Ask Ganjiswag #66 | Junaid Akram

[@khansa4309]

Last question: Absence is the highest form of presence. To me, it feels that your dad's absence in your life is the biggest void that you couldn't fill, despite your mom being there. I have felt the same, even though both of my parents are in my life. It is kind of an ambiguous loss...Someone you haven't met, but you feel the lost and disadvantage of their absence. I am sorry you are going through this, and hope that you become a man you hoped to become, if you had a father figure in your life.

[@KhushnoodDigitalEntrepreneur]

hmmmmmmmm perfect absolutely

[@basicbase749]

1st question: absolutely true, it’s childhood emotional neglect and not getting emotional validation from parents that we crave emotional bond with anyone we get close to. Just to fill this void because of our unmet needs from our childhood. Once we heal our childhood wounds, we get over it. Yes, he will need therapy.

[@ibraheemstation7268]

Which therapy?

[@junaidqadirb]

A few thoughts/quotes that may help someone: 1- Bring gratitude in your life 2- We suffer more in our imagination than in reality 3- Meditate 4- Stop comparing yourself to others.

[@jaziboyone]

@@bharatkapoor4062 meditate , yoga or muraqba bro whatever you call it

[@tolkien7101]

11:50 "A question opens the mind, a statement closes it". If you think you cannot do something then your brain won't think about it anymore.

[@LetsBeTechy]

@@bharatkapoor4062 Why Not? Do you know barack obama in his class telling his students that he want to become US president or He will become. Rest you know.

[@LetsBeTechy]

@@bharatkapoor4062 Do not self-reject, if you do, others will also. Positive thinking is the tool to become successful.

[@LetsBeTechy]

​@@bharatkapoor4062 Bharat, no one is successful on their birthdate. People struggle and work hard to achieve success. It's also not everyone's dream to be a PM, president, etc. Some wish to just live a happy life by doing a small business or job. Some wish to become a billionaire. Please don't mind. Thanks!

[@mysticalhuman]

Happy new year Junaid, discovered you this year and your advice keeps me grounded and clear headed. Stay healthy and stay happy. Love from 🇮🇳

[@abdulmueed2844]

We are all alone, some of us know that and others are in misunderstanding that they have someone. We live alone and we die alone, partners, friends are distraction we add so that we can avoid thinking about loneliness.. but it is truest form of existing. Just get comfortable with it.

[@anzar_imam_9]

When it comes to self love we boys are worst at it, & we chase that one girl to think about her happiness & end up getting neglected, taken granted for.

[@ayeshaazam8388]

2nd Questions : thank you so much for including this question. This depicts me. Totally me. I failed to enter in medical college, changed my field got in computer sciences failed there (although i got 3.67 gpa) but i couldn't developed a skill man.. Now that i am marrried accepting my first baby in few months still trying in different feilds sometimes.. Everyday i have to wake up to this sad reality that i am nothing, but a failure. And everyday i tell my self failure are those who stop i didn't so i am something big something good thats why i am alive... Ahhh that so difficult man..

[@aishaabid5728]

I hope things get easier for you,buddy.And have a healthy baby.Much love,x.Stay strong.You are an iron lady:)

[@AKMarch01]

you are not a failure. you are a precious jewel for you were created by Allah!! Keep faith, you are not a failure.

[@ayeshaazam8388]

@Waleed Ashraf those who lack skills are teachers in middle east. I used yo live in middle east before i got married. Well.. Ask?

[@ayeshaazam8388]

@Waleed Ashraf video editing or web design

[@eyubd]

I HAD A BIG SMILE ON MY FACE THE MOMENT I GOT THE NOTIFICATION! He's gaining consistency here again!!😄

[@1arvindjangid]

Me too, always excited for that

[@KhushnoodDigitalEntrepreneur]

hahahah arry wah !!! meri bhi consistency dekhooooooo yrrr

[@zoyasaad0]

Same

[@KhushnoodDigitalEntrepreneur]

@@zoyasaad0 hahah

[@zonanaz7711]

To the boy who grew up without a father; I'll really suggest you to watch Jordan Peterson's lectures on KZbin and read his books, I hope it'll help!

[@minakhan]

So happy with the consistency 🔥🔥🔥

[@mskxvii5565]

I waited a month for the last vid and you just made it up by posting this one back to back. LOVE FROM NYC. #gangigang

[@reemmanzoor5778]

Downloaded to watch on my way to work… ended up watching all of it ☺️

[@henc6615]

thank you for being a mentor to us 💖✨

[@ladybird7489]

I have not watched it but liked in advance 🙂 am sure that I am going to learn a lot from this video session

[@mbs0710]

2

[@muneebahmad4378]

Same

[@Sassybliss404]

do people fall out of love. Yes they do. I completely agree with Junaid bhai anay wale ko roko nae janay wale ko toko nae. Brother please never compromise on your self respect. May Allah make it easy for you

[@hasnainsethar6224]

When you talk about your father, I completely understand. I also didn't like my father but now at the age of 20, I realise that all which I faced was not his fault. He doesn't have a father to guide him, that's why he doesn't know about parenting. I remember i have only one picture with my father.

[@syedsaadali8780]

for 19 year old boy: Mark zuckerberg also loves to do a lot of things, but pehley ek source of income honi zaroori hai. Jab stable source of income ho jaey tou us k baad baqi kaam bhi kerte raheyn.

[@hinajavaidserrone7731]

I get motivated all the time whenever I listen to you ❤

[@amrahkhan7552]

To the last question, I'd recommend listening to Jordan Peterson's lectures. He also has a book called 12 rules for life which has very practical life advice. Initially listening to him can be a bit boring and difficult because he uses difficult words and is very articulate, but keep listening and with practice you should be able to understand what hes saying. Hope this helps

[@mannykhan7752]

Best takeaway in this video: "don't compare yourself to others, compare yourself to yesterday".

[@yahyakhan4267]

Thank you so much I was really helpful for me

[@Spectator11126]

Ngl your lawn podcasts are more comforting.

[@jaziboyone]

Tough times create strong men Strong men creates easy times Easy times create weak men Weak men creates tough times make your kid a warrior

[@abdr3941]

Good Times create Bad People Bad People Create Bad Times Bad times create Good People Good People create Good Times This was the one I heard (Both are same , not nitpicking)

[@haroon4567]

@@abdr3941 i mean it is a man made world so the actual saying is not wrong.

[@ferozmerchant8751]

Wishing you a great new year. Really enjoyed the show today. Thank you.

[@aimenjafri8341]

I can relate with the 19yr old boy in the second question. I think he wants consistency as well but right now he is in a process to find himself. I think one should give their best in a field and agar phir bhi Maza na Aaye Tou change Krna banta hai

[@boomika9987]

Unless people in my life come clean to me & admit that they're pretending I'm not taking therapy.

[@Ahmed-fc8yz]

Great work Junaid bhai. Can someone tell, how to ask questions in Ask Ganjiswag? Is there any email address or what?

[@SportsGinger]

9:40 : I am 14 Right now and 3 years back i was going through same, wasting money ,kay let me start this etc. In Covid it got worse, i was not able to sleep, i was overthinking, suicadal thoughts and no purpose of life. I started praying and getting closer to Allah and watching movies, i made a yt channel for fun and enjoyed that am still doing it! I went to cousins and other relatives, watching series and it got better. Today I am fine Alhamdulillah

[@muneebahmad4378]

14 ya 24

[@maazismail4936]

Loved it as always 😍🙌

[@danishhayat749]

Question 3 is totally relatable with my situation

[@boomika9987]

Look man to be brutally honest I just need to be fit. Once I'm fit everything else will fall into place. Just see. That's the only thing between me & my happiness.

[@goodyist]

One thing I found that works is write down your goals. If they are not written down tthey are not goals.

[@ilyasshoaib8982]

Sir well said i really agree with you and your thoughts about the difference personality

[@nida1990]

You are a big brother I never had 🥺

[@muneebahmad4378]

Same

[@batsy941]

4th question I can relate as 4 siblings growing up without father (I never got to even see mine passed away before I was born). Used to lie about father right till university due to our toxic society and people who think paisa kahan se aa raha hai phir. My soil mechanics teacher and brigadier dean of NUST university in my bachelors of civil engineering asked me this in my viva that where is money coming from. Our society is not conducive to females or orphans. Unless one is extremely resilient one cannot survive. You have to be mentally so strong that no matter what threat or hard times comes you have to stand tall and take it learning from process and moving on because you dont have a sugar daddy to fall back on waiting in Pakistan

[@fatimashahidhussain3932]

Last question.. I don't have my father unfortunately.. My advice is contact your teachers in uni or college who.r experience professionally and personal success. And friends who r elder than you ... Discuss serious thing or confusion. And take advice

[@umar_ali_]

I was just watching your #56 episode of ask ganjiswag 😁✌️

[@tahaghauri6338]

We suffer more in imagination than in reality. :)

[@Siddharth_4_4]

And the Pain is same.

[@pakfoodvlogs3096]

سبحان اللہ ۔میرا پیارا پاکستان ہمیشہ سلامت پرامن اور ترقی کرتا رہے ۔آمین ۔😭😭😭

[@kirtanvarasia3798]

I really liked your comment about being a ‘hunter and gatherer’. My ex-boss while mentioning me spoke about sales. And he explained me about ‘hunters and farmers’. So much to learn, need another life 😀.

[@kirtanvarasia3798]

I meant ‘’mentoring’ and not ‘mentioning’

[@lubnasayyeda]

15.00 for this person, I would say; the only difference between Trying & Triump is the UMPH in it . 💪, so keep trying with a lot of energy.

[@saliabbasraza]

I loved all the show he do from UK, the energy and positivity it has is great. Alas! how Pakistan drains the person :(

[@brigtm4723]

Well said Junaidy Sinns

[@M.Sajid98]

people report this clown who has been spamming same BS comment on all videos

[@jessiezack9999]

The first guy has exactly same situation like mine

[@faizu.shaikh5776]

"" Zindagi aik baar milti hee.... "" apka ye sentence already depression cause kr raha he society me. Being a muslim you should say, asal zindagi to moot k baad shuru hoti he, ye bolo then agar kisi ka bare se bara loss hobhi jae to masla nhi kiun k asal zindagi to moot k baad shuru hoti he... pir depression bhi nhi hoga..

[@lifeinkarachi123]

Well said bro.. mgr ye sirf iman wala hi smjh skta ha

[@pakfyp226]

@@lifeinkarachi123 yes bro

[@muhammadyaseen6386]

Waise maut aur Zindagi aur Emaan ki BAAT kar raha hai aur Phr Junaid Bhai ki biwi ki awaz par tharak show kar raha hai matlab Hypocrisy ki inteha hai Bhai

[@Siddharth_4_4]

To ek kam kar " moot" ke bad jee lio abhi ke ley apni property mere naam karde

[@boomika9987]

I haven't met a single person I feel like I can talk to for hours on end. Maybe few... But not... Can't explain.

[@Siddharth_4_4]

20 Books to read in your 20s: 📚 Atomic Habits" - James Clear "Indistractable" - Nir Eyal "The Almanack of Naval Ravikant" - Eric Jorgenson "Can't Hurt Me" - David Goggins "The One Thing" - Gary W. Keller "The Compound Effect" - Darren Hardy "Extreme Ownership" - Jocko Willink "Discipline Equals Freedom: Field Manual" - Jocko Willink "The Dip" - Seth Godin "The Third Door" - Alex Banana "Lying" - Sam Harris "12 Rules for Life" - Jordan Peterson "Beyond Order" - Jordan Peterson "Grit" - Angela Duckworth "Mindset" - Carol Dweck "The Strangest Secret" - Earl Nightingale "As a Man Thinketh" - James Allen "How to win friends and influence people" - Dale Carnegie "The daily stoic" - Ryan Holiday "The psychology of money" - Morgan House

[@phantreem7743]

Im in my teens & have started reading recently, I love it now, Ive read some of books mentioned here I will make sure to try others out thanks brother

[@Siddharth_4_4]

@@phantreem7743 welcome bro

[@ranahassan4931]

Ask ganji series here in UK vibes hell segzii >>>

[@boomika9987]

What I know for sure - 1. I have nothing to give people in a relationship of any form. I can't be a good friend or anything to people in real life. Because I need to take right now not give. 2. Not interested in getting married 3. Not interested in dating 4. Not interested in working full time unless it's s florist or the other jobs I mentioned 5. Not interested in travelling. I'll walk around in my town. Go swimming. Travelling is overrated.

[@homosapien2738]

That 19y/o's email was relatable.

[@aqsakiran8206]

OMG... I am dying laughing at the moment when you said. "Humne bhi bari roohen khai hain".

[@yausoob]

To Kill a Mockingbird by Harper Lee is a great book and I think that would be relevant too. If in the case of the self-help genre, you can try The subtle art of not giving a f**k.

[@ishhhhhhh.]

Imagine GANJISWAG as a PM of Pakistan🙂🔥

[@specsly7780]

then he be like 19:22

[@ameequeali308]

Please reduce the frequency of the video by instructing your audience to write stories at minimum length that allow your flow of content more interesting.

[@EldhoseJoseph]

Books: unplugged alpha, the rational male, the way of superior man, the bird man and the lap dancer.

[@bombshell40]

The guy in question 3 needs to be move. Nothing is forever. Wahi baat agayi love is not about having empathy or pitty love. Your lover should be passionate just like you are for him/her. Ziada nhin you atleast barabar ho. I used to like my best friend and I never shared my feelings with him because I know that person has no feeling for me beside respect. I moved on and alhumdulilah I thankful to Allah that I moved on because what I have now is much much better than him. He has his own respect in my life but where I am now, I am more thank enough to Allah.

[@harisahmad7613]

Book recommendation for last question: No More Mr.Nice Guy by Robert A. Glover

[@goodyist]

Spending Time with Kids is the best thing you can do for your kids.

[@YoungStunnaBro]

What an episode, wow

[@aasimali4076]

Learning alot from your session thank youu sir ❤️

[@PeterGriffin-no8gw]

The 3rd query: Do people fall out of love so fast? they do man sadly. My 9 years old relation has ended and she got married without even telling. So yes people do change their priorities. It sucks

[@muneebahmad4378]

She didn't even told you k she's getting married? And she was still talking to you on daily basis?

[@PeterGriffin-no8gw]

@@muneebahmad4378 No she didn't. She didnt even let me suspect anything apart from her changing behavior and getting reluctant to her promises, plans and stuff. So yeah.

[@muneebahmad4378]

@@PeterGriffin-no8gw and she kept talking to you? Like women mostly are cold hearted Either they'll love you so much or they'll just get tired of love and move on without giving a shit about the other person

[@PeterGriffin-no8gw]

@@muneebahmad4378 she did sort of but not in the same way like she used to. I had this gutt feeling that some stuff is going on and its not going to be normal at all. Hence I got to know she played big time. She won

[@muneebahmad4378]

@@PeterGriffin-no8gw girls are loving you until they reach mid 20s Then they become more practical then men and decide what's best for them and become cold hearted and they don't care if someone commits sucidie because of them and they just do what's in best interest for them I just saw this a month ago where a girl I was friends with ended her relationship with her cousin who she grew up with because her parents didn't agreed on that marriage and she didn't even tried to take a stand because another rich guy was waiting on her door and when I asked her what did she said to her cousin she said she didn't even told him or talked to him and it hit me hard I don't know the guy but Mann he would've gone through so much pain

[@hiramariam4370]

Please keep Uploading podcast...thankyou

[@u.r.9706]

Ao jee.... junaid bhai appears to be in form this week :D

[@carslover7107]

2nd one is much relatable with me.

[@ccm4455]

Great Video

[@Ahmad-zb7xg]

Love you Ganju 😂

[@sulemanshareef2680]

13:00 I have a advice for you, i know that simple words cannot change your perspective. Try something, think of something that you cannot do that takes minimal effort to do, something like rubix cube that you can learn in 2, 3 hours if you follow KZbin tutorial. In the end when you will achieve that goal, believe me you will be confident in you own self.(i hope that this will help you.)

[@muneebahmad4378]

I can relate to the first question because I feel alone like he did

[@ahmedrizwan6392]

2nd Question : Don't let someone's opinion about you become a reality. Full Stop

[@ahsantahir6624]

Should avoid windy weather

[@smhibukhari6052]

bhai Jan bureaucracy pa vedio bnain .working of police,department mall,culture of patwar

[@fawadtalpur2362]

How to send my question to junaid sir I have very interesting topic on which junaid should spread awareness about

[@miyamura___]

Please Do some more walking tales of london

[@nazitouseef195]

that long distancing relationship thing happend to me aswell i was lost but never gave up

[@umarhameed4885]

Love u man ❤️🇵🇰

[@nadeemulhassan569]

Dear audience you can shere your opinion. Problems bas girls k rishta find krne ma nhe males also face so many things like choti family ho ,larka well startled ho ,car ho ,achi income ha and much more .Kiya ap ny ya sb face Kiya ?

[@samanthauwu7287]

Oho bhot videos Ari ha ajkal Maza agiaa

[@boomika9987]

Yaar sorry to be brutally honest. Keep these girl girls away from me for some time. Can't rn. Exhausting.

[@murtazasherazi3925]

Knsi chars pe hai

[@ThisizMrX]

I did the same i said wait for me. I have to focus in study for some months n we'll talk after exam. When i came back after exam she was not same n she said she is love with another guy. Then i left her now she says she loves me again but now I'm not the same. Dude Learn, forgive and forget. Happy new year 2022 (31Dec 2021)

[@MsKhaliqa]

For the kid without a father, my book recommendation would be "12 Rules for Life" by Jordan B. Peterson. Take care, kiddo!

[@QuettaVinesOfficial]

Junaid Bhai 😍😘😍

[@AliKhan-pk6sz]

43:30 - same situation…took interest in politics because of him so we can talk. Abbu- ammi keh rahi hain yeh ker Lain etc.

[@Hatice-tb1tf]

Last question: I think Me anmol by Nimra Ahmed can help you a bit

[@AkashVaani786]

Sir, Please don't make videos outside ,as there is wind disturbances.

[@usmanrashid3571]

Please come to Finland

[@kafiro_ka_kafka]

Book recommendation for the person at 38min: How to travel light by Shreevatsa Nevatia

[@mudassirmashkoor4980]

Quran Says: Hum ny kisi bh chez ko bekar paida nh kia aus chez mein Insan bhe ata hai... To har insan mein koi na koi god gifted talent hota h koi acha parh skta h koi sing kar skta h koi acha cricketer hoskta hai etc etc... Wo god gifted talent bandy k dhondny mein Islamj nizam help kary ga par ya democracy nizam h islami nizam nh to har bandy ko chahiye k khud sy apni andar ka talent seach kr k aus par gor kar k Samny laye.... Or jis trhn junaid Bhai ny kaha hatss off mind k bary mein... Mind waqai bht kutti chez h is mein bht kuch h to is ka use karo andhy behry ban k koi bh kam na karo chahy wo Deen ka ho ya Dunia ka

[@fatkidz87]

30:10 so true

[@sabuhikiran6382]

If he works on a humanitarian volunteer service for sake of Allah.. he will feel acknowledged and make friends

[@boomika9987]

I don't think I can explain anymore that I have no interest in big jobs anymore. Zero. Nill. Zilch. I'm just a viewer, a passerby.

[@gabbua2018]

Good video

[@the_flash321]

junaid bhai please consider toyota supra 202!

[@shayanrizvi3358]

3rd email was soo relatable :)

[@boomika9987]

Was this pandemic a way to heal the world because of how broken it was? So many people with mental health issues & family issues cause of IT jobs.

[@ushnahwaris4368]

1st question. Maybe this brother going through personality disorder. There's nothing wrong with that. It's all that he should consult with psychologist. He should take some therapies or medications. Sometimes it's happens that people going through bipolar disorder and they don't even know about it. But I think he should consult with psychologist otherwise in future his feeling of loneliness will bring so many hurdles in life.

[@batsy941]

Pakistani government portals still required file reduction in order to upload documents and that too is full of error. I file my own taxes and man oh man its a curse. lol level of technology is of 90s level there.

[@sadgirlhours222]

book rec for anyone struggling with self confidence and having a limiting mindset: "Can't Hurt Me" by David Goggins

[@saramirza8713]

advice part gave me an idea , why not make a video with general advice . haha

[@GupShupwithToqeerMazhar]

Salam brother I live in GLASGOW (Scotland) . Can I met you. If you have time just let me know.