Ask a Trans Guy « EPISODE 1 w/ Laura Kampf »

[@jackisnotabird]

Thanks to everyone who joined for the Premiere! You can now watch the video back like a normal video PLUS caption, cards, and endscreen should now be working. Be sure you all go subscribe to Laura! And don't forget to subscribe and ring the bell for reminders on this channel so you don't miss future installments of Ask a Trans Guy!

[@mermaidpotato]

Oh my god I cannot believe she MENTIONED ELLIOT PAGE in the lead up to "who do you want to be secretly trans". Beautiful. A little extra comedy for those of us living in the future.

[@kg8046]

I am fascinated with Laura. I found her on KZbin because of remodeling things and really was hooked. Such a genuine soul.

[@MeriaDuck]

Years late to this party, this just popped up in my recommendations. We gave our kids non gendered names, partly just in case, partly inspired by a co-worker. One of them is really thankful for that 😂

[@treasurediver93]

I came here from one of Laura’s videos and it’s literally made my day. I can’t express how much I admire the openness you’ve displayed.

[@Chrismoughan]

Came for Laura, subscribed for Jackson. Great video! Thank you for being open and honest in a time when it's needed.

[@daskleinegluck4553]

Was searching for a Laura Kampf interview and found your video which definitely shows, how the world should be: open minded discussion on heartwarming but socially top relevant themes without prejudices and hate. Thank's for that 😊!

[@whatisarthurdoing9490]

Watching this, knowing that Elliot Page came out recently was a special kind of nice :D

[@greatvalueblaine6681]

i know right!!! laura called him by his dead name (obviously he wasn’t out when this video premiered) but it sounded so wrong and i think that’s amazing! like we only know him as elliot and i love that!!!😊

[@skrotomon]

Ellen Page

[@PizzaManager101]

@@skrotomon He’s changed his name to Elliot

[@aeksamlwi]

So you know when Elliot Page came out as trans and the whole community was like... YES ! (couldn't help but think about this video)

[@shawnvideos]

Immediately thought of this video : )

[@dreacdreac]

I follow Laura Kampf's build videos. This is a great platform, bringing cis-folks in will pull all sorts of people over. Love it!!

[@DukeGusion]

hey, just wanted to say that I'm a trans woman and you were the first youtuber i followed that came out as trans and you've been a big reason why i started to get a better idea of myself : )

[@selarice9477]

Well, this was a pleasant surprise💜 excellent questions Laura💁‍♀️.

[@jacquesdespadas]

Just stumbled across this--I am a subscriber to Laura's channel. Just wanted to say 1) great job and great idea, and 2) I think we all need to see and learn from people of all kinds, regardless of their or our gender identity, nationality, or whatever other descriptors we all decide to use. So thank you, Jackson.

[@janhagedorn]

How cool is this? Really looking forward to it so much. You guys really surprised me, this is two YoutTube worlds colliding I absolutely didn't expect, but now definitely want to see!

[@lyrieladuial4901]

"Oh shit" we all had THAT EXACT MOMENT xD.

[@kimmy_future4265]

I'm a gay trans woman and maker and finding out that one of my favorite makers is gay just absolutely made my week!

[@chandleracheson5574]

Watching this after Elliot Page came out is so funny😄

[@floatinglotuswomenswellness]

I adore Laura and her channel, and wanted to wish you many many happer years as Jackson!

[@TravisInCanada1]

@Jackson Bird I follow Laura's maker channel and I am pretty sure that is why this came up in my feed. However I am a very curious person when it comes to anything I can learn about, so I watched your video. I gotta say just speaking from my own perspective it is refreshing to see someone who is or has transitioned that is open minded, understanding and willing to help "educate" those of us that have absolutely NO UNDERSTANDING of what it is like for someone such as yourself. I truly believe that A LOT of the issue in people's differences stem from one sides lack of understanding. And regardless of which side you end up on if we can just hear each other out in an effort to better understand each other it will make a world of difference. I think your a real cool dude and just so you know if we we're friends I would have SO MANY questions LOL! Keep doing what your doing because it makes a difference and helps provide an unforced informative understanding to those of us willing to listen.

[@Bikeeast]

Thank you both. I've been following Laura on youtube for a few years, big fan of her work.

[@Leo-ct9pm]

I'm trans, I follow Laura is one of my favorite youtube creators, I just discover this video and I like her even more now.

[@littlegreensunflower3547]

The retrospective irony of her mentioning Elliot Paige coming out as a lesbian and that being a big deal then asking who Jackson hopes is secretly trans 😂 Welp

[@rmontena4583]

Laura, how wonderful of you to lend your name to this program. Rich

[@tenochaxayacatl1187]

Video was suggested to me today. The role model question and your dialog is interesting especially in the new context of 2020 in regard to Elliot Page.

[@kathybramley5609]

Jackson!!! I haven't seen any of your videos for ages! It's good! I thought I was subbed but wasn't. But I have been watching Laura and was searching just to double-check pronouns and this came up.

[@thomaskeesman9145]

Wow! What a breath of fresh air. Thanks for this introduction. And thanks to Laura Kampf [via my sub to her], for leading me here.

[@Max-dw7is]

ahh! I hope you do this again! this actually answered a few of my questions and I'm trans any way. Thank you for doing this Jackson and Laura!

[@vaginaflap_2229]

This is such a good video can’t wait for the next one so excited

[@charlottejoergensen]

after this little washington dc story i would love to hear more about laura's experiences :) but for i'm off binging your videos, jackson!

[@GratefulThird]

I love Laura Kampf- thanks for having her on.

[@jelsner5077]

Love Laura's channel!

[@FFigueira]

i havent even watched it yetand already liked it bc this sounds like such a good idea for a series :OOO

[@-LamiaSage-]

My answer to question 1: Chase Ross. I explored his channel because his videos seemed really interesting to me and I came to the realization that the things he talked about totally apply to me. Also he was the first trans guy I ever really saw in the media. Before I had only seen trans women, but then BOOM - there was Chase.

[@HyperactiveNeuron]

Google recommended this to be because I follow Laura but I'm 100% for this. I'm the B in LGBTQ+ so it's easier because I can blend but trans and even homosexual is very different and I recognize my experience is nowhere near the same. However, where I grew up it was not tolerant for even interracial couples. Thankfully a lot has changed and moving away to college changed things a lot

[@beccafrances31]

I love this new format! I think it's cool to have a way to be connected to a video and a community!

[@button4631]

darn, cant bypass the evil monthly visitor with just one shot lol Love this series!

[@RedWhirlWind]

t shots are cheap, its pretty affordable even without insurance. however gel and patches are quite pricey. when I was on gel it was 400 for 3 mo, but with insurance it was 80 for me.

[@sikaiser]

Looking forward to the video! You guys are awesome! 👏

[@x_Woot_Woot_x]

Simon Kaiser Is

[@allanandkilde8383]

Wonderful video. Very happy for you both. Going to watch as many of your videos as possible. Laura I already watch yours and love your triumphs and the ones that fall a bit short. I admire you greatly.

[@Seamusandsonis]

love the idea of and the first episode of this series. please keep it going, great work!

[@selflesscae]

I love this, Jackson! I hope more of these are on the horizon! I’m curious to see what topics are covered in the videos yet to **come out.**

[@Kleineganz]

I'm a little bit older (I'm 46, pre-op, and just started T 2.5 weeks ago). My first introduction to the idea of a trans man was Chaz Bono. However, I wasn't able to be inspired by him because he first came out as lesbian, and he's very much a straight guy. I'm anything but seeing as I'm only attracted to men. It wasn't until I started coming across transguys on KZbin, especially gay transmen, that I started opening myself up to the idea that I could be genderqueer and trans. It's taken me a few years of personal self-discovery, and the realization that I've said I was a boy since I was 3-4, to finally come out and transition. Since I'm older than most trans KZbinrs, I'm also sharing my transition journey, so I can give some hope to other Gen-X transguys. I want to show them that it's really not too late to transition. On the point of what happens with one shot ... I never got a sore throat. Instead I feel more like I need to cough (if that makes sense?). I've had 2 shots so far and no change in my voice yet (I've been making recordings to compare), but I have noticed the "below the belt" change.

[@tictachikes6156]

This is such a cool combination of people. I cant be the only one of Jackson’s followers who is OBSESSED with Tiny Houses. They’re awesome! Subscribed to Laura now too :D

[@silvanarcher1778]

Jackson - I can 100% say that you are one of my biggest role models. Thank you so much for all your work! Keep it up - you’re amazing!

[@robotixlab]

Hello Jackson Bird, sorry for the random question but what watch is this you are wearing? I really like vibrant yellow with light grey, it is the branding of my robotics company as well!!! Could you please be so kind to let me know? Thanks a lot!

[@PrinceGrey]

Ooooh I can't wait

[@FromClaphamJunction]

Sorry to have missed the Premiere but I am glad you have left this video up for to watch. Its a great series... looking forward to future episodes.

[@censusgary]

Those were good questions, Laura. I wouldn’t have thought of them myself.

[@AnastasiaDouglas]

Woo hoo! I'm ready

[@snorlax42]

Professional hockey actually already had a trans guy! Harrison Browne! Former NWHL champion 2 consecutive seasons! He also has his own KZbin channel about his transition

[@davidmbeasley]

1. Buck Angel aka #Tranpa is one of my favorite trans icons, ditto Auntie Kate, and Mx JVBond 2. Do you want to talk to my friend who studies the sociological constructions of gender through the Olympics? 3. Get Kat Lazzo on this series please! 3. I love you being a nerd trying to talk about sports

[@HAlC-up4hm]

Absolutely loved this. You have such wonderful conversations! My question for you is: When was the first time (pre and post transition) you meet someone else you knew identified as trans and what was that experience like?

[@geeksdo1tbetter]

claps! this was delightful!

[@RowanAckerman]

"Building her own house"... about that!

[@augustporter9582]

Good job Jackson this was an awesome idea!!!

[@mlceates]

not my usual viewing but Laura is so down to earth, look forward to more in this series

[@Ouwetje]

Keep up the good work Laura and Jackson. A good friend of mine came out to be a trans. For me it doesn’t change anything when he becomes a woman. She will still be a good friend. Jackson l hope you will be a rolemodel for many young trans children. Laura is already a rolemodel for me as a maker and designer. She is zo goooooood!

[@RevdUp.Art.Fotografer]

oh...and one more thing... Trans is an adjective not a noun. Some is not 'a trans'. I'm really glad that you are willing to support your friend.

[@andrineslife]

What a great video, and great idea for a series, I can't wait to see more 😊

[@someoneelse7629]

As for role models, there is a German trans guy who was a former (female) top athlete and now is a male model (don't remember the name) that has made an incredible transition, and then there is a lot of youtubers like Noah, Miles, and others. (I followed a few transitions on YT) As for the effects of the T shots, some of the more interesting is the psycological transition many have with anger and sexdrive, and the fact you have a male puberty phase regardless of what age you are. But hey, I'm no expert, I'm a middle aged CIS straight white male

[@TaylorandherMusic]

Loved this! Amazing work!

[@5sosidc915]

Great video Jackson and looking forward to another video of this series😉

[@expatmoose]

Watching this (again) 5yrs later and hearing them talk about trans in sports…… not sure the “now” is what they were thinking of

[@bsrfuchs55]

imagine elliot page watched this in 2018 while contemplating to come out as trans

[@cainhdez3465]

Laura Kampf is gay?? 0.0!! Yeeeeessssssss!! ❤

[@alexreid1173]

I’m glad I have time to watch Jacksfilms’ Alexander Hamilton 3 before watching this

[@siiiriously3226]

so cool to see laura in your video! :D

[@rayaugustus6413]

I'm excited

[@pthanos]

What a brave couple of individuals. Great stuff.

[@itslukemott]

omg she's from my city! [btw if anyone here is from Cologne or close to it come to Trans Pride on September 22 & 23!]

[@rainliketheweather4086]

I love that im reading this 1 year later on September 23rd

[@divinenonbinary]

Omg the Elliot mention 💀 the joke sequelled itself😅

[@221b-Maker-Street]

I'm slightly confused as to why Laura would think one *shouldn't* ask a Trans person _"Who is your trans hero?"_ or _"How did you pick a name?"_ I don't see how those are offensive questions that one shouldn't ask... This feels like a wasted opportunity, tbh - I'd want to know, how a trans man gets an erection for example - that feels like an intrusive question to ask, and what this channel could do so well.

[@michaelbayerl1683]

Fantastic. I've been following Laura for a while now and only recently found out she was lesbian. I recently found Jackson. Never would have known they would do a collab. AWESOME! Thanks.

[@abracadabra2395]

Ha! Its hilarious to hear her mention Elliot Page as her example of being excited about gay celebrity coming out. Weird foreshadowing!

[@benw9949]

@Jackson Bird -- I have a difficult, troubling dilemma about gay and trans feelings. I am not sure myself what my answer is or why and how I feel the way I do. I think it might be worth a video dealing with the topic, though. So with that caveat, here goes. -- I'm a gay male, so I get what it's like to grow up with these feelings, and it gives me some idea what it must be like to grow up with trans feelings. I mean, I knew I was different because I was a boy and yet I was having gay feelings, I was liking other boys. "that way." OK, so what about it? Well, on KZbin, watching LGBT videos, a few turned up which I went into thinking, oh, this is going to be kids/teens coming out as gay, good for them. Except there were a few where these were boys or girls who were coming out as trans, wanting to transient to the other gender. Then there were a few videos where, hmm, these were intersex folks with various conditions, so their gender expression and biology was truly in between or else not what you would expect. Oh, that confused me some, but OK, I could deal with that. What got me were the cases where (bio) boys wanted to transition to girls. And somehow, my inner younger teen self saw that and was saying, but, but, they're nice, cute boys, I'd like a boy like that if he were gay. They want to be girls? But they're boys and.... And somehow, my inner self from back when I was a young teen felt this sort of crushed crush, as if I was disappointed that those boys weren't gay boys, but wanted to be girls, and so that inner teen self didn't know how to deal with the letdown. (But, they'd be such nice gay boys, I'd like a boy like that to be my (boy)friend) was something like what my inner teen was telling me. And yet, of course, I also understand that it's important for trans folks to come out or to transition, just like it's important for gay folks to come out and be themselves and have relationships goo. And of course, yeah, I'm no longer that kid/teen and those young trans kids obviously are going to have their own ideas on who they like, whoever that is. Like any teen, they need the chance to figure it all out with some nice kid their own age. -- But I was left with the dilemma of, well, am I really as accepting of trans folks, if I'm somehow disappointed that a boy I'll never know is trans and wants to be a girl, and that video was from however long ago anyway. So what do I make of this? (Besides, maybe, that my younger self is still in there and still wants a boyfriend, duh, just like my current adult self is single and wants a nice gay boyfriend, hah.) Kidding aside, though, or overly identifying with the videos aside too, I am not sure what to make of my feelings, my response. On the one hand, gay kids and trans kids need to be accepted for who they are deep down inside. There have been gay and trans folks since time began, third-gender, two-spirits, all sorts of ways of saying, not-so-straight. So trans folks and gay folks need to be accepted and loved for themselves, not forced into some other mold that does not fit them. I know that from how I struggled, growing up. On the other hand, I feel like there's some justification for me to feel, aw, but I'd like a nice gay boy like that, back when I was a young guy trying to figure myself out. That sure would have helped. Darn it, I would've liked a gay boy ike that. (Except those were not gay boys, they were trans kids wanting to transition to girls.) And yet I felt that disappointment, that letdown, like a lost crush. And I don't know how I feel, either, about girls transitioning to boys. -- I guess my basic answer is, that's them, let them be them, you're not going to ever know them in person anyway. And my basic answer is also, I guess, I'd want a nice gay boy for a boyfriend, and it does not work to chase after (or have a crush on) a straight boy, because he likes girls, not boys, so that's wasting his time and yours, so go find a gay boy. So by comparison, I guess my answer is, OK, if I personally don't think I'd want to be with a trans guy, then just look for gay guys, and the trans guys will find someone they like too. And we'd hope the trans girls would also find someone they like. -- So I am still trying to find my way through the quandary to an answer that feels right to me on all levels, personal and as a matter of principle. -- Jackson and other trans folks, it is not my intention to make anyone feel bad, or hurt people's feelings. I know how much it hurts not to be accepted. It's just that I had this internal reaction of, gee, they read to me as nice gay boys, so my personal feelings are clashing with my principles there. I want an answer that satisfies my principles as well as my personal feelings. I think I've given my answer (go look for gay boys, since that's who you like) and yet, I don't quite know if, in principle, how to make sense of my personal feelings versus my principles of acceptance, inclusion. -- I really hope my quandary and discussion makes some sense for the dilemma I'm trying to get across, and I'd really hope it might be a topic that merits some discussion for LGBT and trans folks. -- And yeah, I know, it's long enough for a whole essay. Folks, I know how I felt growing up and how much I've changed since then and since coming out. I want folks to be OK, to be loved for who they are inside, and accepted, and not bashed or made to feel bad for who they are. Because I never have liked when I was made to feel less than I am, for being gay. So I hope my long question makes any sense and might help discussion instead of mess things up. Jackson, thanks, if you read all this.

[@benw9949]

Today, I ran across a recommended video, and was surprised to find it was from a young teen trans-boy. And even that early on, he presents as very masculine already. So much so that if his video hadn't said he was trans FTM, I would not have guessed, I would've assumed he was a boy (biologically). -- I posted a comment to recommend him to visit your channel, Jackson. This has me thinking even further, and so I guess as a gay guy, there's more to this than I thought. I find myself thinking how I'm reacting now and how I would've reacted as a teen. I think it's mostly the same, but occasionally, I can see how a few things have changed for me over time. In some ways, I think I was better adjusted as a pre-teen / teen, and then messed up as I got older. In others, I think I've finally figured some things out. So I'm still learning.

[@aeron6747]

Great video!! Thought it might be handy to know though, it showed up in my subscriptions before it was live but not when it premiered, and its still not showing up in my subscriptions when I refresh and look for it

[@jackisnotabird]

Yeah, I know. Hopefully they fix the bug going forward. Until then, everyone can help me out by sharing the video!

[@aeron6747]

dang:/ I hope so too. And totally!!

[@notrequired9416]

Interesting in a good way. Been following Laura a long time; always assumed she was gay. I figured out a long time ago (late 80s early 90s while living in SF) that color, creed, religion, orientation etc didn't matter. Only thing that matters is how you treat others. Respect everybody and you cannot go wrong. I don't understand all the various labels and names- to make life easy I just smile and accept people for how ever they are.

[@TheNicolexoxo]

This video showed up in my sub box as a reminder for the live premiere and then showed up during the live premiere, but disappeared in the sub box after?? anyone else having this?

[@Amaryn]

Nicole yeah, it's not in my sub box anymore either

[@TheNicolexoxo]

yeah, the only reason why I knew about the video was because I saw that it would be live

[@The_Bearded_Lady]

omg i've followed Laura Kampf for a couple years now and i wish i had seen this earlier. i wish we had maker events just for LGBTQ people and if i were to run one of those events i would totally bring her for a keynote!

[@maihochzwei5440]

I came here from Laura's channel. Awesome chat, I'll definitely stick around :)

[@Ross-cecil]

I really liked this. What types of people are going to be on this show in the future?

[@teatimeat8]

The Elliot Page thing aged very well👌😎

[@franktartan6808]

I follow Laura and found this. Thanks!

[@kshitijk3728]

OMG they discussed Elliot!!...I mean kind of...but this video has aged

[@cartooncito764]

I love everything in this video

[@geekelly3404]

Yes I would watch this all day long

[@znb5873]

I was hoping he would ask her about the meaning of the drawing on her T-shirt.

[@thecatofnineswords]

Laura is gay? Well hot damn. ^_^ Thank you both for making this video

[@artnerd3727]

while you're in LA are you going to the gender event thing on july 7th and 8th?

[@LukaHauptmann]

Really cool idea and also good questions, not like the standard questions :)

[@SDKsa1]

As a non trans person, I always had questions to ask my trans friend however never felt comfortable, and I thought it would also make them feel uncomfortable too. Knowing that hormonal imbalance can cause loads of health problems, would'nt HRT cause something similar? Or does crossing a certain threshold alleviate that? Also, just out of curiosity, do you keep taking HRT after your full transition (does a full transition exist) fuck I have so many questions to ask, see why I feel weird asking people about stuff like this lol.

[@slowerpicker]

Dude, I can’t believe you got to ask Laura a question face to face and it wasn’t about her favorite Leatherman or green insulation.

[@benw9949]

In contrast, I would also like to say how very important it is to have videos like this for information and affirmation. Whether you are questioning or struggling with your feelings, wondering if you are gay or lesbian or bisexual or transgender, or whether you've been closeted or you've come out years ago, it is still really good to learn more and to hear and see from someone that they matter and you matter and other people like you matter, that someone out there understands and feels the same and has had similar experiences, feelings, thoughts. -- It helped me before and after coming out, to read and hear and see things online about being gay. (Oh my gosh, someone like me?!) (Huh, I never knew about that, or that either. Wow!) Or some of the troubling stuff too, that makes you want to take action to help. It helped, even after being out, to see teens dealing with their feelings, not yet out and wanting to be, pushing back and saying, yeah, so, I am LGBT, so what? Or saying, look, it hurts, don't treat me like that. Or saying how great it was their family and friends still loved them. All sorts of things. Or the educational stuff that oh, they never, ever talked about in sex ed, because it never crossed their minds that students might not be straight, or that they might need to know about same-sex activities, consensual or non-consensual, all sorts of issues, both good and bad. This stuff is so important and so needsed. To all those LGBT and questioning and struggling KZbinrs out there, and all the allies -- Hey, thank you, we need you so much, even those of us who've been out a while now. This is still a thing. People still are facing discrimination and negativity and lack information. People still need to know how you feel and how you live your life. Because somewhere out there is that kid or teen or adult or elder like you or me, who needs that support in order to really shine. Thanks, KZbinrs. Thank you for teaching us and for just being you. We need you. In good times and in bad times, you are needed by all of us out here, sometimes more than we or you might know. You might make a big difference without ever knowing it.

[@filmdetective]

Cool channel, I like how candid you are (maybe not the right word, sorry I’m French) I had a, « ackward don’t ask that » type of question about trans identity. What is the frenquency of which it happens, and/or state of mind, of some a trans person still liking the opposite sex? Meaning, when the transition is done, he/she would end up dating same sex partners... A formerly male person, now female, dating female people. Or opposite for transguys. And on the partner’s side, he/she would be gay in fact (?)... Cheers ;)

[@kitdaniel9186]

Hi, I am an trans guy, and gay, so I think I might be able to help a bit. There are gay, straight, bi, etc. trans people in the same way there are gay, straight, bi, etc. cis people. I don't think the frequency of not straight people in the trans community is much higher than in the cis community (and I might put some of the difference down to having already come out as one thing, so coming out in terms of sexuality may be more common). As for the state of mind, I wouldn't want to date someone with a female body, as it would probably remind me of my own which is not fun (this may change as I get further through my transition but who knows :D ) but this is separate from me being gay. I'm gay because I am attracted to men, not because being with someone with a female body could be upsetting for me. Hope this answered your question, feel free to ask anymore : )

[@lolamillan]

So Elliott Page

[@kaitlynboehm3721]

Subscribed 👍🏻❤️

[@ecologique1015]

I love Laura!!!!

[@Johnson-nd4mc]

Watching your vids reminds me that there IS a happy ending. Thanks

[@faithdiaz8859]

I love this video! OMG, you ARE my role model!!!!! I'm only 11, it's SO HARD!!!!!!!!!!!!! Hitting puberty SUCKS I personally want to go by Tae, currently. U so helpful!

[@thetinywolfpack4547]

I live in Britain and I get free healthcare my mum told me that it's the same for transgender people is she lying?

[@garrettballou985]

Ahhhhhh She has my birth name and so this is so weird because I know like no one with this name It’s real weird

[@neon-kitty]

It's actually a pretty common name in German-speaking countries. Though it's pronounced a bit differently in German. The first syllable sounds more like "loud" without the D.

[@ajellyfishwithwings9474]

AYYYY *cries in closeted trans*