymous25800]

Damn i feel like they have exact voice quality like literally exact... The way of speaking and body language also is exactly same... Wowww i know they are siblings but this much similarity without being twins...Amazaing

[@nafisaanjum5495]

Ali is not arrogant, he is confident. Anyone can see that.. Sometimes I feel like when he's talking, there's a bullet train passing through!! 🤣🤣🤣 He is a fast talker.. No time to waste time.. 🤣🤣🤣 And the brother taimur he is innocent and nice.. Down to earth ❄️

[@sonatawinchester5951]

Oh, I loved this. Your parents must be very proud of you both.

[@Msferedrose]

My brother and I love your channel Ali and thought this was hilarious and fun!! Taimoor is so cut and dry, what on earth ahahaha ❤️ I might just check out the podcast now

[@Schneeeulenwetter]

so for me confidence: being / feeling comfortable with who you are and then i think there are two type of arrogant type 1: you think you’re better than someone else (which can very well be true) type 2: you treat people as if you’re something better (i hate that)

[@megamero10]

Best duo on the Internet 👌🏻I love ur podcast too!!

[@hajm6815]

Can 10000% relate to being the only non medic in Asian family and family friend gatherings. And totally agree about how growing up you’re constantly fed this narrative about how being a doctor is the ‘best thing ever’. I distinctly remember when I was around 17 and we went to a family friends house. And two of the ‘kids’ had both just started their first year in med school. I remember walking into the room and seeing them engrossed in this really intense conversation about...medicine stuff...clinical practice...patients etc. It’s kind of adorable thinking back to how passionate they were but also very eye rolling. These guys hadn’t even finished their first semester and they were already taking themselves so seriously. Even now in my mid to late twenties this happens any time we all meet again. It’s not necessarily devaluing but it’s a bit like...come on there’s much more to life. 🤦🏻‍♀️ I’m here for you Taimur, let’s start that support group!

[@justbecause246]

Could relate to Taimur's most of the answers but the one hit home was the one being compared and not valued for other career choices if you have doctors, PHDs in your family. I was accepted for engineering and was asked to explain myself: ''why? , why not medicine?, Women engineer and if you pick medicine in future you can build a hospital ( I will help you)''. I loved science, maths, and computer but medicine was not my cup of tea at that time. Now I am an accountant so it has pushed me further down in gatherings and on top of it my sister being an engineer doesn't really help, lol.

[@naffizuddinmohd5835]

OMG BROTHERS ONE IN CAMBRIDGE -MEDICINE AND THE OTHER MATH - OXFORD IS JUST MIND BLOWING!!!... GOTTA TONS OF KNOWLEDGE MAN!!

[@tomi8955]

Taimur had me laughing so hard.One of my favorite videos.You guys are great, weldone!

[@popeyestrong123]

Your brother is just as brilliant as you !! so much to learn from you both !! thank you so much for sharing !!

[@kiaschaos8818]

15:00 I think the difference between Confidence and Arrogance is that Confidence is "It doesn't matter if you like me or not, I'll be is fine either way" while Arrogance is "You will like me and I know that."

[@KianDaneshi]

Good to see you have the same fashion sense

[@Glocsi]

Ali’s “ok” at 2:42 😂🙈 Really gave it away how he feels🙈😂😂

[@dittilio]

@4:50 is the left and right sides of my brain, but more eloquent. It's a constant battle between productivity and originality.

[@czarinagrace2491]

Your differences really make you both interesting. Wish you both well! 😁

[@saeediqbal5385]

MASHALLAH BOTH OF YOU HAVE MADE SO FAR.ITS KINDA INSPIRATION.

[@daniellemaria1662]

Just followed Taimur on insta for the captions. Was not disappointed.

[@anla3957]

Taimur's laugh is so wholesome and merry I can't help but laugh along! 😂

[@BuddhiXgb]

Yeah I agree, Arrogance is thinking that you are better than others and rejecting the truth.

[@BritishFarEastTradersOfficial]

Ali and Taimur...a healthy dose of Yin & Yang. Perfect together. Bless you both. Love the two of you Together in KZbin 🙏🙏🙏☕☕☕

[@imaanshahid9195]

We really should start a support group! I recently moved to Pakistan and I totally understand what you mean taimur. There is always this “great appreciation” for doctors especially in Pakistan, so much so that my aunt suggested I take a gap year and apply to a medical college just because I have the required A levels, despite knowing my disinterest in medicine. But as most brown kids from overseas I just listened, ignored and carried on with my own aspirations. 😂

[@mustafaosman759]

16:07 Taimur c’mon you’re both good looking! 🤦🏽‍♂️

[@mariembah2105]

Taimur is me. I can relate to the way he thinks and asks questions. I studied statistics, I wanna become a datascientist and i refused to study medicine

[@elizabeth4689]

I love these q&a videos. and to add to the discussion about arrogance, I think you have every right to be confident and proud of what you've accomplished. I haven't heard a hint of arrogance coming from you at all.

[@dmd2803]

it's weird seeing Taimur on here!! I have been listening to you two podcasts for so long it feels weird actually seeing you two interacting instead of just listening

[@baoanhnguyen4128]

after watching around 5 videos of yours, I am officially your fan now, while watching this

[@arthits9858]

Wow! One of the earliest viewers!

[@connormc08]

This was great! Such honesty! I appreciate the candor from you both! Very entertaining to watch!

[@hiiiii7482]

Taimurs laugh is amazing!

[@1DsAwkwardTurtle]

Completelyyy agree with Taimur on the Medicine rant - I feel like people see me as the ‘failure kid’ purely because I didn’t do medicine. It has nothing to do with not being able to get in - I was great at sciences and had the grades to get into a really good university for medicine - I just DIDN’T WANT TO 😂 I also give a vague response about what I’m doing, knowing full well the person’s stopped listening after realising I don’t do med hahah

[@somehowidk6954]

Oh my... two brothers one who did maths at Oxford and another who’s a med student at Cambridge. Your parents must be so proud !!