Ask Before Kissing Her? I Develop A Crush On Every Girl: Reacting To Reddit Dating Questions

[@michaeljjt1976]

I went to an all-boys high school, and when I went to college, it was like sensory overload. It took me quite some time to adjust to being around women and understanding how to deal and talk to them as an adult. Having your childhood/teenage years segregated from normal social interactions really sets you back

[@CourtneyRyan]

Thank you for sharing your perspective! I imagine other people with similar upbringings probably feel this way too.

[@michaeljjt1976]

@@CourtneyRyan It also didn't help that I was shy and introverted to begin with! If I could go back in time, I would tell my parents to make sure I went to a co-ed school

[@c2h3cl82]

I somewhat felt the same way when i had to cancel a year in my technical school to not get covid at that time when we had no vaccinations and i dont want terrible things to happen to my family. One or more years without IRL experience with women or practically anyone got me to a rough start when i would have to become comfortable in being around people. Fast forward to this day I'm still struggling because i have many other things to focus on and days get exhausting...

[@mwa1254]

Completely the same experience here! It helped me. It be distracted during school but certainly left me with plenty to learn later than my friends in mixed schools.

[@stephenhowes8937]

@@CourtneyRyan Greetings Courtney, I don't yet have an account set up with Instagram, and I don't really know if you get so many questions there or by email, that you would barely have the time to respond, but before I was sent away to private boy's schools, just as I was turning 13 by late September...I met girls simply by walking around my neighborhood. Back in those days, a girl would usually be sitting on the porch of her parent's house, and she would notice me walking by. It was probably normal for a young girl to say hi, come over here and start talking to me. There were mostly a lot of College faculty with daughters. After five years of going away to boy's schools, everything changed for the worse. It seemed like every girl had a boyfriend, and I grew rather distant and estranged from women. It feels like the right thing for me to do, because I get the impression that single men are viewed as predators, so I don't at all want women to assume I am intimately interested in them. Sorry if this was long, but try saying that all in just one sentence!

[@notnickDPT]

Speaking from experience, I get attention from girls about once every few years. So when even a minuscule amount of attention is given to me, romantically or not, it's very hard for me to discern if they like me or not. It's very easy for me to immediately catch feelings because of it.

[@ajtaylor8750]

For the first question, I think we as people in general romanticize the IDEA of who someone is rather than who they actually are and when they reveal their true self we end up highly disappointed. The reality is that it's not fair to see somebody in a light they're not in and it's fair to allow them to show you who they really are, and then you decide if you like them or not.

[@CourtneyRyan]

Spot on

[@zalamael]

This is bullshit. A person who 'falls in love' with every person they meet, is someone with no definition of what they want. That guy was what, 19? Fairly common, but the truth is, he is unsure of himself, horny, and wants reciprocation. There is no 'falling in love' in reality, his perspective on love is just horniness, and he will forget girl A the moment he is having sex with girl B. The only reason he is fixating on any given girl, is because he wants what he cant have.

[@sumomaster5585]

@@zalamael Not necessarily true though in this case you are most likely right....you see most men are very simple and nowhere as picky as women.....so long as a woman is not a b*tch personality-wise and have decent looks, seriously that's enough to make us consider her as a partner.....money, education, family...etc all of that is irrelevant for us.

[@arthurkazuya8750]

Wow

[@zerpblerd5966]

this is a case of excited by the novelty dude loves icecream because he's never had icecream before he dun care the flavor

[@LatimusChadimus]

I don't think he has a crush on every girl he meets, I think he has a fascination with the attention and definitely needs more from one girl to help balance out the fact that he needs or is craving attention from everyone around him. He has to learn the concept of being his own mental point of origin meaning he knows who he is and he can adjust how he feels by his own thoughts, and not by the thoughts of others because at the end of the day, he is the only one that can make himself happy, he is the only one that can allow himself to be angry or embarrassed, or sad. He needs to get his own attention from himself while Enjoying outward attention instead of Craving it. I didn't have a father growing up to teach this to me and I don't know if he had a father or not in his life but his father did not teach that to him

[@CourtneyRyan]

🙌🏼

[@Kickback-dm7zt]

@@CourtneyRyan I'm 46 and still feel like I'm talking to an 👽 when talking to women. 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@jonathanmichaelsmith9012]

He also needs an experience that allows him to become his own mental point of origin, something difficult.

[@daletaco835]

good point, I see that happen too, shy, homeschool or nerdy type people when they finally get a job or go to college or something, they get super excited about the attention from others, and itll make you really weak and you could go on for years being this attention needy person, i think instead you should get to know new people, ask about them, dont make the attention on you

[@kyleg3837]

@Gilgamesh4238 start doing hobbies hiking/yoga/archery

[@OvercastDaze]

I think it's awkward to ask a girl for permission to kiss her. It would kind of ruin the moment even if she did want you to. What has always worked for me is to look her in the eyes and simply say "I'd really like to kiss you right now". Trust me, you will know if she does or not by her response or reaction.

[@jameeljohnson19]

From my experience, rarely does asking work. I would even argue to say having to ask if you can kiss the girl demonstrates a lack of confidence. The girl can actually be feeling it, and the moment you ask can turn her off due to how unsure you are of yourself and the situation. Confidence is key and confident men go for it. Not once have I actually went for it and she turn away. Obviously read the room pick up on her energy and such but women like confidence and confident men don't ask, they make the decision confidently

[@hec231]

It’s almost like you’re familiar with Corey Wayne, and if you’re not, good job figuring this out on your own 👍🏼

[@jameeljohnson19]

@@hec231 no lie didn't even know who he was so I looked him up. He's got some decent gems. May have a new channel to watch for a while lol

[@jleano609]

Corey Wayne learned at the foot of the Master, Doc Love. So obvious when you hear him talk. Check out the Doc for old school dating advice.

[@soup-nazi6824]

Apparently it's sexual assault if you don't ask first according to feminists...

[@lisah3460]

Don't listen to this boy. Ask before you kiss a girl. Especially in 2022.

[@Simon-tc1mc]

For the whole kiss scenario, I think you can often just feel when it's the right time. I'm an introvert with basically no friends and haven't dated many people, but I've still never had an awkward kiss because I just went for it when the feeling was right and never forced it. If you have a hard time reading cues, just wait for a time when she's touching you and getting up close to you. That is almost a sure sign to go for it.

[@all-americanboy1776]

Awhile ago when a girl would say “hi” to me I instantly fall for her, in retrospect that’s funny because she 9/10 times is just being nice. I sometime fall for girls so quick it’s insane but it’s all a learning process. I do agree with just talking to girl to feel comfortable because I use to be so nervous talking to people but you just got to put yourself out there and try. You have nothing to lose and everything to gain. Now I’ll talk to anybody just for the hell of it, sometimes people don’t like a random person going up to them but most are open, just being friendly. It helps build social skills and confidence

[@scottp2462]

No don’t ask to kiss her. If you can’t pick up on the nonverbal cues then don’t attempt to kiss her. Granted some people don’t have a lot of experience with dating but that’s ok, it takes trial and error for both men and women. Women appreciate spontaneity and some degree of risk taking from men. Don’t really see the difference between a verbal no or a physical rejection. Both are a form of rejection and it happens to everyone. Go for it and see what happens just don’t be a creeper if she rejects you, accept it and move on. Best advice for rejection is be stoic, be a gentleman, accept it as you have your answer. She will appreciate that in the long run.

[@ericv5435]

But what if you think you're reading the nonverbal cues right and think she wants you to kiss her then you do but she didnt want it. That's just asking for a sexual assault charge.

[@darthcholo]

I agree never ask. I've had too many first kisses to count and I've never asked. Always read cues and initiate. However good common sense should be applied. 1. Never have first kiss with a drunk girl(or on drugs) 2. Never kiss a coworker. Maybe I'm missing some other situations, but women can easily retroactivly rescind their consent in these situations. Don't do it!

[@deadcell4837]

@@ericv5435 chances are that the kind of women who go on dates with men, arent the type to file sexual assault for an end of date kiss.

[@ariesscar443]

I agree. But still sometimes u STILL wana kiss a girl despite her cues lol. So if it happens n u try n dont plant it right, its funny.

[@darthcholo]

@@deadcell4837 don't count on it. If you notice most of the ones that make it to the courtroom are due to a documented provable power imbalance. This means a boss and his secretary, a teacher and a student, a drunk girl and a sober man. Stay away from these and a single kiss attempt and failure will NEVER make it to a courtroom. I'll extend the workplace boss and subordinate warning to coworkers too. Just don't do it!

[@RS-xo7rd]

I had a similar problem to the first questioner when I was young; only child, seven years at a boys secondary school, and hardly spoke to a girl between the ages of 11 and 18. I also had a serious blushing problem anytime I was near a girl. Now 73, never married (though had some lasting relationships), still looking and still confused!

[@inline6-b586]

depending on how the date goes, go for a kiss, by the end of it, if she moves back thats your sign, say that you gauged it wrong and walk her to her car, tell her to drive safe. I have had positive responses and negative responses, but even though when i have had negative response, when i went for a kiss, she still was interested in me, we went on another date. All i am saying is it makes her to think, be curious about you, worst thing gonna happen is she ll turn it down.

[@JasonMoir]

A comment on the first story: just because someone is homeschooled doesn't mean they have been completely isolated for their entire life. Many homeschool students take part in social and academic events with other similar students. I homeschool my son and our local group is quite active to give students chances to interact with their peers.

[@CourtneyRyan]

Of course! Totally depends on the situation!

[@Flupperz]

On the kissing side of things, I've had arguably more girls want than not want a kiss on the first date, if things were going really well. Sometimes if you're going for a walk after eating or something where she can get close to you and is physically touching you, for me it's been a good sign that she wouldn't mind/would like a kiss at the end. I've actually had the opposite happen compared to what Courtney is saying where there was a date I went on and I missed the non-verbal signs (earlier in my dating career) and didn't kiss her and she was actually more upset and asking probably wasn't a good option for her as well. It's a lot more difficult to parse out but the non-verbal queues, especially if she's getting close to you/touching you throughout the date for me have been good signs.

[@Aaron-kj8dv]

There was only 1 time I went for the kiss and she turned away, but after she got even more flirty so I tried and failed again. Once I got home and cooled down I realized she was just playing with me so I blocked her ass lol Gtfo, this bitch is gonna embarrass me for her own ego lol I was so embarrassed

[@fir3gun]

yessss this is exactly my experience.

[@Youinnerstandme]

It’s a build up you have to build up that interaction. Dudes draw physical contact you can start from hand to hug to shoulder then kiss. Nothing forceful but just subtle touches time from time when the opportunity arrives. Just make the move & don’t question the move once it comes up

[@zerpblerd5966]

I have had NUMEROUS women feel rejected because I didn't kiss them at the end of our 3rd hangout - and after feeling rejected because they were EXPECTING it, they feel hurt or embarrassed and then distance themselves, women I very much liked and would have eventually wanted to be physical with, but I like to establish a healthy friendship first. I've had numerous women friends who I didn't know wanted to be more than friends and after some time, whether it be 1-2 years or 15 years, turn out to be resenting me because I didn't want more/make moves ever.

[@wesguyton5270]

Thanks for the healthy dating tips Courtney. The advice really changed my dating experiences for the better. I dated this girl a little over a year ago, we were on and off all year. Now that I think about it, I should've just ended it at the first sign of red flags.... but those rose tinted glasses man... Anyway I think my story was quite different. Like I said we were on and off over a span of a year. We reconnected after a month or 2. Ended up back talking, and both apologizing for past behavior, new year new start, told her how I felt, she told me she "adores" me, and we're both way past "FriendZone" Stuff. She suggested a road trip for the next day, she insisted she drove. We went, both had a great time, she was smiling ear to ear, tears were on her face from laughing, just overall great time. Fast forward, we get back to her house, she's saying "I had sooo much fun with you today" "I adore the s***" out of you" So, she came to hug me on my way out. I went for it, tried to kiss her (the reason I didn't asked because we kissed before, the first time I did ask) she pulled back, and said she wasn't ready. I accepted it, pulled back and apologized. Her words "I still need some time" A week later, she ghosted me after saying she felt violated I tried to kiss her, I apologized again, asked how can I make it up, her reply was "Panic & Run" then ghosted/blocked me. Needless to say, I never spoke to her again after that. Complete 180 in a span of a week.

[@pablomartinez1504]

I think this is one of the first channels I’ve ran into where this girl really gets it. She covers so many topics and discusses them in a nuanced way that neither shames nor demonizes either side but still gets the point across. Wonderful work, Courtney

[@ericv5435]

The first time I've ever had a girl talk with me in actual conversation was my freshman year of high school from that point up until late 2020 (13 years) I'd develop a crush on every attractive girl that talked to me and seemed like she wanted to be my friend; classmates, coworkers, personal trainers, etc. Every time it just led to me being hurt. Now I just don't care to try talking to women anymore because it's just going to lead to heartache. I don't care if a woman wants to be in my life or not. I've just become jaded to ever have that happiness.

[@TheLace]

Sorry to say same here, buddy.

[@mistergoodcitizen9914]

Who said there was happiness in a woman?

[@ericv5435]

@@mistergoodcitizen9914 did I say that? No. No way in hell is there happiness in a woman

[@12floit33]

A man giving time to a girl is like a girl giving pussy to a guy, if this exchange is not happening it is a onesided exchange, men should start stating there intentions upfront and women should understand not to take away a mans time if they're not sexually interested

[@isaacthemexican1]

Once again, helping us guys is a true blessing from you Courtney. Deeply appreciate the honesty and hard work in order to help both parties understand each other and do things better 😎

[@Jefafa73]

I'm not the best at picking up subtle cues, but I like to think I know when a date is going well. On a second date with a girl I thought went really well, I gave her a hug and asked if I could kiss her and she said yes. After we kissed she said next time I don't have to ask. It's been about 8 months now and I still like to ask my gf because we remember that date well! Same date she also had a moment and messed up lake with river so she said "Mississippi lake". I will never let her live that down!

[@simontmn]

*aww* so cute! :)

[@mwa1254]

What does ADK mean?

[@Jefafa73]

@@mwa1254 Typing on mobile, it was supposed to say "ask"

[@jleano609]

If she likes you she'll make it easy for you. You did well to not kiss her on the first date. It's usually best to wait to build tension and uncertainty in her. You'd built enough attraction that the small mistake (which it was) of asking to kiss her didn't matter.

[@matthewnikitas8905]

I totally agree with the asking her to kiss her thing. It’s definitely the way to go if you don’t know the girl super well and shows that you respect her feelings and want to make her as comfortable as possible. That’s just from my own personal experience, when I went out with a girl one time I asked her to kiss her and she said yes and it ended up being a really amazing and sweet moment. So if you’re unsure I would definitely say that’s the way to go.

[@smileyface3107]

Step 1: be ok with rejection and be yourself You’ll take a lot of pressure off yourself. when your confidence doesn’t rely on their validation or if they like you then you’ll free yourself and open yourself up to other opportunities.

[@carytigani9859]

Had a date this past Sunday actually where we got to the end and I was dropping her off at her place. I didn't ask but I said, "I would like to kiss you." I think it diffused some of the awkwardness around it because we actually did after I said it. Might be a good route if you want to appear more confident to the girl.

[@pixel6878]

🤣🤣🤣

[@amk8411]

Excellent point. Subtle difference between asking and telling her your intentions.

[@thefox47545]

I just go for it. No asking, no talking.

[@simontmn]

Excellent.

[@dwightseal4209]

A man should know before the end of the date if she wants to be kissed. If she’s bumping into as you’re walking, touching your arm or something of the like she’s open to physical contact. If she’s looking at your lips at any point assume she wants you to kiss her.

[@jjt7973]

Great video again, Courtney. I think ypu've shared some incredible points about the importance of being positive whichever way the date goes, and I think it does not get said enough. I think if you can change your perspective to "Ok, thank heavens this date didn't go well because it means there might be someone else out there", then I think you can save yourself from a ton of unneccessary stress and hassle. The only thing I would say though is that it's important to read non-verbal cues because more often than not, you can tell from someone's body language if they are enjoying their time with you or not. I am not sure if you have covered an entire video on decoding non-verbal cues or body language but if you haven't, it could be something that you consider making in the near future! :) Thank you again, for sharing your wisdom on some of these delicate aspects of dating! Keep ep comin'!

[@henriqueleijoto9285]

I finally heard an answer to this question at my 26 years of age! I think it's quite a honest one. Thank you, Courtney!

[@aneki3070]

I agree! Just trying to have friendly conversations with a lot of women is good practice! I found talking to them as a friend already helps with calming the nerves and boosting confidence.

[@fleaguss]

During high school, yes the most cringy of years, I had a crush on a girl who was also in the school choir that I was in. I had been getting to know her for a couple years since I was 2 years ahead of her. I didn’t, still don’t, have the confidence to ask her out on a date at any point of those 2 years; on the last day of my high school days I managed to meet up with her in one of the hallways during classes, important since there wouldn’t be anyone else in the hallways. I struck up a conversation letting her know I probably won’t see her again for quite some time, if ever, and tried to work up the confidence to ask her out. In the first year of knowing her I can now say that she was being flirtatious with me but I just didn’t have a clue nor the confidence to grasp the flirting directed toward me. So, in these final minutes of being on campus all I could muster up was to ask her to close her eyes for a surprise. She absolutely knew what I was asking, I can tell that now based on the smile she had when she closed her eyes, but back then I was so nervous and unconfident and uncomfortable with myself that all I could muster up as my final goodby to this incredibly beautiful girl was a little peck, the kind of smooch you would boop a kitten on the head with. I remember she said “that’s so cute” right after I pulled away and then asked for a goodby hug, yes I know, which lasted for like a solid half minute. Even after a decade I can still remember that embrace. I remember being absolutely terrified through that ordeal, and scurried away like I had been caught by a search light.

[@JustGoBrandon]

Don't ask for a kiss. It takes experience, but once you've had those experiences (good and bad) you should know when a woman wants you to kiss her. I've dated women who find it a big turn off to ask them for a kiss. A man should know what he wants and if he wants the girl that he's dating, it is up to him to SHOW HER his intentions. By asking, you unconsciously tell her that she has control over you and that's not a good way to start off dating a woman. If you're still nervous about doing it, try to find ways to get her to lean closer to you. Maybe ask her to smell the cologne on your neck. Overall, in my experience, before the kiss, it's everything that leads up to it. If it's boring/stale conversation then a kiss is going to feel out of place, and why would you want to kiss her after that. If there's playful flirting and a lot of eye contact, then you'll know the time is right. It's up to you to warm the oven. It takes experience, but you'll figure it out.

[@EnbyAndromeda]

If it feels right, go for the kiss, but if you aren't sure don't just assume that she is "feeling it". I have almost always mentioned wanting to kiss a girl in a charming but goofy way, and it has ALWAYS gotten a positive response. I don't "ASK" but not every girl kisses on the first date, no matter how much they seem to be "feeling it". If you genuinely aren't sure, find a way to bring it up, but for the love of god don't ask for permission. You don't have to ask, but at least make it clear that you want to so that you don't end up in a situation where you are going in for a kiss and she asks the dreaded "what are you doing" because that is the worst confidence killer I can imagine even if it has never happened to me.

[@therealronniej]

Had really close female friend like a year ago. We went out to eat together and to basketball games, etc. She took me places and we'd talk about life, sometimes getting very personal, talking about our pasts. When she dropped me off, we normally hugged and that was good enough for me until I wanted to make things official. The thought of kissing her crossed my mind only once, but I was too chicken and afraid that she'd push me away or throw a drink in my face. A few months of us hanging out and I considered asking her to be my girlfriend, but she jumped ship on me before I could, that is, she went back to an old ex. Looking back, think she just wanted to be friends. That is basically all the real experience I have, so this video was so helpful Courtney! 🥰

[@simontmn]

Compared to guys, girls tend to be very ambivalent - so most likely she could have gone either way. Sorry, but she probably *could* have gone for you. :)

[@jleano609]

Dude, a few months? Why not make it years? After all you don't want to appear too forward! But seriously, wait too long and you are going to get friendzoned, simple as that. Women are attracted to confident and decisive men and you said yourself "I was too chicken". You also wanted her to be your girlfriend BEFORE any intimacy? That's not the way it works Brother. You kiss the girl, you maybe more than kiss the girl and you wait for HER to offer the commitment. NOT YOU. NEVER YOU. It could well have been this girl was waiting for you to make a move but your cold feet TURNED HER OFF over time and so she hit up the ex instead.

[@erickmoya1401]

I started with touching, hugging, staying next to her, and when it was obvious she was looking for it and I also wanted it, then I kissed her and it was really sweet

[@perryshields8469]

Now dating again as a widower (married 40 years), I've enjoyed many of your videos and have found them helpful (I'm a bit out of practice!). I have to disagree with you on one point, though - just because she says no to being asked for a kiss doesn't necessarily mean the relationship is going nowhere and you should move on, especially if you know she likes you. She may just need a little more time to get comfortable with it. That is a great time to have an open conversation about it and come to a mutual understanding - no guessing games. This has served me well in recent months as a new-again dater.

[@kenrickbautista6141]

Wow! The crush one kinda hit me hard, and that's one of the real reasons why I have been single all my life. And you're right about the asking thing.

[@kletts42]

I used to ask for the first time. I thought they would say yes, but it is better than to misread the signals and get into an awkward moment. I was also told that woman like to be asked. It's safe.

[@peterkottke2570]

From guys I grew up with, it tends to be those who were the most sheltered and prevented from interacting with girls that screwed up the worst with getting into ( and staying in ) bad relationships when they started dating.

[@scottschumacher5844]

I’m older, divorced and dating once again. Several of my dates have been with wonderful, interesting ladies. However, none have progressed to intimacy. Several second or more dates. But, the red flags were waving. And from experience, I never went any further. Recently I struck up several a nice friendship. I decided to ask her to dinner at which time she informed me that “under no circumstances do I kiss on the first date.” I withdrew my offer. Next woman, next date was outstanding. Plenty of bedroom gymnastics. I actually have more respect for the more recent lady than the former.

[@brianpryor2435]

Maturism 🌹👔!!! Yeupz......

[@SharpBalisong]

What’s wrong with stating you don’t kiss on the first date?

[@brago1997]

where are you meeting these girls to ask on dates?

[@brianpryor2435]

@@brago1997 : HAPPY🌹💃👔🥂🥂🍾🍾🍷🍷HOUR.... OVER....30YRS.....THEY OUT' THERE.... Sophisticated_Sassy_Sexxxy_INDEPENDENT....

[@scottschumacher5844]

@@brago1997 I met one at the super market. Another at a restaurant while having a business meeting. My current lady, I met at Nordstrom at the shopping mall. They are everywhere. Just man-up and start a conversation. 10 conversations = getting three contact numbers = 1 very good date. It’s a numbers game. Simple as that. Soon, one special lady will make the cut. Next thing you know, you’re in a nice relationship.Yay!!!

[@timavers]

Great content as always! On the kiss question there are two or three things I’d pay attention to. If I’m interested in a girl, the “movie move,” putting my arm around her shoulder while seated, is a pretty good test. If she snuggles in and is comfortable face to face it’s probably a good sign - if not, I’ll give a squeeze and disengage fairly quickly. Also, if I go in for a hug and she gives me the shoulder, leans so her hips are separated from mine, or most obviously turns her cheek to me right away, I’ll let any romantic feelings pass. I’d only really ask to kiss her if I knew the answer was already yes and I thought she might find it endearing. And let’s not forget holding hands! Guys, I know it might sound corny, but if a woman will hold your hand for an extended period of time, shifting positions but keeping grasp, you’re probably safe to progress things gradually with good eye contact, minding her comfort level. I’ve found that when I’m confident and invest a little time, more often than not it’s super obvious if a woman would like a kiss. Respect boundaries and it’s not hard to pick up on the signals.

[@wrcz]

I don't ask, I always tell them. "I wanna kiss you". Then they usually look at me and smile and I go for it. Never had any problems with it.

[@dwayneneal3342]

I'm 39 and I don't get crushes no more,it's just attraction or wanting them that's it. But they don't want me back.

[@xxreclamationprincexx1938]

Courtney I really liked this one. New and interesting conversations. More videos like this would be awesome. Maybe the start of a new series?

[@andrebaxter4023]

The 90/10 rule has worked for me and I go for the kiss on the first date. Going for the kiss on the first date will let me know if we should meet again for another date. Not going to waste time on someone who is not into me. I personally won't ask if I can kiss her. I'd rather say.."Come over here and kiss me~" Courtney, you poor thing. That story you shared made me cringe for you. That clip with the guy awkwardly kissing the girl's cheek also made me cringe. Hahaha, thanks for sharing.

[@jericoba]

Saying demandingly "Come over here and kiss me" can only work if you really have a connection with the girl, otherwise it's just corny and egotistic. It's a risky thing. But if you had success with it personally - good for you.

[@justsomeguy6133]

The 90/10 rule qualifies as a type of nonverbal consent IMO. So it counts as “asking” without words.

[@nanenuworlanyo4390]

Yes I asked a girl if I could kiss her and I was lucky she said yes. And I felt great about it . Thank you

[@CadetClueless]

Thanks for this insight! I have experienced both and yeah it is discouraging for future incidents. Keep up the good work as these latest videos are really amazing!

[@tommygunn6901]

It took me a few years to realize that I gotta get to know her before I even think if she's likeable to me...and yes, I do like one girl after a couple years of talking. As far as wanting to kiss her, I'd start with a physical touch to get her warmed up first, like a hug lasting longer than a few seconds...

[@CourtneyRyan]

🙌🏼 thanks for your perspective, Tommy!

[@tommygunn6901]

@@CourtneyRyan happy to give my opinion on this! 😊

[@markquinn1216]

Meanwhile she's getting her back blown out by an alpha dude.

[@zerpblerd5966]

gotta get to know them first, as friends, as real people, not as some 'potential to fill some preconceived notion of a role' nonsense if you enjoy spending time together, spend time together, as long as it remains mutual and persists, things are good, if things are like that for 6+months before introducing anything beyond friendship into it, it's a solid foundation, longer is better, but sooner can happen ENERGY

[@TheAcesendedOne]

To the kissing question: It depends on where you live. In my country a kiss without consent is a "sexual act that exploits the elements of surprise" and is illegal. The punishment can go up to 5 years in jail. Did someone went to jail for a kiss...no, at least not to my knowledge but the law was created in 2018, so it is not that old.

[@ThomasP525]

What country are you from?

[@mwa1254]

Sucks to be you in your country. I guess that law is aimed more at what you’d class as classic harassment / unwanted physical attention. If you’re in a date and misread the signals, it’d take a truly nasty person to try to get you in trouble with the law and jail time for that.

[@TheAcesendedOne]

@@ThomasP525 Germany

[@TheAcesendedOne]

@@mwa1254 Yeah you are right about that. I read the comments about that law from different lawyers and basicly all said that it will most likely never will be used in a dating situation. But it still exists, so yeah a very nasty person could abuse it.

[@alleras46]

Something that I believe every young man should do today is this: go out to a bar or club (this works better outside US because venues aren't 21+) or somewhere where nobody knows you and you are anonymous. Your goal is to simply talk to as many women as possible at first. This is to get over the anxiety of talking to women and to get comfortable with social pressure. Once you are somewhat relaxed in this environment, you want to start approaching less women but now deeply focus on each woman you approach and try to be present in the conversation. You want to be present enough to the point where you're just enjoying her energy and not trying to have an agenda in the conversation. What this does is allow you to feel if you are truly attracted to the woman you are speaking to (and not just on a physical level). From there you can start to naturally understand what you're attracted to in a woman and stop worrying about how hot she is or if she likes you or not. I don't have time to type the rest out but if anyone is interested in hearing more let me know and we can talk about it.

[@germanwizbang6250]

This would be great advice if the bars or clubs weren't involved. Nobody ever goes to these places to 'talk' to other people, and even if people wanted to they wouldn't be able to because the music is way too loud. If you want to actually talk and have a conversation, go literally anywhere else. Bars and clubs are for music that is so loud that you leave with your ears ringing.

[@alleras46]

@@germanwizbang6250 I mean it's really up to you where you go. I just gave bars/clubs as an example of somewhere where you can approach many women without the fear of earning a reputation or worrying about if its socially acceptable . In any case, I'm not sure what you're talking about. There are plenty of bars that don't play loud music where it is acceptable to talk to strangers. In fact, many women are happy to meet a cool guy at many of these venues. Clubs are more difficult but there are many spots in most clubs away from the music where you can talk (smoking areas, near bathrooms etc.)

[@carlosverde-datingtips7001]

I hear ya - astrain46! Lol Great tips - by Courtney! Confidence is probably the #1 thing you’ll need before you approach any woman… And have no agenda, just relax, and talk to her like a human being - because women are people, whether you choose to believe that, or not! Lol But seriously, behave around her like you would with your friends, that way - she’ll let her guard down, and perhaps, let you get to know her! Just remember, it’s your job to put her mind at ease, if you can do that - amazing things will start to happen! Anyway, that’s my two cents. -Carlos Verde - Dating Tips

[@rogersmith9628]

I once took out a girl who I'd been out with once before. When I drove her back to her house and walked her to her door, I asked if I could kiss her. She seemed taken aback and said no. It was incredibly awkward for both of us and I felt like a complete fool. We never went out again. I took out another girl and on first date after driving her home I asked if I could kiss her goodnight. She allowed me to. We've been married going on 24 years.

[@AmbercoolPhotography]

Alot of these scenarios can be resolved by dating and going on lots of dates. You don't have to sleep with everyone, but the experience will help you with approach and body language in the future. Honestly, from my first date to my last there wasn't any doubt about where it was going to go. As long as you contribute to the dance and trust your intuition you'll know. It's when you ignore your intuition, and still push forward anyway that the likelihood of failure will present itself.

[@brago1997]

where do you begin to even find girls to go on dates with besides online dating?

[@jeffsmith9779]

Yes. Asking for a kiss cuts through all the BS and lets you know where you stand. I would rather be in an awkward situation for 10 seconds then having to wonder for days or weeks if she liked me or not.

[@ilai7893]

Agreed, and I think the first guy's choice of wording should be "develop attraction for different girls", since guys are wired more for external stimuli (i.e. looks), so it's easier to think "she's attractive, and so is she..."

[@mwa1254]

I generally will give a kiss on the cheek and a hug (one that feels a bit more than when you meet a friend and greet them) at the end of the first date and then I put it out there about meeting again as we are parting (only if it went well) Then if the second date happens, it’s usually quite easy to tell if they are feeling that way about you, but I generally will ask to be sure, and if the answer is yes, then you don’t really need to ask to kiss again in the future as you’ll be aware the signals were meaning something!

[@frankenwulf4394]

I never ask to kiss a girl. If the date is going well and I feel a connection with her, I will kiss her at the end of the date, no doubt about it. Never had a girl not kiss me back. If you guys arent talking much and she doesnt seem into you, then dont kiss her. Maybe go for a hug and a kiss on the cheek if that's the case. No girl is going to be upset if you kiss them on the cheek. I guess it just takes experience to know for some.. I remember the first date I went on, I gave her a hug and she actually grabbed my face and went for the kiss. I wasnt expecting that, but she was the assertive one there. I think from then on I knew when I should kiss or not kiss a girl.

[@wwijsman]

I've had a girl ask me if I'd be okay with kissing on a first date once. I've also once made a girl angry because I didn't get the hint and she was really trying 😅

[@jtaylor3981]

After a 1st date with a girl, I went in for the kiss. She rejected me and asked me what I was doing. In my mind I told myself I've been friendzoned and I need move on. A few minutes later she put her hands on my face and kissed me. 🙂

[@Xanadu_Games]

Mine is a pretty unique situation I think, I grew up in a cult . We were super isolated from the outside world, I went to home school, never watched TV or movies growing up, and was never allowed to date or even talk to girls. Now that I'm out I'm extremely awkward around women and can't even get myself to have a conversation with a girl even on social media or dating apps. I'm now 24 years old and I've never been on a date. I really want to start dating but I'm afraid nobody will give me a chance because of my background. Ps. Thank you Courtney for your videos they help a lot :)

[@alexk2822]

Just be yourself. Be polite. Show some manners. Be confident. Don't think that a woman is just a thing, she is like you, human...She is your human reflection in the mirror, in a female version. So next time look in front of the mirror and imagine that she is there. You are looking at her. Try to imagine a conversation. In terms of asking, try and use a more polite, discreet version of the direct word "Can I" , which is "May I" , because it might make a difference. As always, Courtney you are there to help and you will always be appreciated 💐

[@trudgemankPhD]

I like the 90/10 rule from Hitch--never go all the way in for the kiss, but wait and let her come in the last 10% of the way. It was totally a setup for a physical comedy moment, but I think it still works haha. As for cues, look for mildly escalating physical contact or a lingering hug at the end where she keeps her hands on you (think neck or shoulders, maybe hands) after you pull apart. I'd personally rather just wait for an obvious moment than ask just to be able to kiss her sooner and potentially ruin the moment. This approach definitely leads to a lot of missed moments before you realize when it's obvious, so maybe it's not the best lol

[@jeread5193]

In a rare instance of figuring one of these things out for myself, I discovered that you can test this by getting up in a girls face during conversation, exaggerating a 'confrontational' point or 'sharing a secret' or whatever. Her expression will tell you whether or not she wants you to get closer.

[@jleano609]

Good game. Hug her at the beginning of the date, that's your datum. Hug her at the end and see if it's different, more time, more pressure etc. That should tell you everything you need to know about whether she's ready for a kiss.

[@dusancicovic5334]

Once, on a party, i kissed a girl that i liked and she kissed me back. When i tried to kiss her again, she said that she doesn't want to kiss me. I was okay with that. We remained friends for some time after that.

[@samaleks4390]

I’ve been in situations where I’ve asked for a kiss and in others where I just went for it. With my first and second girlfriends I just went for it and those went fine, but I will say that the girls kind of set the stage there. They were leaning in, waiting for a kiss, so it felt natural. My third girlfriend actually kissed me on the third date. That was good too and pretty romantic. My fourth girlfriend was very inexperienced and so I asked if I could kiss her. The first time I asked she said “on the cheek.” But she wanted to see me again, so I asked again and she said yes. Later, she confessed that she wasn’t feeling it when she said yes, but that kiss opened the door to another kiss that happened at a festival we went to and that one gave her the kind of rush she wanted to feel originally. So, my point is that asking isn’t bad - it could kill the romance a bit, but if the girl likes you, she will want to see you again and once the first kiss is out of the way, you can have a real romantic kiss with no pressure later.

[@djnary2896]

I have NEVER asked to kiss a girl in my life! It just happens when the time and the vibes feel right. As for developing crushes, I've had a few of them. But only twice in my life have I felt truly in love, and both times it was with women I'd known for some time after getting to know them. Unfortunately, they both put me in the dreaded "Friend Zone." (I guess I realized my true feelings too late.) But I truly did love them and still think fondly of them. One sadly passed away from cancer at 42. The other is getting married soon. And I DO hope she is happy.

[@zerpblerd5966]

I had trauma of fear of losing that which I truly desired and for years put all the wonderful women that were true and good to me in the friendzone and pursued women I was okay with losing. I'm 41 now and just realized this in the past couple years (after healing from a toxic relationship that was 29-36) how I was being. forgiveness of self is hard, but takes time and moving forward with good energy to do right by the mistakes of the past

[@kajony]

Great questions, @courtney! For me, especially these days, suggest always asking. The answer is the information you need

[@lennard_S]

Just as a tip for the kissing Problem. I don't think ot is necessary to ask. The real problem is, that most guys go from 0 to 100 and didn't even initiate physical contact in other ways. Things like holding her hand, when you lead her somewere are really good "tests" if she is into you. If she wasn't she would pull her hand anway or won't really react in a positive way. So you would know then. Hope that helps. Thanks for all you do Courtney

[@dkyoandblade]

Asking for a first kiss will seldom, if ever, go poorly for you. It'll be very nice for the person you ask who already has feelings for you, and it'll be subtly appreciated by the person who just wants to hookup. Edit: If the person doesn't like you, it'd be much much less mortifying to ask than to attempt it. Edit: What I'm saying here keeps being echoed by the video. Maybe I should finish the video.

[@Joedeanbryson]

big difference between having a crush and being attracted to someone, I think as you say those feelings can be confused if you haven't had much experience

[@bluerabbit1236]

The hand test always works for me but before I get into that... First, test her to see how much she complies with your physical affection. While talking, squeeze her shoulder, give her a one arm hug, rub her back and pay attention to what she does. If she rests her head on your shoulder when you hug, closes her eyes with pleasure when you squeeze her shoulder or she rubs your back spontaniously later on, then these are good signs that you guys are bonding. Do not ever go for a kiss before achieving some sort of physical interaction first. Even if she's into you, it might be too much for her at that moment. It's your job to lead the girl and make her feel as comfortable as she can. The next crucial step before going for the kiss is, to hold her hands. During the conversation, just hold a bit longer than a friend would, so that you can see how she reacts to it. Your hand touching hers is way less intrusive compared to exchanging saliva. If you feel she's getting uncomfortable and/or withdraws her hand without you doing it first, then that means you're not there yet and shouldn't go for the kiss. A girl who's hesitent to even holding your hand most likely isn't going to kiss you back. And if the earlier steps are successful but you fail the hand test multiple times, then most likely you got friend zoned. She just feels comfy around you but her affection is most likely brotherly. This simple test will save you from an embarrassment and will help you retain your friendship with her without ruining anything.

[@bane3991]

Rarely will I try to kiss a girl on a first date. Usually I wait until dates 2-3, sometimes 4 assuming she hasn't asked or tried to kiss me yet because both have happened. Every woman is different. There's never any harm from not kissing. It's when you go in too early or when she doesn't want it is the problem. Good things happen to those who wait. A girl can think things are going well, but than you move to fast and mess it all up. When in doubt, take it slow.

[@davidabarak]

About asking for a kiss, there's a third possibility: "Not yet." Yes, sometimes it can be a case of the woman leading the guy on, but decent, real women might say it and truly mean it. It's going to take all of a guy's super-powers of observation to determine which it is.

[@hec231]

I’m guessing this might be somewhat of a golden rule, if she’s occasionally staring at your lips while you talk and stare back at hers, then she’s ready and willing to be kissed.

[@Massingham1]

I get the first one, developing a crush on almost every woman I meet! Because I’ve been single for so long, if a pretty girl is nice to me, whether she works in a pub or a shop where it’s part of their job to be nice, I get a crush. I do my own head in sometimes 🤦‍♂️😂

[@ACM1PT95]

I do have this issue as well. I start to develop an interest for almost every single girl I meet. I'm not sure whether is a good thing or not. I sometimes think whether is desperate from me or I dont have standards? I'm not sure, I wouldn't say I develop an interest for every single girl either, but only to the ones I find attractive as I'm not attracted to all type of girls.

[@Inquisitorsofsatan]

Life's all about learning how to endure both success and failure. You're gonna get rejected at times. It's life. That being said, the WORST is the feeling of never knowing in consequence of abandoning romantic interests out of fear. We all too often rob ourselves.

[@StacieS307]

Another way for a guy to know if a girl that he is dating would like to be kissed besides asking that question would be to ask her after several dates if she has any romantic interest in him. In my opinion, if I went with on a date with a man and I had romantic feelings for after several dates I would at least ask him how he felt about me from our previous dates and if he said that he believes it could go somewhere in the same direction that I am looking for a relationship then I would be the one to kiss him. Or if I am really nervous, I would give a not so settle cue like looking at his mouth and at the same time holding his hand and licking my lips. If he doesn't pick that up as a sign, then he must be blind. On a side note, there was this one guy I went on a date with, we were finishing our first date and he drove me to my house. At my house there is this step where people have to step up to go onto a foyer that leads to the front door. Well, this guy was shorter than me and I was in high heels, so the top of his head was around the bottom of my chin. Anyways, after our first date he went to kiss me and I didn't know it because I just gave him a hug and was in the process of turning my body to step up on to the step of the foyer to go to my front door. That is when he went to kiss me and instead of kissing my mouth or face he ended up kissing my left boob. That was so awkward.... He immediately turned red and apologized. I felt so bad for him so I stepped down off of that step took my high heels off and I kissed him. I don't know what happened to him because after that night I never heard from him again.

[@Felix5k]

I'd say it doesn't matter if you ask for a kiss or not. If you've done well on dates, she'll say yes or that she doesn't know; if you haven't she'll say no. I also wouldn't say that it's "not masculine" to ask that. I've done kisses without asking and it was great; I've also asked when I wasn't sure (because we had a great vibe, but it was our 1st date) and it also came out great. Don't overthink this.

[@djrubixcube05jordan31]

For the first one, I’m an extrovert so I talk to almost everyone and I still have that happen a lot of times lol

[@claytoncrawford]

Dear Courtney Rayn.... Absolutely... Communication is important, but it also shows how Home Schooling is isolating Kids into their late Teenage Years is causing people the inability to interact.... People need People to learn from and experience emotions and situations which includes reading body language and so Home Schooling is necessarily the most effective way to teach.... Awkwardness is what our sympathetic emotional portions of the brain require to hardwire those situations that make us vulnerable.... Awkwardness is part of Human Drama... Trust Me!.... I am honest, Courtney, and thank goodness I am not perfect and I never thought or imagined I was.... Awkwardness can be considered cool because people can reflect back and chuckle.... the end.... Always in Good Taste... CHEERS!... Courtney is so cool!

[@johngonzalez4298]

Let's go Courtney! Happy 🐪 day

[@CourtneyRyan]

Thanks for being here John! Hope you’re having a good week 🙌🏼

[@MessageInABottle869]

An alternative instead if asking to kiss someone is to say, ”I want to kiss you right now”. So then it still kind of a question and the girl can decide if she want to or not.

[@darthcholo]

This is my go to move with a twist. I tell her to "come here so I can kiss you". It's more direct/dominant but still requires girl to consent by actively walking towards you.

[@larryf.8889]

Thank you Courtney . Yes, We've all gone for the kiss and it didn't end well! 😆😂 There is no right answer for this but pay attention to her. Be aware of her body language. If you lean in toward her and her reaction?

[@youngtripp5184]

Great tips and your outfit is looking great and your hair is pretty :-)

[@CourtneyRyan]

You’re so sweet, thank you 😊

[@youngtripp5184]

@@CourtneyRyan You’re welcome

[@dieharder2k]

I also have asked if I could kiss a girl that I could tell was attracted to me but we really only just met but we really had a great vibe even though we just met recently and if I just went in for a kiss I think it would seem so soon and unnatural and unexpected but since I asked her if I could kiss her (and I could tell we both really liked each other) then it provided an acceptable way we both make that move so soon.

[@GJones247]

Women give off a vibe if they want to be kissed. Some women are just flirty, but if the date is fairly intimate, and touching has been involved, usually a long stare or a sexy smirk would intel that a kiss is coming. Be ready to be rejected. Confidence is key with interaction. If she rejects, she did you a favor.

[@patricioperez8047]

Never ask!!! Spot the cues! If there are no cues, then dont turn it awkward....

[@marcmays48]

Time to support the algo. 😁 EDIT: Kissing is your job, as the man. Take the lead. Pay attention, use triangular gazing, and be cool with however she responds. The rest just comes with practice.

[@CourtneyRyan]

You rock 🙌🏼

[@marcmays48]

Thanks Courtney! 😊

[@LatimusChadimus]

Wooooo! I'm here to boost your boost

[@marcmays48]

@@LatimusChadimus Thanks for the boost. 🙂

[@kevinc1593]

I met a lovely lady that I really would like to eventually kiss, but she was clear about not being ready for that and accepted that I was seen as a friend. However, the next time I saw her I gave her a bag of Hershey Kisses, she got a kick out of it and that has been our running joke for a while, though were still just friends… That’s okay, you can learn a lot about women from having female friends. Personally, I think at the end of the first date I would ask, unless she is giving non-verbal cues such as she looks back and forth from your eyes and your lips...

[@jleano609]

Unless SHE initiates, wait until the second date.......play the long game.

[@TSierra]

Courtney, I’m not sure if you did this but can you please make a “spring outfit video” for the future? what to wear and what not to wear, etc. Love your videos and thank you😁

[@CourtneyRyan]

I’ve done them in the past but I plan on making a new one for 2022 :)

[@LatimusChadimus]

@@CourtneyRyan wooooo

[@XFS540]

Plain tees, linen shirts, chino shorts, light-wash denim jacket, canvas sneakers. Pretty much everything you need.

[@windchimesilo9623]

Just don't wear clothes. It will give you results instantly, you should try it😁

[@isaiahharris7046]

@@CourtneyRyan I enjoy your fashion advice the most I would love it if you made an independent coaching program or course on fashion. I think both myself and multiple other members of the channel would be willing to pay for it!

[@Armando316]

Never ask for a kiss. Go for it with confidence.

[@Kareem_Baconskin]

That's right! Just like Joe Namath: kzbin.info/www/bejne/fZSZZoF5aZmXic0

[@kaibalfour2318]

Try to make a move while your on the date but incase of emergency where there wasn’t a good opportunity, if she’s lingering or holding the conversation longer than she has too when it’s time to leave the date or hinting she doesn’t want to go home yet then go for it. If she cuts the conversation immediately and hints she’s in a rush don’t do it.

[@LatimusChadimus]

Yeah bro, you should have seen the nonverbal cues within the first or second date. There is definitely a difference between being interested, and being attracted to (and you can also add in a little bit of arousal), therefore, if this woman is interested in you and she is not attracted to you, she isn't going to want you to kiss her, which means she can wants you around as a backup option, she wants you around to use you for resources or finances, or she wants to have you around as a friend because there will come a point in time where she's going to want somebody to talk to that isn't a girl

[@ollysombrero8427]

wait... when the attraction is mutual it's palpable and there's that tension and both sides make it obvious that they're okay with physical intimacy. if you feel like you have to ask... then clearly you're sensing a lack of attraction on their side... and you shouldn't kiss them at all?? no??? so why even ask? just pat them on the back and go "see ya bruh" Am I missing sth here? make me eat my words....

[@englishsounds6461]

You rocking with your content Courtney

[@CourtneyRyan]

Thank you my friend! 🥰

[@bgramirez966]

I'm 44 yrs old now I got my first kiss at age 20 yrs old when I gave this girl a ride home & it was right on my lips 😂 I remember it well....she initiated it so I didn't have to do anything & I wasn't even expecting it....I guess she appreciated the ride & needless to say I was seeing stars 🤩 the rest of the day

[@robmckay875]

I'm a little awkward. Just roll into it. You'll be alright.

[@fir3gun]

Nothing wrong with asking to kiss a woman, even if its a day in advance. Many men don't pick up nonverbal cues to go in for the kiss. Sometimes the woman will even surprise you by kissing you first. Mind you, do not wait long to kiss her, she'll start to see you as a friend. A good tip I can give you guys is, text her before the date like "don't be surprised if I kissed you!" & depending on her reply, then you should be more confident.

[@SkinnySticks]

What about Celebrity crushes? We never met in real life! And same thing for KZbin Crushes.

[@gsharpshooter80]

In regards to the kissing question I usually go in for the kiss unless there's a really clear sign she's not for it, usually like 90% of the time. Recently though I had an interesting situation with a girl I matched with from online dating and on the first date we some how got into the topic of riding the train in NYC and she mentioned a lot of guys have groped her or touched her in some unwanted manner on the train which is why she hates taking it. This kind of lead me to be a bit paranoid when I walked her to her car and when I was saying bye I went in for the side cheek kiss because of what she told me during the conversation and she went in for a direct kiss. I kinda chuckled and was like "hold up" and then went in for the kiss and followed by her saying "weathers really bad out, text me when you get home, just wanna make sure your ok". So I mean don't worry about it too much is the point. Usually if a girl is into you during the date she'll try finding excuses for you to kiss her. Another girl I went on a date with years ago told me her Uber was here when I walked her out and in my head I was like "f**k go for the kiss!" and still didn't and a few seconds later she was like "oh wait he just told me he made a wrong turn so he'll be here in 5 mins" and my response was "So I got you to myself for a whole 5 minutes" and she said "I guess you do" and I'm sure you can use your imagination for the rest. Another situation of why I think you should always go in for the kiss is because when I was in Brazil recently one of my friends approached these 2 girls, shortly after I walked over and went to go speak to the friend to kinda wingman for him. When we were about to go our separate ways he went in for the kiss and she rejected it but she gave off a strong "Have a good night" vibe with strong eye contact to him and my friend knew it was going really well because the following day when we were on the beach she messaged him **very interesting words** through whatsapp and when they met up again the kissing happened. I also ended up kissing the friend when I was saying goodbye in the airport so that went well too! If you should take anything away from this, *GO FOR THE KISS!!!*

[@PsychoAlfaSchizo]

I’m a guy and I love women in general. Most every girl has something that I like. It’s either they smell good, have pretty face, nice hair, beautiful eyes, nice legs, ect, ect, ect, ect, ect.

[@OpLanters08]

Kissing has a lot to do with Chemistry, you can feel it. I usually always let the woman kiss me first that chase is so much better. Im going to add also if you feel that lightning tingle in your body. Even for a moment, you like her a lot.

[@vladrockie723]

Thank you

[@Jdmsword14]

In my 20s lots of my dating involved alcohol and never really had to ask to kiss someone but as i've got older I try to date, at least at the start, without having alcohol present either coffee dates, hikes, parks, doing other stuff outside etc and because i'm typically meeting someone i met via online dating apps...if the date has gone well enough and I'm interested in seeing them again i will go ahead and ask at the end essentially to be polite but also guage their interest. I never say can i kiss you , i don't know how much of a difference this makes but i'll phrase it like, can i give you a kiss. That being said I'm fairly good at reading body language but its a sure way for me to elicit a response whether they say yes or no

[@vova32123]

Had to ask and try to have the kiss on the second date. She said she really wanted to but likes to take things slow, which was still a good sign. We ended up kissing at the end of the third date… so all went well; except it didn’t work out a bit later on…

[@bren6344]

I asked my last girlfriend’s permission to kiss her the first time because in this day and age you have to exercise an abundance of caution. You have to protect yourself from #metoo accusations as a guy.

[@admirbarucija2018]

I’ve viewed the Reddit dating subs from time to time, there are a lot of toxic posts and advice going around!

[@CourtneyRyan]

It’s wild on there!

[@admirbarucija2018]

@@CourtneyRyan haha agreed! The anonymous factor I feel contributes heavily to it