We Went Shopping For Our New Sizes

"The journey to accepting yourself isn't going to be solved by getting rid of pieces of clothing... but it's a step."
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[@memorydocumentation5942]

clothes are supposed to fit us, we’re not supposed to fit into clothes

[@clarisun]

That's excactly it!! :)

[@elfenlied_girl1238]

SAY IT LOUDER FOR THE PEOPLE IN THE BACK!!!

[@KestralWolfe]

Always remember, ladies; though mens' sizes are based on actual measurements, womens' clothes are the wild west. At one point womens' clothing was actually regulated over brands. However, now, there is none of that. Brands, generally now, size their clothes based on who buys their clothes. Try to seperate that number from you, yourself, if you can. Like she said, just think of it like a shoe size. Don't let the conceit of others, and of these brands take your self-love away from you. You deserve more than what that number makes you feel.

[@Banyo__]

Its ridiculous. I was bridesmaids dress shopping in a regular clothing department, not a dress shop, with the bride, and she found a dress she liked and it was 3 sizes smaller than what I normally wear and I swore to her it would never fit, and it did. Clearly a vanity size b/c there was no way, and yet in other brands, I need two sizes up.

[@ladyicondraco]

So happy to see modest dressing represented! I don't have a religious reason for dressing modest, I just feel more comfortable and it is so nice to see modest styling represented.

[@GuzmanLaBelica]

Yes. I like dressing modestly and I feel like it's harder now a days to find good looking clothes that's full coverage. A ton of shirts now a days are cropped or super open in the chest area.

[@Jadorelainie]

Word and also not look as stiff or prissy, but also a way some people chooses to express themselves!

[@izzywoods794]

I switch my modesty levels all the time but everything everywhere is cropped! Normal shirts that aren’t oversized are a rarity

[@misskay710]

Same. I hate showing too much, it makes me uncomfortable

[@andreahopeorg]

@@GuzmanLaBelica Right, I'll find the perfect dress and then see the back is cutout. So many cutouts! I shop secondhand online. It's good for the environment and you can narrow down your choices.

[@thegoosegirl42]

Mei is so brave, sharing her mental health struggles even though it's hard for her.

[@adlihloetz7162]

These two, along with Jazz and Lindsay, are gonna be the saviours of BuzzFeed

[@victoriazuniga2323]

and Joyce too

[@livia9148]

And Vivian

[@rianne8608]

This video is so important: it shows that anyone, no matter what size, can be insecure about their bodies/how clothes fit on their bodies. Finding clothes that fit how you want them to fit, and that make you feel comfortable and confident is sooo important.

[@kimberleybrook3093]

This is so inspiring - as someone who holds on to a lot of guilt over clothes not fitting the same as I’ve gotten older the thought about letting them go because they don’t serve my body anymore makes so much sense. Thanks to the both of you for your story and taking us on this journey. I’m definitely going to give it a go myself!

[@minaismail316]

Tahirah LITERALLY spoke everything I have ever felt as a plus-sized hijabi and I am glad to see this representation!! 🙌

[@SallyBabyy]

❤️

[@nadaatef5462]

%100

[@rywannabe1701]

as someone who has gained around 35-40 pounds in the past year, i resonate with this. it hurts knowing that a lot of my jeans and skirts and shirts dont fit anymore, but it's empowering to embrace what my body looks like today.

[@zoyadean2884]

This really hit home for me, after I got married I gained a bit of weight. There were a lot of pants I had that didn’t fit me anymore and it really broke me, but 4 years later I’ve learned to embrace my body for what it is. Videos like this are truly so important and uplifting so thank you for this 💕

[@monarca4029]

I feel you sister... I also gained weight when I got married and at first I was devastaded and started using overzised clothes to the point I looked like a walking potatoe T.T But honestly now I feel confident and beautiful and loved ❤️

[@hudaghani2828]

If that’s u in the pfp ur absolutely gorgeous!

[@naurrren5060]

I think Mei should do a Marie Kondo-style cleanout of her space/wardrobe! She's been through a lot, and she needs to be surrounded by things that empower her and make her feel joy.

[@arianaginspired]

love this idea… might have to take you up on that!

[@naurrren5060]

@@arianaginspired I was in a similar situation as you a few years ago and it was life-changing for me! I'd definitely read into it if you can! :)

[@jananalkhaja7214]

Tahirah putting on her prayer clothes to easily cover-up, just to film herself shopping at home, is some of the most relatable content I've ever seen on KZbin as a hijabi (she's also so stunning and I'm so happy to see her in this video)

[@SincerelyTahiry]

tehehe jilbabs are every hijabis bestfriend. tysm beautiful ❤️❤️❤️

[@kmart1396]

Friendly Reminder for young women: The numbers you see on your jeans are quite literally that, just a number. Women's sizing is so incredibly arbitrary, like if you can internalize that the numbers on your pants are nonsense that aren't even standardized from store to store you can just see as your starting point that's easy to grab when finding pants you look hot in

[@QUARTERMASTEREMI6]

Thank you! Like my sizes changes from brand to brand, so yes, so true! ❤️

[@weirdoedits8455]

Queens!!! This takes a lot, and they are so brave! You rock!

[@kenzelizabeth5716]

yall help me be so confident! i am 12 and in 7th grade and yall just make me feel so confident as a bigger girl. thanks!

[@crazyd0glady295]

I think a white collared shirt would look very cute with the purple top.

[@HK-jo3ek]

exactly my thoughts!

[@wildshadowstar]

Or maybe a different shade of purple.

[@madeleinelarue6622]

I wouldve said a cream colored turtleneck

[@balyssabell5020]

I always just want to hug Mei, she is so stunning and her journey has really touched my heart. Thank you for being so candid, you're changing lives

[@rubymulcahy5142]

Love Tahirah's outfits and interpretation of her modest style, I feel like I haven't seen such a cool version of that before. All power to Mei too, hope she feels as gorgeous as she looks in her new outfits.

[@lightmystic8]

The ladies both rocked this challenge. This year I started using the affirmation "my body is well, able, and beautiful." And for the first time bought myself crop tops and high waisted jeans even though my body has changed and I feel so cute in those fits!

[@mrsfruity76]

LOVE this affirmation!

[@rawandnassar7254]

As a person who has most of the eating disorders, I really do understand their feelings and the reason for every tear they shed. You guys really don't know how much it's a blessing to live without having an eating disorder, without hating yourself and judging it harshly for eating one spoon more, without even depriving yourselves from water because it will change the number on the scale....

[@greener336]

That's really bad, you're in deep. Drink lots of water, talk to a therapist, get help.

[@chipmunkian123]

I love Mei. She is so strong and I appreciate how open she has been with her eating disorder. It has helped me so much with my own eating disorder and self esteem.

[@ihatehandles111]

11:57 omfg tahirah that outfit is genuinely AMAZING, so good. so proud of both of you. i think 90% of my wardrobe doesnt fit anymore so this was helpful for me.

[@SincerelyTahiry]

thank you so much my love!! 🥰

[@QueerCripple]

I wasn't expecting to feel so emotional watching this video, about people I don't really know replacing their wardrobes, but the emotion is actually super heavy! Big shout out for being so vulnerable.

[@elanim2378]

Tahirah’s “gothy” outfit with the hairclips was sooo gorgeous she looked so good!

[@ameslia]

I usually hate square necklines because I don't like all that skin, but the way she styled them make me want to try and style them the same way. It looks so good.

[@aditi2029]

Omg Tahira the way you have styled your Hijabs in all your looks is so freaking unique. Your 2nd dress the overall look was my favourite. Absolutely stunning 😍😍

[@anjalisukeshdav2710]

This video explains that confidence and happiness is actually Beauty, you queens are gorgeous inside and out ❤️👑

[@ray2a419]

Both of y’all are so incredible, beautiful, and courageous! Your bodies are lovely and amazing just as they are, and I’m glad this is an experience that helped lift your spirits and hopefully start some positive transformations!

[@linasmom3816]

So proud of the both of you. Doing this is really challenging. We love y’all!!!

[@danitsaandaluz4116]

I asked for more Tahirah and u gave me more Tahirah. So now i ask again! Love her nyc energy and love to see a black hijabi represented

[@kiltersystem]

As someone who has been struggling with my eating disorder for most of my life, it's really nice to see this being talked about more, especially about the struggles of recovery. I gained a lot of weight in the past year due to starting testosterone (I'm trans), and dealing with that has been really difficult and it definitely makes it more difficult to not relapse again. I'm slowly starting to accept that this is just where I need to be right now, and seeing Mei let go of the things that are connected to her past gives me hope for a future where maybe I can do the same. Thanks for this. 😊

[@TheOGPokemonGirl]

"And I also found myself not really feeling like my body deserved to be dressed up." If I had a dollar for every time I told myself that I didn't deserve something, I would be a billionaire. It's amazing how quickly our minds can turn against us.

[@hannah9788]

Girrrrrlll Tahirah I love your style😍 Honestly, every time you showed your outfits I was stunned. You inspire me and so many others, keep doing you!!

[@hellofashionlovers]

Both of you are ICONIC. Thank you for so openly and honestly sharing your journeys with clothing and your bodies. Love to see it!

[@remyng7355]

What a great way to frame it - clothing size doesn't need to mean anything different than a shoe size... something I'll need to keep telling myself!

[@emmatheoblivious]

Thank u for this! I lost a lot of weight due to chronic illness, which made me feel very insecure, and I’m just starting to gain it back. I’m glad to see representation of people whose sizes have varied so much

[@jessicaoddone]

Lol me since the pandemic. I definitely had to buy a lot of new pants. Also side note: people do judge women for their shoe sizes 😬

[@hajar179]

that's crazy , people need to understand that we are born like that it's not like we choose which shoe size we want to be

[@daddypotterreviews2899]

Yes!! A friend’s mum loudly exclaimed about how big my feet were when I was 12 and I STILL find it difficult to say my shoe size out loud (even though now my feet are standard sized)

[@LoveQuimper]

True! My mom got super judgy comments when she asked a store employee if they carried EU size 43... Like, it's not her fault?? However, I do think that in general it's easier to accept your shoe size for what it is, because it's completely out of your control. And the myth we keep telling each other is that your clothes size is in your own control. Even though clothing size depends on a great number of factors, of which body weight is just one (and definitely not the most influential one). And our body weight isn't even entirely in your control.

[@melti9772]

I've always been teased over my shoe size & it's just not fair when it's entirely about your bone structure??

[@veganperson]

Yep, I’ve been judged for my feet size, which is stupid because I’m tall, so yes I do have bigger feet. I’ve also been judged for my body size as well, I’ve always been slim except after giving birth and now that I’m older. As a side note, I don’t get judged for my body shape now that I’m older, at least not out loud. I’m my own worst critic, at 60 I don’t think it’ll change. 🤷‍♀️

[@somerflowers]

Love all the new looks! You both were so brave to share everything you did, and I’m so proud of both of you! Continued love and kindness on your journeys ❤️❤️

[@napqueen9377]

The world needs so much more of this. Vulnerability and authenticity are so beautiful. These women are so brave and wonderful ❤️ thank you all for sharing your stories!

[@kristenisnickie]

I am in complete awe of the vulnerability of these women. We are so fortunate to have people like this who are willing to share their stories. It lets us know that we're not alone, and I imagine it's cathartic for these ladies as well. I'm completely blown away by how candid they were willing to be. Thank you to you both!!

[@arianaginspired]

thank you so much angel 🤍

[@heatherfurtado9445]

I am so here for this open dialogue. kudos to BOTH OF these beautiful amazing women on sharing their journeys with us

[@jenniferr8030]

I am feeling with you Mei! SO proud of you! Love these videos and following y'all on your journeys! Stay Strong!

[@Spicyfreakinpork]

LOVE this ladies. So brave of you all to share and honestly very inspiring 💕

[@silent_day]

I love love love love both stories and the outfits they chose. Such beautiful, kind, radiant individuals. Thank you for sharing!!

[@isobellekennedy5223]

This video is incredible! Thank you so much for filming this and providing a safe and nurturing space for me ♥️♥️♥️

[@marinasalla3420]

This chanel is one of my favorites for sure, I am so in love with this video! I really needed this

[@gv3793]

My health took a dive back in May and lost 40lbs. People tells me I look good but I’m not this weight because I wanted to but because of my health. It’s a yo-yo with emotions, I’m sometimes happy and feel comfortable, those hot damn days. Then there’s those day where I’m, I can see my ribs and feel sick skinny. I still have my old clothes and wear it on those dark days. I’m very attached to things and seeing them clean their closet just, power to you ladies!

[@jasminesibrian6810]

Both of these women look STUNNING✨✨ I’m so happy for both of these ladies for going on this journey for themselves 💛💛

[@romz11khan]

I sympathize and empathize so deeply with both of these beautiful women! All throughout this video just hearing them say these things broke my heart, and made me want to hug them both. Then I realized that I do the exact same thing, and the things they said are no different than what I tell myself. Acceptance is a difficult, long journey to reach and its no surprise that this quarantine has been trying for everyone. Whether it be our self-esteem, confidence, livelihood, or mental and physical wellness that has been tested, we all need to show ourselves the mercy, compassion and grace we deserve, because we are deserving of so much. 💕

[@musicforlife6313]

Ive started to do this this year too. Have been struggling with body dismorphia since forever really, and its just very encouraging to see that not only I have problems with clothing. Thank you so much for being so brave and putting this on youtube

[@xoShannonNicolexo]

These looks are amazing! So proud of them

[@Collegestudent23]

Mei I relate to you a few years ago I struggled with anorexia and the last few months I’ve struggled with binge eating it’s such an emotional toll but I was so glad to see you proud of your body in some of the clips. I believe in you girl!

[@sophiabednar4009]

Mei showing the dress she replaced her oversized sweater with had me sobbing. I hope i can be brave enough to do that one day :)

[@shastabare6026]

Oh, buzzfeed! I always enjoy the shopping challenges and outfit creations. But this has so much heart. This video i love!

[@kb01999]

I have dealt with the same kind of thing recently in life, & I love to know others do too and that it is possible but it’s still a journey ❤️💕

[@elliet9387]

This made me very emotional. Thanks for talking about this specific process

[@zzabellaa7972]

Thank you both for sharing. Y'all have such cute styles!!

[@user-fp1hg1ev4h]

Such amazing women and I love them so much ❤ takes so much strength to put yourself through this. Sending all my love to them both- both so beautiful 🥰

[@alissashmid9207]

You both are so beautiful and thriving in your new clothes!!!!!! I'm so happy for you and your journeys!!!!!

[@fellowneurodivergent]

I needed this

[@mrobinson03029]

This video spoke to me on so many levels, and I wanted to share my biggest tips for others on their self-love journeys - learn to sew your own clothes. You don't have to be great at it; I don't wear half the things I've made because they're one gentle breeze away from falling apart. But learning to sew my own clothes has really helped me see them from a new perspective; it's really driven home the fact that clothes are meant to fit your body, not the other way around. When I shop for clothes, I purposely look for clothes that have enough room for me to alter to fit my body. As I gain sewing experience, I plan on spending more on sewing patterns than clothes - that way, I can make my clothes to fit each of my fluctuating sizes, and in all the fabrics I feel confident in. Thank you Mei & Tahirah for posting this video & being so candid about your journeys!

[@ehiomigie1]

Ok, tearing up, this is so powerful.

[@melonthefelon06]

This is literally such an inspiring video, what a soul Ute QUEENS! 👑🙌💗✨

[@sarahcan8311]

thank you for making this video!

[@shell9403]

You both look STUNNING, lovvvve the new pieces

[@cdk7692]

I LOVE this video! Please do this type of video with those that have a different body as a result of quarantine. So many people are having to revisit their pre-covid wardrobe with a new body and it's been difficult.

[@ek6813]

Every single piece was beautiful!! I’m happy for both of you and wish you well with mental health!

[@Dinolover101MIP]

Thank you for this! gained a little bit of weight this last yr & my closet has gotten so bad I have stacks of shirts or clothes that I cannot picture myself even try on right now bc of how I’d look in them. AND THEY HAVE TOO MUCH POWER OV ME, thank you for making me realize i need to celebrate my body more instead of hide it.

[@leighcarmelle]

This is a video I so needed right now. Thank you ladies

[@sarahcervantes1270]

YES MEI!! Both these women did amazing in challenging themselves. But I have personally felt so much like Mei at points, and I FELT how hard that was for her. You go girl! 💚💚💚

[@aanyaminhas7623]

i literally have no words that can express my emotions rn. all I can say is, thank you. thank you so much for this.

[@amandasade3882]

I love love love this channel so much, it’s such a safe space

[@WhoisKell]

Tahirah! Girl that jumpsuit is made for you! You look bom!! Very beautiful. And Mai! Girl you rock! And you are so right sizes are so off! I have different clothing in my closet varies from S to L. Stay strong you got this and you look amazing!

[@rainndropz05]

i really resonated with mei, and it was so powerful hearing her talk about her recovery and how hard it was shopping for jeans.

[@ziggyzoo]

Love this video, watching this video help me understand the changes in my body, especially since I got sick. This is really helpful in a way for us women to accept changes in our bodies by trying different styles out of our convert zone.

[@carrisafan2825]

this is such a challenging thing to do, so much love and respect for you guys 💕

[@Matamyherrera]

I feel so identified with Mai like I’ve never been diagnosed with an eating disorder but my relationship with my body and clothes is very hard. I’ve always been “the thin girl” and through the pandemic and as I got older I started gaining weight. Not fitting in my clothes kills me so I started buying very oversized clothes to not feel that. This video is very inspirational

[@xixi__gg]

What a great video 💕 thank you ladies for sharing

[@sophiadiaz1672]

The purple top IS STUNNING!!!

[@xoluciaxo_3721]

I love Tahirah's style omg, its soo good

[@MrCoolangel9927]

Thank you so much for sharing!!

[@jessramsden5259]

Well done to both these beautiful ladies! You shone inside & out!!! ☺️

[@bebeflamand1]

Loved all the new purchases! You were both looking so beautiful with your new looks. Tahirah, I do hope you also purchased that yellow dress, it will look amazing on you!

[@sabrinababylevi8209]

Omg 😭 I LOVEEEEE THIS VIDEO!!!! Y’all look AMAZING I’m forever crying!!! 😭😭❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️☝️☝️☝️☝️💯💯💯💯💯

[@sade3487]

You both look incredible ! So proud and happy for you two 💜

[@briwilliams1569]

I used to go shopping with my friends, and now husband, back in high school, and can remember switching out the the hangers on my clothes just so they wouldn't know what size I was..I did this too many times. I think about this every so often but a lot during this video. I am thankful to by on the journey to loving and accepting myself

[@nyanteea226]

Needed this. Thx buzzfeed 🙏🏾

[@krispykremer690]

Mei just said everything I’m struggling with rn. My dad inflicted an ED on me and I got scary skinny. Then I started eating for my body and gained a lot. Doubled in pants size and it’s been awful feeling like I’m not myself anymore. Learning to love yourself takes so much work.

[@unknownunknown-un9xw]

Thank you both for this video, It was really inspiring.

[@e.y3251]

I needed this vid

[@tvlassiter]

thank you so much for sharing your journeys~!

[@KS-di4df]

As someone who has spent a long time treating my body as useless or embarrassing (cuz of my disability & the leg braces I had to wear until grade 11) this was the video that pushed me to finally get rid of the clothes I’d use to hide by braces or the weight I gained after having surgery. Seeing that you don’t feel the need to hide, and that you’re working thru this helped me feel comfortable to do the same. Thank you both so much!

[@lucytresha458]

It's okay to sometimes have hang-ups about your body, what really matters is that you pick yourself up, and like my professor says " shake it off and move on". you guys are so perfect as you are and thanks for being so inspiring. XOXO

[@2HotAtlanta]

Loving yourself takes time - especially after you witness it change. It’s a marathon not a sprint. Be patient with yourself and more importantly, be kind to yourself ♥️

[@bluishblow]

they are so inspiring 🥰 everything so cute and stunning indeed

[@baileyremler4031]

this makes me feel so good that now were going against the hate and being our self plus I love all of the outfits

[@vanny5885]

Words cannot describe how much I needed this video right in this moment 💕 thank you

[@tamaradalton402]

Oh my gosh its Tahirah! I am so proud of the women you have become! Keep rocking and being such a positive role model for plus size girls of color!💜💜💜

[@reevefenick164]

I have been really struggling with my body image lately and this video was what I needed. It made me feel so inspired and heard. I am the biggest I have ever been, although I am still "skinny." Everyone has different standards of what their body "should" look like, and it is important to hype everyone up no matter their size because ALL BODIES ARE BEAUTIFUL!

[@lalanimartinez275]

This video gave me a good cry but I'm glad I watched it because if made me realize that clothes sizing shouldn't define your worth. Made me realize I'm not the only one who goes through this. Bodys change but no matter how they change they are still beautiful and so are we. And its okay if its hard. You're allowed to cry and show emotion but at the end of the day don't feel like your clothes should control you. Your clothes are meant to fit you. Not the other way around. Thank you to these beautiful girls for helping me realize that even more.❤❤❤